My wife "has found out" about this. It wasn't even a secret. It was not a date. It was just coffee. People do this all the time. I want to build friendships at work. This will come very handy in time.

So I ve had this group of supporting friends for almost 6-7 years, gotten me out of a few slumps and I didn t find out until a year ago that my wife can t stand my friends, saying they re annoying and stuff like they make her uncomfortable. my friends consist of 3 boys and 3 girls (none of the girls show any interest in me) and I m not sure what to do, I dont want to leave my wife because she s everything to me, I m just so confused on what to do!!!

I would like to have the full experience in life. Married children business my piece of the pie the American dream husband Love celebrations and all in my life. I'm 54 in fair health the only problem is I smoke. Can anyone give advice?

My husband has bad depression he even told me today he wants to kill himself. When he was younger he even tried to kill himself by cutting luckily they were able to save him. I am a doctor I tried to do therapy with him but he would not tell me what is wrong all he did was cry. I gave him medicine but I am keeping it I do not trust him with it. Is this normal ? How can I comfort him ?

We got married in December 2018 and in the beginning everything was great until about a month ago we started getting into small arguments that led to a really big argument (not over finances or infedelity) and since we live on a military base, security forces were called to our home to investigate the verbal dispute we had. He said his supervisors were notified about the matter and his parents also knew about the argument and told him that "it's best he gets a divorce, be done with the relationship and send me home." Which to that he said he doesn't want to end our relationship, but would like to get divorced while we fix our issues while still living together because "it would be a good look on us and to his supervisors." (his supervsor was a witness to our marriage just a few months ago and he's agreeing with my husband that this is a good idea). He says he plans to get remarried once we solve our issues. But it doesn't make sense to me. Why ask me to move out here and be your wife if you can't handle a rough patch? We've reconciled since the argument but I feel like he's trying to be spiteful by filing this divorce. I try to talk to him about it and he says "I don't want to change my mind about it, there's nothing to talk about" and I'm feeling completely alone and shut out like there's more to this than he's telling me. Opinions?

My wife likes to lay in bed and cuddle all night. Why ?

And if you did, did you go through with the wedding because so much money went into it, and you already sent out invitations to like 150 family members and friends?

I'm getting married in July to the guy I've been with for the last 4 years. I care about him very much and we have a life together, two cats, and we moved about 3 hours away from home from a small town to NYC together to begin this new life. Financially, we are doing well, so the wedding is costing a lot and our families are paying alot into it too. I almost wished we had eloped. All of the invites are out and mostly everything has a deposit put down. I've only romantically been with two guys. The first I was with from age 14 to 19 and i deeply loved him until he moved far away and we couldn't take the long distance. I broke his heart when I met my husband to be 4 years ago. Now, I cant stop thinking about a guy from high school who divorced his wife of one year over a year ago. I've always wanted him, but the timing was never right. Or maybe I dont want him and all the dreams I've had ha e just romanticized the thought of him. I had the initial excitement and thrill with my husband to be and I'm really happy about the life we have started. Since living away from my family I just feel like another world has opened up and that I havent experienced everything I need to, or experienced being by myself ever. Everyone from my town has always gotten married at 23 and had kids right away. Now after living here and meeting different people, I dont even know if I want kids ever. I dont know. Is being this nervous and confused normal? This man loves me more than anything.

I got my wife pregnant again we got a 2 month old daughter is that bad ?

My husband works at the police department they're having training week again they do it about once every other month he's been working there for the past 8 years he doesn't get why he has to keep doing it. They show videos of what people shouldn't do to get arrested like texting and driving or drinking and driving he's not even an officer he's a detective I don't get either why he has to keep doing this but I guess it's for the entire department they're really strict around here. He got upset because they showed him those videos about texting or drinking and driving. He doesn't like seeing those he had to watch those when he was in school he knows not to do it he doesn't get why they keep making him watch those shows. He loves his job but sometimes it's too much for him. He said he's gonna have nightmares tonight. How can I comfort him ?

My husband is a covert narcissist. I have been trying to figure out the origin of how he became a narcissist and I have been looking to his parents for answers. His mom is a very religious person. Her faith in God is so strong that she doesn't seem to care or worry about anything. Once she found a lump in her breast and while we were all scared she was apathetic. Once I called her crying because my husband had a cancer scare. She launched into a talk about faith and how God as looking out for him. I ended up getting the feeling that she was looking down on me for crying like I shouldn't be upset because I should have more "faith". Her personality has always been like this and it makes me wonder if she neglected my husband emotionally making him ashamed of his feelings (even though he claims she didn't). His father on the other hand had a bit of a temper and would sometimes throw objects in a fit of rage (which my husband also does). He would also yell at my husband's mother and say things to upset her (which my husband also does). Lastly not sure if this is relevant but my husband had a sister who died of leukemia. While she was sick his parents obviously poured a lot of attention onto her and I'm wondering if that made my husband feel neglected. During that time he got messed up on drugs and alcohol. He has also been on antidepressants for almost 20 years. His mom claims that depression simply runs in their family. Does this childhood sound like a recipe for narcissism?

I've been married for 5 years now and my husband's friend, (lets call him Charles) Charles, has introduced me to his new girlfriend and I feel strangely attached to her. She's very charismatc and I feel strange just staring into her eyes and lips. What do I do? My husband always insists on us hanging out and when I'm alone with her i get very nervous and a little...wet. She thinks I'm strange sometimes by the way I act :/ :( I feel tempted to kiss her.

I don't get why she's so upset? What am I missing here? What's the big deal?

I haven't spoken to the other girl in two days & haven't seen her in a week should I reach out & tell her that I'm now in a relationship or wait for if/when she contacts me?

I am single but watched my Dad do this and now he has brainwashed his son to be now doing this in his marriage. Why are most couples like this? @Anonymous It is my Dad's fault

He's the second guy I've been with and he's very small. He wants me to be on top sometimes which I don't mind but I can't feel him so it doesn't work. Is there any way to tell him this without hurting him?

When someone's wife throws alot of kisses at you. What does that mean? This woman all of a sudden does it now but before she never did it. I think marriage is b.s. from what I see a woman would run and sleep with another dude when their is some argument or something going on in the marriage. I read something of that matter scientifically explained online. So that would mean real love doesnt exist right?

On Tuesday evening, I had a squirrel sneak into my house. It was running all over. I finally cornered it, and bit me and scratched me a few times. But after feeding it, it has seemed to take a liking to me. Now, I really don't want to have it exterminated, and was thinking of keeping it as a pet. I tried to explain that to my wife, but she is flipping out. I guess last night, she went to check on the baby, and the squirrel was in the crib. Well, she got all upset... Eventhough, the squirrel was just sitting in there in the crib batting around some of the toys, and didn't even harm the baby. I tried to explain that the squirrel probably never had toys, and just wanted to play... So I don't see what the big deal is. But now, I got all these ultimatums, about the squirrel goes, or she goes, blah, blah, blah... Can anybody give me any advice as to help us rectify this so her and the squirrel can coincide together. As I would hate to think that she would put her petty health concerns over my deep desire to have a loving pet! I don't think I could be with that selfish of a person.

She's a drug addict and she doesn't care for me I would like to just have her leave me alone forever

… as well as to HIS family/friends? And keep in mind of the following: 1. They have no children together. 2. It's her house/her mortgage. 3. He's not incapable of working, but instead is incompetent, as she has typed up his résumé and sent him on interviews for jobs which he obviously ended up quitting or getting fired from.

My wife is having sexual relation with my friend So I want to divorce her Whether I have to give compensation for her

I am a full time night shift worker who starts work at 11pm-7am. I have classes 3 days per week in the mornings and come home to help tidy the home, wash up etc before sleeping around 2pm. My father in law lives with us and takes care of my 1 year old son during the day. But by 8pm he is tired and wants to go for his walk. My wife gets up about lunchtime and works from 1pm-10pm. I'm stuck in that I have to forgo sleep by getting up at 8pm every day to care for my son and I realistically need the car by 9:30pm to drive to work. But this will reduce my wife's time in her office. She works real estate and her hours are flexible but she refuses to come home earlier from work. If I try to get ready for work by showering etc. My son will be screaming and crying at being placed in the cot. If my wife walks in on this, she will hit the roof. So I can't even get ready before 10pm. By then, I'm walking in the door at work just before my start time. My colleagues have the expectation that if they start 15 mins earlier, they expect the courtesy of being relieved 15 mins earlier. They often get upset with me and keep asking why I can't leave the home earlier... They don't care about my situation. They just want to get away from work. So I'm wondering what I can do to solve the issue of caring for my son the evening overlap... Thanks for all the helpful answers!! I'm not wanting to give up my studies so I'm going to have to work around everything and get to bed earlier. Sometimes I let everything go and tidy up after a couple of days. For instance, there is a mountain of clean clothes etc on the bedroom floor. I'm not putting it away until the weekend when I'm off work. My main concern is that in my job, people's lives are at stake. I am in control of the main communications link for a major hospital taking all incoming and outgoing calls and emergencies. I do this alone overnight so need to be alert. It does get quiet enough to read or do a little study but most of the time is spent writing the day and after hours roster that is posted up for all departments, doctors etc to follow.

I'm recently divorced with full custody of my kids who are 4 and 2. My oldest should be starting school in the Fall. I moved to the city I live in now when I was married to my husband, so we could be closer to his family. Now the kid's grandma on their dad's side is very active in their lives and their dad has liberal visitation with him. I'm wanting to move 2.5 hours away to a city that's fairly new to me, although I do have a couple of close friends living there. There are some good educational opportunities there that I would like to pursue and would like to make a new life there with my kids. I think they could flourish there because I would have more time to spend with them as I focused more on school, and there are good schools there for them too. My family is against it because it's farther away from them, and my ex husband's family is against it too. I would still make sure the kids got to see their dad every other weekend and could stay with him through all of their school breaks, so I feel that his visitation with them would still be pretty liberal. I'm just not sure what to do on the matter and I'm worried it will affect my kids negatively. I want to do what's best for them, and I'm not sure if moving would hurt them if they still got to see their Dad's family a lot. But I realize that a move after a divorce could negatively affect them. Any advice?

I m in a complicated situation and could use some advice. I am 28, my fiance is 22. We have been together coming on three years, engaged for a year and a half. We have been living together for close to 2 of the 3 years. When we got engaged a year and a half ago we were on the same page, we both wanted to get married a year into our engagement. I am getting close to wanting to put a deposit down on a house, and that is the relationship and page we were on together. 6 months into the engagement my fiance says she is not actually ready to get married - asks me to postpone the wedding, after much conversation - we do. She says she is scared because her parents got divorced. So we wait. One year later, we sit down to have a conversation about when we will get married. She said she can t tell me if it will be in one year, two years or five years (making it a 7 year engagement). My life goals are to have a house and wife in the next few years, kids soon after. I am also on a work visa. I could get a green card through work, but the fact that she is so afraid of marriage to me that potential of me leaving is on the table - is a big deal to me. To those who mention the age thing, half of her friends are engaged and planning a wedding, my ex wanted to get married at that age, I disagree that it is an 'age' thing - more of a personal life philosophy thing. Immigration status plays no role in the thought process, again I can easily get everything sorted through my employer or parents (citizens). I have NOT pressured her at all, I agree that getting married when she is not ready is the worst of all outcomes. It's whether I wait or leave.

I'm in a complicated situation and could use some advice. I am 28, my fiance is 22. We have been together coming on three years, engaged for a year and a half. We have been living together for close to 2 of the 3 years. When we got engaged a year and a half ago we were on the same page, we both wanted to get married a year into our engagement. I am getting close to wanting to put a deposit down on a house, and that is the relationship and page we were on together. 6 months into the engagement my fiance says she is not actually ready to get married - asks me to postpone the wedding. Her parents also got involved and ask that she graduate first, and then it's all good. After much conversation - we wait. She says she is 'scared' because her parents got divorced. So we wait. One year later, we sit down to have a conversation about when we will get married. She has graduated, but she said she still can't tell me if it will be in one year, two years or five years (making it a 7 year engagement). My life goals are to have a house and wife in the next few years, kids soon after. I am also on a work visa. I could get a green card through work, but the fact that she is so afraid of marriage to me that potential of me leaving is on the table - is a big deal to me. It sounds to me like she is not sure of me, or not looking for a serious commitment like she said she was. I know she is young, but literally half her friends are making wedding plans. Are we just at different life stages?

So, my wife and I have been married for 10 years... Now, it is expected that our sex life would deminish over the years... However, for the past 6 months, it is been non-existent! So, the other night, I told her that I really wanted to be with her and that she should give it to me more... She said that she didn't feel like it... then I suggested to her that she should, or she may be sorry... So in a mocking laughing response, she was like "yeah, right" So I give her another warning, and another chance to repent, and tell her once again, that it would be easier on her if she were to give in... Again, the same response... So that night, I "finished" all over the back of her work slacks... Well needless to say, it was not the best day at work for her... But the most puzzling thing was that after all of this, she was actually mad at me... I gave her several opportunities to change her tune, if she would have just let me in and out for 3 minutes, I would have finished in her and not on her slacks... I don't get it, am I really wrong here?

I've been with my husband for 5 years. We had a year of separation where we were so close to divorce because of him constantly lying and hiding secret relationships with other women. Well In that year I had opportunities to start my life over, and begin to find myself. Then my husband came back begged that he would change, not cheat, and be faithful if I just went back to his hometown with him instead of going back to my home in Cali. A year pass by it wasn't perfect. But nothing happens overnight right. Well I became pregnant and at my 4 month of pregnancy, I found out her was sending nudes and linking up with women while I was at work since I moved to his hometown with him: We fought and it even got physical on my part..I was just so angry..Idk if I'm stupid but I took him back and just 2 months ago I found out he was trying to hook up with women outside our state! Even went to extreme of looking for those places where a man can put his penis in a hole in the wall...I found out, and things escalated and it got physical. I know I'm wrong for hitting him but I wasted years with him to keep ruining my life

I've asked my husband to do some paint projects for some used furniture. Lately, I've started doing the painting myself. As usual, he thinks it should be done another way like he has doubts about my choices. We always get into a discussion on how things should be don, like growing this plant that I personally for myself to grow. There's this beef stew I planned to make which he said we should put it in the instapot to speed my the tenderizing. We get into a discussion on where to park, where to eat, what food to eat. The funny thing is, a lot of this situations, he would have never thought of since I start the ideas, and only when it is in the process does he feel the need to have it the way he thinks it should be done. It is annoying and tiring to always get into these discussions. I also think these activities that he gets argumentative about are more female-oriented. I just feel that as a man, he should see the difference and allow the woman to do her own thing as I do with him. I don't go in the garage to tell him how to fix the car or if even if I knew about stuff like planting I don't meddle in his hobbies or interests. Maybe it's a good idea to go to counseling?