Family: Question: How to get through a parents divorce.?

Question: How to get through a parents divorce.?

Posted: 14 Apr 2019 02:26 PM PDT

This may be a lot to share and I know this is not the best place to say it but I don't know who to talk to. My parents are most likely getting divorced. My mom had cancer and has had many complications to her health after her procedure. But the problem was, she was mentally unstable and didn't take care of herself. My dad tried to help her as much as he could but it got too much for him. Today she was over exerting her body and he was upset because he knew she was going to get tired and end up passing out again. She got mad at him and said he's being selfish and they fought. It got to the point where he was screaming louder than I've heard him scream. My moms medicine gives her episodes of depression and unfortunately, she was in the middle of one. She wanted to cut her wrists, stop her medicine again, and just die overall. He was so frustrated and ended up slapping her. I don't want to justify what my dad did., because I know it's wrong. I don't want my parents to get divorced but I know there's not much I can do. I just want to know some tips on how to get through this. I also know this is definitely not the place to be saying this. But I don't want to tell anyone who knows me this because I know they won't be honest to help me feel better. My mom left today in with my aunt to her house. I know they're probably gonna end up divorcing.

Question: Lost my parents trust for the 5th time?

Posted: 14 Apr 2019 02:00 PM PDT

I come from a very spoiled and rich family but my parents are crazy. I go to the 5th best high school in the USA, but none of my friends are from there. I have life 360 on my phone, which tells my parents my speed limit, where I am 24/7, etc., every child with this app should know the misery lol. Im not sure what happened when my parents became super strict on me but I get my phone checked daily, I can't hang out with any of my friends outside of my school, I hardly go out on weekends, I can't talk to boys, the list just goes on. Ive gotten to the point where I literally just hate my dad. I understand that he's trying to protect me but its driving me crazy. I can't tell them to be less strict because they tell me that its my fault they're strict. today, my parents woke me up at 10 am and asked for my phone, and from that second I knew my life was over. they're returning my car, (I have a Porsche) back to the dealer and apparently I'm getting a flip phone. I literally can't take this anymore I really don't know what to do

Question: How should I deal with my mother who constantly brings me down with negative comments?

Posted: 14 Apr 2019 01:44 PM PDT

Question: Can I get some advice ?

Posted: 14 Apr 2019 01:30 PM PDT

I don't have any family support so I'm reaching out the best way I know how to. About a month ago I sent my son to his dads house his girlfriend had our son while he was working. At some point she got annoyed with my son and slapped him so hard she left his glasses imprint on his face and a black bruised ear. She claims he fell off the couch but it looks more like abuse. Pinch marks, bruised busted lip etc she has a story for every mark that was left which I find odd I never reported it, I decided it was best to keep him away from the situation but we work with early child intervention therapist and they're treating me differently I feel like it's because they saw my sons face the following day and think I'm the one who did it to him. I don't know how to approach them and let them know what really happened, they've been working with us since my son was 8 months and I don't want to leave the impression that I'm abusive to him and that I am doing what I have to do to keep him safe. They know I'm going through a hard time so I don't need those thoughts going through their minds I'm a single mom doing the best I can to make a way for him and I both I work and thought I could trust his dad to ensure he would be okay while I work overnights. He makes so many problems for me so I've decided to remove him from our life

Question: How do I tell my parents that they can’t choose friends for my 16 year old sister?

Posted: 14 Apr 2019 01:26 PM PDT

My 16 year old sister has a specific friend who is extremely immature and impulsive for her age. You'd guess she'd be 9 or 10 years old based on the words that come out of her mouth on a daily basis. My parents don't want her hanging around my sister so frequently, so they try to steer her away from the girl. Their effort isn't working, because they attend school together and they both use social media. My parents want her to have friends who are more mature, and don't do/say certain things. I can see why it is, because this friend CAN be annoying and never thinks before speaking. I think it'd be better if they just encourage her to hang out with other people too, so they might drift apart and this friend won't be a huge influence on her. There's no way to make a teenager stop hanging out with a particular friend, just because.

Question: Do you think a mother should make the death of a neighbor supercede her acknowledgement of her child's birthday?

Posted: 14 Apr 2019 12:02 PM PDT

If a neighbor, who the mother was only casually acquainted with, passed away 10 days before her child's birthday, should that make the mother forget everything else in her life?

Question: I meal prep my boyfriend's meals because he doesn't know how to cook but lately he said his grandmother has been complaining?

Posted: 14 Apr 2019 11:54 AM PDT

he lives with his mom and grandma. he said his grandma has been complaining about him bringing in too much food and taking up the referigerator space. Should i stop making his meals for him? I worry because if i don't make breakfast he doesn't eat anything except a pop tart. he's just like MY family If i don't cook they won't eat a home cooked meal. I normally make him things like scrambled eggs with cheese, a home made fruit salad, home made pancakes, and for his dinner i make lasgana. I put everything in ziploc bags or either a container. He is in his 30's and I'm 27. I feel like he doesn't eat a decent meal unless I cook. I'm fine with cooking because I actually love to cook and I don't mind doing this for him as he gave me a lot of money when i didn't have a job.

Question: My sister says she miscarried twins and nearly died. She has a history of lying. How do we know if she is being truthful or not?

Posted: 14 Apr 2019 11:42 AM PDT

I want to show compassion if it is a true story. We have not seen her in over a year to know if she really was pregnant or not. She said the twins were 7 months along and that she, my sister, was in a coma for 2 weeks. She wrote to us and said she feels so alone as we did nothing for her as she prepared to die alone. She claimed she saw our mother in heaven and learned our father was in hell. However, we obviously had know idea she was sick or in a coma. We have no idea what to do. My parents, our parents, have died and we never knew our father. My sister is 31 and I am 35. She saw me last at our Mom's funeral in September of 2017. She spent the day telling everyone how she was raped at work and the police did nothing. We are pretty sure that story was a lie also. She also drank the entire weekend and is clearly an alcoholic. How do I respond?

Question: I m 23 years old qnd I think I have really bad mom issues? I don t know what to do to help.?

Posted: 14 Apr 2019 11:38 AM PDT

Growing up my mom was emotionally abusive towards me. Her and my dad taught constantly and never had a good relationship. She had trust issues and never wanted him to be out of her sight. She never had a father growing up so she was also jealous of the relationship I had with my father. Every chance she got she would tell me "You re not his wife, I am". That started when i was 5 years old and it confused me. She constantly put me down telling me I was fat and maybe I wouldn t get bullied in school if I tried to dress and act more like the other kids. She never hugged me or held my hand unless other people were around. When people were around she tried to act like we all liked each other and acted so fake. I started to get close with any of my friends mom s because they were all so nice and I never knew what that was like. Once my mom found out she wouldn t let me around any other mom. I use to cry when I would see how close my cousins were with their mom. To be held, loved unconditionally and even told they were loved seemed so nice. To this day I have dreams of any woman figure that I know is a mom and in my dreams I m back to being a little kid and I have a nice mom and im happy. When I wake up I always cry and its embarrassing when I still see kids with their mom s and I get jealous. I m 23 and I feel like it shouldn t bother me anymore but it does and I don t know what to do.

Question: Is there anything I can do to help my nieces?

Posted: 14 Apr 2019 10:19 AM PDT

To not make a long story i live with my two parents and three nieces at home. My sister doesnt have custody for her girls neither does the dad because of a drinking problem she had before in the past her kids got taken away from her but she has custody to visit them or take them home without my parents supervision. The child court case ended last year and thankfully the kids are in a better place BUT my parents are the problem in the situation. My mother likes to manipulate and make herself feel control of the kids and puts too much worry in my nieces when they should let them be kids and be outside. My nieces behavior towards my sister has changed a lot because my mom has shaped them to be different and narcissistic. My mom and dad allows to have preferences in the house and that is not OK with me. The youngest one gets taunted and all of then gather to make her feel not seen at all. I dont want the three of them to live like hell in this narcissistic environment. My parents are really reserved and self centered. I dont know if theres anything to do. I hate my youngest niece and my two other nieces to grow up feeding from my moms words.

Question: Need advice? Need someone to talk to? Please? Choked out for 3 hours?

Posted: 14 Apr 2019 09:43 AM PDT

Last night .I made a bottle for my son. And I poured some of the formula out to make it warm my dad snaps on me saying when it doesn't come out your pocket u don't waste it. Then gets on the phone and talks trash to my brother . I went upstairs ignored it until he tells my brother I need to humble myself I'm not paying for nothing and I'm just wasting his money . So I yelled STOP TALKING ABOUT ME! He runs upstairs and screams this is my house and starts choking me . Slams me on the wall and starts ranting for 3 hours about what he don't like about me and how I'm a user! ,I'm fighting to get away he wouldn't let me get away. Kept saying it's his house I can't touch his door. They wouldn't let me get my child my mother runs to grab the baby and locks the door and pretends nothing happened. Then he grabs my shirt and wraps it around my neck like a chain as if he's walking a dog I'm vomiting trying to get away he keep locking the door and closing the garage yelling my house! Telling me to sit on the floor and shut up. And goes on a rant again of all the years of my mistakes he throws in my face. It went on for 3 hours. He finally stops ranting and tells me get some sleep . Now I have a swollen neck . And I'm stuck here .i Only agreed to move back with my parents b/c he begged me everyday in the hospital for 7 days he will help me heal & get my fam a new place. I just was admitted for 2 kidney infections, ecoli from flint Mi water and I'm 2 months pregnant .we lost everything

Question: Do I have a right to complain? My folks say I need to stop but I think they need to stop leaning on me?

Posted: 14 Apr 2019 09:37 AM PDT

My sibling is living with me while in college, and rarely helps with the housework and doesn't clean up their own messes (especially in the kitchen). My parents need me to help with their mortgage, which is about $500-700 per month. I have taken out additional student loans to make it possible. I am a full time student to and work 20-30hr/wk. I keep on my family's case because I can't keep supporting them with housework and bills. They say I've done it so far so I can continue, despite me having a few grand in debt because of them. They get so mad st me if I complain about them not talking care of themselves. Do I have a right to complain

Question: How do I apologize to my high functioning autistic brother?

Posted: 14 Apr 2019 09:07 AM PDT

Me and my brother got into a heated fight and I ended up making fun of his autism making him cry. Now I feel bad and want to say I'm sorry

Question: Would you consider yourself an only child if you have step siblings but don’t have any biological siblings (half siblings or full siblings?

Posted: 14 Apr 2019 07:59 AM PDT

Question: I'm so embarrassed so what should I do?

Posted: 14 Apr 2019 07:51 AM PDT

Teen girl here, my dad walked in on me as I was fingering myself. He noticed me right away and turned around and walked out. 2 hours later and I still have not come out of my room.

Question: My son admitted he has a crush on a boy, they are hanging out today. What should I do?

Posted: 14 Apr 2019 07:27 AM PDT

My 12 year old son was talking to me and his sister about a crush in his class. After several attempts for him to tell us about her we found out is was a boy in his class. Of course I talked to him for awhile about the revelation, I hugged him a lot and made sure he understood it was okay. I also suggested he invited the boy over for swimming and cooking out. Today is the day and the boy will be coming in a few hours. My concerns are with them still being young should I talk to my son about leaving his bedroom door open when they both are in there. My daughter is a few years older and anytime she has a boy over I make her leave the door open. I also have been thinking about sleepovers. My son goes to every so often but now I'm not sure if I should let him go anymore.

Question: Why do my parents get upset when I find clever ways out of doing my chores?

Posted: 14 Apr 2019 07:06 AM PDT

my parents make me wash all the dishes I used. I have a job so I buy paper plates and utensils. My parents get upset when I use their dishes and not wash it so I just use paper plates and plastic utensils but they are still not happy. I have a job so I do not need their petty cash they call allowance which is way below the minimum wage. I do not work for anything less than minimum wage

Question: How is graduation dinner bill handled?

Posted: 14 Apr 2019 06:25 AM PDT

My sister's daughter who is graduating in May is going to a university in my town. The graduation dinner will include about 15 people, some are from my in laws family and some are friends. For such dinner, does honor family (my sister) pay the bill? Everyone spread the bill except for the honor family? Or we all pay our own share?

Question: How can i get my mother to not raise her voice at me when we have disagreements? I don't want to be disrespectful.?

Posted: 14 Apr 2019 04:10 AM PDT

I always remain calm and keep my voice on a certain octave because it bothers me when she yells at me, yet she wants me to listen. When i tell her it bothers me she says, "I'm just passionate." I really want to talk my issues out with her, but I can t if she continues to shout over me. What can i do because I'm losing my patients.

Question: My 26 year old daughter has a boyfriend who wants to live with her but My daughter doesn’t drive. Isn’t this is an issue?

Posted: 13 Apr 2019 11:30 PM PDT

Okay so my daughter is 26 her boyfriend is around 35 or something. Both of them are living with their parents. Her boyfriend is in school right now but said when he starts working again full time he would like for them to get a place together. He said it would also make it easier since she doesn't drive. My daughter has never drove a day in her life, she has crippling anxiety and is terrified of driving. Everybody in the family has been trying to convince her to drive and she just refuses. She would rather be dependent on a man. The problem is that when or if they move in together is that she will completely be dependent on him for transportation for the rest of their lives assuming they stay together. Me and her mother keep telling her she's gonna regret depending on a man. Men are fickle and I don't want her to be in a position of being a kept woman who can't hardly go anywhere. She's putting herself in a dangerous situation by depending on him for rides. Her boyfriend doesn't seem like he's controlling but when they live together and she's depending on him his true colors might show.plus, you don't want somebody to know your every move and that will be the case if he's driving everywhere. I already see a red flag with the fact that the boyfriend said he doesn't mind that my daughter doesn't drive. A man shouldn't want a dependent woman. Anyways the second problem is that it's a sin to shack but they already know and we don't approve of shacking up as we are Christians.

Question: Why does Pearl L always deny that she's retarded and needs to be removed from the internet?

Posted: 13 Apr 2019 10:26 PM PDT

Question: How do I get my 16 year old daughter to quit being so sensitive?

Posted: 13 Apr 2019 10:12 PM PDT

Our family went out to eat food at a restaurant. There was a lady (a stranger) who loudly told us that my younger daughter, who's 11 years old, is much prettier than her older sister. I admit it was quite rude, but my 16 year old was nearly in tears! She barely talked after that. My older daughter has a history of getting bullied over her looks at school. It might stem from childhood bullying, and being reminded of it again. However, it was just one little meaningless comment from a total stranger. I don't see the big deal in it, but it seemed big to my daughter.

Question: My massive house party just ended and my parents are going to be back home tomorrow morning?

Posted: 13 Apr 2019 10:02 PM PDT

The party I just threw at my house ended and there's a bunch of cans and broken glass everywhere. Someone dented my garage door and my living room tv is knocked over. There's still people sleeping here what do I do

Question: Do you ever look back on your childhood and realize how messed up your parents were?

Posted: 13 Apr 2019 09:19 PM PDT

or your family? Im in my late 20s and sometimes Ill get flashbacks of my childhood, from a new perspective as a maturing adult, and realize some of the adults back then were pretty messed up. I guess this question pertains to people who grew up in abusive households.

Question: Does my son need behavioral health?

Posted: 13 Apr 2019 09:13 PM PDT

My stepson is 17 years old, and has to be told to do things or he won't do them. He will go weeks without showering unless I force him to. I'll tell him to clean his room for days, until finally it's so disgusting I have to clean it myself. He refuses to get his drivers permit or a job. He even went to a military school, but it didn't help. I don't know what to do anymore. I've tried everything in the book, and he still acts like a child. He doesn't understand he's basically an adult. He can't just live with me his whole life. He needs to be a functioning adult.

Question: My father is a lying drug addicted ago recently texted me. How should I respond?

Posted: 13 Apr 2019 08:55 PM PDT

My dad has been in and out of my brothers and my life for years. My parents got divorced at when I was young, he became addicted to pills and hasn't been the same since. He use to always claim to have cancer or other medical issues which were never true. It's so inferating that he lies like this. Yesterday he texted me this "Hi hope everybody ok I have to back to Arizona it's my last cancer treatment if I make it through I'm God you and your brother will always be in my heart love you and sam getting on plane now. No matter what happens i will always love my kids". How or what should I say?.. I'm 18 and haven't spoke to him in a few years. Please help me. Thank you..

Question: Should I still travel with my sister? She gets all the attention.?

Posted: 13 Apr 2019 08:36 PM PDT

I see her as competition as she receives all the male attention because of her lighter complexion. I travel to meet someone and she is in the way. my mother enjoys her being part of those trips as well enjoying to see all her daughters together. I am not happy with that situation. I also feel that she wants to run the show just because she s older.

Question: Is this movie appropriate for children ?

Posted: 13 Apr 2019 07:52 PM PDT

Me and my husband and friends are going to see the new Pet Semetary tomorrow night we're really excited it's one of our favorite movies. My friend and his husband want to take their oldest son to see it he's 7. He watched the first one with us he wasn't too scared he wasn't even really paying attention. A lot of kids went to see Bohemian Rhapsody when we went that probably wasn't a good kids movie either a lot of kids love Queen but it had Freddie kissing guys which is something that children probably shouldn't be seeing also a lot of gay and sexual content in it. I think it was rated R if I remember right also lots of kids went to see Holmes and Watson which was terrible my sister loved it I thought it was awful. I guess parents let their kids watch anything anymore I know kids who watch South Park. My friend who has the 7 year old lets him and his 5 year old brother watch it they probably seen worse. Is Pet Semetary appropriate for children ?

Question: How do I tell a 15 year old girl that running away from home will not solve her problems?

Posted: 13 Apr 2019 07:14 PM PDT

I am a family friend in the situation. The 15 year old girl is angry at her single mom for pushing her to mature way faster than her typical peers. In a way, her mom has a point. She does not have the luxury of supervising her kids as much, compared to two-parent households. Yet she wants her children to make good choices as she isn't around, as a result, pushes them to have adult responsibilities at super young ages (her youngest kid is only 8 years old!). It isn't an ideal childhood but she's trying her best. The daughter compares her home life to other people's, and knows it seems crappy. She talks about running away from home. I'm worried about her safety. Police will not be on her side since there is no abuse going on. Any major city will have mentally ill people, drug addicts and sex trafficking rings that exploit kids - something that I'm really concerned about if she runs away! Life is unfair to her right now, but there's nothing we can do about it. Besides that, she's more fortunate to have a mother and relatives that love her. Not everyone has that.

Question: Should a child’s feelings matter when it comes to holidays/visitation with the other parent?

Posted: 13 Apr 2019 06:45 PM PDT

I have sole legal and physical custody of my kids. My ex is barely involved (by his own choice he never calls and hardly sees them, has no clue about anything in their lives such as school activities etc) and per the court holidays are up to me. Since we split up 4 years ago, i have always allowed him to have the kids for Easter because his family is Catholic and mine doesn't really do anything. My daughter is 8 now, and she has recently begun to ask about spending Easter with me. She has brought it up numerous times and has cried about it. I want to validate her feelings and at least let her spend part of Easter with me. Her dad said flat out that it doesn't matter what she wants. I am wrestling with what is right here.

Question: How can i stop being so hard on my family for needing me to loan/give them money?

Posted: 13 Apr 2019 06:39 PM PDT

I know they need help but they always wait until the week that rent and bills are due (I live on my own) and ask for $500-700. I've told them repeatedly if they will need that kind of money they need to let me know ahead of time so that I can pick up extra hours to compensate. I am so pissed because I have had to take out extra student loans and max out my cards to compensate. My family gets so mad at me and says I am ungrateful to them but I just can't keep up with their needs and I am so angry and drained at this point.

Question: I just let my mom drive while under the influence, and the guilt is eating me up?

Posted: 13 Apr 2019 05:55 PM PDT

I'm 25, my mom and I were at my aunt's helping her around the house because she broke her arm. As soon as we got there, my mom had a couple shots of vodka, and passed out on the couch. When she woke up about 4 hours later, she was still slurring her words, but was walking a straight line, and acting pretty normal, but I know she was still a little intoxicated. I offered to drive multiple times even though I cant drive a stick, and said I could have my brother come and get us. I didnt want to get in an argument with her so I just let her drive. I knew we could get home fine, but I feel like crap letting her drive. I was could have prevented her from driving, but I was so scared that she would get mad at me. I cant let this happen again. Do you think I'm a bad person for this?

Question: By 16 years old, do most kids know better than to swear and yell at the manager for getting fired?

Posted: 13 Apr 2019 05:35 PM PDT

I was at a shoe store when a young girl started swearing loudly at a manager. She was yelling about getting fired, and I know she is 16 because she screamed that "she's never hated anybody that much for 16 years of her lifetime" (something along those lines). People were staring in disbelief and shaking their heads, some abruptly ran out. The manager was speaking to her calmly, but she wouldn't stop screaming and threatening to break belongings in the store. They had to call security to take her out, and said she can be charged for harassment in certain cases. Teens can be immature and some do get fired from part time jobs, but would most teens know better than to throw a toddler tantrum over it?

Question: Did my cousin molest me when we were younger?

Posted: 13 Apr 2019 05:31 PM PDT

Sometime between the ages of 10 to 12 I think my cousin molested me. He is 2 years older than me. We were at his home watching a movie or TV show when he asked if I wanted to play a game with him. He said that his friends played it all the time and explained how it worked. We put our hand on the other person's knee and work our way up the leg until we would be at the other person's privates. If you didnt want the hand to get there you would have to say P**** for the person to take there hand away. He had me get all the way up to his P but I kept stopping him from getting to far up my leg. He started to make fun of me for losing and was laughing so I finally let him get to my area. Next he had us both play again but this time we had taken our pants off. I remember touching him through his boxers and he rubbed my area a few time over my underwear. For the longest time I felt like I was just as responsible as I went along with him but now I feel he took advantage of me and want to confront him.

Question: Why are drugs so popular in the United States?

Posted: 13 Apr 2019 05:28 PM PDT

Question: Should I make my parents pay me back or let it go?

Posted: 13 Apr 2019 04:36 PM PDT

I have been paying their cost of living for a few months now. They are able bodied, not ill. I am about 5-6k in debt because of all that they want me to cover for them. I only am payed $11/hr, am working 30 hours per week and going to school full time. My sister (who lives with me for free and doesn't work) thinks I should let it go, but I feel I should cut them off and ask me to pay me back. I already let my sister live with me for free so they aren't helping her out sibling is 19

Question: How to get my boyfriend away from his mom?

Posted: 13 Apr 2019 04:32 PM PDT

My boyfriend is 21 years old. His mom is borderline emotionally abusive to him. She constantly puts him down. She calls him lazy, unproductive, and unsuccessful. She starts unnecessary fights with him nearly every day. Nothing he does is ever good enough for her. His mother has driven him to the point where he feels like he needs to go to college 100 miles away from me and his support system to get away from her. I've offered for him to come live at my house, but obviously, that poses problems with the whole "moving in together too quickly" ordeal. The rest of his family is here, his friends are here, his emotional support dog is here, I'm here, everyone he loves is here. He'd be giving up his whole support system to go to a college that far away. Not only that, but his beat-up truck will not make it 100 miles and back. He doesn't have enough money to get an apartment here. I am supportive of whatever decision he makes. How can he get away from his mom without going to a school that far away?

Question: Is my Mom a narcissist?

Posted: 13 Apr 2019 04:28 PM PDT

She claims that I am disabled because a psychologist said that I COULD have aspergers syndrome when I was 6. It was never officially diagnosed with it but I'm 23, I just moved back in with her and she's claiming me as disabled on her taxes. Growing up she forbid me from going anywhere aside from school, home and youth group and prevented me from driving. For the past few months I've been the one providing food for my two younger siblings and my 1 year old son. The majority of my income goes to the rent and I'm the one constantly taking care of her two dogs as she lays in bed all day. Every time I try and come up with new ideas she cuts me down or even when I or any of my siblings have an issue. If you stand up for yourself she goes into rages and starts slamming ****. So addressing a situation is useless. It's all really stressfull because she procrastinates on everything, especially with the apartment and she's always getting notes from the leasing office of our apartment because she's always late on fees and borrows money from all 4 of us kids. I don't want to move out, I'm on the lease and I worked hard getting into this place.

Question: I think my Mother is jealous of me?

Posted: 13 Apr 2019 04:24 PM PDT

She keeps putting me down over small things and making them all about her. I don't know if she's just being self centred but it seems like she's jealous of me? For example: I got a new outfit so I go to show her. I asked her "Do you like my new outfit?" And her response is "it looks like something i'd wear to work" (this seems like an insult but she wears very stylish clothes to work/no uniform or anything), but it also looked nothing like something she'd wear to work. "How?" I asked. She goes "the skirt". It's a plain black skirt which yes she has one but it's a completely different style. She then says "I do like your outfit though. I like the skirt" which following what she just said makes it seem like it's about her. The other day she was staring at me and goes "I wish I still had an hourglass. I used to but now I'm a pear. You're lucky you're still an hour glass. And went on and on and on about HER body and kept comparing it to mine and to be honest it made me very uncomfortable. These are just two short examples but she seems to constantly do this no matter the scenario. She seems obsessed with looks. e.g I tried on my jeans the other day and said they're tight and she goes "might have to cut back on the kilos then". Wtf?! My question is: Why do you think she acts like this? Especially when I'm a larger gal and she's very petite - there's no use comparing our bodies, but she does??

Question: How do i tell my mum that it’s unfair how she wont let me hang out with two specific friends outside of school?

Posted: 13 Apr 2019 04:14 PM PDT

I'm 14 and i go to school with two kids from a foster group home. My mom only lets me hangout with them at school. She says that people from bad homes will behave differently than kids with good homes, often in a dysfunctional way. That teachers at school will supervise us, but outside of school, no adult is there to make sure we're safe. My mum also says she'd also like to see me forming closer friendships with people who are from stable, normal environments. My dad says that my mum has a point, cause hes seen one kid like them turn out really badly before. Its unfair bcuz all my other friends have parents who let them hang out with whoever they want when we're not in school. My mums the only person who has these worries, and my dads just going along with it

Question: Can I move out at 17 without my mom’s consent?

Posted: 13 Apr 2019 03:45 PM PDT

My uncle said I could move in with him after I graduate in a few months. But I'm graduating early so I'll still be 17 for a year. I hate it here and there is nothing for me. I asked my mom about it and she got mad at me and said I can't move out until I turn 18 even though it's with my uncle. Can I go over her head or anything?

Question: My sibling lives with me but doesn t pay any bills and doesn t work or try to get a job. How can I get my sibling to contribute?

Posted: 13 Apr 2019 03:38 PM PDT

My sibling wont even clean up their own messes, leaving me with all dishes most laundry etc. and if I bring up money my sibling screams at me to take out another loan or put it on my credit card. All my resources will be maxed out by the end of May at this rate and I am really starting to worry

Question: How to get ungrounded?

Posted: 13 Apr 2019 03:22 PM PDT

So my mom grounded me for having a D in chemistry I just finished all my homework for that class I had and even some extra credit and a lab write up but I am grounded for 2 weeks meaning I can't have my phone or go to church how do I get ungrounded asap.

Question: Was I out of line the night before my dad's funeral?

Posted: 13 Apr 2019 02:43 PM PDT

My father died a week ago. I have tended to him and managed all aspects of his care for 8 years of his illness. I was with him on and off for 9 days before he died, including me and him alone for 9 hours before he died. I loved my dad. My dad was a VERY private person, so I did not have any sort of viewing/visitation out of respect for that, except close family members only. Well, his sister called and asked if "john" (not a family member) could see his body, and I said "no, that is for family only, and that's that." Well, she went up to the funeral home and completely came unhinged at my wife, scolding her and shaming her that 1) no one else could view, and 2), that we were going to a baseball game the night before his burial and memorial (BTW - I personally conducted his memorial) with my son, daughter, and wife so that we could have a little down time together before the next day came. While I didn't feel I owed an apology, I texted her this a.m. and apologized, which she did not accept. I am in disbelief at her anger and I don't understand it. Did I do anything wrong?