My name is Jake and im 24. I used to have a best friend for five years. Her name was Susanna, she was such an amazing person with a great personality. she was always there for me no matter what, but back in 2017 we had a very big fight and she blocked me from all her social medias. she told me to never message her again, but deep down I still miss her so much. she was such an amazing person specially with me. The fight was all my fault because I lied to protect her. I know she was really upset, because she trusted me and I destroyed her Trust. I haven't been able to move on and sometimes I feel like finding a way to message her but I scared. can I please have some advice?!!! I saw a picture of her a few days ago, with a lot of new friends. so it makes me sad to think that she completely forgot about me

Does pushing someone away meaning not talking to them much like when they used to talk more?

Okay,not ALL the time but alot of the time.It can be the smallest things like friends always trying to get things their way,people at work talking in a rude tone to me or even acting rude,people nagging me,trying to push me in different directions.I'm so sick of people acting this way to me,expecting me to always say yes ! It seems like to not be treated this way I need to keep my guard up,have a resting ***** face and basically be a *****. I honestly feel burnt out.I HATE people so much and how they behave,how they demand things from me.I have even considered ditching some of my friends because at times they are inconsiderate or demanding even though alot of the time they are a good friend.Any advice?

Im a boy. Im 16 years old

Last night my friend went out for drinks so I paid for the first round. Then we relocated to another place and we got more than just drinks and an appetizer. When I'm drink become very generous and for some reason I paid for the bill and didn't even accept a tip. It's not like I am rich but I try to give when I can. I know this sounds shallow but I'm only annoyed that she accepted it because I realized last time I did pay for our drinks and I also have been spending way too much money on her in general. She really doesn't do things like this for me. I helped her pay for her wedding dress. Even for her bachelorette she wants to me ask my friend (who she's not friends with) if we could use their parents cabin. Is she leech?

Ever since I was a kid everyone has treated me unfairly. They're mean to me, they look at me weird and mean, they talk to me like I'm stupid, they treat me like crap. I don't know why. I think it's because I'm shy, quiet, and don't stand up for myself. Are they just careless assholes bullying me?

My friend was adopted and she is half Asian like me and my twin. My friend's mom doesn't want me and my twin to hang around my friend, saying she 'doesn't want her daughter to get more in touch with her Asian side'.

i'm fed up of being bored and lonely. i can't do it anymore. all i do most of the time is sit alone in my room. i see other people my age going out and having fun (i'm 15 btw) and it makes me wish i had lots of friends. everyone else at school seems to have a group of friends - even the really unpopular kids but i just find it so hard to make friends and when we have group work in class i will join a group of nice people but it still feels like they don't want me there and i just annoy everyone by simply existing. i only have 2 real friends (they don't even know each other) and everyday i tell myself how easy it would be to just go up to a group and make friends with them but it's really not that easy at all. i don't have the confidence at all and i know i'll never ever do it. i know i sound like a stupid complaining kid but you don't understand what it's like to sit in an empty void called your bedroom all day, to stand looking like a complete loner when everyone else is having fun, to sit alone while other girls are partying and getting boyfriends.i just wish there was a way to get out im gonna cry if i write anymore so im stopping

And he has done this for years and you cant think of something you did to upset him that much. Maybe he just hates you ?

I went out with this guy and we left our coats in the car when we went to the arcade. So when we were leaving out it was cold outside. And I told him it was cold and he put his arm around me.

People have started calling me mean and selfish because I no longer let them use me.

my friend explained that they found the card on the sidewalk of Pasadena city college campus and kept it. when I won a bet he had to lend me his card for one transaction. I ended up using this ($25) but later, he laughed at me and said that it wasn't even his. he just found it on the sidewalk of our college (Pasadena city college in california) how can I avoid getting in trouble with the law or at all?!?! the only thing I can think of is to contact the person who owns the card, but I have had no luck in finding them. The name on the card is Dzelila Maslesa. if anyone can help, I would really appreciate it, or if you have any other ideas as to how to get out of this situation. this sucks!

I met my friend about little over a year ago. Around 7 months into our friendship, i became her best friend. Then a month later, she met her boyfriend. They have a great relationship together and are very much in love. Since then, she has been distancing herself greatly. At first, i was ok with it because its normal. But then later on, I felt like she would never make any plans with me or agree to any plans with me. All she wanted to do was expect me to travel to her house and just talk. She knew i was desperately looking for someone to attend events with to make new friends (i don't have friends). Now we don't even go out to have a meal anymore (like we used to). Every time she invites me to places to hangout, its not out of the goodness of her heart but just because she wants a place for her boyfriend to meet me. Besides this, she bullshitted my birthday gift last year and didn't give me a Christmas gift. But she did make up for it by buying me a meal around Valentines day. So thats ok. She doesn't hangout with anyone else but her boyfriend. Often its difficult to meet up with her because she's always at her bf's house. I started distancing myself away from her too because our lives are just too different. Her life is like a golden ticket to willy wonka the chocolate factory while my life is a horror story over and over again. I haven't seen her in about a month and she misses me and feels ignored but i honestly don't feel the huge need to see her anymore. I feel like she's just not there anymore in my life anyways so why should i have to visit her twice every month? I feel like I still love her but she's just no help to me. All we do is to catch up about our lives every two or three weeks and we never do anything. Just feel like she's not providing me anything valuable. I feel like I'm not her best friend anymore either though she still calls me it at times.

What does she mean she is involved in risky behavior and why wouldn't she care about herself? I'm worried about my friend and don't know how to help. What do I do?

I went out with this guy and we left our coats in the car when we went to the arcade. So when we were leaving out it was cold outside. And I told him it was cold and he put his arm around me.

My real height is 5'6. All of my friends are shorter than me. They think I'm at least 5'9 and don't believe me when I tell them how tall I am. I've been done growing for four years. (Yes, we're that old but still have conversations like this.) and obviously, still, when I measure myself I'm 5'6. This girl about three inches shorter than me also claims to be 5'6, so I think that's how this whole mess started. They kept making comments about my height so I just said, "Yes. I'm 5'9." And they believe me. I'm sort of clowning them, but if I really look 5'9, I'll take it. At least it got them to stop asking about my height and talking about it. Is it okay that I lied? Ive literally measured myself so many times since them making remarks about my height. I even stood next to the height chart at my local bank. Nothing changed. I'm still 5'6. In fact, it would be bizarre if I grew at this age, being that I'm over 18.

Everyone else is asleep. I always have this problem at sleepovers but I still always go to them. We set an alarm to wake up at 5 so I guess I could just lay on the couch for two hours (i feel like 2am was 5 minutes ago but it's 3:15, so it won't be too much of an issue) What do I do? I ended up falling asleep after a bit, then I woke up at around 6:30. all good!

I do theatre, and a while back I was in a show. This girl from the show randomly followed me on Instagram, and long story short we started talking. I started talking to her because she's friends with this guy I like and I thought (at the time) I could get to him through her. Her and I talked for like two days, and then just kept a streak on Snapchat ever since. So we aren't close at all. However, she keeps asking to hang out in person. And I REALLY don't want to do that. She lives an hour away btw, which makes it even more difficult to do anything in the first place. She's asked me to hang out a couple times, and each time I've said no cause I was busy but maybe another time. She is so consistent, and won't take the hint I guess! I don't know what to say anymore. She wants to hang out today, but gave me a time and plans on what we could do this morning!! Please help me. She seems like a cool girl, but idk how to tell her that hanging out irl is just too difficult. I'd much rather be online friends with her. We don't even know each other well enough yet to hang out in real life. Please help me! I need ideas on what to tell her.

I go to school 4 blocks from where my mom works. Sometimes when I get out of school, I go to her workplace and find an empty desk and do my homework and we go home together. Several of her co workers, mostly guys offered to help me with my homework and I sometimes accepted their offer. They were a great help and I thanked each one every time they helped me do homework. Several of mom's co workers, told me they had a daughter or son my age. One female co worker told me the guys did not really want to help me. It was great for their ego that they had the attention of a young girl. The guys never hit on me or did anything like that. Am I doing something wrong here?

I've had jobs to where I hung out with co workers a few times. We didnt get super close but just cool with eachother. I'm now 38 years old and I don't have friends like I used to. I do go out to bars to meet people. I'm still a outgoing guy and like to be around people. All through my 20's and teens I had friends. I had fake friends and decent friends. I guess i'm kinda a loner now and its been 2 years. As far as co workers go I don't think I can see myself being friends with them. I go to the gym and work out and play basketball. I go to nice bars and talk to women and do ok. I thought I might as well start dating because then it will be easier to meet people.

So my friend is a girl and is 21 years old in college and she has a boyfriend who is 24. Anyways they met this guy who is 55 years old from a college activity and they became friends. But this 55 year old guy is divorced from his wife, and has two teen kids. Anyways he hangs out with my friends quite often I noticed by taking them to dances around the city and goes over to their house and cooks with them. Is this odd?

I hungout with this guy and it was cold outside. I told him I was cold and he put his arm around me.

I have gone to the same gym for years. I go every day. It's less than a block from my front door, so I just walk there without a coat, even when it's cold. It's not worth the hassle, and when I'm on my way home, I'm all sweaty anyway. Every single day, one other regular comes up to me and says, "You're not wearing a coat!" Sometimes it's as we're walking in together; other times, he charges at me, without even a "good morning", and barks that at me. I see him in the street and he charges at me, saying, "You don't have enough clothes on!" WTF? We're around the same age and have the same type of job, and we live a few blocks from each other. At the gym, I speak to people I like and ignore those who I don't, so I'm confused: Is this guy being friendly? Or is he a bully or a creep? I think I'll ignore him from now on. Thanks. We're both straight men, middle-aged.

I am a woman looking to find a good guy friend. Are there any websites that are like girlfriend social but for women finding good guy friends.

I've just moved from somewhere I stayed for 18years (my whole life so far) I have met new people but I'm finding it hard to fit in and don't want them to think I'm weird like today they said they weren't doing anything all weekend but they were at a colleagues house (someone I work with to) I think I'm overthinking it but I have trust issues as it is

I hungout with this guy and it was cold outside. I told him I was cold and he put his arm around me.

I have a friend who at times can be quite the loner. But at the same time he can also be the life off the party. I recently went to Thailand alone. I was supposed to stay for 3 weeks but I only managed for 2 because I thought it was boring. He has spent a year going through South America and another year through Asia - alone. Even these days he'll go on hikes with his dog and sleep in a tent. And I couldn't even manage 3 weeks alone in Thailand. I found it hard to meet people and I got bored. I feel bad for abandoning my trip. I called him a lot during my trip and he guided me through what I should do but it was still not for me. I have no idea how he does it. And being away for an entire year, just going from place to place. Or going on a week long hike in the mountains alone. I couldn't imagine something more boring. But does that mean that he is stronger than I am? He can be alone in a way I could never be. How do you view it?

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I am a shy quiet person I work in a supermarket in seafood I don't have many friends and my friends are losers not to be mean but they never shower and smell like crap and live in dodgy families and my parents will hate me if they found out how these people live. One of my crazy friends who lives overseas said your never going to get a wife being stuck I the seafood part of the supermarket. I go to the gym a lot and I talk to 2 people there and only because they talk to me I'm to shy to talk to anyone. I'm pretty much a worthless peice of crap, I'm dumb, can't talk to people and I have been trying so hard for the last 19 years to fix this and btw the way I'm 19. My parents say I'm good looking but I think I'm ugly wide leged gay mouth peice of ****. This is probably why I run around the house make stupid noises waving my arms around picking up rand items and screaming at them. I don't know what there is to do. Will any girl like me and some girls have liked me in the past and one of them was a lowlife who I hated. What should I do?

My mother is very easy to take advantage of. She always feels she has to go above and beyond to help others to the point of chronic self-neglect. Her husband was serving a 40 year life sentence and she stayed with him because he is allegedly innocent. Since I can remember my mom has been easily manipulated and used by friends, strangers, and family members alike. She has cosigned, bailed people out, loaned money, you name it. When I bring this to her attention of how she is now homeless (staying with fake friends) and works part time from not networking or furthering her education, she gets mad at me. Like when I was younger and all her frustrations were directed toward me. It infuriates me that she is now 54 and making the same mistakes and it could send her to an early grave and her response is that she is a christian and atlas she is not the bad person.

I've had jobs to where I hung out with co workers a few times. We didnt get super close but just cool with eachother. I'm now 38 years old and I don't have friends like I used to. I do go out to bars to meet people. I'm still a outgoing guy and like to be around people. All through my 20's and teens I had friends. I had fake friends and decent friends. I guess i'm kinda a loner now and its been 2 years. As far as co workers go I don't think I can see myself being friends with them. I go to the gym and work out and play basketball. I go to nice bars and talk to women and do ok. I thought I might as well start dating because then it will be easier to meet people.

Me and my friend went out to drink with some other guys, my friend had a few tequila shots and blabbed to everyone stuff I told him In confidence, stuff I felt was none of there business as I don't know them very well. The next time I saw my friend I said I don't like how you blabbed all my business to other people, he didn't even say I'm sorry or whatever, just oh I don't remember. Should I totally disavow this guy, I should have known about this guy as when he talks to me he always talks sh!t about other people.

He to my knowledge is not homosexual, but am I just taking this the wrong way. The letter was like a research paper of how much he values me, and what real friendship is, and of course a big bouquet of roses. Is this just how he expresses himself??

i honestly don't have any friends and im 14 but, like im fine with it??? it's just the one best friend i only have and the one internet friend who im now dating, they always make fun of me for it? im kind of the weird kid in my school i never fitted in and tbh im okay with that, the place where i live is very closed off and not very open minded so im used to it but should i start caring? i know a lot of adults who always talk about making their closest friends in my grade and how it's good to have friends to be there for you and etc etc all that gross stuff but like i just want to be alone, not that i mind having someone'a company, it's just i feel really bad now that i have that mindset and ever since then idk if i sould rethink all of this hhh-

This happened last year, but I still am still confused on my this may have happened. I had this friend, let's call her H, I also had a friend M and A. We were all amazing friends, we were inseparable. But, all of a sudden H started getting salty and rude, she would make remarks often and stuff like that. Me, M, and A were upset and confused about this. We confronted H and told her that if she was still that salty that we would have to stop being her friend, she replied with the same salt. We ditched her... Until A forgave her, so me and M did too, this happened FOUR times, but one of the times, I could understand why H was mad at us, especially me. I told her about my grandma who died of cancer, and she said there could be worse things, it was true, but I was just so offended that I walked off, later i told M and A, but M heard wrong. But she told a couple of people that H said that she didn't care, I knew that M said that, but I was too mad to fix it until M told the teacher about it when she talked to us about H being sad and without any friends. H, A, and M were mad at me for not correcting them, but they understood besides H. But at the end of the year she asked for forgivness, I forgave her but told her it would be better if we still weren't friends because this would happen over and over again. If anyone has had the same situation, is there any reason why this has happened?

I feel like I'm being driven crazy. I feel this burning desire to go to out and have fun on weekends, but I end up staying home all weekend all the time. Because the 2 or so friends I have that actually talk to me are always too busy with work, school, and both. I feel bored, and lonely constantly. I live in Los Angeles County where there's so much to do, and this is sad to me. I have so much on my mind, and I don't necessarily want to pour my thoughts out to new people, but I want more company, someone to just enjoy outings with me and help take my mind off stress and worries. I'm also a student in my 20's. I'm constantly checking Meetup.com, I know basically all the active groups and new ones emerging too. Nothing interesting going on currently. I've tried Bumble Bff, but I personally don't want to do that anymore because of personal reasons. I don't want to bother on apps where there's only strange, uncomfortable guys looking for girls. There's a couple of clubs I'm involved in with my school, but meetings and events are still in the process and are happening pretty slow still. Also I have too much bad experiences with ghosters, and flaky, or judgmental people so I'd like to eliminate the chances of finding those as much as possible. If possible, could you suggest more immediate ways to find people to hang out with, such as apps/sites with organized events, rather than ones where there's no immediate implication for meeting up, and as result would take lots of time to form friends.

So, my friend is a hand full. So she always talking about me "ditching her" at the swings when I'm only sitting next to my other friend, then in math she said something like " I haven't started these yet... " I knew what she said but I heard her wrong and I said what I heard which was "You haven't started these yet...?" And she said " No! Dummy! " slapped me and walked off with her stuff... But we have had so many fun times together and I have known her since kindergarten, I don't want to leave her but many other things like this have happened and I feel like she is lying to me 24/7, she said "over spring break I'm going to the Bahamas" but then the next day, she says "we decided not to go, it's too expensive" and I felt like they would have know the cost of the trip, and every year they go back to their home in Japan (or at least she says) and she says stuff like oh I've been to Japan, France, England, Spain, Ect. And also that she has got tickets to Hamilton in NY, but we both are HUGE fans and she wasn't as cheerfully as anyone could be... So what should I do? Should I ditch my friend? I may just be over reacting though. This is also the same friend as my last question.

I hungout with this guy and it was cold outside. I told him I was cold and he put his arm around me.

Back during my days of middle school and high school I longed to have friends. The first friend I made said he d stay my friend if I did him a favor....my virginity is gone now but we re no longer friends. He used me then threw me away....Now whenever I think about it I feel angry and I ll. What s happening to me?