If I ever even do get married I just want to go to the courthouse and do a tiny intimate thing with close family and then go out to dinner after and then have a separate casual dinner party later on for friends and others. Either that or elope somewhere. I hate being the center of attention and I'm not religious at all, so it just seems pointless and makes no sense to me. I also hate getting my picture taken and feel that I am unattractive so this also contributes too. I also just think it's a waste of time and too much energy for only one day that would be over in the blink of an eye. I also hate making a big deal out of things and having to put on a show for people. I would much rather save the money and use it go on a really awesome and luxurious honeymoon. It just makes more sense to me to do it this way. I feel like other women are so obsessed with weddings and hung up on it, I just don't really see the whole appeal.

I know it may seem silly but I've been engaged for a couple of months now and when i first became engaged I was so excited and caught up in the moment and don't get me wrong i am still very excited for this new chapter of life with the love of my life but as some time has gone on there are some things about my proposal that I wish went different and that i feel my fiance could have put in a little more effort. To start he purchased a cheap engagment ring from kohls (no more than $1,000) because my fiance negotiated the price down so much. When a diamond fell off a few months ago they couldnt replace it and I had to replace the ring. Now before everyone jumps down my throat I know that how much it cost is not what matters and i love my ring and am very appreciative for it however I don't feel like he should have negotiated it down more than what it already was. I know he could afford it and was in a sense bieng cheap and I feel I am worth more than this. He also TEXTED my dad to ask for permission and this bothers me because I feel I was AT LEAST worth a phone call. He doesnt live anymore than 15 minutes from my parents he could have also made an effort to see them face to face. I know my dad would have appreciated that. His proposal was at a restaurant we had our first date and that was about it. I know this may come off as selfish but I can't help but feel a little more effort in this would have been nice? Am I wrong to feel the way I do?

my family is old and European and hers is old by American standards..1000 years and 125 years respectably. We marry in the old way. both potential pspouses agree they want to marry, then they sit down with the heads of both their families and negotiate a marriage contract and then it is done in a catholic ceremony. she wants the catholic ceremony but wants to go the courthouse or whatever as well. I want to marry her for many reasons, and she is a fine young lady who has never been with another sexually, has a classical western education and I love her. this is why im willing to provide for her financially..bc she has conducted herself like lady and not had lovers before me, and she has traditional values like me and my family. I don't care about a her family providing a dowry which is the custom bc her families money ran out. one of the reasons they lost their wealth is because they began involving the government in their marriages and there were costly divorces.the other reason is bc her grandfather stopped practicing male primogeniture and spread the wealth among his 7 children equally. I won't allow the wealth I have worked hard for, and my family has fought and died for to go into a different bloodline if we divorce. I can't budge on this issue but she's acting differently now that it has come up

My fiancé and I have been together for 8 years. We are engaged this month and would like to get married on paper December 2019. I want to have our wedding June 2020. My best friend from college was engaged before me, December 2019 and set her wedding date for November 2020. We share a lot of friends, and her wedding is destination, will be very expensive, and frankly she really likes attention and wants an extravagant bachelorette. Is it rude for me to get married right before her in our hometown, maybe a destination bachelorette for myself. I dont want to break the bank for my friends. My fiancé's sister is ALSO getting married summer 2020. I'm trying not to be annoyed, but I've waited 8 years for this. They have waited maybe 2. Am I being selfish wanting the date I want?!