In terms of money, my marriage, my pregnancy/children making ability, my career, etc?

My wife is mad because I admitted to looking at porn. I did so because she was not having sex with me and I was starting to notice other women. When I went into marriage, I thought I would never be tempted again to masturbate. From the day I my wife and I first had sex, I never masturbated once until after the sex stopped. She argues that me looking at porn causes her to stumble and she therefore I am an unfit spiritual leader for our family. The whole porn thing is also why she continues to not have sex with me, and it just exacerbates the whole issue. After following advice, I finally did what I wanted. I had the bed to myself, she was on the couch by her own choice. I was so afraid she would catch me, I wasn't able to focus. So, eventually I embraced the idea of her catching me and I found it turned me on. So, problem solved... no more porn. Well, when I explained to her that I now masturbate while thinking about her... but she won't even listen to me. I personally think this is the stupidest thing anyone has posted on the internet ever and its truly embarrassing but damn it do I need answers from Pastors or a Pope or Something. Hopefully my wife will respect your answers. Don't worry, she snoops my computer and my phones lol

I have 2 boys who are 2 and 8 months old. My husband and I haven't been married long but ever since we got married he has became unbearly mean and abusive. I cant handle the stress. I'm scared. I need some advice on how to get away. I dont have a job or a car because since we've been married he convinced me to quit working and my cars been broken and hes refused to fix it. I need to take my babies and get out. How can I? Please help

I want to divorce my wife and want to know more about it...she cheated on me and show no remorse. I gave her chances but she still continue the affair.

I need insight into a man's brain. As an woman I don't think I could see someone each work day and not think of being with them or the things we had done but is that too sentimental for a man's way of thinking? He didn't have a fight or falling out with the other woman.

My estranged husband and I were happily (in my opinion) married for 14 years, when I found that he had been having an affair for the past 3 years. He gave me an STD, and HPV, because he is selfish, and careless. I developed cervical cancer, and I had to have a partial hysterectomy, because my estranged husband's selfish behavior. He seems to think that infidelity should be a forgivable offense. He said he "never meant to hurt me", but he had "needs that weren't being met at home". I gave him all of the intimacy and sex he ever wanted, and I thought he was happy, but he obviously wasn't. I'm not a glutton for punishment, and I refuse to stay married to someone who will continue to hurt me. I filed for a divorce in April of 2015, and we've been legally separated since then. For the past 7 months my estranged husband has been asking me to forgive him, and to move on with our marriage. I have forgiven him, but he broke my heart, and he has destroyed my trust. I told him that I want him that I will always care for him as person, and I respect him as my children's father, but our marriage is over. All I want him from him now, is to co-parent our children in a healthy, happy, and positive way. I'm moving on with my life, and I wish he would do the same.

My parents are still fighting post-divorce even though it has been 11 years. Often my mother will do what she can to make it difficult for us to be around our Dad. I am just now starting to realize she has the problem much more then him. I am 19. So this weekend for example my mother purposely made the schedule so we would be unavailable for a gathering my Dad's family is having. She did the same at Easter. My Dad meanwhile says "I am tired of fighting with her, your 19 so you can deal with her now". Now I am in the position of disappointing myself and missing the family event or having a fight with Mom which I hate fighting and trying to find a way to get to this party. If I seem desperate I will just embarrass myself. This happens ALL THE TIME. How do I get this madness to stop? Last year my mother wouldn't let me invite my Dad to my high school graduation. I was anxiety driven by this though eventually my Dad fought to come (only time he has done that) and succeeded. However, the party after my mother barred him from coming to her house with his wife. This led to an argument my friends had to see., This is all really painful to me and both parents say "well talk to your other parent who is causing this". Holidays my mother always manages to alienate us from our Dad and it wrecks my holiday though Thanksgiving my Dad gets to see us. It always devastates me that my mother makes us travel for Christmas to keep us from our Dad and we end up missing all family activities (grandparents and aunts-uncles, cousins included). I will be 20 in November and this year I am considering having a fight to fix this but anxiety ridden by the thought. Any thoughts on how I can fix this and survive this nonsense? I am almost an adult but I know it will continue. God only knows what our wedding will be like. I feel like a relative of mine on my mother's side who said their Dad embarrasses them by drinking in public (has alcoholism) but at least their the man has an illness. Here my parents are just choosing. So any advise would be appreciated and sorry for the long question.

I'm looking for some truthfull advice from you ladies on here ! I'm 36 and prefer the more mature women. I can't help but think they seem to dress more sexy and seem to be more fun.. I'd like to think I'm wrong in saying this but they also seem to be more out going in the bedroom ! They seem to enjoy dressing up more and see to be more toward and want to have fun in the bedroom ! Is it me that's wrong to want / think this and there is women my age like this I've just not found the right one ? Thanks

I ve been married for 8 years and our marriage has been an emotional roller coaster. My husband can be emotionally abusive and he had an affair about 8 months ago. Our marriage has been over (in my heart and mind) since I first suspected this. We have not worn our wedding rings all year. We separated finances and recently I moved out. However, I waited to file the legal paperwork until it was convinent for my work schedule. So, legally I am married, but the divorce is pending. I met someone and said I was divorced because I didn t think anything would actually happen with this person and my marriage is over. To my surprise, there seems to be a real connection with this guy and we have a lot in common. He wants to go out for dinner, but I feel guilty since my divorce isn t final. How should I go about telling him this?

He is 45, and he talks about his sexual experiences from when he was 13-29. He mainly focuses on his sexual experiences when he was a teen though, like around 13-16. He was telling me about a time when he was 14 and "got his d!ck sucked off by a younger girl". Which means she had to have been like 12 ? 13 ? and he talked about how he remembered her "cute small boobs" This was pretty disturbing to me being that he is in his 40's now. BTW, he only like to look at teen porn, could this kind of thing have sprung from his porn habits ? Should I leave him ? His parents divorced when he was a kid, does that have any impact on his sexual life ? Maybe he just was left to his own devices as a kid too much ? IDK.

I need to learn how to not enable my spouse and I don't know how to do it. If it's his turn to mow the lawn I have to remind him to do it. He doesn't think to do it himself..and he doesn't think he should have to until "hes rested" and by that time he'll let it go to seed. A couple months ago I kept asking him to save some money every check for (his) kids clothing this summer. Of course he hasn't saved a penny for them. I know they will need clothes so I end up buying them. Do I not by the clothes or what.. he'll give this whiny excuse like, I don't know what you want me to do? I can't make money appear if I just leave it up to him on what is acceptable to do.. we'll be living in a pigpen. we're a family of 6. daily chores of cooking, dishes, laundry, taking care of pets, yardwork, etc all needs to be done. he seriously doesn't give a $h*t if dishes pile up for a week. i work 7 days a week and still do chores and take care of kids after work.

2 nights ago I came home during my linch break, which I don't normally do. When I walked in I heard some noise coming from the bathroom and thought someone might be in the house. I walked in to discover my husband bent over the toilet, with an older man "giving it" to him. I was absolutely shocked and have no idea what to think. He has always been very sexual towards women so I never would have guessed he would do something like this. I haven't spoken with him yet. I have been at my mothers the past 2 nights. I'm not sure if I should be mad about him being gay or cheating on me. This does count as cheering right?

My wife has been homeless before I met her with her two kids. She has always worked full time but it was almost never enough. She refuses to spend any money on herself. She's always saving and saving. Currently, the rent is paid off for close to a year because she put her whole income tax check on the rent. She refuses to drive her car because she said insurance and gas and maintenance are too high. Now she's selling the car. The rent is paid and she continues to pay the rent. She's overpaying on utility bills and the rest goes into a savings account. She refuses to take vacations and enjoy small things. She flipped out on me because I bought a new computer for my job. She said we couldn't afford it because what if one of us loses our job or something huge comes up and we go homeless again. Its causing major problem. The kids can't even really do activities because she said its just a way to homelessness again because ur spending on non sense.

I just dated 3 or 4 divorced women and couldnt help but notice: A. Their over inflated sense of selfesteem. B. Their bitterness and hatred for their ex and the male gender. C. How they want to know every single detail about their date and not disclosing anything about their own life. D. They are superpicky about men; yet they didnt choose wisely the first time.. Now, dating these women was like dating the same one 3 or 4 times. So what makes them so similar ?

I have apparently married the minister of propaganda for my wife's family. Anything they do, good or bad, she defends. If one of her family members behaves badly, for instance she has a brother who is in his mid 30's and acts like spoiled brat and throws tantrums, she defends that sibling.. She has an older sister who attempts to control the family including the spouses of family members. The older sister once did something that I did not like and my wife told me not to say anything to her sister about it because it might set off a depressive episode in her sister. Of course if I were to behave the way her brother and sister do, my wife would confront me about it and not let it go. How do I deal with this double standard in our marriage?

I had hip surgery a few years ago and ever since then I haven't been able to move my hip too much and thus I can't thrust worth a damn. I've known for some time that my wife is not satisfied in the bedroom and even heard her tell her friend on the phone that she hasn't orgasmed in ages. I'm ashamed I can't please my wife, but not so much that I'm willing to become a cuckold while she messes around with other men. I know I can't will my hips into being better than they are, so would it simply be best if I put in for a divorce and let her find someone who will please her?

Dear Everyone, I am a totally lost women who is 32 yrs old married to someone who I thought was good and I have two kids with him. He is a dentist and is earning good amount to support our family and I am studying for my postgraduate degree in edu. The story begin when I noticed he has changed in the last 9 months to discover that he was cheating on me with one of his student (emotionally and physically) he denied it and the girl did accuse him but no body believed her as he is very respected at his workplace. I was in a total shock but sense then decided to stay in marriage coz he was trying to be nice with me. However, I was not happy and just started to heal until yesterday when it was his birthday and I brought him an apple MacBook air pro which he was looking for on the last few months. To my surprise, he did not accept my gift and told me that coz he did not like it and it is not nice and if he wants to get one he will get the pricy MacBook pro not the cheap air one. I am so depressed and sad and can not ask for divorce these days as I am towards the end of my postgrad studies which is so hard and needs lots of concentration. Please advise me what to do? Jen

My husband has been unemployed for a month, he is a truck driver. He does temp assignments here and there, but usually sits at home. He is capable of getting gas and driving his vehicle, but uses mine and drives it until it is empty. Why might he be doing this?

My husband's ex girlfriend is friend's with his family. Anytime there are events like Baby Showers, Birthdays, etc, she's invited! We've been married for almost 3 years, in the past they have accommodated me by telling her not to attend because I was going to be there. Now my sister-in-law is having a baby shower and of course she's invited. I told them I'd feel very uncomfortable having to attend if she's gonna be there, so I asked 3 weeks prior to the event if she was going so I wouldn't go. Instead of accommodating me like they had been doing, they simply didn't care and told me they're gonna miss me (even though I am part of the family). Is it selfishness on my part not to go because the ex will be there or are they being inconsiderate???? Is my husband being unrealistic by wanting me to get over this subject (even though I told him a million times I wouldn't feel comfortable around his ex)??? PLEASE HELP!P

I'm seeing someone right now and I'm learning the basics of life. Bills, insurance, buying a place to live, life skills etc. Is it wise to have my own apartment first before I get married? In order for me to understand how to survive life? Or is it a matter of us growing together? What was your situation like? How did you know you had enough money to take care of your wife and everything? I need advice. Thanks!

She currently works full time and makes a good salary. She thinks that if she gets a bachelor's degree then she will be worth more and could make her current salary but work part time instead. I told her that's not how this works and all professionals must work 40 or more hours a week and I don't know any companies who'd be willing to have someone work 20 hours a week and make the salary of a person working 40. She's very mad at me now because I didn't support her dream but her dream is madness and very risky to the family if it ends up not working out. At the root of her dream is the her desire to be home when the kids aren't there so she can watch more TV like her stay at home mom friends do and be relevant in her social circles again. Was I wrong to not support her selfish and narcissistic dream? Is it my job to support her dreams, no matter how self centered it is and no matter how it may impact the family's livelihood or lifestyles? I'm being as supportive as I can with her getting her bachelor's degree, but the part time work for the same pay as now makes it hardly worth it to me. Why not full time work making twice what she's making now? Honestly, it feels very selfish. I'm not even sure how we're going to pay her loans off if she makes as much as she does now but instead part time. We still have debt we need to pay off from last time she went to college and got her associate's degree!

I've been with my husband for 15 years.A few years back I was told my chances at getting pregnant were one in a million.My husband has always been supportive and says that it doesn't matter to him that we can't have a child of our own.When we first met,he told me that his ex had a daughter & he helped raise her for 6 months.1 day he came home from work & left,claiming she had a DNA test done & he wasn't the father.17 yrs later & his ex messages him & tells him the child could possibly be his,& she had lied about the DNA test.she told him the daughter knew he might be her father,&said she may be open to meeting him.Well 1 day later the ex messages him &says forget it,the daughter wants nothing do with him and for him to never contact them again. My husband was crushed. He was excited at the fact that he had a daughter and grandchildren. Now he's just sitting around dwelling on it, depressed and sad that she wants nothing to do with him and won't submit to a DNA test. To me, this means that my husband's need and desire to have children is greater than he has ever admitted. I love this man more than life, and would do anything to make him happy. I know he loves me and would go without having a child to be with me, but how can I let that happen?I want him to have kids & grandkids, even if that means doing it without me. It would kill me but I love him enough to walk away so he can find someone to have a family with. I just don't know what to do. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/natalie-brooke/getting-married-is-not-an-accomplishment_b_9189828.html Like this lady said, getting married is not a higher achievement than academic and professional career success. Not that it isn't an achievement, since it does take work to get good marriages healthy, but smarts and work certainly are higher on the chain, as this lady says. Not trying to pick a fight, I just think that this section might really be interested in what this lady is saying.

Ok first a little info. I live in Oklahoma and cannot afford an attorney so have decided to do my divorce on my own. With that being said... My divorce with my ex is uncontested so I had went to one of those places that type up your divorce papers for you. I got them done then went and had them filed. Sometime later after they had been filed I had realized there were mistakes made in the petition. Mistakes like the spelling of my sons name, birth dates, requesting joint custody instead of full custody, and since then my address and number have changed. So my first question is how do I go about getting them corrected???? The other problem I have is since then I have moved and somehow lost all my copies of the divorce papers. I have none of them, and we have not been to court at all (there isn't a court date yet, it shows it's still pending) so what do I do?? Please help..and in simple terms as possible. I need to know what EXACTLY to do step by step. Thank you!

I'm a 30 year old male, divorced for 2 years. Been dating a woman for about a year and a half. I have sole custody of my 4 and 6 year old. My ex (kids' mother) is a drug addict who generally stays clean for 6 months before relapsing. I try to work with her when she is clean and let her see kids on the weekend. I'll marry the woman I'm with now when I'm done with school in a year, and would like for her to step in and be a motherly figure for my kids. She is a wonderful upstanding role model, where as the kids" mother is an addict, liar, and manipulator. I never say anything bad about her to the kids, though. I'm sure, when I remarry, my ex will complain about me replacing her as parent. Any advice on the best way to handle this and steer my kids towards the role model of my new spouse? Btw, my kids love the woman I'm dating now, but still have a special place for their mom despite that she regularly lets them down and doesn't keep her word. I'm thinking I should just let things take their natural course and the kids will eventually realize who truly supports them. Just don't want to deal with the ex in the process. What a headache. Advice?

Prospective husbands are so often told by their dad's and others who have been down the marriage road to cater, give in, put her above your own needs etc. Husbands do this with the idea that she will then stop complaining and be happy. That somehow her contentment and happiness is contingent upon us. Situation. Wife knows full well that her husband travels a lot. He calls her everyday, if all he hears is her going on about how him not being there is difficult, that the kids are causing a riot, she is so stressed out etc. He sees that as something personal that he caused the problem by not being there and gets upset that she is not coping with the situation. Should the guy be upset that his wife is struggling and she doesn't appreciate that he earns the income? Or is she venting and he should just listen with encouragement, "I know its tough honey, you are doing great, I miss you" When he hears "You don't know honey, you're not here" "Don't you see what I go through? Do you care?"

At my age most "single" women available are divorced ladies. I cant help but notice how they all display the same shrewed bitterness towards men; yet they ( pretend ) expect to be taken care of by a man. They want to know every single detail about the guy; yet they'll let you know nothing about them - they're super picky after they got dumped and envision their ex husband n their vengence towards the new guy in the scene. So whats wrong with divorced women ? Cant they grow up n move on ?

OK me and my wife made friends with a guy and his wife a couple years ago. Well they recently divorced he told her he doesn't love her and there is no connection and wanted to split....witch they did.. she moved in with me and my wife for a couple months well thing is I think I'm falling in love with her..... my marriage is so so ... I've talked with my wife about what's been bothering me on our marriage... I have fixed the things that bothered her but she hasn't changed on her end... me and my freind have kinda been rocky just because of how he treated his ex wife she is a nice girl and he exploited it... I have never cheated on any of my girlfriend's in the past or my wife and I never would..... I feel that my so so friends ex wife might be a better match then my wife right now.. what to do

My boyfriends been nasty these past couple days and went from calling 'our house' to 'his house' and telling me he doesn't want a lazy woman in 'his house' and today right after that statement he said "i want a prenup before we get married" i have no problem with it but why are you being so nasty to me? so that when were married you can be nasty then divorce me with no punishment? i dont like the idea especially because of his latest behavior towards me. Mind you this mans the most romantic and sweet guy I've been with and its been 3 years, i dont know what to say or do even when i say stop talking like this he acts childish sometimes and shuts down. he does have a lot of stress at his business and i tell him to not put his anger out on me what more can i do?

I used Legalzoom and the part of Schedule of Assets and Debts page is filled that I am the sole owner of the house I live in and it will go to me. (Husband agrees) We have no children and we don't seek spousal support. So do we still have to fill out all the pages where they ask what furniture we have or how much income or expense we have etc?

I keep a pair of panties, thick with my wifes scent, in my pack when I go to work or anywhere she isn't for that matter because when I can't be with her physically or think of another woman, I indulge in the smell of her pheromones and it sets me straight. Now I had gone for years without letting my wife know I was doing this, but recently I told her and she called it 'sick'. What's sick about it? I'm a male, pheromones are designed by nature to attract the male sex and I enjoy that these are from my wife. She never had a problem with me sniffing the source before, so why are panties an issue? I'm not wearing them or using them for anything other than their scent. I would think most women would love to hear that their husbands were enraptured with their scents. So what's wrong here?

We haven't had sex yet but they say they wouldn't be comfortable

I have been with my girlfriend over a year and I love her to death. However, she is constantly pressuring me to get married. Everyday, she will either be looking at videos of marriage proposals, shopping wedding gowns/rings, browsing houses to buy, or talking about how she needs to get married asap. Her family is also putting intense pressure on me, constantly asking when I'm going to produce a ring. Her uncle asked me if I saved enough money for a ring yet and he said if I break her heart he'll break my neck. Certainly doesn't make me feel good at all, you know? And I feel like nobody can see things from my angle. Are there any ladies that can see this from my point of view? I just wish she (and her family) could give me some space to make a decision for myself because after all, this is my life too. And I guess it doesn't help that I have some friends that have gone through terrible divorces which freaks me out to no end... one of them works all day and night just to pay his ex-wife to live happily with someone else. Things like that kill me inside. I don't think she would do that to me but you know, I have some fears that I need to get over, and all the pressuring and craziness is making those fears even more intense. I'm starting to lose my mind and I need some advice on what to do at this point... I also forgot to mention that I don't make that much money right now and that's part of the fear... I'm going to be transitioning jobs at the end of the year but she doesn't want to wait that long. This is really stressing me out because I don't want to lose her...

I've been married for about 3 years, have a 18 month old and currently pregnant. My husband works and I stay home. I cook, clean, and care for our son. But I also want to look good and feel good about myself around my husband. With this pregnancy, I feel even more tired, sleepy, lazy and hungry. And my 18 month old does away with the little energy I have. I want to look good around my husband as a mother of 2 yet, still have the energy. It's come to the point where, I don't even want to have sex anymore because of how tired or how uncomfortable I feel around my husband. Any suggestions, advice or ideas?

My sister in law just had a baby and has borrowed $1200. Her pay was cut in half from maternity leave and she was having trouble paying bills. She s back to work full time now. She ll pay the money back eventually. I m guessing it ll be here and there or it ll be paid in full with her tax return next year. My husband has also loaned money to my brother in law $1300 recently and he still owes $500 from December of 2015. I don t believe he ll pay it back. He s an unemployed lazy jackass who regularly plays the victim despite his poor life choices. All this money is being lent out while we live in a one bedroom apartment with our 18 month old son and only have one 15 year old family vehicle to drive. That money that was lent out was suppose to buy a car that I would use (the car my husband drives is my car that was paid off years before I meet him.) He seems unconcerned about the money. I am concerned about it and have told him so. All of this is effecting out marriage in a major way. I just feel mad at everyone (myself included.) I honestly don t know what the hell to do.

I'm 28, married with 2 children. Me and my wife met when I was around 20. She was amazingly beautiful and I was so proud of her because her looks were amazing and it made my friends jealous back then. But no one really knows what she really is on the inside. She's a liar, a manipulator. She loves to start drama and argue. She never lets me do anything. I have to stay in with her all day and only follow her rules. I tried to go out yesterday to visit my dad, she held me and said that I shouldn't leave. I almost did but she threatened to call cops and say that "I raped her". My dad has never seen my second child because of her. I've never talked to him for about 2 whole years now because of her. I'm so depressed and she's controlling me. My sister told me that I should "start wearing the pants", but that's impossible if she keeps threatening me that she will call cops and say that I beat her, and rape her. Everything goes her way. If she wants sex, she will get it, if she wants food, she will make me do it. I don't mind making food, but she's making me cook every single day and she does nothing. She takes my money and she even took my car and my children. I don't know what to do anymore.

A COUPLE who have been married for 60 years say the secret of their success is to have no contact with each other whatsoever. Tom Booker and Emma Bradford were married at Walthamstow Chapel in 1955. So as not to sully their love, Emma refused to take her husband's name, with his agreement. To preserve the purity of their union, they spent their honeymoon at their respective flats in Bow and Bethnal Green. Since then, they have communicated only once a year, via a mutual friend, to wish each other a happy wedding anniversary. Booker said: "We have seen so many marriages fail because the couple get to know one other and become bored to near-homicidal distraction with each other. "Emma and I never wanted that to happen to us. So we vowed that, once married, we would never meet again. "It's been 60 years now – and it hasn't been a day too long." Emma Bradford added: "There's been no sexual disappointment because we've never have had sex with each other. We never argue because we've no idea what each others' opinions are about anything. "We couldn't be happier. Marriage is a wonderful thing if you do it properly."

I ask because although I've never touched or flirted with another woman after marrying my wife, I do however dream about have sex with women close to us. For instance, last night I dreamed that me and her best friend were having sex in the backseat of my car and when I woke, I had a certain sex stain in my boxers. Before that, it was her sister, her mother, her cousins, other friends of hers, my coworker, ect. I never did anything with these women in reality, only in my dreams. But even though dreams are supposed to be private & separate, I feel some sense of guilt that I'm betraying my wife. What do you think?