Everytime I talk to hayley she tells me to leave her alone, but we've been doing this for years and I know she is just playing hard to get, she's even got a "husband" now to tease me even more. Why won't she just be with me, I'm getting a little tired of her games.

My husband and I have been married for 6 years.. But about a year ago we separated, moved apart and started talking to other people leading our own lives without one another. He was in a relationship for 8 months of that year and I dated a few people here and there but nothing ever stuck. Except one person and I can't forget the way I feel about him. We were friends first, met online a few years ago, and during my separation with my husband we became closer and I enjoyed every minute of it. I'll spare you the details, but lets just say I fell hard. It was never going to work though, our lives were vastly different and we lived hundreds of miles away, but we still planned on meeting one day, Just friends and I guess I was okay with that. But now, My husband and I are trying to work things out again and I know we need to leave the past behind us, but I cant seem to let go of this other man. It feels like there will always be unfinished business with him since we never had the chance to meet, and if we did.. I wouldn't trust myself regardless. I don't know whats worse, Never knowing what could have been and wondering? or giving up on starting over with my husband because I cant stop wondering.. Can you love two men at once? I mean.. I know I love my husband but I'm not IN LOVE with him. How can we start over when I cant stop thinking of the man who could have been? I'm so ******* confused.

She left her boyfriend's used condom in our trash can next to our bed! She told me that this guy is just her, "friend with benefits", and that she feels like she and I should see other people. She also told me that she wants to have lesbian sex with our step daughter! Should I just divorce her? Why she acting like this?

Ok my whole family mom, dad, me, sister all live together. Me and my sister are young adults. My dad has been giving me emotional abuse every week and threatening me, he acts like he is going to beat me up and get in my face. My sister and mom are away. He doesn't help around the house or have a job. My mom owns the house and is the one supporting the family. He takes away my mom's money from the rent, my mom is the landlord of a house she owns but my dad takes the checks away! These are not his possessions but they have had a joined account and i think my dad also has partial ownership of the house. He doesn't even buy me food and he tells me to pay for things myself and do everything on my own, my mom is overseas now. One time i had to go to the emergency room and he didn't want to take me there. He was threatening and screaming at me and did not help me walk into the hospital. He's a total loser. Since my mom has been away, he has never called her and has hung up on my sister and ignores my mom's calls and deletes the messages. My mom is thinking of divorcing him when she gets back. He has been unemployed and not searching for a job for years and is verbally abusive to me and my mom, he has even gotten violent before. When i ask him to help around the house or need help with something, he just screams and yells at me. I understand that if i'm a young adult i should be independent and do things for myself but not taking me to the ER when i needed medical attention really makes me hate my dad, what if died that day? He IS irresponsible and treats me unfairly and he also doesn't really love or respect my mom. He uses profanity and cusses out my mom, sister, and me. Today he started another argument and he always yells and has a bad attitude when he talks. What can i do? Can i report him to the police? Or is there some number i can call to report this? I really wanted to report the ER situation. My dad has also repeated the ER situation with my mom, not wanting to take her and screaming and yelling at her and my sister when she had to go to the hospital. Is there a hotline or number I can call to report this? I understand that he's my dad but if he's not paying the pills, stealing my mom's money, not looking for a job and giving us emotional abuse, in the past he has bullied me and my sister. My mom is overseas this is why i ask this, what if he gets violent towards me?

Like today he had just gotten back in town with his son and she immediately had a zillion house favors and showed ZERO appreciation.

This is a repost from another place I'm 35 years old married with 2 small kids. I often feel like I am trapped in life with no way out. I work a job I hate and am up to my eyeballs in bullshit. I can't stand my inlaws that I have to spend all my holidays and a good portion of my free time with. I also feel very isolated. I realized a couple years ago that all of my contacts in my phone were work contacts and not my actual friends. There is no real companionship out there for married men that see through all the bullshit. All of the other married men in my neighborhood.do the laundy, cook, clean, give the kids baths, change diapers all while working full time. They also have to provide their wife with the nicest cars so she can be better than her friends. These guys all bow down to their wives so bad it makes me sick. I have no time for any friends because my life is consumed with work. As far as women go my wife is a pretty good one considering all the others out there. She really tries to make me happy and cares about my wants and needs, She doesn't have to have the nicest of everything and is frugal with money. She is also blinded by all the lies around us and is perfectly content with being that way, she gets upset when I ask her to start thinking deeper about things and says that I am just negative and she prefers being positive and focusing on the good things. I have many addictions that I can't break because when I get sober the weight of the bullshit wears heavy on me I also have 2 kids 2 and 5 They are the best part of my life, but also come with a heavy cost. The reason I am posting it is for anyone considering marriage to make sure you know what you are getting into. I would say that my wife is in the top 10 percent and I know because I dated a lot of idiots for short periods of time and realized I could never be with a woman like that forever. That being said, I am still miserable, even if you marry the perfect woman you will still be miserable because of how society is set up and the trap for men is marriage. Also looking for a plan for the future. I am done having kids at this point so I figure by the time I am 50 If I can invest right I can maybe have some sort of life by that point. But I also feel there will be an economic collapse before that time so all that investment might not be worth anything.

Like say if I married and took wife's name (not illegal but don't really know if can be legally done during a marriage), or just say I'm married to someone and do all the marriage stuff without technically being married? Or if I go into some forest and make a home and live on my own cutoff from society and not paying any taxes or whatever. Or if I do anything else against a law that just seems like a stupid custum?

So here's my current situation: -I recently moved back into the barracks to get away from my wife who has been causing all types of trouble for me. -She is still living in the apartment we have and the lease is up in July. -I'm filing for divorce this week. Here are my issues: -She has not moved out of the apartment and doesn't look like she is trying to. -She is mentally unstable and will do anything to hamper a divorce. -I don't know what stunt she'll try to pull once she is served. Somebody please help.

My ex husband works during the week and sometimes odd hours but instead of taking his kids on the weekend he would rather just see the kids at my place and come by when I'm home to visit them. He has had two duis so not sure I even want him taking the kids alone himself but he is making it hard for me to have boundaries with him and he expects me to make plans with him and the kids. What should I do?

At what age do women lose interest in sex?

We've been married for 12 years now, she's 48 years old' I'm 40. We really don't fight a lot, probably because we work different shifts. She's had a drinking problem for some time now but back in January, I discovered she was trying to buy vicodin from her 20 year old son, 13 pills $78. I confronted her about it she said she needed them for the pain in her arm. I told her if she's in pain go see the doctor. Well that Friday, she texted me on my way home from work saying she drank too much so she was going to stay the night with her "friend". Mind you she didn't tell me who her "friend" was or where her "friend" lived so I, like most men given this minimum amount of information, assumed she's out with another man. i confronted her about her whereabouts the next day when she came home and she got defensive, saying she was being responsible by not drinking and driving, and I had to explain to her how I'm her husband, she needs to call me tell me where she is so I can pick her up if that's the case. She said she didn't think about that. So I brought up that incident, her drinking too much, and her buying drugs from her son and I kicked her out. She stayed at a hotel for the next 2 weeks before I asked her to come back home, so she did. My intent was for her to think about what she did and straighten up. When she came back she said she no longer feels like this is her home, so she left a month later to go "find herself".

I bought my husband clippers that are supposed to charge for 16 hours before usage-he decided to charge it for an hour and used it.... it died and he had a half head done. He charges it again, and it kept dying. He asked me if I could go to the store and grab him some clippers, which I gladly went to do. But when he said clippers , I thought about hair scissors. When I got home with the scissors he was like wow really?! Wow. Are you kidding me?! How can't you tell the difference between scissors and clippers. ( I don't know much about hair cutting tools! It was definitely an accident.) he was like... It's common sense. Than he locks himself in the bathroom with the scissors , I offer to help and he denies my help. I told him he didn't have to be mean because I went out of my way and I tried. But he pretty much called me stupid by saying that it was common sense. While he was locked in the bathroom, I went to the store to buy the correct thing. What pisses me off is that he could've waited until the 16 hours for the damn original clippers to charge. I spent a total of $60 for his hair mess today... And it makes me mad because now he has two sets of clippers. And scissors that cost me $13. On top of that, I'm pregnant and I'm going on unpaid maternity leave so this really leaves a bad taste in my mouth when it comes to this. He didn't even say thank you or sorry. We are supposed to go to my mother in laws for dinner but now I don't want to go anywhere. Should I be mad?

Hi, I need your help. I am 28 and my wife is 32 turning 33. I live in California and she lives in Malaysia working for the United Nations. She has no plans to relocate at the moment - and lately she took the goalie out because she wants to have a child - or at least start trying when I visit in two weeks. I'm starting to get cold feet because I am not ready to have a child since our relationship is long distance and things haven't been that great lately considering that she wants to work there for the foreseeable future. I have made attempts to look for work there but there really isn't anything since their economy is crushing and they don't hire foreign pilots. She also has no visa and so even if I went I'm not sure what we would do. I have a good career here in software engineering and product management and love my job. I fly planes on the weekends and teach people how to fly. It's been my Passion and I'm willing to give up my day job of I can find work closer to her so we can start a family. I love her a lot, and want to give her the child but to me my gut tells me run away - this girl is crazy. We are just about to breakup because of the issue of me not wanting to move there. She doesn't want to move here (we used to live in NYC and it was tough for her, she worked as a nanny because she couldn't find a job). Should I stay with her or end things with her when I visit? Should I even go?

I guess I can say that he s tired of me, I tried every single for him and nothing satisfies him it could be that he got used to me doing everything. We also have a 3 yr old son which might be why we re still together, I know there is no such thing as a fairy tale marriage but I want passion, romance, and attention now is that so wrong of me?

Earlier I asked a question about how to get my wife from seeing another man. I headed some of the best advice and made sure that I made time for her and our family so that she would keep him from being as important. This worked for awhile and we had a breakthrough when he left the area for about a month for work. He did not let her know that he was leaving, and she only found out after stopping by his house. Then, he pretty much blew her off. She called him after a week or so of this and told him that she was done with him. He hurt her when they did talk. While I did not want to see my wife hurt, I was at least hopeful that this chapter of our lives would be behind this. A few weeks passed, he came home and called her. She dropped her plans and ran right to him. Then, while my boys and I were gone, she went and stayed the night with him. It was only when my kids and I got back that I put things together and realized what happened. When I confronted her with it, she owned up to it. Now, even though she is the one who lied, I feel on the defensive because somehow she has a way of making me feel like I did something wrong when I didn't. This past weekend, things got pushed to the brink. She almost left, but didn't and says that she thinks that she and I need counseling even though she says she loves me, I am her best friend and we work well together. I am willing to go to counseling, but she says she won't stop seeing him. I need advice and NO DIVORCE IS NOT A CONSIDERATION.

I'm 20 years old, granted to some of you I may still be "too young" to be thinking about this right now. Honestly, you're wrong. I'm not. It's never too young to start thinking about your future. I have a guy I'm interested in, and I can see myself marrying (obviously for a few years yet, but I like what I see in him.) The thing is, I'm not sure if I personally can see myself getting married. I mean, I can, but I can't at the same time. The dreamer child in me wants the beautiful marriage and wedding she's always dreamed of, yet the adult in me knows the reality of it all. Marriage is work. Marriage is the drama of a realtionship on steroids, and honestly I'm not sure if I want that. I'm not asking for advice on how to make a decision, I'm asking for personal stories. I want to know what marriage is REALLY like. Was it worth it? Do you wish you would have stayed single? Any struggles? Just anything you are willing to tell. I want to get the gist of what marriage could possibly be like before I decide if I want it or not. Thank you in advance!

My husband was reminiscing about his younger days to my teen son and doing so i found out he had lied to me about something in the past and that he cheated on me sould i let this go or be upset to be Honest i feel really upset kinda like he married me without being honest with me before saying Wedding vows he had the chance to tell me everything and come clean before we were married but now many years latter i find out the truth by him boasting to our teen son about it how shold i handle this i feel betrayed he thinks i should just let it go

Is it that diffucult to control your hormones? Why not wait until returning to your wife? If you are not happy in your relationship why not divorce abd serlt her free from all of the troubles?

Simply put, she has only 9-10 months on the job, (but 20 yrs in the industry) 8 years before as her own company that folded. Tax issues with the IRS, A credit rating that is likely down in the 400's if she's lucky, and we are looking at divorce. So, would the court order me to give her the house in the divorce? I'm the only one on the mortgage's, she is though on the deed. My credit is 650's-700's 16 yrs on the job, and generally speaking okay credit history. We have children, and they will need a place to stay of course. I want them. Any help?

He's happily married for 28 years with two children. Spends 2-3 nights a week alone in a motel because he works 2.5 hours from home - then works from home on Friday so that he can be with his family Thurs. night - Monday. He recently started sleeping with a 24 year old woman from work. He has a high sex drive and says he's weak, and the 24 year old weakened him. He cuddles and falls asleep with her. Is he likely to have less sex with his wife during an affair or no? What changes between husband and wife when husband is having an affair and the wife does not know?

I have been with my Significant other (SO) for 7 years. The plan was to get engaged after I finished my college degree. He is a bit older than me so he is done with college, has a career and a savings account (where we have enough saved for a wedding/engagement ring, etc.). I graduated college a year and a half ago with a B.A. in psychology. I decided that I really wanted to be a psych nurse instead of a therapist, so I applied to a nursing program. I was accepted and now am almost done with my first year (of a two year program). We agreed that while I am in nursing school I do not have to work (I worked since I was 16 and wanted to focus on school) So we had the marriage talk again and he said now he doesn t want to get married until I am done with nursing school. I feel as if he is changing the plan and he feels as if by going to nursing school, I am the one that changed the plan. Anyways, I understand where he is coming from, but I still get jealous when my nursing school friends get engaged. At least 7 girls from my class got engaged this past year. IDK why their SOs does not care to wait until after school but mine does. How do you feel about waiting until you finish school to get married? I also want to add that I want to be with him forever, so waiting another year is not that big of a deal for me, I just want to know how other people feel about this. I am a little worried that this is a red flag and he doesn t want to get married. I also wanted to add that I am 25 He wants to buy a house next year and move into it when I am done with school even though I have told him several times that I am not ok with getting a house with him until after we are married. He still tells everyone that we are going to get a house next year! If we aren't even engaged yet, how can we get married and move into a house within a year?

My wife and I have been Married 3 years. We ve had a lot of rough patches when it came to my family. She always felt they don t treat her with respect. Most recently, my bro and finance are expecting a child. She just finalized her divorce with her ex and dealing with custody issues etc.. Since my bro found out that his fiancé is pregnant, he kept it secret due to her case, but told my parents and told me not to tell my wife. Which she had to play dumb until they told her few weeks later. I think reason being that wife may family (who are neighborhood friends her the finance family) and will get back around to her dad who she held off telling us, until day after bshe told her dad. On other occasions, when they finally made the big announcement to my immediate family, they didn t wait for us. And last night they ask me to be god father in conversation at a family party, conveniently when my wife walks away. She doesn t feel appreciated and was not fond of my bro gf. They can be intrusive. I want to talk to my bro but not sure how to approach it. I cannot hold it in any longer.

So like if I say anything or do anything or if we have a problem or something ,she runs to her family and starts tellin em a whole bunch of our business and then they start talking **** on me...then my wife returns home and tells me all the nasty things that they say.....so is she trying to cause drama ?

My fiancé is waiting to buy a house until I graduate school- which is fine with me. But he dropped the bombshell that he doesn't want my name on the loan or the deed even though I will more then likely be paying half the mortgage payment. He said he would put my name on it if I contribute financially- as in he wants me to give him tens of thousands of dollars up front. Example, if we get a 120,000 house he wants me to give him 40-60,000 cash before my name can go on there. Which doesn't make any sense to me, because we will not be paying cash for a house, we would go through a bank loan and pay it back to the bank in our monthly mortgage payment. When I expressed my wanting for it to be in my name as well, he said "yeah so you can get the judge to give you half of everything if we get divorced." I feel as if he's wanting everything to be solely in his name because he thinks if it is then I get nothing if we get divorced and he gets it all. Is this true?? What is everybody else's opinion on this? What could I do to protect myself since he obviously wants everything to be "mine" and "yours" and not "ours"

I think one of my bridesmaids thinks this is HER wedding! Everything I've done so far she "doesn't like" or has some type of negative comment about. We all went to look at bridesmaid dresses and she got kinda rude with me & said she found it selfish that I don't allow the bridesmaids to pick out the dress they want in the color they want & how each bridesmaid should have different colored dresses etc. She keeps going on & on about how if it were her wedding she would be more considerate of the bridesmaids & make sure all dresses look good on everyone. None of my other 5 bridesmaids have had any other complaints. We picked out the dresses & she complained about the color & how it doesn't "compliment" her skin tone. I'm getting really annoyed & have considered asking her to not be in my bridal party anymore. Would this be rude? How do I go about this? Advice?

Will try to make this short. I met a guy at a lounge a couple weeks ago. The first time I saw him, I felt that instant spark which I never felt before. He couldn't stop looking at me either but nothing happened because it was the first time we ever saw each other at the place. But it seems as though both of us could feel the chemistry between us. Next week, he came in late but was very happy I was there. He couldn't stop smiling and I smiled back and was being nice and comforting to talk to because I wanted him to approach me. At closing time, he introduced himself to me and said I had an incredible singing voice because there's karaoke there. I complimented him too with his singing voice. He asked if I was coming back next week and I said yes. Now this past night, it wasn't as good as before. In my mind I was expecting a bit more but I don't want to rush things either. I just thought he would be a little more comfortable with me this time around. He smiled and shook my hand when he came in and said how are you and I said the same to him. That was pretty much it. At the end of the night, he walked passed my table (I always have one of my friends with me btw. Never go alone to lounges) He walked passed me and didn't even glance or say goodbye to me :( :( I felt so hurt but I kept telling myself everything else seemed to be going smooth but at the same time why wouldn't he at least do a quick bye or something. I hope I didn't screw things up already :( What should I do?

My wife and I have been Married 3 years. We've had a lot of rough patches when it came to my family. She always felt they don't treat her with respect. Most recently, my bro and finance are expecting a child. She just finalized her divorce with her ex and dealing with custody issues etc.. Since my bro found out that his fiancé is pregnant, he kept it secret due to her case, but told my parents and told me not to tell my wife. Which she had to play dumb until they told her few weeks later. I think reason being that wife may family (who are neighborhood friends her the finance family) and will get back around to her dad who she held off telling us, until day after bshe told her dad. On other occasions, when they finally made the big announcement to my immediate family, they didn't wait for us. And last night they ask me to be god father in conversation at a family party, conveniently when my wife walks away. She doesn't feel appreciated and was not fond of my bro and how they act sometimes, like we're children and we are about 8 years younger. Maybe he feels bad that we didn't have children yet? And he did..? I want to talk to my bro but not sure how to approach it. I cannot hold it in any longer.

He's happily married for 28 years with two children. Spends 2-3 nights a week alone in a motel because he works 2.5 hours from home - then works from home on Friday so that he can be with his family Thurs. night - Monday. He recently started sleeping with a 24 year old woman from work. He has a high sex drive and says he's weak, and the 24 year old weakened him. He cuddles and falls asleep with her. Is he likely to have less sex with his wife during an affair or no? What changes between husband and wife when husband is having an affair and the wife does not know?

How did you pick your husband/wife? How did you meet them? Tips on keeping your marriage going?

I usually get up around 6am on a Sunday and do some cleaning and laundry and stuff while my wife sleeps until 9 or 10 , she sleeps a lot like she'll stay up late and wake up late . I usually sleep early cause I gotta get up early for work but she doesn't work most days until 3. She sleeps a lot and for me I'm frustrated because I expect my spouse to be up early to get the day going but she sleeps until 9 or 10 it's a bummer and idk what to say

Not talking to my friend cause of this, but now my wife thinks I may have cheated which I wouldn't do. I got upset with her as well because she thought this. Not sure how to smooth this over.

My husband and I got married young and he's done a few things that have upset me a lot, I forgave and forgave I'm not the type to hold a grudge at all. Then I found out I'm having our first child and I told him if he messes up again I'm gone, well he messed up again and I haven't been able to forgive him. It's been a few months and we're still together and he's been a perfect guy. I can't say anything bad about him. He's really stepped up and become the man I've always wanted, he's told me he's willing to do anything to make this work because he love me and wants this family,And I have to say he's been a great husband, not perfect but better then most guys and he's a kid on top of it so I really want to forgive him. He deserves it and I want to make this family work but for some reason I just can't. I just have so much anger, what can I do to forgive him?

My wife of 20 years has always had a low libido but of late we haven't even hugged in a month let alone sex, which I can tell is a chore to her which makes me want it less. No kids no meds works two days a week and do most of the house work along with work 72hrs a week and am clean and in good shape.

It's been rough. He has been arrested 4 times since we've been married (drunk driving, driving on revoked license, etc). I've tried to deal with it but after his most recent arrest I told him we have got to start living our lives differently because I can't handle the stress of his legal/financial issues anymore. He says when I talk like that I break him down to nothing and I'm unsupportive. Am I wrong to not want to live like that? He says I'm just intolerable and no one else would be bothered by his drinking and I'm really starting to second guess myself. I know I said for better or for worse when we got married but I don't know how to handle it anymore.

I feel really helpless not knowing what to do with my life. I know I have to be strong for my two kids, but there are times where I think about my husband and all the memories we had together. How I wish he was alive to see our son because our first born was a girl so he was quite happy. He was really close with our daughter and she is only 1 yr and 9 months so she does not fully understand why her father isn t around anymore. I m just thinking about how every year on my birthday I have to think about his death anniversary and not enjoy on my special day because it would be horrible for me to not think of him. I don t even want to think about finding someone else knowing that person isn t the father of my kids and my husband and I were only separated because his life was taken away. I really loved him a lot and for this to have happened in my life makes me feel depressed and think suicidal thoughts when I don t want to feel that way because I m very religious and I pray to God for the answers to my problems..hoping that I can join my husband as soon as possible but I know it won t work that way.

how many years would need to go by before it dawned on her you two hadn't done it for a while?

I knew he OCCASIONALLY did it, but now I have been noticing that he smokes multiple times a week. Apparently his friend recently started smoking again meaning every time he goes over there I m now going to be worrie about him smoking. His co workers also smoke which he smokes with. Pretty much all of his friends smoke weed. None of his friends are married. When I try to talk to him about how I feel he becomes distant and rude. He truly doesn t care about how I feel about it because he continues doing it. I am pregnant with his child and I feel like he should be using some of that money to save for the baby. He barely puts anything in our savings for her as it is - and most of the money in our savings was from our wedding money which my family gave us. I m wondering if this is something I may be over reacting over or if I should put my foot down and continue telling him how I feel. I want him to be a good father and husband. But unfortunately, these actions are showing me how selfish he is being...

And he wants me to be his best man.But he keeps saying that he is to old to get married at age 36 for the first time.He has known his fiancé for 13 years she is three years younger than him.What can I say to help him out?