People make fun of my nose cause it's so big so I want to get it reduced. But parents wont let me. What should I do?????

Im a girl btw. This happened when I was really little, maybe 5 or 6. My dad works for himself & had his own office, he used to watch me & my sister all the time, while my mom was working. One time my grandpa (dads side) came over to visit. My dad was sitting behind his desk & my grandpa in the chair across from him in front of the desk. My grandpa told me to come sit on his lap, so I did. My grandpa put his hand up my shirt, and started rubbing my tummy and playing with my belly button, I was getting nervous & wanted down but they were talking forever. Then he slowly went up and started touching my nipples. He was just playing with them and rubbing them the whole time while talking to my dad. I was pretty sure that what he was doing was wrong but was too afraid to say anything. I kept hoping that my dad would say something, and save me but he never did. They just carried on talking. I mean my dad was looking straight at us. It was so uncomfortable. It always really bothered me that my dad never helped me and told him to stop. I wondered if my dad even noticed, which I think it would be hard not to notice, but he does sometimes not pay attention very well. What do you guys think? Do you think my dad noticed? And if so why didn't he say anything? Was my grandpa being perverted, or is that something normal since little children aren't considered sexual yet? I have never told anyone about it because I have always been so embarrassed and ashamed, this has bothered me forever Also if this has any relevance, I don't remember anything like that happening again, but my grandpa has always tried kissing me and my sister on the lips when greeting us, ever since we were little (no one else in our family would do anything like that) and when we got older, in our teens he would kiss us then grab us just unger our boobs on our sides/rib cages and firmly hold us while he talked to us.

I am about to foster a 13 year old boy. He has his own room, new bed (complete), tv, closet, drawers, posters, flag of his favorite team, and a lava lamp. What else can I get him or do to make sure that he feels at home, or am I overdoing it? Thank you.

My mother favors the youngest in our family because he's the "trophy" son of the bunch and when we call her out and she denies it when there's too many instances of her showing it (stops talking to me mid conversation instantly whenever he's around, let's him out more, always excuses his bad behavior but never with someone else, constantly calls him and is with him more, he's always the topic in family reunions, never does me favors but will for him, etc etc etc..) and i know for a fact it's because he's better than me and my other brother. How do i deal with this? it's messing with me mentally and honestly i'm tired of it and having to fake that this is normal.

I wronged my father terribly. It was the principle. I know it was wrong and bad and I completely acknowledge this. What I didn't expect him to do was to tell ALL of his other kids (they are full brothers) who obviously sided with my father and have unified against me. I never expected his kids to be anything beyond cordial with me. But the true and ultimate betrayal and the one that burns a hole in my soul is my father's attitude and unforgivingly pinning his children vs me. Why did he do this? And his other kids... my God, just endlessly kissing his *** and feeling like champions right now. Why would my father do this to me?

Im sick of cleaning up her hoarding from generations of people. I feel like a dang pizza is not too mich to ask. I can't afford to get my own pizza but I've helped her be less of a slob and try to look presentable.

I love her and she does a lot for me, but isn't perfect or has the same standards. I had an appointment and she promised to help pay She slept in. Got high, and I had to cancel. I felt like packing my bags and breaking up. She also did not get my pizza I wanted for lunch. I do a lot for her and didnt think this was much to ask. Why do I feel like breaking up over something like this? I feel like I've already lowered my standards being here in this dump as it is. She's embarassing to be seen with in public. She doesn't try to look young anymore. I need to add that she does a lot for me, but it's not when I want and it makes me feel helpless as a man because I cannot always go do things myself. I feel like things could be better and I could easily run off with some one younger and compatible with me. But I don't want to cheat or give up on us. Do I need to be more patient in life? I re-scheduled my appointment when I get paid. I told her I am sorry I expected to much and she started crying. A lot of people assumed Im some jerk who is the bad guy. Shes a hoarder and im sick of it and cleaning up

Long story short me & my cousin who I'm super close to havnt been talking bc she continuously gets back with this stupid boy that me & everyone in the family can't stand. I was honest about my worries for her & how she needs to be careful & she completely stopped talking to me. Which upset me bc i thought we had a better connection to be open to the other. She's said things about my bf but i let it go bc i know she's just looking out for me. I even said it's her life but i just want her to know it's getting old & she needs to stop making red flags green as i say. Idc that they're together as i said it's her life & i want the best but i cant stand him & he thinks he's slick bc he's my cousins first boyfriend so he gets away with a lot & is sooo shady. & my cousin also tries to bring my relationship down since no one likes her boyfriend. So now easter is coming & im dreading going bc i don't want to hear about him or see him if he comes bc she's basxially bragging about a boy that couldn't care less about her. I know this is my personal issue i just need tips on how to be happy & not let her bring me down. She likes to do this thing where she tries to one up me too & constantly will talk about her boyfriend to try to get my family to like him. I just don't feel like dealing with it but i want to go be with my family.

I should add that my cousin has no clue about this.

My aunt launched the war in 2013 but my parents retaliated the following year and tried to drag me into it.

I consented and was 12 to 15 so not a real little kid. I feel so guilty for doing this. He went to jail and I have not spoken to him since. He apologized at sentencing as it turned out he did it to many other kids and so I feel guilty for not having forgiven him. He remains in jail 12 years later. The molestation was when I was 12 to 15. I also feel responsible for not confessing sooner since other kids were hurt by him. He is in jail until 2048 at the earliest and I have no plans to see him

I am currently 24 years old and I no longer feel like I have a real family or "roots". I don't have a father, which is not a problem, as he left us when I was 3 and I don't remember him, hence don't miss him. I was raised by my mom and my grandparents (on my mother's side), therefore I feel my grandmother and grandfather as sort of like parents as well, but my mom is very jealous of this. About 6 years ago, my mom started dating a guy and now she is trying to change things as if his parents are also my grandparents. We spent Christmas with them, I only got to see my actual grandparents for like 2 hours and I know things are not going to get better. I no longer want to go home. (please note I moved out when I was 18). I am now living with my boyfriend, we will probably get married in a year or two. He doesn't really approve what's happening in my family as well, but it's not his issue to deal with. When I come home, I have to travel back and forth - to my mom's new place, then to see my boyfriend's parents, hopefully my grandparents as well, but in reality I feel exhausted and very sad after such trips. I no longer have anyone. My grandparents slowly started to drift away and it's not my fault. My mom doesn't support me financially for many years now, which is ok, but I had to work through my uni years whereas she spent a lot of money with her boyfriend. So many things are ahead and I have 0 support. I will have to buy a home, have a kid and there is no help...

Hy guys, I am 27 years old and my cousin sister is married to this guy, 44 years old. Sometimes he can be real nice but sometimes he treats me like a piece of sh**. He's become very successful, now runs an IT company. I am a computer science teacher but I also study part time. I am not making a whole lot of money and he feels that I am not working hard enough.. Says things like "your worthless job". This other time he harangued me in front of my cousin sister calling me a loser and he said "I can make your entire salary in less than a day". I feel angry but sad at the same time I dont know what to do. Are rich people always this cruel In my culture cousins are regarded as sisters/brothers, so their spouse is regarded as a brother in law or sister in law. I dont understand..I've noticed a similar pattern of behavior amongst many successful people the condescension. Why are many successful people that way? Like if you don't have a car or a house or are not making money they think you're not working hard enough or not as intelligent as they are

I have this deep burning fury over my fiances sister. She just thinks shes better than everyone. Just how she looks at people. Apparently she is anxious but i dont care. I went on a 4 hour rant about her. And her partner and child. All she is good for is having kids and spreading her legs. I said the meanest things and it was all triggered by a photo on facebook. I blocked her and her partner. I dont understand why im acting this way. I suffer with BPD. How can i make it stop

She's been a substitute teacher for 3 years. She needs to have a real job with benefits. She graduated college 6 months ago with a bachelors in communications. I feel like she's just stuck. My 18 year old son is making more money than her and that's just ridiculous. Substitute teaching is not a job that was meant to live on. In fact she can hardly live on it making less than $1,000 a month. After she pays a portion of her student loans and her groceries she has little money left over.and yes subs really do make that low in our area. Subs get pancakes a $58 a day in our City. After she graduated she applied for a marketing job and couldn't even get through the training and got fired before she even really started. They said she had a hard time remembering things

So, a couple of years ago my dad went on a milk run. He has yet to come back, and I m honestly hoping the milk isn t spoiled. Also worried about my dad.

Before I go on, let me remind you that my sister was NOT the cliché deadbeat, alcohol, negligent parent on television and movies, as she was in his life 24-7. He is 30 years old and the only child, and his father went AWOL before he was born. Therefore, she raised him all by herself, which I think drove her to drink, as she felt deprived of companionship and stressed over the lack of help raising her son. This was especially a burden on her since he had a learning disability. So when she got home from work, her job wasn't over, because of helping him with his homework. Sometimes it got to the point where she yelled at him during the homework, particularly math, as she got edgy when he couldn't grasp an equation or something. Basically my sister was a ticking time bomb with him. So sometimes I feel that her constant yelling is what made him so disrespectful to her. She spoiled him, and could definitely afford to do so, since she made good money. And as a result, my nephew is the black sheep of the family, as I am the only one who knows that she drank a lot and made him cry with her yelling at the top of her lungs to the point of our neighbors hearing her, including me who lived downstairs from them. Of course, since everyone in our family is none the wiser, my nephew is perceived as a spoiled brat who doesn't appreciate his mother, even though he has his own place and a job. Fortunately, he matured, but he still gets snippy with her every now and then. Since he still gets snippy with his mother sometimes, our family and friends look at him like he's Hitler, as if he's the worse son in the world. But he DOESN'T curse at her, raise his voice, hit her, or steal from her. But because he's the only child who always got what he wanted, everyone seems to resent him just for not being 100% a good son, which is impossible.

She has a baby with my son and she never wants me coming over to the house when my sons at work and it's just her and the baby. I've now learnt that she says she doesn't feel comfortable around me. I used to be an alcoholic and almost died due to excessive drinking so I now have trouble speaking due to several operations and being diagnosed with acute pancreatitis. I still drink from time to time but never like how I used to. She's said to my son she can't understand anything I say and feels uncomfortable and awkward and like we can't connect and bond at all. This makes me sad and it's stopping me from spending time with my daughter too as she only feels comfortable with me coming over when my sons there too. She doesn't agree with my drinking either and never wants her daughter at my house alone with me and my partner. I feel like she just hates me, I want to be a grandmother.

I love and miss my mom and siblings

OK, my brother and I still live at home. He is 23 and I am 21. He is kind of obviously gay but nobody has ever broached the subject. He is very effeminate and our Dad often is kind of mean to him by calling him 'Princess' or 'Cupcake'. Mom is in total denial and keeps trying to set him up with girls she meets at work or in her social scene. So Sunday was Dad's birthday, and my brother volunteered to cook Dad's favorite meal: Meat Loaf. He wouldn't allow anyone into the kitchen while he cooked and when it was ready he brought it out in a covered dish and put it in front of Dad. He had shaped the meatloaf to look like a giant penis with white cream gravy coming out of the tip. Dad took one look at it and picked up the whole dish and threw it in the trash. Mom just cried, my brother went to his boyfriend's and I went to Arby's for dinner. I called my brother later and told him that was just about the most immature and stupid thing I ever saw. Mom and Dad have not spoken to him since and I am staying out of it.

I have Tourettes syndrome but my brother and dad don't believe me. My dad was in the room when I was diagnosed and I was given a medical certificate for school but he still doesn't believe me. I had been watching videos about Tourettes a couple months before my diagnosis and he thinks thats where i "Copied my behaviour". As for my brother, he believes most things my dad does so they're both against me. The rest of my family are completely supportive and just ignore my tics but my dad or brother will mimic me, making me feel even more self conscious about the tics. One major thing that motivates them not believing me is that, i am a female (Tourette's is more common in boys) and nobody else in my family has Tourettes. I'm asking for any help, all supportive answers would be great.

I am trying to convince my parents to go to Coachella with a group of friends next year. We live a couple of hours drive from there and lodging wouldn't be a problem and I would be paying for my own experience. My parents' main concern is that there are a lot of drugs there. They know that I won't do anything, but they still are apprehensive about me being so close to them or smelling them or something weird like that. How can I assure them that everything will be fine and get them to not worry about it? My friend went last year and she said there wasn't even a lot of drugs from what she could tell. I know my parents have my best interest at heart but they are worrying about nothing! It won't bring any danger to me or my friends.

To make a long story short, my life at home isn't great. I would consider mental abuse but maybe I'm wrong (I haven't gotten counseling;I'm working on it). I'm 17 and have a little sister that I don't want to leave alone there. I would like to get a job but I can't because of a social security issue. My family makes life not worth living and I'm trying to find a way out but it seems so hard. My family hasn't taught me how to live on my own (laundry, cooking, paying bills, etc.) so I'm scared to be in my own. Can I get some help just getting a detailed plan for when I'm an adult please?

I have a cousin that's gifted in the family... she's in her mid 70s. Now lately I been thinking/stressing ALOT for the future, just how things would go if me & a guy I was talking to get back together, where I'll be in life, where will I be moving too, also worry (sometimes) about my mom having another child. She's 44 & she does not want anymore but I been having dreams about it. I guess it's just a fear because me & my mom are like sisters & growing up it was just me & her taking care of two little ones (my sisters) my dad was/still works we never see him, me & my mom went through hell & back. Now their 10 & 8, right now I been mainly worry about what's going to happened with this relationship with this guy if he comes back in my life, if he's good, if he's changed, my health, my future... and very little about my fear of my mom having another child. I had some tarot card readings & they all were basically base on this connection I have with this guy, they told me to stop thinking so much worry about me right now & put your trust into god and the angels and stop overthinking and worrying. Now today I called my cousin and she said I have a lot of anxiety because I been thinking too much & worrying about the future what I can't control. Live everyday day by day worry about today enjoy my family my sisters...she said to help as much as I can with my sisters cause that's all I'll have later and when my parents can't work anymore and I'll have to work for them to be strong.

I wrote my Professor an email today that II cannot come to school and take my exam tomorrow because of this. I want to be with my mom now especially because she got worse and wants me by her side. She cries when looking at me because she knows she's dying. I am ready for the exam and would go take it but I love my mom and I cannot leave her right now especially because she just got worse yesterday. I asked my Professor if I can take a make up exam next week. Do you think he will let me? Is this a legitimate reason to ask a Professor to take a make up exam? Should a Professor allow me in this case?

My gf and I got to discussing and I said that once people have kids I believe their ultimate goal in life is for them, even above their spouse. Taking this to the furherst extent I said if I had to choose her life or one of our child's it would be the latter. She says she would save me before them. I said that if parents aren't willing to do anything to protect their child then they shouldn't have them. She now feels like I don't want to be with her or have a family with her anymore (something we've discussed and dreamt about for a long time). I do still want to though, but I am a bit disturbed that she would choose me over the the kids. I love my girlfriend to death; she is the love of my life. She works at a daycare and wants to dedicate her life to childcare and own her own daycare one day. I think she would make a great mother but is the fact that she wouldn't sacrifice me for them as bad as I think it is?

My parents both suffer from mental illnesses. My mother has chronic depression and my father has chronic depression, anxiety, and PTSD. When I moved away for college, I was ecstatic to finally get out. At home, my parents can be unpredictable in their behavior. I often have problems with my father. He will wake up at 3 in the morning, complain that he hasn't slept in 3 days, and blame this problem on my dogs. (Which he will then hit, which upsets me a whole lot.) If he doesn't go out for a day, he will instantly hit Facebook and complain about how suicidal he is, which will then trigger strangers on Facebook to then call me about my father and why I'm not helping my father. My mother isn't much help when it comes to his fits. She just happily agrees along and will attempt to calm him down. One time, she herself got mad at his fit, and left the house. When I came downstairs my father was calling her saying that, I was going to kill myself if she didn't come back. (Which I never said...) Now, that I'm in college, and finally experienced a happy return to my home (my dorm room), where there are people I can actually talk to and depend on. I realized that I just don't want to go back. I know I won't have much of a choice, I don't have enough money for an apartment, but rather I'm just asking for advice on how to deal with their behavior?

my 26 year old daughter is the only way that cooks in the house. I always eat the food but my 18 year old son and the wife never ever eats it. My son either orders a box of pizza or i'm paying $12-15 a plate for him some healthy food at a restaurant. He says he doesn't like what my daughter cooks and my wife doesn't want him eating pizza everyday. My wife always sticks her nose up at our daughter when she cooks and doesn't really like her being in the kitchen. she's had some type of resentment towards her every since we first birthed her it seems like but I can't seem to understand why. When our daughter was younger she even choked her one time. I think she might have bipolar disorder because in the same day she'll buy our daughter an outfit. I told my wife instead of sticking her nose up at our daughter every time she cooks why doesn't she get a cook book and learn but she refuses. I tried to tell her that cooking at home saves a lot of money. she doesn't care. She makes me buy her either burger king or red lobster there's no in-between with her. I tell my wife I cannot afford a $12 plate everyday so either he eats our daughter's food or she cooks him a meal, but she doesn't do either. Oh and my son will order pizza with his own money if i don't buy it, he's insanely obsessed with piza

So my wife came at me because I was holding down our 1 year old son to stop him squirming around whilst changing his clothes. Both her and her father were angry at me and kept saying I'm cruel to my son! I have never noticed this. She then proceeded to lose control and strike out at me. Her father took our son outside for a walk. Back in the home, she kept yelling at me and started accusing me of sleeping with classmates, prostitutes etc etc because recently I have been flat out with uni and study to the point I've had no time for her. In fact, she works even longer hours than I do and we become like ships in the night. I get bogged down with the stress of work and uni. I enjoy doing night shift and sticking to a routine of work, sleep, study. It gives me more time for myself. The only downside is not spending enough time with my son. Even though I'm her husband, I am always made to feel like I'm some sort of low-life cheating and horrible father. I'm none of the above. I work hard to provide for the family, care a lot about my son (even take him to his appointments and spend time after work with him) and study to get a better job. I'm sick of the hard life. Yelled at, manipulated, put down, manipulative boss and wife. Fed up with all of it. I can see why some men go and drink or want to get away so much. What hurts the most is being accused of cheating and being a bad father. You know what I'm guilty of doing? Working night shift, studying and attending classes 12 hrs per week, spending time with my son and enjoying watching travel videos, pllaying the ocassional mobile game and watching my favourite Star Trek Discovery episodes. Just to clarify: that's 12 hrs study classes, extra time for study and working 40+hrs per week full time work. When I come home, I help to care for our son, wash clothes, empty dishwasher, make phone calls to get things fixed in the home (if I can't fix them myself), wash my son's bottles and get them sterilised etc.

My fiancé and I have been living together going on 2 years now. He makes more money than I do, but works a job he hates. I love my job, and although I don't make as much, I pay my share in everything (rent, groceries, etc). Despite this, he is constantly pressuring me to find a job where I make more money. Anyway, he's also been pressuring me to start working out as it's not exactly my favourite thing to do. I'm naturally slim, and work a job that involves lots of running around (I'm a therapist for Autistic children), so I'm naturally tired after work. But I finally gave in and agreed we'd go get our gym memberships together, as he constantly commented on how jealous he was seeing other couples and men with their gf at the gym who were fit. So anyway, we go and the membership is more expensive than he'd expected (he offered to pay it) and made another sly comment about how I should get another job. This seriously annoyed me because he was the one pestering me about getting the membership, and here we are doing it and he's still complaining. When he saw I was displeased, he waited until we left and exploded at me on the street...screaming at the top of his lungs about how I don't understand his financial stress, how I'm a b*tch, and literally shouting as loud as he can while people are passing by staring. I was humiliated. When we got home, he broke our window with his hand because he was still angry. He said he's going to see a psychologist for anger management. I don't know if I should stay with him and get help, or just pack my bags and leave. I'd really appreciate any advice!

Seeing friends is not the same. I hate family holidays. Yet I cannot be around them because of my Dad now and my Mom when I was young. Parents cause the worst traumas of all.

My name is Syd. I'm 65 years old. I'm a gp. My eldest son died 15 years ago in Iraq. Last week I was busy,most years I pause and reflect about him on those dates. Death date,his birthday,Memorial day. For some reason the day of the anniversary of his death I was busy and I didn't think about it. Right before writing this I saw the picture I have in front of me in his dress blues and all I could think was "sorry son". I'm sorry that I forgot. Truth is that I miss him everyday but I went on with my life,with my job. I will forever miss him,his smile,his laughter. I feel like I'm a bad person because I forgot that it has been exactly 15 years since I heard his voice,I wish I had recorded his voice. I feel bad because I don't remember well the voice of my own kid. I love my job. I love my family. I've got 2 other kids now 29 and 26, but I will never be the same without him.Yet I forgot about the 15h. What should I do to feel better? You may be surprised but sometimes physicians need advices too. choko_canyon : have you not considered the fact that I don't want my family members that I feel bad about it. Plus,people ask for advices to strangers on this site daily,that's why it was made in the first place. Plus the fact that you're also on this site tells me that you too ask for advices sometimes

I'm 14, and we're only allowed to hang out at school. I don't see or talk to them outside of school at all, because my mom won't let me. However, she has no problem letting me go somewhere with friends who are being raised by their own parents. In fact, she encourages me to spend more time with people who come from good families. But wants me to distance myself away from those two specific kids. I've talked to my other friends, and a few of them said their parents feel uncomfortable about those specific kids too. They don't want their kids to be around them so much.

I babysit their daughter every weekend. The kid showed me that she has Instagram and Snapchat on her iPad (a teenage family friend helped her download them). I'm just worried that her parents might be completely unaware that their kid is on rated 13+ sites. Very possible that she's signing up for social media platforms without parental permission. Cyberbullying exists, and there are pedophiles and trolls out there too. Most younger teens don't have the maturity to handle that, let alone a child who is 8 years old. If her parents are okay with her signing up for this, I'll leave them alone and not butt in, since I cannot make the rules for her.

I love my dad, I really do, he is probably the best dad he could possibly be. But sometimes I get aggravated when he tells me to study even when I don't have a test. And the part that confuses me is that he wants me to finish my homework early so I can get more free time such as working out, playing basketball, etc. But most of the time when I finish my homework early (which is not usual) he always wants me to revise something when it's not necessary. How can I talk to him in a calm manner?. Also I ask some students who get good grades on their report card if they study hard, most of them say no. So how can I study less when still getting good grades? My dad always wants me to study