Marriage & Divorce: Question: When dealing with an anxious or rapid thinking wife who doesn't drink alcohol, is it best to distract or confront? |
- Question: When dealing with an anxious or rapid thinking wife who doesn't drink alcohol, is it best to distract or confront?
- Question: Need help with visitation of my kids?
- Question: How often should a husband go out?
- Question: Help with visitation with kids.?
- Question: How can you tell if your wife is cheating?
- Question: Inappropriate Boss??? I coughed at work and my gay boss asked me if I was giving my husband too many blow jobs at home. Anything I can do.?
- Question: How do I fine out what I owe in child support?
- Question: Is it weird if a rabbis wife is friends with a jahova witness?
- Question: Husband has Parkinson's and it's getting worse and affecting our marriage, what do I do?
- Question: A friend of mine is in a long distance relationship with someone living in Africa and asked me what I thought.?
- Question: Is my husband attracted to my best friend?
- Question: Thoughts on a 23 y.old woman dating a 73 y.old guy?
- Question: How can an emotionally stable husband best support his emotionally passionate and fearful wife?
- Question: I don't know what to do. Should I just leave him?
- Question: Dating a married women!?
- Question: Why do people divorce ?
- Question: Do men get bored of having sex with their wives later in marriage? and how do they spice it up ?
- Question: After 38 years my husband wants a divorce saying he wants to try things on his own for awhile. Can he get an annulment easily?
- Question: I totally embarrassed myself and my husband at a party?
- Question: Can you get permission to cheat in a marriage, without upsetting your significant other?
- Question: Need some advice from other wives… new issue with my husband? Confused about why?
- Question: I am surprising wife with vacation to pigeon forge just not sure how to surprise her with it. Any suggestions?
- Question: If I'm married but separated can my wife claim me without me knowing.?
- Question: My Husband is Cheating on me What Now? I don't think he wants to leave but I'm worried.?
- Question: My role in my marriage keeps changing based on how my wife chooses to define it at that given moment. Is this normal for wives to do?
- Question: How do i tell my family i have cancer?
- Question: Can having a baby work for us in our situation?
- Question: My wife wants to "date" her boss. Should I let her?
- Question: I left my wife and she already has a new boyfriend. Did she ever really love me?
- Question: Pls help me.?
- Question: My wife and I had an argument. How will this affect our marriage?
- Question: Doesn't having a divorce set a bad example for the children in the family?
- Question: WEDDING NOTIFICATION AFTER MARRIAGE HAS TAKEN PLACE.?
- Question: To expand upon my earlier question regarding my wife physically flirting with another man and should I get mad/?
- Question: What to believe?
- Question: You're the young and lonely one with all the old men with wives on the back of their motorcycles staring, how can you look forward to that?
- Question: Did I get a message from heaven?
- Question: Why did my wife keep staring at this guys crotch when we were visiting with him and his wife?
- Question: As a follow up and to expand a little regarding my wife sitting next to the man and leaning on him?
- Question: I just got divorced a few months ago and i found out that my ex wife is already engaged to her ex boyfriend?
- Question: My wife goes to the gym a lot. I'm worried.?
- Question: Wife wants me to go to the funeral with her?
- Question: Girls from my country are impossible to marry. Which nation has the best women to marry?
- Question: I married my husband at the age of 16 not because I loved him but because he was my first sexual partner. The reason for this was because I?
- Question: I married my husband at the age of 16 not because I loved him but because he was my first sexual partner. The reason for this was because I?
- Question: I don't want to drive hours to take my 19 year old daughter to work. Is this too mean?
- Question: My wife was sitting next to a man on a couch and during the party kept rocking and touching his chest with her back. Was I right to get mad?
- Question: Husband is going through something right now. How much is too much to put up with?
- Question: My wife and I went to one of her co- workers party. My wife was sitting on a couch next to a ma who was another co- workers husband.?
- Question: What do you do if your spouse gives you the silent treatment?
- Question: What type of man lets his wife wear sluty and sexy clothes?
- Question: How do I win my wife back?
- Question: Why is my wife telling me to cheat on her?
- Question: How much time is it normal to stay alone after a divorce?
- Question: Do you think this is normal for a wife to say to her husband?
- Question: Ex-wife denies a lot of her behaviors near the end of our marriage. Why?
- Question: Good holiday gifts for a husband?
| Posted: 08 Sep 2015 09:07 PM PDT I've been confronting for the last 5 years and trying many different things to help her with her anxiety or rapid thoughts but nothing is working. This got me to thinking, maybe this is a problem that can't be resolved. Maybe my wife is the kind of person who rapid thinks whenever she isn't busy doing something (movie, anime, video game, sex, etc) and that the solution is NOT to entertain her fears or her anxiety (since she won't) and instead just distract her into another addiction that will keep her brain busy. But clearly this isn't healthy, this is almost the definition of "chemical dependency", so should I be an enabler and do it anyways since it is clearly how she lives her life? Or should I continue to confront her with her anxiety, fear, irrational emotions and try to help her find some level of inner calm/resolve? |
| Question: Need help with visitation of my kids? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 09:01 PM PDT I have 3 kids that I haven't really been apart of their life much due to their mother making it very difficult for me to see them. She is in texas and I am in oklahoma. No visitation was ever setup by the courts...long story. Anyways my question is, how do I get to see them. Do I hire a texas attorney or an oklahoma attorney? Kids live in texas. It's a 3 hour drive from okc to dallas. Thanks |
| Question: How often should a husband go out? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 08:59 PM PDT My husband goes out 3 times a week by himself. He goes play soccer Wednesdays nights, Friday nights, and also Sundays sometimes nights or days. He sometimes has to go right after his out of work because the game will start or he comes home then like 1 hr later he leaves. And I dont get to see him till later that night if i decide to not sleept. We have 1 toddler. I am a stay at home mom and we only have 1 car which he takes to work. I am home literally all day by no choice. Am i being selfish about him leaving often ? Or is this really unfair to me? He works till like 7pm. And i used to go to his soccer games but with my toddler walking and being naughty and wanting to go everywhere its not easy being at a soccer game so i usually dont go. I have spoked to him about how i want him home with me more and how i feel lonely but he dosent get it and says i should go out on the weeken with a friend sometimes and he can take care of our son but the thing is i want to be more time with HIM. Also being home with a toddler 24\7 is frustrating and help is likely needed. |
| Question: Help with visitation with kids.? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 08:58 PM PDT |
| Question: How can you tell if your wife is cheating? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 08:44 PM PDT |
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| Question: How do I fine out what I owe in child support? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 08:35 PM PDT |
| Question: Is it weird if a rabbis wife is friends with a jahova witness? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 08:35 PM PDT |
| Question: Husband has Parkinson's and it's getting worse and affecting our marriage, what do I do? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 08:19 PM PDT I know, for better or worse. It's so frustrating on so many levels. Him because I think he's in stage 4 Parkinson's, and he clearly can't speak so well anymore and uses his cane, :(. But for me, it's hard to see him like that, everything is hard, plus 3 toddlers on top of it. I'm 35, he's 62 soon. He told me last night he feels bad for me because I'm so young dealing with this, im trying to reassure him I support him but we argue a lot more. I find myself working a little longer or stopping for coffee on my way home in order to relax. I also discussed my feeling to him about my attraction to someone else, someone I work with. He said he'd feel uncomfortable if I did it. So okay, nothing going on. But man, it's just everything seems to be falling apart. We think he'll only be able to drive another year... House was put on the market today, literally, because he can't do stairs. Going to a condo w 3 kids bc of his medical issues is difficult. I need a serious outlet. And sex toys aren't doing it for me. I took your advice and got one. I need the physical intimacy. .... Sigh |
| Posted: 08 Sep 2015 07:45 PM PDT I told her I had 3 separate experiences and all were bad. The first one scammed me out of some money, the second tried to do the same and the third was married and I found out every thing he told me wax a lie. I don't remember the website I went to to find out about his lies but I told my friend just to be careful. my question is does anyone know of a website that she could go on to check him out. Like if he's married or had scammed other women. |
| Question: Is my husband attracted to my best friend? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 07:45 PM PDT My best friend came over to a family party we hosted, and shes very sexy...while I have no insecurities of my own, I just realized that my husband is very attentive to her needs. He walks her down the block, to protect her while she's smokes a cigarette at night, then walks her privately up to my porch to keep her company, then while he's eating a plate of food he is dancing with her. While usually I'm not so jealous of close relationships with my husband and my friends, I felt awful about it, sickened to my stomach. When I questioned him why, he said he was sorry but she asked him, specifically to walk her down the block away from the cameras so the family doesn't see her smoking, second time she begged for his company and then the third time with the dancing, she asked him to dance with her. Your thoughts? Keep in mind that once before I found him overstepping his boundaries with her, by constantly making fun of her height (she short), saying her face is so round he want to slap it, punching her arms...I yelled at him about it, but now I'm thinking, what should I do. Am I being overly jealous, or is my husband acting weird? |
| Question: Thoughts on a 23 y.old woman dating a 73 y.old guy? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 07:44 PM PDT Okay I believe many people will look askance at my question or I think I'm a troll so I need to clarify a few things first. First of all I'm not a "gold-digger". The guy is not rich, is very poor and I'm not pretty. I'm in this relationship cause he is the first guy who ever took care of me and doesn't care about looks unlike most guys in their 20s-30s. He used to be a professor of Literature so he's very educated and I learn a lot of things from him. The most important thing i learnt out of him is how to appreciate the little moments and things in life that matter more. I always had a very low self-confidence and thought the reason guys didn't notice me was my ugliness. (I always wondered what's wrong with me) He's the first person that accepted for who I am, my shyness, ugliness and flaws. This is my future I want to live and die with my Romeo |
| Posted: 08 Sep 2015 07:38 PM PDT Since creating emotional stability isn't an option as she is choosing to live in the moment and experience each event emotionally attached, what is my role as the emotionally detached spouse? |
| Question: I don't know what to do. Should I just leave him? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 07:26 PM PDT I found out that my husband of 7yrs has been having an affair for the last 3 months. We have 2 girls together 4 and 6 months old. When I found all this out I went crazy I went to the women house and told her husband and I was so hurt couldn't eat sleep or anything for a week I just went part time because we had a new baby together I loved my husband so much I never thought he would do this to our family he always said how much he loved him family and coming home to one. He said he cheated because I went back to my strict church and it pushed him away that I didn't care about his feelings of him telling me not to go to that one and so he started talking to a co worker and she listened to his feelings. And one thing lead to another... Well since her husband found out she is working things out with him and i don't know what we are doing? I asked him if he loves me he said yes I asked if he wanted to be with me he said I don't know. I'm so hurt I don't know what to do... I want my husband I don't want this!!! 😐 I feel second I feel like he wants her she is married with 2 kids over weight and obviously insure person to do this to another family I'm crushed I don't know what to tell my husband should I just leave? |
| Question: Dating a married women!? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 07:20 PM PDT I been dating a women who is married i have a thing for older women, she is only 34 though i am 19!!! Her husband work nights and I always spend the night with her, I feel bad as of recently because I actually did not know she was married until a few weeks ago however I continue been with her, I've had sexual relations with her, and I am afraid that she is pregnant! My main question here is, how do I resolve the husband thing if she is pregnant! |
| Question: Why do people divorce ? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 06:46 PM PDT i mean they've dated already a zillion times before marriage and they don't get married unless its working out so what the hell happens later? |
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| Posted: 08 Sep 2015 06:09 PM PDT Oops, after 38 years, he wants a legal separation and wants to try life on his own and come and go as he pleases with me. I say no, divorce only. Can he get an annulment with no real reason for wanting out of a marriage? |
| Question: I totally embarrassed myself and my husband at a party? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 05:44 PM PDT So my husband and i were at a good friend of his. There was a party with lots of alcohol. I had way too much to drink and apparently asked a lady there who i had been around a few times if she wanted to have a threesome. I dont even remember saying this. I heard about it a few days later and i heard the lady is very upset with me for what i said and she thinks i want her husband. This is so not true. I dont know why i would even say such a thing like that. But apparently i said it. The lady and her husband are very good friends of my husbands friend. Im scared that we wont be invited anywhere with them again because of what i said to the lady. I did text the lady and apologize and told her i was drunk and didnt mean anything by what i said but i got no response. My husband was mad cause he said i shouldnt have said that either. I do enjoy going to stuff with my husband and will not have anything to drink again because i dont like not being in control of myself. Do you think we will be invited back? |
| Question: Can you get permission to cheat in a marriage, without upsetting your significant other? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 05:38 PM PDT Suppose your wife doesn't want to give you bjs but she's wonderful in every other way possible? |
| Question: Need some advice from other wives… new issue with my husband? Confused about why? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 05:38 PM PDT We have been married 4 years. All of a sudden my husband has an odd habit when it comes to sex. He insists I leave my bra on. I fully admit I'm a smaller girl, but I always have been. Is this just some weird fetish? Any time I try to undo myself he insists I stop and leave it on. |
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| Question: If I'm married but separated can my wife claim me without me knowing.? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 05:06 PM PDT |
| Question: My Husband is Cheating on me What Now? I don't think he wants to leave but I'm worried.? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 04:03 PM PDT He's Cheating on me with a very pretty black woman. I'm a little surprised. I never knew he likes black women. I must admit that adds to the shock. I feel like dead inside. He owns his own company and goes on house calls to talk to homeowners and has been going to see her too. We have been having issues.He sleeps in the Basement now, He doesn't open up much and I feel he doesn't give me any positive affirmations (My love language) I have a son he's disabled, my husband is a wonderful father to him, and we have another son who is 1. Some of the thibngs he's been telling this woman is.. 1. That he loves her deeply (he calls her many times a day and texts her) 2.That he only married me because he couldn't see another man being my sons father (My sons father is a dead beat) 3. That he doesn't feel the same about me or have the same connection that he feels for this woman. 4.He tells her he wants to leave but he's scared he will never see My son again. He has no rights to him. Plus he doesn't know if he can deal with being a par-time dad. 5. I heard him crying to her on the phone. I think she was trying to end it. I never heard him cry like that ever. He said "I'm so Unhappy and you make me happy" (That hurt so bad) 6.He begged her to please give him time so he can figure things out. 7. They haven't even slept together yet. He said he's wiling to wait because he loves her. 8.He said he never loved anyone like he loves her.He opens up to her like he never has to me. ALSO!! I want to add he always comes home on time. He's doing this when he's at work. He tells her he wants to Marry her and have Kids with her and How beautiful she would be pregnant.. ugh.. So many things.. |
| Posted: 08 Sep 2015 01:38 PM PDT I think I'm starting to understand why I am going insane in my home environment (I'm fine when I'm at work or in social settings - just not when I'm home with my wife). My wife gives me many roles depending on her emotions and what she needs to cope with. At times she wants me to be a caretaker and soothe her to sleep like a father would with his daughter after having a bad dream. At other times she wants me to be a manly man and fix stuff around the house. Then at times she wants me to be a girly man and pick her outfits for her because she doesn't know how to dress herself for work or social settings. Then at times she wants me to be a strong proud person protecting everyone in the house with my courage. Then there are times when she wants me to be weak so she can feel like she's a strong independent woman who don't take no crap from no stinkin' man (insert riveter image here). Then she expects me to be a compassionate man who stands up for children who are unable to stand up for themselves. But then she expects me to be a bold man who yells at the cashier for messing up our order after a 30 minute wait. And finally she will expect me to know her moods without her sharing it. My roles change obviously based on her mood. And like most husbands, I want to make her happy because "happy wife, happy life". But there's no making this woman happy. None. Is this normal? Why can't I just be me instead of "me"? |
| Question: How do i tell my family i have cancer? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 01:15 PM PDT Im 40 and have been diagnosed with testicular cancer. I went to the doctor alone because i noticed a lump down there . They broke it down for me that i have cancer, and that i may need surgery and CT scan dates. My wife knows nothing about this and neither do my kids. My kids are ( 9 and 7). I feel like the kids shouldnt know. i dont want my wife feeling bad or being worried, i also want her to know that if something does come out of this (the cancer has spread) that shes gonna need to move on (whether thats eventually dating someone). any advice? |
| Question: Can having a baby work for us in our situation? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 12:13 PM PDT My husband is an intelligence analyst in the Army. He has a four year contract which would put him out to the civilian world in 2018. We really want to start a family but we are scared that he will have a difficult time finding a job after he gets out (he wants to apply to the police department), and that is making is question having a baby while still in the Army. Does anyone have experience or advice to what we should expect? Thank you in advance. |
| Question: My wife wants to "date" her boss. Should I let her? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 11:31 AM PDT |
| Question: I left my wife and she already has a new boyfriend. Did she ever really love me? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 10:55 AM PDT My wife and I were married for only 7 months before I left. I don't believe she ever really loved me, just used me to get back on her feet. She is a hard drinker and I don't touch the stuff at all. There were many red flags and gut instincts that I ignored. She never told her kids to behave and/or respect their elders, even when the 13yo son threaten to hit me. She stood there and did/said nothing! She constantly put me down and compared me to other men from her past. She started treating and talking to me like I was the biggest loser and nothing I did was good enough. Now keep in mind, when we met she was unemployed and living with her parents. I helped her out of a huge hole. And less than one year later we are at this point. Now get this, I was looking at Amazon and her e-book downloads are listed under my orders. She has been reading things like "How to have a guilt-free affair" and "10 ways to have an office affair". She lied to me about having a FB acct, then said she only set it up to keep an eye on her kids. But she never once wanted me as a "friend" and never changed her marital status to married. I told her I don't trust her and she needs to seriously work on her attitude towards me. She never asked specifically why I was leaving and didn't even seem bothered by it. So I left. We've been separated for about 2 months and I find out she's dating a guy from her work. Did she ever really love me? Was I simply used for money and other help? How can a person do that?? |
| Posted: 08 Sep 2015 10:54 AM PDT I was married 26 Years to my 1st husband ( 2 Kids). I married again but getting a divorce now. My 1st husband past away 3 years ago. He also had remarried in 2009. Am I entitled to his social security? |
| Question: My wife and I had an argument. How will this affect our marriage? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 10:53 AM PDT |
| Question: Doesn't having a divorce set a bad example for the children in the family? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 10:49 AM PDT By divorcing, arent you setting a poor example for your children, by not teaching them to stay committed or work through problems? Doesnt it teach them to seek instant gratification and to give up on the most important relationship in your life? |
| Question: WEDDING NOTIFICATION AFTER MARRIAGE HAS TAKEN PLACE.? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 10:43 AM PDT |
| Posted: 08 Sep 2015 10:31 AM PDT This man and his wife are no strangers and my wife wants to get together with them to go out every now and then. I would feel really uncomfortable going out with them after what happened even if i did not say anything to my wife. I could deal with any kind of verbal flirtness but when it starts with physical contact many times on a couch I feel at that point I should draw the line. And to top it off I think this man's wife was hitting on me because she mentioned quietly out of ear shot of anyone that her husband is going to be away. I did not answer her. Also, she is a verbal flirter but out of respect for my wife and her husband I never resond to her flirtness. |
| Posted: 08 Sep 2015 10:09 AM PDT I found my husband on a escort site a few weeks later I found 2 text messages sent from his phone to 2 numbers from this site I also found a slip of paper in his truck with 3 numbers from this site written in his hand writing 2 of the numbers were the same as the text message numbers. He says he didn't do the texting and he doesn't know about the numbers written down. I need some one else's opinion please. |
| Posted: 08 Sep 2015 10:04 AM PDT I always want to be the one old men stare at, especially my OWN future husband. maybe I won't be lonely then, but I'm never going to be okay with my man looking at another girl the way they look at me! I won't deal with it. What am I going to do when it's like 2060 just stay inside baking cookies? |
| Question: Did I get a message from heaven? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 10:02 AM PDT I recently had an unexpected 3 day hospital stay. I did not expect to have any problems with the medical bills as I have insurance from where I work. I did not know the doctors were not part of my insurance plan. I was out of pocket several thousand dollars. They turned their bills over to a collection agency which called me several times a day. I also got letters almost every day demanding payment or they would get a court judgement. It was a terrible. I was a nervous wreck. Suddenly the phone calls and letters stopped. I did not understand why. It was sure a relief. I told my parents what had happened and they told me they knew why I was not getting any more bills. They had told my ex husband about my problems and he had paid the bills. I was really surprised. I called my ex husband Bob, and asked him why he had paid my doctor's bills. He told me that he knew about the nightmare I was having with bill collectors. They call all hours and threatened to tell your neighbors and boss at work and he did not want me to have to endure that. He said we are friends and "I don't let friends suffer when I can prevent it". At that moment, it was like a MESSAGE FROM HEAVEN. Bob is really a great guy and he still has feelings for me. I want to spend the rest of my life with him. If he will marry me again, I will be the best wife he could ever dream of. Please give me some suggestions on how I should tell him what I am feeling. |
| Posted: 08 Sep 2015 09:59 AM PDT I questioned her and she kept denying it until she finally confessed. |
| Posted: 08 Sep 2015 09:54 AM PDT This man and his wife are no strangers and my wife wants to get together with them to go out every now and then. I would feel really uncomfortable going out with them after what happened and to top it off I think this man's wife was hitting on me because she mentioned quietly out of ear shot of anyone that her husband is going to be away. I did not answer her. I do not really want to get involved with anyone else and sneek around at my age. This mand wife is also a verbal flirt, but has never made physical contact with me and I do not respond to her flirtness out of respect to my wife and her husband. |
| Posted: 08 Sep 2015 09:39 AM PDT We were married for 8 years...I think she was cheating on me, that doesn't make any sense to me. She got engaged to an ex boyfriend, she dated this guy before me! |
| Question: My wife goes to the gym a lot. I'm worried.? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 09:36 AM PDT My wife has been hitting up the gym recently. At first I thought this was great because she was starting to get to be a real pig. But, now she goes out more and more, and leaves me alone for long stretches of time. I'm stuck, sitting on the couch, watching Fox news, and saying how stupid liberals and progressives are, while she might be meeting a man! I ain't okay with this. Not at all. I get online, and talk to a lot of my female friends online, so they can cheer me up, and tell me how great, romantic and brilliant I am, and, yeah, it cheers me up for a little while, but then I realize my wife might be running off with guys at the gym! Should I have a fling with some chick to get her back, serve her with divorce papers, or , what should I do? I'm tired of being taken for granted after all I have done for her. @Robert: You calling me fat, pal?! Let me tell ya, I could kick your *** any day of the week! Wanna give it a shot? You'd be crying back to your Mommy after 20 seconds fighting me! hahahahaha. Listen, I am in excellent shape. I am a really hot and handsome guy. any woman would be very lucky to have me, and this broad I decided to shove my dick into, has the arrogance to cheat on me! That ain't gonna happen! Not on my watch! Charles always gets what he wants. Now, go suck on your Mommy's dick! |
| Question: Wife wants me to go to the funeral with her? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 09:28 AM PDT Let's get a few things straight. I hate death, dying and all that comes with it. It's depressing and something I don't wanna deal with. I never visited my parents or any of my friends when they were dying, nor did I go to their funerals. I'm a really happy, upbeat sort of guy, so I don't have time for people moping around, feeling sorry for themselves. Charles don't play that guff, ya know what I mean? This is the deal: my old lady's Father has croaked. She's really broken up about it although he was an idiotic jerk. This guy was a big Liberal. Believed all people deserved equal pay, treatment, roofs over their heads. He was Pro-Choice, Pro-Gay. In short, he was a horribly immoral and dangerous person, who I never let my kids around for good reason. My wife stayed away from him too cuz I told her too, or I would leave her. But, suddenly, he called one day, and was whining about how he was dying. I assumed he just wanted some attention, and was lonely. Old people pull that crap all the time. Anywho, she began crying and rushed right over although I told her not to! Needless to say, I put her in her place that night. He croaked a few minutres after she arrived and said her goodbyes. She called me about it and I said, "Good riddance to bad rubbish" She cried more. I told her to get over it. Then she had the temerity to demand I come to the funeral! I said "That'll happen when I like fat chicks" Now she's threatening to divorce me if I don't go. What's with her? |
| Question: Girls from my country are impossible to marry. Which nation has the best women to marry? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 07:33 AM PDT I won't say which country, but I will say it's a rich middle-eastern country. They have such high standards, expectations about living lifestyle, and the husband has to provide for everything. I recently dated a girl for 10 months, her expectation was that if I married her I would buy two travel tickets (for the both of us), to NYC, to Europe, etc. One business class flight here is 20 hours to NYC by flight, and costs $5K for the both of us. Is this normal to set such standards and is it normal for every society where the guy has to be the provider for her lifestyle and living? Are finances always on the man? With my ex, her dad was rich, so she isn't a gold-digger, but she wants to marry a guy who treats her like her dad. Also I'd pay the rent and all the living costs, all her bills, etc. |
| Posted: 08 Sep 2015 07:29 AM PDT grew up in a very religious strict home and was taught that the man who you have sex with is the man who you should marry because after that no other man will value you if you lose your virginity with someone else. I felt obligated to do so and had sex with him because I was curious. I never told my mom or dad about this and when he asked for my hand I had to say yes and prey that later on in life I would fall in love with him. He knew from the start that I didn't love him and that I had dated him because I felt sorry for him everytime we would break up he would cry. I didn't know any better as this guy was my first boyfriend. Through out the years I have been very miserable my daughter drew a picture of our family when she was in Pre-K and in it I was frowning, I asked her why she responded that, that is how I always look.Icheated on my husband 4 years ago after I had attempted to go my separate way. At that time I met a guy who made me really happy I felt myself smiling again and saw life differently and beautiful. My Dad found out about my separation and called me a sinner and said that it was the devil making me think I was happy and that the guy was talking advantage of my situation and to immediately leave and go back with my husband. I was scared of doing something wrong that I would later regret and I went back with my husband. He forgave me and continued on like nothing had happened. I later found out I was pregnant and was sure it was not my husband's baby. I |
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| Question: I don't want to drive hours to take my 19 year old daughter to work. Is this too mean? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 07:10 AM PDT My husband has a 19 year old daughter that lives an hour away at his moms house. She lives there because at the time of her moving my husband and I both worked and her grandma didn't so she decided she wanted to go stay there. Her grandma is going out of town for 8 days and my husband told me I either have to pack up my 5 month old and 2 year old and stay there to take her to work. Or she is going to stay here and I will drive to take her to work every day. I think both of these options are ridiculous. Every time she gets money instead of saving it for a car she spends it on fast food or e cigarettes. Also the reason I don't want to go stay there is because they have a large dog and it makes my babies throat sore. Am I being too mean? Should I just suck it up and do one of these things? |
| Posted: 08 Sep 2015 07:05 AM PDT My wife and I went to a party and she was sitting next to a man on a couch and everytime she laughed she would rock back on a angle and touch his chest with her back and as it went on it would be a little longer. My gut was telling me this was big time flirting. The mans wife had her back turned and was talking toa gay guy. When we got home she wanted sex and I told her no because I was mad what she did I thought was this was big time flirting and making me feel uncomfortable. She try to play it off as just laughing and having fun at the party. She then replied that if we dont have sex it my fault if she cheats on me. We have not had sex in a while. I feel like divorcing her. |
| Question: Husband is going through something right now. How much is too much to put up with? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 06:47 AM PDT My husband dies not handle stress well. He just quit his job to work from home, which was supposed to make him happier, but he's worse than ever. Last weekend was our 1 year wedding anniversary and we ended up getting into a huge fight over something really dumb. Then this morning we had a little tif, again over something dumb, and he completely lost it and took it out on my daughter. He screamed at her to go brush get teeth and then threatened to beat her with his belt when she didn't get up fast enough. He's never done anything like that before, it was out of character. But it scared the crap out of her and now she's traumatized. What do I do? Is that the last straw? Is that forgiveable? She wants nothing to do with him now. |
| Posted: 08 Sep 2015 06:25 AM PDT A group of us were talking, but my wife was laughing histerically and kept rocking back on an angle, so her back was touching his chest. At first it was just for a second, but then she would would rest it there for a few seconds or more. The mans wife was there, but she had her back turned and was talking to a guy who was gay. This action by my wife made me feel very uncomfortable and my gut feeling was that she was flirting big time. When we got home she wanted to have sex and I said no because I did not feel good about her actions and she got mad at me. She played off like she was laughing. I did not by that story. Then she got mad at me for not wanting sex and said to me if she cheats on me its my fault. We have not had sex in a while before this and she said she said it to try to get me to have sex that night. Was I right about going with my gut feelings and getting upset about her actions at the party and then I did not like what she said about cheating. I feel like divorcing her. My question is was my wife flirting and was I right about getting upset with her? Also, when we got home I was so mad I did not want to have sex with her, so she said if if she cheats its my fault which now makes me want to divorce her. She said she said to get me to have sex because we have not had sex in a while? Read below |
| Question: What do you do if your spouse gives you the silent treatment? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 05:23 AM PDT My husband and I had a little argument and he is giving me the silent treatment I don't know what to do. We were supposed to go out but he didn't want to go after the argument. I really feel bad and not sure if I should wait until he comes around or what. |
| Question: What type of man lets his wife wear sluty and sexy clothes? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 04:50 AM PDT |
| Question: How do I win my wife back? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 04:42 AM PDT Recently I found out that my wife was having an emotional affair. I confronted her about it which she lied about it for about a week. Finally last night I was able to get her to come clean. It turns out she had been planning on move to Florida with this guy's mother and divorce me. Also this guy was a friend of hers that went to prison and is getting out soon. I have to say that she is bipolar or borderline personal disorder as well. We have been married for 2 years and been together for 10. The last two years I completely cut off the world including her. I suffer from depression myself. Over the past month I started to realize that I wasn't living and I didn't show or tell her anything. I'm sure this is why this whole mess started. I've been communicating with her much better and trying to make things the way they were. Right now she says she is confused now and don't what to do. But she is willing to try. And she is telling the other guy that's she's trying to work things out with me. We are going to start marriage counseling and I'm going to seek my own help as well. Over the past month is what has made her decisions hard because I've been making an effort finally. I know we both made mistakes, but I'm looking for any extra advice to keep her with me. She is my world. Thanks |
| Question: Why is my wife telling me to cheat on her? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 04:19 AM PDT I'm in an almost sexless marriage. Anytime I ask my wife why she doesn't want to have sex with me, and why she is pushing me away she says "I just don't want to . " Or she tells me to leave her alone. One thing I can say is she always spends her time on her phone, mostly texting or posting on Facebook. I actually caught her texting dirty messages to a guy. She said it was a joke. I want to trust her, but some people say I'm being naive. She is always saying she is too tired or too busy. I'm not sure why she is so tired/ busy when she doesn't have a job. Anyway anytime I press the issue of how I think I'm not getting enough sex she tells me to just sleep with another girl, and she won't hold it against me. What do you think is going on? |
| Question: How much time is it normal to stay alone after a divorce? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 03:56 AM PDT |
| Question: Do you think this is normal for a wife to say to her husband? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 03:56 AM PDT So I will engage in four play ie kissing and fondling with my wife, and instead of engaging me back like she used to when we first got married she will push me away and tell me to just masturbate. She used to have a big sexual appetite. Now I'm lucky if I get it once a week. By the way we've been married almost 3 years. |
| Question: Ex-wife denies a lot of her behaviors near the end of our marriage. Why? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 03:48 AM PDT My ex wife and i got into an argument the other day after i told her i wouldnt do certain things for her that she asked of me. I felt i needed to remind her of how she treated me and because of thst, there are now limits on what i will do for her. She pretty much denied everything leading up to our divorce. Why? How could she forget so much? 6 months before she hinted that there was a problem in our relationship, she came to me and told me she was emotionally connected to a coworker. 6 months after that, she became oppositional and highly argumentative. She begsn criticizing everything i did. She started going out on weekend evenings with her coworker and leaving me home to watch the kids. If i objected, i was accused of being controlling. She told me if anything tragic ever happened to me that he woukd make a great 2nd husband. She told me thete was notthng that i could do that she couldnt outsource. I coukd do no right. She has no idea how much emotional pain she caused. Now, her guy dumped her. She is asking me to move heavy furniture and boxes for her and I said no. She denies pretty much everything. How can she deny it? |
| Question: Good holiday gifts for a husband? Posted: 08 Sep 2015 01:15 AM PDT I don't have too much money so an iPad, watch, or car would be out of the question. I want to get him something small but meaningful. He doesn't really like jewelry, candy, or clothes (he has a lot). What would a man like to get from his wife? |
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