I just got offered a great new job, I have enough money to buy a house, a new vehicle, and financially life is good. However I can't stand the area I live in. From the people to the the city I'm in. It just doesn't suit me well at all and I fill like I'm slowly digging a grave. I have moments that are fun, I have friends, but I am not happy. My best friend recently passing has brought me down a lot but I've never been a fan of where I live. Would you throw away a good new job, risk all the money you saved up just to be where you're truly happy? I live in Iowa and used to live in Colorado. Somewhere along the way I've forgotten what it's like to be happy. What should I do?

I thought my college roommate and I were friends. We used to go out, vent to each other about our issues, and confide in one another. I don't have any real friends, so i was grateful that i finally found someone that I could feel comfortable around. I also got close to one of her friends.When I looked on her social media, I noticed some posts that involved her talking bad about me. How can I get over this situation and not let it bother me? I look back on my previous school year and maybe I got too comfortable around her. Like i stayed before, i never had a close girl friend because i constantly moved around and suffer from a moderate form of social anxiety. Could she have been jealous? Or, is it my fault that I opened up to her? I also saw that the same friend I got close to "liked" those same posts where she was talking bad about me. So clearly they both used to talk bad about me. We're all around the same age ( I was a junior and they were both sophomores)

so when I smoke with friends I only take a couple hits and im good. then my best friend comes over and we smoke the same weed but I can smoke bowls after bowls and not feel the high as much when that certain person is there. im just confused on what that could mean because that only happens with my bestfriend there

I want to wish my friends and relatives on their birthday. I have been writing to wishing them this way lately on facebook, whatsapp, or whatever network we have together: Happy Birthday enter name! Have a great day. I start the wish to them based on the time of the morning that seems right based on their friendship and closeness to me. I put one exclamation point here after happy birthday. My hope is to wish them and hope they have a great day such as blessings, good success, happiness, and everything for their day. Should I wish them Happy Birthday enter name!! Should i use two exclamation marks after the happy birthday so that my timing and feelings and then the real wish are conveyed or is one exclamation mark good enough to include it all?

I have two close friends that I've known since I was 6 and I've done so much with them as I've grown up. But ever since high school, they've been treating me differently. Every time I try to reach out to them they will ignore me for weeks at a time which is incredibly frustrating. When I ask them why they neglect me they never have a reason why. But we still hang out from time to time. They also always expect me to pay for things since they are normally lazy and don't often have a job or money. A lot of this came to a boil recently as I just became jobless a little over a week ago and I tried to reach out to them for support and to this day I haven't heard back from them. It makes me feel alone and miserable. The main reason I've stayed friends with them is because I've known them so long and they're the only friends who are close in proximity to me now. If I give them up I won't have any friends who aren't in a different state. What should I do? Any advice is appreciated.

I'm a 21 year old guy. In the fall I had a co worker my age who liked me. She would run up to me while I was working and hug me and hang on me. I took this as "she likes me". So one day in conversation I asked her what her favorite treat was. As if I was getting it for myself. I came back and gave them to her, and asked her if she wanted to hang out some time. We went on to get ice cream, go to the mall, share milk shakes, hold hands, etc. we never kissed. And she used to text me "goodnight" "wyd" all the time. She liked me in a romantic way right? Anyway, she cut contact with me months ago when she left the company. We recently got back into contact on social media. She seems to have nothing for me anymore, and doesn't seem to want to be friends. She now has a boyfriend, and they look like they are going to get married. I'm so jealous. I loved this girl and wanted to keep hanging with her. Above all, she was a good friend. I've always struggled to get friends. Any way I can get her back as a friend? We've gone jogging twice in a group. I want a one on one hangout. Any ideas that wouldn't scare her? Thoughts? I miss her and her texts so much. I miss how things were. I truthfully just want to be her friend now. She's super cool. But I'm afraid I'll make things uncomfortable by asking her to do something one on one like when she was single. She complains her friends don't FaceTime her back. I want to FaceTime her!!!

Is it because people naturally only like to get personal with people who either they work with, take a class with, or meet online for some reason

I have this one friend who hasnt tried to reach out to me ever since he moved but ill explain the situation. Me and this friend have been friends for over a couple years and we got pretty close he never had much growing up and I would help him out when i could. The problems started happening when he moved back into our hometown and he quit his job for another one that didn't pay as good. He would always ask me for money, rides and weed (we would smoke and hangout) and also money for his rent because he would always be behind. It got to a point to where he would ask almost every other day to everyday and would beg me to help him. I would help him out because I wanted to be a good friend and i felt after awhile he was taking advantage of the situation. I would often say no and say i was busy and he would get mad and drop me as a friend and later on make amends with me (hes already done this a couple times). Just over a month ago i gave him $50 for his rent to help him out but in the end he still got kicked out. He called to explain the situation and i told him to bounce back and keep your head up. That was a couple weeks ago and i tried to call him to reach out but he never called me back or texted me either. I was thinking of reaching out to facebook because i always see him online but I feel like he feels some type of way about me. He's been a long time friend. Should I reach out or should i just drop it and move on?

All advice appreciated.

I planned a trip with my friends two months ago to leave 7 days this month and my sister just told me her high school graduation is on day 5 of the vacation. I told my 'Bestfriend ' I would go with them for 4 out of the 7 days because it's important for my sister and she just started telling me off and told me to miss her graduation that there's still college but I don't think she understands .i told her my sister would never forgive me if I wouldn't go and she said what about what you're doing to us . Is she right or am I a bad friend or am I right

and that he would look out for me. However, when I began working with dad's so-called friend, his friend would criticize me and gripe about me to other coworkers. I asked dad's friend a question about the fax machine and he got short with me and acted like I was bothering him. Also, there was another time when we were working different sides of the building and he called where I was at (because his computer was down) and asked me to look something up. As I looked it up on the computer the phone disconnected. Dad's friend called me back and started yelling at me saying I hung up on him and I told him I didn't. He then came back and said I did. I can't believe that dad's friend was so rude to me. If his daughter was working with my dad, my dad would have certainly been nice to her and looked out for her. One day my dad asked me if the man had been nice to me and I told him his friend had been rude to me and dad was surprised to hear this. Any ideas or opinions or input on this matter?

I've never really had close friends. Growing up I was always the outsider and the weird kid. I felt like the people I wanted to be around saw me as a burden, and then people who did like me were way too weird and clingy for me. Just recently I had a couple friends but one stopped being friends with me because she was really religious and didn't like what I was doing and then the others just kind of stopped contacting me. I don't go to an actual high school because I was homeschooled the majority of my life and I couldn't get into one. I don't like to open up to people because I'm afraid they'll see who I really am and who my family really is and they'll reject me. I also hate myself for not being able to open up to people and let myself form close bonds. I see all my "friends" on Instagram constantly doing stuff together and I feel like I'm always alone or with my family and I feel like that's weird for a high schooler. It takes a rare kind of person to get close to me and I hate that I have to be like this. Maybe it's because I grew up in a homeschool/religious circle which is a very judgmental and close minded environment. I always felt like I had to hide my interests and beliefs because the people around me would think it's sinful and reject me. I just want to know if this is ok, how to come to terms with this, and if it'll get any better.

So basically, I have this friend, i'll call her J. We've been friends at school for about a year now and we have a friend group with 4 other people. One of these people, i'll call her N, started dating J (they are both bisexual and girls). Before this me and my 3 other friends in the group always feel like they both like eachother more than they ever liked us and we are just J's backup friends (N isn't as bad). J always ditches us for N, doesn't seem interested in us and suddenly becomes really interested to what N has to say and leaves us out all of the time. We have tried to tell her how we felt but she wouldn't understand that this isn't just a small feeling of being left out and that it is taking a toll on our self esteem because she makes us feel invisible. We've been thinking of cutting her off but we don't know if we should do it or not because we tried cutting her off before but I guess absence makes the heart grow fonder and we missed the good side of her, but now that we've gone back we feel worse. And, if we were to cut her off we don't know how to do it. I just need a bit of advice.

I am late 20's and have no friends. I have had not friends since I was in my early 20's and truth be told during childhood I only had superficial, non-emotional friendships. I am not the most extroverted, I guess I have developed some social anxiety over the years which hasn't helped, although I don't think it was the original problem. And if I am honest I am very fussy with who I want to befriend. I like people with similar interest and views (I seem to fall into a niche category with my interests and views) and I wouldn't say I am the very tolerant of others. I am also very untrusting and have a very high guard. I do not like to show emotion and think of showing emotion and letting people in as a sign of weakness. This situation of having no friends sucks. It's boring and lonely. I don't make friends at work, not just because I don't like my work colleagues, but I also believe in keeping work and personal life separate. How do you make friends in adulthood when you are clearly a socially awkward and limited individual? I also don't think I'm an immediately likeable person. I have been told I come across as intimidating. Probably the fact that I only have one facial expression, which looks very serious and I have a deep monotone voice. A lot of people in the past told me they got the view I thought I was better than other people and thought I was arrogant because of that. Absolutely not the case. Somebody give me some advice. I made a friend online, but they turned out to be a little crazy and I decided it was not the best method.

Im a dude, i had a work Friend named Sara who i had a big crush on. She was 35 married with kids, and im only 23. We would see eachother at work only twice a week, i would always go to her desk and we would talk. I felt so much Chemistry between us, she would always stare at me, and i always made her laugh and smile.  Later we began getting in trouble because our friendship was innapropriate and it was offending other coworkers. Everyone noticed the attraction between Sara and i, but we never talked about anything innapropriate. This caused drama at work, and i was asksed to stop talking to Sara. Sara and i would still talk ( little bit) she told me that her job was in Jeopardy but she told me she would always have my back. One day i gave her a gift card, but a few days later she told me manager about it. Sara told my manager that i still try to talk to her. I was removed from her floor, and i was also suspended.  I would see Sara in the halls but she would look down, amd couldn't see mebin the eyes. I heard that her personality changed, and that she always looked sad sitting at her desk...1 month after i was removed from her floor she Quit. The same day she quit she blocked me from Facebook. She was with the company 12 years. I feel like this was all my fault and it makes me upset. We were good friends and in the end we became enemies.  she had already deleted me from Facebook, but why did she proceed to block me??

I'm a 21 year old guy. In the fall I had a co worker my age who liked me. She would run up to me while I was working and hug me and hang on me. I took this as "she likes me". So one day in conversation I asked her what her favorite treat was. As if I was getting it for myself. I came back and gave them to her, and asked her if she wanted to hang out some time. We went on to get ice cream, go to the mall, share milk shakes, hold hands, etc. we never kissed. And she used to text me "goodnight" "wyd" all the time. She liked me in a romantic way right? Anyway, she cut contact with me months ago when she left the company. We recently got back into contact on social media. She seems to have nothing for me anymore, and doesn't seem to want to be friends. She now has a boyfriend, and they look like they are going to get married. I'm so jealous. I loved this girl and wanted to keep hanging with her. Above all, she was a good friend. I've always struggled to get friends. Any way I can get her back as a friend? We've gone jogging twice in a group. I want a one on one hangout. Any ideas that wouldn't scare her? Thoughts? I miss her and her texts so much. I miss how things were. I truthfully just want to be her friend now. She's super cool.

This guy and I had sex once. I asked him if he liked it. He said he enjoyed it very much. Does that mean he'll want to do it again?

I had sex with a guy once he said he enjoyed it. Does that mean he'll want to again? I didn't really like it but I want to try again.

You make me so happy Nick!

I know it's his dream and all, and he has some good friends, but he's been getting hurt so much and has had some bad run-ins with some really dangerous people. It seems like every time there's a class trip something goes wrong and someone tries to hurt him. Like there was a time where they went camping and some grown man beat him up in the woods and his classmates were attacked by gangsters. One time they just went to the mall and there was this guy who was choking him in the food court for no reason. He's gotten attacked by grown men while walking home too and there's a girl who's stalking him and not even the police are able to stop her. She's even shown up in our house and threatened me with a knife, and she stabbed one of his teachers once during school hours and still runs free. She is obsessed with my boy and I don't want him to get hurt. I know he likes his friends and teachers and wants to do this, but its killing me inside. I don't know what to do. I don't want to crush his feelings.

I'm 17 and few years ago i had this friend and we were best friends, we met each other at 11 then become best friends from there upto 14 then had a big bust up. I'll explain what happened as a person she changed and i was starting to see a toxic, two faced nasty side to her. I was hearing some gossip behind my back from other friends. Anyway that was the start,i went to her 14th birthday with her and her friends, it was awkward. Something felt off, i was talking to her friends i was being friendly and social able. I was talking to them and she came up out of nowhere barged me out the way then blanked me i felt confused and hurt. She barely spoke to me either i felt unwanted in her company. I was upset so i left her birthday early. After she was saying indirects about me online about my fear of heights and anxiety problems. I won't go into detail but yeah. I called her out on it. She really wanted a fight. Then yeah we had a big bust up and it ended. Me being a fool last year i reached out tried to resolve things and make peace with her i guess a part of me hoped we could be friends i thought she moved on and might of changed but no she was really bitter and cold wanted to carry on being bad blood. Swear she still bitterly throws shade about it sometimes even though it's 3 years ago im not paranoid but it feels like it don't know what's her issue cause i wasn't the one that messed up she did. Why do you think she's like this?

I'm a 21 year old guy. In the fall I had a co worker my age who liked me. She would run up to me while I was working and hug me and hang on me. I took this as "she likes me". So one day in conversation I asked her what her favorite treat was. As if I was getting it for myself. I came back and gave them to her, and asked her if she wanted to hang out some time. We went on to get ice cream, go to the mall, share milk shakes, hold hands, etc. we never kissed. And she used to text me "goodnight" "wyd" all the time. She liked me in a romantic way right? Anyway, she cut contact with me months ago when she left the company. We recently got back into contact on social media. She seems to have nothing for me anymore, and doesn't seem to want to be friends. She now has a boyfriend, and they look like they are going to get married. I'm so jealous. I loved this girl and wanted to keep hanging her. Above all, she was a good friend. I've always struggled to get friends. Any way I can get her back as a friend? We've gone jogging twice in a group. I want a one on one hangout. Any ideas that wouldn't scare her? Thoughts? I miss her and her texts so much. I miss how things were.

I usually go out of my way to be polite and respectful when I go back and forth with somebody online. We exchange nice, kind, sometimes humorous messages and then for whatever reason I suddenly stop hearing from them. I am left hanging, thinking stuff like"Did I scare 'em off? Did I offend them? Did I word this or that kinda weird?" Not that I am obliging people to stay in touch if they don't want to, nor is it like I panic if I don't hear from them within 2 hours or 2 days or anything like that. It tends to be after 1-2 weeks that I start beating myself up wondering if it was something I said or didn't say. However in a way it's even more annoying when I finally hear back from them after weeks or months discovering they were going through something and that I piled all that guilt on myself and learned how to deal with the fact that they are gone for nothing. 😂

Right. So I've got an Instagram account that nobody at work follows. I posted on my story about a horse that was for sale at work, and said that it's 'a **** to ride and it nearly killed someone'. So basically I've gone against my work, as work wants to sell the horse and I slagged it off. Someone who is friends with one of my coworkers saw it, and sent it to my coworker, let's call her Helen. Helen messaged me and advised me to take it down and had a few words with me, understandable as it was a very stupid thing of me to do. Helen told me that other coworker Janet knows. I message Janet and apologise. Janet didn't know anything about it. Which makes me wonder, is Helen **** stirring? Helen then tells me that boss' daughter will know about it, and I should message boss' daughter and apologise. I am stuck wondering whether boss' daughter does actually know about this, and whether to message her and apologise, or to wait and see if she mentions it at work on Sunday which would signal she knows about it. I am thinking of buying a card to say sorry, and if she mentions it on Sunday, I will give it to her. I just feel so awful. I didn't realise how bad it looked, I went against my work and basically slagged them off. Such a spiteful thing to do. Boss' daughter is not very forgiving either. She will hate me for the rest of my days there. Also worried Helen will tell all my coworkers and they'll all hate me.

My name is Kyle and i used to have a besfriend Tina. We were friends for 5 years, she was always with me through all my good and bad moments. My whole family loved her, she was so caring and i have never met anyone like her. Around the beginning of 2017 i had alot of personal problems, i fell into depression and i began using drugs, she found out and told me i need to stop with those bad drug habits. But i still was using drugs behind her back. She later found out and told me to never speak to her again. She blocked me from everything, i sent her a letter to her house with flowers the next day a police officer gave me a warning to leave her alone. Its been 2 years and i regret everything i did to her in the end. I still miss her soooo much, i wish she could at least forgive me. Can i have advice please

Im a dude, i had a work Friend named Sara who i had a big crush on. She was 35 married with kids, and im only 23. We would see eachother at work only twice a week, i would always go to her desk and we would talk. I felt so much Chemistry between us, she would always stare at me, and i always made her laugh and smile. Later we began getting in trouble because our friendship was innapropriate and it was offending other coworkers. Everyone noticed the attraction between Sara and i, but we never talked about anything innapropriate. This caused drama at work, and i was asksed to stop talking to Sara. Sara and i would still talk ( little bit) she told me that her job was in Jeopardy but she told me she would always have my back. One day i gave her a gift card, but a few days later she told me manager about it. Sara told my manager that i still try to talk to her. I was removed from her floor, and i was also suspended. I would see Sara in the halls but she would look down, amd couldn't see mebin the eyes. I heard that her personality changed, and that she always looked sad sitting at her desk...1 month after i was removed from her floor she Quit. The same day she quit she blocked me from Facebook. She was with the company 12 years. I feel like this was all my fault and it makes me upset. We were good friends and in the end we became enemies. she had already deleted me from Facebook, but why did she proceed to block me??

Please have a look at the details: I know its too late to say that because i unfriended him days ago. However i met him like 6 years ago i was better than him at everything and he didnt had a problem with that but after 4 years he started to act and do things that makes him know things that i dont know just to make me feel that im not better than him i really didnt liked what he was doing at all after so many years with him i cant accept the fact that someone like him can be better than me nevertheless im still better than him at nearly everything which it made him hate me so much and he started to annoying me all the time like he lost his mind and ready to do everything to be better than me. My problem is i cant accept the idea that he can be better than me so what should i do in this case?

There is this blonde haried girl named Amanda who is one of the popular girls I'm not very popular we have been friends for a long time now we are junors but lately we've started becoming friend friends. She always looks at me expecting me to kiss her but I don't want to do it in school. When do I make my move?

i feel uncomfortable when i don't understand what they're saying. i feel like they're talking bad about me honestly . like they NEVER speak english around me, but they're fluent. what should i do?