He lives with his Mother and he has full custody. I do pay child support, and i do have visitation rights. His Mother has decided that i cannot see my child at their house. I find strang about this is the fact that when we was married he built onto her house so it 2 houses in one. Is there anything i can do about this?

Hola, la cuestión es que levo 6 años de relación y pensamos este año en casarnos, sin embargo su ex esta obsesionado con ella, cabe mencionar que tiene un hijo de esa relación pero no le interesa el niño y no quiere ser solo el papá, ahora tiene una orden o demanda no se la verdad de que ella regrese con él y ella no quiere. ¿si me caso de inmediato con ella puedo protegerla legalmente de alguna manera y que nos deje en paz aunque sea por lo civil?

My husband and I haven't had a date night since our daughter was born. (3 months ago). I want to plan a spontaneous date night, but in all honesty, I've never really been good at spontaneous. Any suggestions for a special night? Finding a babysitter won't be a problem, that can be taken care of even at the last minute

I have confronted my husband with his lover,caught disgusting and naked messages and pictures in hus phone.he keeps apologising yet never stops.i kip seeing messages between him and hus girlfriend.he equally spends money on her.its eating me up inside.what do I do?

My ex husband still sleeps with our 10 year old son. He gets him every week end for visitation. He never even tries to put him to bed in his own room. He says he can't put him by himself because he's frightened, checks all the door locks, and leaves numerous lights on. At my house, he sleeps in his own bed in his own room with no fuss. He is very insecure but behaves very different at dads house. Suggestions please? I'm going to try to talk to my ex about this again.

So my mother in law was talking **** about me but at first I stayed quiet & just told my husband to handle it himself. After she post something about me on Facebook I decided to be the bigger person & ignore it once more & decided I wouldn't go over her house anymore with my husband so he would go without me cause I'm not going to make him not talk to his mother. Yesterday his cousin told me that when they visited her she was talking about me and making me look bad. That's when I lost it. I called my husband & told him & he called her & obviously she said she wasn't talking **** she was just stating facts. & she told him that not every conversation she had was going to be about me technically saying I was making myself feel important that's when I finally got on the phone with her I couldn't help but go off on her. We were both screaming at each other & when my husband started talking to her she played the victim & was like you see the way she was talking to me just stay with her. Like really ? Why would you put him in a situation where he has to choose ?! I never did that & for her to do that really got me mad. Idk what to do I wanted to apologize but I don't feel like I have to because all I did was defend myself.

Can anyone advice me what will i do about my husband who is very tight.? I'm an Asian now in america now we only eat in 1 day twice i feel new to this coz he don't wants me to eat..He is a big guy and old..

I want to get a job and live on my own and spend my days buying stuff on Amazon.com. That's my dream. I don't want to get married or have kids or even really work. I just love doing things in the comfort of my own room while listening to great music, reading great books and watching great movies. I'm not a very social person. My family tries to change that and get me out of the house more but nothing makes me happier than doing something simple like what I wrote above. Does that make me a loser? I'm 27 years old and a female. Most people my age are going into their marriage and kids stage of life but I cannot see myself as a wife or mother. I never want to be married or have kids. Am I selfish for thinking this way?

Me and my husband been together for 5 years and married about 3 months. I love my husband dearly. But he is very close to his brother. Which I wouldn't have a problem with If they wasn't position when they are together. In my opinion the feed off each other. For example, they work together and they both don't like working there (FYI my husband is the only one the works in out house hold, I'm in school) so they came up with a master plan to start going to work late for no reason. Which both of them are on their last straw at this job. And mind you that his brother is the oldest and also he have 2 children and a girlfriend that lives with him. I just feel Like they are a bad influence on each other. And like we live in the same apartment complex and they make it a point to see each other every single day and the crazy thing is they work together like I said before. And this is not the first job that they worked together. The last job that they worked together they both got fired on the same day at the same time. How do I get my husband to be his own man and be responsible. Or am I just over reacting

Stop being passive and complaining to everybody. Your spouse probably doesnt even realize you feel there is a problem. The only way to turn things around is to stop being passive and to go take action.

early in our relationship, he sent me a text saying he wants a woman who does what she s told, no questions asked. During intimacy, his version of dirty talk was to talk about his dream of making me a housewife, and have me quit my job to stay home to cook and clean. Has talked about wanting to be the breadwinner in our relationship, which screamed insecurity Has justified cheating (never did it), and also talked about how he told me he can easily have his way with me, on days when i wasn t down my sex like my period days. called me good girl, not in a sexual way, but outside the bedroom too, and one time i said something, and he said be good. and before you ask why I am thinking of my ex, the breakup is still new and it's natural. Looking back, those things were hella odd.

Our friend gave my wife a sketching of him naked. He looks like a failed pervert in it. What should I do?

We just recently had our 7th wedding anniversary. From the last year, my hubby purposely hurts me, irritates me, engages in useless arguments and then normalizes things for a breather or when he wants sex. Sometimes apologizes but never means it. I've done from ignoring, to be nicer, to stay calm, to react, to get assertive, to go on silent treatment, and still be pretentious strong and happy. Joined gym, it helps me stay happy. He's not cheating, its just a new him. When im alone, it hurts me a lot, cuz im a good active wife and caring mom of 2. Let me know if you've some ideas to keep it smoother.

I went thought soo much pain with my husband who I was married to for 2 years have 2 year old son that was being affected with his actions and attitude towards me I had to leave. I met an amazing guy who is iilegal and is totally different with my son and I he fell in love with me and I did with him as well. 6monhths later my x-husband wants to take me back, but yet he yells when I speak to him over the phone after long time, its hurts to think that my life would be nothing but pain again. Yeah, my illegal BF may not have much, but he has a heart that I value more than anything else he is a dedicated hard working man and I know we can move sky high. Plus X-hubb is already talking to someone... I just don't see myself going to live pain over and over again no matter what he says.

How do you know if two people are actually in love and they're not just caught in the moment and saying that they love each other and then later on realize that they're not that compatible?

Why don't they act like teenagers?

Or do I have to wait until I get my new SSN to apply for a new passport? Sorry to confuse anyone - I'm changing my name, so I'm applying for an all new passport and SS card.

DO you believe on a philosophical level that we are having an epidemic of sexless marriages as the newsweek article, "No Thank You we are Married" (http://www.prnewswire.com/news-releases/newsweek-cover-no-sex-please-were-married-71373437.html) reports? If so what can we do in our relationships about it?

I go back and forth between wanting to be very sexual with my wife to not wanting to touch her and thinking of her as just a good friend or a maternal figure to thinking about her as very hot. Our relationship goes back and forth between no sex for months on end, to having sex every single night. I feel that our relationship is going down the road to sexless, because we love each other too much. I have recently read "Mating in Captivity" and "Heart of Desire". These books both hit a never with me. My wife has a tendency to go off the deep end when I stumble my way through talking about sex, and I know she will have issues with some of the things these books suggest. Has anyone out there read these books? Anyone have any experiences discussing these types of issues with their significant others?

Wanting to hear experiences of women who have never been married and have no kids and fell in love with a man with kids and possibly previously married. What were/are some of the challenges of this dynamic?

It has been 4 months since my husband cheated. I am now 9 weeks pregnant with our 2nd child. When i found out he cut all contact with her. She knew about me and talked about me all the time even would ask my husband how i was doing while planning on running away with my husband and child. They connected on fb when she was having a hard time she had a baby and was in an abusive relationship. She is his ex fiance. He vowed to change when i found out to never let her back in. I find the more i get pregnant the more dreams of the affair i have. I see naked photos, texts of them confessing their love. I see plans for divorce. I am trying so hard to make my marraige work for my children but the less angry i feel towards my husband the more angry i am at her. I got on her fb today i saw messages from her husband syaing how she is the best wife how much he loves how lucky he is have her. I wanted to tell him everything but he has been known to be abusive and i dont want her physically hurt. The more i feel bad for her the more i hate her. She emailed my husband recently saying how much he broke her that she loved him and would have done anything for him. I felt bad for her but that made me angry and i sent her a really nasty message about how she was nothing but a whore and that he never loved her just used her. How did you ladies get over the other woman. I feel like i obsses about her but i dont know how not to. I have never felt such hatred in my entire life.

My husband and I have been going through a rough patch. Recently one of his friends tried to let me know he liked me and was trying to flirt with me in front of my husband and get my attention, turn around to see if I was looking at him and returning a smile , trying to strike up a conversation with me. His friend is a nice person but he has never acted this way in front of me or him. So I was a little shocked by his behavior. And then after that they were cracking a joke and laughing about something which I didn't hear. I mean my husband didnt even do anything when his friend was trying to flirt with me? And they still act like nothing is happening and remain as friends. Since my husband and I are going through a tough time. I have some trust issues with him. I am wondering did he and his friend try to set me up and fool me? Or was his friend really telling me he liked me? And if his friend likes me, why is my husband not bothered? BTW I didn't take things further with his friend.

Let me preface this with this. My wife and I have an arrangement that one night she cooks and the other night I cook. Several months ago she lost her job and was home for a while, yet I still cooked on my nights and she let it be known that it was my night to cook even though she was home all day. She found a job and went back to work only to leave the job a few weeks later then went back to work a few weeks after that. Again, I still cooked on my nights. Well, I'm now out of a job and today is her day to cook. My wife is one of those women who feels that because she works she can't do anything else. It takes her an hour and a half to get dressed in the morning. She can't think to take anything out of the freezer to prepare for dinner that night. Usually on hi night to cook we'll eat pizza bites or hot dogs. Shortly after dinner on her nights I start thinking about what I'm going to cook the next day and even when I was working I still woke every morning, dressed, and took meat out of the freezer to prepare that night. However, she's just so busy until she NEVER has time to do it on her nights/days. She just sent me a text saying that she's running late and that it will most likely be a fast food night and that she wants me to start cooking more cause she doesn't have time. She's probably gotta to get her hair or nails done so that keeps her from coming home and cooking. Yes, I've addressed this with her but it hasn't sunk in yet. Most nights when I was working I didn't get home until 6:30 or 6:45 yet I still went into the kitchen and cooked. I didn't just throw some fish sticks or chicken tenders in the oven. Am I wrong to think this way? I don't mind cooking but I'm not about to assume all the cooking duties now that I'm not working because when she wasn't working she didn't.

My husband is the one who filed for divorce. I have never been through a divorce. We have a young child involved who he has not let me see since a few days after our seperation. He will not allow me to have him at all. He told me yesterday when I asked to be able to see my son that is i sign a "form 11" he will let me see him. My question is... what is a form 11? I really want to see my son. I have an attorney and have already emailed him this question. Just wanted to see what yall thought in the meantime.

My wife of 2 years (10 years together) wanted me to install a app on her phone. When she gave me her phone I when to the section to close the old app and delete it. Well when I closed the app the next app was jpay ( inmate emails) The page that was open was a email from a male that we had discussed that I feel uncomfortable when she talks to this guy. She must of been reading the email cause that was up. I try not to snoop in her phone but this page was up ( after I close the other app) and I recognize his name. Naturally I skimmed over the email finding dirty talk all thought out. I only had the phone for one minute. I handed it back and confronted her about it. Is talking dirty to a guy consider cheating? I asked her not to communicate with him anymore. Should I consider divorce or would it be in my best interest to go to a marriage counseling and see if we can work it out? I know that every situation is different. I told her when I handed the phone back to at least close the app with your boyfriend when you want me to work on your phone. I didn't confronted her about the body of the email ( dirty talk) only about the male that makes me uncomfortable. She continued to lie about it saying that it was just a friendly talk and nothing is going on. I checked my phone bill for numbers and my credit card statement which she had bought 70 stamps for the emails. this has been going on for a year. On the phone bill has about an average of 3 calls a day income from this prison.

Ok i know him since a year ago... He had always flirted with me texts call and stuff... Invited me to diner and stuff at work... We work at the same location... He told me he wasn't marry but he is and has 3 kids. Also I asked him if he loves his wife and he replied "I love her as the mother of my kids". And after we slept together I regret it but he keeps texting me and calling me at work :"(... I can't even look at him anymore and I feel so bad specially since I didn't know he was living with his wife and kids :"( any advice ???? I am ignoring him since it happened....

I'm a married woman. Been married for 5 years, but together for 8. I used to have a lot of sex drive, no I have none. I don't mean low either, I mean zip, zilch, zero. I don't know why. My husband is a great man, not abusive, not a bum,...he's great. I just never want to be intimate. How can I improve that before I lose my marriage. It already causes problems...he thinks I don't love him anymore, or worse that im cheating. Which is what I'd think if the situation was reversed. Help??? Next stop I guess is my GYN.....

We know women date men who have money even if they aren't attracted at all sexually to the guy, but what about men ? Is is just as common for men to date or marry women they aren't attracted to ? Am saying women that date unattractive men they aren't aroused by sexually, do so because the guy is paying her bills and it's a lot easier for them to suckdick than actually go to work. But what about men ? Why would a guy marry or date a woman he isn't attracted to and he makes a point of saying he doesn't find her good looking ? Maybe am being too nosy, but I've been noticing some of the guys at work do this, and I'm baffled.

Before my parents got divorced I was the funniest person in the families. I had little skits on YouTube, and my whole family would come down to watch them. They were so proud of me. Now, my mom has a new husband, and she thinks him and his family is the funniest people ever. She always goes on and on about stuff they've said (that isn't even funny!) and when I say something really good she never says anything, and sometimes even finds something that they've said to top it (when I am more funny!!!). And if I say something, then they say it she hears it when they say it but not me! I have told her how I feel and it doesn't help. I don't know what to do? I want my life back.

As many of you know my relationship with my 20 year old step son is not the best. He doesn't live with us because he refused to follow house rules and he had to go. My wife thinks I'm too hard on him so anytime I bring up his name it usually ends in an argument. Well, tell me how I address this with her. My 19 year old step son, who failed out of college his first year, is back home with us. He recently enrolled into a local college in our city. My wife and my niece recently left for her freshman year in college. She lives with her grandparents, my in-laws. They gave her their extra car to drive and she drove it most of her high school years. Now that she's off in college they are allowing my step-son to drive the car but it still belongs to my niece and when she comes home to visit he gives the car back. Today I was in the house doing some cleaning and I noticed my step-son come in from class. A few minutes later the oldest step-son came to visit. I didn't think anything of it and kept on cleaning. An hour or so later went to get the mail and the only car in the driveway was mine. When I walked into my step son's room he was laying on the bed. That surprised me because the car was gone. I asked where it was and he said his brother had it. His brother doesn't have a license, only his permit. He has epileptic seizures and has already wrecked one car due to t seizure. His relationship with his grandparents isn't the best because of his attitude. I do not think it's the best for him to be driving around town with only a permit to get pulled over by the cops and get arrested and the car get impounded. His brother (who has a licence) allowed him to take his grandparent's car without their permission. How do I address this with my wife without her thinking I'm just trying to get her son in trouble or that I'm just trying to start something?

I moved with my husband for a new job 2 months into the job I was let go. Then, I got another job & was fired. My husband & I decided to relocate again a 2nd time & I was fired after 2 weeks. I was told I had a strange personality that didn't fit in with the people of the particular state we moved to & I'd be better off moving back home. (No Joke) We did move home & I got a job in a completely unrelated field I did great had nothing but positive feedback then, the company went bankrupt. Now, I'm back in my field & my anxiety is through the roof. I shake when I go to speak to my boss, I have called in sick due to my anxiety, I'm not sleeping at night because I'm so afraid of being fired. I am calling in sick a lot I'm just miserable!!! I'Be worked in this profession prior to being fired for 15 years and got nothing but praise & positive feedback. I don't know what's wrong with me but it's starting to impact my marriage, friendships, everything HELP!!! Any suggestions???

. Can that hold up the process and also how long will they keep it in the system before they toss it out.

I've been having an emotional affair with a married friend. We texted almost everyday for about a year, and it got very intimate. He stopped all of a sudden, and he hasn't responded to me for almost 3 months. I've texted him several times, and I could tell that he has read them but no response at all. I feel so rejected and it hurts so bad, especially we have been intimate emotionally via texts and video chat. Why do you think he stopped? His wife lives in a different city, so I doubt she found out. BTW I am married too, and I guess we both are using this as an escape from our everyday routine. I crave our conversations, since we seem to connect and many times finish each other's sentences. I might have gotten addicted to this and fell in love with him. The fact that he's ignoring me now, I don't think he feels the same way, so this really hurts me badly. We never did anything physically because we live in two different countries, so this is all done via texts, but it messes me up emotionally. I miss him soo bad. Should I continue to text him? I don't want to be a pathetic psycho, just want to remain friends. I fully understand that this is wrong in so many level and I would be hurt if my hubby is doing this to me, but I can't seem to get over him and think about him almost every minute. Any advice on how I can get over this feeling and rejection? Most of all, I want to forget about him and not have this feeling anymore, but it's sooo hard. Please help... thank you!

So last night, I went snooping on my wife's phone and read a conversation with another female coworker. So this female coworker of hers is engaged to another nurse at same hospital and apparently she(the female coworker) gave her number to another guy who i believe is also a nurse at the hospital (my wife supposedly know this guy as well). This guy sent my wife's coworker a cartoon picture of a guy performing fellatio on another woman while the woman is sitting on his face. Then their conversation turns into how that guy told my wife's coworker that my wife once saw a picture of his penis and told him that it is small. Now I am just trying to figure out how my wife get to see a picture of another coworker's manhood on his phone. Was she playing with his phone, going through pictures? I am asking because I can't imagine asking a female coworker for her phone and then going through her pictures. If she did that, who else knows what else she has done.

I know it's hard to believe this after the 1,000+ questions I've asked on here, but I have a growth mindset. I don't accept the current norms as the "end all" of life. There's always room for improvement, and when we don't improve on these areas, we are essentially telling ourselves/everyone "This is the best you're going to get". And that's the attitude I get from my wife, she treats herself like she's a done project and there's nowhere left to go from here (which is b.s. obviously). But this got me wondering, is this "fixed mentality" why SOME women SOMETIMES get frumpy - because they assume that who they are today was good enough to snag the guy so they must be "enough" for the rest of her life? I know SOME men do this too, but I wanted to focus on the SOME women who do it for the sake of my situation. I've been trying to motivate my wife (positive and recently negative reinforcement) and she isn't budging so I wondered if this was a typical problem. My wife claims that who she is today is all she has time for and that changes are next to impossible because the routine she has right now "works" and makes her a productive person. I had to explain to her that she is a great person, but she is NOT a good wife or mom since she's constantly unavailable when decisions need to be had... By the end of the conversation I declared I was taking charge since she couldn't be depended upon to be my equal in decision making. While this is "kind of" a mental health question - the question isn't how to fix my wife, the question is if this is typical and what drives this behavior. I don't think this is a mental health issue. The psychology section could probably help me BUT no one is there to answer questions - and the people there are just acting psychologists (like I would be). So let's just keep it in M&D for that subjective personal experience from other people, okay? And to make things clear - I don't have a high horse. I've tried for 7 years to collaborate with my wife to make family and marital changes that would benefit both of us (compromise) and she has been adamant about her position (she doesn't want to change her routine and disrupt what she believes is a "good thing" - despite the obvious suffering in our household). So I'm not trying to "take charge" in an arrogant a**hole way, but she refuses therapy/counseling so I'm doing what must be done.

My husband and his former colleague started a business (restaurant) five months ago. SHE is older than him 14 years but she is very manipulative person. And he is one of those types who "puts his family first" but at least dozen times a month he finds a way to cancel on me and main excuse was work (he is a waiter and she is the cook), but many times came home drunk and she was drinking with him. Recently, they got in conflict and ever since he is being strange. I asked him many ties are they having an affair but answer was NO.Recently,one of THEIR acquaintances called them "love doves". He told me that yesterday and that many people who are regular guests think that they are in a relationship. He allegedly has a problem with that, that people see them that way, but he says that he never thought of having affair, especially with her, although he was seen more in public with her than with me. Whenever I would ask him about cheating or affairs (never accused him directly of being a cheater) he would tell me that I was over jealous, paranoid and distrustful. The thing he told me, about them being called "love doves", I accepted normally like it was nothing but my gut is telling me different, where there's smoke, there's fire. I don't want to include anyone from my friend or family to help me with this thing. I just need advice how to pull it out of him without being direct. I do trust him but my gut and my intuition is telling me that something is nor right. Please help.

Why do some married women cheat on their hard working and loving husbands so much? The husbands work so hard to financially secure the family, look after the children, do the housework, and spend good time with the wife and family. Yet she still cheats....

His job is to take care of the cat litter because he wanted the cat (didn't want one for the responsibility). Also, he has to take out the trash. I'll do all the cleaning and thd cooking. Several days and he is not following through. What would you do in this case?

Men: Would you bother entering relationships with such women? I'm specifically referring to Western society since in most other societies, chastity is certainly the wise choice for women.

I have a strange fetish and wonder if it is bad or a problem for any reason? I LOVE the following -when hubby looks at other women -when there's female nudity in movies so hubby can look -when hubby watches porn -when hubby talks of girls he finds sexually attractive -strip club trips with him watching him enjoying their bodies Also, I know he wouldn't ever cheat on me, he is very faithful and obviously loves me more than this world. Plus, I actually told him if he ever wanted to have sex with someone else it's okay as long as I am told it happened. He politely declined, and said "I will always enjoy naked women and I may touch them with your okay, but you are the only person I will lay with."

I'm on a budget so I'm looking for somewhere affordable. My partner insists they are faithful but I can't get beyond feeling like they are lying to me, no matter what is said and it's destroying myentire life to the point I am throwing up every day. I can't just leave because there are kids involved. If I could just know for certain one way or the other, even if it turns out they have been lying, it would be SUCH an enormous weight off of my soul.