I'm so scared of divorce that is the reason why I haven't proposed to my girlfriend yet . She has been bringing up the topic every so often asking when I'm going to propose and when I'm going to marry her . Every time I find a way to change the topic or brush it off avoid the conversation . By providing a vague response like when I have enough money for a wedding ring and the wedding etc . We've been dating 3 years now . I love her I can't immagine life without her I want to marry her I want to start a family with her settle down I do . But my extreme fear of divorce holds me back . The risk just seems so high . Growing up I witnessed my parents almost divorce multiple times And The divorce rate is high and I see and witness so many couples marriage in my life fall apart . I've witnessed and seen so many men go through the horrors of divorce and I see read hear about all the divorce horror stories on the internet about people not being happy satsisfied in marriages. About the biased divorce and family court . Married wives cheating on husbands having affair. Men losing everything in divorce . Men suiciding due to being divorced. I'm so afraid I'll end up like all those other men and end up being another divorce statistic . I'm afraid of what if she one day decides to leave me and doesn't love me anymore I'll lose everything end up poor miserable in poverty Working til lm dead

I feel like i care.. for example. He was going to his friends house after work to smoke and watch basketball game. ( he's 35 and just started smoking, not thrilled). I didn't talk to him all day.. and i said on your way to your friends if you can just die me a call. He got annoyed and asked what I want.. and i said i just wanted to say hi to you.. before I don't see you the whole night, plus i didn't talk to you all day. I asked what him and his friend had planned for the night and wha time he think he'd be home.. and he goes here we go with the questions. Im a grown man.. ill come home when I'm done.. i don't know. maybe 10 maybe 12.I said ok.. i don't know what the attitude is for..hes like i just find it annoying i have to report to you. Is this normal reaction? I do everything for him, I'm nothing but kind, i don't understand his attitude?

I met her on Twitter where we talked and realized that we have the same views on life and would like to get married. Once she told her dad he took it well at first but than thought about it and changed his mind. He gave excuses such as I am too far and different culture (O am Palestinina and she is Kashmiri), but we have come to realize that he just doesn't want her to get married. All we can do is pray. We have stopped talking in hope that Allah will do it through his will and keep minimul communication. She continues to not talk to her family except for her mother who is helpless. He said that he would divorce her mom if she chose to be on her daughter's side. I don't know what to do and we both feel helpless. I've tried to talk to him but he doesn't allow me to call him. The girl has a friend who tried to convince him but didn't even let her speak and said he didn't want to hear it. It's been 3 months since the girl told her father. I know these things take a while and our a process, but the girl speaks with no hope and I am the type of person who like assurance. I would wait as long as it takes. Does body know what to do or any recomendations?

So my ex treated me badly. She used me and led me on. I thought she was a great person apparently not...And after it occurred I started having these thoughts of karma about her as in it will happen to her soon. They aren't feelings of revenge more I feel sorry for the type of decisions you made/make and your naïve nature

Yesterday I took a nap after work because my ****** autistic son has demanded to be his own authority figure and refuses to go to bed at a reasonable time causing him and I only 4 hours of sleep each night. In the middle of my nap my wife woke me up to go get head (something I asked for in exchanges for watching a movie the night before). Normally she lets me watch so I can get turned on by watching it go deep in her mouth but this time she keeps the lights off, which makes me less stimulated. I couldn't finish from her giving me head (normal problem, she's bad at it and refuses to learn how to be better) and we end up having sex, again with the lights off. I just wasn't having it. She just did the same things she always does. She eventually had me get on top because she was tired (we're both overweight right now) and I still couldn't ger into it. It felt okay despite the condom, but it just wasn't sexy or hot. It was just sex to me. After 30 minutes or so I finally pushed myself to finish but I had to do all the work (she just lays there). But when we were done I had no wow feeling. A part of me actually wished she let me keep napping actually. I got no foreplay, no effort, no watching her, nothing. At least she got to enjoy it I guess, but it did nothing for me.

How do you avoid financial arguments when one spouse makes more and essentially saves more than the other? (First answer includes details)

Opposites attract right?

Do not refer to my marriage in your answer, this is your opportunity to educate me.

I've never been a good looking guy, but surely if a woman married me others would be attracted to me too....... I actually do regret waiting, although it wasn't intentional, I just couldn't lose it until I met her (cause no one else wanted me) and then we fell in deep love. I feel less of a man (kind of cuckolded) because she got to have sex with other men but I never got to have sex with other women. I always feel like I missed out. I can't cheat on her, what should I do?

So my wife believes in spanking and I don't, she knew this before we had kids and we talked about it and agreed we wouldn't do it, but now she's threatening to divorce me if I don't spank my child when bad. He's not even one yet. I don't know what to do here. What would you do?

I am pregnant ,had a miscarriage last year . I am farther along than i ever was last year . I am afraid to have sex right now ,one because it makes me sore and 2 bc I have been so sick i haven't felt like it . I have offered to have oral sex but my husband just comes home and goes to bed . Even on the weekend ,for the past 3 months . I dont get it . He works 8 hours ,5 to 1 ,is 27 . I dont know what to do ,he won't even give me a massage ? I have to ask alot ? What would you do

You know how I've never been that girl to press or force a marriage convo? So, My brother an sister-in-law both snapped me that they've been together 13 years (go them!) and i mentioned it to my SO... I mentioned how amazing and I remeber them as a new couple. I loved my sister-in-law right away. So I asked..how long have we been together? 5 years right? ..we both agreed about 5 yrs. I asked, "do u see us getting married?" He said "why are u asking out of nowhere." I said "well, because of my brother... just started thinking about us and marriage." He said ohhh, we've talked about it before. ( over a year ago was the first time I asked him when he saw himself marrying me). I asked again, "do you see yourself marrying me one day?" He was weird about it and said "I don't know if I'm ready for marriage, I don't see myself getting married yet." Which is understandable but not once did he mention me. I'm not the type of woman to get hung up on marriage or ask until I was pregnant - which was over a year ago. But now, I'm just hurt and confused. Day in and day out I work, clean, cook & take care of our child. I carried and birthed our child, I've sacrificed so much mentally and physically. Latelly, I feel unaprecited... I don't know what to do or say... how should I go about talking to him?

My partner is all sorts of messed-up, I can't accurately determine what is 'wrong' with him but at the moment he's going though a phase of depression which has him very withdrawn from the world: he has no friends, he doesn't really seem to do anything with his time, and he's currently unemployed. The employment issue is something that needs to be addressed as a priority so he doesn't end-up homeless, but going into a rubbish job (he was an actor in his home country, but here he'd likely have to get a rubbish call center job) when he's already feeling low is proving to be a real struggle for him. I want to help but at the same time I'm starting to feel more like his therapist than his partner, I don't want to be the one who fixes him...he has to fix himself, ideally not just to be better for me. FYI: I have trained to be a counselor (but can't possibly manage his issues) and was an employability coach, so I worry a little too much that he sees this as a valid reason to use me to help himself and that I'm too willing to help him...but this isn't healthy.

So I am currently a full time student and working a part time job, pretty typical for someone my age. I do all the grocery shopping, bills, the majority of the cleaning at home, as well as pretty much anything else that might be done around the home. My wife is currently in between jobs and having a hard time finding one. I know that this can be really stressful, and I want to support her the best I can, but this has been going on for several weeks and am feel like I am just stretched too thin. All she seems to do is look for jobs for a couple hours, and spend the rest of the day distressing, until I get home and ask her to help me doing the dishes or such. I love my wife with all my heart, and really don't want to make her feel useless, but I need help. How can I approach my wife in a loving way to help her realize that she needs to do a bit more.