Why are they so unforgiving and coldhearted. Why are they so immature and hold grudges like children? Why do families exist in the first place?

Me and my mom got into a fight yesterday. It was about how she values her boyfriend more than her kids. I'm 14, and I know I'm probably not being mature, but I've decided to give my mom the silent treatment. I just feel like she doesn't understand me, so why should I even bother talking to her, when there's no understanding anyways? The funny thing is that my mom would never want to go out with me or do something with me, now all the sudden after my 14 years of living, she said she wants to go get something to eat with me? After I got into a fight with her, now she wants to be nice to me. She is the type of person who is naive and doesn't understand anybody's feelings but her own, there is no use talking to her. I kind of feel bad not talking to her, or going out with her, but I just feel like she doesn't deserve it now. She enjoys her boyfriend's company so much, she doesn't need her kids, that's exactly what she's shown me. Any advice on how to deal with this situation?

I will go witj you guilt free. I know you probably have children his age but John is a grown man now and he's choosing to leave me here like this. I cant promise you anything other than got the time that we will be together I will do my best to make it about us. Please, show up tomorrow, I am one mother's visit or fathers huffy tantrum away from bashing my head aganst the wall till I pass out. If John chooses not to be with me then I am not obliged to suffer this, not anymore.

I'm 19 years old and going to be starting a career in permanent makeup this month. I've found verified people on Instagram to work with and will be meeting with a woman today to meet her before I start working in her shop. The place is about an hour away and I was looking forward to the excitement of going out there alone and independently on the start of my journey. But when my older sister found out I was going, she insisted on coming with me. I would prefer to go alone; given that she used to make fun of me for not having any friends or going anywhere, whereas she's been glued to her BF since he moved in a few months ago. So now I'm wondering, should I accept her offer of wanting to come or put my foot down and put on my grown woman pants/go alone? My mom said that my sister was "excited" to go with me, but I'm conflicted. Btw I've driven an hour away alone before.

Can't fit everything in here about my issues so pls don't judge just need answers. My life has been very hard for yrs now! Today I was supposed to go out with my uncle to get party decorations but it didn't work out since my mom has bad anxiety right now after her fathers passing (my grandfather) so I had to cancel to stay at home. I started to cry because I told her I feel very stuck so many years I help her with my two younger sisters since my father was always working and didn't really help... now I still feel stuck and I told her that's why I get upset when my grandmother says for me to have a baby soon (I'm 19) or when she used to say my mom still has to try for another baby to have a boy. My mom said "don't listen to her when I had you right away she kept saying for me to have a boy and that was right after I had you and what she had her boy and what he gives her all aggravation". Now does that mean mom my is done with having kids? Once when she was spitting randomly even after her period I kept saying to her don't worry but she looked so scared and me knowing that my last sister that's now 8 wasn't planned she was very much a surprise so I ask her this time "what you think your pregnant" and she said "what are you crazy?!" Or when I mention once about something about changing diapers she said "god forbid". She's going through early menopause she's 44. She feels sad that she's 44 and hasn't live life so many years has passed and she hasn't live...

i was thin until I was 13 and was overweight and smelly, my mom was constantly screaming at me to lose weight. I didnt lose it until 16 but now I dont have self confidence im 19. My mom thinks I get husband like this which i think is a lie since my dad abandoned us recently. Now Im always nervous and I dont have good personality and Im underweight. I dont like food anymore.

I strongly believe that family always comes first. My youngest son who is 19 was complaining to me because our 23 year old son apparently cannot go anywhere without his girlfriend and even when our two sons are trying to have quality time together he is always texting her. He was disappointed to find that his brother dragged his girlfriend alongside to the movies with him. I told my 23 year old " listen son try to have one on one time with your brother and just brotherly bonding." he is obsessed with that girl, and our 19 yr old said he is whipped. they should be out of that honey mage phase they've been together for 5 years now plus they live together now.

I was sexually abused, beaten, and verbally abused, but also treated nicely.

I feel like my mom can interfere with my life and well being even from a distance. It's been making us miserable. She's very clingy, controlling, manipulative, angry, and won't back off.

She said my fiance is not welcome in her home, and I was not home when my mom came here unannounced saying it's been years and she has a gift. I basicly cut off all ties to my mom last year and it's not a good time to catch up, plus odds are it's unpredictable if she's going to make me feel bad about myself and keep telling me to move back in. I turned down a nice gift, but things come with strings attached anyway. This book of mine about toxic parents says this happens as guilt. The problem is that my whole life she pulls me around and at the worst times when I got something new going on. I chose not to call my mom knowing she was in my city. She's very mean and verbally abusive and my fiance did not want her to see our messy house or come in because of the nasty texts my mom sent last year and I blocked her. Basicky it's my birthday present, but it came with a catch to go stay with my mom in another city which I don't want to. I guess I could have met my mom later, but it's risky if she decided to question my life and make me feel inside out, or not approve of my fiance who is older than me and and to be honest no one I ever dated was approved except for some one I did not love. nyway I'm all depressed now but I feel like I should not unblock her number. I'm sick of the drama and I'm an adult. I just think it's sad. My finances mom doesn't like me either.

So, theres a guy that I basically grew up with, he s worked for my family for years, basically everyone accepts him as family, I used to see him as a brother but now I havent gotten along with for multiple reasons. Hes married and has a son who is a year older than my daughter. Him and his wife constantly insult my mom and never apologize for it. In my opinion they re two faced. They ll be nice to you upfront but when it comes down to it, they ll **** talk about you or post something on FB that doesn t necessarily need to be public knowledge. His wife asked my mom (my day care) if we could set up a playdate between the two kids the other day. I had my reservations and told my mom no way that was happening. Later on I saw the wife walking down the road (we live on the same road) I pulled over to let her know nicely "I dont think it s a good idea right now and that it s just not a good time with everything going on in the family" was there a better way I could have said it? Btw the thing that s going on with the family...the guy who I used to see as a brother is included in my grandpa s estate. Much to the dismay of my older brother. Drama has been going on between the whole family and my grandpas current state is deteriorating. I honestly only care about my grandpa and not the drama everyone is so invested in. But I feel like I shouldn t let them insult my mom constantly and then arrange a play date with our kids.

These days women finishing college and making money, but do men respect educated women more than uneducated women?

I don't understand why my wife just won't cook or learn. It's crazy that my daughter can cook anything under the sun and the wife can't cook anything. I almost wonder how they are related. My wife doesn't cook at all. Even on her off days she just watches tv for 12 hours. She would get mad when she saw our daughter cooking, however. She would even tell our daughter that she needed to keep her kitchen aid mixer and other kitchen appliances in her room. Our daughter has a passion for cooking or so she says and whenever my daughter would be cooking me a meal my wife would try to one up by going to Chikfila nd buying me a Chikfila salad with the chicken pieces in there even though $10 for a salad is insanity. I'm assuming she used the money I give her because she barely makes money at her job and I know she can't sfford that. I know people are going to say I should cook but I work like 13 hour days I'm exhausted when I come home as I'm the bread winner and I definitely don't feel like washing a ton of dishes. I ask my wife why does she go to Chikfila and buy an expensive meal when my daughter was in the process of cooking and she says " that crap she cooks ain't that good" it's more healthy than Chikfila she cooks up chicken breasts with vegetables and home made corn bread with a home made fruit salad on the side.

I feel like all I do is scream and freak out because they aren't four grade levels ahead. Our three year old together, barely talks ,cries all the time just wants to watch cartoons and run around still wears a binky. Other parents and strangers have told me to calm down and lay off the kids. My oldest stepdaughters (teenagers)hate me for bringing up their weight and nagging their dad to yank them out of their school to put them into a private all girls school which they visited with their mom and hated. I almost got in a physical fight with middle daughter because She refused to do the online college calculus course I got her bc her mom said she doesn't have to.Her mom doesn't want me helping with either of the oldest girls with their homework because I stress them out. My fiancé says we need to have fun with the kids but with tiger parenting their is no time for fun or going to the park. My fiancé suggests I take them to his parents and his sisters when I need a break.They love his parents and their aunts and uncles. They are dumb rednecks who are going to teach the kids to be stupid. I have tried telling the kids the relatives are stupid and they are bad which makes them like them more. Or they tell the relatives what I said , which pisses off my fiancé. We have a fight whenever he visit his family and the kids go see them. Also bio mom of stepmom is threatening to go to court and get our days changed/reduced if I don't stop having screaming crying matches about the oldest daughter quitting softball to do dance instead.What kind of adult is she going to be if she quits something she does not like?

She wants to live a lavish lifestyle but doesn't want to put in the work for it. What's her deal? She works as an associate at jcpenny and barely makes any money and I have to give her lunch money. I work at coca cola corportation and it's decent money but we have a big house in a fancy neighborhood and tons of bills, if she had a good paying job I wouldn't be so stressed out about all these bills piling up. She's so break that she has to do garage sales once a week. Me and others have told her why not just apply to get a better job. I think the problem is she's not motivated enough. On her off days she doesn't wake up until 12 pm and she literally watches tv from 12 pm until 12 am. She sits in the same spot and watches tv all day long. She talks about motivating our 3 kids but she can't even motivate herself. She always talks about how she wants us to travel to los Vegas and Miami and all these places, I told her get a better paying job because I can't afford all of this alone. She said she's been working forever and it's time for her retirement. She's 49. If I was a doctor or lawyer or rich then she could stay at home everyday but I'm not, even though she's barely bringing in enough money anyways. I have to pay most all the bills and even the groceries.

They dont think I can handle things on my own, have principles and structure in my life. They have this image in their head as when I was a kid because I was more happier and stuff back then and I kinda still am happy with the same face and stuff so they dont want to let go, but they have to! Will they ever? Because I dont like the disrespect they are givning me, talking to me as if I dont understand nothing or can do anything for myself. I fxcking hate them

I'm 19 years old and I work all day everyday in the restaurant business. A couple years ago my dad moved away to Oahu island to live at. For a couple of months now I've always thought about moving away because to me it feels like the better choice but I still have major doubts in everything. I always run into little problems with my family I live with here in California which turns me to think about just moving. Another big reason is that I've been using white recently for a couple of months now and it's through one of my jobs. I know it's something I should not do but it's hard to stop because I'm around it almost everyday. Quitting my job simply won't help because I will still always be around the people so that's already out of the question. I also live in a smaller town and feel like my personal reputation has gotten bad and It really really annoys me. In a nut shell I'm just looking for someone else's opinion because I have nobody else to talk to.

Not always gonna get up go to the bathroom when I have a tissue paper but I'm gonna throw it away he's just so sensitive about it and when I go to bathroom to spit out he says it's so annoying so what should I do about this stupid complaints I can't leave my saliva in my body

For 4 years now, our foster girl lived with us. My bio daughter has almost no memory of living without her. She's been with us for so long that it seems like she's her sister. I don't know how my daughter will cope with her being gone. Her bio parents have decided to get themselves together, and they're functional enough to properly care for her now. We cannot adopt her because the final decision has been made. It'll also be a huge scary adjustment for this child - she has no memory of living with her parents. Our foster child already knows, and I think she'll break the news to our daughter.

My dad bought this seashell carving and I didn't know it was $100. He told me today and I began to cry. Before- He gave it to me and put it on the shelf. He told me not to break it so I was very careful of it. I was moving out and I made sure to put it in a box with bubble wrap. I got it first because I was very careful of it. When I got to the parking lot, my brother left a bag out at the middle of the apartment's parking lot, and someone was beeping at me to get it, so i left my stuff (I carried two items) And I left the seashell craving on top the other item, I rushed over there, and the box with my seashell craving dropped. At that moment I felt so sad : (. I rushed to get the bag that my brother left out in the middle and I rushed back. My seashell is broken in half!! I started crying.. There are probably still some shell pieces on the floor and I picked up the 2 pieces.. I feel so sad, and mad. Today my dad asked me about it and I don't know what to do!! I just looked away and starting crying. It's in half now!! What do I do..? ; (

My sister calls everyone an idiots. When my brother and sister fight, and it's always my sister who is being unfair) my sister is calling him stupid. When someone walks on the streets, she calls them an idiot.. She calls everyone annoying, and she thinks she normal and not annoying, which is the most annoying for a person. (Calling people annoying and calling everyone idiots) .. When people try to talk in class, she always says shut up

My sis isn't doing anything morally wrong, but her behaviour is unusual or make other kids stay away from her. My mom tries to nip it in the bud every time she says something weird or unexpected. It leads to crying and sister getting angry at mom, because she doesn't understand why my mom doesn't want her doing it.

She thinks she's better than everyone, saying the f word every day, and when I say it, she's like, "don't cuss." Shes 1 year older than me and she acts owns me. When I'm talking to my dad or gets excited about something, she always says "shut up." I say "don't tell me what to do," and then she says "I'm older than you, so I can tell you what to do." I don't like anyone touching my stuff because it makes me very stressed out for some reason, so when she always touches my stuff, I say not to touch it, then she calls me rude. Also, she always says "shut up" to my dad (who is 60 years old). My dad is talking to someone else, and she also calls him a bad parent. She says the food is nasty, but then she eats all of it. She tells everyone that she's forced to eat the food when she's not. No one is making her do anything. When I ask her a question she always calls me a b**** and then I will walk away. When she's mad at me she will use anything against me. Before I said I don't like school, then she told my dad that I didn't like learning, I never said I didn't like learning. My dad is always telling me to learn, so he might not like hearing that I don't like to learn, but I never said that. She is also very rude to my mom who works and is super nice to everyone in the family. She calls her stupid and fat. I feel so sad.. : ( My mom and dad are not rich, but still pays for her braces and she says she doesn't even care. At school, she was trying to grab food out of someone's hand..

My sister is driving me nuts. She keeps trying to advertise that no one understands her, and goes through all kinds of weird phases. Our parents let her choose only black clothes back in December. Well, guess what, she got over the emo phase. Now she's onto the Instagram phase, where she wants eyebrows just like those celebrities/influencers. Next thing you know, she's starting to want to be known as a bookworm at the same time. I don't get how my sister gets over these temporary identities so quickly. She switches every few months and can't make up her mind. Beside that, my parents have been noticing more disrespect and rude talk coming out of her mouth. She cries easily. Everything annoys her and she doesn't need a reason why.

My mom is a bipolar alcoholic. She had been in and out of rehab many times, lost her job because she took morphine from a patient. She bought a pig when she was lonely and we were away at our dads. She had called me a ***** and also my sisters, said I look like dad, called me dad in a mean way. Mocked me. I can't stand kissing or hugging her, her natural scent bugs me (she doesn't smell it's just her scent, like how everyone has a unique one). Her guilt trips and manipulates. Has gotten other recovering alcoholics to bring her booze, has driven drunk. Threatened to kill herself in front of my sisters. But then again She was there when I was born, she says she loves me. That's about it ha-ha... I can't remember anything else. But is it still ok to not want her to be a part of my life?

We were sort of close when he and mother were together.

My 10 year old developed earlier than her peers. She looks like a short 13 year old. People can only have one childhood, so I don't see what's good about making her grow up so fast. I encourage her to enjoy being the age she is right now. She is allowed to do everything that her peers do, within age-appropriate limits and how mature she is. My daughter is allowed sports, sleepovers, music, camps and after school activities. It seems like people expect her to be more "grown up" than everyone else, just because she looks older.

My wife and I want to retire we have saved up a nice nest egg. A few years ago my mother in law moved in because she could not live on her own Parkinson's issues. Anyways my wife did all the caregiving tasks and the dirty work changing pee bags and diapers. A year ago I officially retired and wanted to put the house up for sale and move to Nevada cheaper cost of living. My wife says no my mom can't move and she is set up in our currant house. Fast forward 2 months ago my wife severely injured her wrist and back moving her and we both realized we can't keep doing this she needs more advanced care/help so we put her into a nursing home. My wife goes over every few days but I just stopped going. I desperately want to sell the house we are in now while the real estate market is booming we live north of Seattle my wife says no I won't leave while my mother is in a nursibg home here because of her doctors appointments. How should we handle I don't think she lives longer then 3 years and my son is already in Nevada with a grand baby I can't see because of this ball and chain around me. Should I just sell the house go and my wife rents a room until her mother finally dies or how can we handle this I am fed up with this elderly women controlling and ruining my life

My sister is narcissistic and she makes my life a living hell.She turned my family members against me and has ruined my life.Can anyone please suggest me a way to deal with her and how to protect myself from her?

my daughter and her boyfriend whom are 26 and 30 live at home so my daughter trends to watch a lot of movies with her boyfriend and since the air conditioner stopped working upstairs they watch movies in the living room where I am normally at. they don't kiss or anything but they do tend to be cuddled up. if you're the parent would you feel uncomfortable to witness this? my sister was over and she witnessed them cuddled together and she said they were cute and that affectionate is normal and that I shouldn't be so tight warded. however, I always thought affectionate gestures were for when a couple was alone. what do you think?

I am 22 years old I live with my Mom. My cousins are very jealous and they wish bad things on me and my sisters. My mom and my sisters continue to let them use them then when they are in need they are no where to be found. Someone told me my cousins do witch craft on me. It's been 3 months since I had a job. I really want to move out of state so I'm looking into donating my eggs to help someone that can't have children on their own and for the compensation to help me move out of state. I'm a licensed cosmetologist. If you were me how would you move out? My mom can't hold water she tells all my business.

The teacher is only 8-9 years older than my son and his other students. He complained that my son is one of the students who don't always listen to him, and treat him like just another 16 year old. I grounded my son for 2 weeks and took his video games away. He doesn't have this problem with his other teachers, and understands that his other teachers are not children his own age. This problem appears to stem from the fact that it's a new teacher, who's less than 10 years older than himself. He is young enough to have grown up with the same music, fashion, social media platforms and world events as his own students. As a result, it seems like kids don't see him as a teacher and treat him like a peer. That doesn't make it okay, though. I've disciplined my son by grounding him, and I will talk to him about this. It isn't okay or right - they have a student-teacher relationship, not a peer friendship.

it's a straight talk phone I live with my sister so I have to take the public bus to school and work (I lost my school ID I can get rides for free with it) so I'll be needing money to get to school and money to buy a new school ID (about $10)

So.... My dad (who's 54) watches porn when in the room. He has the volume down kinda low, so I just hear faint moans and slight slapping noises, but it's still very recognizable as porn. Sometimes when he'll click onto the website he'll forget to turn the volume down, so I'll hear a really loud moan, and then he'll panicky turn the volume down. I know that it's somewhat "normal" for men to watch porn (even though I disagree) but isn't it kinda messed up that he does it in the same room as his 14 year old daughter? Maybe he thinks I don't know what it is? I'm not sure what to do. Confronting him isn't really an option, and telling my mom isn't either, my family doesn't talk about that sort of stuff. I don't know what to do, it freaks me out, even though I know that's not a HUGE deal it still upsets me. What should I do??? Oh, it's primarily gay porn, which is kinda ironic, because my dad is VERY anti-gay.

Ok so my mom has been doing this to me, my sister and my brother since we were kids....and back then I didn't think much of it...but I'm 24 years old know and it kinda makes me uncomfortable....but every time I try and tell my mom this or I ask her to please stop...well she gets all defensive and acts like I'm making a big deal out of nothing...or she jokes and says she carried me around for 9 months so she can do what she wants......and maybe she's right...I don't know...I just know it makes me really uncomfortable when I'm walking by her or I'm bent over doing something and she smacks me on my butt...

Is a restraining order a bit much? I've endured so much drama and abuse, plus only now as an older adult can I live my own life, that I honestly dont want to see them ever again.