I've been her boyfriend for 4 years, a few months ago she jokingly gave me a deadline to propose. She showed me the ring she wanted [which is expensive], but I jokingly told her that I wouldn't be able to surprise her with the deadline so that she should pick the ring and I just buy it. The last 2 years we've gone to several weddings and she would mention how everyone else is getting married but she isn't. She would also tell me of her wedding ideas. Last week, out of nowhere she doesn't want a wedding because ''she wouldn't get what she wants'' which is a most likely $20k wedding minimum. And while we could save that in a year, it would really take a little more because she has to pay off her car and we want to buy a house, which would be postponed 1-2 years with a wedding. So now she just wants a $80.00 court marriage out of nowhere, I haven't even gotten her the ring... We have talked about getting married and I am all for it/ However, it feel like I am destroying her dream. We both make ok money and we travel a lot, in 4 months we will be visiting India and possibly Nepal as tourist. I've proposed we buy the house in 2 years and then save for a wedding, but she doesn't want a wedding years after we marry in court, so no wedding at all. Thoughts?