I'm always so much happier around my grandmother, and with my dad I'm just happy when he leaves the house. It's not that we have a bad relationship, I just don't know. When I go over to my grandmothers, she's very cheery and happy, but with my dad, he's very unimpressed and is usually mad at me for something (like grades).

My cousin is getting married in October and my immediate family will definitely be attending, and they want me to come as well. I've said I cannot say for sure as I don't know if I'll get vacation time off from work, although really I most likely will. The truth is I'm embarrassed to meet my extended family, which includes aunts/uncles and cousins as I consider myself a failure. I'm 28 years old and I'm so far behind my cousins in experiencing major life events; they're successful in their fields, many are married, some have kids, their own houses, etc. My career hasn't turned out the way I thought it would, I can't afford to buy a home, I have no dating prospects as I've given up my desire to get married, and I overall live a lonely life. I do everything by myself—go to the movies, dining, shopping, etc. My parents won't say it, but I'm sure they look at my cousins and wonder why their own daughter turned out to be such a disappointment. Has anyone experienced something similar? Thanks.

so I have a chance that I go back to my home state see my family from Arizona to New Jersey and also see my few close friends i am still friends with that i grew up with i still contact but since i had move with my family then my grandparents & one of two sister my dad have had moved out as well so anyways my grandpa goes back to check our family beach house for 1 full month and i get chance spend the hole month and see everyone too. but my question is my grandpa like get to airport like 3 hours head of time. what should i bring to do? I normally bring Ipad to watch movies/Portable dvd player in case ipad dies at while i wait at airport/word search reading book/Anything else should i shall bring with me? last few answer people say to watch porn so don't say watch porn is so stupid answer

I am sad and disappointed, I can't cheer up. It will be Christmas again before I see him and I haven't seen him in almost two years. It was my step-brother and his son in town. My Dad is deceased so my step-mother didn't call me but I saw on his Facebook he was here. She said to come by when I messaged her but he had left early cause his son had homework to do and so I did not see him.

I'm in the aftermath of a few rough weeks at home with my mom and now I'm debating what I should do from here. A few weeks ago my girlfriends period was late and we started freaking out. We took 3 test and one was positive and two were negative. We didn't know what to do so we just waited to test again in a few weeks (all negative) We didn't tell anyone and we just spent most of our time with each other. My gf snuck out and stayed at my house a few of those nights and my mom took notice and we got into an arguement about it. A lot of other things were brought up and we haven't really talked a lot since. Things aren't bad but there's a lot of tension at home. We got along well before this and I know it must've looked strange with everything that was going on but I didn't want to worry her. I feel like I should explain to her everything that happened but I'm not sure if I should if it might create more problems or make her more upset. Right now my biggest concern is her telling my dad or my gf's parents, so should I be honest or let it blow over and not mention anything?

CPS expects a 13 year old girl to stay with me until she is 18. She isn't up for adoption, but her parents continue to be dysfunctional. I missed out on the previous years, and her teen years just hit. With all those missed milestones and she has so much memories without me in the picture, can we form a bond just as strong?

So my dad has something of a reputation for being dirt bag and a career criminal. I once asked him when I was a kid (I was 8 at the time now I'm 19) if he was a bad person his response was "You know how animals survive right? You know how spiders trap bugs in their webs now to the bug trapped in the web about to die the spider is bad but if the spider doesn't trap the bug if the spider doesn't eat the bug in it's trap the spider will die so tell me is the spider necessarily bad for trapping the bug since if it doesn't it will die?" My dad always explained his criminal behavior with metaphors and analogies like that. More often then not he'd use a wolf and sheep as his example. I think my dad uses these metaphors because it's just how he sees himself and sometimes I think he was born the way he is other times I think it's because of how he was raised but I just want to know if his reasoning is right or if he's just making excuses?

My sister is walking, talking, millennial stereotype. She's 22, lives at home, works part time with no motivation to do better, doesn't help my parents around the house, I can go on. I was never like that, although I, too, am a Millennial(25). We have never been close. We fought all through out our childhood. We did have moments of coming together, but overall, our relationship has been strained. Recently, she's been texting me passive aggressive garbage like "I feel like I don't have a sister anymore". I've been out of the house for 4/5 years and she is now coming at me with this load of crap. I just do not know what to do. I get that my parents want us to be on good terms(they've specifically stated that one day, my sister and I will only have each other). But I can't do it. I've gained so much inner strength and self worth after I moved out. I don't have the emotional strength to try and pretend that we are besties, I'm not going to live my life like that. Anyways, I need some advice.

Why because parents need to stop choosing step children over their own children, because its not fair.

I have grandma and grandpa in quotes because they are my significant other s grandparents but they ve treated me like family these last 5 1/2 years. Anyway grandma died last week after they had been married 59 years. Grandpa is devastated because he was her caretaker. My SO and I are extremely worried about him as they say when people have been together that long and one dies, the other won t last long. Grandpa goes bowling with my SO 3 days a week (He s very active for 79), so keeping him active won t be a problem. He was there when she died at home and he blames himself(she d been sick as long as I ve known her). I m also worried about what his children are gonna do, all 3 are money hungry vultures, I m just afraid they are gonna take him for all he s worth and throw him in a nursing home. My SO said he s not gonna let that happen to grandpa, but I saw what happened amongst my own family when certain people have died. Money and jealously take the forefront and to hell with the grieving spouses/children.

yesterday I was just making fun of my little brother and then I left to go babysit. I come home and go up to my room and it is completely distroyed. My little brother dumped everything out and made a huge disaster and sprayed old spice everywhere. Of course I was pissed so I went to go yell at him but his door was locked. My mom went to get a key and tried opening it but it wouldn't open and she told me to just let it be and ignore it. Which I'm obviously not going to do and let him get away with it like he always does, where as if I did the same thing I would be in huge trouble. So I told my mom to give me the key and she told me no so I went downstairs to get another one. I got the key and my mom comes around the corner and is trying to grab it from me. I was giggling because I thought it was funny because that's how I am then SHE BITES MY THUMB. She literally bites down as hard as she can and yells at me to drop the key. I scream because I'm in shock and my thumb feels like it's going to explode and tell her to stop but she doesn't let go so I hit her arm but she didn't let go until I let go of the key. Is it normal that a mother does that? I feel like it's my whole family against me on this one which annoys me to no end becauee now my mom wants to send me to go live with my dad becauee I wouldn't let the situation go to begin with. She keeps on telling my dad her side of the story which is completely elaborated to make it look like she did the right thing.

When I got out of high school, I had a hard time finding a job. I finally found a job with good pay and a great boss. I consider myself the luckiest girl alive. I just adore my boss. He makes coming to work a pleasure. One day in his office I say his high school graduation picture on his wall. I told him that my mom went to the same high school. He asked what was her name in school. When I told him, he said "I knew your mom in high school. I can see were you get your good looks. She was the most beautiful girl in the school." He said my mom had been homecoming queen 4 years in a row at high school. Mom had never told me that. I wonder why? He said "I would like to see her again to catch up on old times. Why don't you let me take the two of you to lunch some time. I said "great I will arrange it". When I told my mom about this she said she did not want to see anyone she went to high school with. When I ask her why she told me she had gained 10 pounds since she was in high school and didn't feel like she looked good. I told her 10 more pounds in 20 years and after 3 kids did not change her great looks. She still looked great. 40+ year old women am I right about this? How can I convince her she is still beautiful and should join us for lunch? I think it would be good for my career to have lunch with my boss and even if it doesn't, it seems like it would be fun. Moms, please give me some help with this.

My husband doesn't love his mom. He has 2 younger sisters and 1 older brother. Currently 27, (he's 24), 22, &19. His parents had his brother and him in Mexico. When his mom had his older brother, she stayed in Mexico with him until he was 3 years old and then she had my husband. Then his parents decided to come to USA for a better life and she left my husband while he was only a couple months old. Meanwhile she said they couldn't take the kids until they had a stable place to live, which makes sense. So she left them with her parents. By the time she came back for her 2 sons, she had already had his sister, she was 3 already, and she was pregnant with his younger sister. He said he clearly remembers wondering who's that little girl? He didn't even know who his mom was because he lived with his grandma until he was 4. He thought his grandma was his mother. Because of this he has says he feels no love for her, he cares for her and thanks her for being his caretaker but that's it and says no matter the reason she shouldn't have left him. Growing up she also treated him like the "scrapegoat" of the family. Making him do all of the chores, always yelling at him and getting him in trouble but not his siblings. I am only writing this because I thought I could help him because I Hate that he feels this way towards his parents. Any thoughts? What are your opinions?

I made a horrible mistake. I was going through our laundry and was throwing out some old stuff. I accidentally threw out a blanket that her late mother had given her before she passed. She's horribly upset, my husband understands that it was mistake and says she will too in time. I just feel so awful and wish that they were something I could do.

Would you stop texting or calling if your mother in law never answers you ? One thing i dont understand she does answer me via Facebook?

my nephew isn't supposed to be playing his xbox video games til he gets his grades up in school my oldest sister told him. he was on the game after my sister called him and told him she doesn't want him on the game unless she says so. he was playing all day and by the time I took my oldest nephew to work and came back to get my phone bc I had to leave to go pick up my sister. He's being sneaky and acting all innocent when he isn't playing the game behind her back when she told him not to. Should I tell her or not? I just wish he would finally get caught on his own bc he knows better but wants to get an attitude with me, get smart and talk back to me. what's the point of telling her when she probably won't do or say anything to him or take his xbox away from him? No action will be taken even if I try to tell her. should I say anything to her?

Argued with my family about two months ago. I am the oldest and have 4 siblings. The argument was mostly between me and my stepfather but ended up deleting my mum on Facebook (cause my stepfather doesn't have Facebook). Shall I see them today and give my mum her present or shall I give to one of my siblings to give it to her? Thanks

Every time I see him I do something or he is mad at my mommy about something and screams at me the entire day. I am almost eleven and am worried. I was trying to put it in the car and someone ran off with it when my grandma was picking me up.My dad screamed at my mom all day yesterday on the phone. He doesn't want to. He is mad at me and my grandma for being irresponsible. I broke my arm once and he yelled at me about that the whole time I had my cast. He even got mad when I got a second place trophy and most of the kids were older than me. I hope he doesn't take my birthday party off me .

My sister is 18 and is 1 year 4 months younger than me. Within 5 months she has tried to kill herself 11 times and each time she was taken to a&e she refused help and refused to stay so she was sent home. She took an overdose on her 18th bday and tried to hang herself on new years. Right now, she is staying at her friends but nobody knows which friend or where she is (she has secret friends so she can hide away) I know she's in serious pain and she always says she loves me and I always say I love her more but I texted her earlier checking up on her and she started saying that I don't care about and that she's sorry for bothering me when I'm busy (my navy boyfriend just came home after months) and told me to enjoy the time I'm spending with my 'new family' (I'm staying with my boyfriends family for a week) she said she hates me and told me to leave her alone. I feel like she feels I've abandoned her or I'm replacing her because I'm spending time with my boyfriends family and he has a 15 year old sister who I'm close with. I don't get to see my sister much as we have different mum's and I don't live with her but we talk all day everyday. I see my boyfriends family more than her and now I feel awful as if she feels left out and replaced. What can I do to help my sister? She's expressed extreme suicidal thoughts all week and other family said they have seen really bad cuts whilst she was sleeping and it's likely she'll try again but nobody knows where she is to save her on time.

Hi everyone. I am a 16 year old girl and I would like someone's help on how to understand my older brother's polyamorous relationship because my parents disowned him for it and I don't really understand how it works or why it is so bad. My brother is 25 and he is in a relationship with three other guys that are 25, 27, and 29. My brother has been in this type of relationship for two years and before that he was dating just one guy that lasted for maybe 7-9 months. I am really curious about how things work in his current relationship and how each person plays a part in it. I know they have a lot of love and commitment to each other and I know they are pretty open when it comes to talking with each other about anything, but I am still a bit confused. Like do they take turns dating each other or do they all go out together? Do they spend time with whoever they want to of do they all hang out together? I know my brother said they all sleep in the same bed. So, with sex, do they all have sex together or do they just have sex with whoever they feel like at the time? Do some of them have specific roles during intimacy or is it just switching? And if someone is mad at someone else in the relationship, is everyone brought into it or is it just between the ones fighting? Some of these questions aren't really appropriate, which is why I don't want to ask my brother, but I am just so curious at how his relationship works. Can anyone explain his relationship to me?

So this lady I live with is always accusing others of going through her stuff or stealing her stuff. She swears she has cameras and tape recorders to record the sound in her room after she leaves. She always insists people are in her room when she leaves etc. but literally she is always stealing my stuff. And when I confront her she blames her cat for taking it lol. Kinda curious as to what I should do (I don't have a bedroom door I only have a curtain because this room wasn't meant to be a bedroom)

For important details read my previous question. My grand parents have said that I can live with them but how can I convince my father to let me move in with them? How can I convince him? This isn't a stable living environment anymore, all we do is fight and argue. The relationship between me and my father is not able to be repaired. I feel like I will do better at school if I moved. How can I convince him to say yes when he will most likely say no?

I see best friends who are like "sisters", and children growing up with a family friend or a step-parent. There's probably truth to it that their bonds are weaker, even if they're so strong.. and would have less natural instinct towards them. The first person a stepdad would think of in an earthquake would be more likely biological kids, not a stepchild.

I want actual ways to upset her not advice from people who say just be good don't be mean. Just because my parents had sex and made me doesn't really obligate me to make them feel happy.

Instead, the parents triggers the child and has narcisstic tendencies. If one day, it results to a death or severe injury, will CPS look into the home?

People tell me I look like my dad....but I dont see it.

Im 15 and my dad is verbally and emotionally abusive, and has been that way since i was little. He often yells at me until i have panic attacks and calls me names. I never used to be very affected my this, but it is starting to affect me now. last year my family found out that my dad had been cheating on my mom for about a year and he was EXTREMELY ABUSIVE at that time. Him and my mom would always be fighting and he would take it out on me. He also is very narrsasistic and refuses to apologize when he is wrong. he also likes to mock and belittle me. My mom wants to try and work on her marraige but i hate my dad and i know that neither of them are happy staying married. this past year i have basically stopped liking boys, and i cant find them attractive really at all. I have always been very boy crazy, but have never been able to dorm close relationships with boys. Im confused as to what is happening and i dont know why i cant find boys attractive anymore. Then I started developing hocd. I have developed extreme anxiety around grown men and many other things. Now because i am not finding boys attractive I feel like i am loosing myself piece by piece. Has anybody else had an experience like this, or know what is going on?

my cousins and aunt lost thier father....but even before he passed away, we have always seem disconnected....what do i do?

I'm a 16 year old who is turning 17 later this year. I live with my biological father, his wife, and my brother. A few times I have had my father threaten to kill himself in front of me. This is because my stepmother screams at me and causes drama and stress, which everyone blames me for because she tends to cause drama over simple things I do (like trying to bring my desktop over to my boyfriends for the day so I could play computer games with him). One of the worst times was because my stepmother believed I was hiding my college grades from her because she couldn't see them on my high school grades website (I'm a running start student). Because of this I was grounded and told that I was a f*cking liar even though my stepmother called the school and was told that she was wrong. Another time my father threatened to shoot himself because I didn't want to move to Canada like he wanted. He repeatedly says that I am his only friend and that I abandon him and that I don't love him. I have thought of running away or pursuing emancipation but I have been blackmailed and told that if I ever try to leave that they will do something to hurt someone close to me. My brother says that I am killing my dad and that I am a horrible daughter and that I shouldn't try to have a separate life from my dad because it hurts my dad. What should I do? Can I do anything? I don't want to get police involved if it is that bad because I still care about him.

my parents are divorced and ever since recently i seen that my mom doesn't love me as much as she used to. I only have 1 sibling and its my older sister .. im always being compared to her , when my mom doesn't understand we are very different. My mom always brings me down because im not as smart as her and it sucks. We live in a two bedroom apartment and i wish i lived in a house :( i know that my mom tries her best to raise us only on her income but its not fair. I had my own room until my sister hated dorming so now she took my room. One day i came home from school and all my stuff were moved out into a spare closet we have in the living room and now i sleep with my mom or on the couch. I hate my life and my dream is too live in a house with my own room and what sucks is my dream is what a normal life is supposed to be. I would never kill myself .. but i wouldn't care if someone shot me and i just died.

Every time I fix myself something to eat in the kitchen, my Hispanic grandmother comes in to check what I am making. She says, "Little (my name), what are you making now?" And pretends to tidy up the kitchen while she watches me cook. Then she watches me cook while sitting on the dining room table. When my mom comes home, she tells my mom everything I ate that day. I feel uncomfortable. I have to wait until she goes to the bathroom, to grab a snack from the kitchen. And sometimes, she leaves the bathroom door open so she can hear what I'm doing. I feel like I'm going to get a mild eating disorder. What should I do?