I took a break from dating after the last relationship ended and now I'm staying busy with hobbies and my day job. I'm not sure if I want to date at the moment. I'm feeling a little lost and not sure where life will take me but it sucks seeing my friend's kids getting older and I haven't had my first one. Is there a way to enjoy life without being a father and husband? Are there others out there feeling the same?

...in a pre-marriage courtship?

Me and my fiance have been together a couple of years or so now. We are perfect, except when one of us gets anxiety. Like for example, when my fiance gets anxiety, I get it really bad and then I cannot support her or vice versa and we cannot support each other. It does scare me a little but I feel its just stupid and I think i might be insecurities in me that fuels my anxiety when she is anxious. Any ideas

we re both in our early 40 s, I have a teenage son, so does she, and 2 daughters. When we first got together she love bombed me and I ate it up.Slowly I got to see her real personality, but I was already in love .She would get upset over every little thing.No matter how hard I worked, at my job and on our house we bought nothing would be enough. I thought the harder I worked at home and on the relationship, she would stop being so mean, well fat chance, she lost respect for me as a man for being such a pushover. It got so bad we separated for a few months, when we reconciled it was great for a bit, but things quickly got worse, couple that with the new attitude I had that I wasn t gonna be a pushover, I set boundaries and stuck to them. This does not work either. Now her thing is threatening suicide,when the argument or situation isn t going her way, and then would guilt me and say that I don t care if she lives or not, and take off for hours at a time or overnight, or send me cryptic texts to see how I respond, she will admit she s mentally I ll and needs help, and guilt me that I don t want to help her, I just want to be done with her, and don t care what happens, and "who does that to their wife? Abandons them when they need help?" My guess is she doesn t think she s mentally I ll, it s her way of being abusive, I ve contacted the center for domestic abuse, and waiting for a response to set up appointments, I was wondering if anyone has insight, or has gone through this?

My legal aid backed out of my divorce/custody case due to it going to trial. I was working with my ex and his lawyer and we all agreed on everything and was told I didnt need to attend the bench trial since the divorce was settled. Now since I didnt go he won by defualt and has placed multiple new items in the decree screwing me. what do I do?

Me and my fiance have struggled at times with anxiety. I am 36 and she is 30. We have had anxieties throughout our lives but in general its minor and doesnt affect our days. However we struggle with rubbing off of anxieties. If my fiance has anxiety, I can be fine and usually I will sense her anxiety, and then I will catch it and go through bad anxiety within 5-10 mins. Then my mind strays so much that I am full blown anxiety and we cannot support each other. We sometimes will sit there and kind of be in a state of a trance until we can get through it and or go to bed and wake up ok. The same happens when I have anxiety, my fiance can be fine and then I bring her down and we bicker and can kind of get on each others nerves as we are both anxious. Anxiety caused us shortly into our relationship a couple of years ago to fight so much, that one of us would move out. We then moved back in and had this off and on the first year or so. Now we do not get to the point of killing each other, but we now just pass or catch our other significant others anxiety. It really is frusterating because I am not sure why I get anxious when she gets anxious. We have both been to counseling and they said we both have general anxiety, but no need to get medicated. Thanks for any insight

Husband is my only family member and only person able to watch my children just recently found out he has a substance abuse problem. I am now scared to leave him with my children. He has never acted any way that I could tell he was on Something I just found the stuff in his car and confronted him about it, and he admitted to using he agreed on getting help but for now I don't have any help with my children will my job let me take a leave of absence or do I just quit. Help!

Me and my fiance (getting married in a couple of months) have been battling with Anxiety for quite some time now. When we were single before, we went through it off and on and it was minimal. It still is for most parts, but me personally, I get anxious when my fiance gets anxious. I can be totally fine, but when I sense she is anxious, I get anxious and then sometimes we fight or argue about something that really is not a big deal at all. It goes the same for her, when I am anxious she senses it, and it throws her into a negative feedback loop. It makes it hard for when one of us has anxiety, we cannot support each other fully. Has anyone got any tips or experience anything similar.

Lately, my husband has taken cues from my ex husband (whom I have told him about and who was mentally unstable) and suddenly packs up his stuff and leaves the kids and I when I do not give him sex when he demands it, when I am moody and not acting "perfectly sweet", or when I dont obey him. He threatened to run off to this unstable friend's house again last night. My husband wants another child but I cannot trust him after he claims he "does nothing wrong and will run off to his best friends house if I dont do what he wants". What should I do? No, I dont have $ for a divorce.

ould you feel? Would you still want to be with them? You wouldn't dare call the police on him/her, would you?

Me and my husband have been married for 4 years. At age 6-9 years old I was continuously raped by a close family member. This person was also a child himself (age 14). When he reached at 17. I finally got the courage to speak up, letting my mother know what was going on. A few family memebers blamed me asking me why I wasn't sleeping in my room. Some treated me difffernt acting cold toward me. myself esteem became low as a child and I would cry so much I became as target for bullies at school and my home life and school life became miserable. i was lonely, afraid, and raking with adult emotions at the age of 10. The family member was sent away for a while and then came back and was embraced upon return. He (rapist) was released shortly after and diagnosed with a mental. After theapry, this family memeber reaches out to me and cried apologizing for his part in my pain. The truth is I forgive him. I have no hate toward him, and I wish him well. But the ordeal has left me broken. I'm happily married to a man who loves me, and I won't let him see me during sex. I turn out the lights so it's pitch black and he doesn't understand why. People tell me that I'm amazing but I don't see it. Now I'm suffering from infertility, and am facing extreme depression and all the feelings I kept bottled up are surfacing. We never talked about the rape. Only family memebers who know is my parents and the person who did it. My husband even admires this person. I have yet to seek thearpy.

I've started to become very unhappy in my 3 year relationship. I feel as if my husband is changing, he is less affectionate, more selfish and controlling over me (started to stop me from wearing shorter clothes as he is Muslim). I feel like we rarely go out or do anything fun because he insists we should be 'saving for our future house and baby' (I'm 24, he's 30). I woke up just as he left for work this morning, and my iPhone said it was 'disabled for 15 minutes'. Of course, this means he was trying to guess my passcode with no success. So I called him a few hours later and asked him in a nice way about why he was trying to go on my phone. He lied upfront and said he had 'no idea what I'm talking about' and 'he did nothing' and that he swore on my life he didn't touch it. This upset me as he's BLATANTLY lying and I said 'I have no idea why you're lying', so he got angry at me, denied it again and said 'bye, I'm going now' and hung up on me and hadn't spoken to me all day, Is this normal behaviour or what???

is there a way that he can spend time with her without her having to come in contact with me? While we were together he cheated and got her mother pregnant,truth is they both pt me through a lot and its not like i resent the child i just need some time