Do you get a kick out of saying no to things that make them happy? You're not a their moms.

My child s father is dating a woman that is jelious of me and my child and she does every thing she can to get me and him to fight she downloaded text plus and was texting herself on her phone and she is saying it is me when it s not and he doesn t believe me so how can I put it in his head that s not me and that I wouldn t do something lime that

I'm really trying to avoid any arguments with my wife because we have a 2 year old boy and I don't want her yelling at me in front of him and I don't like arguing it's not healthy, life is short, I just like to enjoy it. I've been married to my wife for 11 years, she grew up with an abusive father. I feel that what her father did to her she's doing it to me. One of the reasons I married her so I can try to make her a more happier person and to help her forget about her past. Well it's been 11 years and nothing has worked. I have tried everything. Talking to her about it always ends up into a big arguement. I have given up all my friends, hobbies, and etc. just to spend more time with her, I have also given up sex, I just give it to her when she wants it (once a year), I let her control everything, and I let her have whatever she wants. I do all this for her just to make her happy and avoid arguments, but she's always looking for something to argue about. Please any advice?

My husband and I argue a lot. Sometimes all I need is someone to talk too. We talk through skype or send emails and EVERY day it turns into a fight. He will hang up on me or ignore me. I try to be there for him, send him packages make arts and crafts write letters every day and it all seems worthless. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety ever since he came back from Iraq, he was a year in Iraq when we were newly weds and now he's deployed again to S. Korea. I understand he is away and has issues, but he says very hurtful things. I am heart broken and crushed, every day he makes me cry and degrades me while i beg him to stop being mean, and he's cussing at me and making me cry. We get in a stupid argument and all he says is OMG jackie!!!! just STOP!!! all because i asked him to please call me and he says "I will TRY to call you! thats the best you'll get from me TRY, take it or leave it! when he has a cell phone with him. I'm trying to make this work through e-mail and the occasional phone call. I feel like i put more effort into communication. I already made an appointment with a marriage counselor for tuesday morning, I really don't know what to do anymore, I love him but I don't think I have it in me, I was there when he left to Iraq he was still rude and i was there that whole year and i was the only one at the airport when he came back, while he was here he was cold and it would drive me nutts, it just made me a different person. NOW THAT HE'S IN KOREA HE WILL HUMILIATE ME AND HANG UP ON ME AND I STAY IN SHOCK ALL NIGHT LONG CRYING WHY IS HE DOING THIS AGAIN, I'M TELLING HIM CRYING PLEASE STOP, I DON'T EVEN HANG UP ON HIM ALL I SAY IS PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE. now that he left to Korea I really don't want to go through the insults and the humiliations, should I leave him, so he can be happy and stop mistreating me so much? We don't even have any other problems all we do is argue all the time. Maybe I have been there for him and loved him way too much calling and sending so many letters and spending all my days doing arts and crafts and sending loving emails, its like he is taking me for granted, i feel like i should stop talking to him for a while until he gets mental help and realizes that we need to change and not fight.

I'm afraid my marriage will be over soon but I do love him with with all my heart I just want to know how to keep from arguing all the time.

We have always had our ups and downs, and were getting on well recently, but the other night we had a fight and he told me that I am a pig, that I am crazy and that he hates me. I'm gutted, I'm living far from my family and friends and asked him he he would look after the pets so that I could spend time with them but he said no. This weekend he has gone to his sister's and I'm alone at home feeling sad and lonely. The fight we had that caused this was so silly - I nagged him for using the wrong sheets on the bed and nagged him about not separating his socks before putting them in the wash. That's when he yelled and swore at me. I don't know what to do. Financially I don't know how I can leave him. I don't know whether I want to leave him. I just know that my confidence has been shattered and I'm afraid of becoming depressed. I couldn't even find the strength to have a shower today or leave the house and have just lain in bed all day. All advice welcome. Thanks everyone

No joke, if we get into it or I talk for a long time about why I'm upset, my husband just shuts downs. He literally falls asleep. He slowly just settles in, snuggles up with a blanket, and falls asleep. He always says that he just "happened to get sleepy" and "they're unrelated" and I'm sure HE believes that, but I'm positive it's a defense mechanism or something like that. Can anyone confirm this? Just now I was complaining about finances/job situation, sure enough, he's still asleep now its about 15 minutes later... Bizarre or what?! He literally can't handle it when I'm emotional.

My husband and I have only been married for 6 months but we have a 14 month old baby. We have never had a great relationship but ever since we had our son all we do is ARGUE! I will try an make this short as possible but I really need advice. We really argue over the dumbest things but they turn in to really bad arguments never physical just yelling. Anyways, I am only 22 years old and my husband is 27. He does go to work every day and he does support us financially because as of right now I am a stay at home mom. I will however be starting school in May, but when we argue he puts me down and says "I'm the only one who pays the bills around here the only thing you have done is pop out a baby." And to be honest he thinks he is SO much better than everyone and I can't stand that about him he is also just so heartless and has no emotions what so ever. I told him after our argument tonight that I did not want to argue anymore that I really want to work on our relationship and become closer and he just acted like he didn't even care at all. We NEVER spend time together, ever! He works comes home and plays his XBOX until it's time for bed. We never watch tv or a movie together never have dinner together nothing. So I suggested tonight that we need to get my mom to watch our son and us go and have dinner and a movie together one night soon. I was like do you want to have dinner he was like "I guess so." And tonight I was crying because I seriously want us to work out our problems and just be happy and he told me that "I am a cry baby and all I ever do is cry." He NEVER just hugs me and asks me if I'm ok or anything and I told him that. I told him that I think he doesn't even care or love me because he NEVER shows me any affection and he says "I go to work every day and pay all the bills how do I not love you?" I have NO idea what he is even talking about. I just don't know what to do and I feel so alone and on top of this my grandmother is dying of cancer. I just really need advice and I am honestly not a strong person and I wish I were because it would make things a lot easier.

We've been dating for six months but met 11 months ago. The affair started out emotionally as he became my best friend. My husband and I separated 6 months ago and our divorce isn't final yet. The whole affair was messy because my husband confronted him at his work. My family also harassed him on facebook and even went as far as going to the cops. I am not ready to meet his family but I am his date on his sister's wedding. I was also raised a catholic and our affair may cause a stir in terms of religious morals. What do you think? Should I go with the flow? He is 14 years younger than me and he has a young daughter.

and why do they say they don't want to be married but then marry another woman a month later?

Despite my struggles, I wish I knew and felt what I do now back when her and I were together here. I think I would've been a more patient and loving partner. I hope she is well and I still think of her often. Does it sound like my ex husband wants to reconcile?

There's this gorgeous lady who used to try everything to get my attention. She'll say Hi, rub my shoulders, stroke my arm just to get my attention. We finally talked several times. I haven't seen her for a couple of weeks. The thing is I can tell she'signoring me. What game is she playing?

I have been married for 5 yr last fall husband started staying out all night at a friends house. This went on for 2 months. He would come home no more than once a week for a night and in morning to get son ready for school till next day. one day went there a bunch of his belongings were girls room.Then one night I showed up over there at 3 in the morning. my husband came out of the girls room. he came home with the wife of friend both saying she wasn t even there. He still continued to stay out all night. When she moved out the wife told me she had lied to me my husband was staying in the girls room everynight. I left him Trying to reconsicle -- he wouldn t admit he slept in the room saying he accidentaly fell asleep in there a couple of times. He didn t think it was wrong cuz he wasn t having sex. I told him when he was in the emotional relationship with her it was cheating . Months have gone by and I have asked him over and over to tell me the truth. He finally admitted that he hung out with her for exteneded amounts of time doing drugs. says why cant he have a female friend. I feel betrayed. He wont tell me the truth. He said I just want him to say something. I can t take it if he had told me the truth in the begining I could heal from it all but he never gave me the chance the lies just make it worse. Am I wrong for wanting him to tell me everything that went on-how much time did he spend with her-how often did he sleep in her bed.

I mean, I know a lot of people make it seem so easy like hi? But what's proper to say? I was thinking, Hi, nice to meet you or something of the sort... My husband and I are first off really young so Were not in our 30's or anything like that and we've been married a good year and a half if that matters? lol Thanks in advance

I've been married since 2003 and left my husband in 2004. We have 1 child together because I cannot located him to sign the forms. Is there anything else I could do to complete this divorce?

This isn't all that new but every time my husband is even the slightest perturbed at me he gets very angry and more or less flies into a rage. He will yell and scream at the top of his lungs call me swear words and names and tell me I'm stupid. He will tell me how terrible it is to be married to me and that I am always at fault and to blame. He makes it seem like I am a retard he is putting up with time and time again. He will also say I'm making him need to leave as he cannot be around people like me! He says he is leaving as I don't love him or care about him. I think I am intelligent attractive mellow warm patient tolerant loyal and caring . I do not react to his tantrums like I used to. I used to get upset or cry or beg or believe all that he had to say. I have come to realize I think he has severe rage issues and is very manipulative. I think he learned all of this from his bipolar mother whom he was taken away from as a child and no longer speaks to her. He has conflict with many people in his life mostly relatives and siblings . He does not speak to most of them stating they hurt him, aren't good for him and he needs to have them out of his life. He says he loves his life but it's being married to me that is his downfall. Around people he is very careful to present as happy, entertaining and always seems "on". So today I told him I needed an hour on computer for work related things and that I would spend time with him once I was done. Then he just became passive aggressive and soon was trying to blame me or get mad at me for any little thing. He proceeded to scream and tell at me for an hour! He stormed off to work slamming the door. Now he will mad for several days at me. I used to refuse to listen or point out his yelling . Now I calmly sit and listen to him. I never say too much. I always agree with him and how terrible he must feel. I do this to avoid an escalated conflict. If I appear like I am not listening to him intently he will start coming at me in a threatening way or start to throw things around. Before I would allow this drama to propel me into crisis . Now I simply carry on once he leaves for work and hope in a few days he will calm down. No matter what I say or do when he is angry nothing helps. I say I love you and he says no you don't. I say I am sorry he says no you are not. There seems to be no good in defending myself or debating him as there is no winning with him. I agree with whatever he says in order to decrease the aggression and conflict. My question is: yes I know this is not right and I should leave him. For now I choose to stay. Does anyone see a more effective way? When he is yelling you cannot get a word in edgewise and if I walked away from him while he is like this he would escalate even further and I would fear violence. I can say you are right I'm sorry or I can say shut up or what about you.. The point is why won't he forgive me for days? How can someone react like this to seemingly simple things? I know he can control it as he can be in mid scream and then suddenly change his voice to calm and quiet. His tactics are very skilled. I know there is no winning. He expects me to never make any mistakes! Any input would be appreciated, at times I feel like reaching out to the yahoo community and getting opinions and perspectives to be quite helpful!

I Dont know how to explain it, like I was talking to my husband and he wasn't necessarily listening so I just rolled it off my shoulder because it wasn't a huge thing . And he's like oh sorry what were you saying and I'm like oh I was just telling you about this little girl at the store that was 2 and she just looked so much bigger than Cain and went back to what I'm doing and he's like oh wow thats crazy no way! Really sarcastically and I just looked at him like ok? He's like Im sorry what do you expect me to say? I said I didn't really expect anything just telling you.but whats that called demeaning, belittling? I'm just wondering

We've been together since I was 14 I'm now 31 , he started doing meth about 5 years ago , when I got pregnant with my son , for one whole year I was blinded , he continuously lies to me about where he's going ( which I know he goes and smokes meth ) because he always comes back really high. I mean we have a kid together and he always says he's going to do better I just don't know what to do anymore

Four months after we broke up, he got engaged to another woman. Before I found this out, I had called him and asked to see him again, knowing he still had feelings for me because I was the one who ended it, and I wanted to see him to ask if he wanted to get back with me. He said "I don't know what I want." and was generally very wish-washy with me. He went through with his wedding to her. Now I am left with the feeling that he should have been with me and he knows it too, but since he already proposed, he went through with the wedding to her even though he said he didn't know what he wants. How could he have gone through with it, if he didn't know what he wants? He called me three months after the wedding trying to talk to me. I told him to no longer contact me.

I've been with my husband for 15 years and I've never came not once .

I met my husband online. He is from South America, and I am from the US. We fell in love and visited each other 3 times before marrying this past fall. He was working and owned his own place in his home. I had wanted to plan a wedding, though weeks before he was supposed to arrive in the US a woman messaged me on FB saying that he was sexting her. She said they never met or did the "deed," but I was so upset and decided to not have a public wedding. I decided I still wanted to be with him since long distance was breaking us down. Since then, we've had days of happiness, but overall I feel resentment about him not working. I currently pay his cellphone bill, health + car insurance, and all utilities and rent. He came with $30,000, but has spent none helping me with the bills. His new car took about $12K, and some was spent on family members flying to visit here, but none with bills. I make enough money to support us both, but I would like to move into a bigger place. He recently got his Work Authorization, but has not yet found a job. He received the card months late due to not following up with USCIS. I feel like he should have followed up with the process. When he says he loves me I feel I don't really trust him, although I try to make the most out of the situation. He is currently looking for work, although there are days when he posts online his Warcraft scores. I don't feel like he is fully committed to being what I understand it is to be a good husband.

Ok, there is a guy at work, he says he loves me, he knows that i'm married and that i recently became a mother, but he says he doesn't care about that, and he uses every single moment to tell me how he feels, or to try to touch me or get close to me, But i always stop him, I didn't tell anyone about that, and if i resign from my job, I know my life will be difficult, cause i've been dreaming of this job all my life, and now when i finally got it, when i finally got everything i wanted, a family, the job of my dreams, a freak comes and wants to destroy everything i built, I can't tell my husband cause i don't want to cause problems, But at the same time i don't feel comfortable with all this, I love my husband and my child and i have no intention to have an affair with this man, when i tell him i'm married, aren't you ashamed, he tells i can leave my husband and be with him, and that i'm not the first woman who will do that ... how am I supposed to deal with this ?

I've been married for 6 years, gradually noticed that my husband was getting high, which in turn made him lazy, unmotivated individual, irresponsible, manipulative. He doesn't work, and i work and pay for our bills. We live with In-Laws. I have supported him in every way. Every stupid fight ends up with him saying "get your stuff and get the hell out". He's extremely unstable, words and actions are never consistent. I begged him to quit smoking marijuana, because i believe that its root cause of the problem. I told him that i want you to get yourself clean, because i want to have children, In-Laws are also no help. Bottom line, i did everything that was possible to save him and our marriage. After our last fight i left him, it has been 2 month's that i have moved back in with my parents. He came after me begging me and crying that he was a fool and he wants me back. i told him no, because this has happened before, that i was forced to leave him for 2 days the first year that we were married, when I went back it was worst. i told him quit and ill come back. He has not done anything to win my heart. He texts me ever other day, depending on his emotions, sometimes he insults me, or just sends me sad love songs. it's hard for me, because i have known him for 20 years. I want to know how much I'm worth for him. If this continues eventually we have to divorce. Has anyone been thru this? If any guy has been thru addiction, any comment or advice would be nice to hear.

I m just exhausted. I m currently 3 months pregnant, and I have tried to keep up with my husband s sexual appetite, having sex almost every day for almost 2 months now. Anytime I say I m not in the mood, he gets so angry and acts childish, ignoring me and acting completely rude. That s why I sometimes just give in and pretend just to get it over with. I work, do all the cooking and cleaning, and the laundry, so I am exhausted. Not to mention I feel disgusting now that I m pregnant. I know I should be flattered that he wants to have sex with me so much, but I m not a robot, I do have feelings. I ve tried to convey my feelings to him, but his sexual needs are all that matters to him lately. Should I just tell him to find a mistress so he will be somewhat satisfied?

My Fiance and me have been together for some time and we are supposed to get our marriage license tomorrow. Yet this morning he told me he is getting cold feet. I am also suppose to move in with him at the end of this month. I know he loves me and before he went to work he did tell me he wants to marry me. He says he is also stressed out about work. What should I do, I am alittle concerned. Should I just give him some space?

My wife tells small lies - sometimes I catch them, I'm sure a lot of times I don't. I know she is not cheating on me and wouldn't do something like that, but she often lies when she goes out with her friends. Usually it will be about how much she drank, or what time she got home (we live in separate cities during the work week). I am a suspicious person by nature, and so maybe I'm exaggerating the amount of lying she does...I don't know. It just kills me every time I find out one of her lies. I don't understand why she would lie to me - why? Once, she said that she lies to me so that she doesn't disappoint me, because I put a lot of pressure on her to meet my high expectations. Do other women agree with this? What should I do if this is the case? How do we start building trust again?

I am so sick of my husband letting the lies roll out of his mouth just as water flows from a mountain. He lied to me last week saying he needed to sign a power of attorney form when it was actually attending a meeting regarding his grandfathers will. What is the big deal? Why lie about that? Then tonight his mother sent him an sms saying she wanted to take the kids out for the day . He rang her and then told me later she changed it to another day because his grand mother had to go to the doctors. Why couldn't he just tell me the truth. He was working the original day she suggested and i was not. It has now been changed to a day I am working and one he is not. This happened out of business hours so there is no doctors appointment. It is not so much the lie but the ease with which they come out.If he lies to me about these ridiculous things what else is he lying to me about? While I am on here I hate the fact that he and his mother speak in "secret tongues" about things like my daughter.He treats me like an idiot as if I don't realise. I was never brought up to be so deceitful to my partner and cannot see how this relationship can last. What can I do to stop this when if I tried talking to him about this it would just end up in a fight.

My boyfriend and I are both 20 and we live under my parents roof, we been living together for a while and we been together for a year, he's about to be 21 and we want to move out maybe a year or a couple months. But my parents think it's really wrong for a couple to move out then get married he wants us to get married in two years then move out my parents it doesn't make sense to me but what do u guys think please be honest

I recently discovered that my wife is seeing another man. They are in the early stages of seeing each other, and she says that they have not become physical. She says that she has not been happy for a long time, and that because we got married so young (she was 20 I was 21) she isn't even sure she ever really loved me. Its been 12 years of marriage, 3 kids aged 12-6, and we've made it through a lot together. It has never come to this though. She doesn't understand how I can be in love with her because I have just as little experience as her, but I have always cared for her. I have had my doubts, I have even been tempted by other women, but I always kept them at arm's length because I am committed to my marriage. I am questioning that about myself now. This is not the first time she has told me that she wasn't sure if she loved me, but it is the first time a third party has been involved. I have no idea what to do. I am too invested in this woman to just throw away the 12 year marriage and 14 year relationship but I am afraid that there might be no going back. I understand that people that get married under the circumstances that we did generally fail, but I always thought we were different. She suggested that we go to counseling but she still wants to see what happens with the other guy. I can't bring myself to be ok with that though. If she wants to work with me shouldn't she stop with the other guy until we've given counseling a fair try? I am between careers and am currently working toward my Bachelor's degree in education, I really can't afford a divorce right now, or the distraction. Should I just cut this off and end it now and risk screwing my kids up for life, or should I continue on the plan for counseling?

I'm 33 years old and my wife is 30. She is from mainland China. We have been together for 8 years and married for 4. She has always had a bad temper. But tonight I decided to delve a bit deeper back into my diaries. I wrote them for every time that I felt put down or threatened. They are really sad. Both objective and capturing my negative feelings during the event. In the 4 years since we have been back to Australia, she has done quite well in real estate and played a major role in securing our first home. It will be built soon. We recently started trying for kids but I'm having mixed feelings about it. Here is where it is complicated. I have always felt like she spends a lot more time on her job and looking after herself. She makes decisions without talking to me and almost does as she pleases. If she is really angry, she might lash out and threaten to destroy my property. But most of the time she is calm and loving. I am studying towards becoming a registered nurse. 1. We never go anywhere together. No fun. No movies or social events. It's a consequence of our long hours. When I challenge this, I get told she doesn't have time for fun. 2. I had 6 weeks of holidays coming up after exams. Exams are only 3 weeks away. I told her about how I miss her family and China and how I haven't been back there for 5 years. She ignored me and quickly bought a plane ticket. She will stay with friends and visit the nice beachside city of Sanya where she went to university... She then asked me to skip my exams and catch up with her. I was crushed for most of today. Our landlord was equally surprised and thought our marriage must be on the rocks and asked if she was coming back. I had to once again explain that this is what she does every year or so. Tonight it was 2am when I picked up the phone and started to look through the old diaries. The light disturbed her so she got angry and said f....you I'm going to slap your face and tried to grab my phone before wanting to sleep head to toe. Last week we went to ikea to buy things for the home. I had to drive fast to beat the gate on the apartment and she screamed at me to be careful. I have been sworn at, called loser, idiot etc. I wanted to bake some cakes for a charity event at the university and she accused me of wasting time that could be spent earning money and that I must want to show my d*** to the women at the university. It crushed me enough to give up. She can't see that she crushes my spirit and maless it tough. I'm a very sensible and quiet person with a big heart. Maybe easily hurt? I have a laid back and kind personality that wants to enjoy life. Because when I was younger I was not very socially adept. Now I want to change that but my wife doesn't understand what I want from life! My needs are simple. It's quality time together, being emotionally close, feeling warmth, making plans to travel together, talking about our daily schedules, sharing what's on our mind freely without hostility, laughter, shared experiences etc. Right now I feel like I am part of some grand plan or scheme. Like I'm living according to the way she wants it. Just working and staying home while she travels and does whatever she likes. Her grand plan is a home and for me to be the father of her children. But there is no desire to travel with me. I challenged her that it would be many years before we could travel and she scoffed at that like she didn't understand the commitment of having kids! My family are angry about the way she has spoken to me and destroyed my belongings in the past. She used to smash my phones. Last year she accused me of having an affair because I asked a female classmate for help on am assignment over the phone (in nursing they are mostly women)... So I decided to make these 3 weeks productive. Use the time apart to think hard about our marriage. She can sit back relaxing on the beach while I stay home and ponder the point of continuing with her. No travel, no time together other than the warmth of the evenings before sleep. I have grown attached to her because the only time I have with her is before sleep to hug each other. I found a book called too good to leave too bad to stay. I thought the questions were a good idea to try and answer to get a clearer picture of what is bothering me and whether the good outweighs the bad. I understand the nature of her job can be 24/7 but I wish she had more time for us. We can't even have a getaway because she cares so much about work. I want a balance and someone who stops to listen to me. Just to be acknowledged and to have that time together appreciated. It's not supposed to be a business deal. I told her that over the next three days I will be home from work early. I want to see if she will follow through and come with me to see a movie or if she will book more clients instead. I suspect she will disappoint me again and then accuse me of being dumb for not appreciating the potential sale and big money. It's a continued pattern that she doesn't seem to want to return home with me either. Doesn't want to go back to China with me or travel anywhere overseas with me. I suggested a trip at the end of the year and she said she will be pregnant by then and won't be able to travel. That we must have a baby this year so she doesn't get top old and so that she can continue her career. Meanwhile I watch other couples travelling overseas and building up rich lives together. Very comfortable and fulfilling, happy lives filled with love and intimacy. That missing feeling of being on the same page and making a joint life together is missing. She is just out there doing her own thing and making her own life good with no thoughts to how I am going. I resent that. She earns good money, has lots of friends, plays sport, dances and attends church. Then flies home alone. She said she has to be back for work conferences around the time of my holidays. But where is the husband in this picture? We even eat alone. Grab our own foods. It doesn't feel right. Nothing does.

My husband has some sexual problems going on, I recently moved away from him because he's cheated on me twice and continues to lie and hide things from me. He recently told me he's just obsessed with wanting a threesome with me where it consists of him and another guy. He just loves to watch me being shared and it's become a disturbing thing in my life. He's come out about it the wrong way, saying that's why he cheated because I would never do those things with him. He's always horny and wanting to jack off and he's cheated on me with escorts transgender to be exact but he always says he tries to get a woman escort but they never respond. I don't know what his problem is why is he so obsessed with threesomes and sex and escorts like milfs and women or transgender women with big **** and *** and always telling me men are just not suppose to dedicated to one lover they want to explore all different types of women bodies? I knew he was always bit of a horn dog but it just seems to be getting worse and sometimes he will just text me pictures of threesomes and talking about me being cream pied and stuff. I really don't know how to feel about it and I would like some advice. This just doesn't seem to be normal for him to be so obsessed with it, its a constant everyday thing. Thank you for the help.

I can wear the dress anymore after seeing him prance around in it,especially to church ! What would you do ?

We just moved into a beautiful 4 plex old mansion. We have been going through a lot of difficult changes and have been having disagreements. I really am sad to move in and have been arguing frequently. I am not sure what to do as we don t raise our voices but I am sure the neighbors can hear everything. Should I apologize to the neighbors? And what about when we are in good moods and chat a lot? I can t hear anyone unless they are outside but I am worried that if we talk a lot people will be disturbed by it? If I can t hear the neighbors should I assume they cannot hear us? Thanks.

When a wife hold her belief that her husband is cheating and she insists to him she will never believe his lies, she has strong evidence, she states that only confession will save their marriage; despite of repetitive denial of her husband, what does the cheating husband feel? Is this a good reverse psychology for the cheating husband to confess? Is this the best way to strike his conscience and feel more guilty?

Okay, so I'm just curious because people always say that they have to focus on their career before they can be in a long term relationship or marriage. Why is that? Is it really hard to do both? And if so, why?

Some consider having stable job with a good dental plan, making 40K a year, a good career. Others consider making their first million and not having to work every day, a good career. Where does your definition fall? The same with marriage. And once you define them, is it possible to have both at the same time?

She tells me that I'm 20 years old and she is 24 should propose to her to be my girlfriend. I'm ready to be the best boyfriend of her

I was a Flight Attendant with Kingfisher and Air India airlines before marriage. I got this offer through one of the director whom i met during my flying days. He said this will be a lead role in a medium budget movie. When I asked about glamor portion, he said there will be plenty of scenes where I will be exposing my tummy and navel as in a typical South Indian movie, and also few navel kissing scenes in songs. He said I will be wearing crop tops and short skirts, low hip sarees and ghagra cholis, exposing my navel. While in air India i used to wear saree very low on my hips, which exposed my navel a lot. So I don't have a problem with glamor and I am very much interested in acting. Now to the main topic, as a married woman, can i show my navel like other actress in movies, and get kissed in navel ? How should I tell my husband about this topic? He is on conservative level. Please advise. I am 21, have a very fair complexion, 5'5" tall, 59 kgs (Was 53). I had a perfect figure during my flying days, but after marriage I put weight on my tummy and hips. Now it's little chubby, and my navel has become huge (2 inches in diameter) and very deep (1.5 inch deep). So I am also worried if the audience will like to see my big navel in screen, as I heard they like only size zero. My belly and navel is 99% similar to Telugu actress Siya Gowtham. Should I resume my vigorous fitness schedule?

we are divorced with joint custody of my son who is 8. 2 days ago my ex sent me a message that she is working somewhere overnight and is going to have some friend watch him. My son does not feel same with her friends and I told her that I can watch him while she works. She didnt agree. So last night I was leaving the gym and on my way home I pass by her place and can easily see from the road if her car is home or not. It was not...I got worried! I pull into the plaza which is right across her place to think what to do and immediately noticed her car in front of a fitness place. I left the plaza so that she dont think see me and then files for stalking etc... I went to gas station and called the cops and told them about the situation that she wanted to have a friend watch him overnight while she works. I also told the cops I offered her many times that I will watch him but she declined. Here is the part that is worrying me now...I was looking out for the safety of my son to make sure he is not alone at night etc...but it looks like she told the cops that I am stalking her at 1030pm at night....So most likely she is going to court and file for restraining order and tell them that i called the cops at 1030pm at night on her and was stalking her??? Guys if I was stalking this women would i really call the cops on her???? this situation of her telling me she is leaving him overnight with someone came abouts 48 hours ago , 48 hours ago he stayed with me, just last night this happened and i called the cops to see if she left him alone!!!! my son has told me she is not comfortable around the people she hangs out with!

I've been with my girlfriend since shortly after I was legally separated from my ex, about 4 years. Due to some financial/insurance stuff we did not begin to finalize the divorce until the end of last year. And now my ex is dragging it out even further and I'm afraid it might not even get done this year. I am 41 and my girlfriend is 39 and we have talked about marriage and our future. I don't feel comfortable officially asking her to marry me until my divorce is completely final which I had planned on happening long before now. Our anniversary is coming up and I very much wanted to ask her to marry me on that day. Now I know that is not going to happen but was considering giving her a promise ring. Not some cheap $20 ring but a very nice ring with some diamonds, etc. I'd be looking to drop a few hundred on it. Is this is a good reason to get a promise ring or is it just plain stupid at my age?

I'm married and we have 2 sons, my first son I share with my ex husband. My husband has awful parents. They follow the matriarch rule, where they believe everyone should kiss their a**es, and do whatever they want. His father is a narcissistic man who is always putting people in bad situations so that he can be a "hero." His wife is the same, but more viscous. They hate me and have said awful things about me behind my back. They told other family members that I'm only my husbands s*x doll, and that I tricked him into getting me pregnant. We were engaged, not married, but it had to do with my insurance, so we agreed to get married AFTER we had our son. We are now married and happy. They also are always giving me parenting advice. They don't like that my 3 year old cries when he's tired and uncomfortable in situations where he's around people he doesn't know very well (we only see them a few times a year). They tell me that I NEED to spank my son and they want to shove his face in horse poop until he learns he can't "misbehave." I'm too nice to tell them to F off, so I just try to ignore them. These a*shats have never tried to get to know me. They have a boat and haven't invited me to the lake. My problem today is that his dad invited my husband and my husbands brother to the lake for a "guys" trip. I'm upset at my husband for going. He knows how I feel, and he decided to take time off work to go, leaving me with the kids for 2 days. Am I being crazy for being upset?

And the hisband contracts aids. He will die soon whether he had a family or not

what is the issue for you that always seems to come up? Maybe you can live with it, but just wonder what seems to be common issues for people?

Any married couples out there that one spouse doesn't really celebrate holidays or anniversaries ? If so do you find ways to celebrate on your own and what do you do ?

We both work full time jobs an we have 4 little ones

My husband has shown very little affectionate or concern/care for me during most of our 20 year marriage. The little affection that he has shown (occasional peck on cheek when returning home from work), I had to ask for. Sex happens about once a month. I don't initiate sex, after being turned down on several occasions. When I try to communicate with him about day-to-day goings on, he often keeps his back turned toward me or walks away while I'm talking. He never calls/texts me during the day, tells me what I mean to him, compliment me, touch my hand, cuddle, hug, etc... I've suggested counseling, and expressed what my concerns are regarding the lack of affection in our marriage. He says this is who he is and maybe he's not the man for me. He is a good man, provider and father. There is just not an emotional bond between us. Help! I don't know whether to hang in there or try to find a loving/affectionate relationship with someone else. We have 3 children.

We have been married for one year but im still virgin .. it was a sexless marriage every time we tried to have sex he couldnt maintain erection ..he was passive aggressive ..now we are seperated and he is planning to get marry again so i wonder if passive aggressive man can have successful marriage in his second trial

My wife suggests that husbands and wives must keep their incomes separate. She chooses to spend her salary income on her fashion/beauty articles and her car's loan installments, and she also refuses to ask for funds from me (husband). While I think that no matter how much our incomes are, we should share and spend it on common expenses first and then on personal expenses. What is your opinion and can you point out some pros and cons?