I appericate her help but now shes going overboard. I wanted some friends to be bridesmaids she tells me think of the cost. I wanted to take photos at a park and she finds a venue where i dont need to go to a park in a neighborhood i do not like. Shes texting me everyday telling me i need to be a bridezilla and then she only expects me to have my sisters as brides maides and she texted me "traditionally the bride gets gifts for her bridesmaids maybe the wedding sneakers?" like i need to agree to it. I want to put some of my money into the wedding and my fiancé does too but my mom wont accept the money only to pay for the dj and photographer :/ How do i get my mom to back off a bit without hurting her feelings? My fiancé and I would love to make decisions on our own but my mom has been guilt tripping us by saying shes super happy and that if shes being to pushy we should mention for her to back off , i know her she will be mad if we said that.