It's pretty complicated but basically I have a best friend, lets call him Ted, and he and I have a strange friendship (we've kissed a few times, sometimes we're fwb), I recently developed feelings for him but it only lasted a few days. He's completely in love with my other best friend but she has rejected him a lot of times. And the other day we had a party and I drunkenly kissed his best friend (lets cal him Max). When Ted found out I kissed his best friend he got VERY hurt and mad at us. I know it was wrong and i have apologised (but we're still not talking) but I don't understand why he would be so mad and Max and me. When I talked to him that night he said that when I confessed about my crush he started having feelings for me and I had no clue about this at all, so I understand why he would be hurt, but not mad to the point where I think I may have ruined their friendship. I feel like ****, so if anyone could just explain I would be very grateful. I don't know what to do

I'm not in a relationship with this guy. But he and I had sex and I enjoyed it. I would like to do it again. Is there a chance that he might do it again?

Im devestated. She's supposed to be one of my best friends. She was the one i had asked for advice on if i should run or not. She also knew that ihave social anxiety and cant do public speaking (if no one ran against me i wouldnt need to present a speech (yes i know that shouldnt stop her from running)) so i'm really upset about it and i feel like crying but i also wanna go out there and be like yes i can do it and campaign myself and public speak but i dont know!! Please give kind advice im so upset

She is having a very simple wedding outside at a park. For me to get there it would probably cost me $700 with flights, hotel, rental car, etc. I m sorry to say this but it s really not worth it for me. What is an acceptable amount to give as a wedding gift if you are not attending. She has been my good friend for almost 20 years. But not someone I necessarily talk to daily or even monthly. A friend who I don t need to always be in communication with to be good friends. Hope that makes sense.

My bestfriend just got a boyfriend (I put them together) and ever since they started dating all she does is talk about him and every time I try to tell her something she doesn't acknowledge me and straight up ignores me so I had confronted the situation because I really want to stay best friends and I didn't want it to go to far and us just fall apart. But then there was still no change and I would keep putting in effort to talk to her but she wouldn't do the same for me so I took her off my Apple Music and that's what made her realize there was something wrong. So she had texted me acting like a straight up ***** coming at me sideways and she keeps tryna make it seem like it was my fault, is it ? She's literally my only friend

Guys, if a young woman is constantly finding reasons to private message you and when you don't reply for a while (like a day or two...not an hour or anything crazy) sometimes, she sends you a "thumbs up" to get your attention, would you assume she has feelings for you? I'm happily engaged and my friend is happily married, but that's the kind of behavior I display towards him. I worry he is going to think I have feelings for him. I've just always been "high maintenance", no matter who you are. Of course, my fiance gets the worst of it, but still lol. Also, I only tend to send the "thumbs up" when I've asked him a question, not when I've stated something. When I ask a question, of course I'm going to expect an answer back at some point, but he's really busy and sometimes he forgets to reply.

She's changed a lot recently and she gets angry out of nowhere like something is upsetting her when I was asking her today how her day was she told me but I couldn't really understand her. So I asked her to repeat it and she said "GOOD OKAY?!" She was mad for no reason when I go out with her she looks so tired with eye bags and whenever she talks it just sounds like she only has slept for 3 hours she sounds extremely exhausted not only that but I remember one time me and my other 3 friends were having a sleep over my friends slept at 12:23 and my "depressed friend" I'll call her woke up really early at 7:00 without a alarm. It's really weird because me and my other friends including her slept late and we woke up at 12:00 but for some reason she didn't have any alarm to wake her up and I heard this can be anxiety if you sleep late and you wake up early without a alarm waking you up. She also tells me " I have nothing to do with my life" and "what is the meaning of life? Why do we have to live" can someone please tell me what if going on with her?

I'm not in a relationship with this guy. But he and I had sex and I enjoyed it. I would like to do it again. Is there a chance that he might do it again? Well friends with benefits have sex more than once.

especially if SUPPOSEDLY you've been friends since childhood

After I befriended this guy at school who is now one of my best friends(I'm a girl btw), I quickly realized that I was his only friend who didn't know about his girlfriend at all; my best friend and I are both social butterflies and all of his other friends know about his girlfriend. I found out by overhearing his conversations with others by seeing him and his girlfriend in the hallways at school. I was kind of confused as to why my best friend didn't tell me about something that seemed so important. Still, I decided that it would be better to befriend my best friend's girlfriend and I was friendly towards her. However, after a few days after my first direct encounter with her, I noticed that my friend's girlfriend ignores me. She never starts a conversation with me, and even if I do she always gives short indifferent responses. When I first found out, I thought that my best friend deserves someone better since I didn't find his girlfriend that attractive or special; I also thought of setting my best friend up with some of my female friends if both people wanted. I also noticed that my best friend doesn't seem to be that into his girlfriend, while his girlfriend is OBSESSED with him. Should I tell my best friend about his girlfriend's rudeness towards me and encourage him to break up with her and get with another girl, or should I stay out of it?

I have friend who always says I'm not one of her good friends, even though we are together all the time. When I ask why, she says it's because she's known her other friends longer. It's not that that bothers me, it's just the overall fact that she doesn't put as much effort into the friendship as I do. For example, I call her on her birthday, she doesn't even call me. I know that's so small, that's why I'm using it as an example. She makes literally zero effort. She calls me at 3AM complaining about her bf, and I can't even talk to her about anything without her saying "I don't want to hear about it." I'm not sure if I should start doing the same and just let the friendship fizzle out? Or should I say something to her about her attitude towards me? Thoughts?

I moved out the state from New Jersey to Arizona for about 16 years now I do photography for my hobby and also i go on road trip where we go camping and desert racing that i had did in past with my new group of friends anyways since i live off Benefit with learning disabilities so kinda hard for me to find a job that can take it anyways I lost contact with everyone that i grew up with and all i had of 3 friends before i moved that who i thought was my friends anyways I had moved to facebook from Myspace days so facebook came along & 3 years go by my old friend Erica have been mean since day i have moved i dont know it jealousy or not so i hard her parents got divorce so they had moved out the town in same state so i said i am sorry you have to go through that so then we pick up fight for quite few times so then i see her and Micheal that i knew for about year in middle school and have broke up so Micheal and I been close friend so he told me that i am his close friend then Micheal have told me that he have slap Erica and then Micheal have told me he been thinking of her and chatting for a while once then she picked up fight with him again you own me money or i tell my mom and police so he told me this stuff and mean time he finally told me that I been annoying to her anyways i tried many different ways and i just send her a last apologize so she can have one more time to say sorry too but she wont admit either so then i deleted my account but i went back to it look like she blocked my message

I have a friend who I met during my first year of university (last year) & we are both from out of town, and now live in an apartment together presumably until graduation. She's my best friend here, and one of my best friends in general. Over the last few weeks, I've noticed she is being increasingly curt/rude to me & I can honestly say I've done nothing to her. She always says she's just socially "awkward" and is rude when she doesn't realize, but I don't know if I can take the put downs/insults and completely unwarranted rudeness for much longer. So, recently I've been pulling back a bit, texting her much less, hanging out with her in general a lot less. I feel like I value her as a friend way more than she does me, and it's kind of exhausting being friends with her. But I feel bad because it's not like me to do this, i don't know if maybe I'm being too sensitive? What do you think? Serious advice only please & thanks!

They make fun of me a lot but they let me hang out with them. I don't like it that much, but at least I have someone to hang with. We were at one of the cool guys' dad's new condo last night and we went to the weight room to check it out. There was a bar with 100 pounds of weights on it. None of the other cool guys even tried to lift it, but they dared me to and I lifted it over my head. The other guys STILL would not try. Was this significant? Will my status rise because I am stronger than these cool guys?

I'm not in a relationship with this guy. But he and I had sex and I enjoyed it. I would like to do it again. Is there a chance that he might do it again?

Hello everybody... I ate 4 baked potatoes just now, and now we are all out. My roomate has been telling me I need to be less careless about potatoes, and I don't think it's so much an issue of supply as it is potatoes. I think maybe I can lie and say that they went bad, and I know it's bad to lie but idk. What would you choose? Friendship or honesty? :/

Long story short, my roommate and I got into an argument Saturday morning, and we both went our separate ways to cool down. I came back to our dorm around 10pm, (our argument happened around 2pm) and my roommate and I were talking about what was said earlier; we weren't yelling, just talking. A few minutes later, the police come to our dorm asking if my roommate is ok. Apparently, my roommate was texting her friends while she and I were having a discussion about our argument, and what she said, led her friends to call the cops. Anyway, I asked her twice why the cops were called, she told me something different each time, then I asked her again, and she said that she was upset and exaggerated what had happened. I know I already asked this question but there is legal action that is taking place, and I don't know if my roommate is unstable or if her and her friends were trying to frame me? *This isn't the full story**

I don't know where to start, because this is a very long situation. Anyway, my roommate and I got into an argument over small things that we each let build up, and hours after our argument, she had her friends call the cops on me. Over the span of 3 days, I kept asking her why she had her friends call the cops on me, and she kept telling me different reasons each time. So on the third day, I decided to record her, and she said that she exaggerated what had happened, which led to her friends calling the cops. Another issue occurred after the police incident, and I contacted the director of housing at my university (multiple times), asking to move into a vacant room (there are 4 rooms in our apartment, but my roommate and I share a room, and there's one empty room across the hall) and he told me no because the reason was insignificant. That was 3 months ago, so fast forward to now, my roommate expressed the same feelings as I did (saying that she feels uncomfortable in the same room as me) and the director of housing is taking immediate action. I feel like this isn't fair, because I said the exact same words to the director about my roommate, and they ignored me, but when my roommate says something, they take action? She's white and I am black

Ok so my friend is really nice but also really oblivious to what she says. She makes jokes about people and cultures that are more offensive than funny. She also is very sensitive to jokes too. How do I tell her to stop or how do I make her more aware of her impact on people??

so I have about 3 weeks left of my freshman year of college. I really do like my school, But this year has been the worst year of my life. looking back on it I came into college with very high expectations which I now realize was my own mistake. I have barely made any friends that I feel are genuine, everyday I have missed my friends back home and my family so much. It seems whenever I have come back from a weekend home or a break of some type I am counting down the days until I get to go home again and I don t want to live that way for the rest of my college! I do have some genuine friends here but they don t compare to my friends back home. And being away from my friends and family has just caused my a lot of loneliness this year. At least in the past, no matter how bad things got, I was NEVER lonely. This year that s all I have been. I have cried more this year than I ever have in my life. Now I know I am going to be told to join clubs and I am in 1 currently and joining 2 more next year! I just feel like most people already have established friend groups and aren t looking to add someone like myself. It doesn t help my roommate is one of my good friends from high school, who joined a club that he loved and hangs out with people from there a lot, while I still have few new friends. I guess my question is how do I make the next three years of college not as awful? Please tell me if this is normal and give me ways to combat this horrible start i ve had to college!Thank you.

I hear a lot of them are killers, but some of them are cool and can be your friend??? Which one is it??

I've had several do this. Usually I think it's something I did but then they usually tell me that Im such a good friend and they're lucky to have me. By b****y I mean making demeaning remarks, talking to me with an attitude. It's also hurtful because with several these people I've often seen them talk nicer to people they don't see as often

There is another girl at my school and we are becoming friends, new friends. I like her as a person, and I'm curious about her. I am more attracted to her than my other friends (platonically). Since I'm not close to her yet, why am I interested in her like this?

Guys, if a young woman is constantly finding reasons to private message you and when you don't reply for a while (like a day or two...not an hour or anything crazy) sometimes, she sends you a "thumbs up" to get your attention, would you assume she has feelings for you? I'm happily engaged and my friend is happily married, but that's the kind of behavior I display towards him. I worry he is going to think I have feelings for him. I've just always been "high maintenance", no matter who you are. Of course, my fiance gets the worst of it, but still lol. Also, I only tend to send the "thumbs up" when I've asked him a question, not when I've stated something. When I ask a question, of course I'm going to expect an answer back at some point, but he's really busy and sometimes he forgets to reply.

we were eating one day and I got some really bad news ( grandpa and mom both in hospital, grandpa on death bed) and some other personal problems with some friends as well. It bothered me a lot. When it was time to go home, she told me she would give me a ride.( i don't drive atm, and walk 8 miles everyday to get to work and gym )but I had a lot on my mind and didn't want her to worry about it. I said I didn't need a ride.she said no. I tried to not get a ride but she insisted on taking me to gym, since I said I think I wanna workout . When we got there I thought about it for a minute and walked home anyway. She was still there and saw and called me a liar.jI asked if we can talk about it she said nah, and ignored me for a week. When she got back she said I'm no longer a priority, nothing was the same. I tried to be a better friend to not lose her. Maybe I went to far. We hung out one night and she would always let me know when she got home whether she told me or not. This night she told me and didn't let me kno and I blew up her phone. She got mad ignored me for two weeks. When she got back to me asked me for a favor. She wanted me to help her, by putting a loan in my name for a cosmetic surgery for 8k. I agreed at first not knowing all the details. But she never asked how I'm doing and often times before ignoring me she'd say she doesn't care how I feel or what I think. It ended with me saying she's taking advantage of me and her blocking me and calling me weirdo.

I'm a girl and I've been friends with this girl for a year. We get on really well, except I feel frustrated because she is copying everything I do, my hobbies, my interests, my pictures I post, even my dating life. She messaged me after I took up dance and asked me if she could join classes with me. I naturally said yes and since then we have been going to class together. I took photos of myself dancing in a studio and uploaded them and then she messaged me asking how I got my photos done and she wants me to take photos of her dancing now. Then the next time we went dancing together, she wanted me to take photos of her dancing in exactly the same way I took mine. She kept saying to me 'how did you manage to get your legs so high in yours?' Then after I took them, she accused me of not taking them right and taking too few of her I don't get it, why does she keep copying me? It's frustrating because I feel like she's stealing my ideas all the time and I don't have my own identity..

I recently went on a solo trip to a very far and foreign country by myself and while i was there, i found myself to be completely content and happy. I didn't speak the language but i didn't care and I found myself not missing my friends or family. Now that I'm back, I find myself wishing I could stay - not because it was a holiday, but because i was away from everyone i knew. I barely talked to my parents save for one phone call on the second day with my mother and I didn't text or call my friends. I feel horrible because i know i should have missed them, or feel glad to be back but being away made me realise how much i dislike where i live and how i don't want the people i have in my life to be in it anymore. I've always been disconnected from my family due to many reasons that I cannot say and i was quite happy being without friends and being by myself. Am I bad person for not missing my friends or family? am i just experience post holiday blues?

I found an old friend/acquaintance I used to enjoy talking to nearly daily in high school, but lost contact with after high school, on Instagram. They have no other social media and no photos on their Instagram, so I'm not even sure they really use it. They also have no mutual followers or people we would both know. We weren't best friends or anything, but got along well and talked to each other a lot. I'd like to try to say hi, but don't want to be weird or creepy, especially since we are of the opposite sexes (I'm a girl and he's a guy). Is there a way to not be awkward about it, or am I just overthinking it? How would you feel if you received a message from an old friend on social media after nearly 10 years?

It sounds dumb, I know, but I lack social skills. I'm very awkward and sometimes my insecurities get the best of me. For instance, sometimes I feel like I don't have friends because people don't think I'm pretty or thin enough. Anyway, I hang out in one of the offices quite a bit, and several people from one organization all hang out there too, but eventually they leave and it's the same three (other) people in there. I think they're so cool and funny. I'd love to be friends with them, but the only thing is they all know each other well so it's awkward. Also, they're all guys and I think of them is really cute. And all they do in there is watch game shows...soo idk what to do.

So I've been in college for about 2 years now and I met this guy (we'll call him friend A) and we've become really close. He's told be I'm his best friend and he loves me a couple times and tbh he's my best friend as well I'd take a bullet for the man and he's even told me he'd do the same. The problem is I have this other close friend who I've known for around 15 years now. For most of that time I thought I was his best friend (we'll call him B) but it turned out to be someone else in our group. He also did something else which genuinely hurt me but don't think he took it seriously. We gradually grew closer again. Now recently the other guys in our group let friend B down quite badly including the guy friend B used to consider as his best friend. He was telling me how crap he feels and stuff and it just reminds me of how crap they used to make me feel. I want to tell him but I know he's going through a tough time (and also he's not managing studying away from home). He was telling me that I'm his only true friend left etc. even though tbh I would like to distance myself from him because it hurt so bad finding out your friends u know for over 10 years don't like you much. The problem is that I know these two guys won't get along, they're just too different and I know wouldn't like each other. Tbh friend A is what I always wanted a true bro, Friend B knows almost everything about me, I even know a lot of his family etc but I don't like becoming his best friend by default Friend A said I must give a speech at his wedding in future. It just got me thinking what do I do for mine. I would love Friend A to be my best man but literally everyone else will be expecting me to chase friend A. I'm not getting married anytime soon but stuff like this still bugs me, what can I do?

Soo I'm 23 years old and there is a woman at work who I've had a crush on for a few months. she's 35 married with kids, and I find her very attractive and beautiful. She obviously knows i really like her, and from what I heard is that she's very stuck up. but she's always been so nice to me and she helps me out a lot at work. I noticed that she always stares at me from far away and she begins to blush when I talk to her.. when im around her she begins to smile and laugh sooooo much. Could she find me attractive???? even when we talk....I feel a connection

So I became friends with this dude two years ago and ever since he's been the biggest stressor in my life. I didn't really notice at first because I have a martyr complex and want to be there for everyone, but it's gotten to the point where I realized he was the only thing keeping me from being happy. Here is a list of things we've gotten into arguments about: - whether my opinion on my sexuality is valid (he says I'm not straight because I stopped having a crush on a guy who turned out to be gross) - he was gay but then fell in love with our girl friend once she got a boyfriend. He told me I wasn't being supportive enough of his feelings when I told him he needed to move on to preserve their friendship - he told my friend that I didn't like her boyfriend so he would look like the better friend - he told my friends I already had a prom table (untrue) so that he could sit with them instead - my class ranking went up and he got mad at me for being a couple spots higher than him The list goes on and on. He's literally a child. Everyone else in my life I have known much longer than him, but me and him have gotten into more arguments with each other than all my friends collectively. I always thought I was a good person until I became friends with him. My other friends relate, but I seem to get the worst of it. Do I call him out or deal with it until we graduate

I only have one close friend but I wouldn't consider her my "best friend" because I'm not sure they we're on the same page about things. She's 3 years older than me which is odd considering I'm still in high school and she's not... anyways, I really want more friends but I have trouble making friends for multiple reasons. 1, I don't drive so I can't go places on my own to meet people, 2 I'm not friends with anyone in my high school because they're all very basic and not on my maturity level (not to brag). I only really fit in with people older than me(I'm 16 btw) but that's hard because I never get to meet new people. I really want more friends bc I'm hella lonely all the time and I just need ppl to talk to. What should I do?