Im a 17 year old girl, Im s pretty strong girl. Im a boxer. I have hit guys and girl my age before and im not really scared of anything. My dad have always been really mean to me and hits me for no reason and He cant control himself. A week ago He punched me in the face to the point where I was bleeding. He push me and I though He was gonna kill me. I did nothing wrong. After all of this I cant really sleep. I dont know why but I cant defend my self when it comes to my dad. Why do I become so weak and helpless when IT comes to him. I an so scared of him. A DAd is the man who is the first person a daughter should feel safe around. But I cant look at my dad in a good way anymore. I cry all the time. And I cant sleep at night. I feel so broken in my heart and head. I hate my parentes so much. I do so bad in school and everything because of him. He takes all my confident and energy away. But I still feel like all of this is my fault. I feel so guilty all the time and I hate myself so much. I JUST WANNA DIE what should I do?

im a 32 year old female, and my parents treat me like a baby. they make me wear a diaper and a pacifier at all times, and they bathe me, spoonfeed me, dress me, and make me wear a bib when we eat. my mom also wipes my butt after i use the bathroom, feeds me in public. they also make me sleep in a crib and wear baby pajamas with feet. my bedroom is a nursery, and they make me play in a playpen for at least an hour a day. they make me crawl around, they wont let me walk, and when we go out, they put me in a stroller. at church, they put me in the nursery section, and its so embarrassing. i never received any education beyond 7th grade, and i dont have a job. my parents force me to live with them. when i got my first period, my mom beat me really hard, yelled at me, and told my dad and all my brothers and sisters, and then shaved my head bald and made me crawl around in the streets for 8 hours, wearing nothing but a diaper and a pacifier this has been going on even since i was 12, and a couple weeks ago i asked my parents why they do this to me and not my other siblings, they said that its because my twin brother got ran over by a bus when i was 12. what sucks is that i have 3 younger siblings and an older siblings, and they arent treated like this. theyre married and have jobs. i cant move out or call the police/cps, because i dont have a phone. my parents make me watch half an hour of baby's cartoons on my mom's computer each day, and i just got on this website.

I'm legitimately torn on what to do. On one hand I desperately want to help her children be in a stable location, but on the other I don't want to be an enabler to her way of life. She claims she has an income twice the amount of the borrowed quantity, but where is said income? She's stated in the past that if she wanted to she can easily make money everyday (doesn't make sense, I know), but Im thinking that she thinks this way because she constantly relies on the goodness of people's hearts. Her current car is a donation. I've paid for her impounded car, our father bought her her first home, she constantly couch surfs at friends houses until they are kicked out do to the strain of having so many people with her.These friends that she puts above her family are no longer a part of her life, yet she fills her feed with praises aimed at showcasing her temporary friendships over her family ties because those people are her "true family". Sorry for unloading so much yahoo community, but this chick is putting me between a rock and a hard spot and I need other perspectives. Thanks for reading this!

My older sister is asking me for money to get an apartment for her and her kids. They're currently staying in a hotel until they find a permanent place, but no one will accept her due to her credit. (Or at least she claims it's her credit, I have a sneaking suspicion it has to do with proof of income). I have opened my home to her but she does not like where I live, so she chose the temporary hotel life. Truth be told, based on what I know about her life, I don't think she will be able to pay be back nor do I think the money is going towards the apartment she claims. I gave her a list of things to do so I can lend the money to her, but she has provided excuses for why she cannot do them (ex: send a pic of the application-out of memory on her phone, tell me names of landlords-hasnt met them yet, can I be on the phone when you speak to landlords?- can't, other people around, etc.).

Me and my family are on vacation at a waterpark my brother got upset because one of the lifeguards told him he couldn't wear his goggles in the pool. It's the goggles that are bigger he has to wear them because he hates getting water in his nose it hurts him. Everyone was wearing them but they were the little ones that are like glasses he can't wear them because he needs something to cover up his nose which is very sensitive to water. Also a lifeguard called on a girl and her sister pulled them out of the water we didn't see them do nothing but they wrote them up and kicked them out. They got really strict and weird rules here. They wouldn't let our mom go down the slide with our cousin he's only 4 he's scared to go himself. It's fun but there's weird rules here. I got him some ice cream it made him a little better but he's still a little bit scared. How can I help him feel better ?

So I'm a senior now and it's getting real annoying because I used to take the special bus (I never really knew what was going on until I got in high school) then I stopped I always had trouble trying to hide it from anybody and I never had autism then they diagnosed me with OCD and ADHD which I never had then my sister said I had bulimia (I never made my self throw up and I did eat a lot but I never eat food that fast) just bc I hate talking to people and I have a birthmark on top of my head doesn't mean that I have autism its just that all my life ive always had to deal with pain in the asses and my mom keeps scolding me for being disrespectful only to women (well i never really had a male authority figure) im adopted but ive always had annoying female authority figures idk why they just think they own u just bc ppl said I had "autism"

I am 16 years old. While my two high school friends and I (one of whom is morbidly obese) were using my mother's computer, the backrest of her chair snapped off the seat, since my obese friend was the one sitting on the chair. So I called my mother at her job to let her know what happened. She was upset, but not ballistic, and said it's okay. When I got off the phone, I told my friends not to worry and that everything's cool. So the other friend said in a state of shock, "What?! You mean you're not getting a whooping?!" It was at that moment he totally lost me, but then it became apparent that he and I were polar opposites regarding our mothers' tactics on child-rearing. But from the way my friend reacted, you'd have thought his mom hit him with the belt just for breathing, so to speak. I can understand if he reacted that way if it was ME who broke the chair, which still sounds totally out of wack, because it was an accident. So something more realistic like cursing out my mother and not getting hit, is something my friend has every right to be shocked about. But shocked that I didn't get hit for something our obese friend did? Sounds like CPS should've taken him away from his mother.

i hate my life but i'm not allowed to hate my life. i have everything good going for me. i go to a good, expensive, private school. i have so many friends. i have alright grades. my family has money. my family isn't split up. but i hate my life. i hate my "friends", i hate my school, i hate my family, i hate where i live, etc i feel like i'm never going to be happy. i keep going around in this vicious circle... things seem to get better, and then they get way worse. and then a bit better, and then worse again. i think my entire life will be like that and i don't know what to do. the only thing i love is my cat, and she probably doesn't even love me back.

My Mom made me estranged from her side of the family when I was a kid cause she was bitter. As I got to my teen years my Mom matured and reconciled with them. I got to know them and really like them. I am an adult now and I fear what they think of me. I am always worried about if I am 1st rate or if I am always defined by what my mother did 20 years ago. I am consumed with this worry. I also fear if we are 2nd rate that we are being excluded from family events as my Mom still is not as close to them as the others are even though she talks to them again. For example, Easter I fear there will be a get together and my Mom and her three children, all adults, will be excluded. I fear this and yet most the time Easter is not a holiday the family gets together for. So how do I get over my obsession with what the extended family on my Mom's side thinks of me? My father's family I was always close to so I don't worry about what they think.

I am dreading it and will have to see them from time to time. Both are terrible people. One even sleeps with married men.

It has been 17 years and I am 27 now. The uncle is out of jail but I have only seen him once and did not speak to him that time (at a funeral) which is fine with me. My mother remains close to him and defends him. She thinks it is unfair that he is on a registry for life. So how do I get my Mom to see the reality of what I had to go through and that the uncle was the bad guy and pervert and not me? I was 10 at the time and am 27 now.

I can tell that she is I think I helped her a little as it isn't as bad as it used to be, I never cared what people think of me and still don't she said how that's cool once as I like certain kids stuff and not afraid to tell people I won't hide it. She will act different when others are around sometimes I have noticed I don't let it bother me though because I know it's about being insecure and I am sure she likes certain things she probably doesn't talk about sometimes I feel that way. I can probably go on and on about this but is there anyway I can boost up self esteem for her more? Is her past maybe the reason she is maybe? She used to skinny shame a lot to but eventually I snapped so it isn't that bad anymore I probably shouldn't have but it just happened.

my family is blaming me for the reason we don't talk. but i wrote them a letter in 2018, they didn't reply back. they tell me one year i would go to my brother's wedding but didn't tell me how any of the plans on how this would work? they don't tell me that my dad almost die! but they blame me for this problems.

I've been concerned about my dad for a while. He has always had an explosive temper. In the last year or two it has gotten worse. He can react to things in a totally over the top manner. We have tried to talk about his anger management issue. He is in complete denial about it. Ive noticed more recently he gets real nastys when he talks about certain people. He will be nice to your face (not all the time) and talk poorly behind your back. As his daughter I should not have to worry or question what he says about me. Im slowly getting to the point where I really dont care what he says about me. I know he is unhappy but that doesnt mean he should make others feel poorly about themselves. I have been guilty of reacting poorly instead of remaining calm. I am resentful of my mom. While she has defended my sisters at times she hasnt given him an ultimatitum. He is a grown *** man and I'm tired of getting fearful whenever they fight. Does anyone have any ideas on how to cope with difficult parents? Thank you in advance

She bullies everyone and no one likes her anywhere in the family, she is a bad person. My Mom still likes her but someone said Moms have to like their kids. She would hate her if it was not her kid cause my sister is someone to be hated. How do I make her stop bullying me?

My parents, particularly my Dad, want me to continue to show hatred towards this aunt but since the war on her son is in a cease-fire right now shouldn't I forgive? My parents flee like refugees in the night when this woman is in town but I sometimes stay local and end up seeing her. This angers them both. It is my Mom's sister but my Dad has more of the hate. So should I feel justified seeing this women next time she is in town (not sure when that will be)? We all saw her at Christmas (that is when the cease-fire was signed) but in February she came through and I fled with my parents. She usually is alone but I especially like seeing her when her other son and daughter are with her. Any ideas?

I live near a school and every day find myself dodging out of the way of parents and children that think the entire pavement belongs to them. Today I was rounding a corner near my home and coming towards me was a mother holding the hands of two children either side of her (and taking up the entire pavement). The child nearest me did not move over, nor did her mother attempt to pull her to one side to stop her colliding with me. This is something that from a very young age my mum told me to do, that was polite. Move over for strangers and share the fecking pavement. This girls face smacked into my tote bag and she started crying. I just kept walking. And the mother started shouting at me. What else could I have done - there was no where for me to move? Do people honestly expect others to melt into the pavement? Disappear altogether? There was a hedge to the left of me, her child to the right of me. There was nowhere for me to go. But they could have moved over. When I stop and let people pass I get no acknowledgement. And I always move to one side of the pavement when I see people coming towards me - why do others not do the same?

A year ago my brother-in-law found out through a third party that his father isn't actually his biological father. This explains the man's coldness toward him, although he did raise BIL after BIL's mother went away and paid him through university. BIL tried to mend their strained relationship, revealing what he knows and that he appreciates what his father has done for him, but the man hasn't changed. For example, he visited his other son all the time, but only visited BIL once (when BIL and my sister had a baby). While I can understand the man's resentment of having to raise a son of his wife's lover (who is even named after the lover), I think it's harsh to punish BIL who can do nothing about it. I think this man should know how much BIL loves him. BIL was very worried upon learning that he was injured in a car accident a while back, and rather hurt that his father never told him (BIL learnt from his brother). I KNOW I'm only the sister-in-law, but my sister is a career woman who doesn't care and thinks that BIL should just ignore that man altogether. Now BIL is more in a waiting-mode, only calling his father for Christmas and such. I don't think this is right and that I should meet the man and talk to him. Compared to his brother, BIL is very shy, notably around his father. Nothing will ever happen if everyone just waits or doesn't care. What would YOU do? I'd run the risk of being called a meddler, I suppose, but I really want to help. Thanks for your 2 cents.

Hello. I am 14 and ever since I think 5 years ago, my sister and I's relationship with our parebts has declined. To summarize, my mom is assertive and my dad is narcissistic to a degree. Although I am not fat, I have been eating to cope with my issues. Since these 5 years, my self esteem has lowered drastically to the point where I only prepare for the worse, I have lost all motivation to do basically anything, my sleep schedule has gone off course, and I have to get stuff I want on my own. I have worked (not for my parents or an allowance) for basically everything I have. My phone, carrier plan, pc, nintendo switch, and the rest if my money i have saved up. While I am proud of myself for doing this, I did not want to. People at my school amqaysntalk about new things theyve gotten, but I know its from their parebts and always feel left out. Our family is middle class, and mybparents only spend the bare minimum from us. I dont want much, in fact I would love a gift with major sentimental value, but my parents never care. My mom yells at us and hits my sister. I asked her, please be quiet, and she threatens to hit me. I reLly want to tell her to **** off, but I dont know how without being mentally abd lhysically hirt anymore. I know that I need my parents because I cant live on my own, but ive always fekt isolated ar home so I learned to make/ save money, cook, talk to strangers, and the bus route to my school. My dad js also like my mom, never knowing how to lay off.

you pretend like your crappy life doesn't bother you but you just want to explode thats why you take it out on YA answers to feel important and accomplished

i took time off to go with my dad to go visit his family, yes his family. and i say that because they don't care to have a bond/relationship with me they only care about my dad and they all believe his kids ruined his life and we took him away from them. my grandma humiliated me infront od everyone at the dinner table she basically got off her chair to point her finger and say "so you're the reason why your dad can't stay longer!?" first of all my dad didn't mention anything to me, we discussed the time off HE said. Apparently my grandma thinks i purposely made our trip short. my dad didnt stick up for me at all! and even if he had no control over her actions/behaviour he still didn't apologize to me or nothing! So i was left feeling alone on this trip since his family do not like me to them i am stupid, lazy, a waste of life i'm only here cause of my dad. and no my mom don't care either

My mom is a complete mess. She is about to be kicked out of where she's living. My landlord won't let her live with me in my one bedroom apartment because of her drug abuse history and 5th degree assault. She's 44 years old and can't keep a job. She has over $30,000 in child support that needs to be paid back and can't get her drivers license until she pays it. My mom has been living like this since she was 18 years old. Am I horrible and selfish for not wanting to help her anymore? I'm stressed and burned out! I just want to be able to live my life without worrying about her.

So basically I have trouble saying sorry like for example the other day I was helping my dad clean his truck I closed the door and I scratched the side with my jacket I felt horrible but I couldn't say sorry it just felt like those two words I'm sorry couldn't come out then he made me apologize then I felt angry disgusted and upset this happens all the time and every time I'm forced to apologize and I get even angrier every time

I do not feel comfortable with her being in a bathing suit in front of other men. It puts her in a position to receive physical and verbal harassment

My dad currently has custody of me. My grandma on my mom's side's birthday is coming up and my mom wants me to go to the party. She says that if I don't go she's going to tell her lawyer that my dad's "hiding" me from her family and she'll try to get custody. My mom says an invitation was mailed to my dad's house and that I need to RSVP, but I never received an invitation. I don't know who sent it, who to RSVP to, or where or when the party is. Every time either me or my dad texts/calls her to ask, she won't tell us and either hangs up or ignores the text. What are the options for this situation?

Ok, so I just turned 20 last month and i've been drinking since I was 18. I have friends buy it for me and since i still can't afford to move out of my parents house, I keep all my alcohol in this safe in my room. I pay rent to my parents, so they shouldn't be snooping through my room that I pay them to have my own privacy in. See where this is going? Well I guess I left it unlocked or something because when I came home from work my dad got mad at me for having it and just threw it all away. Then I confessed that I had been doing it since I was 18 and they got even more mad. Like wtf? I've been doing it for 2 years now, I'll be of legal age next year, and they never would have known I was doing it if he didn't go snooping in my room. They aren't going to kick me out though because they know I can't afford it, but how do I get them to let me drink? I never got into any trouble with it, I always stayed home when I was drinking and never drove anywhere. Who am I hurting?

i ordered computer Ram 2 week ago and i said one day shipping for extra 12$ and it never sent me an email it shipped and it only says pending processing!!!

i'm 13 and so earlier i wanted to buy a new imac computer so i bought it and it was over 2000$ so i stole her credit card and ordered it to come when she's not home and i also bought a new laptop and a bunch of other stuff. i don't care if it's theft i don't want to get caught

he always burps after eating and i feel like gagging and he sometimes farts randomly and says excuse me and i told him if i see him do it again i have to break up! he also goes poop in my toilet sometimes and it smells after. i beat him for making it smell after. one time he burped in my face and i beat him really hard and he has bruises everywhere

i lent my brother £20 over 3 weeks ago and he won't pay me back. i know it sounds silly but i'm a 17 year old student who recently lost a poorly paid job so i really need all the money i can get and he don't need it as he has 2 jobs that pay well so why can't he pay me back? whenever i ask he says he'll get it but never does. i've tried telling my mum but there's not a lot she can do. i'm at my wits end and don't know what to do.

Hello, my name is Eren. I am 17 years old and I'm a sophomore. My mom doesn't love my dad anymore. Over the past couple of years, my parents always yell and fight to each other. And now my mom tries to avoid him. My Dad is usually gone for the entire week because of work so we barely see him. But every time my dad comes home, he starts to drink. That's how usually the fights start and it makes me sad. I don't like talking to my dad because he's drunk most of the time. He says things like, "why don't you love me" and " I'm going to move out because no one talks to me". Also, he only speaks and understands Spanish. And I do understand Spanish but I can't speak it. Now my mom wants to move back to her moms house. But she doesn't know what to do. I don't wanna leave my dad, I love him. Not many kids or teens have dads. And I don't wanna leave him. I don't know what to do. Help me

My daughter is 10 1/2 years old. I love her very much, but I don't really like being around her. She has emotional issues, and can be quite a handful to deal with. When she watches TV in the living room, are usually go to my bedroom. When it's close to her bedtime, I seem to rush her along, just so I could have my free time. I don't like going shopping with her, because she's always asking for stuff. Is there something wrong with me? I didn't really notice until my husband (my daughter's step dad) brought it to my attention. He says he finds it disturbing. I didn't know how to answer it. I should mention that I also suffer from clinical depression.