I always wanted a PS Vita so I saved up the money and asked my dad. He said yes but to ask my mum. My mum is doesn't like consoles so I need a way to convince her to let me have one. After all, it is my money I would be spending. Please help

Every since I was little I have been having tatrum fits and my mom doesn't won't to spend time with me hardly because she always says shed busy with work and other things. Well yesterday was my stepdad birthday and my mom and him and my stepbrothers and stepsister in their spouses went with them to orange beach. My mom was supposed to go to the flea market with me to buy me a dog since she's my caregiver since I draw a disability social security check from my learning. I just feel like my mom has put me and my brothers to the side and enjoying her step kids more. Me and and my mother always fight occasionally. I don't know what else to do. I cried my eyes out all day yesterday and today.

My sister is 19, I'm 28. We both live in Chicago now and within 7 blocks of each other. Earlier in the week I had told her I wanted to do dinner with her Thursday night. Well, unfortunately yesterday my GF got off work early and came over to my place. I completely forgot about the dinner. Sister was MAAADDD when I called to apologize.

My mum is travelling I'm a few days and I am going to miss her! Im used to coming home from school and seeing her and calling her when I get to school... Not sure for how longs she's going so that's what I worry about. How am I going to over it because it might take 2 weeks until she returns! What can I do I make myself feel better and not miss her a lot and cry constantly ?

I hate my family, I hate my nature, I hate my body. I want to move to someone else life.

So my husband and I are expecting our first child at the end of the month and it is a boy. For the last few months we have been arguing over the name. He wants him to be a junior but I absolutely can't stand the idea. I was willing to compromise and have my husband's first name as the baby's middle name but he is not willing to compramise. Anyway, my question is can you add a nickname on the birth certificate? Like just a name that the baby would be called instead of the dreaded junior? We have decided on a name that we will call the baby and I would like that name to be on his school transcripts so I was just wondering how I could do that?

When I was about ten or so in the mid-1970s my dad was a small-time pot dealer, just selling 3/4 ounce bags. This meant we had a lot of company around and often there would be a group of six or eight people sitting in the living room passing a joint or two around. If I was around it would sometimes inadvertantly get passed to me and I'd just hand it to the next guy but at some point, definitely before I was a teenager, I started occasionally hitting it too and eventually it became a regular thing. I never thought much about it at the time; this was home, what I was used to. No biggie. Anybody else have experiences that are similar?

I have a late birthday for the grade I'm in. I'm a 17 year old high school senior and won't be 18 until September 10. I have a very strict and controlling mother. I've been wanting to move out since I was ten years old. My older brother who is 23 hasn't talked to her in 5 years purely because of this. She takes it to extremes. I'm very responsible. I have good grades in advanced classes, have had a job since I was 15, and have my own car. My best friend's parents across the street trust me enough to give me a key to their house! And yet, my mother makes me "check in" with her whenever I want to stay the night at her house. I have to ask permission to do anything. Whenever I go over someone's house, she insists on getting their name, address, and house phone number. She doesn't allow me to do my own laundry or cook anything. And yet, in less than a year from now, I'm supposed to be leaving a small town in Pennsylvania to live on my own at college in New York City. Meanwhile, I don't have any additional freedoms than I had at 15. My best friend and I want to go on a graduation trip to Europe. We've been planning this freshman year. All the math has been done. With what we have saved and with working for the next several months, we will have enough money for airfare, a hotel room for two weeks, and $900 of spending money. My mother obviously is not letting me go. This whole situation is worse because my best friend is 18 and allowed by her parents and has the legal right to do so regardless. When I start college, I will still be 17. So am I really not allowed to leave the country without my mother's consent or move out on my own for the summer? How does it work? I find it ridiculous that I can't but I can live on my own at college. How does the law work?

On Mothers Day, who should a grown man acknowledge? The Mother of his child or his own Mother? Is it right to not acknowledge one over the other?

I'm the oldest of 6 kids. (Only adoptive) We live on a 23 acre farm. Every one of my siblings is either on a phone, or running around making messes. I get up at nine at the very latest. My brother gets up around two or three in the afternoon. (We're only kids out of school) I can't get a job because all of my time is spent working here, And mom says that she needs me too much. I feel they take me for granted! I honestly work my *** off for them and they only point out my flaws. Both mom and dad say they gave up asking my brother to do anything because he throws a fit or will honestly mess it up and I have to go clean up twice more then what was to start with. (Like clean the barns or the pig pens) I garden, cook, wash dishes, clean up after my siblings, help with any chore I can think of. And they both tell me I'm not good enough. Or I wasted my time when they didn't need that done for another week! When their friends are over or one of my aunt's they say every one of their kids are allergic to work and they do it all themselves. It stings. I'm starting to feel like I'm not one of their real kids. What should I do?

When I was younger I had really bad separation anxiety with my mom and over the years that has gone away to where my mom and I would constantly fight and I would always find a reason to pick a fight and argue with her when I was in the early years of a teenager. But over the years (around junior year of high school) we became really close, to where my mom has become my best friend. I started staying home more with my family, instead of my friends and I usual routine of going to my friends house after school. I am in college, but am still living at home with my parents. If I go out with my boyfriend or friends, I'll start to think about my parents and miss them a lot. I am always worried that something will happen to them when I'm out with people (like a car wreck or something along the lines of that). When I eventually move out, I know for sure that I'm staying nearby my parents. Is this normal to be so homesick when it comes to my parents? Is it because of the guilt I have from being so problematic with my parents when I was younger? This bothers me a lot

Friend A and B are a part of a school community club that my bullies attend, they don't bully me anymore but they set me up really badly once and made my best friend hate me... A and B know this.. but they're still in the same club and today they were showing me pictures of themselves and those bullies along with my Ex best friend... I got really upset and left... how to make them understand that it's hurting me?

It causes me to miss out on family time with them so it hurts me. They don't ask me as often because of my mother.

I have a really bad problem with my privacy. I live in a apartment with my parents and my sister, and she keeps taking my stuff that I paid for with MY MONEY like makeup, charger, phone, clothes and she makes a mess everytime she goes into my room. I lock my door everytime but the doorknob is the same for a lot of rooms in the apartment so there are more keys to my room. I don't know how, she always finds a key to my room and breaks in and steals something. I tried to talk to my parents, they explained her but she started screaming, insulting me in the worst ways possible and my parents had to keep her not to beat me. She lies that i punched and beated her, but I did not do that. Sadly, my parents believed her and they insulted me too saying that I am as mean as her. I can't stop her breaking into my room and stealing, my parents can't do much about it, since she is their little princess, even though she is older than me and I am only 14 years old. I don't know what to do about it anymore. It pisses me off, I tried explaining her but she starts her ****.. Can I call the police next time she steals something ? What should i do ?

My dad is a relapsing alcoholic, slowly draining more and more each day. He is also verbally abusive to his 4 children (including me) and his wife. I ve been told to tell cps and they ll inspect the house but we have a nice house and it s always clean because dad makes us clean the entire house or else he says horrible things to us. He gets mad at us for no reason like yesterday I was playing my phone in my room and he said if I grow up to just sit around all day then I might as well do herien or kill myself or else he would. I m 17 years old and I want to find a way to leave but he made us move to Texas and all my family is in Washington. Any advice would be amazing and I m willing to provide more details of asked.

I'm not even placing orders in the system yet, they don't even want me to place orders like what the hell ... so I go around just refilling drinks and hosting .. maybe not the greatest but I try my best, but if they're training me I should train me in a hard working environment. my last job they had me in the computer system the very first day, so I am so confused, so I hope they don't plan on taking this out of my paycheck.

Most of our relatives are really old, so my family and I like to take bets on who will go next. I've been right the last few times and I'd like to preserve my winning streak. Which of these people do you think is likely to die first? - My maternal grandma. She's 86, but the doctor says that she's in good shape and will probably be around for a long time as long as she keeps taking her meds. With that said, both of her parents died of sudden heart attacks around the same age, so it's possible that she might suffer the same fate. - My great-uncle Terry. Great-uncle Terry is only 68 years old, but he has had a long history of health problems and had to have his leg amputated last year as it was necrotic. He also smoked for 35 years, so there's that too. - My paternal great-grandma. Now, much like my mom's mom, my dad's grandma is in great shape, plus her family is known for its health and longevity (she's 106). However, being so old, she could not possibly have more than a year or two left, and that's why we're keeping an eye on her. And finally: - My aunt Gloria. She's only 43, but we think she has lung cancer. She also did drugs in her 20s and 30s and her health has been in decline since then. So, which relative should I bet on? My money's on Gloria or Terry right now, but my brother is waiting for my grandma to cause an upset. What do you think, based on the circumstances? Who would you bet on?

And I am happy about it because she said Nobody will ever call you SHORTY. Do I have the coolest sister EVER?

She's the only person who has ever called me fat but the funny thing is that she is actually fat. Most people call me small or say im "slim thick" She never flat out tells me that I'm fat she says things like. "Where did that stomach come from are you pregnant?" "You're not skinny so you shouldn't wear skinny jeans" or just talk about how big my thighs and but are but disguises it as a compliment. And tells me that I jiggle a lot.( I do but not much) She also tells me that my butt and thighs are bigger than hers when they are clearly not. She gives me clothes that are too small for her but they still are too big for me so I really don't see where she gets this idea from. Im really sick of this and when I confront her about it she gets sudden amnesia or rewords it to make it sound like a compliment. I'm almost to the point of just not talking to her. And advice?

My friends are intent on travelling across several different continents and they are keen for me to go with them. I'm 25, live on my own, single and I work for a family business, meaning time off isn't an issue. But I do have a daughter and don't want to abandon her. She means the world to me. I just need to figure how long I should travel.

Hello, I'm a 16 year old girl and my grandfather (my mom's father) died when I was 6. I remember that day very little. But I honestly didn't understand anything. Then I learned that he had cancer. I remember being like 10 and crying when I see my cousin talking to her grandfather on the phone. I also had a very fragile relationship with my father when I was younger because of some problems in the family. Now we're better but not great. So maybe that's why I miss my grandfather. I like listening stories about him and and his life and sometimes wish he was my father, or I could've had some time with him. Last year my grandmother gave me some encyclopedias and maps he owned very long ago and I cried secretly because I felt so lucky. And there's actually nothing I can do but just looking at them. My mom once said that he wanted to take my hand and walk me to school, buy me pencils and books but he couldn't because he died so early. I found a little article that mentions his death a while ago on the internet and I keep going back to that site. I wish I had a time machine so I can see him and talk to him, hear about his youth and what he had gone through. It's not possible but you just wish for these things sometimes. And I don't believe in God, Heaven and stuff so I'll probably never see him again. How do you get over someone you kinda never met? I want to meet him so bad, how can I let go of this feeling? (Excuse my English please, it's not my main language)

I am a senior in high school and will graduate in a week. I go to college in the fall, and i guess i should be happy cos it is the most prestigious public in the state. However, this summer i feel i will be very depressed. My computer broke down this year and i have no games to play. The only video games i could play are on the ipad (which gets boring very quickly) and a gamecube and wii which i don't play anymore. I don't have any other game stations cos my parents won't let me get any since i am going to college next year. I don't really mind this too much tho. I don't have a driver's license which means i am stuck at home and cant go anywhere, and my parents don't let me drive with friends. My dad is very verbally abusive and gets mad at me over the smallest stuff, and my mom never does much to help. Whenever i tell her that i feel bad, she tells me to go away and stop bothering her. I tried applying for a job, but i doubt i will get it because whenever i have applied for one before, i have always been rejected. I asked my parents if i could join a gym to work out but they said that it is a waste of money and told me to work out at home, but the thing is whenever i am at home, l lack the motivation to exercise, and i am a skinny **** too. I have few friends. There are some who say they are close to me and never invite me to anything. I have one close friend who loves in my neighborhood, but he never feels like doing anything. The other close friend i have only wants to go to either the beach or the movies. Plz help me find things that i can do to help myself and keep myself healthy physically, emotionally, and mentally without going mad from boredom and depression.

Why is she so bitter at my father and loves to poke me emotionally by making jabs about him but she has no problem that her brother is an alcoholic? She even says about her brother "oh his is just mild". For example on vacation her brother was drunk the whole time and we left early last summer. She has only brought it up once since and forgives him. When it was my father she is always telling me about trips and holidays she says he wrecked.

My sister is so annoying, rude, mean, psycho, and everything else you wouldn't want in a person I am not over reacting. I am only 15 I'm turning 16 in about 2 weeks and I can't take having her around all the time like this. Lets start from the beginning. When my sister was 17 (She is now 26) she moved back here from Maryland (because lived with my aunt) and I never really knew her at that time because I was 7. My sister is really really smart but she acts so stupid and sadly I hate my sister like I really I do -.- When she moved in I all I know is that things went down from there. She would get into arguments over little things (I think she has ocd because she gets mad over the SMALLEST things) with my dad (not her biological dad) And she would call him every single bad word you can think off and she would always be like shes going to cut his throat and slice him up into pieces and my dad is the most nicest dad I could have. My sister, brother and I (sis at the time was 8 i was 7 bro was 6) we would hide all the knives from her (and we still do sadly) because she is crazy that she would do it. And what do you think my mom did about this?? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING AT ALL this happened about 50 times and my mom still did nothing. My sister cusses my mom out in public and at home she calls her a fat b*tch and all these names and my mom says nothing back. My sister calls me and my siblings names too and she threw a fan at my sisters head (who was 9 or 10 and has epilepsy) and she was 18 or 19 and my mom still did nothing. My dad is always saying hows hes going to leave my mom when all of us graduate from high school and move to Florida (Me personally I don't blame him) FINALLY she kicked my sister out the house and but she let her come back 17 times too many. To get the big idea my sister has NO friends (seriously) none of our family members like her and shes just crazy!!! I can't explain it. Let me guess you're probably wondering why I'm writing about this today well hmmm lets see About 30 mins ago my there was a spider in the living room so I told my brother to kill it and he was going to buuutttt my sister (who came to our house to take a shower because my other aunt didnt want her to be at her house anymore) starts calling him a baby and saying hes not man enough to do it then hes like you know what I'm not doing if shes going to keep acting stupid like that. I said listen are you going to kill the spider and she said no this aint my house and I was ok can you like shush please so he can do it? Thennnn OMIGOSSHHHH this b*tch went off on me because I said can you shush please. She was yelling at me to shut the f*ck up and not to talk to her like that and I said why are you getting so offended I said can you shush PLEASE I didn't say shutup or anything else (And trust me I could have said something else because she has done so much mean stuff to me in the past but unlike her I have self control) So then she calls me a couple of B's and Mother F*****s and asses basically everything. And I said thats why your getting ripped off at Everest college and thats why no one is helping you because your so mean and that I'm going to go to a good college and have a better future than her. Then this b**** says You dont know that, you can die today today or tomorrow and all of this crap and shes like yeah b**** you can die today and she got the knife and then she said So shut the **** up Now I am so pissed right now because as soon as this happened I called my mom and told her what happened and you know what she said....she said oh well what do you want me to do..............Well you know what I want her to act like a mother tell my sister that she cant keep acting stupid towards me and my brother and sister and threatening us and my dad but she does nothing And then about 20 mins ago my sister left and then about 10 mins ago she come back in the house with my mom all happy and stuff saying Oh hey Brianna whats up are you my best friend? (YES she's always asking me dumb stupid annoying questions like are you my best friend are you the baby do you love me wanna go to Walmart -.-) I am so mad guys I want to get out of this house this happens every day I cant wait to go to college so I can get away from this and then I'm going to move away somewhere far away from all of this What is the legal age to move out??? I'm going to get a job when I turn 16 and I 'm going to save up for college but seriously when can I move out and am I over reacting (which I'm pretty sure I'm not because when my brother was 12 he even wanted to move out)

I come from a very high tempered family, my father and sister have the highest temper out of everyone in my family. While my father learned that physically hitting his kids did nothing for us except hate him, my sister still hasn't gotten the lesson. Whatever I do in life, it's wrong according to my sister. She is the queen of her world and everyone around her is pathetic and worthless. I've been the punching bag for her my entire life. If she's angry, she'll either hit me or scream at me. She never takes the blame for her anger. It's always someone else's fault that she's angry. My parents don't do anything when it comes to her. My father thinks it's just her temper and there's nothing that can be done. My mother has turned into an anxious submissive mouse that likes to merely place bandages over problems rather than deal with them. Few days ago, my sister diecided that she didn't like my opinion on her outfit. So she yelled at me in the store, in front of all the customers and workers, and then stormed out. Leaving me embarrassed and alone. When we got home, I told her that what she did was immature and rude. She diecided that she didn't like how I was talking 'down' on her and she jumped me. She punched, kicked, and pulled my hair. She was about to reach for a golf club before I kicked her in the stomach and ran out of the house. When my mother came home, she just calmed down my sister and then yelled at her (which never does anything). She then yelled at me because she said I have a way with my words that makes my sister angry, thus blaming me because I basically made my sister beat me up (yay me!!!). I'm really sick of this treatment. I have been. I've been complaining of my lifestyle for my entire life. I am BEYOND sick of being someone else's punching bag. I'm human too. I don't deserve to be someone's punching bag. I'm not some worthless piece of crap that deserves to be verbally abuse for someone else's benefit. My family doesn't understand. they think I'm so damn emotional and immature for reacting the way I do. Does my bruises and scars not mean anything? Does the fact that I've considered suicide not matter? I'm not like the rest of the family. I can't just get over it. When you beat me, it hurts physically but it hurts more inside because I keep replaying the event over and over and over in my head. When I'm verbally abused, those words stay forever. I can't move out. No money. I've been looking for jobs and I finally got one after months of looking but it's part time, only 200 a week. I still have to live with her but how do I handle living with her? When I'm near her, I become a very ugly person. I don't like myself when I'm near her. I become depressed, angry, and very sad. I hate that person. When I'm away from her, I'm so happy and I feel so refreshed and life isn't so grey. I'm deperate to escape her. I'm desperate to escape my family. How do I handle these next few years as I save up money?

I'm 15, and my sister is 23, and she's constantly treating me like her slave. Almost daily, she's too lazy to do most things she can clearly do herself. She'll call me into her room and ask me to do something for her. This has been going on almost my entire life. And I realized the more I refuse, the more "asking" turns into "demanding" and if I refuse enough, she'll turn into a crybaby and say, "Okay, fine. See what happens next time you ask me for something." Or she'll ground me. And my Mom (the head honcho in my household) is okay with it. The funny thing is,I never ask her to do anything for me. And on the rare occasions that I do, she always, always says no. I always talk to my dad about it and I vent to him but I usually get things like, "Well then tell her off." But what I want him to do is to tell her that what she's doing isn't right. Also... she tends to ignore some of the things that my parents say. Like one day, I was grounded from using the hair straightener. (Cause my grades were bad.) And my Dad AND my Mom said, "Hey. We talked it over, and said it's okay for you to use the hair straightener." (she also took away my computer, my iPod and my phone besides the hair straightener.) I was doing my hair for school and I explained our parents were okay with it. She didn't care what they said and still cut me off from using her hair straightener, mine, and my Mom's. And lately, she's started hitting me again when I do something wrong. Both my parents won't talk to her no matter what I say, and I feel like I'm in a rut of depression from her treating me this way. It's insanely irritating what she does to me and I don't know where else to turn. Please help.

For the past few years my little sister has been increasingly rude to everyone in our family. At first she was still nice, we'd play around some, I'd give her advice and such and she would at least acknowledge that I had said something. If we had an argument and she was at fault, she'd actually apologize. Then suddenly a year after she finished puberty ( like she stopped sweating excessively, less hormonal mood swings, etc) she started into a kind of downward spiral. I knew something was up when about a year ago, I was upset with her because she had shown her friend my old diary, and they had laughed at me when they read about things like how I was bullied a few years ago or the little bits about who I had a crush on way back then, things like that. I was rude since I was upset, but I didn't scream at her or anything. Suddenly she snapped though, and tried to strangle me. Then during another couple of instances this year, she actually HIT MY MOM, more than once. My mom had been threatening to take her computer away for a few days (not even a week or anything) because she'd been yelling. The other times I don't know what happened, but heard about it from my dad. My mom works 2 jobs for us ever since my dad's had more troubles with his business, and she's always sweet to us- almost sweeter than she should be sometimes, yet my sister takes that for granted! She's also called my dad an ******, to his face, despite knowing it would make him grumpy for the rest of the week (and he'd be mad at all of us for it) She's also been really dark, she's been watching show/movies that are really violent and a lot of characters die in gory ways, which I don't think was a trigger because there are people who watch them and aren't crazy, but for her she's been bringing up really dark references. Shows rated R and up, when she only just turned 13 last year. For example, the a few weeks ago she actually said to me " If you f*** with me again today I will literally cut you in half like ____" (I don't remember the character's name) It's not PMS. She acts like this all the time. I try to talk to her and ask her what's wrong, because she hints that people are being mean to her, but she won't open up at all, I've tried everything, and half the time she just flips me off or yells at me. I want her to open up, and be the nice sister she was a few years back when she was younger. She wasn't even that bad during her main period of puberty, it was only a year or so after (she went through it young) I honestly don't know what to do!! I just want my sister back, and to be able to talk to her again and joke with her, but I don't know how to get her to open up and calm down. I don't want to end up hating her! Can someone help me? is there any way to get through to her right now, or at least snap her out of being so disrespectful to my mom and dad?

Ok... So on Tuesday, I made a really big mistake and I am killing myself over it. My parents left for a month long cruise a week ago so they aren't home right now, just so you know. Just some background information here: My sister is 12 years old and I am 16. She and I are incredibly good friends (Or at least were) and we were inseparable. She and I have always spent a ton of time together, like I would call off stuff with my friends just to do stuff with her, but recently I've been kind of growing out of what I used to be. My sister is incredibly affectionate towards me, and I used to like it a lot more than I do now. She hugs me, we hold hands sometimes, and she even kisses me on the cheek really sweetly every once in a while. My problem is, I really can't take it anymore. She follows me everywhere, and always has to be around me. I really appreciate how much she loves me, but she is somewhat embarrassing around my friends and they give me hell about it. I always defend my little sis and tell them to buzz off. On Tuesday though, I was hanging out with my friends on my porch and we were just chilling. One of them was giving me a hard time about how I embarrassed myself in front of a girl a few weeks ago and I was kind of mad. Then my sister walked out and said "Hey big bro!" with a big smile on her face. Then she tried to hug me but I was mad and I pushed her away, not very hard, but she stumbled and fell off of the porch. I felt so bad! I ran over and picked her up but she just ran away crying. My friends were laughing at her too which couldn't have helped. They actually said "Good job" to me but I just glared at them and went up to talk to my sister. When I got to her room, she locked her door, but I unlocked it with a coin (It's one of those doorknobs you can unlock really easily) and I walked in. She was crying her eyes out into her pillow and I felt horrible. I tried apologizing and talking to her but she wouldn't listen to me and yelled at me to leave. I decided to leave her alone for a little bit. I went back to the porch and told all the guys to just go home, and they were a**holes for how they acted about what happened. They left after a few minutes. I went inside and decided to watch TV for a little bit hoping my sister might cool down, then I would go talk to her again. So I waited about an hour and went back up to her room. She was STILL crying... I lied down next to her and put my arm around her, to which she threw off. I started telling her I was so incredibly sorry and that it was an accident, but she didn't care what I had to say. She told me to immediately leave her room. I wanted to give her her privacy, so I felt. I stayed up a few more hours just thinking about how big of a d*ck I am. I actually started crying when I went to bed, and it's been years since I've last cried. So the next few days after that got worse. She avoided all contact with me. I tried to hug her, and she punched me really hard in the groin right in the sweet spot... (I had no idea she could hit that hard) and then she just ran away. I figured that I really deserved that. Whenever I would try to talk to her, she would run away from me and yell "Go away!". I was going upstairs to my room when I walked by hers. I heard her crying and then she said to herself "He doesn't love me anymore!" followed by a lot more crying. That REALLY killed me. I love my sister more than anyone and I'd throw myself in front of a car for her. I really wanted to go tell her that I did but I figured I'd just leave her alone for now. The next day (This way yesterday) was the same, so I tried to make it up to her. I drove to her favorite pizza place over two and a half hours away and picked up two whole pizzas for her. When I brought them home and I gave them to her, she had a really surprised and delighted look on her face. She looked at me with a smile, but she suddenly started frowning again and took the pizzas and ran to her room. I'm pretty sure I heard her mumble "Thanks" when she took them, but I'm not sure. After that, I realized that it was going to take a lot more than pizzas to get her to forgive me. Today was practically the same, she has been avoiding me and still wont talk to me. Someone, please help me... I really need advice. How can I let her know I am so truly sorry and that I will never do anything like that to her again? I truly need help. I just want my cute little sister to smile at me and give me hugs just like she used to... This whole situation has made me feel really sick to my stomach. I love my sweet little sister so much and I can't live knowing I've done this to her. Please, someone help!!! Thanks in advance, and sorry this was so long!

My husband and I have been married for 7 years. He has a great family overall. They are really close. However his sister is so rude and disrespectful towards me. When I first met her she was really nice. Overtime she has grown to what I perceive as being very bitter towards me. I've tried to reach out and befriend her. she never calls me back or answers my messages. Whenever she does finally see me, she is always making rude belittling comments about me. Mostly about my looks. She will say anything to embarrass or degrade me in front of people....The thing is when I first met my husband their parents were going through a divorce. My sister in law is the youngest sibling to my husband and his brother so I kind of think she feels that I took him away from the family, which is far from the truth. I've tried and tried to reach out, but she doesn't want a friendship with me. I've talked to my husband about the way she treats me and he really doesn't do or say anything about it. How do I deal with this. I really would just like to punch her in the mouth, but obviously that won't make the situation any better. I'm to the point where I have even thought of divorce. Help?!

A few days ago my little sister learned the cup song and showed my mom. I know its cute and that its sweet that she is taking a interest in music like I am. But I had learned it a few months back and when i tried to show it to my mom , she told me it was annoying. And I was only supposed to audition for a local event, not her, but after she showed my mom, my mom automatically thought she should try to. I know its sounds mean and selfish but I wanted to be the only one trying. And when I expressed to my parents that I want to persue a music career they tried to talk me out of it. But when my sister talked to my mom about music, my mom started making plans and actually filmed her and posted it on Facebook. But not once did she ask me if she could film me. And now everyone in our family is sharing the video and talking about wanting her to go viral, and I've expressed my passion to all of them and they never once offered to help me. This problem has actually made me cry myself to sleep for a few days and I just don't know how to tell my mom that it bothers me without her yelling at me for not being supportive of my sister. Can anybody just tell me how to deal with this?

ok, i have a grandma and she has a sister and she has a husband what do i call my grandma's sister, and what do i call my grandma's sister's husband??? ~thanks

So, I am 14 and my sister is 18. She is always mean until she wants something. I NEVER ask her for anything but she's always asking me for stuff. If I don't give her what she wants she will go sooking to mum who tells me to share my stuff. A friend recently gave me heaps of chocolate bars and my sister asks me for one atleast 3 times a day. My mum reckons that because I didn't buy them and because there's heaps I should share them. Also, my sister is dumb when it comes to tech so of course I have to help her do whatever she has to do and if I can't help her she complains and tells me I'm dumb for not knowing these things. She's always calling me names and if I say anything back my mum tells us to stop arguing. My sister cares about nothing except herself. This has been going on for years and I'm sick of it. Anybody know what I can do?

Because she is also my sister-in-law because her sister is my brother's wife. Plus when my brother and his wife(my sister-in-law) have kids, me and my sister-in-law's sister will have the same nieces and nephews. That also means me and my brother will have the same mother-in-law and father-in-law. My sister-in-law's parents are like my aunt and uncle. My parents and their parents are very close and we visit alot. When I told my sister-in-law that I like her sister she laughed and said you "can't marry your own sister-in-law". For your information we are Afghans, and for us Afghans there is a real word for aunt-in-law and uncle-in-law wich also means there are cousin-in-laws. So we are already related by marriage but it will just look wierd. My sister-in-law's sister is like my sister and treates my like a brother and I treat her like a sister. I do not know if she is considered my sister-in-law too is she? Because in the Afghan way she is.

please, can you help me? i'm 14, and my sister is 16. she keeps bullying me. i've told my mom, maybe 20 times. but she just keeps going. she steals my things, trashes my room, and plays really mean tricks on me. like, this one time, when i was sleeping, she tied my hair to the headboard.then she sprayed whipped cream in my hair! we had to cut it, so we could get it off the headboard. when i washed it out, my hair was so messed up, i decided to cut it. my mom tells her to stop, but she won't. i've even tried just asking her. what should i do? whenever i try to get back at her, she does something 10 times worse. please help me!

My sister and i have never fully got along. I love her and she loves me as well (i think) but sometimes she can get really mean and use a very discouraging tone. She can be really mean to other people as well. I'm personally very very insecure about my weight, and i think everything i wear makes me look fat sometimes. I tried an outfit out and my sister was on her phone, and looked at me for one second, then got back to her phone and got all. "Pf that doesn't fit." it's hard to explain how she sounded but it was bitchy as hell and my dad listened and yelled at her. She made me feel like i was the ugliest person alive. Sometimes she scolds at me and blames everything on me. She has a very powerful mind and has built up walls, she often says insensitive things. When she's mad she's called me "whore, ****, stupid, idiot, retard", and this is NOT ok to say when i'm 17 and she's 15. She knows i'm sensitive about stuff, and i get easily hurt by things. Like today she yelled at me for stealing her cap when i didn't even have it. Everytime i see her i'm litterly scared that she's gonna yell at me for nothing. She makes me feel unsafe, and she emotionally brings me down constantly. I don't know exactly what to do, i've told my parents a little about this, but throughout all my years she's the main reason why i've been depressed. I do have borderline personailty disorder (emotiona instability), which i know makes it a bit harder with my mood. But a sister isn't supposed to make you feel like the worst person in the world. Sure as hell we can argue. But this isn't ok. She's never pysically hurt me but she has constantly hurt me mentally. I dunno what i should do because we've tried to make her change, but she won't change.

Okay, well a couple of minutes ago, my sister comes in and has an attitude over something. I do not know what it is about. I ordered something and brought it to the bedroom we shared. I put it on her bed, but I was going to remove it after sorting out my room. So, she comes and sees it there and she throws it on my bed. I fell asleep, but woke up because she entered the room. My mom ordered new headboards and mattresses for us. Before they came yesterday, her mattress and bed set broke. She was sleeping on my bed because of that. I had no problem. Then, before her bed broke, even if I sat on it for a few seconds, she'd scream and get mad. I'd never behave that way over my bed. Yet, my brother has sat on it and she's said nothing. Now, I didn't sit on her new bed today, yet she complains and has an attitude because of my box being there. She throws the box on my bed where I'm laying down and sucks her teeth. She's also been using my MAC concealer. I have said nothing nor made it a big deal. Yet, if I ask to use her Dior mascara, she'll want me to pay her $1. She'll get very mad if someone uses her stuff. Now, she has a part time job. My brother will be 23 on Tuesday and she said she's buying him something for his birthday. I asked her if she'll get me anything for Christmas since I bought her a birthday present this year. She said, "well I didn't ask you to buy me that present so I'm not obligated to give you anything." I was like wow. She kept hassling my brother and I to buy her something. I told her I wanted something that's cheaper then what I got her (for $22) but she's like no. My brother bought her a hoodie, so she's buying him something too. Then we all have a mutual friend. He wants the same pair of Nike Jordans she wants and she even considering buying a friend sneakers instead of me. I was hurt, because she's willing to spend $185 on him but not even $22 on me. I had a summer job 3 years ago and bought her clothes with my paycheck. I even bought her a pair of Converse sneakers that she lost in her school, so one day she steals mine and uses them. Then she'll use my hair products and dislike if someone uses hers. I've bought her food whenever we went out and she only repaid me back once. I've done this numerous times. I feel like now I should never ever buy her anything with my money nor should I spend a dime on her again. I also feel I should hide or lock my stuff too. How can I go about this? I was crying a few minutes ago because this hurts but I'm sick of being treated that way and taken advantage of. I'm 19 and she's 16. She always uses the excuse "if you offer me something I'm not obligated to offer you anything." Thank you.

My sister has been married for 17 years and of course, there are problems in that marriage. Her husband has annoying ways but he is loyal, kind and loves her and their two boys. My sister has lost lots of weight and ran across an old boyfriend. She started an affair and now wants to leave her husband. She is so happy she could die, she says, but I know from experience she's responding to the attention and ego-stroke of this and that it isn't true love. It also irks me that she had to have someone lined up before leaving her marriage. I guess what I am feeling is a loss of respect for her. She is going to do this just as her brilliant sons go into the later part of their high school studies. I am reacting this way, I know, because it has happened to me. My hubbie did the same thing, but at least our son was only 9 weeks old and knew no different as he grew up. (And good riddance to my ex) but I feel my sister is acting out of total selfishness. Unfortunately, she picks up on the fact I don't support her and I am going to have to say it. What would you do? How would you feel? Do you think her behaviour is okay? Has it happened to you? Thanks

So I purchased a treadmill, and had it delivered to my home and asked my sister to be there because I paid for delivery and setup and she texts me how great it is, she used it for over an hour, etc, and I can't help but feel really annoyed because It's MY treadmill that I paid for ($2,000) and I feel like I should have been the first one to use it. (I'm 31 if that helps and she's 41)

I have been thinking about getting foodstamps in Texas and I know it's a touchy subject but I just lost my job of 8 years because we went out of busines due to how bad the oilfield jobs have been going. I am a single mother of 1 and another on the way. The father of my children dosent live with us but he does basically pay for everything. The rent, utilities, and everything my child needs. I looked at the form for food stamps and they are asking for all his information. But I'm just worried that they will try and get him for child support even though he pays for everything. Please, no bashing. I'm just considering the temporary help. Thanks.

So I was dating my boyfriend for almost 14 months, and I was supposed to go to his sister's baby shower..but ended up not going and breaking up with him because my mom went through my messages on Facebook with him and I had to confess to her what we were doing...(We actually didn't do it, but we did close). it's been three months, and I can't even talk to him, let alone be with him. Then, my cousin's 'friend" tells my mom that she (my cousin) was messing around with her boyfriend's cousin, and they actually done it. She got screamed at the day they found out by her parents (they all live with me and my family), and her phone taken at first...but the next day, she has her phone in her hand and her other friends over. While, I was grounded for almost a month and not even allowed to have my phone. I don't find it fair, since I got punished for not even doing it, and she actually done it and apparently didn't get punished. What are your opinions? My cousin is in honor classes, and gets better grades than I do (I'm not in honor classes). She's also never had a boyfriend before, and she has a job (which I don't). This "friend" has a baby of her own, and from the start of me and my boyfriend breaking up, I thought it was unfair that she was allowed to hang out with this friend who has a baby. Now, i don't think they talk anymore...

My dad was ordered to pay child support to my mother even though I don't live with her. I don't think that is justified because I live on my own and have been on my own for almost a year. My dad shouldn't have to pay my mother anything. Will we get into some sort of trouble if I pay the child support myself to help my dad?

I took my parents out to dinner and told them I was moving out. I didn't want to tell them who I was moving in with (because they don't even know them...) or where I was working (because I have a few offers and haven't decided yet). They got raging angry, so I excused myself and said we could discuss the matter later. My dad followed me out of the restaurant screaming my name, grabbed me, pinned me against the wall and threatened that he was taking me home "kicking and screaming." My mom corned me while he got the car. When he pulled up, my mom was distracted for a second and I bolted. I ran into a shop to hide, but my mom found me. She tried to take my phone and pull me out of the store. That finally alerted people and some shopper who was a marriage and family therapist (thank God) talked me mom down and he had to ride back to campus to drop me off. My mom emptied my bank account so I don't spend any money on something stupid...like an apartment and has been acting like a 2 year old ever since. She says I don't love her, has accepted it and is cutting me out of her life (I'm not upset...). I texted her that we can work through this with my therapist, but if not, the loss of the relationships and breakdown of the family is on her. This was a day ago and I haven't heard anything. Add: I called my grandmother and she seemed to be on their side. But she was mostly concerned about dangers of the world, me ruining my reputation and couldn't understand why I don't want to go home to be provided for. Unlike my parents, she said she still loves me and begged me to visit.

I have always wanted my father to be more interested in me like most fathers are in their kids. My mother frequently reminds me with her insults about him that if he loved us (his kids) he'd come see us more. My parents divorced when I was 2 so it has always been like this. I see him one day every other month and that is all so 6 times a year. Some years we don't even see him on Christmas. I fear he likes his younger two kids (from his 2nd marriage) more then us. His wife always has him on a schedule so he has little time and often puts off the 6 visits we do get due to schedule with his other kids (the younger two). How do I desensitize from this? I either get really upset and angry or really obsessed to make up the lost time even if it is not my fault. What do I do?

When i was younger like 10 and under would be hit with belts repeatedly leaving marks on my back, I had my mom and dad drag me around by my hair, they would kick me, and my mom would grow her nails out and dig them into my arm cutting me. i wasn't the best behaved kid but i just want to know if this was ok.... Today i am 17 i suffer from depression, anorexia, self harm, slight anxiety and i have extremely low self confidence. Now don't wrong I know my parents love me but they still do some of this stuff. I just dont know what to do. I have told adults and no one has done anything. My dad also almost broke me arm

He s 19 and I m 14, what do I do to make my brother love me? Bc of him I feel depressed, he is the one who caused me to have Anxiety.

I'm an adult and family hates me. Dad would talk to me at a point, now he rarely speak. If it's my sister he is talking and doing things with her. Am i perfect? no, but i do try and do what i can. I try and help and do what i can. Because i'm not what my dad wants me to be, i guess he hates me. Though i think he is hates me regardless. Worst thing is, i still loved him even if somebody else was nothing of my dad. And dad is negative of me, unconcern, would rather say anything negative of me instead of saying something good. He has never been there for me like i feel a dad should be. If i try and talk to him about it, he don't want to talk. He instead say something hateful, and doesn't apologize. This doesn't help my anxiety or anything. It just causes me to believe that he does hates me. I'm trying to do some good things. But no matter what i do i am blamed. What is the point of living? because i have no friends and family hates me. I'm always excluded

I'm 16. My parents are nominally religious, whereas I'm much more serious about it. I have done a lot of studying and really think that this is what I'm supposed to doing. The trouble is my mother constantly makes fun of me for wanting to go to church, or if she catches me praying or whatnot. She tells me that I'm just being silly and that I'll "grow out of this phase" and stuff like that. She also constantly finds things for me to do last-minute if I want to go to church or do some study on my own or something. It's really tiring getting treated like I can't have a rational opinion just because I'm 16. I'm not trying to force anything on her or my siblings, just to practice on my own. What can I do here?

Okay my son is six years old and is constantly coming home crying telling me I don't wanna go back to school the kids bully me the teacher bullies me and let's the kids get away with. Beating me up.every day I tell him grow a pair and stop doing whatever it is you do because I don't need that type of negativity in my life I only like hearing positive stuff. And he told me that he'll tell for what their doing and I calmly let him know now son the kids aren't gonna like anymore if your a Snitch . I told him just smile when they do stuff telling is just gonna make them not wanna be your friend. As a mother is there anything I'm missing I'm being dead serious go I want real answers.

I need help I am 18 almost 19 and don't have a job I tried but it is hard I go college my dad is threatening me that he is going to kick me out the house he even punched me I don't want to live with him what can I do please help

My 9 year old daughter was touched by her 13 year old cousin 2 years ago. She went to her grandmother's for 5 days and when she came back my neighbors daughter told me that my daughter she bleeding down there at her grandmother's. My daughter told me,her father and everyone it was her cousin. When I questioned her grandmother she told told me that she forgot to tell me about the bleeding.I took her to a specialist and she said the same thing and they found out she had been scratched in her inside. Well a year ago her father let my daughter go back to her grandmother's but the cousin couldn't be around. When she came back home her grandmother told me that it wasn't the cousin and it was the neighbors daughter. That didn't make any scenes to me cuz I didn't see any blood when she was home and she has never changed her store until now. So about 2 months ago her grandmother died and me and my sister talked to my daughter about it and she said it was her cousin and her grandmother put her up to saying that so she could see her cousin. But I don't know what to do cuz her father believes that the cousin didn't do it cuz that it his family and his family can't do any wrong.

She said "You took the pants and sweatshirt from that package! You have no remorse for doing the wrong thing! I m going to take things from you and see how you like it. " The package is in reference to how they came in the mail and she IMMEDIATELY confiscated them.

I call her the destroyer.

We have it good living in TX, my parents and brothers live in CA. My family likes living in TX and my folks dont make much of an effort to see us. I have a large family and its not easy going out to see them. They are in their 60s so its not like they are too old.

I might apply to universities the same year my brother does. However, I work harder, and my grades are better (even though he might be smarter). I will apply to good universities and I'm aiming for either Oxford or MIT. The problem is that I'm afraid he might get hurt if I get to a better university. I will probably go to grad school too so will it hurt if I don't apply to top unis?

well, actually there are main words that I have a hard time saying: "I love you" - It's just hard for me to say this word. I can't even say I love you to my family. (except for my mom, sometimes) and whenever I have to say I love you, I would say it as "I wuv you". I have to bend the words a little so that it would be less harder. "Happy Birthday" - I dunno. Another hard word for me to say. My relationship with my brother started to crumble since that day that I didn't greet him. He's really sensitive. I just felt really awkward and I just couldn't wish him a happy birthday. Until now, I'm still having a hard time. Whenever I say it, it feels forced. I'm not good at expressing myself in words and I'm not good at expressing in actions either. This is really causing some damage in my social and family life.

I m 16 years old, and I live with my grandmother. I have depression, anxiety and have previously been suicidal. Whilst I am out, I am extremely happy, but the minute I get home, I am extremely unhappy. My brother (is now 18, turning 19) had so much freedom during his time growing up, as a 16 year old. I ve been with my boyfriend for 1 year and I wanted to spend the night with him, I asked her and she said no. I try to talk but she discloses herself from the conversation. My brother did drugs, parties, smoked, slept at his girlfriends. I have not done any of this, I feel like I have no freedom and that she doesn t want me to grow up. She has residency order over me, but I am very unhappy where I am. she doesn t hit me or anything, we just argue. My dad and I have just started speaking again and he lives with his wife and 5 kids. I don t want to put the pressure on him, as my granddad (his father of 97) is very ill. I m stuck with what to do. Any suggestions? p.s I do not know when the residency order over me ends. I researched and usually is the 16th birthday. I am already 16 and extremely unhappy.

This is hardest at Christmas. My Dad does not like to fight so he agrees too much to her. For example Christmas he sees us the first weekend in December only. I am so embarrassed on Christmas because all the people I know with divorced parents see both, I only see my mother and her family. I am 13 so I have many more years of this game my mother plays. What might I do to fix this or get through it? We see our Dad the first weekend of each month only.