I live in a family where we trust no 1 and we open up to no 1. I cant discuss what we do or where we go or places Ive been or things Im planning on doing with aunts uncles cousins etc. I cant visit my extended family w/o looking nice and presentable bcuz all the women will judge me for my looks. And I cant look 2 expensive like I can throw my $ around on clothing like Im rich. I understand that our money is our business. I also understand that my entire family r judgey and they like 2 gossip & get into everyone's business and call people out on their mistakes and point out their flaws. I guess Im trying to say Im sick of it. I wish I had family I could connect to and who would support me. I honestly feel so lonely and like no 1 understands me. Theres a lot of past drama that people like to hold on to so theres no starting over. Theres also a language barrier since I was raised in America so I can rly only talk to my cousins. And if I tell my cousins something u can bet that everyone and their great aunt's dead grandmother will know. I cant trust anyone. I honestly am so upset. Im thankful for my parents and my sister but honestly, theyre a little bit toxic and overprotective. They also care too much of what people think of them. This stops me from truly connecting with anyone and its very very hard for me to open up to people. But my parents are right to be secretive and reserved around extended family because they really are harsh and they love spreading gossip and drama.

My daughter is going to start college in soon. The college is 100 miles away. She will be sharing an apartment with 3 other girls. She ask me how I thought she should get around and go the grocery store and other places as there is no public transportation where she is staying. I ask her if any of the other girls at the apartment had a car and she checked and none did. They told her they will use a bike to get around. She wanted me to buy her a bike. I told her with the high cost of tuition, books, and her apartment, it might be a used bike. She visited my dad and mom last weekend and she talked to them about the problem she would have getting around at college and that I planned to buy her a bike. My dad told her that he used to be an ambulance driver and he had picked up MANY people that had be hit on their bike by a car. He said the bike driver was usually DEAD or severely injured in a car bike accident. He was going to get her something safer than a bike to use a college. He then took her to a car dealer and bought her a new Kia Soul so she would be safe. She thinks she has the greatest grandpa in the world now. I am not sure how I feel about this. Dad did not buy me a new car when I went to college. Is dad trying to make me look bad to my daughter because I could not afford to buy her any car let alone a new one or his he concerned about her safety on a bike. How should I feel about what my dad did?

My husband and I had a disagreement one day about disciplinary actions for our children. That day he got physical with me and I called the police. His mother was very angry about it, and cussed me out/tried to fight me etc spread around their whole family ugly comments about me with his sisters. My husband told his mother to apologize for the way she treated me, and her response was "what do I gotta apologize for?" Fast forward, a year later, my husband and I are doing so much better after therapy, counseling and his anger management classes. He got the charge expunged, and we have been doing so much better with communication and no more violence. Only by the grace of God. His mother on the other hand, I can t seem to grow a bond with again. I forgave her for the day, but we just dont click. She is a recovering drug addict and was not around for my husband as a child because she was locked up. He explained after the situation that happened with us that she went to prison for attempted murder. I dont know how to grow a genuine relationship with someone who is constantly in "survival mode" I feel like. She wants to make up for lost time with her son, and I understand that, but it s hard for me because we dont have anything to talk about. I try to start a conversation and she is so short and keeps to herself. My dad was a recovering alcoholic so I understand how hard it can be on a child, but my dad is also very upbeat and warming towards people. Any advice or suggestions?

this is really annoying. im 16, and my parents make me watch at least 3 hours of those stupid things each day. and they think its great that i can be a baby sometimes and submit to them. i don't have time for this, but if i ever refuse to watch those shows, my parents yell at me. during meals and when we're in the car, my parents interrogate me about what i watched and learned from sesame street, mickey mouse, etc., but they actually treat my younger siblings (14, 11, and 10) like adults. they never make my siblings watch those things. this is so frustrating. should i burn my mom's laptop or what? or should i call the cops on them? my parents don't spank me, so i know there's no abuse involved, but i still feel like a baby.

my sister (who is younger than me by 3 years) knocked down a vase yesterday and it broke. when my mom asked her what happened, she blamed it on me. i tried to speak up for myself, but my mom didn't believe me, and she went to the store and bought me diapers and baby stuff. she stripped me naked and put a diaper on me, a pacifier in my mouth, and made me crawl around.wearing nothing but the diaper and pacifier. she also got a bib, baby food, pajamas with feet, a high chair, a crib, a rear facing carseat, a play pen, a stroller, and baby toys. she makes me crawl around all the time, she spoonfeeds me baby food, while i sit in the high chair and wear the bib, i have to sleep in a crib and sit in my playpen all day. my mom also changes my diaper and bathes me, and she yells at me and spanks me really hard. she also follows me to school now, and she pushes me on my stroller. im not allowed to say anything right now other than "blankie" or "goo goo gah gah". if i need my diaper changed, i have to cry and my parents change it. my sister got away with it. just because she's a girl and she's younger doesn't mean she should get away with everything and my mom should trust her instead of me. and my dad knows that all of this is happening, but hes not doing anything about it. he allows this to happen.

My aunt, my dad s stepsister, has a nephew from someone not related to my dad. Would me and her nephew be related at all?

So I received a call from one of my sons friends earlier and he asked me if my son was home and if he could come over. I informed him that he wasn't home and he was visiting his moms for the week and that he would have to wait until next week Well he started cussing me out and said "well why isn't he at your house motherf.cker" and saying that i "better" go over to my sons mothers house and pick him up and bring him back to my place so that he could come over and hang out Idk if I want my son hanging out with him considering what he said to me over the phone I never actually met him but he seems like an asshole, but my son apparently is really good friends with this guy Should I let him come over next weekend?

My mom has always been controlling and overprotective. When I was younger, I wasn't allowed to go outside because my mom feared something would happen to me. I'm now 20 years old and I'm about to start my third year of college. For the first two years of college, I stayed on campus (I live about an half hour from my university) and my relationship with my mom improved, because we weren't around each other 24/7. Now, I'm living at home and commuting to college, and my mom is back to her controlling ways. I have a car thought she bought for me for my 18th birthday, and she considers it "her" car because it's in her name, but when it needs fixing or gas, it's "my" car. Even though I'll be 21 in a few months, I always have to tell her where I'm going, and who I'm going with. She's starting to make me pay for most of the bills because I have a job now, but I'm trying to pay for my tuition, which she is not contributing to. I give her money every time I get paid, and she gets mad at me when I can't help pay the bills. I'm a female, just in case I didn't make that clear - anyway, my mom likes to kiss my neck and sometimes she licks me when she kisses me and I hate that! She doesn't stop when I ask her to, she just ends up calling me names. Also, I don't have a "voice" in her opinion, because to her, I'm nothing but a kid. So, I'm not allowed to share my opinion or tell her how I feel. I love my mom, but I absolutely hate living with her.

Mom grabbed me by my hair to show me what dad is looking at on computer, teen aged porn, girls look just like me. Mom said im the reason why their marriage is failing. is this fare to me?

if your family is buried at the graveyard? how much?

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Before annoying brats call me a troll. Driver's ed is too expensive. I paid 350 dollars for it. My deadbeat dad won't help. My mom doesn't have the money. My little sister won't help. I am a black woman. I am scared to waste more money and fail again. My little sister went to driver's ed also. I don't have any friends. So I might as well

Approximately 2-3 months ago my sister told me their lease was up and that I had to find somewhere else to go. I've been living in a hotel ever since, also come to find out my sister lied. Now they're struggling to make rent/ pay their bills & asked for me to come back. I'm desperate because I've been paying nearly my whole check to the hotel. They said I could only stay 2 months then I'll have to leave again. Basically neither of them work, her girlfriends "job" is temporarily under construction because of a kitchen fire so she's low on funds. The other situation is another single mom offering a room for 4 months. She's asking for a little more than my sister but I'm fine with that because I'll have my own room. At my sisters place I have to sleep in the living room because it's only a one bedroom. Im torn between who I should choose I feel bad for telling my sister I was coming but now having second thoughts

So, I m 20 ( I live with my mom ) and can not be employed, but before you laugh, I ll explain my situation( s ). My mom has lived in poverty her entire life. This wasn t my ideal choice of living as well, but it s what I ve lived with my entire life as well. We haven t economically grew due to her choices, resulting in me getting drug down into a financial crisis as well. We live in housing ( surprising, right? ), and she s on an income that s created for our rent. If her income increases, so does our rent. Now, if I go collect money from a job as well, it s necessary to report it for tax. This means that housing will apparently add my income along with my mom s as well, and I won t see anything that I make, due to how her situation has been my whole life. How am I going to leave her; get a career, vehicle, anything LEGALLY? I m in no real position either as of where "Jobs" for under the table pay are available, so that s out the window. What do I do in this situation?

I do not sleep in the same room as my husband because it wouldnt be a good idea because I toss and turn and I need more space for myself so I can be comfortable. So, I have a bed in my infant daughters room next to the crib. Its convenient so I can take care of her when she needs it. Is this a bad thing? Will it ruin my marriage?

my mom went missing, no one knows where is she and she won t tell us where is she. how can we know her location? she deactivated her facebook account (but she can still use messenger), also her phone number.

My father was what you would call a deadbeat dad. He was taken to court twice and never paid up. One of those times my mom allowed him to pay the money piece meal but never he still never paid it. My entire childhood he never visited except to introduce me to my siblings. The second was when he came over to tell me he was going to skip town and abandon me in the nicest way someone could tell a six year old boy. He lies and says hell show up but he never does. Once he told me hes going to show up Christmas morning outside of my house well do all sorts of things together. Wed go fishing and do all sorts of things together yet he never showed. Recently i told one of my relatives that my father never cared for me and she told me that my father came to my house when I was small but my relatives ran him off the property. I talked to each of my family members who lived with me during that time they have no clue what she was talking about. Someones lying about this. I think that he lied to my father lied to his family to try to cover up that he didn't give a rats *** about me. He just didnt want to look like the bad guy.

She tells me, "Don t eat ham, don t eat beef, don t eat meat. Don t eat fish, don t eat blah blah"... At this rate, I won t be able to eat anything! I feel like I m starving every time she tells me not to eat something... This time too, I was gonna eat the pork...but she says don t eat all this crap cuz it has nitrates or something... and I ended up going back to my room and not eating at all... I can t stand this anymore... I m seriously going to die from starvation.

FIRST OF ALL NO RUDE ANSWERS. but when my dad goes they treat him with respect. I am not rude or annoying when buying something. my dad annoys them like 10 times worse than me. im 19 girl he is 60 ''STH'' IS ABBREVIATION FOR ''SOMETHING''

I'm almost 23 and My mom asked could I mentor one of her friends son. This boy keeps getting trouble and not going to class. The mom doesn't know what to do because her punishments aren't working I've never seen or met him. he's depressed because his father told him he isn't his real father and walked out of his life. And he also gets bullied in school because he's had a lot surgery and stuff. My mom has already convinced his mother that I'm a good man and that she wants me to mentor him. I do feel sorry for him so I told my mom that I'll try to meet up with the kid on my off days. But how do I be a good mentor to him, I mean I'm no father. And I'm the youngest I only have an older brother so I never really had to be a role model to anyone and my father never walked out of my life so how am I supposed to relate to the kid if my life wasn't like his?

My brother has his grandkids often, They arrive at his house unclean. He claims they don't have time to shower before coming. They are filthy and greasy. He is hurt I asked he have them bathe before coming for dinner. . How to handle?

My father brought them all here to America and loved and cared for them. But treating him like crap when they all came to America when he was sick.

My mom refuses to talk to me or visit me. She told me that she hates me because I was too strong-willed growing up and I ruined her life she made her stressed out and sick all the time. She said I never listened or obeyed her. My mom broke my heart. I was literally in tears when she told me this. What can I do to feel better? My mom no longer wants a relationship with me.

So I had a feud with my biological father because I finally confronted him about neglecting me all the time as a kid, and it turned into a huge fight with his family members because some of them took his side in the issue. Well long story short, I told one of my cousins from his side of the family that I was coming to town, but I told him not to tell anyone. He agreed not to tell. When I visited and we took pics, he kept asking me not to put them on social media. He seemed super scared and said he doesn't want to make it seem like he's taking sides. I got a little shocked because I wondered why he was so apprehensive about the possibility that I could post the pics because he's the one who kept telling me no one even cares about the issue anymore and people rarely discuss it. Another family member told me that he lies to me a lot about the way the other family members feel about me

My sister admitted that she's unhappy with her normal little girl look. She got the idea from social media. Specifically, she idolizes an 11 year old social media star named Emery Bingham. If you Google search her, she wears tons of makeup and clothes that make her look at least 18-20 years old. My sister wants to look like her. She's good at hiding her dieting habits. For instance, she'll throw away food when my parents aren't looking. At school, she doesn't buy lunch. Parents aren't at home until 7pm, so they don't know what happens. I'm her older brother, so I can't relate to body image issues. I have seen low self esteem with girls in my class, though. It has extremely unhealthy results

When I was a kid 11 or 12 I liked my sister's butt and would sometimes touch it a lot and sometimes she didn't say anything. it wasn't sexual I didn't feel anything sexual about it at all. it is okay since we're brother and sister? moms do it to their kid's a lot is it the same thing?

My daughter is 23 years old with no disabilities. She is completely normal and capable, it's just that she chooses to act like a teenager all the time. I still have to deal with her whining, complaining, crying and teenage girl drama. Speaking of that, the average age of her friends are 14-17 year olds. She hangs out with high school girls and gets into their friendship issues all and petty arguments all the time. She is able to seem like an adult at her part-time job. My daughter has friends her own age, but usually not very close or they're extremely immature and lazy.

If my father will is read and i don't want something .Can i just say give it to my sister? Or not this easy. Thanks