Family: Question: Does this seem shady or am I reading into it?

Question: Does this seem shady or am I reading into it?

Posted: 30 May 2019 01:53 PM PDT

I'll keep it short. I met this guy we exchanged numbers and texted for two weeks. He asked me out on a first date and I agreed to go, it's on Saturday. I asked him for his last name because I didn't know it and he avoided telling me, which is really weird. So I get him to tell me his last name by sharing mine. He said, "Oh well in that case my name is..." And I found it really weird that he was hesitant to give me his last name. Maybe I'm reading into it? I looked him up on Facebook and basically everything is private. But it says he's in a relationship and has been in one since 2017. I wonder if he forgot to change it or doesn't go on it anymore. Or if he's actually cheating. I'm very suspicious and I don't trust him at this point. What should I do? by the way I am not going to see him by myself, my mom is coming but she's going to hang back and watch. We are going to act like we don't know each other and she's going to be there basically.

Question: How do I cope up with this?

Posted: 30 May 2019 01:35 PM PDT

So my parents need some money and I can't decide because I also need it. They never really ask me for money. It's my choice to send them because they've done so much raising me and my 2 siblings. We didn't grow up to a very wealthy family. Both my parents have worked so many jobs in their life. They worked as a housekeeper, burger flipper, janitor, carpenter, server, cashier just basically all low paying jobs for over 20 years but we're still able to survive through it. Now I'm 24 and I'm working full time as an accountant. My sister is 20 and she's still in college and the youngest is 18 and he just graduated high school. I agreed to help my parents pay for both my siblings tuition in college but right now I'm broke and I don't know what to do. I have my own place and I have so many bills to pay. As much as I feel bad about myself I also feel bad for my parents. They always keep apologizing to us for being in this situation. They keep saying that if only they worked even much harder we wouldn't be in this situation. That always makes me very emotional. We keep telling them that it's not their fault and that we are so grateful to have them as our parents. I really try to be tough but I feel so weak right now. Any advice?

Question: Her baby's father gave me her home address and full name to fight or press charges against her. Should I fight her instead?

Posted: 30 May 2019 11:01 AM PDT

my side dude that I'm not longer messing with baby's mother just won't stop contacting me talking **** about him. Like we haven't had sex since I've gotten into a car accident. And She's STILL texting me about him saying oh that's why he's using me etc. I'm sick of her. I don't even talk to him. because I didn't want my boyfriend finding out about us. But obviously she will not let it go so she went and message my whole entire about me sleeping with her baby's father. (I was so embarrassed.) Now I want to beat her ***. And her babys father gave me all of her information to do it. Should I go to her home address to fight her? I'm pretty sure he want her to get beat up anyway since obviously he gave me all of her information.

Question: Worth the move , or not rational ?

Posted: 30 May 2019 09:21 AM PDT

Single mom, I have family here but they don't help. Aunt wants to help with my daughter , but she's in Florida and I'm all the way in Seattle. I have a masters degree in psychology. I'm drowning in my student loans and I can barely pay my rent here. It's like 2 grand a month and I loss my job .

Question: Why is my mom more generous on me then my younger sister?

Posted: 30 May 2019 08:52 AM PDT

I notice this, my mom spend more effort and money on me to be happy such as food and clothes and attention than my younger sister. She let me have special privileges, and tend to be more forgiving toward me. My mom helps pack my lunch but my sister packs her own food.

Question: Issues with adopted grandson getting worse how I cope with this without losing it?I can't stand him?

Posted: 30 May 2019 08:39 AM PDT

he tears boxes apart with knifes.he plays shapes of you and cardi b. He needs to lose ten pounds I brought up the keto diet and he moved away from me and played with aNOTHER. he plays would you rather and uses a lot of bathroom humor. He plays pranks on me a lot.he squirts me with a squirtgun. I told him no one likes him and his mother needs to beat his ***. so he put dirt on my car. My daughter says I need to be to nicer to him he played with my ex husband his wife who I have a contentious relationship with and defended them when I got in a fight with them. I feel betrayed I want him only to listen to religious music and to be super healthy like me.He is very sarcastic to me and told me all I do is yell and I am scary.My daughter is close to cutting ties with me. I kind of abandoned her when she was little. So I have to find a way to love this kid she adopted out of foster care. I end up screaming I do all this stuff for you everytime he comes over. no matter how happy I was before he came over.He draws on himself with markers. I am bipolar. he is 8

Question: Can i move out of my dads house without his permission at 16?

Posted: 30 May 2019 08:26 AM PDT

my father is both mentally and physically abusive towards me and im unable to move in with my mother . me and my friends, which two of them are over 18 are getting an apartment . i would have a job and still go to school . could he call the cops and report me as a runaway and take me back ?

Question: Should I tell my parents if I’m not sure?

Posted: 30 May 2019 08:21 AM PDT

My girlfriend of almost three months is pregnant and it might be mine. I say might because part of me feels it might be her ex's and I'm hoping it's not mines. As of now she's came back positive three times so she's for sure pregnant and she's saying she's sure she wants to keep the baby so this isn't something I can really hide. I'm just not sure and I don't want this to be something that causes them to flip out when I come visit over the summer. If it is mine I'm not going to drop out of college but I might have to move back home to be able to budget accordingly. Should I tell them now or wait until I'm sure?

Question: Would you consider your blood uncles ex wife your aunt if they had kids?

Posted: 30 May 2019 06:57 AM PDT

Meaning if you had cousins from them would their mom still be your aunt since she's the mother of your cousins? Or not and would your aunt be your uncles new gf?

Question: Need help again?

Posted: 30 May 2019 06:40 AM PDT

So my friend who's 17 is thinking about calling cps. He's worried his parents are going to lie and nothing'll get done. So hes got 2000 dollars worth of money his parents aren't giving him. He worked for his uncle and he paid him in checks. He didn't have a bank account then so his parents took it and never gave it to him. He says he's pretty sure they spent it. He got money through military work. He doesn't have an income through it though, he said since he's got a mental disorder its the only thing he could find. They forced him to pay a medical bill and now he's basically got no money. He's very scared and he doesn't want to end up homeless or something like that. Can anyone help me and tell me what might happen if he does call cps? I'm pretty worried for him.

Question: Is it rude to ask to look through my grandmas jewelry?

Posted: 30 May 2019 06:14 AM PDT

Both my grandparents are failing in health. No one in my family has stepped up to help them whatsoever except my mom. But they all have stepped up to claim what they are entitled to in the will. I honestly don't want anything, I'm just not a materialistic person. But all I want is this necklace my grandma used to let me try on when I was younger. It's a really nice memory for me and it means a lot. I know that if I wait until my grandparents pass my family will jump on all of their stuff and I might ended up without it. I do not think it is expensive that's not why I want it. But I'm afraid to ask because I don't want them to think I simply want it because I'm greedy.

Question: I am 25, male and single. My mother doesn't seem to like the fact that I'm still not in a relationship. Is this normal?

Posted: 30 May 2019 03:54 AM PDT

She wants grandchildren, and some of the older people at church are wondering why all the other younger people my age (in our congregation) are married and have kids, yet I'm still single. One church attendee said last year on Fathers' Day, "You'll be a dad one day." To be honest, I have no intentions on getting in a relationship or being married. I have ASD (diagnosed at 18 months old), am pretty content with life as it is. I am also gluten/casein sensitive and would hate for my children to have to cope with similar health issues. Or, if my children were totally normal, they'd see me as "the dad that can't eat that slice of pizza", and "is a bit mentally out of it", etc. Do I need to change my attitude about this? Or am I thinking rationally?

Question: Cousin is frequently calling and asking for money. Should we stay in contact?

Posted: 30 May 2019 01:30 AM PDT

- My mom s brother passes away and she becomes close with the children (now orphans). We lost connection with them, now both cousins are (16 & 20) - I contacted them via. messenger, next day the 16-year old contacts us to ask for money - He ask many questions about where we live, who our cousins are, etc... (I thought to verify we were actually his cousins; however, I just told him we were in the U.S) - Cousin ask for financial help. Should we continue contacting him? He seems to just want money?

Question: How can I persuade my parents into the idea of me going on a camping trip with my boyfriend?

Posted: 30 May 2019 12:13 AM PDT

I am going to be 20 years old very soon and have been planning to have a camping trip with my bf for over 2 months. The camping would be about a day and a half spent. I have created numerous papers documenting the events and activities that will be occurring during the time. Even going far into allowing myself to pay for my absent (at any cost, and can do payments if they ask an amount that's over my pay), calling every hour and providing extra service if needed. (Extra service as in helping them pay the bills, clean more around the house, or anything out of the ordinary around those dates.) Can you help me make this work? Or perhaps this shouldn't happen at all? Thank you

Question: My cousin did not come to see my baby in hospital, she has not even seen my daughter should I go to her wedding.?

Posted: 30 May 2019 12:08 AM PDT

My cousin has come to my wedding, and when we was young we was close. But now she did not come to see my baby and I heard she is getting Married and having a wedding. Should I even go to her wedding.

Question: I’m 24 I don’t live at home anymore but my mom and two little sisters do. (Their twins btw) their dad has his own place (my stepdad)?

Posted: 29 May 2019 11:38 PM PDT

Whenever I come home to visit, my mom constantly complains about how dirty the twins are how they don't listen to what she says, they don't do any chores, hell they barely check the mail. What makes me mad is their dad spoils them like crazy, all they have to do is pick up the phone and BAM their wish is complete. My mom is almost 60 (like their dad) and she doesn't have the strength to yell and whoop them like she needs to. The most she'll do is take their phone for a couple of days. But it's pointless when they have their own laptops to fall back on smh. My question is...I'm worried that they are killing my mother slowly, she's always stressed and has high blood pressure like she's a big pushover. Whenever I visit and I yell at them or try to make them do something she YELLS AT ME smh like I don't get it. Does she like stressing or something? I need advice please. Their behavior is making me hate them because I love my mom and I'll do anything for her.

Question: Is yahoo messed up right now?

Posted: 29 May 2019 10:33 PM PDT

I cant access my email, our my wife email or change accounts

Question: How to parent my 14 year old brother?

Posted: 29 May 2019 10:06 PM PDT

My brother is starting to piss my dad off. I think there might be something off about him, but we can t afford any therapy or counseling. My brother is 14 -- he s very unmotivated when it comes to school. His grades range from failing to C s. When he s grounded, he s able to raise them a little bit, but otherwise it just seems that he doesn t care. He wears the same hoodie every day and ALWAYS wears the hood up. It pisses my dad off so bad that he had to ground him from his hoodie. But then he just started wearing the same jeans nearly everyday. We ask him to do chores. All we ask is that he loads and unloads the dishes to/from the dishwasher. My brother always does everything half-assed. He puts away unclean dishes despite seeing spots on them on the silverware. Recently, we ve found burn marks on our house and some old chlorine bottles in our shed. He actually admitted to using a lighter to burn things around the backyard when he s home alone. He refuses to have fun. Whenever we go out on the weekends or on vacation, he just wears his hoodie and blocks out the whole family, playing games on his phone or listening to music. He has no interest at all in doing anything fun. It s like he s more interested in sitting in misery all day. What can I do to get my brother to be a human being for once ???

Question: Do I hate my family?

Posted: 29 May 2019 09:44 PM PDT

I mean I love my family but maybe I can't be around them idk what do you think? I'm 22 years old and I am way to old to get in a fist fight with my 19 year old idiot of a brother. Today has made me realized just how much I was right about my parents, especially my mother chose his side. He starts insulting? I'm to blame. He hits first? I'm to blame, etc. My mom usually compared our looks calling me ugly and him handsome, that he should be a model. My brother is a complete dweeb and literally acts like he is 5 years old and I swear he has mental issues. He could come back to having dinner or hanging out with his friends and there could be one slice of pizza in there, I take it and my mom would say "Leave it for your brother, he might be hungry" okay and? What about me? He's been out EATING! Anyways I know these are mixed topics but idk how to put it all in one post. Basically I always feel like a burden, my mom tells me herself that when I was 2 and my brother was born she already saw me as a big kid and has always treated me less than. It's like I love them but can't stand to be around them. Or do I hate them? I wonder if my brother was never born if I would feel like this today?

Question: What should I do with my baby daughter?

Posted: 29 May 2019 09:36 PM PDT

I'm a single dad and I'm having a hard time, my depression is more intense each day. I've been drinking more than the prescribed and I'm always thinking about my death. I told my best friend and he will take me to a mental hospital. If I get hospitalized, who is going to take care of my baby girl. Her mother didn't want her so she left and I don't know if to ask my dad since he doesn't know I'm on the edge. What if no one wants to take care of her, is it possible to get treated in my own house?

Question: I’m worried about my friend?

Posted: 29 May 2019 09:31 PM PDT

So one of my friend going through some tough situations or has been her whole life and now she's 16. She called me last night crying and saying how she's craving affection so much that it hurts. Her grandma raised her from her home country but her grandma affection would go more towards her male cousins. Her biological dad always works and never has time for her. Her stepdad give more affection and love to his own son instead of her and favors his own biological son more than her. Her and her mom relationship are very thin and even though she knows her mom almost her whole life, she actually only started talking and starting a relationship with her mom at 11. She tries to build a real with her mom but her mom favors her half brother more than her. She doesn't get along with any of her step-siblings and half-sibling since she's jealous of their life. She would talks about after she's off the college she would probably have a bunch of one night stands to get that affection that she never had and that scares me the most. I've been talking to her and letting her bottle everything off to me since she would bottle everything up inside. What should I do as a friend in this situation ?

Question: Very angry family always bickering?

Posted: 29 May 2019 09:24 PM PDT

I come from a big family. Mother /father and I'm 1 of 5 girls. We are all grown up now and left home but anytime we meet there is always bickering. Even when we don't meet there is no kindness e.g send son a card or quick text to wish happy birthday. It's like they are very angry all of them. Everyone in the family realises this but can anyone explain why all the hate? It's actually sad to see a family with so much resentment towards one another.

Question: I found weed in my parents room, what should I do?

Posted: 29 May 2019 08:59 PM PDT

I am 12 years old and was looking for a jacket to wear, so I looked in my moms closet and couldn't find one so I tried on one of her bracelets and I broke onto the ground. So as I was picking it up I found a container that said glitter tattoo I looked inside and I found a substance that looked like weed and smelled like a skunk. So I knew it was weed. My older brother is going through cancer treatment and my dad just finished a few years ago, and now my friend comes out as bi well I guess forever out because some girls told everyone. And this is just a lot to handle should I tell a counselor or a friend or maybe my older brother? What should I do?

Question: My mom is very aggravating and unfair?

Posted: 29 May 2019 08:43 PM PDT

Now i know what you're thinking "oh just another spoiled brat who thinks their mom is unfair because they got grounded" but hear me out, so im 14 and im home schooled, now i have A's in all subjects but math so my mom wants me to fix it but in order for me to do that i need to (no exaggeration) retake 40+ quizzes when i could just wait for next weeks extra credit assignment, so im trying to explain to my mom that i don't have to do all the quizzes if i just wait for the extra credit and she tells me "I dont care do it anyway" so i explain to her how much work i will have to do and she says the same thing, so i ask her why and she tells me "because, i want to annoy you, i dont care if you stay up till 5 AM doing your work just do it!" (this is literally what she said) and whenever i try to meet halfway with her she shuts me down with "i dont wanna hear about it" and its so aggravating because cant do anything about it since she's my mom. Sorry, I forgot to say that im looking for help on ways i can fix this issue

Question: I found out my Dad lied for years to my mother. Does this make him a bad man?

Posted: 29 May 2019 08:31 PM PDT

He has always been frustrated with me about my inability to tell lies. I am very honest. He is very deceptive.

Question: I had to see my Dad this evening who likes to bully me cause I am different socially. How do I overcome the hurt of a father like this?

Posted: 29 May 2019 08:27 PM PDT

Question: How do I tolerate my brother?

Posted: 29 May 2019 07:56 PM PDT

So I have a brother who is about 9 years older than me (almost 30) and he is just the most disrespectful person. He lives at home and is unemployed. My family is Christian and he constantly makes severly offensive remarks toward our denomination of Christianity and refuses to stop. He is very verbally abusive toward my parents who put up with his bs and recently has become verbally abusive to me too since I ve moved back from college for the summer. He is jealous of my brother in law which has lead him to completely sever his relationship with both my sister and brother in law. It s pretty much impossible to get him to realize how ignorant he is and I m so completely fed up with it. The worst part is that I m stuck in this situation until college starts back up in the fall. Its never been this bad and I know he needs help. How do I tolerate this?

Question: Should I apologize? I'm really frustrated?

Posted: 29 May 2019 07:40 PM PDT

So I've had this situation with my sister. Somehow one of my pencils that I've bought with my own money made its way to her pencil case. That's fine, but I want the pencil back. I ask for the pencil back and she goes, "No! It's mine!" I explain that the pencil belongs to me, and she acknowledges that, but still wants to keep the pencil for another day because she doesn't have one. I really don't want to give her the pencil (it's rude, I know, I could have been nicer) and instead opt for looking for a pencil in her room. There just so happens to be a mechanical pencil with two sticks of lead and a new eraser on her floor. I give that one to her and take my pencil and walk to my room. My sister decides to CHASE me to my bedroom (down the hall) and grab onto me and keeps telling me how much she needs the pencil. At this point I'm pretty angry. She keeps telling me how I was doing fine without the pencil and she needed it. I kept saying, "You have a pencil, you do not need mine" but she was SO insistent on taking it. We've been arguing about this for a while now, and I keep telling her that sure, while it was rude I am under no obligation to give her something that belongs to me. My parents did not buy it, she did not buy it or contribute money. I was the only one to spend money on this pencil, therefore it belongs to me and I do not have to give it to her, even for just one more day. She wants me to apologize for not giving her the pencil, but I do not think I should.

Question: What is your major and your salary after graduating college?

Posted: 29 May 2019 07:21 PM PDT

I am almost done with college and I am wondering about salaries.

Question: Why my cousin lied about her major?

Posted: 29 May 2019 07:12 PM PDT

I told her that I was going to study mechanical engineering then she said she will study it also. She put on her social media profile she was studying mechanical engineering but then we found out 2 months later she was studying art history.

Question: Should I be more protective of my 14 year old daughter compared to her siblings?

Posted: 29 May 2019 07:07 PM PDT

My daughter is considered "attractive" by her peers and the media. Her siblings don't have the same problems as her. For instance, they don't face as many peer pressures at school and don't have grown men trying to prey on them. People view them as children and treat them appropriately, even though my oldest is a 16 year old (the younger two are ages 8 and 11). I've come across situations where an old creep is staring at my daughter and isn't even trying to hide it. There have been catcalls, whistles and gross comments over the last 2 years or so. I try to treat my children fairly and let them have the same privileges as the older ones had at their age, although there are exceptions where I wouldn't allow something (such as the kid not being mature enough). I can't help but notice that all my other kids are being treated respectfully, and my daughter is the only one who's the most likely to get negative attention. She has a different set of problems than her siblings do and I cannot deny it.

Question: How to deal with a helicopter parent when I am in my mid 20s?

Posted: 29 May 2019 06:52 PM PDT

Question: How can I make my relationship with my mom better?

Posted: 29 May 2019 06:48 PM PDT

A lot has happened between me and my mom over the years. Most of it was my druggie sister, but now that she is in jail, shes not a problem for us. I tried my hardest to be better for her. I feel that I've grown on my own into a good person with all that I've accomplished, but when I'm with my mom, she points out flaws in me. I don't know if she's being hard on me because of my sister.I love my mom for what she's done for me. In the end, we really need each other. I care about her opinion, but we don't see eye to eye. For example, my mom has always told me to be the bigger person no matter what. And I tried that, but I ended up getting walked on by scumbags. I defended myself by fighting back. I've only started a fight once and that was with my sister. That to me was more effective I didn't get walked on again. I can see in those moments where she tries to be the bigger person, it's like she bottles it up inside. She denies it entirely. It takes a lot for her to get angry, but when she is, it's scary. She can't possibly put off everything. We are only human. There comes a limit. But that's one example among many. It's difficult to sit down to talk it out because it mostly results with "I'm being too sensitive". Then we don't talk. I may be different but Why can't we be on the same page? we just agree to disagree. I still need her. But how can we communicate better? Any advice.

Question: My mom hates my dog?

Posted: 29 May 2019 06:32 PM PDT

I have a 2 month old puppy, we just got him last week and named him Morty. I love dogs but I told my mother if she s not ready then we shouldn t get one. Eventually, we did got one and the first few days she was giving a lot of love and attention to the puppy and I was glad that she did. I took the major role in taking care of him. I m the one who feeds him, cleans his poo and pee, play with him and training him to go potty. But recently, she was being rough with the puppy and I swear I ve tried my best to train my puppy, after all he s only 2 months old and it s only his first week in our house so I guess he needs to adapt. My mom yells at me and my brother if Morty accidentally pees on the floor, but we quickly took care of that and he s a smart boy, we hope he doesn t do that again. I wake up early everyday at 6 am just to check my puppy, then I clean my house and sometimes make tea for my mom. But as if that weren t enough, she still yells at me if Morty make accidents and I was already stressed enough by taking care of my puppy and be very patient. IT S STILL HIS FIRST WEEK HERE, did she really expect him to do everything perfectly? Did she get bored already?? But she didn t do anything, I took care of everything yet she still complains on how messy the house is and blames my dog. She then come clean on how she hates animals and she shouldn t have gotten that dog in the first place. She threatens to throw away my puppy if he doesn t behave well next time like wtf?

Question: Is my mom being a helicopter parent?

Posted: 29 May 2019 06:21 PM PDT

I am in my mid 20s, going to a conference 2.5 hours from where I live. I travel 2 hours each way regularly so it is no big deal for me. She is insisting on coming with me and hanging out in the hotel while I am at the conference. I do not live with her but she is making a huge deal out of it saying that I must travel with another person. My friends have always said my parents are over protective and it has only gotten more invasive as I get older.

Question: Would u like for your daughter to be kind to others or to be evil with her friends?

Posted: 29 May 2019 06:01 PM PDT

Like for example would u encourage her on revenge and to lower herself to whom ever mistreated her or did talk nasty about her behind her back or would you want her to simply cut her off her circle of friends and encourage her to be raised up and brought up with kindness

Question: My nephew often asks me why I am not married - Should I tell my nephew that marriage is a trap?

Posted: 29 May 2019 04:44 PM PDT

My nephew is 10. I'm have quite a few sisters. I am the only brother. All of my sisters are married. I am the only brother, and the only single one. All my friends who got married in their 20s, and now divorced in their 30s. After divorce, women take the guy's money and kids. Marriage is a great deal for a woman, but it sucks for a man. My nephew is 10. Is he old enough to understand that marriage is a really bad deal for men?

Question: How to move out of parent s home and get a new home?

Posted: 29 May 2019 04:20 PM PDT

My relationship between my dad is very tough and it is getting worst as my dad and I don't hang out and spend time with together. He only likes to watch TV and videos and not spend time with his son which is me, but he spends time with other people. I am 24 years old and I have a paying job as a janitor. He does not like to conversations with me, especially if I have a stammer. I think about getting a new home and a girlfriend and I also think about getting therapy help. Spending time with other people is a lot more healthier than spending time watching videos, but when I when I want to spend time and start a conversation with my dad, he yells at me loudly and does not know how to help me start a conversation. This is why I suffer from anxiety disorders that could trigger speech issues like stuttering.

Question: Why won’t my mum realise she’s stubborn?

Posted: 29 May 2019 04:13 PM PDT

We argue about random things now and again. Sometimes she's just tired at night so I say you're tired I understand. Then she's like no you're tired. Even though I'm wide awake. We just had this argument so I said whatever we're just as stubborn as each other. At least I see that I'm stubborn. Unlike her. She just says I'm the one going on even though an argument is between two people. Is it just because she's at that age (nearly 50) where hormones are all over the place because of menopause? It's just been happening the past couple years and it's just irritating.

Question: Is it abusive to smoke weed around someone who has made it clear they re uncomfortable when you do it around them?

Posted: 29 May 2019 03:00 PM PDT

just to make it clear, im referring to my mother. ever since weed was legal where we live, and also long before, my mother has been smoking weed on a daily basis. not because it helps with pain or anything, just "because she wants to." whenever she smokes, i get really uncomfortable. the smell makes me want to puke, and even though i m not anti-weed, people smoking around me makes me really uncomfortable, and it almost always has. i m asked my mother to stop smoking around me, she said the wouldn t. fair. i asked her to at least let me know ahead of time, and she refused. every time i ask why, she gets angry and avoids the question. i really hate being around her when she smokes, and i despise the fact that i can t at least get a warning. is this to be expected, or is this just her being her (honestly somewhat abusive) self? either way, what can i do?

Question: This is a weird question but I’m sitting with one of my cousins and we were wondering how closely are we related?

Posted: 29 May 2019 02:29 PM PDT

Cousins she is my great grandmas first cousins granddaughter what would that make us

Question: I learned my Mom's cousin's in-laws have an estranged 2nd cousin once removed who died in a car crash. Should I send condolences?

Posted: 29 May 2019 02:13 PM PDT

They did not know the teen who died but I saw the last name in the paper and they confirmed it must be a grandkid of an estranged uncle of theirs.

Question: How do I kindly tell my 15 year old sister to stop giving our parents a hard time for just trying to protect her?

Posted: 29 May 2019 02:09 PM PDT

My 15 year old sister doesn't understand why in some ways, our parents are more cautious of her than with our 3 year old sister. She doesn't realize that it's because a 3 year old is always under adult supervision, but a teenager is more independent. Toddlers cannot go on social media, cannot make older friends who can drive, cannot go through puberty, and they cannot experiment with drugs or sex. However, it's possible for a 15 year old can do all those things. Ages 3 and 15 are at different developmental stages. Our 3 year old sibling doesn't socialize with anybody except family friends, relatives and other preschoolers (play dates are supervised). She has no access to tablets or computers (my parents want to keep her from getting addicted for as long as possible). Like most preschoolers, all her peers definitely do not experiment with adult activities and therefore cannot pressure her. However, a teen has more ways of being unsafe.

Question: How do I change my father from the ignorant man he is to a good man?

Posted: 29 May 2019 02:05 PM PDT

Question: Should I really tell my family about me having to repeat medical terminology?

Posted: 29 May 2019 02:03 PM PDT

I wish I didn't exist because I feel stupid

Question: Should parents charge their 18 year old massive rent?

Posted: 29 May 2019 02:01 PM PDT

My parents started charging me rent but I am going to be a full time college student. They want $500 dollars a month from me so if I get a job, most of my money is going to be spent on rent. Is that fair? I am going to be living at home for the next 4 years so that's a lot of money to pay every month.

Question: I am going to a big wedding in the dysfunctional family this weekend and wondering how do I handle the anxiety I will feel?

Posted: 29 May 2019 01:58 PM PDT

My Mom is already there (it is in New York State) and there will be a lot of tension if I see her brother and his family before the wedding. She and my Dad hate her brother but they (his family) are coming. The wedding is 200 people so they won't have much time there to visit. The sister having the wedding there is also tension with. She makes snarky comments to everyone out of jealousy as she is divorced and everyone else is not. Her only child is getting married so she is making it a "Royal wedding" as she even called it that. The other brother and his family are excluded and that is the sibling my Mom likes. A sister is coming and that sister, an aunt of mine, also hates the brother my Mom hates. So I am very nervous about the grief I am going to get when I see this uncle and his family as my parents will give me grief and say "why are you obsessed with seeing them". I am anxious which means I will likely become obsessed on something or other and am not looking forward to it. I want to go though. When I am getting grief for seeing this "bad uncle's" family or any other dysfunction what do I say? I am staying with my parents and sister so I am stuck with them.