I know guys who treat women like ****. I've seen them control them, verbal abuse and I've heard of them hit them. I've seen my friends hang out with them again. I've moved from my home town to this city. I'm starting a new life here and I moved on from old friends. I don't know why people would still hang out with there friend when they know how they treat women. Also would you stilll hang out with your friend if you know they cheat on there boyfriend or girlfriend? I see that happen too. They still hang out.

I live in a house with 3 other roommates and these past two times someone has cut holes in my bag of meat. The first time I saved some leftover chicken from dinner in a zip lock bag and someone cut the bottom of it and my food fell all over the floor. I have pork chops in the fridge to make for dinner tomorrow and that person poked holes in the plastic. This question sounds stupid but what good does it do poking and playing with food in the fridge?

Hello, I have a weird problem, I sometimes get the feeling that I am jealous or scared that my friend, who is important to me, may forget about me when she gets to know new people, especially that we got so close in a very short period of time. I just keep thinking that she is going to like them more than me and I am not good enough for her like them! which makes me so sad and think that I am a bad person. I don't know what's wrong with me, what I know is that when I find a good person in this world, I get too scared that I might lose them. I only have a small circle of REAL friends so it is too hard to find a good person and build a friendship with them and stuff. I try to do my best to keep her away of new people. I know I am so selfish but I feel so bad and my self-confidence is zero... I am a 20 year old man but I have no idea why I am like that, in this age, I should not have that childish thing... Any advice please?

Gina has been a friend for years. She's good but I find her competitive, jealous, and a copycat - by this, I mean her life choices are based off my life choices. I don't care if we have the same shirt but when she copies me, she flips me around & passively accuses me. She has no identity & claims she & her bf are always "bored". Something happened last year that exposed her to be a "gossip" & even after, she STILL wanted to be associated & close with the gossiper. I feel like I can't trust her anymore. Also, whatever I tell her, she feels the need to share with everyone - including her co-workers who I don't know. I find this annoying. When I got into grad school she said, "oh, now you're making ME want to go to grad school!" She had no prior ambitions until I got accepted. My lifestyle is obviously different now bc of school - I have work full time & have school, while trying to balance family, relationship, and me time. My friends understand that I'm busy & give me space. THIS one will text me out of nowhere, "I haven't heard from you." ((WHAT?!) I haven't heard from her either. When I just tell her I'm busy with life, she agrees as if she's just as busy as I am. As far as I know, she has no kids and just works. No home improvement plans or anything going on. You may think, "oh maybe she just misses you!" No, I find this behavior clingy, especially knowing she has no identity & a big mouth. She adds, "haven't heard from you. Hope school & everything is okay" - this tells me she's looking for drama/anything juicy. If you know I'm busy with school, wouldn't you assume I am and good? I don't have this problem with any other friend. Through the years, when I did have issues or needed to talk, she wouldn't always be there. She wouldn't respond to my texts, so that told me she's not someone I can lean on. Now, when I don't tell her anything, she wants to know what's going with me?

So I'm 25 and have a hard time making friends because I have Asperger's Syndrome. It seems like I try to befriend people from the past and it usually doesn't work out. When I was younger I went to school with students who didn't live in my area. So I'm always trying to befriend someone who doesn't live near me. I try to talk to them about ordinary things and then I never hear from them again. I also befriended two former friends 2 years ago who I was not friends with for almost 4 years and they just stopped being friends with me too. All I wanted to do was hear from them more and hang out more and they got annoyed every time I brought it up to them. They said when we got reconnected that they wanted to be friends again. They live relatively close but always made excuses as to why they couldn't see me. But those excuses never applied to them hanging out together. And now I have an old neighbor I want to befriend but I'm not sure I should contact her. She doesn't live in my town. I feel comfortable talking to people from the past. I even tried to befriend an old classmate a few years ago. We hung out once, I made it clear I wanted some new friends and like after that he texted me less and haven't talked to him since.

This girl (I'm a girl too) kept saying hi to me even when I ignored her (because of my crush). Time passes and I stop disliking her. She looks at me this year (all at school) and she's in my lunch period. She smiled at me in the lunch line. A few days pass and I don't see her at lunch, and she's not sitting by me. So what happened?

I got a call from my ex mother in law June that she needed help. She said the company where she worked was installing a new computer system and they told her she had to upgrade her computer skills to keep her job. I really liked June when I was married to her daughter Jan but I had not heard from her in over a year. She knew I was into computers and she wanted me to train her. She said she would pay me for the training. I told her I would be happy to train her and I don't charge my friends for helping them. I went to her house each Saturday morning and gave her the training. She kept her job and even got a promotion and a raise. She insisted that I let her take me to dinner at a nice restaurant as her way of saying think you. We had a great meal, great conversation, and great fun. Then I got a call from my ex wife Jan. She ask me not to help her mother any more. When I ask why, she said I was so nice to June that she may start to have feeling for me and it would be too kinky to call her ex husband dad. OH CRAP. How do I get out of this mess without anyone getting hurt? I told Jan her mother and I were just friends and that is all we will ever be. If her mother wanted male championship Jan should introduce her mom to single men her age. She would make a trophy wife for someone. I hope I handled this correctly? Did I?

Helped my friend and his gf move into their new place and I thought it was simply to move their boxes,furniture, and stuff to the new place and was surprised I had to help putting together their new stuff.

when i first met her she was an amazing friend we talk alot and laugh and have fun but after like a year she became discusting and rude when i look at the mirror and brush my hair and try to look nice in school she looks at me and says ewwww you cant do anything to fix it eww she always says im ugly she wasnt like that she became soooo rude i told her goodbye forever in snapchat i didnt tell her why and the next day in school she was like why did u say that i said i was joking its such an unhealthy relationship i will go from her i didnt even consider her a friend before it takes alot for me to consider someone a friend i will ignore her from today and i know my life will be better :) ( srry bad eng ) we are in highschool

I met this dude during orientation for my current job of 2 years. He was really chill and we connected on so many things. We became friends almost instantly. After about a year he started acting weird. Kind of narcissistic and demanding and demeaning. I told him I wanted to quit drinking and he made fun of me calling me weak. Eventually I gave into his peer pressure which was my fault after 3 months of sobriety. I drove home drunk that night and totaled my car and got a dui. Even after he kept pressuring me to drink. At this point I've had enough. We went to a concert and after buying me beer that I didnt want I got upset I made him drink it. Along with his beer. He was a total light weight and got drunk. While he was drunk he sexually assaulted me. Freaked me out. No rape or anything but just pressing himself against me. Telling me to go to the restroom with him. Touching me all over trying to kiss me. After that I told him that's it. He freaked me out. I told him we can't be friends and that I wouldn't tell anyone. A month ago I find out hes telling everyone im an alcoholic. I was about to get a job promotion and they know him. He started telling them all kinds of stuff. I got denied for the promotion after being way over qualified . they even asked me about him. That's how I know he got to them. So that's my story. One of the biggest mistakes of my adult life so far..

I met a man from online. We met as friends. Before we met he complimented my pics and he also complimented me when we chatted on skype a while back..saying he thought I was beautiful. ..but he only did that once. We chatted a few times since then on skype and he did not compliment me again and when we met he just said that I looked fine. I told him that i thought he was attractive though. Anyway, he does want to hang out again but I am thinking maybe it is just as a friend. Does it sound to you like he no longer thinks I am attractive?? please be honest and I will choose a best answer.

Hello, I have a weird problem, I sometimes get the feeling that I am jealous or scared that my friend, who is important to me, may forget about me when she gets to know new people, especially that we got so close in a very short period of time. I just keep thinking that she is going to like them more than me and I am not good enough for her like them! which makes me so sad and think that I am a bad person. I don't know what's wrong with me, what I know is that when I find a good person in this world, I get too scared that I might lose them. I only have a small circle of REAL friends so it is too hard to find a good person and build a friendship with them and stuff. I try to do my best to keep her away of new people. I know I am so selfish but I feel so bad and my self-confidence is zero... Any advice please? I am a boy and I don't have feelings for my friend, it happens a lot of times with different people.

I don't have my license yet, so my friend who lives ~1 block away drives me to school every morning. She's going to the same place so it's not a big inconvenience but I still feel like I should give her money- maybe a lot when I do get my license? How much should I give her and when? It's about a 10 minute ride if that helps

We've been loyally together for 7 years, and married for over 2 of those years now. People often times don't believe us when we tell them we're both only 24 years old with that kind of history. The issue we face is, when we were 20/21, we were having plenty of fun with our new found friends when we moved to the Seattle area, we'd go out and play pool, go bowling, drink, play cards against humanity, fun stuff! Then comes the marriage. We got married, and everyone just kinda, disappeared. We recognized that they all looked at us different, and never invited us to much of anything, and when we did go, we were the first to get ditched. Now a few years later, we're thinking about starting a family, and our old friends are partying harder than ever, hooking up more than ever, and drinkng heavier than ever.... Its kinda, sad to watch on their social media... I mean dang we have fun too, but our old friends look like they're just coping with misery now. It hardly even looks like they're happy. We need new friends... where on earth would we find friends who relate to us AND are still young enough to want to have fun? (ESPECIALLY before I end up getting pregnant and we really buckle down)

Here is an exhaustive list of ways my friendships have ended: I ghosted them, they ghosted me, mutual waning, huge blow out. Reasons have been: flakiness, mystery, turns out I don't even like them, word mistakes (see "huge blow out"), feeling used or objectified*. So, ghosting seems the best? Although, others in the world tend to react poorly when you break up with a friend in any way. Why? Why come it's OK to date--and even marry!--before saying, "Hmmm. You super suck and you bore me. We're through." But you meet someone at a party, you hit it off, you do some friendship things, you realize they are ruining your quality of life, and you end it and then you're a monster and mystery. I had a friend ghost me. A fairly good one. It was sudden and sad and I still like and respect her enough to accept it. I never got angry with her. I still sent a few things her way that would have been of professional interest to her and her partner, but never with any expectation of response or getting back in. The way I see it, she has a right to control who is in and who is out of her life. And so do I. But like, what's the good way to do this? Text message? J/K.

An old friend of my husbands moved in with us last week. To his credit, he is a hard worker and is looking for a job but he's not the sort that people are going to be eager to hire. He doesn't shower as often as he should, his clothes are raggedy, he's quit school in 9th grade and rambles when he talks so it's hard to follow. Some have said we should just kick him out but he truly has nowhere else to go. He will be homeless if he leaves here and then he'll have a harder time finding work and will most likely never get off the streets. I want to try to help him but I absolutely hate him living here. Home is my sanctuary from the world and it's been invaded!! He's a nice guy and honestly I wouldn't want anyone to be homeless if I could help them. But I just don't know how long I can go on with this. When I think of 4-6 months from now and he's still here I want to run screaming into the night. 4-6 weeks is horrible enough. EDIT - some great suggestions, he is working with a local employment agency. I've suggested a temp agency to my husband. We have gotten him some clothes that look better. My husband had a chat with him about showering more and made him clip his finger nails (they were scary). He's spent his whole life living with friends or family but he's just used everyone up at this point, His family won't have anything to do with him anymore.

I'm a freshman currently in college and I am somewhat of an introvert and usually don't like huge groups of people where I don't know anyone. I feel like everyone parties here on the weekends and this is something that doesn't appeal to me. I would just prefer to hang out with a few friends and not go to parties. Does this make me look like I am like boring? Thanks for your responses

bobette and beke started dating and so we met a bunch of his friends. when they went on a date they got followed by a bunch of his friends, me and batalia. we became friends with them then they turned against us and made batalia turn against us. but we made some other friends: bmily, basha, and badie now they are all fighting and it's gone to hell. let's just say i'm eating in the bathroom now... how can i expand my friend group? right now it's just me and my grandma because she always believes in me.

I'm a junior in high school and as a freshman I was extremely shy so I didn't make many friends. I have a great personality and some really close friends who all tell me I have a great fun personality. I'm not as shy as i was at all anymore but most people have their friend groups in school now. How can I make new friends and get a group of friends to accept me??