All my life my dad has beaten or yelled at me and as an adult I moved on and ignored him. But I think he won't leave me alone unless I stand up to him. The problem is whenever I think of standing up, I freeze up or think of the pain. How do I man up?

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I live in a house with my brother, and his girlfriend. My brother, and I own the house, and his girlfriend just lives with us. Anyway, this has happened numerous times. The bathroom is right next to my room. My brother, and her like to take showers together, and she always wakes me up. She blows her nose extremely loud. She sings, and giggles real loud. Shes just a loud person I'm general. I cant even hear my brother. I think that's proof she is just loud. This morning I woke of from a dead sleep to. Really loud laugh. I didnt say anything straight away, but waited. She started singing loudly with some laughs thrown in as well. I snapped, and banged on the wall, and said shut up! She said "me nick?" I said " yes you, I cant even hear my brother". It wasnt early. It was almost 11:00 am, but they often sleep in until after 12, and I'm always ad quiet as possible.

Yesterday I finished my night shift rotation. My wife wanted us to go to a restaurant but i was exhausted and opted to sleep instead. I asked her to package some food. When I got up at about 8pm I tried to call her asking about the food as there was none in the home. She responded no and said she was busy and blocked me off social media and her phone number. I was trying to call her to ask her to return our car so I could at least go shopping and buy food. She ended walking in at 11pm. Her father lives with us and he later explained it was a buffet and they couldn't get takeaway a d that the food was bad anyway. I think he was trying to make me feel better. I was angry and hurt that after all the years that I went out of my way to bring her food, she couldn't go out of her way for me. She mentioned something about not wanting to spend her money on me and proceeded to tell our 1 year old son "see that man, he is a complaining man and don't be like him"... I feel like I'm not even accepted by my own family. Some coworkers don't like me either. I don't always complain at all. I usually look after myself and make sure I have food. Tonight I'm asking myself what is the point of me being alive if no one likes me? Only my parents really care about me. It seems like a lot of people would rather not have me around.

So... I'm aware this is very odd. But for some reason, i get a euphoric feeling in my spine/skull when i hear my ex mother in laws voice. I have not talked to her in years but when i was dating her son, we lived with her and she was like another mother to me. She took me in without question and was very nice to me always, which was and still is very unusual for the mothers of men I've been with. Or hell.... anybody lol it cant be related to her son. He was a very vicious person who i hated and have no feelings for what so ever now. I am engaged to a man i love very much but his mother is a total B****. Anyhow.... i still have this voicemail from my ex mother in law and when I'm feeling like i need to try to relax, i listen to it. It's really very weird. Not my own mother or anyone i still talk to so... idk?? Nothing is going through my head per say when i do that. I just like that relaxing, tingley feeling i get when i listen to the voicemail. Would anyone like to have a go at explaining why this MIGHT be? Is there a scientific reason? Lol

When I was 14 years old I did some things as a child I DEFINITELY wouldn't do now. I inappropriately touched my younger brother when I was 14 and he was 9. It a was a couple times and I would rub myself against him, and dry hump him. My mom caught me once or twice and beat the **** out of me for it, I haven't done it again.10 years later im 24 now fully aware and understand everything, and have a wonderful girlfriend now. My mother randomly calls me to tell me that my younger brother was feeling a type of way on how I treated him when I was 14 and when he was 9. I had thought we moved on from that since I was young, and my mom and father beat me for what I did. My brother now is upset because he never understood why I did what I did. I was just a curious kid, even though I was 14 I still didn't have much understanding of what I was doing. I didn't have many friends, couldn't talk to girls and was pretty much a loner. I just knew in my head I wanted to experiment. My mom hates me now for something that happened 10 years ago and my brother wont talk to me and hates me. It was never like this til she recently called me to tell me how it effected my brother. I now have anxiety from thinking about what I did, and I cant get intimate with my girlfriend of 2 years. I feel like the only way itll be okay is if I kill myself, I know therapy wont work for me as im embarrassed to talk about what happened. Please help and please try not to judge me, im not how I was anymore.

My sister is 19 years old and I am 16 years old. Dad and stepmom can't stand her boyfriend I think he is 20 anyway He is rude and lazy. My sister asked me them to let me sleep in the living room so her and boyfriend can share our room, got mad at them and cussed them for not respecting her future husband.They took my sister phone and car keys because last weekend she came drunk. My sister gave my phone number to her boyfriend now he calling and texting me wanting to talk to my sister. It made me mad so I blocked him from calling my phone. Last night her boyfriend came to the house all mad because I answer my phone and because our folks won't let him live with us.

she will just go hungry if she cant vote this upcoming election. its so important because so many people died for us to be able to vote

So I was getting ready for work , and I didnt have any matching at the moment and I was in a rush. My.mom noticed and yelled at me, and made a huge deal saying I cant wear unmatched socks ..I am over 18 , I was so upset I just left.the house ,.almost crying...

There Dad is mean also and he is the uncle by marriage. He is mean to his wife.

I was seven. I likely would have discovered in the following year or two anyway. However, ever since he told me I have just hated him. Any accomplishment of his I frown upon. Any failing of his like his wife leaving him last year I laugh about. If he got cancer tomorrow I would smile big and if he won the lottery tomorrow I would hate him all the deeper. Ever since Christmas of 1994 when he showed me Mom and Dad laying out the gifts that Santa was "supposedly" going to bring I have hated him. It is a true hatred where just the site of seeing him makes me sick. The site of having to go to his wedding made me want to vomit whereas hearing his wife was walking out for another man made me want to hug and thank the wife and buy a house for her and her "other man" even though I know adultery is wrong. So how do I let go of my pure and solid hatred of this human being for ruining Santa for me. I am 31 by the way and my brother is 42. He is the oldest and I am the youngest of 4 kids.

She's always bullied me ever since we were kids. She's so mean to me. I haven't done anything to her. She's schizophrenic, but even before she was diagnosed she was mean to me.

I wish I could make this short and simple and to the point but I cant. I'm 23 years old going on 24 in a few months. I'm a single mother of a 2 year old, and I'm homeless living in my brothers home. I've had a really hard life. When I was 5 I was molested by family and the molestation didn't end until I was in high school. My parents and family didn't do anything about the molestation I kind of became the outcast of the family and until this day those events that happened to me traumatize me. I was forced to perform oral and other activities and the ones that done those things to me are still around and everyone acts as if nothing happened and it traumatize me even more. Having a son is hard because I'm so afraid to let him go out of my sight because of the things that had happened to me in my past, and I feel as if I'm hindering him because I won't let him go to daycare, be around family and I'm afraid to have anyone in my family watch him because of what they let happen to me. The father is not around he's a deadbeat living life with another woman and her kids. I don't get along with my mother and recently we just had a big blow up and I been moving from place to ace since I've been 16. Ive been beaten on by my mother and father all my life and I just feel so hopeless and I just don't know what to do. I don't have a car and no job and I don't know if I'm going to make it in life. I feel like a horrible mom and I just can't seem to ever be enough for anyone.

I was molested by my grandma's husband when I was a 4 and it continued until I was 7. 14 years later I finally tell my parents and they tell me that it's too late to do anything and that it's my fault that nothing can be done because it's been so long. My 2 other sisters also come forward and tell them that my grandma's husband also touched them. They tell my grandmother and she tells them that it might be true because we did spend the night sometimes. Now my grandma is ignoring us and is still with her husband and we still have to see the man who molested constantly. My dad told me to be strong and nothing could've made me more upset. I kept this a secret for 14 years, I smiled in everyone's face and acted like nothing was wrong and when I finally told I felt like a weight was lifted off me. I had nothing to hide and now they're telling me to be strong. I don't want to be strong. I don't even think I can be. I'm so hurt I shouldn't have said anything. Before they didn't know that I was being molested so I understand why they'd think everything was fine but now they know and they still act like everything is fine. I don't know what to do I feel like my parents aren't on my side.

I have a cousin that is just a ***** and I am 2 years older than her and she has always been really controlling and copying me with some stuff and trying to seem better than me. I am currently at my uncle and aunts house and she has crashed my weekend. she constantly is seeking attention from them. I am their favourite which they have told me. I have an older brother but she is an only child and when she is with me she is constantly trying to seek attention even from my older brother but she is here on my weekend away and I am going out fishing tomorrow. she is putting me down, and in the past she tries to find any excuse to get me in trouble even sobbing me on insta gram for being with my friends before or after school even though my parents know. she is trying to make me left out an is insulting me for being not organised and having a messy bedroom( even though I don t and I am very organised) she just is ruining my life. my aunt and uncle want me to keep the peace as they don t want to hear fighting and my grandma is up here but my parents say I need to stand up for myself( I have but I got in trouble) and I am currently missing out on being with the only uncle that likes me( we have 2 others, and she has 3 others on her dads side) and I am doing my homework because I m afraid ill get angry. I am also afraid that tomorrow ill get angry and throw her off the boat or ill jump off the boat. please help

The father is 59 years old.

Like in western culture the oldest seems to get most of the inheritance, and parents put more effort into the oldest child so they end up smarter and more successful. Its okay for the younger kids to get Bs but if the oldest brings home any less than an A, its not good enough.

I wanna start off by saying that I am pretty well off. I have everything I need and most of what I could want. My dad does everything for our family and I feel bad for it. My dad likes to complain about how we never do anything for the family. My parents are super strict and never let me do anything most kids can do. I am 17 and basically an adult yet they barely have any more trust in me than they did a few years ago. I think I am depressed (I haven t gotten counseling yet) and my parents refuse to acknowledge that possibility. My parents went through my messenger and found out my boyfriend is depressed and *was* suicidal. They proceeded to compare him to Jefferey Dahmer, say he was a threat to me and my family, and say he has no regard for life. They made me break up with him even though he is the only thing in life motivating me to do anything. If I get less than a B I am ridiculed because they "know I can do better". My mom won t even let me take a study hall because she says I could be using that time to learn a new language instead of wasting it. My dad tries to support me most of the time against my mom but he gets heated sometimes too. He is very conservative and if he ever found out that I am not straight or don t believe in God I m afraid he might disown me. He thinks suicide is super selfish and that depression is ridiculous and that anyone that has it might as well be a criminal. I never feel like I can go to my parents for anything and they make me feel trapped.

Growing up I was banned by my Mom from seeing her family if her father was present as he was alcoholic. For 7 years we did not see them if he was there which meant no holidays or celebrations with them. I feel now as an adult that I failed her side of the family. I feel I am a failure of a person. I feel this deepest at Christmas time each year. I feel when they see me I am defined by my disloyalty to my grandfather growing up and even though I am 42 I feel I have failed the extended family. I was just following my mother's rule but I feel I am defined by others as a disloyal member of the family even though I am hyper-loyal now. Please advise, how do I make up to my Mom's family for the wrong I did from 1988 to 1995 by being my Mom's son?

I know that no one on here knows her but she is blunt, belittles, bullies, demands her way, and is a narcissist. However, she has not been violent since age 15 and is now 26. So should I be afraid of her or would someone like this have outgrown their violence 11 years later? Mia: Not going to do that but it sounds beautiful.

He was not supportive of what my brother is going through and instead put his feelings on it though sympathetic in his wording.

My 55 yr old dad is having a baby with a woman named Rita, who is 27 and they work at the same company....workplace romance. My friend thinks she's pretty good looking and said I should be happy for my dad for knocking one through the goal posts of a young, good looking woman. Do you agree? I mean the age difference seems way too big. He had some health issues, which he takes pills for(high blood pressure, high cholesterol, passed kidney stones, gallstones removed, diabetes) the last couple of years, so I figured he was done having kids and looking forward to retirement at 60 like he said he was going to do.

I need some advice. Idk where to start but my mother and I are not close what's so ever. My sister who has a baby decided to leave and I feel abandoned leaving me alone with my mother. My mom treated my sister pretty bad and I understand my sister needed to go. I want to leave too but I feel like I need to stay. My mom is going to bankruptcy and she is financially strained but the bankruptcy should be over in a few months. My mom complains to me about my sister the bills and I don't want to hear it. I given her almost 5000 dollars that I had saved so she can pay the house mortgage because she fell behind and I promised I'd help till the bankruptcy is over then I leave. But now I cant take it anymore my heart is hurting but I feel like I need to walk away from my mom. I'm afraid that she might lose the house if I leave so idk what to do. It's affecting every aspect and I can't stay out late without her calling me over and over. She can't even buy milk for herself she ask me to go get it and I tell her no. I've become distant and angry with my mother. It's to the point that I cringe when she calls me. I'm so tired of the fighting between my sister and my mom tired of the complaining from my mom but I'd feel horrible if I left her in a hole like that. I'm 27 I'm the oldest son no father please give me advice if leaving is the best option for me.