So basically me and my best friend are close but she has no filter or heart. She doesn't care about what she says or if will hurt someone she thinks she being funny but it really hurts. She also pretends like she's better than EVERYONE not just me. I know I'm pretty well set and so is everyone else but she shoves it in your face that she's getting this or getting that and it's really obnoxious to be around. She also is really judging and pointed out a poorer person at my school saying why are they here (my school is a very exspensive boarding school) if they live in a place like that. I shot that right down saying why does it matter and I was think wow I'm sorry not everyone is living in a nice house. She also makes jokes that she thinks are funny but they really hurt and bother me and other people. But if you go to her she'd be like geez it was just a joke. She judges what people wear and it bothers me backseat that's not really who I am. I don't want to lose my best friend but I feel so trapped because I feel like she make a big deal out of me saying something about how I felt or even spread something. Am I wrong???.

I go to the gym every day. It s less than one block (i.e., less than 2 minutes by foot) from my front door. I don t wear a jacket because the hassle of dealing with one outweighs being cold for 2 minutes, and when I come back from the gym, I m all sweaty and don t need a jacket. Every. Single. Day. another guy there comes up to me and says, "You aren t wearing a jacket today?", "You must be really brave in the cold", "No jacket?", etc. Today I passed that guy in the street, when I was walking to work. He came up to me, just like he does at the gym, and says, "You don t have enough clothes on!" I generally like people at the gym, and I say things to them like, "How was your weekend?", "How was your workout?" and the like. That seems normal to me. But coming up to me, on the street and at the gym, and saying (not even hello, but) "You don t have enough clothes on!" seems creepy and bullying. Since when does a guy comment on another guy s appearance like that? So: Is this guy just being friendly, but he just lacks self-awareness? Or is this guy a bully/jerk? I think the latter, but I want to give people the benefit of the doubt. Thanks.

I was bullied all throughout school and fast forward a couple plus years after high school,the jackasses were "apologizing" to me but I told them off and now I'm the bad guy. Should I have given them the benefit of the doubt even when I saw them pointing and smiling at me?

I just turned 17 and my best friend's brother turned 14. I know it is a huge age difference. But he definitely looks older than 15 and is taller than me. He is very secure and when I hang at their house he always talks to me and jokes with me. He us a really nice person. I still don't know whether I should tell him about this crush because it would be weird and might risk the friendship with my best friend. What should I do?

I have something that I want to go to next Thursday and I'm not sure when I should ask. I don't want to come off as weird.

I hung out with this and he hasn't had a phone in three years. I saw where he made a Facebook post asking if anyone has a phone that he could buy or have. I asked him if I could send him money to buy a phone. He told him he didn't want me spending money on him. So I told him I would just buy a phone and give it to him instead. At first he didn't want to take it but I told him it was just a one time thing.

When I was younger I was bullied to the point of becoming a complete outcast not having any friends all of Elementry Kindergarten - 5th, I became severely depressed as a result but I quickly realized by 6th grade that I could not stay like this thus the death and rebirth of my personality begun and from 6th - 8th I became a completely different person that now had lots of friends and I can make people laugh a lot even though I don't understand what's funny about the things I talk about, but my parents are worried about me because I really dislike hanging out with my friends after school, Ever since I started making friends in 6th grade I made my self hang out with them after school and continued to do this until freshman year high school. I always though that because I was so anti social as a child I would just need to keep hanging out with people and eventually I would grow to enjoy it but ever since I began hanging out After we were done and it was time to go home I would feel so relieved to stop hanging out with friends, not to mension the unusuall amount on anticipitory anxiety that went along with such activtes. I would still make my friends laugh a lot and act like I completely enjoyed their presence while we were hanging out but I have never really enjoyed hanging out with my friends. I have hung out with a multitude of people yet it doesn't seem to change, I always feel drained and wanting to lock my self away and drown in lectures by professors on youtube. I won't mind being asked further questions in the hope to understand my actions better.

I'm friends w/ someone who shares passion for films. He's insistent on hanging outside of school for a collab. I'm the type who enjoys my weekends/free time alone. Knowing that, he's still insistent; blowing up my phone, asking me at school, putting me in random group chats w/out permission. Telling him I have homework or mom says it's school night, he finds ways to convince me (hasn't worked.) We hanged out once b/c we was walking to my apartment and he lived far away. Had no choice to invite him w/out making me look bad. He stayed nearly 9 hrs. Plus, mom sees him as bad influence. He texted me 2am asking if I'll attend his "house party" l8r that day. He talks about creating a company with me and doing a collab that involves him coming over or invitng me to his place almost everyday. I'm getting real tired trying to come up with some excuse as to why I can't hang out, and he still hasn't figured out this pattern for nearly three weeks straight! The only way I could really avoid him is to not respond to his texts and calls and don't go to my usual hangout spots at school. At least he's graduating this year, I'm a junior so I'll get one year where I won't have to deal with this. But for the meantime, how can I get someone to stop asking me to hang out without making myself look bad? Or how do I simply avoid a person whose always wanting to hang out with me and blowing up my phone?

I have two sisters who are twins, I won't say their age but they think the world revolves around them. Growing up and even now sometimes, our dad spoiles them (which is an awful thing to do.) when it's their bday...you must stop everything your doing and devote your time for 24hrs to them. They got upset cuz one of their friends was excited about her own bday in May at their bday party and the twins said "I can't enjoy my bday." Like maybe I'm overthinking it but they always want attention, my mood changes when they come around. I instantly start feeling depressed..like it's hard to explain. Their close friend text them saying she was going to commit suicide and they laughed it off. Like am I crazy or do they need help? Like I know twins are inseparable and sometimes that's not good, their going to end up doing real harm one day... they remind of the movie "Mean Girls" with Lindsey Lohan...that's EXACTLY how they act.

My best friend for over 2 years asked me for nudes again. I don't find anything weird or bad about it. It's just something people do and no one thinks that much of it. But I was really debating sending them so i asked my best friend (a girl) what i should do. My guy friend then called me a snake saying i went telling everyone he asked when i was the one who said not to tell anyone and he's so mad me. I've apologized so many times as best i can. I know my friend would never had said anything so I still don't know how he found out. How can I make him talk to me again???

We play games online every night, and talk to eatchother on mics. Anyway, his parents have to dogs that bark a lot, and I made a joke a couple times about it, and now every time they bark he asks, "did you hear my parents dogs?" Or "dis you hear something?" One time I was fed up with him asking so i asked him why he always asks me that. He said sorry, I know it's a wierd thing to ask, but than he keeps asking it. Also, an alarm goes off very night at a certain time while we are playing, and the first time it went off I jokingly said I was sick of that alarm sound because I used the same one for years. But now everytime it goes off he asks "did you hear that?" He asked me that last night, so I said yes, I heard it, and he was just like "oh..." not sure if he was trying to make a joke of it or what. He has aspergers, but I have autism, and I never ask strange questions like that.

Last week I asked my brother to go bowling. He said we could go after I was off work but only wanted to bowl two games. I was ok with that. However, he ends up inviting his friend, starts bowling without me, and ends up bowling a total of 3 games because his friend wanted to bowl more. I don't know if I'm overthinking the whole sotustion but I asked him to go bowling recently and he automatically invited his friend again. I told him why couldn't we just bowl and him not invite his friend and he just said "it's not a big deal if he comes". Any input is appreciated

I've had this friend and I've known her for a few years. For the sake of the details, I will refer to her as Carmen. Now, you see, Carmen is in fact a ginger and growing up where I did, you didn't see people like that, making it hard for me to understand the concept of gingers. Now, it was when I met her that she openly spoke about being 'strawberry blonde', even going as far to stretch her dislike to the ginger community. I would have just ignored this but I feel like it is her right to know her true religion of people. Any advice on this?

I lost\losing a close friends because we got into a situation and we not being friends anymore. I feel some type of way like hurt and guilt. Any advice? We in the same class.

I hung out with this and he hasn't had a phone in three years. I saw where he made a Facebook post asking if anyone has a phone that he could buy or have. He's asked about others things as well even a car. He didn't spend much on the car either maybe less than $1000. He said he works two jobs so it doesn't make sense that he doesn't have a phone. I asked him if I could send him money to buy a phone. He told him he didn't want me spending money on him. So I told him I would just buy a phone and give it to him instead. At first he didn't want to take it but I told him it was just a one time thing.

Recently I went out with this guy we are friends. We went out to eat to the movies and we had sex. He doesn't have a phone sometimes I see where he makes facebook posts asking about if people has things he can have or buy. He does work two jobs though. I know I don't owe him anything but I think he should at least have a phone. It doesn't seem like he has much I just want to help him out a little. I enjoyed his company and hanging out with him.

I've only ever had a few friends my best friend, her sister, and two others. Lately I've been trying to contact them and every time they ignore me or are just busy. When I go to visit them they just ignore me and anytime I try to start conversation they just brush it off like I never said anything. I don't think I did anything to offend them so what should I do?

I totally understand that. I really do. I've encountered at least a few dozen people I just WOULD NOT be friends with. But what REALLY gets me about this whole thing is why people think their lack of apparent reason for disliking someone, and just finding someone else annoying, justifies bullying and being cruel. Like, I've met someone who is just a straight-up ***** about the fact that she just DOES NOT like this other person I know. Why she thinks her inherent inability to find this person socially appealing justifies being a total nightmare and the reason she won't come to school some days is just beyond me. Me and several of my friends have reported this mistreatment on a number of occasions, but nothing is ever done about it! We're actually quite afraid to stand up to the bully, because she's our friend. But so is her victim. What should we do? She's getting very mentally crushed by all this, nothing any of us do are working and she gets madder and madder about it all daily. I'm scared she's going to snap and just straight out assault her one of these days, very, very soon.

How could he get so fat so quickly

You know 7th graders are always spreading rumors about this person having a crush on that person, and that person having a crush on this person. That recently happened to me, and I'm crushing on no one for real. I'm not embarrassed at all and I'm pretty chill about it, I just wanted to talk to the person who spread the rumor so I can ask why he or she talk sh*t about me.

so i was friends with this girl and suddenly she didn't want to be friends anymore and i didn't understand why so i would constantly ask her why she didn't want to be friends with me and then she had her friend (that i have a crush on) text me and tell me that if i left her alone he would be my friend and so i did but now i feel like we're manipulating each other because he'll only be my friend if i don't message her and i'm not messaging her because he told me i'm his friend?

I want to leave a note behind. That's the least I can do. I know my action will hurt a lot of people. It's my fate though to walk this path. I shall miss everyone in the entire universe. Thanks for putting up with me for these 32 years! I know I got on everyone nerves! :P I apologize for all the trouble I caused. So long everyone live long and prosper!

This girl in my grade I reconnected with this year always lies and she walking to class with our mutual friend she demands to walk in the middle and does whatever to do so. The other day in the hallway after school the three of us are just sitting there and she starts the conversation with "I heard some serious tea this week" we ask what it is and she says she can't say. Anyway eventually see says " well a lot of people think you guys are TOXIC. She leaves and my other friend and I are in disbelief. This isn't the first time she's done something like this. We are done

I'm in a state of ambiguity with my friend, I'll call her Lucy. We've been close for years. We walk to school together, we're always over at each other's houses, we have a one-on-one sleepover at least once a week. Which neither of our families mind, if you were wondering. Her parents adore me, and invite me to come along on family vacations. When we've been at the beach together, we always put sunscreen on each other and it's not the only time we've ever given each other massages. We face-time every night, and sometimes Lucy even face-times me from her bath, so once or twice I've glimpsed her boobs, and I don't know if that was an accident or if she just doesn't care. We're very affectionate and cuddle all the time, sharing a bed when she have sleepovers. Sometimes we cuddle in public too, and a lot of people think we're dating. Our parents have joked about us getting married before. As for us, we've talked about it a couple of different times. Neither of us is pushing for more or less than what we have, and Lucy is the kind of person who isn't into labels. Once, we ended up having a long, tender conversation about how we can't imagine our lives without each other, and ended up making out for several hours - but that's the only time we've ever kissed. What are we, exactly? It's never been awkward, we've always felt relaxed with each other, but are we more than friends? We've talked about it, but I still felt confused after. Where is this going?

I told someone close to me "no" that I wouldn't help them anymore for a few reasons. I'm not a doormat to be used, they don't appreciate my help when it's offered or asked, they treat others better who don't help them at all. They got furiously mad at me saying "well i'm sorry that's how you feel." they took no consideration for how I felt whatsoever. What really took the cake was I asked them for 1 favour and they gave me an excuse that's when I told them they no longer have access to my help, loyalty, or respect. Was I too harsh?

The other day I went to a baseball game with someone who I don't talk to much and who I never really considered my friend. He was cool and chill so I thought I'd give it a try. He and his friend were there and everything felt so fun and chill and relaxed. It felt welcoming. My actual friends have hung out with me once for the 4 years I've known them. I've talked to this guy for like a few months. My friends make fun of me and try to exclude me, but he has never said anything wrong and was pretty inclusive. Should I try to hang out with him more and become better friends with him and ditch my old friends who I'm pretty sure hate me?

My fiance is quite insecure. He's insecure about lots of things and I find that difficult sometimes because I love him for who he is and I think he's wonderful. He has admitted to being jealous of my MARRIED male friend. My friend is very successful in his career and although not rich, he is financially comfortable. My friend is also rather fit (not muscular, just fit) while my fiance is a little overweight (he has a "dad bod", but I am okay with it since I'm a little overweight myself). Lately, he's been teasing me hardcore about my friend. He says I blush every time he mentions my friend, that I am "obsessed" with my friend since I apparently bring him up often. Today, we were at church (my friend goes to the same church, he's the one who invited me to the church way before my fiance and I knew each other) and I was looking around and my fiance asked "who are you looking for?" I said "nobody, just looking around" and he's like "it doesn't look like your boyfriend is here today", referring to my friend. It gets to be so annoying. We're in our late 20's, friend is in his late 30's and happily married. Sure, my friend and I have flirted some in the 2 years we've been friends, but nothing crazy. I worry my friendship with my friend is going to affect my relationship with my fiance negatively. What do I do? And this friend is literally the only guy friend my fiance has a problem with. He's fine with everybody else, so why's this guy a big deal when he's MARRIED?! My friend and I barely ever see each other, maybe twice a month and we barely talk anymore. He's become quite distant since I've been with my fiance and even more once we got engaged. He didn't even acknowledge my engagement. The last time we were all around each other, my fiance said later on that I was "flirting" with my friend. I asked my fiance to meet me in the lobby last Sunday as I went to give my friend a birthday/gift card because I knew he'd make a big deal about it later if he was there to witness it. A few days ago, we were at the store and he saw gift cards and asked who the gift card I bought (while we were at the store together previously), was for and I told him and he made a big deal about it. I was like "I got one for ______ (friend's wife) too, so what's your point?" lol Friend is 39. I tell my fiance all the time how much i love him, how he's the only one for me, how I'd never trade him for anybody, etc., but he's still insecure.