At a wedding if the bride does not have a father who does she walk down the aisle with?...

Don't want to get into too many details. Very long story. The point is that I don't want my future mother in law to have any part in the wedding planning, and my fiancé agrees. Any polite way to put it? No judgment please.

I told my mother and she freaked out because she thought it was too expensive (she got married in vegas ... which was a lot cheaper! haha). is 13,000 reasonable for DJ, limo, a very nice venue, photographer , food and beverages ?

My husband and I have been together a little over a year and 3 weeks ago prior to our trip to Mexico we decided to get married at the City Clerks Office, We'd only been engaged a week but I knew I wanted to spend my life with him. He preferred the idea of eloping but wanted and tried to push for me to have the dream wedding I dreamed of and given that at first our decision to be together was not approved by some people because people were hurt in doing so, I decided that eloping would be the best option for us, we didn't want a wedding, we wanted a marriage, we wanted it to just be all about us and not having to worry about making choices like what plates to have, It was the best decision we made, our week away from new york was very romantic, he surprised me so much and I fell even more in love with him, We couldn't be happier. When we got home I told my parents that we married before we went away and I was excited to tell them, My mom was upset about it, she said she was disappointed that we didn't inform her about the marriage and more that she wasn't present at the wedding to witness it, bare in mind I am a 28yo woman. She is now insisting that we have a big celebration party in the next week or two for our families to celebrate our marriage, my husband and I don't want this as we are enjoying our time alone but are we selfish if we refuse?

Of course I'm having his sister be one of my bridesmaids, but he wants me to ask his older brothers' wives to be my bridesmaids too. They are both 12-15 years older than me and I don't even know them. I think it would be awkward and wierd. I'm 21 and they are 33 and 35 years old. i think I should have my friends who I have been close with all of my life, what do you think? Well, we talked about it and at first he didn't realize how important it was for me to have my friends with me as my bridesmaids. He had went off of what his sister's wedding was like, which included all of his brothers' wives. So he kind of just assumed that's how it worked. But everything is worked out now! Thanks everyone for all the suggestions!