Recently one of my Filipino friends posted a very cute picture on Instagram of her and her outfit. Someone comments "ew, you look Asian as ****". I want a good comeback because she deserves to be defended and is a beautiful person

Alright, so... Basically I'm a 16 year old girl, and for the past week I've been kind of sad over these two friends (they were guys and twins if that matters) I used to have when I was in second to fourth-ish grade. We didn't go to the same school, but our parents were friends (plus we went to the same after-school program) so we would always hang out. I miss them so much honestly. I don't even know what to do with myself. I have so many amazing memories of hanging out with them, and knowing they probably don't even think about me hurts. I follow them on Instagram and all that, so I know they have a completely new friend group, and are just living their lives, which is great but... Yeah. I can't just message them after over 6 years. Help? We stopped talking because I moved, and I'm back, but we obviously aren't gonna start again suddenly. I also have social anxiety which doesn't help with anything... Advice or something? Sorry for this being long.

so I work at Duty free and I need a excuse to go to Bali for one week with a friend. I need a excuse to tell my parents they are not strict but they would need a valid reason as to why I am going any ideas or suggestion please let me knowww thanks !

I promised myself to never fall or make her fall in love with me, because I want to keep her in my life. I knew her since the first year of the semester, and we been great friend every since. I'm outgoing myself and love meeting new people, while she's the opposite. She's afraid that one day I will distant from her and leave her, yet I promised her, "I will never let that happen." Reflecting on that words, I am being a hypocrite. From her best friend, she secretly told me that night my friend was drunk, and I had to babysit her; she told her best friend that she felt something between us and was going to kiss me. Her best friend then asked me, "would you kissed her if she was going in for it?" I told her, "I wouldn't. She was drunk, and I will never take advantage of her." What do you guys think? What should I do?

I was in the same friend group with this guywho I really enjoyed spending time with, laughing, telling jokes. Our friendship started about a half year ago but we've known each other for a while. But about a few months ago he just started getting really aggressive, started arguments in our friend group's whatsapp group. He just made us all really angry/confused, even sad at times. He always used to hang out with us between lessons and at lunch. But something just... happened. I don't know if it's because there's this new guy in our class who showed up in eighth grade (I'm still in eight grade). Let's call him Derek. Derek is this very mean, rude annoying person who has a really dark sense of humour. So for the past couple of months my friend just basically changed friend groups and didn't even explain why. Nowadays he hangs out with Derek and a couple of other guys. He also makes rude comments sometimes during class. I don't know if he just got annoyed at me and my friends or if he just changed. I just don't know who to talk to... What annoys me most is he didn't even say anything when he started to become distant. Sorry for anyone who read this useless rant.

Housing Debate: If you have one roommate in a 5-bedroom house that travels for work Monday-Thursday, do you think their share of the metered utility bills (gas/electric/water) should be discounted to reflect the fact they spend only 3 out of 7 days of the week at the house? Context: Utilities range from $70- $100 per person per month Option A: Equal Utility Payments from all Roommates Supporting Arguments for Option A: It's an individual's choice to not be home and not utilize the house. It's also impossible to determine an individual's direct share of the utilities so therefore it doesn't make sense to individualize house expenses. How do you make this fair for everyone: When other tenants go on vacation, is it expected that their share of the utility bill would be reduced? By signing a lease in a multitenant household, it should be assumed that you would pay for an equal share of the utilities regardless of days spent at the house. Option B: Person who travels during the week for work pays for 3 out of 7 days of the week worth of utilities to reflect that they are only in town Friday – Sunday Supporting Arguments for Option B: By paying an equal share of the utilities, this person is subsidizing the utility bill for everyone else; should be able to deduct a portion of the utilities based on utilization Please help me end the housing debate by voting A or B! Would love your comments and insight!

My friend is a 17 year old male who is attending high school with us (ill call him josh from now on, but thats not his name. Privacy and whatnot). Before we noticed this, Josh wasn t ever a "normal" guy to be honest, he would stay inside and play games/study/whatever else he does behind closed doors while the other guys would go out and play football or something. He s never been a very outgoing social person, but if someone spoke to him he was never rude, and he always had the BEST advice! He has talked 4 people I know of out of suicide and actually wrestled the gun from one of their hands to stop them. He s an amazing person. About a week ago, after the weekend, we came to school and noticed that he was different. He doesnt smile, but he doesnt frown. He doesnt look happy, he doesnt look sad, he doesnt look... Anything really. He constantly stares blankly straight ahead while walking and doesn t react to anyone unless they touch him to get his attention (though that could be because he constantly has earbuds in). Even after you get his attention, he doesn t sound the same. If he does talk now, he says what he wants in as few words as possible, and may not even look at you while he talks. I ve asked him if everything was okay, and he told me he was fine, but im not sure if thats the case anymore. I dont want to make a huge deal out of something that isnt that big. So, does anyone happen to know what is going on, or have any tips on what to do?

Warning: This may seem like a rant. TL;DR, one of my friends is being a user and toxic, and I'm ignoring her to let her go. She's already getting enough **** as it is, and she's gone through this before. Should I say something to her? So I have this friend. She was a good friend for a while, or so I thought. I realized recently she's always been using me, and been consulting me about "absolute emergencies", and then 9 times out of 10, it was something small that she'd already asked me about. When she isn't using me for her problems, she's getting mad at me for superficial stuff, such as me not asking her a question in the question sticker on her Instagram story, or being in my study while we FaceTime. I could almost forgive all that, if she didn't also give me **** for being friends with somebody she dislikes. We spent a lot of 7th and 8th grade bullying this girl, but mid-late end of 8th grade, I apologized and have since become her friend. Also, three new girls came to the school this year, and I'm friends with two of them, like them all (wouldn't call the third one my actual FRIEND). She hates all of them, and found out I'm friends with one of them, and for it, she's giving me ****. Only trouble is, her mom recently found out she is gay, and is giving her a lot of **** for that. I want to support her (nobody should be treated that way for their sexuality) but I don't want her to think I still want to be friends. Should I say something? If so, what Thanks in advance. Anonymous: I would, but she's already getting screwed over by her family for being gay, and nobody should get treated that way for their sexuality, or any other reason. I want to help her out of that, but I don't want to make it look like I still want to be friends.

During the time I was dating my ex about a year ago she kept shoving it down my throat to drop my co worker who I'm friends with and my boss who I'm good friends with and whom I'm loyal to. And someone I respect. The other part of that is if my ex can't meet any of my friends I can't have friends.

I want to hear your opinion on this issue; I have a boyfriend now. But still friends with that friend I used to be in love with and a small part of me will always have unrequited feelings for him (he rejected me years ago). My question is; is it healthy staying friends with him? He's an amazing friend and we have so many good memories together and I really care about him. I feel dumb throwing away a good friendship. But at the same time, my other friends suggest I stop hanging out with him because I will never move on from him. Should I stay friends with him or no? What would you do?

I've literally known this girl, Angie, since we were about 2 years old. We're 28 now. We grew up 5 houses away from each other until the summer after 5th grade. 3rd-5th grade, we were inseparable. When she moved, she moved about half an hour away. We saw each other every other weekend, talked on the phone and wrote snail-mail letters to each other all throughout middle school. When we got to high school, she was busy with making new friends, AP classes and homework and marching band. We began to drift apart and eventually, when we were 16-17, she told me she didn't see us as friends anymore. I took this extremely hard. The guy she was dating in high school told me personally that she took our friendship break-up hard, too. Fast forward to now: we have only seen each other once in 11 years. The last time was late 2011 and we picked up where we left off, it was so nice. Apparently, she developed depression and it got so bad that she took forever to graduate high school. We've grown up way different, so that may have a good bit to do with it. A while back, we told each other we love and miss each other and would like to get dinner soon, but a few months later, she deleted me off Facebook. On New Years, we exchanged New Year Snapchat messages and told each other we miss each other (pretty sure she was drunk). Never heard from her since. I Snapchatted her recently saying I hope she's doing well. She said she heard I got engaged and she congratulated me. I told her that her and her boyfriend were invited to the wedding, to which she read, but didn't reply to. Also, back in October, my mom passed away. Her mom and brother went to the funeral, but she supposedly had started a new job and had to work that day and couldn't get out of it. The weekend of my birthday lunch in January, she claimed she couldn't make it, that her mom booked college grad pics "a while ago" and so she had other obligations. I feel she is letting me down always and I don't know why. We used to be like sisters. Chia, she does have depression, but so do I. Both my parents have gone to Heaven. Her parents got divorced when were 14, but that's about the saddest thing she's been through, knowingly. I know I can't force people to be my friend, but I can't explain it. It has been very hard to grow up the last 14 years without her. She has best friends and plenty of friends, so why am I so expendable? Pearl, she has no reason to be jealous of me. She's mostly had a good life, minus her parents divorcing. I've had a crappy life, no success. She graduated high school, I didn't. She's been to college, I've never been. She has a career in her field, I haven't pursued my career choice yet. She's doing way better than me in life. Von Skeet, I've tried to see her in person several times over the last 8 years, to no avail. She always seems to have an excuse. The only reason we saw each other back then, was her mom was helping me and my mom out with going to a food pantry and she decided to come along. I have her number, but only because her dad gave it to me and whenever I've tried to contact her through her number, she doesn't answer. I sent her a Snapchat last night and told her she has plenty of time to think about attending the wedding, so I guess we'll just see. Thanks for your answer!

supposing you had a great past with said people a few years back but you dont talk or see each other much anymore. Is it worth trying to stick around these people and is it possible that these friendships can become something great again or is it lost forever

My parents are super strict. They have been my whole life. I'm a college Junior (about to be a senior), 21 years old and I still have a curfew.. I'm on the dean's list, but I don't want to leave college with no crazy/fun memories. My friends invited me to the beach for a long weekend and I lied to my parents and said I needed to go out of town for school.. they would've said no to the beach trip, so I just made this up. It's bothering me that I did this, but has anyone else done anything like this? Or am I completely wrong for this?

I am the only girl in one of my high schools classes (AP Math). It is a very tough class and all the guys in the class offered to help me study and do the problems? I often took them up on the offer. They were VERY HELPFUL. I thought it was appropriate to somehow tell them thank you. I made cookies and took the cookies and Cokes to class and gave them to the guys. I also gave each guy a kiss and said thank you for your help. Much to my surprise some of the girls at school complained about what I did with their boyfriends. Do you think I did something wrong? None of the guys complained? If the guys are OK with it and I am OK with it, what is the problem? If the girls continue to complain, I think I will give the guys something they will enjoy more than a kiss. Guys, any suggestions on what that might me.