My life was really good until 2 years ago when I moved schools. I told my parents from the get-go that I would hate it, they disagreed but surprise, surprise, I do. I was super popular in my old school and had a large group of tight-knit best friends. I now have just a few "sort of" friends. I wouldn't consider them friends because I would never share any secrets or see myself hanging out with them in the future. The only reason I really talk to them is so I don't look like a loser. I thought it would get better, with me being at this school for so long, but it's the same as when I got here, only now all my best friends from my old school and I have drifted apart because we live about an hour away from each other. I still have upwards of 5 years at this school, being as I'm only in 8th grade and I just want to leave. I don't know what to do. I've made an effort to make friends, joined clubs and sports, talked to lots of kids in my classes, and even hung out with them on the weekends. I just feel like they all secretly hate me. The fact that I'm 30 pounds overweight doesn't help too much either with my confidence. i just feel so alone and lost right now. I've tried just focusing on my schoolwork and chores but I just feel so empty with no friends. Please help.

hey, i probably worded my question wrong but i was wondering why the people who slack off in my peer group are always better. my friend for example, copies off of everyone's homework, and classwork. however i try to do my best at everything and get my work done by myself. i'm probably asking this question because i got a lower grade than her. so, my question being, why do people who slack off end up getting better grades or such?

I recently moved out of my mother's house. When I probably told a friend of mine, she was happy for me until I told her where I moved to. In her words, "glorified projects." I can understand if I hadn't moved there yet and therefore was just contemplating. But she completely shot me down instead of congratulating me on another stepping stone in my life.

So i've already watched a few youtube videos that helped me understand an introverted personality better. They're actually pretty great people. And I feel kinda lucky to have an introverted friend. But I really like spending time with them, u know, whenever I do get the oppurtunity. I try to text them, and even tho I know that they don't offen like socializing, and my friend even said that he doesn't always like to text. But I wanna know a good way to grab their attention for when he finally feels comfortable to text back :) I'd like to get him interested in the conversation so I can open a meaningful one after getting him "hooked", as writters say. any ideas?

Recently I found out I was gay because I liked a boy. My best friend at the time was always making gay jokes. Nothing too bad. I realized he was making me feel bad about my self so I stopped taking to him. This made him sad so he asked one of my friends (who I was out to) why I was mad at him. When she explained that I was gay he felt bad, but he hasn't stopped making the jokes. Also I felt if he actually wanted to be friends again he would at least try to apologize. I do miss having him as my friend though. What should I do? If I shouldn't forgive him, how do I stop thinking about him?

I have a really big house and my friends love coming over and this one friend always posts pictures at my house almost as if it was hers. Most of her pictures are at my backyard. She is a good friend I guess, she can be really judgey at times but she is funny and gets me. I think she might be using me for my stuff. I know she is really poor even though she didn't tell me this. l learned from mutual friends. It also bothers me that she never invites me

hey, so um my friend's dad just passed away a few days ago. She hasn't told me in person! But a friend of mine told me since rumors spread and the whole school knows now... She hasn't been in school for this week but if she comes back I was just wondering how I should comfort her? What should I say? I want to be there for her! but what are some things that will come up as annoying and what are some things i can do to help her?

Hello everyone my name is Andre I recently turned 19 on the 10th of this month I am a senior in high school and high school has been absolute hell for me, I have had issues fitting in with people in general, I have been hurt by others a lot, I played my favorite sport Football all four years, I was singled out by most of my teammates even though athletically I hung well with them, I was never accepted by the popular crowd or any crowd really, I have been disappointed by girls, I have had a few hook ups but that doesn't really matter, lately I have been having my guard up at all times, I push people away and I judge them before I can get to know them because I am really afraid of being hurt, I have been made fun of a lot, especially on the football team I got to the point where I was trying to intentionally injure them in practice. I want to have a happy adult life and move on from the hurt that I have been through and I know that I have to let go of my hurt and hatred to do that but the question is how?

I don't know how shes here because you need to be a full time student to stay in dorms and I've never seen her go to a class. I've missed classes before and she doesn't have class at the same time as me and shes always here when I am. she also sleeps all day and is up all night. (no they don't have classes from midnight to 4am) at first it was okay because shes generally quite but lately shes been getting bolder and leaving the light on at night and even locked me out of our room during the day (I suspect because I stayed home to do hw that day and was getting up a lot while she was sleeping) I cant handle this anymore shes so annoying i hate it i cant sleep and I walk on tip toes during the day in my own room. Shes disrespectful because I have early classes and it seems that she doesn't have classes at all. what should i do? idk how to confront her about this (she also not from american and english isnt her first launguage)

i m a very quiet person I almost always never initiate conversion I wait for people to approach me. i ve been told that i m a really good listener so if someone does approach me I d probably listen to every thing they have to say no matter how boring no matter how unimportant. and here s my biggest problem : I tend to attract narcissistic blabber mouths, ALL my "friends" are only my friends because I can listen to their bullshit for two hours straight without complaining or zoning out, I don t have real friends, it struck me yesterday when I really needed someone to talk to and none of them spared me the time . I don t know how to make friends and I don t wanna be stuck with people like the ones i have . I wanna be with friends who will love me and appreciate me and not take me for granted and people who I will love and i ll admit that I m guilty of being fake , I m just afraid that I ll end up alone if I tell them what s really on my mind that they ll leave me if I stop listening and pretending to care, I don t want conflict especially because one of them is my roommate. I have a hard time connecting with people . I don t know what to do, how can I stop being so shitty? how can I stop being so fake? how can I get real friends?

This is a hypothetical situation: you've been best friends with someone for 10 years and the relationship has been normal and good for the most part. One day the friend suddenly starts to attempt to control everything in your life. They never had a strong opinion before but now they pick apart your plans and actions and try to get you to do certain things, or not do certain things. It almost seems like there's reasoning behind it but it's none of their business. In addition to this, the friend will try to make you feel inadequate whenever they possibly could and turn your positive thoughts into negative ones. When you start to become tired of it and drift away into secrecy, the friend becomes increasingly obsessive and has to be right about everything. The friend goes out of their way to control who you should associate with or avoid with no reasoning that makes sense. This is all after many years of friendship. I know there could be many reasons but this is a very odd situation in my opinion.

I am 18 years old. My aunt organized a bus trip to Dorney Park. She said I can invite a few of my friends, so some of my classmates from high school to come along. Two weeks later, my mom invited some of our family over to the house for a little get-together, including my aunt. I invited those same classmates. During the get-together when my aunt saw one of my classmates whom she recognized from the bus trip, she asked him, "So did you have a good time? He bluntly responded, "No." At that moment, I was very embarrassed, because first impressions are everything, and I'm sure my aunt was thinking to herself, "My nephew has some very rude friends." In my friend's defense, the reason he didn't have a good time was because he couldn't get on most of the rides due to his obesity. So for the most part, he just hung around and roamed the park. Of course, he didn't go into detail about that to my aunt. FYI - my friend is basically a real-life Peter Griffin from "Family Guy" --- blunt and doesn't think before he speaks, so I'm NOT referring to his weight. Was he wrong for what he said to my aunt? He didn't say anything nasty to her, nor was he belligerent and rude. But the fact that he simply said "No' when she asked if he had a good time, concerned me.

I have a friend who is very religious. Recently in conversation I told him and it is very well known that I see him as my best friend. He told me that with his views, his only Best friend is Jesus Christ. I see where he is coming from. But it still seems a bit odd. I later said that I wanted us to be closer and better friends, he agreed and things seem very well. So, should It bother me that my best friends didn't say I was his best friend?

Be honest and tell me if you think he was just in a bad mood because of the restaurant or was it another woman? Here is the story: It was valentines night, and he just seemed off even before we get to the restaurant. So we get to this place and we even had reservations. It takes the restaurant over an hour to seat us, and my guy was furious because we had reservations and he's like it shouldn't take so long to seat us. I try telling him babe...just let's go somewhere else and its not worth getting so upset about. He wants to stay but he just pouts and keeps checking his phone. So finally we get seated. He still keeps checking his phone. Then he starts texting someone. Im like, who are you texting? He's like...its this person who is trying to get a job at my company. He's like, i forgot to text them earlier and i have to get back to them (it was after 10pm on valentines day). Im like hmmmmm....is this really so important that you need to text them during our special date? And it was a lot of back and forth texting too. Sooooo....my question is, do you think he was in a bad mood because of the restaurant on valentines day....or was it something else? If you think it was something else....what do you think it was?

So, I've been friends with this girl (let's call her Jennifer) since elementary and I'm 22 now. Lately, because of how she's been it's taking a toll on our friendship and I'm not sure how I feel about us anymore. Every time we would go out to eat we will either split the bill or I'll pay (yes I do offer) but that's not the problem. You see, I'm not greedy with my friends and I don't mind treating them out every so often, which I do with Jennifer. Mind you, we both have stable jobs. Say we get a drink and she pays, she'll remind me to pay her back for the 3 bucks right after. I get the owing people and paying them back principles, but it's the fact that I've treated her out so many times and considering how long we've been friends it hurt a lot knowing she wouldn't let 3 bucks go. And yes I've considered if she was going through a hard time or not with money, but she recently bought a rave ticket.... so needless to say she's doing fine. The most recent situation happened to be about 1 DOLLAR. YES, I'm not even kidding you. How do I approach her with this situation? Don't get me wrong, I love her as a friend but it's been stressful.

If so, how is it different from other love?

First date or second date

So this girl wanted to fight me because she said I would take her friends away but I don't take friends away. I told the teacher and she kinda fixed it but she kept calling me a slut and a ***** and stuff. Now she told my friend that she wants to be my friend and I have seen her starring at me a lot. I'm willing to give her a chance to be friends but not the best of best friends just friends because everyone deserves a second chance but what do you guys think? Should I or not be her friend?

I have a pretty close friend and I am usually trustworthy of all my friends but she's the only one I get anxious about. Back in high school it was usually just taking my pens, she'd rarely give it back but since I am not trying to sound pissed off about it she might think it's just a joking matter. Last summer I let her borrow my skateboard and she still has yet to give that back but I don't need it urgently and I FEEL like when I do she'll give it back, but when I do come over and I ask about it she "jokingly" doesn't wanna show me where it is (I know she has it though cause she posts videos). She secretly took a paper off a school bulletin for no good reason. Recently she came slept over my house for the first time and took my charger while I changed my clothes upstairs. It wasn't until I came home and asked if she knew where it is that she told me. I'm glad she at least tells me she took it if I ask(hopefully she did not take anything else I haven't noticed) but ITS VERY DIFFICULT to get her to return it. I have texted her that I am coming to pick it up and she acts very hesitant jokingly and makes excuses like I have another one. I think it is very annoying that she knows deep down it's wrong but at the same time doesn't care so much either. It really hurts my heart that I can't trust a good friend at my house because I am anxious that they're gonna steal something. I agree it is not really a "friend" thing to do, but sometimes if it is something like kleptomania the person might not be able to help it.

so we were originally going to rent a two bedroom apartment.. but it is not avaliable anymore.... and there are only 3 bedroom apartments left.. and my friend's friend wants to move in to that place but the problem i have is that they are japanese. I'm korean so i hope this doesnt sound too racist but I noticed that they are a lot closer than my friend is with me and idk her friend and they always speak japanese with each other and are very loud. I dont wanna feel left out and sometimes i feel uncomfortable when im with those two bc they never include me in their conversations and always have to translate.. they can't speak english well either which is fine but the fact that they will speak in a foreign language together makes it hard for me to become "closer" to them and be friends and feel like a family? when we are together.. and i rather be comfortable in my own home.. I already told my friend we can live together.. im also really shy and introverted and so i really wanted just one roommate.. and someone i know.. and feel close to.. i also dont want her to think that im racist or hate her friend just bc they cant speak english? i dont know.. im not trying to be racist i promise.. so i dont know how to tell my friend that i want to find other places and other roommates.. if she decides to move in with her friend.. but i really want to be roommates with my friend tho.. just 2 of us.. and i wish we can just find another 2 bedroom apartment... and i did try to talk to her about finding different places but she seems to really like this building.. and doesnt understand why i dont feel comfortable living with her friend..

So, my online best friend couldn't focus enough to do his work earlier, which is due tomorrow, and he hadn't done any of it, and he asked me to help (even though I'm a year below him and I haven't studied this subject - eek) so I said I'd do it for him overnight as long as he actually got some sleep so that he could get to school properly tomorrow. So he's off sleeping and I'm doing this - I'm fine with it, and he wasn't forcing me to, I did this on my own free will, but it's half-past midnight and it's taken me THREE HOURS to write one paragraph. I don't actually go to school currently, so I can sleep in tomorrow, and we agreed that he'd read over it in the morning and edit it as he saw fit, but this is gonna take me ages, so how do I keep myself awake? I gotta do three paragraphs and a conclusion, and the others shouldn't take me as long, but still. Other than my cat, whose helping slightly, I'm about to pass out and I need to stay up. Plus, he's doing his pre-exams, so this genuinely matters. For his grades, anyway. And I can do it, I just need to stay up. Any ideas?