When I was 17 years old and my sister was 14 at the time we used to see my mom and Dad as a normal couple. My older brother was 21 and in the Marines. My parents weren't perfect. My dad was always working, they argue a lot about me and my sister. Mom was usually busy with decorating the house. She loved a good house. My mom always dressed elegant and so did my dad. When I was 15 and got my first heart break from this older girl. My parents told me the right one would come. I found out my dad had a girlfriend before he met my mom but my dad was the only man my mom had. I was 16 years old when my mom got a boob job. She was 43 at the time. My mom got obsessed to work out and get a better body. Some black boys at my school used toile comments that how my mom was a freak. They said my mom is a blonde bbc whore. Thats when my sister told me something she knew for 4 months. My sister was being rebellious towards my mom at this time. She found my mom with a black guy. The black guy was the older brother of that black boy that tease me. I told my dad about it and he started to cry. A week later he confessed that my mom and him agreed for my mom to have that lover. He felt embarrassed but said this happens to spice up their relationship. That guy went to the same gym with my mom. He's a tall, buff black guy. My mom with a black man? I seriously thought my mom was secretly prejudice against them. Turns out that my mom and Dad went to a bar after watching the movie.

er mother was verbally mentally and physically abusive to our daughter nearly her entire life and my daughter told hee mother how hurt and broken she was and walked out with all of her things. I told her to pray that her situation and depression gets better as I am a Christian man. but there are a few things that make me think she's a rebel. I keep telling her that her boyfriend and her not be together forever because people break up and I don't want her killing hardwood if it happens and my daughter was like " i don't need you to being negative about my relationship everyday." I told her " I'm trying to help you. You need to be prepared in case it happens". Also she's a substitute teacher And my wife said that wasn't a real job and told her she wasn't taking her to work unless she went to go look for a real job. This is one point where I agree with. Told her she just sits and does busy work. my daughter was like I wake up at 5 am everyday for work and have to deal with troubled kids with behavioral problems it's not a cake walk. Plus it's only a temporary job. Oh and also do you think doctors not have a real job either cause they just tell you to drink more water and send off pills to the pharmacy for you. Nurses do all the work." I didn't think she would cut me and her mother off. Thought she would just cut her mother off cause me and her have had a good relationship. when my daughter lived with us my wife was constantly angry every time she would see our daughter in the kitchen cooking but she eats fast food on a rotating basis. I almost wanted to tell her that if she was so mad to see our daughter cooking why didn't she get up and cook instead of laying around complaining but I kept that to myself. I told her not to call our daughter a $lut because she went on a vacation with her long term boyfriend but she refuses to stop calling our daughter names. now I fear that I have lost my daughter forever.

She has never worked a day in her life, she doesn't know how to cook and doesn't want to learn the proper way. She's lazy and is obsessed with religion and the apocalypse. My grandmother gives her a lot of money every month but somehow she never has enough money so she ends up asking me (i dont earn much) for more money. Not to mention she somehow always has new shoes and clothes even if there is not enough food at home. If my grandma doesn't give her money she just cries and fights with her and even insults her instead of just working. My mom is 59,my grandma 86. My grandma has a difficult personality but she's way too generous and i don't like my mom's attitude towards her. My mom is a lawyer and doesn't do anyrhing with that and she won't recieve anything from the government when she's older because she has never worked. So she expects me to be rich and keeps her living like a queen somehow, even if I didn't even go to college because she never had enough money for that even though she actually did have the money... Ughhh. I don't have any siblings to help me deal with this. She doesn't have a husband, she has this 'independent woman' mindset but is not independent at all. I think she has depression but psychologists are not that helpful for her, she has gone to therapy but came back more delusional than she already is. We've talked about this but she never changes. I want to leave but feel responsible for her. Wtf do i do? I hate this.

My parents are very strict in general. A few days ago my mother was complaining about all the work she had to do for Easter (Orthodox) and I promised to help her on a certain day. She still complained that it wasn't enough. Today I asked her whether it is okay if I go out for boardgames the evening before the day I promised to help, and sleep at the person who is hosting (we live too far away to come back at night). She got angry, saying that I always let her down and that I never help her. She ended it with "Do what you want!". I feel she is unreasonable and often tries to guilt trip me when I want to go out with friends but on the other hand I don't really want to cause tension before Easter. Should I go out? I am a 24 y.o. girl, still living with my parents.

They have a beach house and I went for Easter. It was not fun. We now are supposed to go for Mother's Day, Father's Day, Fourth of July, Thanksgiving, and Christmas. I am 26 and live on my own but hate conflict. I want to be able to get out of it for sure at Christmas as I hate the thought of having to go for Christmas. I want to get out of it the other times also except maybe if no one is around where I live on a smaller holiday like Fourth of July. I will go on Mother's Day for my mother. Otherwise how can I get out of this? Their one friend is an evil and malicious woman and the other slept with a married family member of ours. The 3rd left this wife for some young and hot chick though she is cute. The other two are total strangers.

I am 19, have my own car, pay for my phone myself, and go to college 4 hours from home. I need to go home and back this weekend without my parents knowing because they are very critical and judgemental of me going home so often. I don't want to leave my phone at my college dorm because I may need it on my 8 hour drive, and I would rather not jailbreak my phone but am open to that if there is no other option.

My parents splitted up 6/7 years ago, then I had to move my things and me here, at my granparents' house... I lived there for about 3 years, then my mum found a partner, so we moved and started living at his house. This until 3 days ago - for me -, and until 30 days ago for my mum, when she died for a cancer. I don't know why but the thing that devastated (and it's still doing it) me is the thought that I should have moved at my granparents' house, again. I moved here 3 days ago because my mum's partner couldn't stay where he was living, so he moved at his mother's house (she died about a year ago, so he owns completely the house...). The problem is that I am fully unable to think and believe in a readjustment. My room is more than twice bigger, and this makes me uncomfortable, like the smells (that remember me things of 4/5 years ago, when I went through a difficult period), the environment and my granparents... I feel to need to live with younger people... I feel like stupid at talking about this with my relatives and I'm not sure that it would be a good idea talking about it with my granparents because they could get offended. I really need an advice. I've been crying for the last 2 days, I would like to run away from here. I get sad at doing things I did at the "old" house, I'm more stressed, confused and negative. I have started doubting about my dreams, my future and good achievement at school, which is almost finished. I'm not sure to be able to make anyone spending money for a psychoterapist, that's because I had to write about my situation here. My English is not perfect, I'm Italian. I've written here because so I have more chance to reach people.

My sister is really frustrated with something that's going on in her life right now. Today she came home crying and she started complaining about it and screaming and being very mad. She is generally a very nervous person and she gets mad easily and when she does she overreacts. She is a drama queen to be honest but today while she was complaining she screamed "you don't even know how many times I've thought of cutting myself! I wanna kill myself!". Now, I'm very worried and scared and I don't know what to think or do. She doesn't cut herself. She's never done this but I'm scared now. Was she just trying to scare me? Did she say that on her nerves and didn't actually mean it or did she? I really hope she said it out of frustration and didn't mean it. I'm scared for her. Please help!

or would you try to stay separate with them after saved money

i love my mum so much, she has raised me and still looks after me while im at home e.g. food etc, and while i was at uni we had the best relationship but before and after then it's been hell my parents split when i was 13 and it was a very turbulent divorce. dad then moved away and i dont really see him, my bro is at uni so rn it's me, her and her 'ex' gf.. she can go through times completely ignoring my existence , she does this a lot if i come home a bit later than i say (i'm 22 next month), she never tells me she loves me or that she's proud of me, all she does is make negative comments and she demands things from me that i cant give... she doesn't accept me being gay even though she has been in a gay relationship, my gf has never come over, she never wants to hear about her, and at 1 point when me and my gf broke up and then got back together, my mum asked me to choose between my gf or her??? she said being gay is not in the eyes of god and she can never support it... atm she said she never wants me to talk to her again unless i stop smoking weed -i dont smoke weed very often but there are points where i have weed in the house which she goes insane over -which is fair but this extreme reaction where she never wants to talk to me again and wants me to move out? i feel like i cant talk to her about anything and i dont feel like she loves me - more secretly hates me i've been going to therapy trying to understand this, but now idk what to do, should i stop talking to her?

So I'm a 21 year old women. I mostly have grown up in Georgia and for a little while been in New York . I have been in New York for 5 months now , and I have been here with my grandma. I live in a house with my grandma. My aunt , cousins , uncle and his girlfriend and kids. Also my aunts boyfriend. In Georgia, my mom , brothers and stepdad live there . I honestly came to New York mainly to pick up my grandma so she could go to Georgia in November. I came and went with her and ended up staying just for Christmas and New Years . But I got used to it and stayed in New York . I didn't want to leave and I decided to stay. I did leave most of my stuff in my room in Georgia and I have wanted to go back but I haven't been thinking lately. The other thing is I got so attached to this family here that I don't want to leave . Plus I just received a text from my mom saying she had a health scare last night . She said she couldn't breathe and felt numb on one side of her body. I am worried about her . But I don't know what to do. Most of the time I feel like my mom has always leaned on me but she does have my brothers and stepdad. They act like they can't do anything. I do want to go back to see my mom but I know for a fact that if I do go back , I won't come back to New York since I will get comfortable being in Georgia. Is it my fault though. Is it immature my mom is leaning on me

Her mother was verbally mentally and physically abusive to our daughter nearly her entire life and my daughter told hee mother how hurt and broken she was and walked out with all of her things. I told her to pray that her situation and depression gets better as I am a Christian man. but there are a few things that make me think she's a rebel. I keep telling her that her boyfriend and her not be together forever because people break up and I don't want her killing hardwood if it happens and my daughter was like " i don't need you to being negative about my relationship everyday." I told her " I'm trying to help you. You need to be prepared in case it happens". Also she's a substitute teacher And my wife said that wasn't a real job and told her she wasn't taking her to work unless she went to go look for a real job. This is one point where I agree with. Told her she just sits and does busy work. my daughter was like I wake up at 5 am everyday for work and have to deal with troubled kids with behavioral problems it's not a cake walk. Plus it's only a temporary job. Oh and also do you think doctors not have a real job either cause they just tell you to drink more water and send off pills to the pharmacy for you. Nurses do all the work." I didn't think she would cut me and her mother off. Thought she would just cut her mother off cause me and her have had a good relationship.

my dad listens to my bro carefully . to my mom medium. but me is like im a ghost or sth. what about you ? what it was like in your family? my age 18 bro 28 .

We where having a family dinner my step sibblings grandparents where visiting. Everyone was having a good time except for my step brother. He was acting strange, I mean, he is diagnosed with PTSD. But he looked numbed or like he wasn't there. Until he fell on the floor and started having a convulsion, after that at the hospital. He woke up extremely irritated talking with bad words and screaming at us. Are those the meds?

I notice when the mother dies then the father just remarries and forgets about his kids in general. When fathers die, the mother still look after the kids.

I'm literally at my breaking point, I cannot handle it anymore. He keeps letting her. How can I stop hearing her scream 24/7 literally just want to hit her sometimes or even him.. She wants me to hit her sometimes. She calls me a ***** if I don't.

I am 16 years old and I am currently in 10th grade (sophomore). When I was in 9th grade I went to a public school and I loved it, I had a lot of friends at that school and it was amazing. This year for 11th grade my parents made me go to a small private school, I have been going here since August 2018 and I hate it so much, I hate everyday because of this. I have no friends anymore, I am alone at lunch and I just isolate myself now because no one here likes me. I wake up feeling anxious and nervous every morning because I don't want to go to school. It sucks. I haven't been happy since I was at my other school but my mom doesn't seem to care, I talked to her about going back and she yelled at me and told me it's not gonna happen. But if I stay here I might not even make it out alive, that's how bad it is. Like seriously it's bad. How should I try to get them to let me go back? should I tell them im gonna kill myself?

Me and my husband got pregnant after trying for a long time. 5 days ago I went into preterm labor and lost the baby. How do I tell my parents? This was going to be their first grandchild and they were so excited.

We have a six month old first baby . When we go visit my mil ,we get zero photos . Notta , nothing , zip , everytime .when my husbands brother who they treat like a god comes around and holds my daughter , his mon whoops her phone out and its a photo shoot . I don't understand??? They also dont take any of me and take of the girls with her . Please explain

I keep thousands of dollars in a shoebox, left in my house. Now, it is all gone, with the exception of a couple of dollars. The only people that have had access to my house has been my siblings, my dad, and my daughters. I am sure that it wasn't my daughters and dad. My dad has been hospitalized for the past week, and my daughters have been staying with their mother. I am suspicious about one brother, who is a complete junkie. He is constantly asking for money and owes multiple people money. He was at my house this morning, with my dad who was sleeping and my daughters who were busy in their rooms. One daughter told me that he abruptly left this morning. I don't want to accuse him, but I lost thousands of dollars. I also don't really want to call the cops, because of my family members are undocumented. What should I do?

My dad yells at me with vulgarities over the slightest thing. I got scolded for being 'selfish' to sit on the chair even when I'm unwell. And then he drags the topic of how selfish I am becoz I didn't serve him meals. He stays at all home all day without working for many years till now, while mom & I work to support. I had to endure stress from work/school, but when i come home I have this stress to tolerate as well. Like it's okay my mom doesn't do the household chores but I'm immature and selfish becoz I didn't do and got tired so easily from work. They like to put the blame on me for everything and sometimes mom does the same to me. It doesn't help that I'm suffering from anxiety and losing weight for no reason. Doctors said I'm fine there's nothing else to do. But I'm severely underweight and getting weak, not just physically but mentally now. I badly wanna leave home since I was a teen. It was a miracle i haven't got depression yet. But stupid asian culture if i left to live on my own I'll be scolded for being unfilial by everyone. Why are the older generations such bullies? They like to scold me whether I did anything or not. They never consider my feelings and they always want me to think for them. Am I not doing my duty? I never got praise or rewarded for getting good results in school. Fine. I didn't even splurge on myself I also contribute to the household expenses. All I want is to be happy, but it's so difficult. I keep getting hurt from the people closest to me.

My grandpa lives with us and it's causing some stress/problems for my parents/me? My grandpa could not live by himself anymore so he moved in with my dad mom and me and he has a whole lot of health issues copd lung issues from years of smoking cigars/cigarettes . We have not taken a vacation in years because we are stuck watching him he also won't pay for home healthcare and my aunt won't come from out of state to watch him for a week. It takes some learning how to change the pee bags and bathe him and my aunt wants nothing to do with this she is a lawyer and lives out of state . we are all Stuck changing pee bags and dealing with his health issues/ doctors he has doctors appointments 3/4 days a week. Caregiving is starting to be a ball and chain Mom says shut up and deal with it because it's just part of caregiving and he won't live forever I predict within the next 2 years he will pass my dad and I want to take a vacation as does my mom but we can't get anyone to watch him or he will have a health crisis and we will have to cut a vacation short my mom predicts maybe within the next 3 years we might be able to go on a vacation depending on how his health goes. He is on oxogen and someone has to be at the house over the age of 19 some law when the tanks get delivered and help take them inside. What should we do it's a big hassle at times and the 3 of us have put our lives on hold and just need a break.

My mom accused me of something and she was wrong but i said something bad that upset her. She took away my phone and my big quince party in November. She canceled my party. Do I still deserve to have that huge party for myself?

So my mom and I got into a huge argument, long story short: I said something about not ever being born and the accused me of having sexual things on my phone... there was never anything on there but she punished me with taking my phone away and taking away my quince. She said my quince is canceled for sure but I might get my phone back in a week or two. Do you think it's fair?

And if you have, did you feel bad after

I'm youngest son and no sister in family it's hard for me to prove that I'm smarter than my oldest brothers when they're not

I'm better dad than moms.

The daughter is 24 so not a kid.

she's 15 and i don't want her dating or finding a boyfriend.

My grandpa lives with us and it's causing some stress/problems for my parents/me? My grandpa could not live by himself anymore so he moved in with my dad mom and me and he has a whole lot of health issues copd lung issues from years of smoking cigars/cigarettes . We have not taken a vacation in years because we are stuck watching him he also won't pay for home healthcare and my aunt won't come from out of state to watch him for a week. It takes some learning how to change the pee bags and bathe him and my aunt wants nothing to do with this she is a lawyer and lives out of state . I want to go on vacation with my mom and dad and they agree we all need a break but we are all Stuck changing pee bags and dealing with his health issues/ doctors he has doctors appointments 3/4 days a week. Mom says shut up and deal with it because it's just part of caregiving and he won't live forever my dad and I want to take a vacation as does my mom but we can't get anyone to watch him or he will have a health crisis and we will have to cut a vacation short my mom predicts maybe within the next 3 years we might be able to go on a vacation depending on how his health goes. He is on oxogen and someone has to be at the house over the age of 19 some law when the tanks get delivered and help take them inside. What should we do it's a big hassle at times and the 3 of us have put our lives on hold and just need a break. Edit

I was talking with my mom a few months ago and I showed her my dad's facebook page (we were talking about him that night) and i said the most stupid thing i ever said, I accidently said "atleast he has a better house" I did NOT mean to say it against my mom i meant to say it against him because of how much of a asshole he was and is. I meant to aim for him but i accidently said the word "better" which made my mom mad against me and feel she don't enough for me (which is defintely not true). Later that night i heard her in her bathroom crying her eyes outs. It made feel so horrible and so angry i almost wanted to kill myself because of how ungrateful my mom thinks i am. Truth is, i'm not ungrateful but i wish i could just go back in time and just slap myself for saying that. I hate that my mom cried because of ME and what I said.... How do I stop being so sad about it to the point i cry thinking about it! :( sorry for my english i'm not very good at it! :(

I'll mention something and she'll yell at me and say that "i only want to do that because its what i want and i'm self centered and rude!" even if it 's just something like bringing my favorite food to a potluck. she also constantly reminds me of how ashamed she is and how much i disappoint her. she works at my school too, so sometimes she'll yell at me in the morning and make me go into class late because i looked like i'd been crying and she wants to protect her image. every time i try to speak up for myself i make it worse. plus every time she says something, like, "don't eat that, youll get heavier!," or "you disappoint me," or something as simple as "you're so selfish, don't you ever consider other people?" it sticks. help!

It seems like TV replaces family interactions for some people. I enjoy TV, I enjoy discussing TV with my brother. We enjoy sharing the time together... But, I'm trying to figure out college and important life things...and my step father is wayyy too engrossed into his TV screaming out the distraction as I try to figure out incredibly important details with my mother. I mean, I get it... it's my responsibility as an adult to figure this **** out and we all have our own "time" and "thing" to rewind... But, damn... is a TV show really that damned important? I mean, I'm trying to talk to my family here about something pretty important... Not rewind..."relax" or whatever... I work full time, 3 AM to 1 PM, sorry for the typos...I'm not really awake at this point.

They divorced in 2006 and she hated him until 2016. She softened for a year and a half and for the past year she has hated again. What do I do? Is there rehab for haters?

She tells me what I am allowed to talk about and not allowed to like when I was 12.

Basically we have not taken a vacation in years because grandpa moved in with us and the 3 of us have had to become caregivers and it's a drain. Every day it's change the pee bag take him to doctors appointments help with breathing treatments because he has copd from years of smoking. It's my moms dad and she brought this on years ago and my dad was never on board with it and even threatened divorce over the matter. He eventually came around because he figured it would be 4 years or less we would be taking care of him. The costs are also starting to get out of control with home nursing care Medicare don't cover and so on. We have not taken a vacation in 2 years because we have this ball and chain known as caregiving going on. Every time I suggest hey mom lets go on vacation grandpa can pay for his home healthcare for the week because he has social security she just gets mad and says no I have to take care of him. I am fed up with changing the pee bag I am 17 and someone my age should not be having to deal with this and believe me is just nasty. Dad is at his breaking point saying I want a vacation because it's been years and such a drain on him with all this. My aunt lives across the country in Vermont I live in rural Montana. We tried family counseling and the person said you can put him in a nursing home but my mom fears he will die if that happens and he will lose his will. Also someone must be home to sign for the oxygen that gets delivered some state law

My two teenage boys fight a lot but yesterday they had a huge fist fight in the house then I broke it up (I'm mom and a lot shorter!) I was preparing Easter dinner for a lot of people so I couldn't stay and monitor . They began to fight again ( they egg each other on) this time inebrither picked the other one up and through him against the corner of the table. I bought he broke his back! They wouldn't stop even though I said I'm calling cops, do I called as they were choking each other! NOW MY 15 YEAR OLD WINT TALK TO ME. I'm sad .. I feel I ruined his trust in me but someone was going to be seriously injured. WAS I WRONG??

My grandpa could not live by himself anymore so he moved in with my dad mom and me and he has a whole lot of health issues copd lung issues from years of smoking cigars/cigarettes . We have not taken a vacation in years because we are stuck watching him he also won't pay for home healthcare and my aunt won't come from out of state to watch him for a week. It takes some learning how to change the pee bags and bathe him and my aunt wants nothing to do with this she is a lawyer and lives out of state . I want to go on vacation with my mom and dad and they agree we all need a break but we are all Stuck changing pee bags and dealing with his health issues/ doctors he has doctors appointments 3/4 days a week. Mom says shut up and deal with it because it's just part of caregiving and he won't live forever my dad and I want to take a vacation as does my mom but we can't get anyone to watch him or he will have a health crisis and we will have to cut a vacation short my mom predicts maybe within the next 3 years we might be able to go on a vacation depending on how his health goes. He is on oxogen and someone has to be at the house over the age of 19 some law when the tanks get delivered and help take them inside. What should we do it's a big hassle at times and the 3 of us have put our lives on hold and just need a break.