I just have birth to my 5th and I'm 26, I am exhausted. I can't. I am constant pregnant and it's just making me miserable and I am sick from it as well. I am not depressed or anything. I was raised birth control was wrong but now I see it's amazing because maybe I can have a break for more then 8 months between pregnancies my husband also is not loving, not anymore. When we courted henws was a Gentlemen, fooled my parents and now I am stuck in this marriage.. please help. I want a divorce but idk what to do. I've asked this before and most answered helpful and I need some messages or replies to what I said. And to the guy who told me to stay in this marriage, ur disgusting for thinking I deserve a life of being miserable, I deserve a happy ending not a life of rape. I am in Usa. Strict Christian beliefs but I am willing to do what i can, i m not staying, my kids are important but I deserve happiness to, so whoever told me to stay and deal with it ur wrong and a disgusting himan being https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20180320232158AAoEzU0

Instead of guys who genuinely care about getting to know them and creating a deeper connection and a romantic connection. Guys who are fine waiting a month or two for sex instead of guys who force sex within 2 dates. It seems girls always fall for guys who just pump and dump them and ignore men who have genuine intentions. Yes you could say these guys who just want sex are better looking but I doubt that's always the case. I know some really good looking men who are still virgins because they want to be with the right women, and most of the time they are completely ignored.

Does he do it without ur consent? Is it normal for a women to have no say? I am a Christian women. I am born and raised in U.S but I was isolated so I'm not sure if it's normal and I want some assurances. Is want my husband does the way it is? Is it ok he has sex with me when I don't want it and I'm puking in a garbage can?

I'm not going to lie a year ago our marriage was awful. Divorce had been brought up numerous time. Most of our fight were about how I though he was cheating. He was really close with my best friend's older sister. They would text for hours. He even started calling her babe which I though was inappropriate but he said it was just a nickname. Her children called my husband dad and funny part is he never there for our 2 children. Me and my husband had enough and we went to counselling. The councilor told me I should trust my husband. Fast foreword a year later and we so much better till now. My husband came home one day upset. I ask him what is wrong he then tells me he doesn't deserve me. He blurts out that he had sex with my best friend's sister. He proceeds to tell my she was pregnant twice with his child but aborted both of them and that the affair lasted for eight months DURING THE COUNSELLING. Before I did anything else I asked for his phone. I took it to find hundreds of nudes and long messages. I turn around and slap him so hard like never before his face turn red. He is crying and begging to the point where he starts throwing up. I'd don't care, I leave and take the kids with me. A few days later I go for a std test. It comes back positive. I call him and cuss him out while he is just crying and pleading for forgiveness. I tell him to tI f*** his slut and ask for a divorce. A hour later a get a call from the hospital that my husband overdosed on his pills purposely.... And his mother found him passed out. I rush to the hospital and the doctors say he will be okay. I go in to find him crying and go and hug him but deep down I hate him. We cry together and he kisses me and I hated every single second of it. My question is should I stay with him Im afraid he is going to hurt him self. I can't even look at my best friend. I've lost everything.

I grew up pretty isolated, in a community of fundamentalists. I was married at 19 and got pregnant on honeymoon, my husband doesn't care about me, he just married me so I could bear his children. He doesn't care about my happiness or lack off. I am not happy. 5 kids, and 3 in diapers while the other 2 are good at using the toliet, he doesn't help out a bit, he goes to work comes home, demands his dinner be hot and then he expects me to be in bed by 8 so he can have his sexual needs satisfied, not caring if I am suffering morning sickness, or just not in the mood, no consent. We are not Muslim, just a strict form of Christianity. Where do I go for help? He won't sign divorce papers. Please I don't want more kids. I am exhausted.

I've been thinking about it for a while now and I realized that since my wife has ocpd that explains why she's unable to accept people who have different beliefs then she does and why she tries to correct their behavior through behaviorism like punishments/Rewards. She really only tolerates someone who's identical to her and not much deviation from that. When I think about all the problems I've had this really makes sense. Everything we argue about is a belief or value problem which is very subjective and has no concrete data on what is the right way or wrong way to do things. But since she's a pedant and she has an obsession with rules and disciplines it makes sense that she would argue with anything that she doesn't believe to be true. In other words my wife is an absolutist and because of her rigidity she can never truly accept me for who I am. But what am I supposed to do with that? It's not like I can go home and be myself around her because she would just correct my behavior (or at least attempt to since that doesn't work on me). And like I keep telling everybody we tried marriage counseling but it didn't work because she refused to accept that she was wrong in trying to force me to do things exactly the way she wants it to be done. They also wanted to do one-on-one counseling with her but she refused it because she doesn't think there's anything wrong with her, which is the ocpd. Ocpd is not the same as OCD, look it up before you answer. What am I supposed to do?

Last week, I and about 20 other people were invited to a happy hour event after work that's in a few days. My husband takes me to work and picks me up, so I'm wondering if it would be alright if he came along. I feel like the guy in charge would say yes if I asked, but it doesn't seem like the kind of event that you would normally bring non-coworkers to. Should I ask or would it be awkward if he was there? If I don't ask, I probably won't attend myself as there would be nowhere for him to go for at least an hour while I mingled, and he certainly wouldn't drive all the way back home, it's a 45 minute commute during evening rush hour.

our marriage isn't on a piece of paper it's in us

Hi. I was raised in the quiverfull culture. Where women have as many children as God thinks she can handle. I was married at 18 after courting a young man a year older then me for less than 3 months. We were married and in my honeymoon I got pregnant which is normal for people like me, my mother has 15 children and she is pregnant. Me and my husband never kissed or had sex untill wedding night. Well, now I am 25 and I have 5 children. I am already exhausted. I don't want this life anymore, I always thought it was normal, being isolated I guess I missed out in the real world. I was homeschooled as well and was never informed about birth control as I was taught my body belonged to my dad untill married then my husband. I never wore pants and when I would shop and see women wearing pants I would always look at them with sadness thinking why would their husband allow them to be so manly? Well, my cousin is different then me she is the Same age as me, has no kids and is not a Virgin. We have been secretly talking for 4 months now and I told her I want out. She said she will help me anyway she can but first I don't know what the first step is, I want to be educated I want a degree like my cousin. I want my daughters to go to college and not be like me miserable and unhappy. My husband doesn't do anything but go to work and then ask for sex and doesn't wait for my consent as in our beliefs a married women doesn't say no. He doesn't help out with kids at all He just says it's a women's duty to be a wife and mother, cook clean and that's it. And he won't eben listen to me as a women is suppose to be quiet and obedient but I am sick of it, I want to be a modern women and have my own life and not just be his Baby machine for the next 10 years, I am 25 at this rate I could have another 10 kids. I am miserable and i am not at all happy, I was for the first year or two but now I can see this is wrong. Yes I will divorce him in time, hopefully soon but he won't agree to the divorce.

He goes over to friends house then gets drunk and hits me recently he stopped drinking for 3 weeks and today he wanted to go to friends and I got mad now he's saying I'm trying to run his life and take away his manhood but I'm scared he will drink again.im constantly stressed out worried one day the same thing will happen again

My 28 year old husband and I never had sex before we were married. He told me that he would prefer to wait until we were married which I found impressive but we have now been married just over 2 months and I am still waiting for us to have sex. He keeps telling me that he needs time to adjust to married life. Of course we kiss and hug during foreplay but it always ends with him masturbating himsel then he rolls over and goes to sleep leaving me unsatisfied. Lately this has been causing us to argue. Should I allow him more time ? Apart from this he is the most caring thoughtful guy who will do anything for me. He even brings me breakfast in bed on weekends and he even brushes my hair and cooks and cleans without complaining when I have to work overtime. I just want sex but he refuses to even go anywhere near that part of my body. I tell him I have needs but he seems to enjoy leaving me unsatisfied whilst he continues to self pleasure beside me.

No mean comments please help me.