I want to be sexy enough that my husband will desire me. I have asked him, but he won t tell me how to look the way he needs me to. Probably because he is sure that I can t look good enough. Most likely he is correct, of course. But I would like to at least try. Being unattractive makes me really sad and I feel like a really bad wife for not making him happy.

Love my boyfriend . But I have lived on my own for many years or had boyfriends live with me . My boyfriend wants me to live with him . I literally stay there every night but the nights I'm at my house I feel so more comfortable. I feel when I'm at his house that's it's not mine . I hate the decoration which he doesn't want changed. His house is older mine is new but I rent. He has a roach problem just cause it's old . I always feel obligated to make him happy when I'm there . I love just coming home and not shaving or sleeping in junky pjs . When I'm at his house I feel like I should be in nice clothes always look beautiful. I always feel obligated to cook / cater to him. He's a neat freak I'm more laid back . Like he wants the house mopped / swept twice a day . Me in my house once a day or every other day .he wants dinner cooked every night I'm more of hey let's eat out or do something easy . Sandwiches are not dinner to him needs to be three course . Big breakfast cooked every weekend I'm more of a cereal or Dunkin' girl lol. Even on my day off he wants to be up at 7 cleaning . I feel like I'm at my moms house lol. Anyone have the same issue and been able to cope . I wanna be with him we are having a baby soon he wants me moved in like now and it's becoming an issue in the relationship . He will not change these rules if I try I get the I'm a bad wife to my husband look

My husband of 4 yrs is verbally, mentally, & sometimes threatens me and our 22 mnth old with his gun. He throws little fits like an old woman when hes upset about somethin. He had a fit b/c we were 5 min late to the movies fri night. He decided to go to a movie theatre 40 min away from where we live just so his aunt could babysit him when my parents are our normal babysitters. I told him Ive been asking him for 3yrs to take me to the movies and hes said no He doesnt like the movies anymore so find other ppl to go w/ I told him Ive missed out on tons of movies in the past 3 yrs cuz I wanted u to take me out and ur complaining about missin the start of the movie I told him hed be alright and hes the 1 who wanted to make that trip to that theatre just so his aunt could watch our son. Our son doesnt even know his aunt and is going through a social anxiety phase. I felt bad for him. He told me had he said or done what was on his mind then I would have called the cops on him. So basically he cant control himself to the point he has to hold his anger in. He's threatened to kill my parents and his coworkers. He said i can forget him ever talking to me again and that hes going to be silent from now on. He barely talks to me anyway and when Im talkin to him about my day or telling him something funny he ignores me. Im workin out every day to get in shape and if another guy happens to notice me then Im not gonna think twice about my husband. Ive tried divorcing him,the process is hell.

Husband went to a strip club for a bachelor party and never told me. I just found out years later from a friend. I'm upset and hurt because I was pregnant at the time and he was such a good liar about it for years. I asked if he got a lapdance and he is adamant saying he did not. Is he lying? He already has had multiple lies in his his story because he "didn't want to hurt me more"..... So he claims he now has told me everything. This is a strip club that is in Wendover and not a full nude club.... He said he didn't want to go and told them more than a few times no, but got peer pressured into it. Which I could see because of the guys he went with. It just sucks because I remember calling him that next morning and in front of all those guys, he completely lied to his pregnant wife about the night and I kept telling him I'm so glad he had a fun night. I feel like an idiot. I honestly would have been mad he went initially, but would have gotten over it. I'm more upset he had this lie for years and we've hung out with all these people multiple times since then. He knows that this was a boundary in our marriage that we both agreed to before this happened. I've had many opportunities to do this at my friends Bachelorette parties and never let them peer pressure me. He would have flipped out if I ever went! I think I'm more hurt that maybe I have more loyalty in this marriage than him...?

I don't know how to break up with my husband ? The other man is willing to accept me and my daughter I been cheating for 1 year now I feel terrible . Please honest opinions

I took a job 6 months ago in Child Protective Services. The job requires me to go out to REALLY dangerous neighborhoods often alone to meet with parents who have lost their children due to abuse. I also meet with the children in the foster homes. Since starting I've had a gun pulled on me twice. I have nightmares almost daily about being followed home and being killed. I have nightmares about the kids I see and the abuse they talk to me about. I come home crying almost daily. The job is draining me emotionally. It's starting to impact my relationship with my husband too. I was unemployed for a year prior to finding this job. The pay is decent and helps my husband and I be more financially comfortable. I was very miserable being unemployed. I'm scared to quit but I'm also scared for my safety. Any advice? Thanks

I moved into a nice condo in Salt Lake City for law school. I met my beautiful neighbor and she was so nice she invited me over for dinner amd we had salad and lasagna. We knew eachother from BYU and youth activities as kids. I texted a friend about her and he told me she's married. So fast forward a few days later and she brought over milk and cookies and sat on the couch with me barefoot and sat on my lap seductively. I told her the only reason I slept with her the other night was because I thought she was single. She began to cry and told me about her failing marriage and then kissed me she said she doesn't love her marriage and that her marriage has been over the moment the wedding ended. She told me that her marriage is abusive, sexless amd she feels trapped. When I got this condo I didn't know she was my neighbor. Well we've been seeing eachother secretly for 6 months and she even bought me a Rolex watch and told me that it was for her kind lover. When I had to have surgery on my leg after it was broken a buddy of mine told me that her husband was suspicious of us when his wife found out that I was hurt and left the room and started crying in the bathroom,. I'm not sure what to do... her husband is always working and she even took me to her parents place and introduced me as her special friend and her mom said it was a pleasure to meet me. i love her but I'm not sure if she's leading me on. She said she wants to be together but that we need to wait

Me and my wife has 6 kids... I cheated on her with a younger girl 19 years old, and I'm 47. I really want to get back with my wife.. I want to break up with the 19 year old because she's getting too expensive.... Everytime we go shopping she always waste too much money... I just want to go back to my regular life with my 6 kids and wife... RIght now my wife and kids despise me for leaving them for a younger girl... I was selfish, but I think I learned my lesson... What are you guys suggestions?

I heard this said to me now three times. Never have I heard that it was never ment, or an apology. My husband of 6 years has said this three times to me. I don't know why I keep causing all of this trouble. When he didn't feel like working long hours; and having to give up his social life for his job I never complained once about him staying at home with our child; while I supported him. I thought maybe I could get more respect this Way however he still wants things to go his specific way and be how he wants it.. I try my hardest but sometimes I just can't. Every time I do find something to complain about he tells me.he will leave and not come back. :'( I'm trying to figure out how I can fix myself so I'm not us less or a screw up... He legit has told.me he could walk out sign the rights to our daughter away and not give a flying rats ads ever again because I'm such a ****.up. could someone please help.. help me.figure out how I can not be so tired that I can walk to stores and back up a hill after working 48 hour weeks? Help me figure out how to have the energy to help him.with laundry and other chores after work so he can see im not worthless? Anything.. :'( I have no-one else... I don't want to be left alone .

My husband is very involved in our church, which I'm happy and grateful for. It makes him happy, so I support him. However, I feel I've been a negative Nancy lately. I'm pregnant, expecting our third child, and find myself alone every Sunday morning/early afternoon with our two toddlers (son and daughter). He teaches catechism classes every Sunday morning, then immediately afterward goes and helps out as an usher at one of the masses. By the time he gets home, we usually try to make it to mass as a family, then it's hurry home, make dinner (me) and get the kids going because my husband has to be up super early for work the next day. He's in bed by 6 pm. He makes comments that he wishes I'd become involved in church as well, but I tell him I'll do that once the kids are older, that they need us right now. There are times when he'll spend practically the whole day at church if they need him. He gets defensive if I ask him to maybe cut back a tiny bit, because I need help on a particular Sunday. I feel like I'm losing my spirituality over this, as though I've become resentful of his dedication to the church. Am I being selfish?

She didn't care, but I couldn't do that to my wife. I don't go out much but this girl seemed to be out of my league. Now I can't stop thinking about her. Luckily I didn't do anything. Will this pass?

I am 26 he is 33 i knew him since i was 18 and he was 25 we worked together he used to love me. I was cold to him and rejected him several times i even told him that he would never see me again when i quit i feel bad for it i regret it. We did not see each other for 1 and a half years. I missed him and wanted him but he rejected me he met a ***** who stole him. At a party he was very drunk so i used it to my advantage i got pregnant and his parents forced him to marry me. He embarrassed me at our wedding when i tried to kiss him he turned away and everyone laughed. He sleeps on sofa or moves my hand when I hold him at night He is a great dad with our 5 year old daughter but he treats me worst than garbage he is a complete ahole to me he never touches me. our daughter told her preschool teacher last week that he ignores me and she feels sad about it because we should love each other. I told him to get his **** together because whether he likes it or not i am his wife so he better grow the **** up and get the **** over himself and start treating me right and stop ignoring me or rejecting me because if he ever does it to me again he make sure he knows he will regret it he laughed and said 'your my wife in the eyes of the law not mine' it pissed me off so much I slapped him as hard as I could the only thing he said 'I do not know what I ever saw in you, your ******* garbage' I have had it with him shall I divorce him and take everything to teach him? These 5 years have been hell

Will this be murder?