I guess I am a lucky guy. I have a wife and 2 kids. I don't go out much because I am past that stage. However, tonight I went out and I had 2 girls trying to take me home. They were 9 out of 10s. They said they didn't care I was married and would show me a good time. As I am a guy I wanted to go home with them as they were gorgous. However I am loyal and did no. I like to go out every now and then, but as I am getting older I'm finding it more tempting. What to do?

My husband and I have been married for five years, have a set of twins that are turning 4 this year. From the beginning, since my husband and I started dating, my mil has caused unnecessary drama. She and I were friends before through work, but when I started dating her son, it all changed. It took her almost a year to come around and act normal around us. On the day of the wedding, she looked sullen, because she felt my husband didn't spend enough time with her the weeks leading up to our wedding. Since then, she found a way to be negative and try to make every special event about her, ranging from childbirth to baptism and birthdays. She became upset when she found out I was opting for the epidural and made somewhat snide comments to my mom and sister about it in the waiting room. She's always treated me nicely, to a point, until I do something like speak up for myself. I don't appreciate the way she treats my family. She recently saw my mother at an event and tried to hide from her. This is the least of it, but I won't get into details. She can be the kindest woman when she wants to be, but if something doesn't go her way, it's tantrum time via the silent treatment. My husband's solution is to ignore her, but it can be toxic. Any suggestions?

She is 36 weeks pregnant. I've been night shift all week and sleeping during the day. I have university 2 days per week and I will go straight from work to a half day of uni. Return home about 4pm and sleep until 10pm then go to work. I'm full time night shift with 4 days off in a rotation. Today I had come off night shift and spent the morning shopping and cleaning the fridge before coming to bed to sleep. I forgot to set the alarm and slept until 11pm! My wife woke me up coming hone from work and asked me to clean up. I made a mistake of talking about her mother as messy after she complained about our house...next thing she was working herself up. I tried to apologise but she wouldn't listen and kept confronting me repeatedly with the same question over and over. Next thing she started smashing bowls. I went to the other room. I was shaken up. I waited for her to calm down. Things were sort of ok. She explained that her friend's home is spotless and she wants that for our home...I held my tongue but I was thinking she shouldn't be surprised because she never cleans the home. I try where I can in between work and study. We can't afford a cleaner. She leaves dirty dishes on the table after eating and never washes up. Her mother tries to wash up but uses cold water and her fingers. Puts wet dirty plates in the cupboard. Leaves water pooling behind the sink to cause the sealant to go mouldy. Kitchen floor swept with a mop and dirt pile pushed to the corner.... Her mother lives with us to help cook for my wife. Because my wife won't cook and needs proper nutrition for the baby. Also she will help look after the baby after my wife goes back to work. Somehow it's all my fault. I think my wife is starting to realise how messy our home is. But I cannot manage it all on my own. By the time I clean the kitchen everyday, I run out of time for the rest of the house. It's only a small 2 bedroom apartment. Mother in law uses a broom to clean the carpet...she doesn't like the vacuum cleaner. I try not to look at our messy home. I'm guilty of putting books all over my study desk. Our walls are damaged from her using sticky tape to put up posters that she later took down. I don't have a spare week off work and study to pull everything out and repaint the apartment. It's only 18 months old but looks like 5+ years old already. I'm ashamed of our home and refuse to invite anyone over. Mother in law uses the outdoor balcony (we live on a ground floor) and she makes a big mess with her greasy cooking. Last year she cooked in the home and put thick sticky grease everywhere. I had to throw away some things and scrub others for days... I then took too long for her liking when I went for a shower. It was 4:30am by the time we finished cleaning up. I got told a couple of times to f...off. I am starting to think that it's weird that she misses me and can't sleep when I'm on night shift but as soon as I'm hone again, she just wants to fight. I can't speak my mind around her. I have to be careful what I say. I used to think a while ago that if I had my own apartment, I could rely on it being kept clean because I wouldn't leave it messy. No one would live in it and it would stay clean! Plus I would smash walls, played, tiles etc or leave food lying around. I wouldn't leave water pooling around, use scorers to scratch new pans etc. I might actually be able to enjoy keeping my things new! I already resolved to buy second hand from now on because everything gets damaged. That update should have read wouldn't** smash plates, walls, tiles etc. I am a calm and easy going person. I hate violence which is why I get shaken up when my wife lets her anger go out of control. I keep a diary of her damage and her swearing. Sometimes photos of the damage in case I need to apply for custody after our son is born. I don't want him to witness this. I also think that maybe I'm better off not here if she cannot control the anger and would rather swear at me than try to show acts of patience and love. Dominating and yelling at me just makes me retreat int o my own world and concentrate on work and study. I don't want to live a disconnected life. But in reality we don't have much to talk about in common. She only likes to think about property and money. I like many things. I love having discussions about world affairs, politics, history, science, science fiction, the plight of humanity, the latest movies, books, arts etc. I keep up with the latest movies and Netflix shows, watch the world news, read articles online, follow tech trends and I am subscribed to YouTube artists that travel, talk about Asian culture and I like watching the ones who are creative with their film techniques. I study nursing and I've investigated doing an Amazon Business or starting my own restaurant review guide. Late last year I was exploring those cool office space concepts where entrepreneurs start their own businesses by renting the space. Think Watso etc. But I don't have the time at the moment to dedicate beyond my studies. I'm waiting a couple of years until I graduate and I'm working full time with more time on my hands. Yes nurses are busy but I will have more time without the classes etc

90's my husband/boyfriend cheated with ex. She got angry that he left her & committed paternity fraud. He lied to me about the cheating for almost a yr. my husband is extremely passive & let this go on since. He allowed his family to bond with the child & the child knows him as Dad. Well about 10 years ago my husband abandoned the child. If she calls he won't answer, he doesn't see her. He literally hides. My position in this is that the child (now 20+ Yrs old), needs to know the truth. It's obvious that her mom isn't going to tell her. So I believe that since he didn't deal with this issue 20 yrs ago, that he needs to tell her why he left her. I'm angry because of how passive my husband is. *I also feel disrespected and want to protect our two kids from the drama and dysfunction. I don't want our kids to hear her call their dad "Daddy". I feel like it'll confuse them.* If there is a problem he hides, ignores it and runs. A lot of people have been hurt by this situation: the child, his mom, his sister, brothers, & myself. The town believes he abandoned the child. No one knows about the dna test! His family hates me because they feel I've caused him to take a dna test (true) & to abandon the child (not true). This is not the only situation where my husband runs from problems, it is every time. I wish he'd man up & stop running. It's made it worse ever single time. Why does he hide? Now the child has daddy issues and is posing nude on a adult website. Smh!

So my husband has a go at me because I don't ask him to dress up and go for a drink, meal or date. Says I should make more effort. Thing is he doesn't take me out either. Like he never ever does but complains his wife doesn't do it. His excuse for not taking me out is that he doesn't have any money when we are both free on weekends. Thing again is he makes twice more money than I do but we split all the bills in equal half so he should have more money to spend but he smokes weed every day and that's the reason why we have separate accounts as I don't want my money paying for his bad habits. I told him he's a man and should be taking his wife out but he doesn't and I don't complain but he does ? He uses his extra money to smoke but wants me to use mine to take him out ? Ive talked to him many times about saving up some money so we can go out and and even split the bill but he doesnt listen and just gets angry at me soon as he gets bored at home and blames me for not taking him out ? How i handle this

I'm in my late 20s, and I've have always understood marriage as something that is sacred, not something you throw away. I understand it to be a sacred commitment you make to each other, a lifelong commitment. Yet so many marriages end in divorce, and if not divorce, all too often spouses cheat on each other, therefore making their partner look like a fool for trusting them. And there are some out there, both men and women, who seem to take pride in cheating; or as "having something on the side." Same goes for the idea of sex. Sex has the ability to bond people together, quite strongly. Yet there are many, both men and women, who sleep with whoever will let them, and by doing so not only to risk STI/STD transmission, but they also cheapen themselves when they do it. I'm not saying pre-marital sex is wrong, if that's what you're thinking. But I think that sex should be with someone you care about. And by sleeping around with anyone who will let you, or you've just met, it makes it hard if not impossible to forge genuine relationships with others. In regards to the latter, to some degree we've all done it. You, me, all of us. But the thing is you don't have to continue acting that way. You can have more respect for yourself. Unfortunately most don't. So with that said, is nothing sacred any longer?

My husband has huge communications and anger issues. He knows its a big problem for us and I'm always understanding that it takes time to work on it and change. I've been patient with him for over a year now it's better now but it's still there most times. I'm still patinent with him. 2 weeks ago he complained I don't cuddle him often and i apologised and said I'll work on it because I'm not the cuddle type of person.And I try slowly like once a day but he wants them like all the time and everyday he gets angry/grumpy and has a go at me that it hasn't changed yet in two weeks and threatens that if I don't change that ASAP it's going to become a problem because he needs his constant cuddles. Is that fair of him to be so impatient with me ? I've talked to him said he has to be patient with me as I am for him. I said I understand his needs but he can't expect me to change my nature in two weeks or asap and threatening me will just make the whole thing feel forced but He still doesn't get my point and just wants me to hear his own? Told him his behaviour isn't helping me want to give him cuddles either but still nothing he just gets pissed and walks out of conversations when i try to make my point ,

He wined and dined me until we got married. Then it all stopped & he controlled everything. I used to have to call him when I needed to fill my gas tank up so he could meet me at the gas station as I wasn't allowed to have the credit card. After 30 years, I'm done. We don't have a ton of money but how do I file for divorce when he controls all the money we do hsve?