Im dating a man who I love very much. He has two children from his previous marriage. One of his kids I get along great with however the other I don't really click with. In fact I don't really like because of his behavior. I find he acts very spoiled and is always pushing boundaries, interrupting and quick frankly I don't really trust the kid either. When we hang out with this child I don't really feel at home nor welcome. I feel like a stranger in his house and that I don't belong. I am very nice to this chid but feel the child does not respect me and his father (my boyfriend) does not seem to do much about his behavior. Is it normal to feel this way? It seems to be getting worse, not better, the more time I spend around him. I love this man a lot but not enough to sacrifice my own feeling of well being.

I know this is a bit long, but please read and try to help me out. I got engaged four months back. He was illiterate and couldn t financially support himself. But he was so caring and loving at first I decided that i would make an attempt to make him successful and until that i could provide for him. I opened a clothing store for him and made him feel that he could do something. I made my parents agree with the engagement and everything seemed right at the beginning. His mother and sister tried their best to convince me to lie my parents to get him married to me. We were just about to have our wedding in June when he finally had to close the shop because his debts were way too high. I paid everything because his mom and sister abandoned him when the debtors came for him. Once i paid all and got him released his mom and sister wanted him back and they started giving me a hard time by telling lies to him which he believed. I recently found out he was a mama s boy and also that his mother was attracted to many boys of his age. He knows that I m not wrong but he does-not have the back bone to protect me. He believes all the lies the mother and sister says and he keeps fighting with me. Now his mother wants him to live with them even after marriage without letting me live with him. I was the only daughter in my family too and was very much attached to my parents, specially my mother. But my parents decided that if its time for me to move on with a man they would let me go. But my fiance s mom says she cannot live without her son. He left me alone when I was sick and crying for him to come back. When my father finally put the word of separation they are finding fault with my parents saying that I should have agreed to share him with his mother and sister and that it is no big deal. They don t want us to separate because of the financial benefits. They forgot how he suffered without a job and education and then they didn t do anything to make him a proper man. I still love him because I can t forget how he made me feel. I m suffering from a great deal of depression of losing my wedding and losing the man i loved for one whole year. I feel I ve been cheated. I know his mom very closely and she said she doesn t even care if i die. His sister who also has an unsuccessful marriage wanted purposely to break us up because she was jealous of her own brother. I don t know how I should face this situation. Please help me. Thanks in advance. If i don't like seeing a counselor and has no one to share my sorrow what must i do?

My ex boyfriend and I have a daughter together. I just got a job offer 1,000 miles away. Trial is coming up in July. All of the sudden he has been being nice and wanting us to go to counseling . He also said we should consider getting married. I don't trust him whatsoever, he's been trying to ask me out. He also apologized and felt he owed me so much. I don't trust anyone and still want to go to trial to get approval to relocate with my daughter. What are your experiences?

I was at the park with my daughter and chasing her cuz she didn t want to come with me. (Not a big deal!) This guy who plays sports with my husband was at the park and my husband was out of earshot and the guy said "that s the life you chose"..... I was like yeah, indeed.... I M quite happy married 33 year old mom. Was he just conversating or does that seem rude? Maybe it depends if he has kids?

So I get a call from my wife, & the first words out of her mouth are "Did you meet up with a girl named Jessica on a weekend?" (verbatim) My wife s name happens to be Jessica. Of course, idk wtf she s talking about. She goes on to tell me that she was going through a google chat between a friend & I & she saw a text showing me asking my friend why he was acting so weird around Jessica that past weekend, and getting upset at him for opening up his mouth about something. Mind you, these texts are from January of 2014, & this is May of 2016. After reviewing the conversation in full, & much thought, I did remember what that particular conversation was between my friend and I, and the Jessica that I was talking about was my then girlfriend (my now wife). I even remembered that I had got upset at my friend for implying to a 3rd party that I was "talking" to someone (a married, 3 children having female friend from high school that I was not "talking" to like that. So I get upset because I felt that my wife s question implied that I did something wrong; it was as if she was trying to catch me in a lie. She says she was just curious, but I m having a hard time buying that because the question was brought about from only 2 texts, buried in countless texts that span several years between my friend and I. Am I overreacting by getting upset? Was my wife just curious? Or did she really think that I may have cheated or done something otherwise unsavory prior to our engagement and marriage?

Gay marriage is accepted but why is incestuous marriage still looked down on? Does love have a limit then?

Is it considered emotional abuse if your spouse is always trying to make you jealous by making very flattering comments about other women or men, staring at other women or men while with you and chatting up women or men, comparing you to other men and women, and flashing smiles while staring at other men and women while you are out and giggling at them while chatting them up when they rarely give you any physical affection?

I have not told off my sister yet but I am offended by what she said. SHOULD I BE? She has a crude sense of humor. Yesterday our daughter's 3rd grade teacher sent a note advising us of misbehavior in the classroom. She was getting a spanking when my sister stopped by. I told her to stay out of the living room but she looked in at Lynne laying over Daddy's lap. My sister joked about everything with me! Lynne laying over Daddy's lap, how my Husband was spanking slowly (taking his time),, about how Lynne had her skirt up around her waist so my sister joked about "if Mommy wears silky white panties too when she get's a spanking". I don't meant to sound crude there. Should I tell my sister that type of humor is not funny?

My wife has a friend who is very dominant and manipulating. It's come to the point where my wife listens more to my friend and does not see that all this friend wants is to break us apart. Any aggression towards that friend will backfire. How can I regain my wife's trust and commitment to me? The other friend is a woman. I treat my wife with respect, never cheated never abused. I have no contact with that friend. She interprets what I say as bad. Now my wife thinks I am mistreating her and not respecting her and not letting her be happy. Total BS! I lost all power to negotiate and argue about this. Can't even mention friend or she'll block and get defensive. I don't know how to reach my wife again, on an emotional level. The rest of our relationship is great including intimacy.This friend will make her leave me. I have no idea why her friend is doing that. Either she likes it or has some mental issues herself.

Ok, I am a mother of two, one 6yr old and one 5 month old, before I married my husband i stayed on my own with our son, my place was always clean however I am not a clean freak, so my bathroom would get a little messy in the mornings but that's it, a friend could drop by anytime and still find my place clean. The problem is that after I married, I found myself cleaning all the time, obviously because there is another adult in the home, with my work schedule, I found it hard to keep up and i started having anxiety attacks because I wanted to be perfect. After a series of attacks and counseling sessions I started to stopped caring about being a neat freak and developed the idea that it will get cleaned when I get to it, my attitude and self confidence completely changed, I don't know who I am anymore, my husband is constantly criticizing me as a wife and comparing me. I just don't care about cleaning and cooking anymore, although I still cooking because we need to eat. Currently I work full time at home and stay home with my 5 month old, I wish I had a team partner but my husband just responds that because I am a women this is just how it is. What should I do, I feel so discouraged.

why do men always file for divorce, and we ladies don't?

I was about to get engaged to a man 4 years older than me but after we got introduced tone another 2 yeas ago I fell in love with him from one side however he didn't since my iq though I am a medicine graduate is lower than recommended and I have a very poor memory therefore he broke up with me after 2 months of talking o the phone for those reasons . in the same year he quickly made a relationship with a pharmacist and he got married to her. I told him I love him and he answered tha

We are about to experience our first EVER month having extra money now that we paid off our 15 year long credit card debt. This means we can afford things we couldn't to improve our life (namely a bunch of things other people take for granted like a babysitter). I'm actually pretty excited about this new routine of having extra cash! But sadly, getting things back into routine sexually is proving to be hard (heh). She's on birth control now, so we are "ready to start", I just don't know how to reintroduce it back into our lives... She lives a pretty busy life. She has online courses to get her bachelor's, she and I both work full time, she has a 2nd job that is part time online, and she has "low energy" and sleeps a lot. MY life is kind of busy but not as much as hers. I picked up all the chores she doesn't do as well as the ones I already had, I have invested a decent amount of time in self development, and I take care of the kids and the animals since my energy is still good. "Sex" hasn't been a part of our routine in over 5 years (our 20's)... I also need to mention that I have some guilt for something I did in the past. I was a little "TMI" with her sister on our sex life and my wife got angry and told me she regretted doing anything sexually with me. I was 23 when I did this, so you can imagine how mature I was then (I'm 34 this year). I've repented hard for this and she says she forgives me, but I'm still ashamed of the way I acted.... Any suggestions on my approach?

If it's not obvious , I am asking because I so often see people here at Y/A suggest counseling as the solution when the wife has no libido . Like this https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20160526092748AAAjBk6

My wife and I have been married for 15yrs. Sex has always been an issue with us being that we have mismatched libidos. I desire much more sex than she does. In the past , we averaged 1-2X's every 4-6 weeks, which was plenty for her. I myself want it at least 1-2X's a week. See the problem? My wife's attitude is basically, put up and shut up. Now, we haven't had sex yet in 2016. She is having some issues with her back, says she's in pain, but has no problems going walking and jogging with her friends. I am a self taught masseuse, and she reaps those benefits whenever she needs it. Every so often, but not always, I try to get sensual with it as a means to initiate some kind of intimate, sexual encounter with her. My attempts are met with a harsh,Knock it off!!!&Why does it always have to turn into sex with you!!! How am I to respond to that? I really try to talk to her about our non-existent sex life. Her responses are usually along the lines, It's just not a priority to me, & Look, we have 2 kids, it is what it is& If you were more, or if you did (fill in blank) then maybe things will be different. There just seems to be an endless amount of hoops that need to be jumped through only to be met with more. Sorry so long, any real advise would be muck appreciated. Also, please don't respond with the scented candle, back rub, nice dinner, more house chore crap.. Been there done that. Thank you.

who is he often? when u think about it?

I never legally changed my last name after I got married almost 5 years ago, and my husband and I have been separated for almost 4 months, pending a divorce. I have used his last name during the course of our marriage, with the exception of my bank account, driver's license, etc. Almost all of my social media profiles and online accounts have a display name of my true first name followed by his last name, rather than my true legal name. When possible, I will enter a birth name or legal name that is my actual name, but my display name always includes his last name. I dislike my legal last name, but I just never got around to legally changing it to his last name before we separated. Our children have his last name, and I would like to continue using his last name. He recently asked me to stop using his last name. He is upset because if someone looks me up on a search engine, he is included in the results, and if someone looks him up, I am included in the results. This is especially apparent when doing an image search. Essentially, this question has multiple parts... sorry! 1.) Can he actually require me to stop using his last name - meaning - are there any repercussions associated with continuing to use his last name? 2.) Will legally changing my last name to his last name have any impact on our separation or divorce? 3.) Is it even legally possible to change my last name to his during or after the divorce? PLEASE NOTE: I am the one who initiated the separation and divorce, and I am not clinging to using his last name as a way to remain connected with him. I simply want my last name to be the same as our children's last name. Also, as I already stated, I do not like my legal last name. I wouldn't mind changing my legal last name to something completely different, but I would much rather have my last name match our children's last name. I have never used his last name for anything business or commercial related, only for social media and other online services, like an old photobucket account... for example. I plan to ask my attorney about this during my initial consultation. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't doing anything wrong by using the last name as part of my online alias in the meantime.

I've seen some of the answers on here and I think there's a great divide between groups. I'm just wondering which group is the majority so I can know "who's right" and "who's wrong" at this point. Clearly, this forums believe there's an absolute truth, I just want to know what that truth ends up being. Please, weigh in and give me your reason why you think that.

My husband has been married before and divorced his ex wife for incompatibility. I married him almost 4 years ago and I'm considering divorce him. Is that a sin? I just found out that how marries a divorced person is considered adultery. I don't plan to remarry.

We have a parenting agreement in place that states that he will have him for spring break from school, 1st half of summer, and every other Christmas. We live in NC and he just up and left and moved to Florida and expects me to drive my son to him or halfway for his visitation. Is that allowed? Can he make me do that?

My husband and I have been married 5 years I have helped pay for everything we have cars trucks animals furniture and other things with the exception of the home we live in and the property we live on he inherited that from his grandparents I have livestock use them to make money which pays the bills I also work a job outside the home...Should I be upset if I have to get permission to use the truck and trailer that I helped pay for? I want to sell some animals at an auction that is a bit further to drive because they will bring me 3 times the money, my husband says I can not use truck and trailer. The truck is basically new less that 80000 on the odometer I paid for the tires not long ago and had it serviced I have had no accidents bump ups or anything EVER. The trailer I bought used before we were married but I still need permission to use that also. Am I fooling myself or should I run?? I want to point out that when I have used it in the past he flipped out it did not get hurt at all he just did not want me to use it. I got a call from a friend who works with a rescue and they needed an injured horse moved asap so she called me...they offered gas and anything else I needed if I could move the horse for them. I called him at work and explained the situation and he said NO I asked why and he said because he did not want me to... he raced home in about 30 mins in what normally takes an hour...I was getting fuel at a gas station and he pulls in sideways tires screeching and yells at me to get my @$$ home and park the truck I had my friend in the passenger seat she was terrified he then starts yelling that he is going to press charges because the truck is in his name....I am supposed to forget that this happened and move on because he apologized for his behavior he always he is not trying to control me...

Correlation does not mean causation - BUT studies show it IS the causation!!! "Finances are the leading cause of stress in a relationship, according to a survey of people in a relationship or partnership released by SunTrust Bank. Some 35 percent of all respondents experiencing relationship stress said money was the primary cause of friction. (Annoying habits came in second, at 25 percent.) Among respondents with relationship stress aged 44 to 54, 44 percent said money was the primary cause." "In an article by Ron Leiber of the New York Times in 2009, the odds of a marriage ending in divorce due to finances is approximately 45 percent. Many of the reasons behind this high rate are the lack of discussions couples have before they get married regarding their views on finances, what debt they are bringing into the marriage, experience they have with budgets, what they envision their financial future to be, and many more." "Can money buy happiness? According to the old adage: No. But a Harvard Business School professor says yes. But how much happiness you can buy depends on how you spend your money. "We're really underspending on the things that make us most happy," says Michael Norton, a Harvard Business School professor, who has researched the science of spending." What's the truth then? Does money NOT buy happiness? Maybe the reverse needs to be asked: Does the LACK of money result in unhappiness? I've been told happiness is serving others, I don't buy it. Do you?

I understand he has roots. But I hate it here. There s literally nothing to do. We re too close to his family (1-5 miles) and too far from mine (300-800). We have a baby boy and I want him to grow up knowing that there s more than these 10 square miles. It was like pulling teeth to get my husband to go on a week-long honeymoon let alone move. I grew up going on vacation at least once a year (and we weren t rich or privileged by any means) but other than the honeymoon it s been almost five years since I ve been anywhere. He wonders why I m so stressed out all the time but it s because I feel like I m trapped here. Every time we discuss moving, I mean a couple states away and he laughs and says only a few miles away. I m going crazy over here! What do I do??

No I do not want a pass, nor use it for a pass. This would only be for her.

I've only ever known the former, but starting this month I'll start to see the latter. I'm curious to know what new challenges we'll face now that we're no longer paying ALL the money to people/businesses we were in debt to. Prior to today, we could never pay for a sitter, go on a vacation, go on a date, or even afford therapy or a gym membership. So it will be nice to finally get things our peers have had since day one in their marriage; but what new challenges/arguments will occur between me and my wife now that there will be money to invest/spend? Or will life be hunky-dory now and I have no reason to be anxious/overthinking?

Is indian bride has to show her naked body to there future ML in order to make sure they are physically perfect & there is no any spot or skin problem??

Anyone have any encouraging stories of how the started over and have a successful marriage? Wondering if taking the risks again is worth it or if avoidance of such deep comitment has worked out for people.

is it cheating.. if you and your wife is having marriage problems and currently live in different states but still try to work it out, but she decides to start talking to other men outta anger and Start flirting and sending sexual pictures to each other, but now wants to make our family work...how do i take this? she has never been truthful in any of her friendships/relationships, all her stories never add up. we been together for almost 10 years and i want her, but not to sure if it will ever change...i gave her the option to be truthful and honest and i would forgive and we could work on the trust with marriage counseling...etc..believe me im no angel, but i would never cheat!!

1. What attracted you to your friend? 2. Why were you separated? For how ling have you been separated? How often do you still see each other or write letters? 3. What questions would you likely ask each other if you got together?