We have had custody papers for 4 months now. We came to an agreement outside of court when it all began. He has graduated visitation and as of right now he's sitting at every other Saturday and Sunday with every Wednesday overnight. He has only taken advantage of the Wednesday's once. He's now wanting to change our custody papers to have more time. I don't feel it's best because he doesn't even utilize the time he has now. He has changed jobs twice already and is now saying he will be changing jobs again. His jobs are sometimes part of the reason he doesn't see his child. He also got spontaneously married and with him being at work I know his new wife will be the watching our son. I feel that if his wife will be primarily watching him, what is the point of having more time and I don't see that being good for our child if I myself have the actual time to spend with him as a parent. Does he really have a good case at getting more time?

Every weekend males picks up daughter from female's house and finds that child is dirty and the house is always messy. Do you think the male should take full custody of child?

Everytime my husband and I fight, I honestly believe he blames it on me or backfires my words. Then I question if he's right. I've tried to not fight now, but he seems to drag the fights out. I tell him to drop it over and over but he doesn't. I've talked to him about how he never drops the fights and he says he'll work on it, but there's no improvement. We fight over the most ignorant things (more like he fights and I listen). For example today is our anniversary and he didn't get me anything. I had mentioned something about it and BAM a fight started. I told him to drop it and he follows me to the other room continuing with the one sided fight. I cried. He left to go get me something even though I said that's not the point and now he's making me feel guilty. He bought a sword online just a couple of days ago so I thought maybe he'd at least get me a little something for a couple of bucks. Instead he said some clothes I got myself the other day was my present. I was unaware. But like I said, I wasn't trying to fight with him. He done the SAME thing at Valentine's and at Christmas not getting me anything. I don't know I'm not materialistic but he always talks about how I am but he buys swords and statues. In general he points the finger at me. I told him I wanted marriage counseling but we haven't done it yet. It's just funny because he's always the one yelling and adding on to the fight, yet in the one always crying and telling him to drop it. I don't know...

big as in 5 kids.

My fiance finally convinced me to confess a former crush on my MARRIED guy friend. He's forever been referring to my friend as my "boyfriend" and all this other stuff. Today, he mentioned that I "MUST" bring him (my fiance) up to my friend. I said "he doesn't ask, I don't tell" and then I brought up how my friend hasn't even acknowledged our engagement yet, despite me sending he and his wife a wedding invite on FB (his wife HAS acknowledged it and has congratulated me). My fiance was like "that sounds like a red flag if he hasn't asked about me or acknowledged our engagement." He seems to think there is something going on between my friend and I. He trusts me, but maybe doesn't trust my friend? We all go to the same church and I know for a fact that my friend has morals. Could it be true that these could be "red flags"? I know my friend is attracted to me, but I don't think it goes further than that. He definitely doesn't want out of the engagement. If we could get married tomorrow, he would in a heartbeat. I don't even know you "charles", so how could I have blocked you? Lmao. P.S. I said my friend is my FORMER crush, meaning I no longer have feelings for him. That was almost 3 years ago. My fiance is definitely going to marry me, by the way. We love each other, we've already put a deposit on the chapel and reception site and booked our pastor as wedding officiant.

I recently got married after dating for one year. Quick-I know. And no one knows about the marriage. He used to be the sweetest to me, always writing love letters. But 1.5 weeks ago, after one month of marriage, he snapped on me called me immature (we have a 5 year age difference, he s 30 I m 25) and told me he no longer wants me to move in with him next month. Says that I don t know how to solve life problems well and he thinks i will freak out when he gets deployed. My family is wealthy and has helped me with my finances while i am getting my phd, which he resents. Started acting very mean to me--out of nowhere. He has started withholding sex and affection from me and says that i have pushed him to be this way. With the sex, he says it s more of that he just is not mentally ready. At first he says that he doesn t think we can get past this but now he is saying that we can. He did confide in me that he is depressed, but when i confronted him about how he has been treating me he says that he sees nothing wrong with it. I am not kidding when I say that he has done a complete 180. He would always joke about being a sociopath and I am starting to wonder if he is. I don t know what to do, but I am feeling very emotionally confused and hurt because i did not see any of this coming. Update: He actually was the one who pushed getting married so hard.

Lol...i think he said he has grandkids today. Sheesh. I thought he might be single and never married. Why might i be attracted to a granddad?

My wife can't hold down a job for more then a few months. She insisted on going back to college and completing her bachelors degree. She's very smart she graduated with almost a 4.0 GPA. She can't hold a job though. In the past year she has had 3 jobs 2 of which she got fired from. The year prior to that she also had 3 jobs and again got fired from 2. This year she's already had 1 job in which she quit. I make decent money but I feel it's not fair that I have to support our entire family. I'm strongly considering a divorce. I don't think I can be with a women who can't hold down a job. Is this grounds for divorce? We've been married since 2012 and she has not held a single full time job for longer then 3 months since we've been married!

Doesn't that imply you lose your individuality/free will? What does marriage really entail? I'm not talking about a faith based stand point. The term is used in legal too.

17 years ago I broke up with my longterm girlfriend and met a woman online. 15 years ago I moved 2000 miles away and married the woman I met online. We have a child together and have a good stable marriage. However, nothing that has happened to me in the last 15 years feels quite 'real' to me. My life back home with my ex and my old friends still feels like my 'real' life. All my life now and the people in it feel like an illusion. What should I do?

What option does the couple have? The will feels uncomfortable to speak about such past acts to her husband while the husband too feels humiliated to talk on such topic as he was not used to such promiscous lifestyle. What what are their roles on solving it?

Honestly I feel like my husband just wants to keep me down. I'm in the market for a newer car since the last one I bought was a POS. I knew it at the time but still bought it anyway against his wishes. It was a 2003 Mazda Tribute and I financed it for $11k. My husband said I could have bought it outright for $2000. Anyway it was/is riddled with problems and I'm trying to get rid of it before May when it has to be inspected again. I don't want to put the money into it to get it to pass. Well, I went back to the car lot I got it from because the guy said he felt bad about selling me that car. I am now test driving a 2009 Nissan Murano and when I told my husband the financials he nearly hit the roof again. The deal they are giving me is $330 a month for 52 months. He calculated that at a little more than $17K. Again, he's not happy with that deal. I like this car because it has low miles and is fully loaded but he said that I can get the same car for less than $7000. Does he just not want me to have a newer car? Now he's saying that if I get this car don't ask him to do anything for it since I again won't listen to him. A few weeks ago my husband my husband bought a 2008 Lincoln Navigator and he only paid $10K for it and it only had 123K miles on it. He feels he knows what he's doing but I just think he doesn't want me to buy a newer car.

After our second kid she has gained a noticeable amount of weight even more than after our first it's getting to the point where I find myself avoiding sex. I'm starting to run out of excuses the last thing I want to do is hurt her feelings. what is it that I can do that will help her get back to the way she was before she had our two kids.

My mother has been doing this my entire life and I'm ready to explode! Everything I do she has to ensure it's correct. Example I could tell her we use "XYZ" baby formula on our son and she will then proceed to ask my husband if it's the correct baby formula. We were planning to go to lunch and I told her the place closed at 2. She had to go online to confirm the place did indeed close at 2. I also proceeded to tell her the food was very expensive. She then had to check online the menu prices to confirm I was correct. Every thing I do she has to double and triple check up on. Just this morning she felt the need while I was IN THE SHOWER to call our pharmacist and reorder medication for my youngest son. She then insisted she needed the phone number of our doctor RIGHT AWAY even though I was IN THE SHOWER. I got out of the shower and went off on her telling her to hang up the phone and I THE MOTHER would order my sons medication when I was done with my shower. She said she was doing it because she wanted to make certain the medication got ordered. She's not even allowed legally to order his medication. It's becoming too much. It's like she doesn't think I'm capable of doing anything on my own at all. It actually starts to make me wonder if I'm an incompetent person or if something is wrong with me that my mother needs to reference every little thing I do and decision I make. How do I handle all of this?