Family: Question: Nephew refuses to talk to family - What should I do?

Question: Nephew refuses to talk to family - What should I do?

Posted: 04 May 2016 12:59 PM PDT

My nephew is 26 and I am his aunt. There is a family holiday for a wedding coming up and my nephew is one of the only ones not coming, most couldn't but my nephew says "he didn't have the money at first" he lost his job and I told him to use his welfare money but he refused, he looked for a job, got one and saved money but he is now too late as bookings are finished, the holiday is in August 24th and the close of date was April 1st. He is annoyed because first the close off date was August 1st but it changed and now he feels he is going to miss out on a family holiday since this is a rare once in a life time thing, I volunteered to go on holiday with him, just me and him but he says he doesn't want people feeling sorry for him, he doesn't have any close friends and could never afford to go on holiday as a child but I think this is all his fault, if he just stayed on welfare and used that he could be going but he is too stubborn and proud and just had to use his "own" money. We live in the UK and the holiday is in Italy, the date changed because if the UK leaves the EU in June it could bump up the price and even if the UK stays it is impossible to change anything now. He is avoiding family gatherings, he never answers his phone, has blocked chat on his Facebook and whenever we run into him in person and try and organize a little party to show how sorry we feel he says no. Is this justified When he lost his job he had to pack up and move back in with his parents. Sorry to ask this again but NOBODY seems to understand the situation. He WANTS to come along on the family holiday but there is no room, he is too late as all the final names have been sent off and booked, there is no room for him. I said I would take him on holiday next year, just me and him and he told me to shove it and said I am only doing it out of pity and not because I genuinely want to spend time with him. Since then nobody has heard from him, he won't speak to us and I want to know what to do about it. He also has the money but there is still no room for him.He can afford it but just can't come along.

Question: Why did she get a nose bleed when she saw me naked?

Posted: 04 May 2016 12:55 PM PDT

Alright, so me and this girl aren't friends anymore and today we had a P.E class together and I was dressing into my sports uniform when suddenly she opened the door and looked me up and down. She got a nose bleed straight afterwards. She apologized and left ): why did she get a nose bleed? and how should I face her tomorrow? I have really bad anxiety so I think I shouldn't attend school tomorrow...

Question: How to be charming around my parents?

Posted: 04 May 2016 12:52 PM PDT

Question: My mother is OBSESSED with our dog!!! our family is falling apart because of it! will BEST ANSWER?

Posted: 04 May 2016 11:48 AM PDT

now i love our dogs don't get me wrong, i really do they have become part of our family. however my mom has taken this to another level! my parents no longer sleep in the same room and my mother moved into my room since i have a bunk bed, she sleeps at the bottom with the dog. i complain because the dog will bark at all hours and dig on the carpet making noises. my mom gets mad at me when i take the dog back to the living room to HER bed...she has no consideration that i work full time and go to school full time and need my sleep. my parents are having a horrible relationship too because of the dog, my dad is not that much into dogs but still walks them regularly. everytime my parents get into a fight my mom gets mad if my dad does not pay attention to the dog, instead of her worrying about me and my sister and how their fighting effects us she worries about how the fighting effects the dog. the dog loves my dad a lot and even my mom said to me one day that the only reason she is with my dad is because the dog likes him!!!!! they had a horrible fight yesterday it was really scary because it seemed to me like it was going to turn into a physical fight and i cannot handle this on my own every time, my sister tuns this out but for some reason i cannot, im just afraid of what could happen one day. i am working at a seasonal place so i cannot move out but i cant take living here, they do not want help they have pretty much given up on marriage..i don't know what to do!! help!

Question: Do 6year olds make stories up?

Posted: 04 May 2016 11:36 AM PDT

My brother is six years old, and he said that he saw someone with a green shirt in our back yard who walked passed our window. He got up and checked to see if everyone in the family was in the house and then he opened the door and ran outside and looked around. I don't know if he saw a tree branch and thought it was a person, if he's seeing things that aren't or if he made the story up. I can't stop thinking about that

Question: Whoever wrote this book knows Abdul pretty well?

Posted: 04 May 2016 11:33 AM PDT

This is exactly what he is like, this Jack Randall guy..Who that went undetected among my own rescue mission is a disgrace.... You have, as my rescue mission, let my own twin rape and humiliate me half to death... So don't even dream about bygones... My rescue mission is my husband John and Kyle and Alem, the rest of you don't even come near me... Your services are not required and I don't want to hear anything you might want to say... Sort your own selves out, you are useless to me.... Don't be bothering my husband or Alem and Kyle to let you help...Where the **** were you when I needed you the most.. Worst is over for me mother *******, so the people who got me through worst are perfectly capable of keeping me safe in times of peace... You are nt reaping the benefits of what these 3 men have done, which is both their and you mother f*ucking job... That's all I have to say on the matter... Also **** off useless peasants....Seriously don't be bothering my actual rescue mission to let you reap benefits of their hard work......... Also get some serious help, you are twisted and a disgrace to you God........Disgrace... Abdul lost everything times and times over...He was unlucky..He is the unluckiest creature I have ever met...What excuse do perfect stranger have to be turned into loose sh it after 5 minutes in hell....You're weak and weak people are dangers and useless to me. Don't ******* shoot the messenger, take some responsibility for your sh it.. And don't be pestering 3 actual representatives of their God to pretend you were anything but working for the twisted mother ****** who started this hell in the first place.....Just leave us alone and go be useless somewhere else.. Now I am done talking to these loose stool mother f u kers..

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Posted: 04 May 2016 11:21 AM PDT

Question: How do I make my parents understand that a 13 year old is allmoste grown up?

Posted: 04 May 2016 11:08 AM PDT

So I am a 13 year old, and all my friends say I'm the moste grown up, but my parents are very unfair! Girls: Friendzoned girls will be treated the same way they treat guys, and can sleep over if my brother sleep in the same room as us, but if I have a babe over, they will interupt us every five minutes, and she can not sleep over -,- I hva no idea how they know wich girls I think are hot or not but they do And if I'm out with friends, they want know who and call the friends parents, no trust at all Homework: My parents take my gameconsoles and our tv hostage untill they have checked I have done it, cause can't trust their son Manga: If I buy manga rated 16+ they will steal it and lock it in a closet I don't have the key to, its not my fault they are snooping trough my stuff (happened twice) I know I might sound whiny, but they really do take it too far >:( I don't need them to treat me as a child, and I don't act like one either, I'm in fact very grownup

Question: My brother is drug addict and als a sycho and my parents allow it what am I supposed to do ):?

Posted: 04 May 2016 11:03 AM PDT

Question: I need help?!?

Posted: 04 May 2016 10:42 AM PDT

My mom recently got custody of me from my dad. I was living with my mom when I was younger and about 1 year ago I got to live with my dad over many arguments with her. I never fit in at the school near my moms, but at my dads I fit in fine and I was happy. The thing is though, my mom has really bad OCD and has very narcissistic behavior. Whenever she has the slightest problem with me or my brother, she calls her parents. They only live two blocks away and my grandfather is a sexist yelling asshole. I remember when I was younger he would yell aggressively at my grandmother to make him a sandwich or to be his maid. He's a retired minister so he has a very fake personality outside his home. My brother and I have taken lots of verbal and mental abuse, and even physical towards my 10 year old brother. We are both tired of it and there needs to be a change. I'm 14, so I can't petition to court. Also, the reason I'm with my mom is because she would do eveything in her power to lie and backstab my dad.Theres much more to that, but this is something that really needs to change.

Question: Nephew refuses to talk to family - What should I do?

Posted: 04 May 2016 10:41 AM PDT

My nephew is 26 and I am his aunt. There is a family holiday for a wedding coming up and my nephew is one of the only ones not coming, most couldn't but my nephew says "he didn't have the money at first" he lost his job and I told him to use his welfare money but he refused, he looked for a job, got one and saved money but he is now too late as bookings are finished, the holiday is in August 24th and the close of date was April 1st. He is annoyed because first the close off date was August 1st but it changed and now he feels he is going to miss out on a family holiday since this is a rare once in a life time thing, I volunteered to go on holiday with him, just me and him but he says he doesn't want people feeling sorry for him, he doesn't have any close friends and could never afford to go on holiday as a child but I think this is all his fault, if he just stayed on welfare and used that he could be going but he is too stubborn and proud and just had to use his "own" money. We live in the UK and the holiday is in Italy, the date changed because if the UK leaves the EU in June it could bump up the price and even if the UK stays it is impossible to change anything now. He is avoiding family gatherings, he never answers his phone, has blocked chat on his Facebook and whenever we run into him in person and try and organize a little party to show how sorry we feel he says no. Is this justified When he lost his job he had to pack up and move back in with his parents. Keep in mind he does want to go on the holiday but he can't as all the final list of names has been sent off for the wedding, there is no room for him. I did say I will go on holiday with him next year to make up for missing this one and he told me no and said I am only doing it because I feel sorry for him and not because I want to genuinely spend time with him.

Question: Is my sister trying to manipulate me?

Posted: 04 May 2016 10:22 AM PDT

Whenever my twin sister asks me if I want to go out with her (not romantically as she is my sister), she always nags me and has a go at me. She says things like "you are so f**king lazy" (even though I'm active every day), "you never go out with me" (even when I go out quite a lot with her) and "all you care about is the internet" (which is not true). Earlier today, she asked me if I wanted to see Captain America: Civil War with her and one of her friends I don't know. I said to her "I'm meant to be watching it with Josh (my best friend) tomorrow and I only have enough money for one screening." She then started having a go at me and said some of the things I said she says earlier. She wouldn't want me bring my best friend with us if I didn't go because she doesn't like him - she has never liked him. She's still saying the same things to me as she's getting ready to go out. Is she trying to manipulate me into going out with her by saying them nasty things about me? "If I didn't go because she doesn't like him" should say "if I did go because she doesn't like him".

Question: Do you feel your family is too conceited? They take selfies all the time?

Posted: 04 May 2016 10:20 AM PDT

Question: Dad is mad at me for not reaching out?

Posted: 04 May 2016 09:52 AM PDT

I m 19, currently away from home in college, and this year has been extremely busy for me. I ve been in touch with my mom often (primarily because we have a better relationship). I haven t seen or talked to my dad since Easter. I have thought about him often, but just haven t called or texted. He hasn t done the same either. I m moving back home for the summer this week and I ve reached out to him, but as soon as I said hi, he totally got defensive and just went off about how I haven t talked to him in a month, how he feels I only go to him when I need things, that there were several other ways for me to reach him aside from his cellphone and he even asked how I would feel if he did the same. My dad is the type to get angry at things easily, which distances me from him often. I almost feel as if it s my fault - or if he s trying to pin it on me for not reaching out sooner, as if he didn t have the ability to do so himself. What do I do? How should I handle this?

Question: Does this mean I am gay?

Posted: 04 May 2016 09:46 AM PDT

I am a senior in high school with a female cousin the same age. To say she was beautiful is an understatement. She is gorgeous. She has a figure to die for. She has been my best friend all our lives. We are very close. However she is my cousin so I have NO ROMANTIC interest in her AT ALL. We like to hang out together and have a lot of fun together. She will model her clothes for me and ask if they make her look sexy. I never get a b0ner for her and do not EVER think of her that way. My buddies who also know her tell me that NO GUY can watch a girl, any girl, that is as hot and sexy as she is and not get a b0ner unless they are gay. Does me not getting turned on by her mean I am gay?

Question: My son saw me half naked. I don't know what to do !?

Posted: 04 May 2016 09:43 AM PDT

The other day I was changing in my room and I didn't close the door because I thought I was home alone. Anyways i needed to just change my blouse for work and was standing in a bra and skirt when I noticed my 14 year old starring at me from the hall way , ice cold. He didn't even notice me looking at him until I yelled his name in embarrassment, to which point he snapped out of it and apologized, but still didn't stop looking at me until I told him to stop looking and go away. I don't know what to think or say to him, which is why I'm here. Im really hoping it was a joke he was playing !!!??!

Question: I hate my life so much I really see any meaning in it?

Posted: 04 May 2016 09:40 AM PDT

Im 16 and I hate my life everything goes wrong im not trying feel sorry for myself im just mad and. Sad everything goes wrong and never right I grew up without a father dont even know what he looks like or his name and my mom smokes meth and my brother is autistic I dont go to school becuase the kids want to jump me and hurt me otherwise I would go and I told my mom to helo switch schools but she doesnt listen shes all I have and alot of times shes not all there cuz of drugs I dont wanna call the cops cuase I love my mom and brother and I never had a girlfriend cuz im ugly I know I am I look at myself everyday but thats the last of my worrys and we are very poor my shoes are ripped my clothes are ripped I tried looking for a job but theey want a work permit wich I can only get through school and my mom is moving to another state im going to be living on the streets soon after my family moves idk what im going to do im skinny as it is I weigh 95 pounds and im 5"5 I would eat more but I cant afford it idk what to do I feel just dieing I hate my life

Question: Living abroad and starting a family?

Posted: 04 May 2016 09:35 AM PDT

Once my fiancé finishes school well move to his home country UAE. I'm originally from Ohio in the USA. Him and I have been together 6 years. Married next summer. I am excited to move to Abu Dhabi. It's so nice. It's beautiful. Better than here in my opinion. Better life for future kids. But I am so heart broken about when I have kids. I will have them here so my mom can be with me and stuff. It's the deal my fiancé and I thought of. But we'll stay in UAE to live afterwards. I just feel like I'm a bad daughter. Haven't spoke to my mom to much about it. Idk how. Idk what to think. I do love my fiancé so much. I could never leave him. I just never really thought about this I Almost feel like not having kids. I can bring them back to my family to visit 2-4 times a year. Money isn't an issue and hopefully my family will come visit. Just how do you get past this? Am I wrong? What to do :(

Question: For parents what is more difficult to talk about with your kids, about sex or that one of you has a terminal dissease and wont see mom/ dad?

Posted: 04 May 2016 09:25 AM PDT

Question: How should I feel about what my boyfriend did with my mom?

Posted: 04 May 2016 09:24 AM PDT

I am a 20 year old girl with a 42 year old single mom. My mom and I are very close. I have a great boyfriend Bob, my age. I had arranged a birthday party for my mom at a local restaurant. Many of mom's friends would be at her party. Bob was to pick me and my mom up and take us to the party. Bob was at my house waiting for me to come home when I called him that I had to work 2 extra hours. I asked Bob to take mom on and I would meet them there later and he did. At the party mom's friends ask her who Bob was. She jokingly said he was her date. Mom's friends thought it was great that she had a young date and Bob went along and played the part of her date. Mom loves to dance so Bob danced with her a lot. I did not know it but he is a great actor. When I got to the party, Bob clued me in on what was happening and since mom was so happy I went along. I had not seen her that happy in years. It was a wonderful experience for her. She said it made her feel young and alive again. At first I was not sure how I felt about what happened but seeing mom so happy took away all my concerns. She had given up so much for me, I was glad to share my boyfriend for one evening. Afterwards when I asked her if she enjoyed her birthday party, she said it was her best birthday party EVER. I think I have the best mom and boyfriend in the world. Please tell me if you think I am thinking straight.

Question: Should I get my son out of this class?

Posted: 04 May 2016 09:21 AM PDT

My son and I are very close. He is in high school and in one of his classes he is the only guy. He thinks that is great as he is friends with all the girls. The girls in his class tease him all the time about being the only guy in class and he LOVES it. He says it makes the class so much fun. He came home from class today and said "Mom, the girls in the class asked me if I was hung. Can I show them? I told him "NO NO NO". "That would get him in BIG TROUBLE". He might get suspended from school or reported to the police. Then he said "Can I tell them I would gag Linda Lovelace"? Again the answer is NO. YOU CAN NOT TALK ABOUT SEX WITH THESE GIRLS IN CLASS EVER. He said "But mom, they ask me". I am going to try to get him out of that class before he does something stupid and gets in trouble. He will not be happy but I think I had better act now before something happens. He thinks I am being overly protective. Am I?

Question: Having kids far from your parents.?

Posted: 04 May 2016 09:09 AM PDT

I'll be moving out of country soon. And will be starting a family hopefully in the next year or so. I'm just super heart broken about my kids now growing up by their grandparents. Well visit them 2-4 times a year. I've actually lived with my parents and grandparents. (My mother took care of my grandmother full time). So it's hard on me. Very hard. I feel like a horrible daughter. Rarly talk to my mother about it. We're super close What bugs me more is my husbands family is so close to our new home. And I know this will make my mother jealous.

Question: I learnt that I was born because of my mother went to a wild party and I cant cope up with it?

Posted: 04 May 2016 09:08 AM PDT

I thought my mother was my birth mother though she was white and I was half black but when I was 10,my "father" left us for another lady and then we struggled for money for a lot of time. She then married this unemployed low life who is a drunk and wastrel. He kept calling me as 'son of ho' and bastard always... Then I learnt that my real mother was the cousin of my mother who is currently a drug addict and living on benefits..At 16 years,She went to this party with friends and got drunk and had sex with many guys..She doesn't even know who my father or how he even looks like.. Then she became religious that she shouldnt abort but at the end of her pregnancy,she once again begged doctors to abort which was dangerous. So she decided to give away the child and my "mother" decided to raise me.. But after her husband left,she started treating me badly,partly due to the influence of the low-life she's with...My younger sister is constantly berates me regarding my birth after she knew...She also told my school friends and they tease me too... I'm totally depressed...I feel so bad why I had to come to the world when both my mother and father never wnated me....For their night of pleasure,I had to pay the price.... I feel suicidal sometimes How can I move on with my life if everyone including my parents,sister and friends keep bringing up about my birth???

Question: What do I do with my parents telling me to die constantly?

Posted: 04 May 2016 09:05 AM PDT

Question: Why do right wing conservatives think Margaret Sanger and Planned Parenthood are racist?

Posted: 04 May 2016 08:29 AM PDT

And make up phony quotes to bolster their claims?

Question: My mom is scared of me leaving the nest?

Posted: 04 May 2016 08:25 AM PDT

I'm in third year of college & I'm beginning to make preparements for leaving Atlanta so I can move to San Francisco. Unfortantely my mother is scared because she'd lose a lot of our shared ssi, Section 8 and food stamps benefits. You see before leaving Atlanta I plan to live with my cousin and work so I can save up enough money for the expensive city of San Francisco. I understand that she's scared of losing her stability & that i might end up failing but I gotta start making risks if I want to leave the ghetto and start a career.

Question: Help! My 18 year old step son is threatening to move to Oregon to grow weed?

Posted: 04 May 2016 07:53 AM PDT

This is just beyond silly. My step son is 18 and we live in Pennsylvania. Dropped out of high school and is saving money to move to Oregon with his best friend to live in a tent and grow weed legally. He doesn t even drive yet. He said Land is super-cheap and he doesn t need any education to do what he wants to do. My other son graduated from college with honors. How do I reach this kid and what is the reality of living in Oregon and growing marijuana? I m not against weed in anyway but not as a lifestyle choice.

Question: Is it normal to dislike your mother in law?

Posted: 04 May 2016 07:52 AM PDT

I'm not married yet.. still 21. I wondered if I ever would dislike or like my mother in law if I ever got in a relationship.. well I'm in one now and I love him to death. it's just the MOTHER IN LAW. she's very annoying. He comes from a Hispanic family. he still lives with her unfortunately until we get our apartment but like ever since I got with him she's been annoying him lately and she makes him get newspapers everyday and trying to steal his money he earn from work she always wants him to buy things for her!! it's so annoying ! she doesn't like me that much idk why... She has 7 other sons so I don't see why she doesn't ask them for money or anything just my boyfriend! I just can't wait to move out with him so she won't be asking for his money but it's stupid because we are trying to save alittle what we have for our apartment and future. but she keeps taking it alll well she just wants him to get stuff for her but like why is she doing this? on purpose? or trying to annoy me?? or what? He's 25 btw but she treats him like a CHILD!!! it's starting to sicken me , and I feel like crying... what should I do? ..... or my boyfriend do? ... she isn't a good mother in law and I feel like not even seeing her anymore EVER

Question: Why does my mother insist on this?

Posted: 04 May 2016 07:36 AM PDT

So I just got dressed and was applying my deodorant when my mom said to put the empty one in the trash. She claimed one was empty without actually clarifying that it was, so she got mad when I said they weren't empty. And they weren't! I even showed her. She says that if she keeps smelling odor that she will WATCH me put the deodorant on every day (the pervert!) but odor sometimes comes through deodorant as well. I told her I didn't want to talk about it (since it's a really silly subject) and I got heftily punished! What it wrong with this person?? She never gives me any space and is constantly on my case. All the things she says to me at home are negative, when I'm actually usually just fine around home. In public she's the opposite, the show-off. What is going on? I'm only 13 so I can't leave. Thank you!

Question: If you were invited to speak at Hamlet's funeral, what would you say like your speechy talky thing to his family and stuff?

Posted: 04 May 2016 07:25 AM PDT

Question: Daughters in law have weird jobs. The young one works at Braums and the older one at a Spencer's and The Children's Place?

Posted: 04 May 2016 06:42 AM PDT

One is 19 and the other is 25.. They both live next door to each other in an apartment complex, they're both cousins and in laws and also the nineteen year old is the 25 years old's daughter's godmother. They both ride together for work but one thing I don't understand is why the nineteen year old has a better paying job that gives her days and hours ($9/hr) and the twenty five year old has two jobs that each give her two days a week with four hours only. One she gets paid 7.25/hr and the other job pays her 8.50/hr. When she was angry that she couldn't get a better job (it's a mall job) she said: people are going to say what kind of job is that? I agreed with her and hasn't been in my house since. She said that one reason she likes it is because she can still be with her kids (3 of them) and she can still get out of the house for a while. That work unstresses her out because it's not complicated. Of course, all she had to do is just sell stuff. The other girl works 6 1/2 hours and comes really tired and gets paid more. The older one has a GED and she works in retail? I favor the younger one because, yes, she dropped out of school when she was 15 but she at least has a better job. Should I just tell the older DIL to quit her jobs? She will have more time to take the kid to school and my husband to the doctor every month?

Question: My father has hurt my family and myself since I was 2 years old (now 21), yet he still tries to talk to me. How can I get him to stop?

Posted: 04 May 2016 06:11 AM PDT

At 2 he divorced my mother, cheated on her while she was pregnant. Has since been remarried twice. Emancipated me and my twin sister and denied any college aid. Took away all our child support despite earning plenty. I've tried to be amicable and respectful but I'm done pretending he is my fatherAll I want is for him to leave me be yet he still tries to text and email me. Once again I am 21 years old and living independently.

Question: I'm Having A Rough Life Right Now. I Can't take it anymore. Help!?

Posted: 04 May 2016 05:50 AM PDT

Me and my little sister just move to my grandma's house because my mom started to work and my dad is working at the another country so no line can take care of me and my sibling. At first, they are nice to us. But when they knew that I don't have any honors at school, because before I'm the first honor but in grade 6 I started to be a computer addict and my honors start to disappear, and there, they began to be mad at me because I lied that I am the first honor. I think they are disappointed to me. And I have OCD, Social Anxiety Disorder, and ADHD before and it just got worse. And when the school starts, my mom usually not with us because she don't go back for like 7 months until it's new year and now she is always going home every week. And I think that they don't treat us the same, because I usually notice that when my half-sister's son that is a little bit hyper do bad to me and to my Lil sis, and when we fight back they will be mad to us and scold us. And usually, my grandma say's "bobo" (Which means a f*coming retard in the Philippines) and some other hurtful words and my half sister does too because they bought own the house and back then, my grandma adopted her so she owns the house to and I have 3 more half brothers and sister. And we are from the second family and I think my grandma and half sis don't like my mom because of some reasons that I can't explain and one time they fought and one time I got beaten by my half sis because I use her lotion

Question: My dad gives me a hard time on things I do He-assumes what happened and punishes me and doesn't listen to what I have to say and is ignorant?

Posted: 04 May 2016 05:39 AM PDT

Question: Who should I invite to graduation?

Posted: 04 May 2016 05:36 AM PDT

I haven't talked with my mom as shes nasty. My sister threatened me with therapy before I could see her, my borthers just a dumb ***, my dad never in my life. My mom s parent's oblivious, my dads mom my grandparent cold.as hell, not sure.

Question: What does it mean when a woman walks around with her underwear slightly showing in front of a male relative?

Posted: 04 May 2016 05:34 AM PDT

I have a cousin who has the tendency to flash her unmentionables around me. It's very subtle, as she's not officially undressed, but rather her underwear tends to show due to an article of clothing being pulled slightly to the side, down, etc. For example, when she was talking to me before or after she got out of the shower, her bathrobe was a little bit open (the rope still tied) with her bra and panties peeking through. My mom was in our presence, so I figured our cousin may have had a slight wardrobe malfunction. However, another time, my mom was not present: The top of my cousin's panties was showing, as she was fully clothed, but her pants were not exactly hiding everything. While these two incidences do seem strange, I try to consider the fact that we are not only cousins, but grown adults (she's 50, I'm 34. So maybe those two factors makes her comfortable to the point where she doesn't feel uncomfortable it she had a wardrobe malfunction (assuming nothing was intentional those both times I saw her unmentionables. Also, she's married. I know that seems irrelevant, since we're talking about family, not friends. Any thoughts?

Question: Should my daughter and step daughters have equal on birthdays?

Posted: 04 May 2016 05:31 AM PDT

I'm just curious of people's opinions on this. We usually buy my step daughters (aged 5 and 7) one big gift on their birthday (last year was a bike, for example), and then just two of three really little things. We don't shower them with gifts or throw them a party, but will take them out for the day on the weekend after or something. And we always get them a card and cake. This is because their mom throws them a party, and she and her mom shower them with gifts so we always felt like it'd just be a waste. Anyway, now we have a daughter of our own and her first birthday is coming up and I know that every birthday from here on out I want to give her big parties, buy her tons of toys and take her out really nice places and just really make an effort. But I don't want my step daughters to feel like their dad is making more effort with this child, or that we are putting her first? But then In the end they get more anyway,cause they get presents and party with their mom and then from their dad too. I know it's not about the presents and stuff, but that's just what the kids will see. They will see their sister get more and I don't know if I should just make it equal or what?

Question: I need advice.. I am 12 weeks pregnant and my mom asked if she could come to my next appt. I'm 25 and married & my husband is very involved?

Posted: 04 May 2016 05:27 AM PDT

I'm only allowed to have one person back with me and our next appt we get to hear the heartbeat. So of course my husband wants to be there. I also don't want to exclude my step mom and mother in law who I'm close to as well (I feel like they will feel excluded knowing they weren't invited). I just feel like this experience is something I want to enjoy with my husband only. I don't want to hurt my moms feelings, I don't know what to tell her. My younger cousin just had a baby (the dad is not involved) so my moms sister went to all the appts, and was on the delivery room and I feel like my mom sees that and feels left out maybe. This is our first child and I just want to be private and experience the appts privately with my husband. Am I being mean?

Question: My dad doesn't want to me go to school for graphic design which I'm currently going for right now. It bothers me. How do I convince him?

Posted: 04 May 2016 05:16 AM PDT

He does not even want to talk about my school right now?

Question: Is it normal that my brother (husband) AND sister-in-law (his wife.) are fine if I have someone over at their place?

Posted: 04 May 2016 05:16 AM PDT

My brother and his wife are (bare with me I m high.) Are letting me stay with them because I was left homeless for a time and began to stay with some bad people and led to minor drug use [alcohol, Tabbacco, weed.] and wanted to help me back on my feet so I moved across the country to live with them. However they are fine if I have someone over and it leads to sex, but whenever I do hide in their bedroom and pretend to not be here, so they re not in any way involved. I m 22 he s 20 (he s a marine) and she s 19 so it could be like a new generational thing. But is it weird that we re this comfortable? I don t want to disrespect my brother and his wife by doing something to make them angry or interrupt their home life, sense of security, etc. they seem totally ok but for some reason (I m so ******* high on OG weed that) I don t. (Omg...)

Question: Why did my mom and dad do this?

Posted: 04 May 2016 05:09 AM PDT

We were in a motel with 2 beds only separated by about 3 feet. The room was kind of light and not all that dark. I could still see. Soon as the lights went out dad started messing with mom all over and then she climbed on top of him and did it. I know she knew I was watching. Why would they do this?

Question: What do you guys think?

Posted: 04 May 2016 05:08 AM PDT

I'm 36 weeks pregnant , my boyfriend moved in with me to support me and be here for when I go into labour . His mom is upset because he has a brother that's is a year old and 3 months , she says my boyfriend should be there to see his little brother learning things and watching him grow , he told her he'll still go over to visit but she's mad because he's not living there with me or staying the night there. What is the point of staying the night there ? Visiting yeah I understand but I don't understand the staying there and staying the night he's having his own baby now and when he is home his mom makes him do everything for her baby she doesn't have his dad do anything . She treats my boyfriend like that's his baby .

Question: How do I make it up to my mother that I am spending Mother's Day with my Dad and step-mother, she is furious?

Posted: 04 May 2016 04:49 AM PDT

It is my Dad's 60th birthday on Sunday so I will be with him for the weekend. My mother sees this as a betrayal of her but it is his 60th and she will have another Mother's Day plus travel is a factor so I can't do both. My mother acts like I am about to burn her house down or something with how angry she is. How do I make this up to her? She refuses to celebrate late or early when I offered to do something Monday night when I get back or another weekend.

Question: My Dad wants access to my phone, am I being OTP for saying no?

Posted: 04 May 2016 04:25 AM PDT

So after saving long and hard, I have finally made enough money to upgrade my phone to the iPhone 6s. I ordered it with my dad on the Apple website earlier today (I'm paying for it fully, I gave him the money in cash so I could use his card), and after it was paid for he notified me he insists I add his fingerprint to the phone. I'm 16, and I just feel likek giving him constant access to my phone could be a total invasion of my privacy because he can go through my conversations. He said he'll always ask permission before using it but I still feel uncomfortable with it, especially because we aren't very close. I don't have anything to hide, but that doesn't mean I need to share everything- am I in the wrong here? And how can I convince him to let the idea go?

Question: My daughter have no boyfriends and she is 21. Does it mean she is lesbian?

Posted: 04 May 2016 03:53 AM PDT

Question: Am I too hard on my kid?

Posted: 04 May 2016 03:32 AM PDT

My principal called me telling me my son is failing all of his classes. As he entered the house, I came outta nowhere beating him with my belt saying, "STUPID BOY, STUPID DUDE, WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU, YOU HAVENT BEEN STUDYING HAVE YOU, HUH HUH? He lied to my face: dad, I have just don't hit me, don't hit me. Then I still beated him with the belt saying, "YOU LIAR STOP THAT LYING TO ME BOY" He got up and ran from me I chased him down but he fell on his own and I said to him, "don't run from me" I beated him with the belt saying, "DONT YOU FROM ME, "why are you failing your classes" He said lies: because dad stop because the work is really hard. I gave him 2 whoopings, "No EXCUSES" son: OW dad stop Me: why are you failing your classes? *i gave him another 2 hits with the belt*

Question: How to tell my dad what job i want?

Posted: 04 May 2016 02:18 AM PDT

I want to work as a game director and/or producer and I am worried to tell my father this. No matter what he says i'm going to continue to go for my job. I am currently in high school but almost done and to college. I am currently taking graphic design in high school and I though that would get the point across that I want to work in this type of field but he thinks I want to take this class because there are more girls in the class than the law one he wanted me to do. He wants me to work in a field as a lawyer or something the world will always need (his words not mine). He thinks I like them because they are loud shoot em ups but I really do pay attention to story, detail, design, etc. I try to explain why I like them but he never lets me finish what i'm saying. For example Ill try to say that some of the bigger ones that make you think for every decision because they change the world can help you critically think and when i said this he just went oh so you play the educational games in a sarcastic voice. I also remember one time we were at a store and they guy in front of us was buying a game and said he might call out of work just to play it and the rest of the day all my dad did was make fun of the guy for being his age and playing games. Sorry if I am rambling on but I just want a way to tell him. Every time he asks or a related topic comes up I just get so nervous I cant even speak. All I think about is what his reaction might be and its like my throat freezes. thnx

Question: How can I get my stepfather to like me?

Posted: 04 May 2016 01:43 AM PDT

Okay, so the source of the problem is obviously he doesn't like me. Before I start, I have my mom who first went with my stepfather when they were teenagers. Let's call my mom T and my stepfather B. After a while she broke up with B and went with a new guy, M. My mom and M had two children, my half brothers. Afterwards they broke up and my mom went with my biological father (ftm transgender, and quite psychopathic and abusive as well). When my mom met him he was still a man. Let's call him G. That relationship birthed me and my two other siblings. After that my mom broke up with him and finally went with B again. They had two children so that leaves a total of 7 children in the family. So here's what's wrong. My biological father, G, would cause lots of problems for my mom and B. It was really terrible harassment and got a restraining order and court involved etc (I should mention there was a dfcs case when one of my half brothers tried to kill himself because of the abuse). My stepfather associates me with my biological father now and all the problems he caused. Is there a way I can fix this? I want my stepfather to actually like me fully, but he can't get past G. Thanks!

Question: I hate my mother.She tells everyone I m crazy and tells my father to beat me.I m quiet and she blames me for whatever happens .I hate her!!?

Posted: 04 May 2016 01:15 AM PDT

Question: My daughter came to my room crying and telling me that she didn't understand why she was grounded. Does she really not understand?

Posted: 04 May 2016 12:42 AM PDT

I grounded my daughter for 3 weeks after she was suspended from school. She received a two day out-of-school suspension for noncompliance. She is telling me that she doesn't believe she was noncompliant. She says that she was reading a book instead of taking notes in class and the teacher gave her no warnings to put the book away. He simply gave her a referral to the principal for noncompliance. I believe that it would be possible for the teacher to have given my daughter a warning and for her not to have heard it. She does have hearing related issues (she uses hearing aids) and when she is reading a book she often becomes distracted and does not pay attention to what is going on around her. At home I often have to tap her shoulder to get her attention. I'm thinking I may have been too harsh on her with the 3 weeks. She seems to not understand why she is in so much trouble. She was crying earlier today and seemed to be very upset. It does sound a bit harsh, doesn't it? I wonder if there is more to the story than what I know.

Question: How to tell my parents to....keep it down at night?

Posted: 04 May 2016 12:04 AM PDT

My room is right next to theirs and I hear EVERYTHING. I threw up one time. They do it late also and I have school and they are keeping me up. It makes me really uncomfortable and I want to find a way to tell them to keep it down but I am embarassed to talk about that to them. How can I tell them??!!

Question: How do I stop being such a spoiled brat?

Posted: 03 May 2016 11:58 PM PDT

I live in LA, Brentwood and I've been too ungrateful lately. I've been walking around my neighborhood complaining about everything and I have not even touched my car in a whole week because my dad made me mad and I didn't want anything that he gets me. I think I've been around my friends too much that I'm starting to act like them. My dad's friend and his family came to LA and they stayed in our guess house but they had a daughter my age and I laughed at what she was wearing. I will apologize but what's the quickest way? We've all made mistakes.

Question: If my father had a child with his first cousin, and later his first cousin had a child with another man. What relation is that child to me?

Posted: 03 May 2016 11:56 PM PDT

Looking for the relation of my fathers first cousin's child by another man to me. I don't need to know anyone's thoughts on inbreeding, however.

Question: Mother and big brother days?

Posted: 03 May 2016 11:18 PM PDT

Question: My last child just moved out of the house and I don't miss my kids one bit. Is it bad that I don't miss my kids living with me? Why/why not?

Posted: 03 May 2016 11:06 PM PDT

I'm a mom of 4 kids. My youngest just recently moved out of the house. I thought I was going to get empty nest syndrome pretty hard, but I haven't. When my daughter first left I first started to feel empty nest syndrome, but I lost it really quick for 2 major reasons. One is I have a lot more time to do other things. I'm an English professor. I have to write a lot as apart of my job, but there's a book I've been wanting to write for years that has nothing to do with my work. However, because of my responsilitities as a mom I never got around to it, but I've been able to spend a good amount of time writing it because my kids are gone now. The other big reason is my relationship with my husband. My relationship with my husband is the best it's ever been and I think it's because we have more time for each other now that our kids are gone. We've started a couple of hobbies together as a couple, we have a lot more romantic date nights, and the sex is better than ever. I feel closer to him than ever before. I feel guilty for not missing my kids. I feel kind of bad that I can't honestly say I want them back in the house. In fact, I really like having them out of the house. Is it bad that I don't miss my kids living with me? Why/why not?

Question: Why is my mum doing this?

Posted: 03 May 2016 11:02 PM PDT

My mum says that I can talk to her about anything or tell her anything but when I told her how terrible I was feeling for the past year she just told me to man up / grow a pair. Why would she do this?

Question: I would like to talk my relationship with brother?

Posted: 03 May 2016 10:47 PM PDT

I would like to address an issue about relationship with my brother whose 12 years and is hard to be around. It getting the point where i am getting REALLY TIRED of he's attitude and no fun for me or my family. Basically my brothers gives me hard time by saying a lot of mean comments, refusing my orders that my parents tell me to tell my bother about, and where i feel i don''t want to go out with family to avoid me and brother fighting public places. So my question is if there way solve this? or should i move out? i am 17 and still in high school, or is way i can get help with my brother he out of control he feel like he in control what he wants to do, talk **** to my parents and me including especially. Pleasure give me valid answers not invalid answers Sincely~ Angel R.

Question: Am I being emotionally abused by my mother ? I don't know If I am and I don't want to say I am only to find out I'm not.?

Posted: 03 May 2016 10:08 PM PDT

It's hard to explain but my parents are divorced and I live with my mom and step dad most of the time but ever since I was 10 my mom started drinking alot. The drinking is better now but the way she treats me is just like dirt. She yells and I know it doesn't sound bad but she seriously has issues. She only yells at me not my brother saying I'm a *****. I'm going to end up miserable etc. She beats up my step dad infront of my 13 years old brother and me and lies about so much. She's so manipulative. And some days are okay but she does it when we are studying for exams and recently even on my birthday. I have had to live with this for over 6 years and I'm tired of it. My brother sometimes is so affraid of her. He sometimes just can't sleep and thinks our mom will just grabba knife and kill us and herself in his sleep (I'm not saying she is going to do that I don't know) I mean it's not normal to have to think that of your mom.she is so unstable and it's draining me emotionally. I just want to go live with my dad. My little brother deserves so much better than this. But our step dad will Get seriously mad .

Question: Why do I find it hard to love people.?

Posted: 03 May 2016 10:05 PM PDT

I grew up in a very loving household and my entire family (parents, granparents, aunts, uncle cousins, everyone) is very close. For this reason I love my entire family with all my heart as well as our pets but I don't love anyone outside of my family. Like it feels wrong to love someone who isn't part of my family and I don't know why. I can't even say that I love my best friends that I've known since I was four. And outside of my family I don't get close to anyone. Why could this be?

Question: Dad left, should I go to school?

Posted: 03 May 2016 09:53 PM PDT

So the other night my dad accidentally slammed the door into my moms face after and argument. She got treatment for it and she's fine now. My dad got arrested but he's out now. He's not allowed to come back yet but I don't know when and if he is going to. I missed school today and I'm still not feeling mentally stable. Should I take more time off? If so how do I ask my mom?