Family: Question: My cousin accused me of molesting her. She also accused my twin brother, my older brother, and my older cousin in law.?

Question: My cousin accused me of molesting her. She also accused my twin brother, my older brother, and my older cousin in law.?

Posted: 23 May 2016 12:41 PM PDT

I am 15. Very close to 16. I am turning 16 the first day of June. Basically here's what happened. It all started in the middle of April when my mother came home, woke me up from my sleep and started yelling at me. Since I just started waking up after falling asleep when school was over for the day, I couldn't really talk straight when my mother was asking me questions and got furious with me. I told her I didn't do it. I didn't do anything like that and I have never done so. She kept telling me to tell her story. I tried telling it, but you know I was tired so I couldn't think straight. My mother accused me of lying. She left to pick up my brother from Tennis practice, interrupting his Tennis game with another school so they forfeit. My brother told me she punched him in the lips even though his lips are extremely sensitive and they both came home. My brother explained his side of the story which perfectly matches with my side, even though I couldn't really talk clearly from being tired. She keeps accusing us of lying and she grabbed a cord from the TV and hit us with it. She wouldn't even listen to what our cousin have done to us, she just wanted to here what we done. So here is the story. Our cousin is only one year younger than us. She is born in June like us, but a few days later. She was caught smoking and sending nudes months before the accusation which led her to be on punishment since January to April. More in the comments....

Question: Wedding role ideas for stepmom?

Posted: 23 May 2016 12:39 PM PDT

I love my mom because she is my mom. But my stepmom is the one who raised me. She's not my mom in name, but - out of the two - my stepmom is the one I see as my parent. My mom said that's because my dad had more money and took me from her. But I don't know the truth there. My dad doesn't talk about it, but other family members - even my papa, my mom's dad - told me that mom makes up stuff and to not believe her. Anyway, my stepmom's been around for longer than I can remember, age 1 or 2. She's the one who I saw as a mom figure growing up, even though I called her by her first name. I spent some weekends with my mom and it was cool. But if I wanted help with homework or a friend to come over or anything really, my stepmom was the one to make it happen. I want her to take part in my wedding. But I know my mom will be mad if I do that. My mom and dad don't interact and avoid each other at all costs. I guess it's always been that way - my mom said my dad didn't even talk to her for like a month or two after she told him she was pregnant. But they are going to have to be grown ups and see each other at my wedding. How to I handle my stepmom? She's not pushing to be involved. But I feel like it's wrong to not include her in any way. I won't have her take my mom's place for anything (my mom already complains that stepmom has done that already), but what other roles can she play without hurting any feelings? I'm the groom. Should have included that.

Question: Was it rude of my husband to do this to my sister?

Posted: 23 May 2016 12:37 PM PDT

I went shopping with my sister at the mall for some new clothes. After we got home and were looking through what we had bought, my sister took out her new bra and said "I want to get a mans opinion on how this looks". I thought she was just going to take it in the living room and show it to my husband. Instead she went into the living room, pulled off her blouse and her old bra and put on the new bra and asked my husband how it looked on her. He immediately got up and left the room without saying a word. Was my husband being rude to my sister for not answering her question and just leaving the room? What do you think?

Question: Would you bang your sister?

Posted: 23 May 2016 12:31 PM PDT

Question: My dad is making us go on "holiday" for over two months?

Posted: 23 May 2016 12:20 PM PDT

And just to be clear, this is not a world cruise or something like that. We're visiting his family in Africa. Fun. Don't get me wrong, I like meeting friends and family, but I'm very much "westernized", as spoilt as it sounds. I can't even drink the water without violently throwing up for days, yet he refuses to give me the shots I need. What annoys me most is the complete lack of consideration. He knows I have so many important courses this summer, that I'm missing my 3 closest friends' birthdays, that I'll fail if I miss my summer classes... he just doesn't care. And it's not "for my own good", he goes out for days and has a dandy old time leaving my brothers and me behind bored. My mom suggested we go to, say, Egypt for a couple of weeks, and he went BESERK. He's so selfish. I am unbelievably annoyed. And along with me not having any physical contact with my friends here for the whole holiday, he wants me to not bring my phone and have any contact with them. And I know it's just because he doesn't want to spend money on Internet. I know I sound spoiled and bratty. However, I have the right to be angry; I won't have done anything productive and I'll do terrible in all my classes when I come back, and be so distant from everyone I know I'll probably have no social life left. This is practically my whole summer we're talking about. It's unlikely, but has anyone experienced something similar? Is there a way to change his mind?

Question: Is my mom in the wrong or am I ?

Posted: 23 May 2016 12:11 PM PDT

So here's my situation. I'm 15, a female and from a small town. My dad died of a drug overdose when I was 2, and he was a young parent , as was my mother. My grandma basically raised me because my mom was a teenager and wanted to be out and partying. However , she was around for important stuff and I knew that she was my mom. She has always chosen guys over me. Anyways , she met someone when I was 4 , my stepdad. He physically, emotionally and sexually battered me from the time I was 5 until I was 8. He had been in lock up a lot before for things like robbery, gang stuff, etc. When I told my nana about the sexual assault , we went to police and I dropped all charges because my mom wouldn't talk to me. I said it never happened and I made it up. Anyways, I moved in with my nana and my uncle. My mom decided to stay with my stepdad and to have more kids with him. I forgave them both. Well now I'm in 10th grade , all AP/Honors classes, 4.3 GPA and a boyfriend for 4 months. I lost my virginity (con sensually) and my mom is pissed. She called me a sinner and a bad person and I'm a disgrace and I'm ruining the family reputation. My mom was pregnant at 16, so I guess she doesn't want me to go down that road. But I only see her for about 2 hrs a week. She acts like a holy, perfect mom on Facebook , but I don't feel like she has the right to. Maybe it's just me being a teenager ... Someone please help me.

Question: Would this be considered a traumatic childhood?

Posted: 23 May 2016 11:57 AM PDT

Ok so I'm 22 now and suffer from depression/anxiety. My life went wrong when I was around 5. My parents weren't getting on too well, mum had an affair and my parents split up. My brother went to live with my dad and I live with my mum and her partner (man she had affair with) We've lived together for about 17 years. They have had a love hate relationship to say the least. When they have argued the house has been trashed, they've physically beat each other and both have been arrested. It got so bad at one point that a social worker wanted to place me in a home. The other thing is that my mum drinks when they argue and she has and still is verbally abusive to me. Stuff like "I wish you were dead" "you're fat and ugly" "you're a slag" and called me al the names under the sun. She has also attempted suicide several times.

Question: Is this the most outrageous thing you have ever heard of?

Posted: 23 May 2016 11:51 AM PDT

I am divorced but my ex wife and I are still on friendly terms. We did not have any children. I want the very best for her in her future life. I got an email from her current boyfriend that said "I don't want to invest a lot of time and money on this relationship with your ex wife unless she is good in bed. Is she?" I think he thinks I don't speak to my ex wife like a lot of ex husbands. I don't know what to do about this. What a loser this guy is. This is disgusting. However she is my ex wife and who she dates is none of my business. I don't know how this guy got my email address and if it was not such a pain, I would change it or find a way to block him. What should I do if anything about this email? I am torn between not wanting to see her hurt and wanting to stay out of her business. Gals, if you were my ex wife, what would you want me to do about this?

Question: Do you consider 5'0 short for a girl?

Posted: 23 May 2016 11:49 AM PDT

I'm 14 and my sisters and brother and parents are all on the shorter side, the tallest out of my sibling ( ones 19 and Two other are are older than 25) is about 5'7 but that's only my brother. The females are all under 5'4. As for myself I'm 5'0 1/2 and my doctor thinks I'm not going to grow much unless it's a few inches. :/ is that short?

Question: How do i tell my parents my 18 year old gf is pregnant?

Posted: 23 May 2016 11:35 AM PDT

i have known her for about 3 years since and have been in a relationship with her for 11 months. for the past month she has been feeling movement in her stomach. she has taken 3 tests. first once came out negative. the last two came positive? first response. one line is really dark saying she isnt pregnant and a super light line barely visible. she and her family are Jehovah witness. i am catholic. she has been living with her catholic aunt for the past 5 months because they kicked her out for seeing me. i know she will be disfellowshipped. i haven never spoken with her family because they want nothing to do with me. they hate me already. my gf wants to keep the baby even though everything will happen. im 21, shes 18. we will most likely both get kicked out. i still live with my parents. i have about 1.2k in my bank. she doesnt work. i am currently looking for a second job to make more money to help support us. i want to know how to make this work out. renting a small apartment here is like 800 a month. i cant afford that yet. is there anywhere i can call to help us figure this out? i want information before i tell my parents so i can explain what we will do. please dont comment anything about how she isnt a true jw being she is having sex with me. i just want you to take it in consideration that her parents hate me already because of our beliefs

Question: Is it necessary for sister in law being mean to my kid?

Posted: 23 May 2016 11:08 AM PDT

I know he's spoiled brat and nasty sometimes but I was shocked that sis in law told him after he has done something "Stay away from my son! You have lack of respects toward adults even your parents and grandparents. He doesn't need a cousin like you." What should you do in this situation?

Question: Transferring Colleges my senior year?

Posted: 23 May 2016 11:01 AM PDT

Long story short: My husband is in the Army and our entire relationship has been difficult but we always made it work. I currently am in a private college in Massachusetts with a 3.67 GPA. I am spending the summer in the Texas where my husband and I have a home, however, in September he will be relocating to NC because he was selected for Special Forces which is a HUGE deal in the army. He really needs me around and he'll be moving at the same time that I'll be coming back to MASS to my parents home to finish my last year. I won't be there to help him pack and unpack, clean the place, and support him the way he needs it. Special Forces is a huge commitment and he will be studying and training constantly and having a good support line helps. Plus, the constant going from mass to him is putting a great deal of added stressed onto my life in particular. The army moves around enough...and It sucks being away from him for school when he can be torn away from me at any moment. So, is it possible for me to transfer to a college in NC to finish my bachelors degree in criminology?

Question: How to convince family to live healthier/cleaner?

Posted: 23 May 2016 10:59 AM PDT

I care a lot about making sure my food, cosmetics, and other products are as safe and natural as possible- avoiding processed foods, harsh chemical cleaners, etc. The problem is that I'm 14 and don't have the means to do all of this myself. My mother is very nice when it comes to buying quality food, but not so much household products, cleaners, etc. My older sister is also quite bad when it comes to using harsh products and eating toxic food. I feel so uncomfortable living here. How can I convince them to help me "detox" our house and live healthier lifestyles?

Question: What should I do?

Posted: 23 May 2016 10:51 AM PDT

A couple days ago,I woke up to my dad yelling because the curtains in the shower scraped up the wall.He then proceeded to say how everyone is a peace of **** because they didn't tell him,we never new until then.I am a twin and have 1 other brother and 2 sisters.I went downstairs and he and my mom were fighting and he said "I don't think I could do this any longer.I know we were waiting for the twins to graduate but I can't." I am a freshmen in highschool. He said that right in front of me.I ran up stairs and went in my room. Before he said this a year ago,I found out he was cheating on my mom I never told anyone,so none knows.I just don't know what to do.I am very sad a lot of the time,but I hide it soo well. I just don't know what to do.

Question: Why do men abuse their wives?

Posted: 23 May 2016 10:46 AM PDT

I don't understand why my father abuses my mom. It's been going on for years. He hurts her physically and has done this in front of my sister who was 11 years old at the time. He has threatened to beat her in front of me and my sister. My dad complains a lot and is angry a lot of the time. He used to be very unpleasant with me also and I was a quiet and good kid growing up, but then as I got older he started to be nice to me for some reason and my relationship with him is not as strong like it is with me and my mom. There are times when he makes her cry and it bothers me that he hurts her so much physically and verbally. My mom is a nice and hard working person. I really don't think my dad has anything to complain about we live in a safe neighborhood, my sister and I do well in school, he has a nice home to come to. Also, he will act mean to her and tell her he can't stand her. He will act this way for a while and then all of the sudden he will start talking to her like nothing ever happened. He has done and said other mean things, but it is too much for me to type. Does anybody have an opinion on this.

Question: (HELP) How does an abuse and absence of father figure affect the rest of the life of a boy? How can those consequences be reversed?

Posted: 23 May 2016 10:37 AM PDT

I'm mother of a son of 18 years old. When he was approximately 7 years old, he was abused by his cousin for multiple times. He didn't say it for the first time because he said that he was afraid to lose his cousin friends but he said it later after those 'multiple' times. My son said that no force was used and that his cousin told him that he was 'playing' with him. My son grew up without a father, his father was indeed present, but after the abuse, he used to ignore him, beat him, hate him, insult him and humiliate him and he never gave him any affection or friendship. When he was 12 years old, I remember he did not want to go out because he was scared. He used to come to me and cry and say that 'he wasn't feeling good'. He used to say that he was seeing other boys 'better' than him. He's been bullied at school a lot. His father never did anything to the abuser because he was one of his family's members. Now my son is 18 years old and he have a tremendous hate for his father. He tells me that if he dies he won't care at all. That really scares me. He doesn't have any friends. He keeps everything for himself and he has barely no life. He doesn't show anything but he always isolates himself. I have an impression that he does not like females. I think he likes men. I know that he TURNED that way. He wasn't meant to be like that. He is dark inside how can I please fix him? What happened to him? Is this reversible? I can see sadness and anger in his face and that kills me.

Question: Why are my parents so easy on my sister and not me?

Posted: 23 May 2016 10:13 AM PDT

My sister and I are 6 years apart and I m the oldest. She s never worked hard for anything. I started working at 14. With the money I made, I agreed to help my mom s finances by buying my own school clothes. My sister didn t get her own job until she was 19. I ve always been responsible and independent. If I ever did something to disappoint my parents I d straighten up. I ve always been a hard worker. I wanted to provide as much for myself when my parents divorced and my mother became a single parent. I put myself through college and earned a BA and MBA. My sister has had over 20 jobs within her 12 years of working. She has no car and she can t keep a job because she s mouthy. When she gets upset with me she uses social media to embarrass me, she s even physically attacked me during a disagreement. My mother will take my side, but turn around and make excuses for my sister s behavior which I think is ridiculous! No matter what she does to our family, my mother brushes it off. Why is she so passive when it comes to my sister and I m coached to be understanding of her behsvior, but ridiculed when my mother is disappointed in me?

Question: Can I become my step-brothers legal guardian in Arizona?

Posted: 23 May 2016 10:08 AM PDT

My step brother is homeless and my dad kicked him out and so did his dad and step mom. He does have clinical depression. He's only 16 while I'm 18. How would I be able to do this and would it be smart for me?

Question: Do you agree with her?

Posted: 23 May 2016 09:48 AM PDT

My sister in law Grace is very close to our daughter Megan. She is in 3rd grade and most times when Grace is over visiting our daughter is wearing a short nightie or just a top. Megan not long ago started wearing more feminine underpants. Made of nylon and simple white. Grace thought Megan looked very grown up and pretty at nightime. Yesterday Grace happen to stop by soon after our daughter got home from school. She had been naughty and my Husband was sitting in the recliner chair giving her a spanking with her uniform skort off. (skorts have shorts sewed inside) David was taking his times and spanking slow when Grace came in the house. Normally Grace has her skirt lifted up The minute that my sister in law seen Grace in her white brief over Dad's lap she told me that "imagine what Gace must be thinkig" I told her that the only thing that Grace is thinking about is not nakedness but Daddy's hand. Grace is normally in her underpants at night so what is my sister in law talking about?

Question: Sibling fight while I am pregnant. What to do to resolve this issue?

Posted: 23 May 2016 09:42 AM PDT

I'm living with my sister while I'm pregnant. She took my tax return when she bought her home for help w a down payment. I have no issues but always wished she asked me first. I told her I wish she asked and I also wished she told me she is replacing my car that she wrecked so I can buy one I like. She is very angry I brought this up and thinks I am cheap/rude but all I wanted was to know. Well we went to the store and she forgot her wallet and she said she does not feel comfortable borrowing or taking money from me when I said she could. I got upset with her and said what is her issue and she became very calm but rude while I went very angry. I admit my anger was wrong but she made me so crazy with her comments that sting such as feeling sorry for my baby and comparing me to our cousin. She also deleted me off her Social media including my comments to her in the past. She is having a hard time finding a man and she knows engages in conversation about dating with me. I lived with her because I'm moving from Canada and meanwhile she let stay. She is very nice but it comes with very mean. I'm wondering if I should leave as I cause anger? She doesn't admit she is wrong in any way and I had a panic attack and feel down the stairs from talking to her

Question: My husband yells at me calls me terrible named. He's pushed me I don't know how many times. He's grabbed my arms so hard he's left markes.?

Posted: 23 May 2016 09:40 AM PDT

My husband yells at me calls me terrible named. He's pushed me I don't know how many times. He's grabbed my arms so hard he's left markes. He's tried dragging me out the front door by my arms. He says that it's not abuse because I pushed him to that point. It's my falt he's so mad. Then he says sorry and won't do it again then he does. He says he loves me and don't want me to go. I try to call the cops he says if I do he will take everything from me and leave me with nothing. Ugh I love him I don't know waht to do. He's never really hit me. He has slapped me one time. But that's it. It's tough I love him. Plz No bad remarks just want ideas. Is it my falt cuz i push him to far. He makes me mad to.

Question: Help with this?Don't these kids look like spoiled rotten brats?

Posted: 23 May 2016 09:40 AM PDT

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Question: Do my parents have the right to do this?

Posted: 23 May 2016 09:19 AM PDT

I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 21. We've been dating for the past 5 almost 6 months and things have been going incredibly well. My parents however, are concerned that he and I are getting too serious and are thinking about 'tying the know" soon. I am young and still very inexperienced, there is no way that either one of us could support one another financially at this rate, and we're just not ready for that. But because of their fears, they're threatening to call him and his parents in for a meeting this sunday and are going to tell him that he needs to take a break from me and start seeing other girls. I'm an adult, and in my opinion they have no right to do this. I'm not an idiot and I wouldn't jump into anything this soon. Yes this is a relationship I can see going for a long time, yet we've already discussed marriage and in all honesty it's a very definite possibility for us at some point, but not until the both of us have our educations squared away. I just feel like my parents are being too intrusive and crossing lines that they have no business crossing. Am I just overreacting or are they out of line with this one? Thanks.

Question: Is it inappropriate that I really want to take a bath with my 10 year old cousin?

Posted: 23 May 2016 08:52 AM PDT

Alright so I'm 17 and I'm a lesbian and my cousin is 10 years old and I just adore her so much and love playing with her more than anything and lately I've just had this aching desire to be as close to her as possible and I just really want to take a bath with her and hug her tight and close. It's not sexual desire and I don't want sexual release in any form I just adore her so much and want to embrace her as close as possible in within the bounds of hugging/cuddling and I just feel that naked embracing can be independent of sexuality and just an innocent form of affection. Would it be wrong of me to suggest to her that we bathe together?

Question: What can I do?

Posted: 23 May 2016 07:52 AM PDT

Since birth my sons daughter lived with him and his girlfriend majority of time they all lived in my home. Asof four months ago my sons girlfriend went to live with her mother and my son stayed with me. They took turns on a week with her and switch off a week with him. One day there was an incident were my sons girlfriend slapped her and just because the baby was in another room that day. My sons girlfriend was arrested and served with an OFP against her mom and her own daughter. Judge signed it and gave grandmother custody because grandma lied and said there was no whereabouts of dad which my son was and is still in the picture. Dad showed up at grandmas house with the police and they let him get her because this matter had nothing to do with father and baby but since then she keeps calling the police trying to take her away. What can he do right away so she wont be able to take baby from our home?

Question: Parents: Is this unforgivable?

Posted: 23 May 2016 07:42 AM PDT

A few days ago, my best friend and her sisters found out their mother lied to them about who their real father is their whole lives. Their father walked out of them when they were 1 (they're triplets obviously). They're all 24 - 25 in 2 weeks. When they were 3, their mum met someone and pretended he was their real dad since then. When they found out, they said what their mum did was one of the most unforgivable and distrustful things anyone can ever do. All 3 of them have disowned her and their stepdad and they are never going to speak to them again. Is this unforgivable what their mum did?

Question: I just been released from prison last year. I now have adjusted to life. How should I make up for the damage I've done to her?

Posted: 23 May 2016 07:38 AM PDT

I am convicted of raping a 16 year-old girl. What I didn't know she got pregnant and it is a beautiful girl. Her brother served as the father. I just met her yesterday with the child and I'm in tears but she said that past is past and what's important is I'm changed. She is now 21 and I'm 29. Her brother and I had a brief fight and we had beer and he demanded that I marry his sister. But I said only I should decide what to do so I left. I then made up my mind and decided to marry her in a condition that I shall return to prison afterwards

Question: I missed my bus, my school is in a different town, my parents are working and I don't have access to my phone right now. What do I do?!?!?

Posted: 23 May 2016 07:16 AM PDT

I've tried ordering an uber but I don't have an account and I wasn't able to access my parent's credit card info through amazon so I could make one. I have also tried calling them trough google hangouts but they are working and won't pick up the phone.

Question: How to get over my daughter being raped?

Posted: 23 May 2016 07:02 AM PDT

I am 39 year old neurosurgeon happily living in Seattle. My 16 year old daughter has a boyfriend, and they spend a lot of time together. Lately I noticed her weird behavior, and her lack of time with her boyfriend. Having this fatherly instinct, I knew something was wrong. I asked her what happened and she said her boyfriend raped her at a party (she went to one a few days ago), and that she broke up with him. She said she didn't want to tell us because she felt disgusting and like she betrayed us (my wife and me). I gave her a hug and a kiss and told her everything was going to be alright, and I told my wife. We've showered her with hugs and kisses and our support ever since. She goes to therapy to get over it. What should I do to get over it, help my family get over it, help my daughter get over it, and what should I do with the boyfriend? Should I tell the Seattle Police Department?

Question: Are my relatives dysfunctional?

Posted: 23 May 2016 06:59 AM PDT

The aunt and uncle r always arguing, they dont get along well, and they have major health issues and they r stingy! Uncle had seizure, mom took him in our house becuz they r too stingy to call ambulance. For 7 year old daughter's BD party, just hummus. No presents no cake. Also, they r insecure and they r aggressive, not affectionate. I have never seen their children & their parents hug, kiss, or say I love u to each other. The 13 year old son said that he hated his mom, he doesnt love her. She is stingy, mean, and doesnt feed them properly. Me mom and my other relatives suspect that my certain aunt has mental issues. Their children r aggressive and depressed. One of the daughter (she is 7 year old), once said to my 8 year old sister ":Dont call me unless I call u, I dont care if u r happy or not". She is home schooled and cartoons they watch only (parents regulate TV), & I guess she learned that from her parents (since they almost divorce and use to argue constantly. Everyone knows they r not in happy marriage). The children show signs of nervousness, insecurity, & they r shy. The children dont know how to act round other people, & they lie. Their parents lie bout their family life and themselves & so do the children. The aunt is always angry and she goes hmmph hmmph. IDK if she emotionally abuses her children at home, since they r aggressive. My uncle always seems angry and he doesn't act lovingly with his son.

Question: Alcoholic MIL help?

Posted: 23 May 2016 05:39 AM PDT

My mother in law is an alcoholic. Has been a serious alcoholic for a long time. Her childhood/parents/ex husband all destroyed her chance at a normal happy life. She lives alone about a half hour from my fiance and I. She screwed up my fiance's childhood with her drinking with physical and verbal abuse. My fiance, being an only child and her mother's ONLY family, she enables the drinking by ignoring it. But the drinking continues to hurt her, and puts my mother in law at risk: She leaves burners on the stove turned on, she is sick all the time, verbally abuses us when she's drunk, etc. We enforce a dry house rule and she continues to sneak beers in the house while she visits and makes comments like "I know you have a dry house but I'm drinking anyway" But true situation: my fiance and I are, all. she. has. She has no family no partner no other children. Myself and my fiance are literally, it. She gets ENRAGED when the doctors suggest rehab. And she will commit suicide if my fiance cuts off ties with her. She's been in and out of detox about a dozen times, with no success. We are literally at a dead end. My fiance is younger than I am and this is a huge issue for her to deal with at her age but, we don't know what to- I am looking for any advice, tips, resources, people who could help, intervention help, literally ANY help. Please. Desperate for help.

Question: Our son hates us?

Posted: 23 May 2016 04:45 AM PDT

Over the recent months, our son's attitude has been changed a lot. He used to be quit cheerful boy and would always be happy when the whole family was around. He viewed his older siblings as his heroes. Our oldest son was in the military and he was killed a few months ago and since then our youngest son has been gloomy and can't even look at us. When my wife asked him why does he do that, He replied with great disgust that he can't stand cowards. It is true when he was bullied at school, neither me or my wife went to the school to talk about the matter and it is also true that we did not took much interest in his life, His older brother and sister took care of him as we were busy with our work. He plans to join the military like his brother so when I told him that I don't want to send him to his death like we did to our oldest son, He simply replied that he is not a coward like us. We are both in deep shock over his behaviour with us. Aside from that he is a very good boy and achieves great grades and is very cheerful with his friends and his sister but not us. He is a teenager so I thought maybe these were some hormonal changes but it does not seem like that at all. Will he change his attitude or will he keep distancing himself from us. We don't want him to join the military because we are afraid that we might lose him like our older son but he hates our guts. Kindly help me and thank you for reading and answering my question in advance.

Question: In your family do you have to "earn" the right to be in the family?

Posted: 23 May 2016 04:43 AM PDT

My mother's family has members "earn" the right to be in the family. In my case I didn't earn it because my Dad is my mother (their relative)'s ex-husband. So I have earned partial rights but one strike and I am out. What is the rule for membership among your relatives? How do they become family?

Question: How do Influence family members to like me?

Posted: 23 May 2016 04:39 AM PDT

Some don'y due to my DNA (who my father is) as my parents are divorced. I am rated as "okay only" by my mother's side of the family since I am related to him and have not renounced him.

Question: Is my step mom mean or am I just a bad child?

Posted: 23 May 2016 04:28 AM PDT

Ive gotton in trouble 2 times with my step mom.(all for small things) after moving in from my abusive mom. about a month ago. this woman has been there everytime ive been with my dad but... I don't have that connection and its just uncomfortable. I still have regrets and I take them out on myself. I sometimes shut her out when she talks to me. and I don't mean it. help I cant help it

Question: How to stay in cintact with my dad over the summer?

Posted: 23 May 2016 04:12 AM PDT

I don't get to see my dad over the summer. My mom, sister and I are going on a trip out of country for the first month of summer vacation. My father goes on a lot of business trips, so he comes home once every couple months. He scheduled his trip a week before we get back to the US for 2 1/2 months, so we don't get to see him at all during the summer. I'll miss him a lot. How can I stay in contact with him? I need comfort. :( Serious answers only please. Oh my, I mean contact

Question: I got in trouble for watching anime?

Posted: 23 May 2016 03:24 AM PDT

Okay so last friday, I was watching some anime (Hunter x hunter) and then my mom came in and she was standing there for a good 5 mins (My door is behind me and I had my headphones in). She then started shouting obnoxiously "DEMON! DEMONS!" (Yes my mom is crazy..) Then she ******* took my laptop and THREW IT OUT THE GODDAM WINDOW... Then she called me grandma and they both started praying? (Wtf...) After that, they grounded me and stuff and they basically act like I'm a stranger whenever I'm around the house now. How do I get myself out of this mess? I love anime I've been watching it for years and I plan to keep it that way...

Question: I'm thinking of donating eggs for money.?

Posted: 23 May 2016 02:12 AM PDT

I don't really know a lot about the issue, I'm just interested because I need money and I hear it pays well. The only issue I have is having kids out there that I won't know about. Can anyone tell offer some information. Thanks!

Question: I had a HUGE fight with my mom. Please help!?

Posted: 23 May 2016 02:11 AM PDT

im 14 and i haven't talk to her since the fight that happened around 5 months ago. it was a really really bad fight. what happened was i was sexually abused by her husband (not my dad) but she takes his side which made me very very upset. he doesn't have a job and doesn't want to do anything so my mom pays for EVERY SINGLE THING. my mom is not rich. she works her *** off 10 HOURS a day just to stay alive. he is now in control of her money. i can't even ask her for money to buy food. i was mad because i really really love her. i want to fix our relationship but i don't know what to do. should i give her a call and just say "i love you" and end the call or what? i really don't know what to do please please help me..

Question: My sister won't come to family events and it embarrasses me. How do I get over feeling embarrassed for her behavior?

Posted: 23 May 2016 01:51 AM PDT

Question: What is the likeliness that my parents are going to get hurt or worse in Europe?

Posted: 23 May 2016 01:19 AM PDT

They're going on holiday and I have that feeling that something really bad is going to happen? Like a terrorist attack? I'm literally freaking out because now the idea is in my head I'm terrified.

Question: Why do my parents abuse me?

Posted: 23 May 2016 01:17 AM PDT

I am a 13 year old girl and my parents abuse me (mentaly and phisicaly). They have abused me since i was as little as 4 years old. When i was about 3 or 4 years old i heard my dad call my mum by her first name so i thought it was ok to call her it and i did then my dad began smacking me as hard as he could in the face and i was crying my eyes out and had big red marks on my face. They meantaly abuse me too, they call me names like sl*t, bi**h and st***id. They always say shut up or else you will be taked away, your paraniod and many more. I have cried myself to sleep some nights because of them and i even hide in my room from them. I didn't even know that what they were doing was wrong untill i was 10. I told my parents it was wrong and they just shouted at me. I am a really smart girl i'm in all the highest groups in everything at school and i always behaive and i have never gotten detention or suspension, so why do my parents do this to me?

Question: How do I get over the bitterness I feel towards my mother for the way and reasons she divorced my father 20 years ago?

Posted: 23 May 2016 01:15 AM PDT

I don't want to be bitter as I believe Jesus wants us to forgive. She used to alienate me from him as a kid (not now as I am an adult)

Question: My mother makes me travel whenever there is a family event because she doesn't want me to see my Dad, how can I let her to let me see him?

Posted: 23 May 2016 01:14 AM PDT

My Dad comes to town whenever there is a family event and since he remarried my Mom doesn't want me to like him. I want to see him and get to know his new wife. How can I get her to let me now that I am a teenager? I am tired of being held back because she doesn't like him (they divorced about 10 years ago)

Question: My mother loves to dump on people to me, how do I get her to stop this cruel behavior?

Posted: 23 May 2016 01:11 AM PDT

Question: How do I get my stupid brother to stopping insulting our mother?

Posted: 23 May 2016 01:09 AM PDT

He is 21 going on 4 it seems like

Question: What is a partner in stage combat?

Posted: 23 May 2016 01:06 AM PDT

What is a partner in stage combat??? Is it like your opponent???

Question: Will I repeat a grade? How should I handle this?

Posted: 23 May 2016 01:02 AM PDT

My mom cheated on my dad. My dad is out of his mind! He's talking about moving out of state with me. This is my mom 4th time cheating. I do not know why because my dad is faithful and he does everything he can for us. But I still have two weeks left in school. I'm scared if I move out of state hen I will have to repeat a grade. I have straight A's, but have a C+ in math just because of an assessment. I'm worried. I'm also in 7th grade. By the way, I do not know why my dad wants to move out of town. That's just the way his family handles things. I told my dad I didn't want to go but he said he will not have me around that Pedophile. and ifs true the man my mom cheated with (4 times) is a pedophile. he molested his 12 year old cousin. I'm definitely not staying with my mom. So, what do i do? Will I repeat a grade? How should I handle this?

Question: Dad/Son relationship question?

Posted: 23 May 2016 12:25 AM PDT

Long story short: abusive father lost a court case and i only had to visit him once a week. 6 years later, it is now 2016. I am getting so sick and tired of how he talks to me. Basically, he is only "caring and nice" to me when i say yes to helping him with something he needs done. Whenever things do not go his way EXACTLY the way he wants, he just calls me stupid repeatedly and says "so you will help me this way, right?" AND at times tell me "you are not my son, do not come over anymore, get out of my house" Then next week he just says, "I was just mad I didnt mean it" BUTTT it has been this way for 6 years. I do not want to see him anymore, unless he respects me as a person and understands i try to help him in every way i can. But honestly i do not want anything to do with my dad anymore.

Question: Tried talking to my mother about her emotional abuse towards me and my sister and now she's disowned me?

Posted: 23 May 2016 12:03 AM PDT

My mother has been emotionally abusing me and my sister since we were children and I at first thought it was normal but when I saw how my friends were with their parents, I did some research and found out that my low self esteem and self worth are caused by the way she treated me when I was a child. Same goes for my sister. So I spent the week preparing a sort of speech expressing how I feel and how we need to speak to fix this so my sister doesn't end up like me. Within the first ten seconds, after I voiced that what she had been doing me and my sister was emotional abuse, she began yelling at me, saying that I'm the one who emotionally abuses her and that I'm a toxic child and all this stuff. Then I began asking her to calm down. she responded with cursing at me, calling me an idiot and a loser. I continued trying to calm her down but it didn't work. She eventually asked me to list specific examples which I did after some protest. She then told me she was not going to give me any form of financial support for anything and that I was on my own and that starting today I'm no longer her son. It's been two days, I've been apologizing and such but she doesn't care anymore. I don't know what to do now. I'm a high school junior, entering his senior year and I'm just lost and afraid and confused. Can someone please direct me where to go or what to do?

Question: Should I forgive bf for texting another girl?

Posted: 22 May 2016 11:36 PM PDT

I found out my boyfriend was texting another girl four months ago. she said he was trying to get her to hang out. We have a child togeyher, and he's usually good to me, so I Dont want to end it. Should i forgive him or Should I even believe this girl help thanks

Question: My dad's a drunk?

Posted: 22 May 2016 11:26 PM PDT

i can honesty say i hate my father most people would read the first line and say that's just a phase and it will pass but let me tell you why i hate him. ever since i was a little kid i never had a genuine conversation with him every time i try to its just simple hi and bye types. he drinks nonstop and when its night he always blames all his problems on my mother. when he gets drunk he accusses me of doing cocaine and i dont even smoke weed smh he screams and when you try to explain he is wrong his argument is that he pays the bills. when he is drunk its sloppy screams all the time for everything always blames my mom and says i am going to end up in jail even though im a straight a student...

Question: Torn between family and boyfriend (please read)?

Posted: 22 May 2016 11:25 PM PDT

I'm 23 yrs old and my boyfriend is in his early 30s. We've been together for almost a year. My grandma is very protective of me and when she found out that i had a liking for him, she had an attitude. She was hesitant to meet him. I think it's mainly because she feels that a man will take me away from her. Her oldest daughter moved out with her boyfriend so i think she'll feel lonely, although she has a boyfriend herself. Anyway, the relationship my boyfriend and I have isn't perfect. He has anger issues and he and my grandma had a falling out months ago but they forgave one another. A week ago, things got pretty bad when my boyfriend pushed my leg and hit my hand. But there were no bruises and he wasn't trying to hurt me. I told him that his behavior was unacceptable and that if he and i were to get back together he would have to go see someone about his anger. He has became an outpatient at a mental health facility. He will be put on medication and because he's doing this, i am supporting him. My family on the other hand doesn't want him around me. They banned him from coming around and got the police involved so he is not allowed here. I just feel so depressed every single day. Even a bit suicidal. When i leave with him i'm happy but when i come back home, i have to hear my family down talk me. I feel so torn. I love my family so much but i also love my boyfriend. I don't know what to do... I just need advice from someone other than family and friends.

Question: Was i molested?

Posted: 22 May 2016 11:05 PM PDT

so, my mom told me about a year ago that i was molested as a child. i don't remember being molested. but mother told me that my cousin, who was around eleven and i was around four, gave me a bath. we were both at my grandparents' house, and my grandma went to take a nap. my cousin must have seen this as a good chance to experiment with his little girl cousin. so, apparently, he put gave me the bath, and started touching me down there. and then, as time had passed, my mother came to pick me up. i ran out the door to her, screaming my head off. "I DON'T LIKE IT WHEN [cousin's name] TOUCHES MY PEEPEE!" I kept yelling to her, wailing. She took me to the doctor and it turned out I had an infection. I remember being in pain, after. I don't remember the molestation, but now i know why he never looks at me at family gatherings. was i molested? when i hadn't even known what was happening? how come i don't remember the molestation, but only the pain, afterward? does my promiscuousness; experimenting with drugs and sex reflect this event?

Question: What would a mother's son think if their mother got raped?

Posted: 22 May 2016 10:41 PM PDT

I know that there are many beautiful young mothers out there. I was wondering what would a mother's son think if his mother got raped. The age group for the sons would be around the teenage age.

Question: Should I go to a concert that my parents offered to pay for?

Posted: 22 May 2016 10:22 PM PDT

So there's this guitarist I really like, and he's holding this concert a few states away. He rarely comes over here, so I was really happy about it. My parents are great and they offered to pay for a concert ticket and flight tickets over there, as it's pretty far away. But I feel guilty because they want our whole family to go together(they're really overprotective and everything), to the state I mean, not to the concert. So it's going to cost a lot. Should I still go, even though my parents are going to have to pay a lot?

Question: What does it mean when someone says "I bet you make babies beam" I'm so confused?

Posted: 22 May 2016 10:18 PM PDT

Question: Is it bad I dont miss my dad?

Posted: 22 May 2016 10:08 PM PDT

My bio dad left when I was born and my step father raised me from 2 but when I was 12 he cheated and my mom left im 16 ive seen him twice and I dont really miss the dude at all...

Question: If someone pisses me off because they're overprotective and possessive of me then that means they don't love me?

Posted: 22 May 2016 10:08 PM PDT

I asked how do I keep love from pissing me off and some ignorant person that is obviously clueless about love and about me told me that I am not loved, is this true since overprotective and possessive people are pissing me off? Should I believe this internet "genius?" why do you people that answer my questions know absolutely nothing about love whatsoever I mean really it's super obvious just by reading your answers

Question: Parents! I need advice about my 9 year old daughter?

Posted: 22 May 2016 10:06 PM PDT

My daughter turned 9 only 5 days ago, ever since then she's been starting have an attitude. I know it's normal for kids to get attitudes but she picked up this habit from her oldest friend. She has a 12 year old friend named Amanda that she hangs out with all the time (family friend). But she's very mouthy and my daughter has started saying some of the things her friend says. I made sure to check her on that behavior right when it started. But now she just has an attitude all the time and I don't know what to do. I grounded her for 1 week because when I asked her to clean up her room she said "Why don't you clean up YOUR room?" Now mind you I only had socks on my floor that needed to be paired with others. So I gave her a warning and she said "Ground me, I don't care what you do". So I grounded her, no friends or tv for 1 week. After that week was up she said "Do you feel all big and bad for punishing me?". Which is something Amanda says to her mom ALL the time. My question is should I cut this friendship off? Or is that a little too extreme? I talked to her about how it's rude to be disrespect and she seems to get it. But after she's with her friend she comes home and is a completely different person. So I do think Amanda is a bad influence on my daughter. But I want to make sure she understands why I'm cutting the friendship off if I do this. What do you parents think?