My boyfriend and I met when I studied abroad in Spain. I stayed there for a year. And we met one of my first nights there. He's a Spaniard. We spent the fall semester apart and it was hard. Then he had an internship in New York a few hours away and we saw each other in the Spring. So essentially, we've been together a year and 9 months. He graduated last year and I just graduated. I've always been more mature for my age. I decided my career path when I was only 12 and am still on the same path. We've talked about what our life goals are as far as marriage, family planning, the kind of place we'd like to live. They match up and I love him so much. I'd been with other guys before but he's my first relationship. We agreed if we did get married, we'd live in the States. But he'd be leaving an amazing, tight-knit family behind. I feel like there's a difference between being together as students and living together as working professionals. I want to know we're still compatible. I wish we had more time to date, like another year. But he's having trouble getting a work visa and I hate the idea of carrying this out long distance and that wouldn't help me see how are compatibility is living together. I also imagine it'd be hurtful if I said no to his proposal. He seemed hurt when I said I had to think about it. I believe he's someone I could see myself married to it but I don't think now's the time. Saying no though could make me lose him altogether though and I know I don't want that

I have been married to my wonderful husband David for 6 months. Firstly, there is a rather large age gap between my husband and I - I am 32, he is 52. It doesn't bother us, because we madly love each other. My husband's first wife passed - they had one beautiful daughter together (Brittany, now age 13). His first wife passed when Brit was just a year old. He remarried 4 years ago - to a Japanese-American woman. When I met him a year ago, he was separated. When he finalized his divorce, we got married. His ex Gina is making our lives hell. Gina has two kids of her own - from a previous marriage - no way blood relation to my husband. Since we got married, Gina is an awful monster. Gina is just bitter because David had a solid prenup when they got married - and she got left with pretty much only what she walked into the marriage with. It's a tight community where we live - everyone knows everyone. And Gina talks behind my back all the time - "slut" " gold digger" "home wrecker". And Brit hears these things too now. Brit hears them and it actually makes her cry. David has tried talking to Gina - but there's no talking to her. So I'm ranting. It's just so stressful. I just want her to leave my family alone. I want to be happy.

when I feel strongly about something, and everything is obvious to me that is it wrong, he'll tell me I'm crazy, losing my mind, need help. Lately i've been dealing with depression, we have 2 children so I have been trying to make it work. Communication is not there , he'll use the you're crazy tactic and throw things that I've faced with my parents in my face. He says "i enjoy getting under your skin because you get crazy and i want everyone to see how crazy you are" why is he doing this to me?

Are you married for the first time? Second? Third? Did your previous marriages end in divorce or were you widowed? I just want to get an idea of the statistics of those using yahoo answers.

I believe in the Law of the Drive Thru. You must first place an order to get what you want. I believe that my job is to make myself actively available, and offering my help when it seems she won t ask for it, but I want her to reach out to me for help. She is very shy and doesn t speak her mind or her feelings, I am trying to help her get into the habit of talking to people about these things. So she s trying to breast feed the baby, I m sitting right next to her ready to take over and help, but not doing it, waiting for her to ask for it. The baby is crying and being fussy (for no real reason, she was just tired) and I finally spoke up and said "I m not sure she wants to eat. Just ask me if you want help". She snaps at me and says loudly "I shouldn t have to ask you!". I can totally do it all for her, or instantly be taking control the moment she encounters issues, but what kind of husband would I be if she doesn t learn self-reliance? What happens to her if one day I die and she s left alone, unable to ask people for help and unable to handle things herself? I feel like I d be cheating her on this extremely important life lesson we all have to learn. I can t mother her, she s an adult now. What do I do? There must be a better way to go about this without being called lazy or unhelpful or getting yelled at. I try to be there for her a lot, I can always improve, but it seems any help I do give is not really appreciated, but instead, expected.

I am 13 and want to see him more but she tells me when he divorced her he divorced the whole family. He still says he loves us and sees us once a month. Lots of other things she tells me negative also. How do I know what is true and what she makes up? I don't want to tell my Dad or he will think I believe her as my cousin says that happened to him when he was in a similar family (his mother did the same when divorced from my uncle, his Dad). Any advise?

or no they need more than one?

why do you think I turned out this way well I guess it's good that it's normal. Afterall, I think it's great. But sometimes (ok most times) I put his needs or wants before mine..its hard to convince myself to do something that he might find unfavorable. An example would be let's say he said he likes long hair, but my hair ends up getting unmanageable.. I would have a hard time cutting it because I would perceive it wouldn't please him

My husband has a child from his ex gf which now he's 10 years old... Lately my step son has been coming home saying that his mom is sick. They got separated 6 years ago because she cheated and abandoned them. Now, my husband called her being concerned about her health. In my eyes I feel if the person is in a hospital bed or so then i get it, but to call her just because he's concerned about what's going on with her health is not ok in my book. Please advice.... is this ok to do?

My wife (SAHM) decided to go off her medicine (major depression with psychotic episodes) as a trial. After just a short while I started noticing problems as she was angrier and having more trouble functioning in her daily life. After about 6 months, it got to the point where she was sabotaging her relationships with friends and was continually agitated. I convinced her to start back on medication, but later found out that she only took it for about half a month before stopping again. After she stopped, things got really bad, lots of screaming, threats, inability to function, and going after the kids for just being little kids. She was regularly kicking me out of the house because of simple arguments that would continue to escalate. Eventually she assaulted me, and went to jail for it. She promised to clean up her act and get help, but within days she was justifying hitting me. Within a week she assaulted me again and the judge issued a P.O. for myself and our son. While the P.O. was in place, I still sent updates on myself and my son and told her that we could talk about our relationship as soon as the P.O. was modified to allow email communication. Things got busy with work and my son last week and I wasn't able to find the time to email her. Her response was to cheat on me because I hadn't validated our relationship in 5 days. I love her, but I am torn - this was the last thing I trusted her with and I am now considering divorce. Any thoughts or suggestions?

It would get me so wet and horny but he never does. I give him compliments but he never returns the favor..and basically asking for compliments diminishes the point. What can I do?

My fiancee is a hermaphrodite, with breast, a penis bigger than mine and a vagina where the testicles would be. My question is that since we're going to marry, considering her genitalia, would that be classified under a straight or gay marriage? I'm fine either way, as I love her for her and we make full use of both, but given some disapproval in 20 something odd states, I need to know for certain how this situation fits in technically so I can plan accordingly going ahead.

I am married of 17 years.i have two kids..i am really fat..but im trying.my hubby has blatantly told me that he no longer finds me attractive..he looks at porn and jacks off..i have no problem to look at porn with him..but i want him ti have intercourse with me...he has also put on 30 kgs of overweight..but i still find him attractive...why xannot he find me sexy?im trying really hard to diet but its so hard

A few months ago my wife found out that I was the father of her best friends 8 year old daughter. She didn't immediately confront me in a hostile manner, but instead invited me to sit side by side by her on the bed, while we talked about how we were going to move forward from this. After having talked and reached a conclusion to adapt to the situation as it comes, while smiling & rubbing my shoulder, she jammed a steak knife into my left leg. After screaming to the point where I thought my lungs would burst, I knocked her out with a backhanded punch and made my way to my phone to call an ambulance. Police statements, imprisonment and some counseling sessions later, I'm calling it quits. I know what I did was wrong, but I can't ever forgive her for permanently injuring the nerves in my leg in a fit of rage that could've been talked out. What I want to know is can she still collect, due to my affair, even tho she assaulted me with a deadly weapon? Personally I don't feel I should have to give her a dime over what she did to my leg. She took her payment in blood.

long story short: hubby isn't going to wait til the fall like he promised he would. He said that the neighborhood is getting worse so he's leaving as soon as he pays off his work loan. He's taking all his stuff and leaving and either I go with him or he's leaving me here. I told him that he promised me that he'd wait until fall Bc I needed that time mentally/emotionally/financially to go Bc I can't just up and leave not so soon since my father died etc. I need that time. He said that's the stupidest thing he's ever heard but he agreed to it last winter when i first told him. I don't know what to do. He's not being fair. He's willing to end our marriage to go to Florida sooner. But he says I'm the one giving up on the relationship if I dont' go.

Even though they were divorced, they did have three children together, and were married for many years. I'm appalled over how my husband never even took a minute to tell her he's sorry this was happening to her, goodbye, nice knowing you, thanks for the children you gave birth to or anything. I don't care much for my ex-husband, most of don't like our ex's, but I know I would say something to him if this was happening to him. It makes me fear how cold my husband can be with this, and feel he'd react the same way towards me even still being married to him.

My fiancé is a really sweet guy... I mean he is there for me a lot and genuinely wants the best for me. But I can't help but have second thoughts. I'm kinda young and I'm still meeting people and I'm going to college and about to apply to law school. He is 7 years older then me and he works a lot but hasn't the same strive for education. I do love him... but I'm not sure. I feel like your husband is something your supposed to be sure about. I enjoy our relationship and our sex and all of that but I'm a bit more adventurous then him. I like to explore... and I'm a bit bad at committing to much of anything. I wouldn't cheat on him it's just I don't want to regret marrying him which is sort of why I'm hoping for a long engagement and delaying the wedding. Is this a normal feeling or not?

In the past, my wife would get verbally abusive when angry. I've told her so many times not to swear at me. It takes its toll on me. My main issue is about our circumstances. Our house will be settled soon and we have a credit card debt etc. So we both work hard to pay things off. I also study nursing at university. We never have date nights or go out. She reminds me of the debt and says she has no time for fun. So she keeps working. Her independent nature has meant that she will go and live a balanced life of seeing friendsome, working and attending sports. Then she will come home to see me and talk about children. She always goes back to China without me and says I would get in the way and cost too much money if I come along. To wait until we have a baby before inviting me to go back and see her family. So four years later, all I can do is give empty promises of returning to see them. My wife's argument is that she would stay with her girlfriends for free in the big city for a few days and then go back to see her family in her hometown. Then come back to Australia in a few weeks time. I hate this and want more time with her and to even go back. I'm not just a label or convenience. Maybe that's Chinese culture but it's not mine. I know only one Chinese couple who are on the verge of divorce and they holiday separately. The rest work together properly. We don't have any friends or common social time either. I'm waiting until our home is built before I invite my old friends over. I need solutions.

My sex life is drying up like the sands on the beach. My spouse doesn t "allow" me to masturbate around them and wants me to be in a private corner. It s been weeks since my spouse doesn t even touche me intimately. When I bring up sex, I doesn t even feel like my spouse wants to ever do it. I ve been wanting to do sexual things, but to my spouse "It ll have to wait". I m going insane.

People fall in love and out of love all the time. Is it okay to marry someone that you know that you do not love simply because they are good to you and will work hard both to provide for you and to keep you happy Edit: He loves me, always has, I just don't love him.

If you are a decent guy, half decent at least, and you work full time, You should be supporting family on 1 income, and provide your spouse with a charge card to purchase unlimited You should be able to cover those demands and if you can't you should bring in more income That's what my dad did for my mom, and that's what my grandpa did for grandma If this isn't you, what's wrong with you?

Can she legally kick me out, her grandparents own the home, she's afraid to tell them because they already think she screws everything up what do I do?

Idk how my wife would feel :/ Help?

For past 2 years,we had sex atleast 2 to 3 times a week,somedays we would do the same amount in a day....My wife got pregnant and within 3rd month,she asked to stop sex and I agreed because I didnt want to make my wife uncomfortable. I've been without sex for past 4 months. Today while we were in a romantic mood,I asked if she can give me a bl0vvj0b..She got totally angry,she stated shouting me that I'm an insensitive pig who just wants sex and she's not some slave or machine who can give u all the times.. I think she could have easily answered with "no"..I've a very high libido and she knows that too...I've been out of action and I'm not straying out or jacking off watching porn .. Do you think she was right or wrong? Was I insensitive asking that?

I miss my children and wife and I am banned from Canada so I cant see them I have no money and just want to die.