i'm a 16 year old boy and my dads girlfriend keeps trying to act like she's my parent and telling me she's going to gRoUNd me and i just tell her that she's not my mom and has no say in what i do and then my dad gets pissed off at me because he has to deal with her crying and whining because i "hurt her feelings". she is always grinding all over my dads d**k in public and wearing his clothes downstairs after they have sex and i can hear it. she's like 10-11 years older than me and he's 40. She is constantly talking about who my dad is sexually attracted to and stuff like that in front of me and talking s**t about my mom TO MY FACE!! I hate her so much and i don't know what to do about it. It's absolutely disgusting and i have no respect for her. She lets my dad completely treat her like s**t and never does anything and then when my dad tries to do the same to me we get in huge fights and she takes his side. It's completely disgusting. What should i do please help.

Hi, Um so.. I go to a boarding school for kids with autism and I have been only at the school since September and they want to put a app on my phone and laptop just so no creeps can message me e.c.t, And if I go on my Xbox I have to leave my bedroom door open. I have to agree to this because if I don't my new phone will be taken then I won't be able to talk to my dad. Then I will Have to speak to him on the house phone, I really don't understand why they need to do this apparently the hole school has to Have this On devices but the internet is re-stricted and i have always been safe online I feel so invaded on my privacy and I don't feel trusted. I don't want to agree to this..

My dad, and my sisters never understand that I don't want them to touch me or come near me. My sisters are always trying to poke me or just something like this. I have told them to stop, I've tried everything I can think of. They just don't understand that I don't want to be touched or poked or anything. My dad is always bugging me and getting too close to me, because he knows it annoys me despite me telling him to go away. He is not being abusive, or anything like that for the people that will assume that but I just don't like when anyone come close to me. I'm a 13 year old girl. Update: I do have a mom she just works nights, she understands my frustrations with them, and will tells my dad and sisters to stop when she's home. When she isn't home they don't care about what she says and if I try to tell them to stop my dad tells me to stop making a big deal out of nothing.

I've been depressed for years. Dealt with a very toxic family who always wanted to keep me down. I finally brought myself up this year. I have saved $14,000 and my family is unaware. I will be moving to Miami for a bar tending job and start a new life. My siblings laugh when I say it. I have about 2 more months until I make the move. How do I handle their bad vibes and doubt? It really take me back to my childhood and make me feel small. I feel stuck. I have to stay in my parents house until I reach my goal.

My teenage step son likes to have his friends over to hang out with him. The first time he did this I overheard him tell his friends "I will introduce you to my beautiful, hot, sexy mom". "I am very proud of her". I am not sure that is something he should be saying about his mom. Should I talk to him about that not being something appropriate to say about his mom or just take it as a compliment and forget about it?

you may think that its not that bad, trust me i did too. but the more i thought about it, the worse it got. it is currently march and shes going to be living with me for 6 months. i live in a very small house with only two bedrooms. one of them is my parent's and i have to share my bedroom with my 5 year old sister and my grandma. its pretty crowded. i hang out with my friends everyday and we always come to my house. we are all your basic local annoying teenage girls. we scream a lot, we laugh, we cry, we break out singing random songs, we dance, we attempt to make food by ourselves, and we love iced coffee. but now, we wont be able to do any of that.we wont be able to go in my room cuz my grandma will probably be there, and if shes not then we wont be able to stay downstairs and watch movies, attempt to what we call "cook", and other things. and as i said before, its march and shes leaving in 6 months which is august. the thing that made me worried the most is summer. when summer comes and school ends, im not gonna be able to hang out with my friends 24/7 which means i will have to stay home with my grandma and my 5 year old sister. i like having alone time. i like being alone and doing random things, but now im not going to be able to. i wont be able to go for runs at random times of the day, i wont be able to sneak put and walk to my local coffee shop, i wont be able to blast music, i wont be able to have all nighters with my friends on facetime, etc. what do i do?

So I was in the shower while this happened, and I had no idea it'd happened until I got out of the shower. I'm fifteen and my sister is a year older than me. When I had gotten out of the shower, I could hear my sister continuously whining. When I got out, I just pulled on a pair of pants and ran to my basement to avoid interaction with either of them. A few minutes pass and i'm downstairs, and suddenly I hear these atrocious screams of pain. I walk beside the staircase where it easily heard, and I hear my dad yelling at her to be quiet as he slaps her with who knows what. Another few minutes, and my sister walks down holding a trash bin. She spits into it, so I walk up to her to see what'd happened. She avoided talking to me and showing me her face, but I could make out her bloody gums and busted face. She had scratch marks all over her body, and at that point I was dialing the police. My dad walks down, yelling at her. He sees that I was holding my phone, so he takes it and walks back upstairs. I really don't know what to do, because I have no way of calling the police, and I feel like if I do, either I or my sister will be blamed, and I just don't want anybody to be arrested. I'm only hoping that one of our neighbours heard it. Knowing we live in a townhouse, I assume it could be easily heard through the walls. What do I do? This is the second time this happened, and it's sickening me. It's making me want to beat his light out.

It's depressing to me because I'm not Caucasian. (Don't assume my race... it's complicated, but - I'm not white and don't look white, so I don't fit in the European beauty standards). These unattainable beauty standards are everywhere I see. I can't fcking change my skin colour.. or somehow get the features only Caucasians have I don't feel good about my physical appearance AT ALL, despite being complemented (about things such as beti skinny, having clear skin, long hair, etc) by people around me (who are, ironically, mostly Whites). I am 21 btw, and a woman (obviously). How do I stop giving a damn to this? I just can't seem to do it...I hate my looks since I was a baby. How do I become immune to their beauty standards? How do I stop caring about what they think? >.<

Ever since the summer when she and her mom moved to the city where I lived, I felt that my mom cares way more about my cousin than my siblings and I. One incident is that she threw a lot of toilet paper into the toilet and that caused it to clog. I know neither myself or my siblings did that as if my dad always told us to never throw paper into the toilet and this only happened once my cousin moved into our house. This happened on multiple occasions and she had the nerve to blame it on us when we all know for a fact it was her because sometimes one of us goes to the bathroom after her and guess what toilet was clogged. Every time my mom and even her mom blames it on my siblings and I and we even tried telling them it wasn't us but they didn't believe us. Another thing is that last week, I asked my mom if she could take me to the mall because I needed to buy a few things for a trip and because I was bored at home as I always stay at home. She said no and I found out that she took my cousin to the mall instead. This also happens a lot. Whenever it's lunch time she always asks my cousin what she wants to eat and cooks it for her but never bother to cook anything for my siblings and I. My grandparents even noticed this and got pissed off that she's taking care of my cousin and not her own children. I feel as if my mom had a choice to pick us over her she would pick her any day. I get pissed with my mom a lot now. How do I deal with this?

Three months ago, my older sister left her two daughters ages 2 & 3, at my mother s house. During this three month period she has visited the girls once. She is on drugs, is a partier, and never really provided financially for her children. Her children were never enrolled in daycare, so now that she is gone I watch them all day everyday. I m only 18 and want to go back to work and pursue a college education but I m unable to due to me having to be in the house all day caring for the children. I want to get them enrolled in daycare so I m able to get back to a semi-normal life, but it s expensive and as an 18 year old, I don t have the funds to support two children that I did not have. My mother has been supporting the two girls financially since birth. She makes well over enough money to provide for herself, but it s not her responsibility to be putting out hundreds of dollars a week for her grandchildren. My mom wants to get custody but the process is difficult and again; expensive. Being stuck in the house all day is making me fall into a deep depression and the children don t deserve this situation either. I would like to know if anyone is aware of any government assistance programs that will pay for daycare (or aid in the enrollment process/fees), if the mother is unable, but some1 else has custody of the children. In my state, you can't enroll a child into daycare without having custody so we are at a standstill. Anyone with any advice pls feel free to answer. Thanks forgot to mention that she was on government assistance some time before she decided to abandon the kids BUT she may have been cut off due to her not keeping up with deadlines and sending necessary information in

My daughter's boyfriend is 30 and he's 26, he's living at his mother's home while he's finishing up his schooling. that is a red flag in his self, no 30 year old man should still be at home. He says he is working as well but I still feel unsettled that he is at his mother's home. Second red flag-every time he comes over he eats, why can't he come over and not eat. My daughter cooks and buys the food but I still don't like it. My daughter says she actually asks him to come over because she actually has a lot of leftovers but I still don't like it and I have requested that he come over one day without eating. She claims that she shows her love by cooking for him since she loves to cook. A long time ago a few years ago they tried to go on vacation together which i thought was extremely disrespectful since they aren't married. I can't even believe he had the audacity to ask me to take her on vacation. You already know they would have been sharing a room if they took a vacation together. I told my daughter she shouldn't trust him she still continues to date him. She said he hasn't done anything bad to her and it would be silly for her to ruin a relationship based on me not liking him.

Please dont judge. I'm 21 my children's father is 22. We have two children together and we been living with his grandmother until we get back situated. One day me and his aunt got into an argument because she came in drunk bullying me and calling me a b*tch. I'm not about to be quiet and let her disrespect me so we exchange a few words and my children father is just sitting there not staying nothing at all not even telling his aunt to calm down or she was in the wrong. So the next day i wake up and i hear her talking about me and again he's not saying nothing so i get on the phone call my mom and tell her what i was going through and how it was making me feel his aunt heard my conversation and got upset and started with me again me and her almost got into a fight and my children's father was basically taking up for his aunt telling ME to be quiet so we got into it and he attacked me hit me trying to take my phone hit me in my head while his aunt shout in the background so his grandma ran downstairs basically saying me and him had to leave long story short me and my young children left and he's still there. I'm now staying with a friend. She put her great grandchildren out in the cold No one said nothing to his aunt! This is beyond me.

I received an inheritance and I would like to save it and make it grow for my kids college if I ever have any kids or my retirement if I don't. It is not big enough to pay someone to manage it so I am trying to decide how to best invest it. My husband wants to invest it but he does not know ANYTHING about investing. He can not even balance our check book. I have a friend that is a financial wizard. He has a proven track record of great results from his investments. His honesty and integrity are well known to me. He will manage my inheritance and make it grow and not charge me anything. He is the person I would like to have help me with my investments but there is a problem. He is my ex husband that I am still on friendly terms with. It will be a blow to my current husbands ego if I have my ex husband help me with my investments. I would like to tell my current husband that this is strictly a business relation (as it is) and it has nothing to do with our relationship. I don't think he will buy that. I don't want to hurt my husband's feeling but I think this is too important to not maximize my investment returns. ANY ADVICE WILL BE GREATLY APPRECIATED.

Recently I found my mum and dad use drugs. I often see the drugs in the Tupperware they use to carry their cigarettes. It is green and scratchy looking. They have both used it while I was under their care but they try and hide it and don't know that I know. My mum also has scales in the same case as the drugs and I found a rolled up $20 bill in an old cigarette tin but it looks like it hasn't been used recently. She also once was really angry and said "what's the point of taking days off if I don't have anything to smoke!" I knew she wasn't talking about normal cigarettes because we live next to a supermarket where she could buy normal cigarettes . In VIC, Australia, could I be taken away for them possessing and doing drugs while I was under their care?

Especially since they don't talk about how they're not perfect and made/make mistakes. My dad wasn't in my life a lot growing up and still isn't. Physically sometimes he is but not mentally or emotionally. I see him yell at the TV when it's politics, a show, movie, video game. I hear him say how everyone else is an idiot, stupid, or he just makes fun of tv shows. It bugs me because he thinks he's SO smart but I don't think he's smart enough he can't even be there for me. The way he yells at the tv is how I feel about him in this family. He wishes the government could be better but he doesn't even put that energy/devotion/anger into making things better within our family. I didn't see him yell at my brother when my brother abused me. He actually yelled at me for my reaction when I was the one hurting. Do parents think we're obligated to care about them when they get old? I think i'll plan to live across the other side of the world and not care anymore..

Ok guys and girls I am an adult male who still lives at home with his parents. I have a few disabilities such as Patent Ductus Arteriosius, Classic HFA, SPD, and a hearing impairment, and Kallmann Syndrome. Yes I am mildly mentally and physically disabled but my mother treats me like I am severly disabled. I will try going to go make myself a sandwich before my mother's like "oh no let me make it for you, you just sit down, here I'll even whip up some pudding for you". I want to say I AM NOT A FREAKIN BABY! LEAVE ME THE HELL ALONE! My mother does this like 24/7 where she takes over something I'm doing. I look like an 11 year old because of my Kallmann Syndrome but I am not freaking retarded! I want to move out but I have no clue where to start and most places wont hire me because I look like a child and I have a learning disability so I can't go to college. My mother tries to be my best friend and always wants to do things with me. whenever I go to the freakin mall with friends, my mother tags along and never leaves me the frick alone. How do i get this to stop?

My friend's adult child is staying with us for a week because her building flooded and her parents are out of town. At night, I hear them quietly talking about things that I never knew about my kid. Nothing dangerous, but interesting enough. She has a whole other side of her that she never told me! I want to know more

I used to never really care because I was too busy living my life to the fullest living far away from him. I've noticed over the last few years the only time we spend together is because of holidays or once he asked me on a road trip because he didn't want to drive alone not because he wanted me there. Which broke my heart once we got to destination.. I walked up to his sister (my aunt) with my arms wide open, huge smile, and a hi how are you.. Um ya she completely cold shouldered me and just stared at my dad 20 feet behind me. I told myself i'll never do that ever again! Anyway.. What's the point in having kids if you don't show them respect and value too? I never got the s3x talk, never got talked to about drugs, alcohol, std's, nothing. My mom abused me, my dad was absent. The classic dysfunctional family lol. I used to invite my dad out to go to places and even offered to pay.. last time his excuse was he didn't like any of the actors in any of the movies at the time.

She is emotionally manipulative and downright mean. She's been this way my whole life. She's 62 and refuses to drive. She has to be taken everywhere. My brother used to drive her in return for living with her but her treatment of him finally drove him away. Now she expects me to drive her around. She calls me every day asking to run here or there. Problem is I live a hour away from her. So I run down after work, drive her wherever she needs to go while she insults my wife and tells me what a terrible son I am and then get home too late to spend any meaningfully time with my wife. Every time I try to leave town on a vacation she calls an ambulance to take her to the hospital. I can't get a moment's peace. Im thinking of doing exactly what my brother did and go to contact let her figure her own problems out. What can I do? Please help!

I'm not going to explain the whole story of why my dad is a dead beat as it will take to long. But I'm short he never paid child support, never helped us kids growing up, never said happy birthday on our birthdays and so on. Oh and last month he got married and didn't invite his kids Basically me and my brother are adults now and it's his birthday tomorrow Should I message him telling him why he is such a dead beat or leave it

I am 16 years old. While my two high school friends and I (one of whom is morbidly obese) were using my mother's computer, the backrest of her chair snapped off the seat, since my obese friend was the one sitting on the chair. So I called my mother at her job to let her know what happened. She was upset, but not ballistic, and said it's okay. When I got off the phone, I told my friends not to worry and that everything's cool. So the other friend said in a state of shock, "What?! You mean you're not getting a whooping?!" It was at that moment he totally lost me, but then it became apparent that he and I were polar opposites regarding our mothers' tactics on child-rearing. But from the way my friend reacted, you'd have thought his mom hit him with the belt just for breathing. Was she very abusive to him? I can understand if he reacted that way if it was ME who broke the chair, which still sounds totally out of wack, because it was an accident. So something more realistic like cursing out my mother and not getting hit, is something my friend has every right to be shocked about. But shocked that I didn't get hit for something our obese friend did? Sounds like CPS should've taken him away from his mother.

My daughter's boyfriend is 30 and he's 26, he's living at his mother's home while he's finishing up his schooling. that is a red flag in his self, no 30 year old man should still be at home. He says he is working as well but I still feel unsettled that he is at his mother's home. Second red flag-every time he comes over he eats, why can't he come over and not eat. My daughter cooks and buys the food but I still don't like it. My daughter says she actually asks him to come over because she actually has a lot of leftovers but I still don't like it and I have requested that he come over one day without eating. She claims that she shows her love by cooking for him since she loves to cook. A long time ago a few years ago they tried to go on vacation together which i thought was extremely disrespectful since they aren't married. I can't even believe he had the audacity to ask me to take her on vacation. You already know they would have been sharing a room if they took a vacation together. I told my daughter she shouldn't trust him she still continues to date him. She said he hasn't done anything bad to her and it would be silly for her to ruin a relationship based on me not liking him.

She does say she loves me but her actions doesn t show it. At least my real Dad loves me. It's just she's been abusing me emotionally and physically. She was always drunk. I had a very mean step father that had a very bratty daughter.

We got into an argument. We always do I dont have the best friendship with my mom or my dad. He's here but hes not really here if that makes sense. He provides hes a hard worker, but hes very distant i dont talk to him at all except to say hi in the mornings. I got in an arguement with my mother because i got a DUI. She said i hang out with a bunch of stupid people and i agree they arent the best for me and decided i should stop hanging out with them, but why did she feel the need to start attacking me in every way? She called me fat and she always does she tells me im ugly because of my tattoo. She called me a piece of **** today and and said it more than once so she knew she was saying it and it didnt just slip out because of anger she said "sorry but its the truth" and its all i can think about ive been crying all day. Its not just my mom it is also my sister who calls me hurtful names too. Its not just today im just finally speaking up about it. Ive moved out because of these same reasons and came back for my mother, but everything is the same again. I know suicide or hurting myself isnt the answer but i think about it a lot ive been thinking about it for a while now. I dont know what to do anymore.

Yesterday I was talking to my mom about the dangers of walking alone and having protection on me. I then said i hope i dont encounter a dangerous guy when walking alone. And she said "no guy wants you theyd have to be desperate." Then she started laughing hard, why would she say this? How could such a parent say this to their daughter. I'm so depressed idk what to do?

They all abused and enabled all abuse, physical, mental, and emotional.. Being around them which I try to limit still causes me to have ptsd. I just see how happy they are after sweeping so much under the rug and I feel a fire burning inside me and I just want Snap! Because I have never hurt them the way they hurt me! Im supposed to *forgive* to move on but I can't. They don't care about my happiness, and when I care about my happiness they give me the silent-treatment, weird looks, and sometimes more emotional abuse. I feel like someone died because I wonder how they can move forward so fast like nothing happened while i'm stuck wondering what I did wrong and how come I can't move forward faster? I get stuff done.. I have good days.. but forgive them fully? I can't. I want to be successful not out of spite but for me because I know I can but ptsd is ruining my life...

My family is unique and I am wondering how others would feel in my position. I am 22 and have 5 half siblings that are under 10 years old, and struggle with feeling left behind and out of place in my family. I am very close with the younger ones particularly. Being 22 I understand I am an adult and don't need or expect the attention the children do from my mom, but she has seemed to forget about me in the process of growing her family. Do I have a right to feel this way or is it selfish of me, and should I hold my silence or push for one on one time every once in a blue moon?

She calls me fat or other name calls but she continues to make bad foods and offer me junk. I don't understand when i diet then she acts like shouldn't do this. What's wrong with her???

Let me start from the begging. When I was 13 my mum moved to England with his partner, obviously to earn more money and live better life. I lived with my Grandpa for 2 years in my country and then I moved to my mum where is the whole problem.Me my mum and her partner live in one sharing flat. Flat has 3 rooms but we have 2 roommates living in 2, so 3 of us living in one room. It's very hard for me, because my house look disgusting and ugly, there is mould on the walls(mostly in bathroom and the place where I sleep). Not going to lie my home looks like abandoned and nor refurbished since like 20 years. Doors are yellow, windows leaky, everything is just very old and shouldn't be intended to use. I don't even have my own bed, I'm sleeping on a mattress since almost 2 years. I'm all the time arguing with my mums partner and he is trating me like a ****, we even had few fights, and when once i broke the window... he is calling me names, putting dirty dishes into my "bed", putting my stuff into a trash bags,etc... My mum is trying to save some money but she isn't earning enough to do it, her partner is not even helping her and at the moment the last time he was at work was 3 months ago. He is just sitting on his *** doing nothing...My mum applied to council few months ago but we still waiting but it's too long for me.

I bet the parent who has custody of the kids spends most of the money on himself or herself, not on the kids.

on his *** doing nothing...My mum applied to council few months ago but we still waiting but it's too long for me. Because of whole situation I have panic and histerical attacks, I just can't live in a one room like this, it's making me crazy... we live here illegaly, and I found out that landlorder has this flat from council and he rent this to other people making money withouth any interest about a enviroment. He come here anytime he wants, even when we sleep. When there's no one at home, he is walking around the rooms withouth permision. I don't feel comfortable here and I can't just move out but I'm just 15 and I still go to high school, I want to focus on my GCSE's not on my daily struggles, it's making my life complicated... I just want to live normal life, have my own bed, my private space where I can close the door and be for alone for a while.I go to work once a week because I have school, I finish work at 12pm and I'm coming back home at 1-2 am to have this 50£ to have my own money to buy my needs, because I know that my mum won't give me money. I'm alone with this and I won't to change my life because it's really hard for me, there is only one person who support me and it's my boyfriend but he doesn't know about the whole situation. We're planning to move out after summer because I'm 16 in September. I need a good advice what I can do or from where I can get money to help my mum to rent 2 rooms and just be happy and be in a place where I feel comfortable

I'm 27 living with my folk while I'm at school. It's cheap and help save money for school. But, every time I clean the house. My folks get mad at me, and tell me I'm not doing good enough job. Example my folks were coming back from vacation and my dad order me to dust and vacuum the house. So on day before they show up I spent all day cleaning, And, yet my mom see the house and tell me I haven't clean the house for days and said I was lazy. I try tell them I did clean which they just roll their eye and don't believe me. Am I'm crazy for thinking they were right. And, I didn't do good enough job.

I m in a very peculiar situation, living with my foster mom and her new husband and step-daughter, so I dont really have any bonds in the family in general, but they ve let me continue staying here until I finish community college this May, and transfer to a university in a different part of the country. There s a fairly significant age gap between my new step-sister and I (she just turned 17 and I m turning 21 next week) and we re very different and I feel like she looks down on me quite a bit. I m more of an academic, and I like working out but not outside a gym (and since I cover all my own expenses, that stopped) whereas she s am athlete and doesnt understamd how money stretches in the real world. I do not drive because, again, paying for college myself and my grades can t afford a 30 hour a week job, which I think she looks down on me for as well, but outside of her being a judgy little gossip, we get along ok but she never goes out of her way to say hi or interact. Shes not mad about the wedding either, she absolutly loves Linda (my foster mom) and we ve opened up to each other about the past and ****, but I feel lile at this point she s just waiting until May due to only-child-syndrom (a curse we both have tbh). What can I do to build a relatiomship with her before I move? I want us to actually be friends when shes older.

I like to go over to hangout with my cousin and play mario kart on the weekend but my dad told me my aunt is anti vax and dosent beleave in medicine. I dont know what that relay means he wouldn't explain. Is he just jokeing with me again? I dont think im related to them by blood because im adopted will being around them get me sick? I dont want there germs but I like playing games with them.

I just don't say anything

I'm 27 and have a 4 year old child. I had the opportunity to move back home to escape an abusive relationship from my ex partner. He is also my father's child. I'm trying to move out but can't because my credit is shot and my ex asks me for money and manipulates me into saying it's for my child. No one cares about this including my so called "parents". They're moving out at the end of the year. They said they want to be "kid free". They refuse to help me. They won't give me any money. I feel like they think it's my fault and don't feel sorry for me. I have a job as a waitress but I have to work nights to make the most money. This will take time away from my child. I applied for affordable housing but is a 2 year wait right now. I'm angry and stressed out. How to cope?

how am I supposed to convince my parents to give me back my phone because I have had it gone for four months and I am not able to talk to my friends. When I am out somewhere or at home I can't call my parents if I need something because they took my phone away from me.