I have been seeing a man 35 years my senior for 18 months. We are both married. We see each other every night for some three hours. We socialise together and chat all day. But the strain of an affair is getting to me now

Ok so me and my ex had a baby and almost 4 year relationship. She got on drugs and completely betrayed me. Cheating lying ect. She says she s going to take my child away from me but I deserve custody of my daughter more than she does. I don t want anything to do with her. She s psychologically abusive and holds my daughter over my head. Right now I have my daughter, birth certificate, and her social. What would happen if I moved far away and started a life with just me and my daughter. I have no proof that my ex does meth and she s really smart about hiding the evidence. She s had a job longer than me and I m afraid she could get custody over my daughter in court. Could I get in any kind of trouble if I just left with my daughter and didn t say anything to my ex? No court orders have been made whatsoever.

He has 8 kids from 6 different women (only three of whom he knows and only two of the women he had kids with he was ever married to). I am worried my mother will get mad if I call his new wife by an old wife's name. At his last wedding it happened by accident as two of his wives were named Emily and my mother snapped at me. She is pretending this wedding is his first and telling people "he is finally getting married". He is 44 right now and I am 38.

My wife of seventeen years (whom I love dearly) insists on having more children! She told me today if I don't continue to father more children she will leave me. I think she is addicted to being pregnant if that is possible. This is not the woman I married. What should I do?

A woman who stays with a married man for over 15 years knowing he is married, and allows herself to be used / manipulated / strung along by him. But who truly loves him, sees him as her best friend, and remains faithful to him. Do you have a negative or positive opinion about this woman?

My brother isn't doing too well right now and my friend thinks that he may just want to meet me to discuss my brother but we can discuss my brother over the phone or through text. He didn't say he wanted to talk about my brother, also on another occasion he told me that he would be coming to my town and asked me if I would like to grab lunch with him and his friends.

My wife for instance used to make me feel like I had an angel on earth. But after 2 kids, she's walking around in sweats with puke stains, oversized shirts, bandannas... I mean it's just disgusting. And don't get me started on sex... Every time I try to get her in the mood by rubbing her shoulders, kissing her neck or whispering how much I love her in her ear, she rejects me with "I'm sorry, the kids are a handful and I'm tired." My youngest son has tasted her breast more times this week than I have in the past 3 months. That's fine, I won't force her to do anything she doesn't want to do. That being said, I'm a healthy red blooded male with libido and needs. So I've taken to watching women play with themselves on webcam, going to strip clubs to satiate my urges. Am I wrong for finding this compromise when my wife doesn't want to do right by me?

I heard one actor had to pay his wife about $100 million.why the f he has to pay her the money he got from putting his effort while his wife becomes a millinaiore without anything. That really pisses me off

My husbands 27 yr old brother lives with us and he won t work or do anything. I m a housewife and attending school. My husband is supporting all 3 of us but we can never make ends meet. My husbands mom and sisters keep telling us we better take care of the brother but they won t and never have even helped us financially. Now we have to drive him to Nashville this week and I ve been begging and borrowing money from my family! I keep telling my husband if his brother won t help himself let him go and be homeless because he s causing us too many arguments and financial issues! We re always stressed out and we haven t even had a chance to enjoy our (4month)marriage because of him. I just need someone to talk to.

This question assumes you both are the same age, give or take 3 years. And it assumes that you married them for reasons that are legit (like you love their personality or you love their character). But what if you found yourself one day in a parent/child dynamic where you have to baby your spouse because they won't face their fears, or deal with their anxiety, or they are irresponsible as a parent, or they make lousy homemakers, or some other "you should have learned this as a kid" kind of situation; what do you do when the other person just can't be treated like an equal because they aren't capable (or are unwilling) to be an equal? What do you do? Let's say you still treated them with respect and dignity like they were an equal, so you gave them the entitlement of being your equal; would you still feel upset that there were areas that you had to constantly hold their hand on or do for them since they weren't mature enough to handle it themselves? And if you are the "kid" in your marriage, is there ever a level of honesty with yourself that you HAVE to have your spouse as a "parent" in order for you to function? Like if you can't make business calls out of fear of authority or being called names; are you self aware enough to know that you should be humble asking your spouse to make these calls for you? Or do you believe you are an equal even though they have to make these phone calls for you? Lastly, how to get OUT of this dynamic without therapy and have REAL equals? I don't care if you would have never been married to a person like this, some of us ARE and we need help! So please, either answer the question, or move along. I don't know why you would feel the need to speak up like this is some blog site or something. This is a Q&A forum, if you don't have an answer, then don't open the question! For those that don't understand this dynamic but want to answer, here's how it works. It works 2 ways actually. (1) A spouse feels like an authority figure over the other person and treats them like a child or like a possession because they are an egomaniac. (2) A spouse feels like they aren't ready for the world and they impose the parent role on their spouse because they need protection or shelter from the world they are not ready to face yet... #1 is more common, but I happen to be in #2.

She says it's harmless but he is the one she chats the most with.

I honestly don't get it. Happiness as we know it is really just "elation". Elation is a brief emotion that comes and goes depending on what's happening in that given moment. You're not going to be elated when your wife breaks your phone, so does that mean you're not in a happy marriage at that point? No. It just means she made you upset. But it is emotionally impossible to be elated and sad at the same time. Pleasure is a brief emotion that comes as the result of getting something you want or when you convince your body to release hormones. Watching TV is pleasing, having sex is pleasing, talking to each other is pleasing, receiving gifts is pleasing, and sometimes even arguing can be pleasing. But that doesn't mean you are in a happy marriage. It just means you two know how to please each other. You can be rotten to the core but give each other what they want and still be pleasing. There's no relationship between pleasure & happiness. Contentedness is happiness. Contentedness means that even if she does break your phone, or pleases you, or makes you smile, it doesn't matter; you will be satisfied with your life, even if your spouse's craziness never goes away. You are satiated just with them being there and you don't need more than that because YOU ARE HAPPY. So I don't get it, why are there so many people who don't understand this? Just because you can pop a ***** doesn't mean they make you happy. And just because they made you upset doesn't mean they made you unhappy.

I am newly seperated. My ex husband and I got into an argument and took my 2 year old son to his moms and won t give me access to him So unfortunately I am stuck at home with no one. I m not used to this at all . I also have diagnosed separation anxiety and PTSD so being alone is very difficult for me. I am not close to my family so I can t have anyone come stay with me. I just would like to know what I can do to ease my mind and not worry and stress so much. I do have a part time Job so mainly at nights is what I am having trouble with. No bashing please

Im a 23 year old man with a job i do boxing and got my own spot...i just want to be with one women instead of having lots of women who priorities not good

I was talking to my mom about finding someone I want to be with (seriously, and get married to) and she mentioned that atleast one of the people has to come from a stable home... I am someone who comes from a broken home, so I think she means that I should try to find someone who comes from a stable marriage home... All the successful relationships around me at least the man or woman comes from a stable home... So can anyone prove her wrong or is there some truth to this?

I'm going to divorce because we were in a sexless marriage. However I don't feel comfortable explaining this private issue to work people or acquaintances. What should I say?

She seduced my until I had no choice but to give in. I didn't want to do it but I had no choice. Feminist would call it borderline rape but in the end I consented because I just wanted to get it over with. She took off the condom when she got on top and would not allow me to pull out. Now she is pregnant. What should I do? She's wanted me to divorce my wife for years and now it seems like she'll get her wish. What am I to do?

And when I say anxiety is bad, I mean that she makes up every excuse possible to not leave her comfort zone or to not face her fears, and it interferes with your marriage with her or with what the family "can" and "can't" do just so your wife isn't a crazy ball of "hot mess". Obviously as the man of the household you either have to help her through it (don't do this, I tried for 6 years and I've got NO WHERE), leave them behind, or force them to go along with you and stop being a baby (which only works if she trusts you - chances are she doesn't). So how do you cope? I need new strategies since I obviously can't fix my wife, and she's never going to seek therapy or treatment. Disclaimer: All answers from Liberals, MGTOW, MRA, Reddit/4chan Trolls, or SJW who tell me to divorce, to be a man (without providing details on how), to kill myself, or to get counseling will be ignored.

My wife has an anxiety disorder. She's scared of anything that has a risk of harming her. A lot of things happened when she was a kid, so I completely understand WHY she has it. Her Dad's reckless accidents, living in the ghetto and feeling unsafe, having her brother join a gang, public humiliation, her Mom planting ideas in her head... Lots and LOTS of reasons. But she never learned coping strategies; even as an adult. My wife deals with her anxiety by being distracted to inhibit her thoughts. When I met her, she never told me about her anxiety issues, she just told me she's "shy" and let me take the lead since I was "hyperactive". But her trust didn't last long because when I became less active she had time to "think" again; and from then forward, I've been under the constant eye of scrutiny. Lucky for us, we delivered our 1st kid within the 1st year of dating, and we all know how busy babies can make us! I thought that was the solution, but I was wrong. When the first one was almost old enough to go to school, we had to have another... Eventually my wife realized how expensive kids were and got a job to help us get out of debt... Today, my wife is focused on her career and academics as a distraction to keep her mind off of her fears and anxiety. But she's doing this at the expense of our marital/social/family life. Her lack of a work/life balance has me in a panic ever since she started working outside the home 6 years ago. All because she never learned to cope... When she's home, she inhibits her thoughts by taking online classes, playing on Facebook (and being exposed to more things that make her think too much), playing games on her phone, and watching movies. All mindless things that help her stay/remain distracted and not have to think too much. This constantly need for distraction/compulsion is actually crippling her ability to parent, be my wife, or be relevant to our peers. Honestly, it really impacts me the most - this is not the life I wanted. I didn't think I'd have to say this, but I love my wife and I'm not going to leave her. Just because you Liberals treat marriage like it's something that can be easily thrown away, doesn't mean that I have those values/morals too. When my wife is having a moment of calm, we have the best time ever! But there's just way too many fears in that woman, and she's constantly distracting herself. Apparently before we met she pulled out all her eyelashes as a nervous habit (among many others).

I have a life question that I can't really talk to anyone in my family about. It's been confusing me and eating me up inside... I separated from my husband about a year ago because our relationship was awful. He was mean to my kids, neglectful, and treated me like I didn't exist. I met a really great man and have been in a relationship with him. I moved in with him and he is really great to me. Sometimes he yells at my kids if theyre not listening but it's nothing like my ex. My ex has been texting me, telling me he's changed, he wants his family back, he wants to be the husband that I never had, and he promises he will be amazing. I loved the man I'm with, but I can't seem to file for divorce. It seems crazy, but I can't hurt either one of them. I think i just want to go back to my ex because life was a little easier. With the man Im with now, he lives a little farther, and I've had to hide him from a few of my family members. I'm happy with him overall, but I can't pull the plug on my other relationship with my ex... What should I do????

If your partner is always trying to make you jealous could this be considered emotional abuse?

My ex wife has completely ruined our daughter, she never tells her no. She instigates fights between my daughter and now wife, who I have been married to for 3 years. The rudeness she has for my wife is unbelievable, when I try to correct my own daughter, my ex of course makes a huge scene and keeps me from seeing my child. Basically our court order is set up at my ex wife's discretion. Her father is a judge, and a respected one at that. Her father does not like me much, because I got his little girl pregnant, which kept her from going to college. I did not stop her from going to college. My daughter is 10, and I feel as if I can't parent my own child. My wife tried to implement boundaries, by giving her some discipline. That did not go over well at all, basically my ex told my new wife, if you ever so much as try to correct my child, I will fix you. I don't know what else to do.

We've been married 16 years and gone through a lot together, good and bad. I am not ready to give up on her. A day ago my wife told me she was leaving me for a woman! Now, they have only been texting, maybe met a few times and kissed. Nothing more for sure. We talked about it. We're talking, she's still coming home. There's no fights. My wife agreed to not go further for a few days. And I am trying to win her back. Please someone help me! I don't want to loose her now. We have a teenage son too. She still loves me but this new relationship is so exciting and tempting. I understand the thrill. She's interested in women too obviously. All I know is the other woman's phone number, maybe name. Not looking for dirty revenge tricks, nothing illegal!!! I want to keep my wife. Should I confront the other woman and tell her to back off? What if that backfires and my wife leaves me? Please help! The other woman and my wife are texting a LOT! I'm afraid she is fueling my wife's decisions to leave. Wife still loves me, we talk like adults no drama. And we still have sex that she enjoys. So it's not too late. She says she still loves me. I don't know if that other woman even knows that she is breaking up a family with child. Can I and should I call her and tell her to back off? I don't want to escalate things. But the other woman needs to leave my family alone!

So basically im at a dead end. The only available women at my age are either divorced moms or single moms with a black BF. Both choices are not appealing after dating them; aka damaged goods / cost-ineffective / money drain. Sure, theres no substitute for a good lady that provides love n care n listens to you. But now i've to come to terms with reality n my physical needs. Can prostitutes and a filipina housemaid be a valid sub for a wife ? Im familiar with prosties n know which budget / enviro to pick em from. And i almost always had asian housemaids take care of me. Any advice ? Thoughts ?

My wife left and won't get into contact with me or my son anymore. She just up and disappeared without a trace and I can't find her at all! I've been searching for her for so long... but its like she doesn't want to be found! This is tearing my family apart, and I've even grown distant from my 15 year old son because of this. My mind is restless with thoughts of finding her. I've even begun to do bad things in the name of finding her... Its like I'm becoming someone else... A different man. I try to hide my feelings under a mask but nothing works... What should I do?

My husband quit his job over a month ago. He's a truck driver. He has been waiting on a lady who is supposed to do a lease purchase on a truck for him to be an "owner operator". She has had one problem after another getting this process done and he refuses to take any full time jobs because he is waiting on her. The truck has a mechanical problem, so he thinks he can sit around and wait. Yes, I do work.. But- he has only been doing "temp" assignments, which bring in very little $. I have found several jobs that he is qualified for, but he refuses to do them because of this lease purchase desire. What is right? Shouldn't he be taking ANY full time job to feed his family and pay bills, or should he just wait around on this woman who has thus far given him the run around?

hello all, i want to divorce as i married in the temple with a girl. with no evidence and no friends but my family knew n my friends knew abt this,. i have the details of lodge, flight my full name n her name with my surname, bus,pic with no garland, but kumkum is there.. can ask for divorce? plz help she been with my family for 3 years n now she telling bullshit stories , i want to divorce as i married in the temple with a girl. with no evidence and no friends but my family knew n my friends knew abt this,. i have the details of lodge, flight my full name n her name with my surname, bus,pic with no garland, but kumkum is there.. can ask for divorce? she been with my family for 3 years n now she telling bullshit stories plz help

Okay so we are both 25. I am a single mom with a college education, own my own home, and have a career which I have been at 2 years now. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 1.5 years. In this time he has had two jobs which both all together he kept for 3 months. He's never been able to keep a job. He drinks then doesn't show up for work. He blames depression. I talked him into getting therapy but I don't even know if he's following through with it. He says he won't look for a job until he feels better. It's been about 2 months now. He sits at my house and stays up all night and plays video games. I've had to dip into my savings account to keep us afloat. I pay for everything. Including g cigarettes and everything when we go out. I'm so fed up. I beg him to get a job but he says he needs more time but yet he's not too depressed to go out with friends or drink every night. He says all I care about is money and that I'm selfish and spoiled. I am so fed up with this. What do I do?

I am pregnant with the first kid and i am really really excited.Few days ago i came home from my office and had an appointment with the doctor but my husband didn't want to go with me just because he wanted to watch TV show.We had an argument and he said he doesn't want to be there with me during delivery because it's useless,doctors have to assist delivery,there is nothing for me to do there.I immediately left home and went to my parents.I am taking divorce because i don't like him anymore.What sort of husband wouldn't want to be there with his wife for the most special moment of her life.He said sorry later but i don't want to live with him anymore,he always does this,hurt me by ignoring me and than apologize.I don't have any respect for him because i am convinced that he is very selfish person,he is always there for sex never for care.My family thinks i am being really sensitive but it was an arrange marriage and i don't like him,he is a complete turn off,i don't want to sleep with him again.Can you take divorce during pregnancy? I meant can Muslims take divorce during pregnancy?

I found my wife s underwear in her car. When I asked her about it she said when she went out for drinks with coworkers she was peeing at her car that was parked far away from the bar. She said ahenhad tonpee really bad and couldnt hold itnfor the 30 minute ride home. She didn t have anything to wipe with and when she was driving she took them off and threw them in the back, because they were wet from her pee.

When trying to help my wife she and she gets frustrated at my attempts she will at times start to yell at me. Makes me want to shut down and close off. Ten minutes later she acts like nothing happened. I don't bounce back that quick. I don't yell back and I feel like I am hurting our relationship by not addressing the yelling. I feel it will make things worse. Like I am not sympathizing with her. Relationships are about boundaries and I guess its also important to establish them.

I know some people are judgemental but why does it matter as long as both people are happy? After all age is just a number Some people who will read my question, will think i'm a troll but this is a true question. I've battling with myself for years and had lost all hope till this brilliant and kind person appeared in my life. He's the only person that thinks i'm unique, pretty and sees my true spirit. This is not a dilemma but a one-way street. No other guy ever liked me, they all thought i'm weird, ugly, boring, plain etc. P.S: No I don't intend or want to have children. I just want to live in peace with someone that cares for me for my remaining years @Anon (the most recent one) : You are bitter and mean. Didn't you read the question? What if the woman can't find anyone else? Also relationships aren't about sex. Communication is more important @Mike: There are some stereotypes in your answers. First of all, age is not relevant of experience of maturity. Example: Some 18 y.old can be more mature than some 25 y.olds. Also not all people have the same experiences in life. Not all 24 y.olds like going to clubs. Some prefer classical music or jazz. And not all 24 y.olds want to have kids

@zin yes that is true but being married wouldn't stop me from experiences.... @wen um I have to highly disagreed big time. Just because I have had five other bfs before doesnt mean I don't know anything about love that is just be. I love my bf to death an we've been together two years almost we want to get married but we're not rushing anything but we are soulmates. He's the only real bf I've had I know myslef and know my heart I do not need other relationship to know what love is an what it feels like. Please never say that to anyone again.

I'm about to and it seems like it'll be extra sexy and passionate because he's not really mine. How was it when u did it? I want to know what to expect.

Its almost 16 months now since we got engaged and staying together.Due to the tough economic times we are passing,i thought it wise that we go and stay with my parents so that we can save money for our wedding ceremony since we will not be paying rentals.The other reason was that my family depends on me so it was hard for me to take care of two families at the same time.My parents are not working due to health problems.My wife agreed that we should do that.Now am surprised she wants to move away from us.She says my parents are too much talkative so she wants to force me to go and look for our own house.She is not working.She has complained to me several times but i always find her complaints to be false.My family loves her so much and she was warmly welcomed into our house. Now am having a tough time.We agreed that we will save up to a period of 12 months so that our dreams should come true.We have been at my parents house for 2 months now and moving out now will affect my programs as we will not be able to save and at the same time i will not be able to support my family enough.Most times we are talking as a family because she always wants to be alone.We have a child together and i could think that maybe she is with me because of the child. I always see her regretting having engaged to me.This is making me to always be confused so much that its affecting my work performance and i cant concentrate on my studies.I love my wife but i cant move out now.

I'm in my 30's. I have a mental disease but I take medication for it. I'll graduate from community college soon. I want to work in the healthcare field one day. My experience with females isn't vast. So I still want to date more females and have romantic/sexual experiences with them. But eventually I would want to get married and give my parents grandkids to adore. I'll be in my 40's when I finally become an RN fluent in two languages. I understand modern technology can help me avoid the pitfalls of making a baby when I'll be in my 40's. What does everyone think? What age should my future wife be if I do marry in my 40's? What's worse is that I'm starting to have early symptoms of ED, been having them for almost seven years, but the symptoms are going away thanks to some lifestyle changes of mine. I hear that ED can ruin a marriage. Any advice will help. Can I still marry a healthy woman and have children when I'm in my 40's. I don't plan on retiring until I'm 85 at least.

I met a really sweet guy. We've only been dating for a few months....we're both adults in our 30's and he has said as long as things continue well he'd like to get engaged and set a date to marry after being together for a year. He's really eager to have a wife and kids. He's really smart. Has a Phd is engineering, has a great job at probably the most desirable tech company in the U.S. and, I'm sure, easily makes $150,000+ per year. However... He hasn't talked a specific amount, but has let on that he has big debt with college and his father's health bills -apparently his father has come overseas twice to visit and each time had MAJOR surgery that the traveler's health insurance wouldn't pay for (rather, only paid a certain amount and my bf had to take up the rest). He often says he's in no place to buy a home, nicer car, and travel overseas for vacation. He's 33.... Money doesn't mean anything to me as long as he can support himself and contribute. I'm only a teacher, but I'm scheduled to be debt free by next summer and managed to save $50,000 as an emergency fund. It's been hard work getting myself to this point! To be honest, I'm afraid of marrying a guy with debt.

So my wife is bisexual and we have an open marriage, so for the last few months we've been sleeping with this gorgeous college grad. She's just like my wife, smart/educated has a full time job. She just graduated Yale and has already accepted a job as an architect. Now my wife and I have been talking about having children. My wife told me that the woman that we've been sleeping with wants to have a baby as well and the woman wants me to be the father. I feel a little awkward but I love my wife and care about this woman more then anything. And she doesn't want money, because she has plenty of it. What should I do??

I am getting married in a few months, me and my husband are now together for 2.5 years approximately. I met him when I was 21 now I am 23, he is four years older then me so 27 (24 and 27 now). In the beginning it felt like he was the person for me, sparks and all we were intimate. Now things have faded from my side I don't like kissing him or touching him, he lives in montreal Quebec and I lived in a small town in Ontario, we met through mutual friends. I don't really find him as attractive anymore nothing has changed when I saw him...he's still spontaneous. I'm also afraid of my brother in law's wife I don't get the greatest vibe from her, she isn't very welcoming at all. So I'm kind of scared to move to montreal...is this normal to feel the way I am feeling?...he does see me once every 1 and a half month since he lives miles away from me. Do you think its the distance that is making the feelings fade? When I see him my feelings come back... Sorry I just wanted to fix (23 and 27) Also should I keep distance from my brother in law's wife, I try to get to know her but she doesn't really even bother getting to know me Whenever my fiancé comes down to visit, I don't like kissing him I back off. And don't really like being intimate I'm not really crazy about it, and also I talk to him every single day on the phone and keep in touch with him, do you think it might be because there is no time to miss him cause he's constantly there?

I am getting married in a few months, me and my husband are now together for 2.5 years approximately. I met him when I was 21 now I am 23, he is four years older then me so 27 (24 and 27 now). In the beginning it felt like he was the person for me, sparks and all we were intimate. Now things have faded from my side I don't like kissing him or touching him, he lives in montreal Quebec and I lived in a small town in Ontario, we met through mutual friends. I don't really find him as attractive anymore nothing has changed when I saw him...he's still spontaneous. I'm also afraid of my brother in law's wife I don't get the greatest vibe from her, she isn't very welcoming at all. So I'm kind of scared to move to montreal...is this normal to feel the way I am feeling?...he does see me once every 1 and a half month since he lives miles away from me. Do you think its the distance that is making the feelings fade? When I see him my feelings come back...