My husband and I have been married for 7 years. We just had our second baby three months ago. I don't know what to do any more. My husband Nd u don't communicate anymore cause we are alway mad at each other. I am alway so frustrated. We will be happy 2 days and spend two weeks mad at each other, 2 or 3 days fine and the same cycle. This is not life. We cannot have a conversation without ending in an argument. This have been going on for a long time . I want to be happy for my kids. Every conversation I try to have with him end up in argument cause he is very judge mental , critize everything, want to control everything in the house example, how many bags I put in the garbage can, I cannot eat in the car, and God for bit the pots are not organized the way he wants to see it in the kitchen. He says everything he says is for my benefit. he says I also stay quiet when we argue but I am almost afraid of talking anymore cause who wants to have a conversation with somebody that only open her mouth to critize. We don't go out, he never ask me if I want anything, and he is very insensitive. We only have sex when he really needs to maybe once a month now. I want to live and be happy

I had some dates with a man who was divorced and custody a 5 year old kid. 3 days ago his ex-wife sent me a message that she and the man still love each other and they would reconcile for the kid's sake. I responded it was none of my business and they should sort it out by themselves. I did not tell him about her message not called him since then. After silence for 3 days, he texted me "Didn't you answer me?" though he did not raise any question. Few hours later he sent another message "You did not respond me yet". I did not respond to his texts. I thought he knew her message. Do you think he was cheating on me or she wants to ruin relationship between me and him?

Hello, I was snooping on my bfs history and noticed that the prior days histories were deleted. This is the second time this has happened. The very first time I snooped (2 years ago) I found porn. He apologized since we both agreed not to watch porn in the relationship. To gain my trust, he said he will never delete his history and I am free to look at his history whenever-I was granted permission and I give him permission to look through all my devices. A few times after that, I looked at his history and saw girls. I asked if he had anything he needed to confess to and he acted as if everything was normal and he didn t do anythig bad until I confronted him. He didn t come to me first..I had to find out about it. He said sorry and that he would not do it again. It is concerning to me now that I checked twice and the history from previous days has been deleted. He uses a Mac so I am wondering if history can automatically delete after the day. Again, we BOTH agreed to have no porn and be open about our technology.

If your wife was not very adventurous out interested in sex could you stay in the marriage and be faithful?

I know a guy, married with little girls. He's a self-admitted alcoholic, has no bankable skills or education. I would feel sorry for him except for the following: he brags about cheating on his wife stays out all night partying and gambling and lies to his wife saying he found a night time construction job trash talks people behind their backs and makes mean personally insulting jokes to their face bullies people weaker than him, but cowards when challenged he kicks his dogs and shoots them with a BB gun for fun His wife has divorced him with kids of only 1 and 3 years because of this. He is funny and a fun partier in an immature way. People love this guy and think he' cool. Why?

We have been together 5yrs! I have a 5yr old whom father is deceased . My bf decided on his own to step up. We aren't married but I would like to be. I feel like I do very much of the wife role and I think he's gotten to comfy and I can understand why ppl say why buy the cow when the milk is free or however it goes. But seriously, I cook, clean, do laundry, be mommy and etc. I make a lot of sacrifices like I don't have a life outside (I don't go out or anything) , even though I work I manage to still cook, clean. I even get everyone set for work in school in the a.m ..I even decided to spend my whole check on bills and grocery while he pays the rent because he wants to do music and he needs to save to do stuff music wise. I never have money in my pocket! Like I'm seriously unhappy in this relationship and I have been sitting around hoping and waiting he will pop up with a ring because us being married would atleast make me feel better about catering I him and being his lady . I'm tired. And when I do decide to not so these things he gets upset and walk around mad all day! Any advice please

It seems weird to me that he just one day changed and was a different person. How is that even possible?

Husband on ssa; wife works. My daughter has nothing on her background and has no problem renting. Her husband has been arrested at least 20 times, been to prison. Now he claims he's separated from her.Why would he give up on her after she's been there for him so many times. Please forgive me I'm trying to understand. Will this eviction follow her to another state?

So I m not good at showing emotions but my wife wants me to so I want to surprise her and do something I guess like "sexy" or just something that will make us have to do it together (example- pretty,making chocolate ect) I m not the richest but I m looking to shock her with a lovely day together

This lady just loves me for who I am and I am not perfect. I adore her not just because of her amazing character but just the way she treats me. She avoided me for two months becsuse of what she feels abour me. I understand where she is coming from and it made me just love her more. I know this is wrong but I can't help it how I feel about her. We have 15 year age gap between us but I don't care about it. My biggest concern is will this affect her emotionally if I pusue her? I want the very best for her but I am inlove.

I feel the need to go every 30 min and when I do I have difficulty starting a stream. Once I finally do start urinating it lasts very small time 3 seconds at most. Should I get this checked out by a doctor? Im worried about the medical price in the U.S I have not had any intercourse or nor have a used any drugs so if anyone knows what I could have please respond

ive loved my uncle since I met him. I actually just met him 4 years ago when he came out of jail. he had done 15 years for a murder he hadn't committed. he sued and won the case. unbeknownst to my family, my uncle and I had relations before we knew we were related. fyi I am 22 and he is 52. we have been seeing each other since and don't care about being related. we are getting married this summer in the court. I don't know how to tell my family or if I should just do it and leave the country. what do you guys think?

I don't even know if what i do even counts as abuse but in her opinion, i am abusing her. I honestly do love her and when argue and she starts to talk about leaving me, i get crazy and my mind goes blank. I grab her wrists and i don't want to let them go even when she says "let me go". She's the best thing that has happened to me and my first serious girlfriend. All the other women i dated only wanted me for money but she is different. I guess that's why i try so hard not to let her go away. I have never punched her or kicked her but i have shoved her leg once out of anger. I honestly don't know how to stop myself. My mind goes blank at the thought of losing her. I have anger issues and i will be the first to admit that. My questions are : Does this count as abuse? And how do i receive help for this? I don't want to lose her!!

The whining starts to you buy her a necklace. It sits there untouched. I picked it up and brought it to my ex. She never asked what happened to it. If she asks I tell her.

We have been together for over 20 yrs and he is very aggressive(in a good way) and has way better love-making skills..Where did he learn them? Should I be worried?

My wife is very beautiful, and that is why I fell love with her in teen age. But she has a bad temper, she not know how to respect to people. One time, my parents come to Canada years ago and she argue with them and kick the chair down. Another time, in 2009, I lost job because of international financial storm. She become upset to me and shout to me. I am a very timid people, never talk with people loudly. I not know how to let her to respect to people? Please advise thanks for people's answer, I love my wife too much, so divorce can hurt myself too much and cannot be an option for me. I want to know maybe we have a way to improve her performance.

I've been offered a new job in a new state. My wife "acts" like she supports the decision to relocate but I know deep down she does not feel comfortable with it. When we get into a "serious" discussion about moving she will say things like "you know we could always wait until a late dat to relocate if you want". When we find a townhome, house, or apartment that fits our families needs & budget she will ask me "are you sure you want to do this?" She seemed very nervous/uncomfortable when we put a deposit down (on a rental home) & is saying she thinks we are going to get "ripped off" & that she wants the money back. The job would offer our family much better pay. The school systems in the area are highly ranked compared to where our children currently attend. She's also made a "demand" that she refuses to budge on that would cause an extreme financial burden on the family if we do relocate. I ask her to please please be honest with me & her response is always of support. If I "accuse" her of not being honest she gets angry & insists I take the job. It's almost like she flip flops constantly. I'm not sure what to do. Should I keep my current employment in our current state or accept the other job? I really only have a certain window of time to let the company know. We would be relocating in 3 months. Any advice on my situation?

Do most banks allow 3 checking accounts for a family? just seems overboard. my husband and I are probably going to switch over to a his/hers/ours type scenario. I have one checking account open right now. is that how most of you do it? open a few more? seems like a lot to keep track of with debit cards and stuff

My wife and I have been married for over 15 years. We have had our ups and downs, two kids and even a couple rough patches but managed to work it through. The past past few years have been what I would consider surprisingly wonderful. Our kids successful, our relationship healthy and sexually active until several months ago. For some reason, without notice it just went cold. Zero intimacy, no hand holding, she even pulls away from hugging or physical contact. However, I still get berated if I fail to do the routine love notes for morning coffee, or call her during my breaks at work. She never had to work as I have provided for her and she has liked it that way. She did go to school but never did pursue a career either because of interest or because of the kids. My worst fear is that there is someone else that she is seeing with whom a relationship is is blooming while ours is waning.

What do think of a 74 yrs old man who all his life had been VERY against porn site ;; plus lecturing his sons to never go there but himself using porn site NOTE He start using porn site just 3 weeks ago ;; plus he told his wife ;; I was sure you will never caught me ;; but she did caught him just by coincidence

could be personality trait or something they do or physical trait whatever comes to mind

It's been about a year since I got married and we had the talk about having kids with my husband. He's always wanted kids and I've always not wanted them although there's many factors that may make us fluctuate from our decisions. For example, my husband travels a lot because of his job and I don't see him for several weeks at time and as for me, I have a very good career and a busy schedule which he is encouraging me to drop to have kids. He receives a high income and is really encouraging me to become a stay at home mom but I don't want to. We talked about it before we got married and planned on having one or two kids on the condition that we both switch career to allow for more family time but now, we don't want to anymore. Everyone around me, including him, my friends, my in-laws and my parents are really pushing me to have kids but I just can't do it. I feel like it's getting even worse because sometimes, he hides my birth control pills then has his way with me several times and c*** inside me. I think he'd make a good dad but we're just not physically, mentally and emotionally ready for a child right now. How do I communicate this with him? What do I do? Another one of the main reasons I wouldn't like to have kids is because I generally think there is too much suffering in world to have to subject such an innocent human being to. Addictions, discrimination, poverty, hunger, drugs,rape...I just don't want to see someone else go through such stuff. -I'm 27 and he's 29. -He always wanted to have a kid but I've had my doubts about having them for a long time till I finally decided against having kids. -We had an extensive talk about it before we got married and came to a compromise (he wanted 4 kids, I wanted none, so we settled on two and changing our careers to something more family-friendly) but now, it's like we've become workaholics and are finding it hard to make the transition to other jobs. Yes, I had asked this question again about two days ago.

RHETORIC .I'M AFFIRMING THAT; BYE.

Last night my best friend of decades(I am in my 30 s) and I were scheduled to go to a local bar. My husband said he wanted to go. It s a really low key place in a small town. I have often thought my husband was flirtious but never concidered that it would be a issue with my best friend. My husband and I arrived at the bar first then shortly after Jane arrived. None of us had very much to drink. I was very interested in live music but they wanted to sit in the back and talk. They were taking sips of each other s beers to try them. (Which to me was strange) My best friend kept trying to bring up topics/ issues she knows my husband and I differ in opinion on and then take his side. Funny thing the positions she was taking were not ones she takes when her and I are alone. At one point in the night we walked down the street and she was in the middle and he was on the other side of her. Today I feel violated bc she knows so many of my secrets and I feel she used my insecurities against me. I haven t spoke to either of them about it I know my husband would say I have no clue what you are talking about. My friend recently gained some weight and is used to getting attention and I think she is struggling to let that go if that. My husband is out going maybe even flirtious sometimes. I didn t have fun I felt like a third wheel. I am questioning my friendship with Jane and very aggravated at my husband.

First off, I love men in speedos, the swimmer types you know. I have been married 5 years. We are both in our late 40s and are personal trainers. Our bodies are very hot. Last evening he came to bed and as I was feeling him up I noticed lace panties / g-string on his bum. He said it turned him on and it wasn't a gay thing at all. Should I be worried

This is a little long (I'm sorry) and yes I do expect you to read it all so if you're in a good mood to help someone in need, please read it all and respond accordingly. Just like the subject line says, my wife tells me that she doesn't enjoy and isn't interested in sex or anything that leads up to it and I need help because I of course do enjoy it!!! We have sex once every two to three months and that includes all types of sex!!! To keep up with my sex drive I have to masturbate daily to keep myself from going insane... Now, I'm not your typical nagging husband either, I'll mention it's been a while and make a pass towards her once and a while but I don't press on when she tells me no or gives me some lame excuse about not having time (although I'll make time and she doesn't utilize it). The only time I will ever throw a tantrum is if it's been *way* too long and she'll normally give me sympathy sex at that point. When I ask her what she *does* enjoy she says she gets more "pleasure" out of backrubs, foot massages, playing with her hair, and popping her zits on her back/face than doing sexual things or doing things that could lead into sex (like dressing sexy, talking sexy, touching each other's body through clothing, ect). Don't get me wrong, I will pamper her because it makes her happy but if she had her way I'd be pampering her every day (and I still wouldn't get sex in exchange)... As far as the dressing sexy thing, I give her *a lot* of time to do it but I don't know what her issue is, whether it's low self esteem or depression or what, but she doesn't even make an effort. She'll just throw on a baggy t-shirt and some loose fitting jeans on her days off (which isn't a huge turn on obviously - unless I was turned on by what dudes wear - but I'm not) and for work she has to wear business casual but she wears the most conservative clothing she can find (never wears skirts/dresses and/or heels just flats and never ever anything that could be considered revealing or visually stimulating). She never said anything about it but my guess is she doesn't like feeling/looking attractive (not even for me)... Yes, she did hook me for life but that doesn't mean I don't deserve to enjoy seeing her at her best once and a while (maybe not every day but once a week would be nice)... By no means am I saying that she has to look like a pornstar to make me happy but I'm her husband and she should want to do what little things she can do to keep me from looking at other women and/or wanting to stray (I'm 7 years married/faithful but I'm just that most people do things like this to keep it that way as married couples)... We're in our mid 20's, despite us both working we make under the poverty line after bills are taken into account, we have two kids (so she had to like sex at least twice in her life), she's thin and gorgeous but I'm a little overweight for my height, and, yes, we are stressed out to the bone (who isn't). We're generally happy in our relationship but she never talks to me about our problems when there is one (I'm obviously open with my issues in hopes of a solution), as a matter of fact, to get her to talk I have to frustrate her by asking a lot of questions to get it out of her (and I have to ask the *right* ones too)... As far as the kids, again I give her *a lot* of time without them. She has plenty of time to "recharge her battery" but she'd rather spend it talking with her girlfriends through the internet or wasting time on youtube, myspace, photobucket, and, yes, yahoo.... As a matter of fact, the only time we spend together is probably in bed (sleeping)... Help me! What do you think I can do to fix my issues?!?! Marriage counseling isn't the solution as SHE WILL NOT GO....

My husband, and I were just married 3 months ago. We dated for 3 years before we got married, and sex wasn't really an issue in the beginning. We did it a lot......It seems like after the 2nd year we started having sex maybe once a month. We completely stopped having sex 6 months before our wedding...I guess I was hoping that holding off on it would make it more enjoyable..And I thought after marriage we would do it a lot more....Now we hardly do it ever! He doesn't pursue me anymore, I feel ugly, and undesirable, and I feel like he's protesting or trying to prove a point! I guess I never really pursued him before (I never really had to he always wanted me)...but I never really denied him all that much either....He says he wants me to make him feel good the way he makes me feel...He's making me feel guilty...Like this is all my fault...

I was thinking about how lucky I feel that my husband and I still enjoy having sex together. We have a lot of fun, and I think it brings us closer together and reinforces the bonds of our marriage when I "respond" to him. I think that if I didn't enjoy it, or just laid there while he "did his thing," our marriage wouldn't be as strong because we wouldn't feel as close. I mean, if I'm the only woman he's going to sleep with for the rest of his life, I might as well make it fun! Right? What do you think? Do you have any issues with sex in your marriage? P.S. This is obviously an adult question. Only adult answers please ;-)

My ex-husband wants to claim our kids on taxes, but he has nothing to do with them. He doesn't call them or visit, he doesn't pay child support and he lives in the same small town. He ask me if he could claim them and split the money. My husband now is the only father they really ever had, they call him dad. My new husband also has two children and is in constant contact everyday and does not mis a visit. We also have a newborn. My husband and I now are the sole providers to all are children-love, emotionaly, spiritually, financailly, school....etc. We live on meager wages but we are happy and the kids are taken care of. We need the tax money, we take care of all of them. So can he (ex) legally claim them, even though he NEVER does what a loving parent would do? I also need to know if how to find out if he has claimed them even though I said he could not, and if he has stolen there identity because he is a very shallow person and not a productive member if society. I also researched child abandonment, because my ex never calls or visits his two children or pays child support. So does he waive his right as a father for never having anything to do with them? He called twice in 2012 to ask me to claim them, never once asking to speak to the kids. If there are websites or any helpful info. please help.

my husband cheated on me and had a little girl. I forgave him and still with him, but I'm having a hard time move on with my life I can't forget what happened and don't know what to do. I have a shield around my heart and am afraid of being hurt again. any advice?

My wife has given me a second chance and I want to be there for my wife and my kids. I would choose them any day over the other woman. One of my wife's stipulations before taking me back is that I can never speak to the girlfriend ever again. I sent her an email saying, "I am sorry for involving you in this situation. We should not talk again. I am committed to my lovely wife and family. Good Bye" I feel terrible about what I sent because it is so cold and mean. I am worried about how she is going to take it. She is just a sweet sensitive girl and she doesn't deserve to be dropped like I did to her. We had a lot of good times and she was one of the few people that actually cared about me. I have no clue how I am going to suddenly forget about her. I truly loved her and I know she loves me. We were together for only a few weeks but it was so exciting, erotic, and amazing. At the same time I know I have to forget her to save my marriage. How can I go from loving someone to not caring about them at all?

We had an almost non stop sex life from the night we got married to just a few months ago. Now we only have sex life 3 times a month and she has stopped giving me my morning and night time oral sex.

what can i do to not think about him anymore. He has done alot to me as i have him because i felt he pushed me to Either way we are in the middle of a divorce and reguardless of what happened I still miss him. He forgot me and his daughters when he went into military and now that he is in town this weeek I have moved and don't answer my phone. I don't want to talk to him because i can't trust him to tell the truth about anything. Plus our last conversation was about divorcing one of the rare times he called This was 2 days before he was on his way to come back. I guess he is staying with relatives thats I miss him but know i have to go through with it any ideas on how to forget him and please don't say get another man . That would be a disater as this is my second husband i'm divorcing and he helped me get over my husband cheating on me So i can't even trust another man to comfort me again it is very scary any ideas i have two kids 7 from previous marriage and our girl will be two.

Sometimes I have to correct myself by saying: Yes or Sir to him. What are some other signs that can mean he's controlling ? Thank you.