Family: Question: How do I get myself to forgive my mother for her mean behavior, I can't seem to be able to?

Question: How do I get myself to forgive my mother for her mean behavior, I can't seem to be able to?

Posted: 14 May 2016 12:58 PM PDT

She is mad at her family and it makes me fear it will make me look bad. As a result I fear this all day everyday, especially at Christmas time. How do I forgive her as she is not a bad person and this is one of her only weaknesses but it is a big weakness. She is bitter at them over issues stemming back to her father's alcoholism 30 years ago.

Question: Me quiero morir?

Posted: 14 May 2016 12:55 PM PDT

Mi esposo el otro domingo me saco ala calle y como mi mm estaba aquí Dr vacaciones me abrió al día siguiente llegue de trabajar y me acuso de robatme su computadora y llamoa la policía como era mentira solo me sacaron de la cas aotra vez mi amiga me apoyo en ir x una orden y sacra mis cosas así que me vine de arrimada con ella y le prestaban una casa y guardamos mis cosas pq me salí e la casa y no he rentado otra hoy en la mañana llegó el dueño de la casa y se enojó me siento desesperada me quedaré en la calle tengo un bb de tres años y el esta triste x q su pp no llega y así pues me quiero morir no se somos de mazatlan y no de si vender mis cosas he irme soy maestra y apenas ingresaré al gobierno no se que hacer soy de mazatlan haya están mis pps ayudenme quiero morirme ya no puedo y el pp de mi hijo está muy feliz no de vale pq me pasa esto por que Dios me abandonó

Question: Grandauter demands me to get shopkins and bosses me around?

Posted: 14 May 2016 12:38 PM PDT

Question: Are my parents enabling my drug addicted brother? Read below?

Posted: 14 May 2016 12:13 PM PDT

They are telling him his drugs are bad and no longer buy him prescriptions (he abuses Opiods). However, they still buy him food and give him a car (though he has moved out of their house) They also refuse to tell people he is a drug addict except in the immediate family (my siblings and I and the grandparents know). I got in trouble with my parents when I told my Mom's brother and his wife (the wife's nephew has addiction so I mentioned this). They also tell me to just say fine when people ask how he is.

Question: What should I do?

Posted: 14 May 2016 12:07 PM PDT

My mom and I aren't close but I'm living with her. She says I shouldn't be mad at her even though she left me with my abusive dad for a year and went off with her boyfriend and used my school money on her boyfriend. She barely spoke to me, I was 13 at the time. I ended up in foster homes because she refused to come get me, then I was placed in my moms care. She gave my dog away because her boyfriend didn't like him. I was devastated, I had him for 6 years. Now I'm 16 and my moms boyfriend always yells at me and calls me a useless 16 year old and that I'm worthless and how he wants me out of the house. My mom lets him and the one night he slammed me into the door and told me to get the **** out of his house. My mom blames every problem in her life on me and doesn't spend any time with me and she is always yelling at me. I don't know what to do anymore.

Question: Do I have the right to rejoice that karma is striking my mother for the pain she caused me as a kid by divorcing my Dad?

Posted: 14 May 2016 12:05 PM PDT

My step-father is leaving my mother. He wrote her a letter and said he is not cheating but the love just is not there anymore. They have been married 12 years. When I was a kid my mother left my father and brainwashed me against him until I was old enough to see my mother's ways. Now, years later, I am so grateful to see Karma strike my mother by her husband doing the same thing she did absent the brainwashing part. Now his kids don't talk to her (she liked them) just as she kept us from talking to our Dad much as kids. So I love seeing this happen to my mother who just recently said she does not regret doing what she did to us. Am I wrong to be rejoicing at this Karma that has struck my mother? @Zoe----She did have some PTSD anger about not having a Dad herself as a kid but that would make me think she'd understand all the more (her Dad had alcoholism and die when she was 6).

Question: Brother punched me?

Posted: 14 May 2016 12:00 PM PDT

So i was sitting on my phone and my little brother ( 2 years younger than me ) punches me so hard I get the wind knocked out of me. How can I get back at him without getting in trouble with my parents?

Question: I do not want to talk. What to do?

Posted: 14 May 2016 11:45 AM PDT

Long story short, should I forgive an a**h*le cousin? I have not forgotten anything even after almost a year. It just makes me so angry and sad thinking about it. He apologized after almost year and now I do not know what to do. I definitely do not want to talk to him ever again. Should I just say I forgive you but do not talk to me ever again? Also, he is very much arrogant. So, even if I might even say sorry, and ask him to never talk to me again, he is probably going to say something very rude and that will just make me even more hurt.

Question: Now I for sure believe my landlord is racist ! What do you think ? How should I go about ?

Posted: 14 May 2016 11:45 AM PDT

so after my landlord met my brother and cousin for the first time she screamed at them to get the **** out for NO REASON at all! All they did was introduced themselves. After find out I was half black she won't talk to me after me trying to talk to her about why she acted like that she just told me that my brother and cousin aren't not allowed over anymore because 1. I'm bringing in dangerous people over and 2. She is not safe with them in the house. Only because they are half black and you can tell they are black. I asked what they did for them to be dangerous and them making the house unsafe she just said I need to respect what she says end of story. I have conversations of her saying I can have people over my family as well but now that she knows I'm half black she said I can't anymore. And the lease says I can have overnight guest but now I can't ? But she won't give me any reason why. I think it's because they are black! Well my cousin is Filipino he's just dark me and my brother are half. You can't tell with me but you can with my brother! She's met my other cousins before on the Asian side and she was fine... And she can't say it's because they are males and she doesn't want males in her house. She just rented to a random guy off Craigslist but he's Asian ! What do think ? What would u do ?

Question: My mom calls me a spoiled brat and she hates me?

Posted: 14 May 2016 11:17 AM PDT

i really believe my mom has had enough of me. she screams at me everyday, sometimes the only things she says to me in a day is her saying in ungrateful,lazy,and just talking down on me. but what really hurt me is tomorrow is my 15th birthday, and my mother she doesn't care. we were supposed to go shopping at the mall and she said that we can't go and I should just say in my room :(. but the thing is, yesterday my brother got in trouble with the police and my mom was really really angry at him. she was also angry w my younger brother, so there was only me. she said that i was the only one she liked at the moment, and she was actually really nice to me. it was the first time in months where she acted like that. was it just because she couldn't stand my other siblings at the moment or did she mean it? and if you're wondering about my dad, he will side with WHATEVER my mom says because he doesn't want to get yelled at. and what do I do about my birthday? I am so upset and I feel like a fool for crying and even asking this question :(

Question: I don't feel safe living with my family?

Posted: 14 May 2016 11:10 AM PDT

Well my little 14 year sister is a bad kid who hangs out with the wrong people. She shoplifts from everywhere and got caught about 2 or 3 times but she still does it and she NEVER goes to school. She has boyfriends and hangs out at parks all day long and does drugs (weed) and she drinks too. My mom is too dumb to realize what she's doing she thinks she just stays at her best friends house all day long. My mom is in denial that my sister does drugs but I've seen photos of her doing it and plenty of people tell me they've seen it. Well my sister hangs around gang members because we live in a ghetto area and I guess one of them took her phone and sold it or something and of course my mom called the cops on the kid who took it and he got arrested overnight now all the gang members around my area are pissed and I'm scared they might try to do something to me or my family since my mom snitched.. We've had problems like this with my sister for the last year she causes problems for our family. I'm 17 and I don't have any problems with anyone and my mom is blaming it on the neighborhood we live in but my sister is actually the one causing it. She gets into fist fights with girls all the time too.. I wish there was a way to move out but I can't :/ what am I supposed to do??? :/

Question: I need to convince my dad to let me get my license.?

Posted: 14 May 2016 10:38 AM PDT

In January I turn 16 and I want get my license. Thing is I have to convince my dad to let me go to my home country and get my license. He's okay with most things as long as my school work is ok. I need to know other things that will work in my favour. I already know how to drive... My cousins taught me and I drive almost every weekend but my dad doesn't know this.

Question: I m 16 Should I move with my mom or my grandpa?

Posted: 14 May 2016 10:33 AM PDT

and Tryes to get an apartment. and a car he already has a job lined up until he gets out. My ma works with her boyfriend and they drive to lax every Friday so I would see her every weekend, I can face time my brothers and my ma Also if I stay I don t have to go through all the bs of going to a new school and looking for people to be friends with and getting lost on the campus . Here I m street smart I know my school inside and out and I have 3 close friends who ve I known since elementary. If my mom moved somewhere else I probably wouldn t care to move schools but she is moving to a location I don t like in Santa Maria. And she is moving for him.

Question: If my moms dad is full Latina?

Posted: 14 May 2016 10:03 AM PDT

Is my mom

Question: My friend never texts me I text her?

Posted: 14 May 2016 10:02 AM PDT

I am allways the one to text her but she never texts me first. She will reply quickly. But I don't know why she never sends me one first. We are friends and all but is this normal? What should I do? Ps I am a girl 2, I asked thus question earlier and every response thought I was a guy.

Question: Is it nornal I don't feel attached to my mom?

Posted: 14 May 2016 09:38 AM PDT

I'm 16 years old and I don't feel really attached to my moher. I am aware that she is my mom, but nothing more really. She keeps comparing me to kids that show love towards their mom and to guys (in movies) that show their love towards their mother; tells me she wishes I show affection towards her, even though I'm not really the kind of person to show alot of affection to my parents. Btw: If this helps, I'm adopted

Question: My little sister is so F*CKING jealous of me!!!?

Posted: 14 May 2016 09:29 AM PDT

I'm a 14 year old boy and my little sister who is 6 is so jealous of me. I've won 6 soccer tournaments, "why do you get so many trophies and I don't", I go to the movies with my friends "it's not fair why does he get to go to the movies and I don't" I get a new movie"why does he get stuff and I don't" but she gets stuff all the F*CKING time! I get a hat-trick in a soccer game and get to take the game ball home, "why does he get a new soccer ball and I don't" I buy myself an Xbox "why does he get money to buy things and I don't it's not fair" and finally my favorite, I threw up and had to stay home from school, and guess who also got to stay home because they got butt hurt that I didn't have to go to school. I'm so done man because my mom always sides with my sister and it's really starting to piss me off. What the hell do I do?!!

Question: How do I convince my mom to let me fly alone across the United States?

Posted: 14 May 2016 09:29 AM PDT

My Aunt invited me to visit her in Florida this summer. She d drive me down, but I d fly back alone. I m currently 17 and about to finish junior year, and I m huge about family. They mean everything, and to see them especially in Florida would be amazing since I haven t seen them in a year. My Dad is pretty leinant on letting me go, but he said I have to ask my Mom. Of course she doesn t want me to go, but she hasn t said no yet. My Aunt is going to call her tonight about the trip. How do I get my mom to let me go? Will offering chores and getting a job help her say yes? What should I say and do?

Question: Why does she complain about my nudity?

Posted: 14 May 2016 09:26 AM PDT

I'm fifteen, female, and my mom always complains about how nude I am. It's either something like "why you covering up so much?" because I try to hide my body properly and she thinks that because I'm her duaghter I shouldn't "be so ashamed" but when I decided to sit around naked while I studied because of the heat, she says "that's indicent exposure, God made clothes for a reason, you can't sit around like that" I don't get it, what does she want from me? Just to clarify, it's only us at home, no close neighbors, and when it comes to going out and about, I fully clothe myself.

Question: Teenage daughter never home?

Posted: 14 May 2016 09:24 AM PDT

So I'm a teenage girl and I'm involved with a lot of stuff at school. Last night I came home very late because I was a support character in the school play and I texted my brother to let my family know I'll be home late because of it (they never bother to come watching so I didn't really bother to tell them).by the time I got home by the end of the scene (around 10pm on Friday) nobody was home but my brother. so I went to bed and I had a tennis tournament the next day early in the morning and still nobody was home but my grandma who was still asleep. I head out to my game and it was over still in the morning and by the time I came home my uncle was there yelling at me about how I was never home and I was out all night and when I told him I was at a tennis game he walked away like he didn't believe me. Everytime I'm out late it's almost always for a school event so am I wrong? Am I wrong for always being out so late. My uncle always screams and yells at me how I'm a trouble maker when I don't do anything but activities for school. What do I do? My grandma told him that but she speaks a different language than I do. I guess you can say I have a typical strict Asian family?

Question: Can my mom force me to quit my job?

Posted: 14 May 2016 09:22 AM PDT

My mother and I don t have the best relationship. After an incident that happened last month at my grandparents house(not that serious), they kicked me out and I had to move back in with my mom. I failed one of my classes this semester(in college) but that isn t bad right? So, my mom is forcing me to move out, not giving me my car, and is forcing me to quit my job. Is she allowed to do that? I m turning 20 in two days.

Question: Is my mom abusive?

Posted: 14 May 2016 09:09 AM PDT

So, my mom and I have a broken relationship. She loves my little sister more and I always get the bad end of things. But the real problem is that I believe she was abusive. Once, while I was in my room crying because my mom made me mad, my little sis came in and made a hole in the wall with a loud bang. My mom came running in and shouting at me. I told her it was my sister but she shouted at me not to blame her then after that she slapped me and slammed me against the wall. In defense I punched her and then she literally put me down on the ground and sat on me and choked me (I'm 5'1 and 102 pounds, she's 5'11 and 280 pounds). I told her I couldn't breathe and she just laughed. My grandma said I deserved it because I punched her. I really want to run away but I want to make sure that I have a good reason to.

Question: Please help me.?

Posted: 14 May 2016 09:02 AM PDT

My brother just punched me and pushed me down the stairs just because i stepped into his room to see the new puppy we got. My other sister was already in there because he lets her in. He allows everybody but me. Hes never let me into his room and every time i try to go in he tells me to get out and when i ask him why he says "Because I hate you." Ive always been nice to him and done him favors but hes never done anything nice back. He always tells me im fat and that im an idiot. But i have hypothyroidism and hashimoto thyrodidis and its contolled . I am average weight.Because of him i became bulimic for a month then stopped. I get it though. I am the uglier sister. I never get to join family dinner because he doesn t let me. My parents know about this and they ve punished him and grounded him . He never lets me into the restroom an. Once be locked me in a room and told me to survive off of a peoce of bread so that i could lose weight. Its like he never notices what hes doing . I cant ever fght back because has strong muscles and i dont. He is a bully. How can this be stopped? I am 17

Question: FAMILY MEMBERS DATING, KISSING, HAVING SEX, VIEWING ans touching each other nude bodies. ARE YOU OK WITH THIS OR NOT?

Posted: 14 May 2016 08:51 AM PDT

Question: Why does no one beat up their abusive parents or siblings?

Posted: 14 May 2016 08:35 AM PDT

Like if someone in your family is hurting you, why not get revenge? Like even just taking an object and knocking them out, for an example. They don't care about being cruel to you so why not hurt them back?

Question: Trouble with In laws?

Posted: 14 May 2016 08:35 AM PDT

This situation may seem strange to some people but may be people frm conservative Asian heritage may understand. So my family and my In laws live in the same city but my husband and I stay abroad.My family is very modern and not so traditional but my in laws are super traditional people.I always look forward to my visit to my home town to spend some time with my mom and take care of her. This time we had just reached the airport for our flight to visit our home town my mother in law called me and said " from the airport you will straight come to our place and then after 2-3 days with us I will allow you to visit your mother" so I replied to her and said " my mom will be waiting for me , though she isn't well she has prepared lunch for me so I will visit my mother and then after 2-3 days I will go to your place but my husband doesn't have to come with me to my mother's place from the airport he will straight go to your place" when she heard that she threatened me that if I do not come straight from the airport to their home the consequences will be very bad" and then she called up my mother and accused her of trying to manipulate and steal my husband from her. So from the airport I to my mother 's place and my husband went to his parents place. Is it right for me to standup for my self ? Or should I have given in to her and stayed silent? Because now my husband is angry with me because I did'nt do what my in laws want me to.

Question: My mom only thinks about herself?

Posted: 14 May 2016 08:08 AM PDT

she pushed me to be in a program and I was so miserable. now she let's my brother live with us of course I have to share my bathroom with him not her but that doesn't bother me so much the thing is he was only going to stay here tell he found a new place he can but he hates being lonely I know it because he would moved out by now if he had a girlfriend he stays up late every time I get comfortable almost falling asleep I hear him or the bird screaming because he is out there the bird is not mine it's my moms she won't even give her a better home she needs one she picked her feathers out and don't tell me to give it attention I tried but it tried to bite me when I put it away in her cage

Question: Me and all my kids are doing well?

Posted: 14 May 2016 07:52 AM PDT

me and all my kids doing well doing well dog you never heard anybody in the cell naw. when they call cps I will run like a leopard hog. call the cops and my 5 year old will shoot you with is peter paw

Question: Brother caught me masturbating and I feel very violated, what can I do?

Posted: 14 May 2016 07:51 AM PDT

My dumbass brother is 27 years old and I'm 20 and he has the maturity of an 11 year old. It pisses me off to no end. I was doing stuff in the dark and a normal human being would see a dark room and night and say to themselves "maybe this person is asleep or doesn't want to be bothered" not my dumbass brother he just barges right on in. Keep in mind that this wasn't just 2pm on a Saturday but ******* 10pm during the night. I my lights off and everything. He literally barges in my room sometimes just to say "noob" and slams the door. He always acts very stupid and every other situation as well. Like he goes down the hallways saying "weeeeeee" or start quoting his favorite video game characters or cartoons. I'm a very private person and I don't even like talking about sex in public and he just barges in my room completely violates my privacy and now I feel like I never want to masturbate again because I feel ashamed. What can I do? I hate this because it's just one more thing that ads to my depression

Question: Is my father neglecting me?

Posted: 14 May 2016 07:50 AM PDT

I was around two years old when my parents divorced, and now I spend a week with my dad, week with my mom, vice versa. Its hard on me. I m depressed, have anxiety, and I feel like my dad is pushing me away because of it. Hes been diagnosed as bipolar and it shows a lot. Whenever I m around him I m scared because hes loud, obnoxious, and gets on my nerves, sometimes even mildly threatening me but not physically. I recently self-harmed and I told him, his words were get over it, stop doing it. Hot because you have to wear long sleeves in summer? you ******* fault.* He makes me feel like a piece of ****. My dad was neglected as a child and I feel like hes now neglecting me.

Question: I can't stand my parents!!!?

Posted: 14 May 2016 07:34 AM PDT

I cant stand my parents, I don't even respect them anymore. I do love them but i cant even sit in the same room with them, i dont want to talk to them, and I don't want to see them. They like to make fun of me, control my life and i just feel humiliated. They don't trust me and I don't trust them. When im home all i do is cry, sometimes I dont even know why. I'm sad and I literally have no one to talk to.

Question: I'm nervous my family will move while I'm gone...?

Posted: 14 May 2016 07:32 AM PDT

I'm 15 f and I live with my mom and her old pervy bf and my little brother. My moms bf is very very old compared to her, well old enough to be her father. He's very pervy and I'm pretty sure that he's sexually abusing me (idk if it necessarily counts as abuse though and my mom doesn't believe me when I complain about him). I go to live with my dad for a few months in the summer and lately my moms been talking about buying a new house since her bf is like a millionaire. She said that they will probably move during the summer when I'm at my dads. So they are gonna have to pack all of my stuff but I am extremely uncomfortable with this. I don't want that old man anywhere near my things especially my clothes (because, you know, bras and underwear and stuff). I just don't know what to do because this guy makes me want to die because of the inappropriate things he does but nobody believes me and now he has a free ticket to go through all of my belongings and do God knows what with them. Idk what to do anymore

Question: I can t stand my parents?

Posted: 14 May 2016 07:31 AM PDT

Don t even recommend me family therapy..

Question: Is my dad being unfaithful to my mom?

Posted: 14 May 2016 07:26 AM PDT

My mom died 30 years ago and my dad remarried a few years later. Today there was a picture of my step-mom from years before they got married and my dad commented that she looked beautiful. But when that picture was taken, he was still married to my mom! Isn't that wrong?

Question: Found out I'm from an egg donor? What to do?

Posted: 14 May 2016 07:14 AM PDT

I recently got my hands on my medical record for the first time as I turned 18. Much to my surprise, I found out that my mom used an egg donor. I have never been told of this before. Recently my relationship with my parents has been a bit rough https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20160513230049AAHXx1H . Should I bother confronting them about their use of an egg donor or will it just cause further strain?

Question: I am so worried my cousins won't think of me as family because they see each other more often then us, how do I fix this?

Posted: 14 May 2016 07:02 AM PDT

My mother doesn't socialize with her family any because of conflicts she has. Her four siblings (3 of them have kids) do socialize fairly often though not formal gatherings. Sometimes we get invited to stuff and I go since I am an adult on my own now but other times we get overlooked. So my cousins see each other once a week as kids and once a month as adults, I see them three or four times a year. So will they think I am a distant relative who doesn't care about family? I fear they might but I don't want to reach out too much where I am imposing (I host something Thanksgiving weekend and in the summer since I am older then most them). I don't want to be thought of as a 2nd rate relative.

Question: What is the easiest house plant to have?

Posted: 14 May 2016 06:41 AM PDT

Question: I have to see my drug addicted, thief, brother tonight. How do I act when around him and how can I make it go quick?

Posted: 14 May 2016 06:40 AM PDT

I love him but seeing him in a group like tonight makes me nervous. If it were just running into him for a few minutes I'd be fine. My parents keep bailing him out, if he'd just go to jail and learn he could change. He was a thief and angry teen and womanizer before the drugs. The drug addiction I know is an illness, I am more bugged by his bitterness towards our mother and step-father and his womanizing then I am the addiction component which i think is a disease even though it can be treated.

Question: Which Yankee Candle Smells The Best?(In Your Opinion)?

Posted: 14 May 2016 06:32 AM PDT

Question: Since my parents are divorced is it okay if I like my Dad more, my mother has caused too much hurt?

Posted: 14 May 2016 06:30 AM PDT

My mother is okay, but just okay. My Dad is great

Question: How to tell my parents I've gotten a new vehicle..?

Posted: 14 May 2016 06:21 AM PDT

Now that I have a full time job I can afford car payments. I've figured out what the insurance would cost, I've been approved for a loan, etc. I'm only 21 and the only problem is that my parents are narcissists, and the truck I currently drive is in their name. I pay for everything in regards to it (repairs, gas, tags/inspections, etc) besides the insurance. Basically, the reason I need a new vehicle is that I have NO room in my truck. It's a 2-door with a small cab, and I don't have any room to drive a guest if I also have a pet in the car, can't take more than one pet to the vet at a time, which is a problem, etc. But my parents won't understand this. They feel the need to control every aspect of my life & they will not like the fact that I have gotten a new car (that has better gas mileage and more room). I know I will get a guilt trip and they will also probably get pissed at me. I plan on filling up the truck's gas tank, cleaning it out completely (including vacuuming and wiping everything down) and returning it to them, thanking them for the opportunity to drive it and helping me become a responsible adult. Other than that, what do I do if they start to get angry or guilt trip me?? No, I don't live with them. Hence why I would have to drive the vehicle to THEIR place to drop it off.

Question: I never had a mum?

Posted: 14 May 2016 06:17 AM PDT

Will you be my mum John? I had nanna... What happened to my family? Where's my dad and nanna? My grandmother(s) (actual ones that didn't live with us?) Can you come back coz now I'm very sad not to have a mum....She was blond, you'd like her :D My mum...I'm not blond, I'm Indian....I've got raven hair... My mum was English...Terribly tedious people...Well, I've never met her, obviously, my dad says I'm a lot like her....That she was cool and such...I dunno....My English family are crazies, well my Sikh family are crazies too...Show me your f*ucking hair the sky will not collapse...My dad had long hair...But not a turban...I hate those bellends with turbans and cockney sense of fashion...I was set on worrying a black boy as white and Indian boys were bellends... Bellend means the tip of a penis, its head. It's to indicate a boy is wanky...**** is bad to use for a vagina/vulva but ok to use about someone's character, regardless of gender, very crucial not to use it jsut for women, it's bad to use it that way...My dad raised me to know what all words mean, and not to be an idiot...it gave nanna headaches but she had no legal rights over me so she had to go along with it... c*unt John, I don't want to marry a black boy anymore. I want to marry you...Can you take me home now, please? YA is a very annoying platform and I hate Bosnian and everything about here and the people...I miss you, can't wait to meet you 2.0. yay...I'm a but depressed that you are not here yet... John, are you even out there? Are you listening to me? can I go home now? (WHERE YOU LIVE!) Please? John, you make a very beautiful Sikh man...Better than most Sikh men actually...heheh John, you are better at everything than most people who are suppose to be good at it ever are...It's an incredible gift. It's a credible gift...:D I love you...

Question: Is it bad thing to be "quiet"?

Posted: 14 May 2016 06:15 AM PDT

My family thinks I'm quiet lol by I'm far from quiet. I'm the type of person that it takes me a min to feel comfortable around you and start acting like myself. Everytime I got to visit my family their always saying I'm quiet I don't talk and all this ish which isn't true lol. I see them like once every 3 years so of course I'm not used to them like that.

Question: My sister is into aggressive Wrestling, How I make her stop?

Posted: 14 May 2016 05:25 AM PDT

Hi, i am yinnu, my sister is one year younger to me, and some years back my mom, me and my sister used to live with my uncle, at that time i was 12 years, my uncle was a nasty man who was also found of wrestling, so he would ask me and my sister to wrestle with each other in front him, and he would giving money to winner, later he asked us to try to take off each other underwear, and who did at first would be winner, my sister was very aggressive and she would always try to take off my underwear to get the money, but i was a little mightier than her but later probably my mom told her to grab my balls during wrestling and take off my underwear, and she started doing this, she used to grab my balls firmly and than she would pull down my clothes off, she would squeeze my balls and uncle and mom used to watch this wrestling, now we have moved to another house but still my sister wrestle and grabs my balls, she squeezed it hard like before and she don't listen me. how i make her stop or get back to her?

Question: My father teasing mom sexually out of his frustration, should I Intervene?

Posted: 14 May 2016 05:15 AM PDT

My father used to be a Truck driver, two years ago he left job and started his business near home, since he was a Truck briver so he lived mostly out and since begining he used not to like mom and even me, but he took care of all the needs, also he was much intested in other girls and women, so he had many times stiff disputes and arguments with mom, and i saw mom yelling on him and in anger sometimes he would hit her too, now since he has started his own business of shop of automobile, he got attarcted to a neigbour women, and probably having sex with her, when mom came to know about she started yelling and shouting on him but he went aggresive and violent, but now for some months he has got changed and became very lusty, and in other way he has started taking revenge from mom, now he often time in late evening he pull her in his room, he makes her sit on her lap while he watch tv, some days ago when i heard screaming of mom, and i peek inside and saw he got her topless sitting on his lap and he was grabbing and crushing her boobs brutally, she was sobbing and crying and was asking him to stop but he was not listening, after a long time she came out the room, and now this sort of thing is happening almost every day, what should i need to do which could solve this problem peacefully?

Question: How can a big panties can be converted into thong by just pulling it up?

Posted: 14 May 2016 05:02 AM PDT

Since my Father seperated from mom, one of uncle ( distant relative ) has been supporting mom financially & he has relationship with my mom, one week ago, he went to picnic with his 5-6 friend and their wives, he took my mom & me along with him... it was a river there, so uncle, his friends, some aunt's and mom all of them were bathing in their undergarments, they all were in fun mood, then uncle did a thing which made everybody surprised, suddenly uncle went to mom and hugged her tightly and from her back he caught both end of her big nylon panties and pulled it up and within a second like a a magic her all big panties got shoved inside her butts and her big panties got converted like a thong, everyone was shocked to see this and mom was feeling very embarrassed, and i had never seen such a thing before so i just wonder how he converted her big panties in a thin thong just by pulling it up?

Question: Is it compulsory for my parents to let me make my own decisions?

Posted: 14 May 2016 04:38 AM PDT

I'm 18 in 2 weeks and I don't get to decide in anything. Whether it's clothes, eating at restaurants, going to the cinema etc, they never let me decide anything. Is it compulsory for my parents to let me make my own decisions?

Question: Ever since I moved out my mum won't talk to me?

Posted: 14 May 2016 04:27 AM PDT

I moved out of my parents' house 2, nearly 3 months ago and moved into my very own apartment. I'm 23 and I believed it was time to move out and start my own life. Over a week after I moved in, my parents came to visit and they were happy for me. Since then, I've still been speaking to my dad, but my mum won't speak to me whatsoever. She's completely shut me out of her life and I don't know why. I've asked my dad, my 2 sisters and other people like aunts, uncles and my old neighbours why she isn't talking to me. I get things like "I don't know why, but all I know is that she doesn't want to talk to you anymore" and "Maybe you moving out made her feel betrayed." Why won't she even speak to me? Could she feel betrayed by my moving out?

Question: Hello I'm Zach I'm 14 and I have been missing my mum and sister.?

Posted: 14 May 2016 04:18 AM PDT

My mum and sister came up to see me for 7 days while my sister had her birthday (my sister just turned 18). My sister lives in dunedin, New Zealand and she is in university and becoming a doctor. My mum lives in Australia and she lives on the Gold Coast, Australia. And for me I live in Hamilton, New Zealand going to school but the thing is this is the first real school I've been at since I was 10 in that time I didn't do any school work at all because I didn't want to go to school in Australia so you already know that I'm really behind in school. My sister always helps me with home work same as my mum and dad would help but he's always working. I don't really know where I'm taking this I just really miss my sister and mum I never get to see them any more and I just to see them again I've been crying for 2 hours so I thought maybe some you guys could help me with this. I really just love them so much...

Question: Difficult position with family?

Posted: 14 May 2016 04:09 AM PDT

So right now I live with my parents at 20 years old. I have a job and help them with paying bills and the rent and some groceries but my problem is that I want to move out on my own. I've had anxiety for about 3 years trying to find out why I have it and I figured it came from my parents. I always felt like I haven't done good enough or don't have high expectations for them but I love them to death and my happiness is not where it should be. I believe living independently would help me grow put of the anxiety or at least minimize it. My parents would probably not talk to me for a while for moving out on my own (I would think they would be proud of me but no). Any tips or advice would help me

Question: I never get along with my parents?

Posted: 14 May 2016 04:04 AM PDT

So for the past few years I've realised that I don't get along with my parents anymore. I'm always arguing with them. Infact I hardly speak to my dad anymore. I'm still a teenager and it may be that I'm just going through a phase but I feel like they don't love me. I have 3 younger siblings and they are always getting all the affection. I feel like I'm an outsider in my own family. Me and my mum are always fighting and I hate that she doesn't agree with anything that I do. About a month ago me and my dad had a big fight and since then it hasn't been the same. We didn't speak for a month until my mum made me apologise to him. Now the only time we speak is when I say good morning to him. Me and my mum don't get along and I know she wants what's best for me but I honestly don't want to be around them anymore. I say mean things when we fight and they think I'm this awful girl but when I get away I usually feel bad and then cry because I know I could lose them any moment. What do I do??

Question: How can I make my daughters behave when it comes to their boyfriends?

Posted: 14 May 2016 03:18 AM PDT

I have two daughters ages 26 and 23. Both have jobs and have been saving to move out. The issue is they both have boyfriends and I'm getting fed up with my daughters behavior. They think its okay for them to spend the night at their boyfriends houses. One of their boyfriends still lives at home and is saving up to move out like my girls are but that doesn't change the fact that the way they are is wrong. No self respecting woman would spend the night at their boyfriends house or even have their boyfriend spend the night at their house. I never did that once when I was dating my husband. One of them says they have no interest in marriage. So I guess she thinks its okay to just go around dating guys? She either has to have a long term relationship in mind or stop dating. Nobody understands. How does what my daughters do look appropriate to anyone? Its disgusting. The parents of my oldest daughters boyfriend, who is 25, even came over asking if they offended me the last time they visited because my daughter kept refusing their offers of spending the weekend because I forbid her, she had complied even if it was to get me to shut up. When I explained why they said their daughter spends weekends or the week at his place and is 27. What is wrong with the world today. Regardless what my brother, sisters, husband and friends say, no my daughters can't do what they want. Just because they're 26 and 23 does not mean I do not have authority over them. I'm still their mother. If this is acceptable or "21st century" behavior its disgusting. If this is how they will behave then they need to get out of my house. If they want to spend the weekend or week or whatever with their boyfriends then obviously they are not happy here despite me and my husband allowing them to stay until they find their own places. So they can get out of my house. Go stay at a hotel and see how hard it is out there, let them stay at a motel or hotel until they save money for their own places.

Question: My mom favorites my brother I don't understand why?

Posted: 14 May 2016 02:44 AM PDT

My mom has always treated me & my sister like we're her enemy. She's called us whore/b***h since we were 4. BUT with my brother it was different. He did whatever he wanted & he was rotten! He stabbed me when he was 9 & went to Juvie for 1week. I had to get stitches & My mom was forced to come to the hospital w/me. She let him have sex in her home at age 12 & never scorned him for getting STDs over & over. When he was 13 he started hitting my mom & become a bada$$. At 16 He was sent to a Boys Home for 2 years. Now at 21 my bro is a coke head w/a long criminal record who's goal is to be pissy drunk by 9am & all she does is baby him while he disrespects her. Now she has the nerve to ask me to pay his $1000 fine. She acts like her biggest achievement is the grown *** man living on her couch. When I talk to other relatives about this they only say You can't understand how powerful a mother-son bond is. THATS BULL! She shouldn't treat my sis & I like crap bc of her bond w/her son. Am I missing something here???!!! I just don't get it...No I don't have a son if it matters

Question: Am I taking this too seriously?

Posted: 14 May 2016 02:06 AM PDT

My brother and I were back home recently. During my childhood I was always encouraged to be in a separate room as the rest of the family. This time I just told myself that we're all adults now so I went to join in on the conversation. I hadn't sat down for more than a minute when my mom handed me a newspaper, pointed at an article and said "read this." It was an Ann landers-type article telling a woman that her husband is mentally ill because he didn't finish painting the fence. I have not finished painting my bedroom...but when my brother attempted suicide, my parents convinced themselves it's because he tried to quit smoking. When he loses his job due to alcoholism it's not a problem because he will get $300,000 for his house while I have next to nothing.

Question: What do I do?

Posted: 14 May 2016 01:10 AM PDT

So basically my brother hasn't been home in over 10 hours. He does drugs which worries me. He left with his friend 10 hours ago and hasn't came back, and he hasn't gone on Facebook ( he's always on ) and we don't know his number. I'm worried something bad could've happened. What do I do? It seems like nothing online but right now I can't sleep without knowing what happened, I'm worried. What do I do?

Question: My husband treats me like a kid...?

Posted: 14 May 2016 12:27 AM PDT

He literally just said this to me "If I'm not home to watch you and help with your decisions, I need you to be able to do it on your own." I'm 21. I'm not stupid, I can make my own decisions. I do not NEED him to help me make them. But this is how he constantly talks to me and treats me. I've been making my own decisions since I was 16. And he constantly calls me selfish for focusing on myself and our relationship. Always. He monitors my spending and scalds me if I buy something to treat myself or even if I buy him something. I'm so sick of this I don't know what else to do. He treats me like a child and then gets irritated at literally everything I do. I moved from my family and we live near his. He's constantly at his moms house and never goes to see my family and treats me like I'm immature for missing my family. Please, some advice on what I should do? I'm all out of ideas. I've tried talking, not talking, writing to him. I'm just done.

Question: What do I do? Is it just me who thinks like this?

Posted: 14 May 2016 12:13 AM PDT

My mother has always really not liked me. I'm 15 whenever I want any attention she says I'm annoying. I'm a bad kid I guess. I'm very needy. She owns a business but she goes out a lot with her friends. Today I had asked if we could hang out just the two of us. An she said no. I have depression.I'm just not a happy person anymore.. Most days have resulted in my mom not wanting me to come home. My brother and best friend started dating and my friend didn't like that my brother an I were so close so she told everyone I was in love with him. Just stupid high school drama. But I got upset and yelled at her. Which wasn't right. But my mom told me not to come home for it so I wound up sleeping in the woods on the ground with a jacket for the 5th night. Things have been going bad an sometimes I just want my mom to hold me. my mom wants me to live with someone else She and my brother are always hanging out but whenever I want to tag along she says I'm just going to annoy them so I wind up staying home and sleeping and sometimes ill just think about why they hate me so much. Mostly my mom. She's called the cops on me before because I got upset and threw a bottle of water at my wall. She tells me all the time she hates me. Every night I tell her I love her an will go into her room and she tells me to go to bed and she will see me tomorrow. But everyday I wake up early trying to spend time with her and she's gone. I just I don't know what's wrong with me? Can you guys help? Thank you

Question: How do I quit swimming?

Posted: 14 May 2016 12:06 AM PDT

I've been swimming for about 4 years competitively and I absolutely hate it. I swim 6 days a week for 2 hours and I'd say I'm okay at it. It was ok in the beginning but now I can't stand it. It's super boring and it takes up the majority of my weekends when I have swim meets and swim practice. I get very frustrated that the whole week I wake up early for school and the 2 days where I can sleep in, I have to wake up and swim. When I finish practice I don't feel like I'm energized or accomplished I just feel pissed and tired. I have tried to quit so many times but my mom ( who is obsessed with swimming) won't let me quit. She loves everything about swimming and always talks about it. When she was my age (14) she was attending elite national competitions and placing in the top 3. After a while she had to quit due to family issues but she still adores it. I tell I her I hate swimming and she always starts yelling at me. I've offered diffrent alternatives but she brushes them off. She won't accept the fact that I don't like swimming like she does and losing my calm. One time I told my mom I'm going running with my dad instead of swimming one weekend, and he ended up telling me he didn't feel like running the night before. My mom forced my to swim even though I argued and it ended resulting in a huge fight. My dad has mixed emotions on the whole swimming situation. I feel like I've tried every card in the book to help convince my parents to let me quit swim. Help please!!!!'

Question: How do I talk to my boyfriend?

Posted: 13 May 2016 11:54 PM PDT

Hello, my name is Jules and I am a 22 year old male, currently living with my boyfriend of 1 year. Three years back I was sexually assaulted and physically beaten by my boyfriend at the time. I ended up with two broken ribs and a broken wrist, as well as multiple wounds in need of stitches and or care from a pocket knife he had. Anyways, while the physical wounds healed and they are all but invisible, I am mentally damaged from it. My current boyfriend now, has been asking about sex and he doesn't know anything about what my ex did to me previously because I am too afraid to tell him. The truth is, I am terrified of intimacy. My ex broke me apart and took away a section of me that I can't get back. When he had sexually assaulted me, I had never had sex previous to that and it had been the most painful, grueling experience I have ever gone through. It was forced and the thought of having sex again completely terrifies me, even though I know my boyfriend now would never do anything to hurt me. It's just..I feel disgusted with myself. I feel dirty and filthy; Like his very essence has become a part of me that I can't wash away or be free from. I feel disgusting and used. Like a Wh*** or a Sl** and it makes me feel like my boyfriend deserves so much better than me. Someone who is clean and pure. Someone other than me. I never talked with him or anyone about what happened and I feel like I need to tell him my reasons for avoiding. How do I get over my fears and talk to him?

Question: Advice on moving out or staying at home/work?

Posted: 13 May 2016 11:31 PM PDT

So I m 19 and still live at home. I also work at home for my mom to take care of my disabled sisters ( I get payed through an agency). I m wanting to move out because I feel like I m suffocating. My ex boyfriend works with me as well and it s taking a toll on me. I hate the sound of his footsteps and it s extremely uncomfortable. He talks to my mom about me. I can t talk about my personal life when at home on my days off because he s usually there.I feel like I can t breathe.If something is messed up in the house my parents yell at me before my shift in the morning. I have to work during birthday parties/Christmas. If I mess up etc. my boss can go in my room at what ever time because she s also my mom and talk about why something isn t done etc. is it wrong for me to want to move out? My parents think it s stupid for me to move out, but I don t think I can do it anymore. It s effecting my work and my relationship with my parents. I get payed really well and that and my sisters are the only reason why I m tied to this job. My mom thinks I won the lottery with this job, but it s emotionally draining and so there for I m trying to separate myself from Work, family, ex and home. I know I m lucky to have a family that loves me and a roof over my head. Should I just keep on trying to detache my self emotionally?