My husband doesn't wanna be intimate with me but he's video chatting with other girls on Instagram and Snapchat. He doesn't know that I know what he's doing...but I wanna tell him. How can I tell him without exposing that I've been snooping around ? Thank you for taking the time to help me out!

I've had this friend for 2 years. He's 39, married with a family. I'm 28, engaged, no kids. He used to be my boss, but we no longer work together or at the same company anymore. We now go to the same church (he invited me after he left our old job and I've been going ever since.) I wouldn't say we're SUPER close, but in his mind, I think of him and his family as my family and I've told him that. He and his wife have helped me out a lot and I have done special things for them and their kids. My fiance is convinced I have a crush on my friend, although I admitted to having one on him in the past. He's convinced I still do and often refers to my friend as my "boyfriend". Irrelevant, but his son has been in the hospital for a week (nothing too serious, he's getting out soon). My fiance and I went down to visit them and to bring his son a card and to bring the family some food. My fiance was secretly a little bothered by the whole thing because he's under this impression I'd do anything for my friend. My friend recently got a new truck after driving the same little car for years. Keep in mind, he has NEVER come to my work, except for when I first started working there but I was somewhere else in the store and didn't get to see him. Today, he unexpectedly came through my job's drive-thru and although I wasn't working drive-thru, I still saw him and went over to talk to him for a minute. He was in his new truck. My fiance is convinced he wanted to show off his new truck to me. I HAVE noticed that whenever we're alone together, he mentions often how much he makes or how good of an employee he is. Is it weird that he dropped by when he got his new truck, when he NEVER drops by normally? Do you think he was trying to show off? I'll admit I do give him a lot of attention, but it's not intentional.

I'm 31 years old my husband has filed for a divorce. His reasons are that he realizes he just wants to be single and doesn't want to be married ever. He never dated anyone prior to me in his life. We've been together 5 years married for 3. I'm upset but I'm more scared. I'm 31 going on 32 with no kids and I'll be divorced. I've always wanted 2-3 kids and now I'm scared it'll be too late to start all over find someone get married and have children. Any advice? Am I basically never going to be able to have a family? Am I basically going to have to settle for being someone's step mom!?

how old were you when you got divorced?

My wife loves cuddling after sex. Why ?

My husband and I have been married for 46 years. We have 6 children. Last year my husband announced he was planning to retire this year. After he announced his retirement last year he hit the bottle hard. He's never in his life drank alcohol prior since I've known him. In the past year he's gotten 4 DUI's and lost his license. He's retiring and next Friday is his last day of work. He told me 3 weeks ago he wants a divorce and plans to move out by next Friday. He has apparently been talking to a relator behind my back as well as I recently discovered paperwork to put the house up for sale. I'm devastated I have no idea what to do. Any advice? I also heard a rumor about a year ago that he was out in Las Vegas via a friend of mine when he told me he was on a trip for work to Boston! It makes me wonder if there is someone else.

Okay there are nasty horrible women out there who get married and when her husband dies she takes anything she can and never give anything to anyone. Then wonders why his side of the family hates and despises her and are horribly mean and nasty to that *****?! She thinks she is all self rigorous and all defensive when someone calls that nasty ***** out But it was still a really shitty thing to do you amoral legalist. Your probably the kind of person who would do something like that you self righteous sh!t piece Hey you little s#it why don't you give some sh!t back to the grieving family you don't give half a sh!t about you narcissistic little ***** no one will ever love you. Even if you have not done something like that I bet you would and I hope you never find someone to be with. You are a thief at heart and deserve to be in a abusive relationship because that's the kind of person you are. Little &itch your only getting awarded best answer so I can get three points otherwise you can kiss @ss I bet I gave you more in those ten points then anyone has ever gave you now why don't you pay it forward little ***** Oh thanks for the common sense and yea I would have gave you best answer but I am almost to another level and needed those points sorry for not being so patient. I was honestly ready to move on from this question becuase that reply made me so mad and every time I think about it I just want to say something horrible to them. Oh well probably just a troll not to much to be worked up over their account will probably be shut down soon enough. Too bad I can not change the best answer. Janet at least you kind of get it, honestly I do not think everything I have done was justified and if I did something like this I would feel horrible and probably end up giving things to someone. Yea she is probably dumb a smart person would know they did something very wrong and would try and make some grand scheme to hide what they have done or just admit it and know everyone is going to hate them. I would be more satisfied with your post if you did not pull the Trump card. That anonymous person is probably still being lame and not paying it forward what a lame person you really are. Your so lame and boring and a narcissist. I bet you where the kid who either droped out of school or one of those stuck up people in t those higher level classes who makes school their whole child hood and teen years and thought you where so smart even though you just cheated and your parents made a big fuss. You thought yo where so much better and got into society Once you got out of your little university we kicked your sorry a$s to the slums and put you in your place and even your own family probably resents you. Either that or we kicked you there after you moved out of mom and dads house

I hate that I still have feelings for someone who mistreated me.. I actually think I still love him. I feel silly for still loving him. It's been 9 years and I'm still not over that breakup... What are some tips on how to get over it... 😞

I have a female colleague and we get along great...we tease each other and laugh all the time... we talk about a lot of stuff and can tell what we're thinking by just locking eyes during meetings... sometimes I feel like I can trust her with anything... although nothings happened with her and I don't think it will... recently she was talking to me and I guess her hair was in the way so she brushed it to the side... as she did this, I caught myself staring at her and playing with my wedding band...ever since, I've caught myself doing this a few more times...

I admit I cheated. It wasn't that things were hard, but my soon to be ex wife and I had what seemed to be perfect. It took a long time for us to have three kids and get a home together. We both grew up with unstable parents and having a family of our own was a dream we both fell in love with together. It was too good I suppose and I found a way to mess it up. After the affair (it was only a few times) my wife rather than forgive me or separate for a while took a major decision, I came home to some money and a note saying that she no longer wanted our family, she had run off to another state leaving our kids in our hometown along with an application for terminating her parental rights. Her parents were married until her father cheated on her mom with his best friends wife and got her pregnant. She grew up with parents who took their anger out on her, yet claimed they loved her, something she didn't want for her own kids. A part of me feels like she worries about doing the same to our kids because of what I've done. I don't know what to do she won't answer the phone, and her family can't convince her to change her mind. She wrote she doesn't want to raise kids with a man like her father, and that rather than subject them to her hurt would rather start over again.

just so hubby can take a photo of it, he hounds me all the time, wanting to know about my gf, this and that. my gf said she wouldn't mind, if I were cool with it. he promised me it would stop there.

Can you be engaged for more than 15 years? Can it be common law marriage or not?

So I really love my partner and I want to spend the rest of my life with them and we already have a pretty extensive future planned out however since I'm still so young I'm worried people will think its wierd if I get engaged? I dont know if it's ok to actually bring these subjects up with them either, even tho they have made it incredibly clear that they are as committed to this as I am. Even if we get engaged it will be a few years before we get married for financial reasons.

So long story last year my fiance had an emotional affair (nothing sexual) which he still claims is the case, with a coworker. He confessed and claimed to found God and he truly did change. Hes 24 and I'm 23 and we've been together for going on 6 years. Yesterday when he got home he said of he can ever continue growing with God he needs to tell the truth and that he cheated on me 4-5 times with multiple he met on craigslist about 3 years ago. I truly believe he has changed his ways since but I dont even know what to think or how to go on. I'm not religious so I dont care for comments on that but I truly believe him finding "God" is the basis of his change because he truly believes he has found him and is becoming new. I now have reservations of marrying him. We have a 1 1/2 year old son and another son on the way. What do I do and how do I move on? He seems truly sorry but I dont even know how to process this or if I should even trust him. Advice? Also- how do you even get your self esteem back after something like this?

She tells me she not love her husband at all and she only married him out of desperation to change her life from what she used to be and to settle down but she feels like she made a mistake should pursue her or just leave her alone...we have this connection that I can't explain like she if we would have have met before him

So long story last year my fiance had an emotional affair (nothing sexual) which he still claims is the case, with a coworker. He confessed and claimed to found God and he truly did change. Yesterday when he got home he said of he can ever continue growing with God he needs to tell the truth and that he cheated on me 4-5 times with multiple he met on craigslist about 3 years ago. I truly believe he has changed his ways since but I dont even know what to think or how to go on. I'm not religious so I dont care for comments on that but I truly believe him finding "God" is the basis of his change because he truly believes he has found him and is becoming new. I now have reservations of marrying him. We have a 1 1/2 year old son and another son on the way. What do I do and how do I move on?

So my husband has been cold and distant. We discussed many times our problems. Basically I m not living up to his expectations. He complained about breakfast and the dishes not being done (I do them weekdays and would take a day off on the weekend). Well he took it upon himself to do them every day because he "doesn t need me" but resented me at the same time for doing it himself. Also complaining about our sex life. I hate having sex but do it for him. Anyway, I made More of an effort to make him happy and we did anal for the first time even though I didn t want to. So he s pretty happy again and I m still not. I don t feel very loved or appreciated. Does this sound like how 10 years of marriage ends up? Is it a phase to get through?

My husband & I had our first big major fight last night we've been married 3 years. It was really bad. He told me that if he hadn't married me I likely still wouldn't be married because no other man would want damaged goods. I told him (out of spite) that I was interested and talking to another man. (This is not true I was just angry.) We both admitted we've thought about what else is out there. We paid for a very expensive trip for our anniversary since we didn't do much of a "honeymoon" 3 years ago. I made a comment that we just have to get through our vacation then we can file for divorce. He proceeded to call me every name in the book before finally leaving. We've never had a fight like this. He hasn't come home since and I'm assuming he went to work. Any advice? Are we headed for a divorce

that will kill the homeless who also don't have health insurance before they are 50?

My boss and I message each other messages on (and off) work related topics throughout the day and night...Sometimes we tease each other and others, we share deeper thoughts... he's married and I've never met his wife...to be clear I'm not looking for romantic involvement... as time passes i wonder if this relationship is getting a little too comfortable ...Am I overthinking this? What do you think?