My friend set me up with an african american girl... Which I was excited about... She seemed real cool and chill-laxed, and suggested that she just meets at my place and we hang for the evening. OK, so I be a little nervous and try to set the mood at my place... I have the lights a little low, I had a bunch of Tyler Perry shows on the TiVo, and some 50 Cent playing gently in the background... Even put out some ribs and wings as finger foods... I had a bottle of red for myself with a choice of colt 45, Old English, and/or a batch of Vodka-Kool & Aid, I wipped up. As I know all women appreciate, I wanted to make sure that she felt important, and to let her know that I was interested, so I made sure that I asked questions to get to know her... Like, where do she git her hair did, and how many babies she gots and which jails they baby daddy's be in... I really think I did my best to overcome any kind of racial barrier... yet, in spite of my efforts, she left early and has not answered or called me back... I don't get it, where did I go wrong?

Hey! I am studying a semester abroad in Italy and I have found myself to be very weirdly shy in this new context. I cannot wrap my mind around it. All the conversations I start are either because I have to or because others have asked me something. Plus, today I found out there's a sort of "beer pong" party and I wanted to go...but since I don't know anyone I decided not to. Please share your thoughts.

Im bipolar, in my depressive episodes I tend to experience nausea and sickness. this usually lasts up to 2 wks. My bf is usually amazing at dealing with me. i like to think he understands a little. recently, he's been distant. We've always had the routine of going to bed together, i fall asleep first and he'll stay up reading or gaming for an hour or so. Recently, i'll go to bed and he'll insist on staying in the front room and won't come to bed until the morning (2-3am). He tells me it's because he's tired and wants to be alone, which is obviously absolutely fine, but completely unlike him. With my nausea, ive explained to him that having him in the room while i sleep is very comforting, and calms my anxiety. He just tells my that if i'm going to throw up i will and there's not much he can do about it (again, true, but a bit cold imo) it's things he's said like 'you'll fall asleep anyway' and 'there's nothing i can do to help you'. I understand that he feels helpless but i make it very obvious on what he can do to help (keep me company when he can, go for short walks together, generally just be there for me) it feels like i'm just making everything worse, and we both feel helpless. I'm feeling lonely. it just seems like he doesn't care and has given up on me. I've tried to speak to him about it but he always gets defensive. 'it's not my fault' and 'i'm not a doctor, i can't make you feel any better'. I've given up. It's making me feel down and he doesn't seem to care.

asking for my gram

So my girlfriend and i were at this restaraunt and i had to squeeze in behind this couple sitting down to get to our seat (the place was full but there was enough room to squeeze without making contact). I also made sure to say excuse me and sat down (didn't even bump her) and noticed the girl glaring/staring at me. When the guy came back from the bathroom, she said something in their native tongue to them and he also gave me a dirty look. I proceeded to stare back and then told my gf (outloud): not sure why these people keep looking over, they look like the frog and the dweeb. My gf then goes: he's really small, you probably take ****s bigger than him. Did i mishandle this? Why were they trying to start ****?

Before I start, I do NOT want nasty comments. I am at CAMHS, I am sick of being labelled as 'autistic', I was given the diagnosis of de clerambault syndrome which is an obvious misdiagnosis. I am 16 years old, I can not go into everything what has happened in my life. I am lacking social contact; I am not able to talk to my psychiatrist since she has discharged me, my mental health specialist sees me once every fortnight and he doesn't allow me in a room with him without my dad being present due to my proclaimed 'erotomania'. I have been bullied (although I do not like using that term due to the fact that it sounds as though I am victimising myself). I have told my mental health specialist that I was being ridiculed at school and I was told to kill myself because I was a "psychopath", my mom passed away from cancer last year and when I was at school I was told that she deserved to die. Thank God I am doing work at home for the last few months 'till GCSEs. Anyway, getting to the point... I'm not sure what I want, I don't know what I want in general. I'm scared of people leaving my life, like my mental health specialist leaving me, we have gotten close and I am petrified of him leaving me just like everyone else has. I tell people one thing and mean the other, then I tell people to "f**k off and get out of my life" and I don't mean it. My mind keeps changing all the time, one minute I love people, then I hate them. It's like subconsciously I want myself to suffer... Oh yeah, and I forgot to add.. when I told my mental health nurse that people was harassing me at school, I got told "it's all in your head and nobody is being nasty".. like wtf. That's why im seeking advice on here.

Would you be mad if your friend had sex with your brother or a sibling? Long story short I hooked up with my friends brother while he was visiting her for the weekend. I'm not entirely sure if she would be mad at me. What are your opinions?

Long story short, I've had to leave college due to finnacial reasons and the job I'm at now is $20-19,000 a year. My boyfriend will be kicking me out soon which makes me feel a little free because he was abhsive but I am feeling depressed because I don't want to be homeless with my two beautiful cats. Is there any certification or career out there I'd be able to support myself comfratbly (not spoil) on?

I see many people say x doesn't love that person if they threatens to leave you . So a woman who threatened to leave a guy if he doesn't stop texting other women doesn't really love him ? Then what is it ? Her just being demanding?

First off don t say "you re just being a stupid teenager" because I m over 18, this is just to settle an argument between me and a few friends. Say someone got married somehow at 16 or 17. If they were married would the parents have any say in what they do, for example, moving to a different house or state? Or managing the doctors appointments? Or would that fall to them and/or the spouse?

I try to be really friendly with everyone at work because my work place has always been a very social and fun place (I've worked there for seven years). There have of course been conflicts over the years with coworkers and myself but it's never been something I couldn't get past with whoever the tension was with. There's a new girl at work who at first I really clicked with and we even hung out outside of work a few times, which is rare for me. Really thought we would become friends. However, a few months ago she convinced herself I was talking crap about her when I wasn't and it resulted in a huge crying confrontation between us. After that I was uncomfortable around her and realized I had to keep my distance. As the weeks passed things slowly returned to normal, but I always reminded myself "this girl is not your friend". But she surprised me one day by completely apologizing for everything that happened between us and even gave me a hug. I thought we were all good. Then last week she decided to just completely ice me out, talking to everyone around me but ignoring me, being rude to me when I said anything and it really hurt my feelings. I didn't do anything to her at all. It's hard for me to accept that its not my problem that she doesn't like me; its hers. It just really hurts my feelings and gives me bad anxiety to know there is someone who treats me differently and doesn't accept me. I don't know how to cope with this and I need some caring advice please. Thank you

I ran into my ex wife Connie's brother at a party and he told me Connie was getting married. Since we are on friendly terms, I thought it appropriate, I sent her a nice wedding gift and a note wishing her a long, happy marriage. I got a thank you note from her telling me how much she liked the gift. The note also ask me not to contact her again as her new husband did not want her to have any contact with other men, especially me. I email her that I understood and I did not want to cause her any problems with her marriage. I had not heard from her for over a year when she called me. She ask if she could stay with me while she was getting a divorce. I told her I did not think that was a good idea. I would however help her find an apartment where she could live. I was thinking having a married woman live with me while she was still married might cause us both problems. Then she told me she was the victim of domestic violence and was afraid her husband might hurt her or something ever worse. I told her to come to my house to stay for a while and not tell ANYONE where she was. I hope I made the right decision. Do you think I did?

He was about 16/17 when I first saw him. He was gorgeous, blond, blue eyed, worked since he was a teenager, and had this sad and serious expression on his face and looked at me with this 'challenge' look on his face. At the time, I hard a hard childhood and teenage years and that boy was a way to escape. I would go on purpose to where he worked to see him. I never saw him again. Since then, every single summer spent alone and sad, I would think of me and him spending the summer together in the countryside and by the sea, fishing, joking like two best friends, me reading poetry to him, swimming and everything. He would teach me to throw the net and do knots, and I would look at his beautiful blue eyes. Every single thing I missed in life. I'm crying now that I'm writing this, cause I spent my life in loneliness and bad environment, and I have just been dreaming of finding him again and feeling loved.