My husband was killed last week in a motorbike accident. Died instantly. We have 2 babies. 2 and 3 months. The youngest is on oxygen and heart meds and was in intensive care for 5 weeks where it was touch and go. We d only been home all together for 10 weeks. My husband was my soul mate. We loved each other intensly and passionately. My family are my life. I will never love any one else like I loved him, nor would I ever want to. I had a bad feeling when I found out I was pregnant with my second. But no problems were apparent until his birth. I had a bad feeling the day my husband died, even though it was a perfectly normal day and he didn t die until 9.49pm. I feel as though I will die soon also. I don t think it s just general unease/anxiety linked to recent events either. I don t know when it will be or how it will happen, but I feel as though my days are coming to a close. I ve reached out for councilling and to crisis lines, but had no response. My gp gave me medication but it didnt help. I spend my days crying and missing my husband. I spend my nights watching videos of him. How can I cope with this hell I m living in?

My husband decided to quit smoking cold turkey and started a new job at the exact same time. He won't use any of those "qut smoking patches" or anything like that. Ever since he quit smoking he has been constantly irritable with me, not one thing I do is right and he always wants a divorce. He never apologizes for saying he always wants a divorce, so it hurts me very deeply.. He is also having a tough time at his new job, he says he does it. How can I support him during this tough time, when he refuses any of those quite smoking patches and similar things? Walking on eggshells is really draining me

I moved to be with my fiancé a year ago. We're still not married, and it's hard. I went through a lot of my savings, got crappy jobs that weren't as good as mine back home. Now she wants to combine finances and vehicles. I think she's a great woman with some great ideas, but all of this combined is getting tough. And she thinks I need to grow up about the relationship stress, that's its normal. Do I need to grow up, or move on?

I saw a meme once where a lion was trying to sleep and the lioness kept circling around him, flashing and flailing in front of him. I've experienced this too...if I am really busy and not in the mood for sex...you can bet that is when the wife is most turned on ! Please note emphasis on the word BUSY. As in I have work to do. Why do women do this ? Do you all get turned on by watching us struggle to concentrate whilst you stripdance ? I love my wife, but I wish she was more enthusiastic about this sort of thing when I am actually on vacation...as opposed to when I have 3 projects trying to complete simultaneously.

and why do they always say they're going to a meeting when they're going drinking with other women?

I don't know what to do. I've never considered myself an alcoholic. I used to only drink on the weekends. My mom passed away 6 months ago and since then, I've gotten into the habit of getting drunk maybe 3 times a week. I often go to work hungover. Recently, I needed to buy tampons and I also wanted alcohol, but felt I didn't have enough money to buy both so I asked my fiance to buy my tampons while I bought alcohol. Looking back, I know that was a bad choice and makes me look bad that I'd rather have alcohol than tampons. Today, I went to work hungover, but was still slightly intoxicated somehow and I threw up at work and had to go home. My fiance went on and on about how that wasn't a good choice and that I've now lost a whole day of making money, all because I chose to drink too much last night. He said my alcohol use is destroying our relationship because he thinks alcohol matters more to me than he does and that's not entirely true. What do I do? Should I talk to my pastor about it? I worry what he'd think because his dad was an alcoholic and made life very hard for him in his teen years. I don't want to upset my pastor. I don't know how to not drink. Both of my parents drank, my dad passed away when I was a kid from an unrelated situation. I admit the alcohol issues contributed to my mom dying, although not directly related. I just kind of grew up thinking that alcohol would help my problems and now I see it's a big part of my problems.

My dad has never been there for me growing up because he always had "other things" that were more important than me this caused him to miss all my birthdays,cheer completions,drama performances,volleyball games,and other big events in my life.When I was 14 my mom found out my dad had been cheating on her thier entire marriage but didn't devorce him.I'm now 16 and my dad is very sick (he's been sick my whole life but now its really bad) he was recently diagnosed with some brain disease that makes it hard for him to walk,drive,hold conversations,and all kinds of other things because of this he can't work or drive meaning my mom has to work while I stay home taking care of him.Its not fair I should be out running the streets with my friends not taking care of some pathetic old man that's never cared about me.I feel like my mom should just kick him out but he can't take care of himself because of how sick he is and none of his family lives in America so we've been stuck with the burden of taking care of him but I'm to the point I don't even care and I want him out of this house.Please share your advice and have a blessed day. -Taylor

Why would a 22 year old (former beauty queen) want to marry a 37 year old financial advisor (divorced + with a young son).

Wife thinks I don't care about her and she thinks if we separate I won't care. We have a newborn and 2 elementary school kids. She says I'm happy with them but don't really talk to her. She said she is sad when she gets home and I feel the same. We have little time with a busy schedule. I'm looking for something simple. Like should we spend 10 minutes in catching up? Thx all

we are over but just want to know what is wrong with him so I can move on. I wasn't perfect either and drank too much but am getting help for it. During our marriage he: called me a slut insane stupid or a liar like everyday. interrogated me and would never accept the answer I gave him and would keep hounding me and calling me a liar until I got upset. nitpicked about Everything. Esp my housekeeping skills the way I park. Then say it was no big deal. then bring it up everytime we had an argument. Stand over me watching me. When I would be like wtf he would slam the door run away. open my door with a screwdriver and demand I answer his constant questions about what I did what I ate what I bought/ Put his fist in my face slapped me upside the head in front of my whole family/ accusing me of stuff all the time..... going through my things hiding my license threaten to crash the car if I didn't do what he wanted. refuse to let me leave the house or do things. I wasn't perfect and drank a lot and got really upse t sometimes but am getting help for it and have quit being around a lot of toxic assholes.

Senior citizen marriage. His wife doesn't want guardianship over him or estate. His daughter gets guardianship over him and estate without objection from her in return for signing over his half of condo to her. In the eyes of the law are they now legally separated. He is in one state wife in another. Her exact words i don't want him back. He has Alzheimer's The question. Would they be legally separated. The court did order guardianship to daughter of him and estate. She cannot due anything in his name. Including she relinquished control of all his financial accounts.

Alright, I'm not a prude or anything but unfortunately I'm also not very imaginative. I dont really fantasize about stuff that we dont already do. I know he's probably just trying to make it more exciting in the bedroom since we have been together the better part of a decade. I dont want to seem boring and give him no answer, but apparently I am that boring. I'm open to new/different things but I dont have any secret fetish or anything. What do I do?

My wife and I have been married for nearly 6 years. We have 3 beautiful, ornery, highly energetic kids. My wife has been having an issue with one of the kids' Godmothers, which has now escalated to accusations and the Godmother acting like my wife doesn't exist and my wife, in turn, ignoring/avoiding her. My FIL has told my wife from day 1 that he doesn't like me, that "your marriage will end in divorce, mark my words" which she always ignored. Lately he's been telling her that every time they talk. Last night was the breaking point for her and when he again told her to kick me out, she told him that's not his call and demanding that she do it is adding more stress on her. He responded that she's blind and stupid and as bad as I am, which she responded that she would rather be blinded by someone than alone in misery. I told her she should call him and apologize because he won't. She will regret this later. Her mother passed away a few years ago and she is having a hard time letting go of the guilt. The last time she spoke with her mother she told her she hated her. She refuses to call her dad. She says she's tired of being the one to make the first move, even when he's in the wrong. He's a grumpy, miserable old man who will not listen to reason or be open-minded about anything he doesn't understand and she's tired of it. She gets enough of that at work, and doesn't need it from him either. Sorry...left out the part where she has spoken to her dad on Godmother's attitude towards her. She's always been very good to me, but my wife says that's because I'm too nice and have tunnel vision, that I don't see people for who they really are. Even if that's true, that has nothing to do with her relationship with her father. He's the only parent she has left, so she should really mend fences and be the bigger person since he won't.

So I am seriously thinking of proposing to this girl so, and we had our standard weekend date. So we started at Taco Bell. Now, this place has free refills, so obviously there is no need to order 2 drinks, as we can share... But I figured, that she is a good girl, and probably deserves, so I was generous and got a separate cup for her. Then we went to the movies, and I picked this theater that plays 2nd run movies... Which is a win-win, because it is really cheap, and the only theater around that is still playing Alvin & the Chipmunks II "the squeakle" Man, I love that crazy squirell. Then I as the lights went down, I thought I would pull a little sexy/romantic surprise move. So I poked a hole in the bottom of the pop-corn bucket and put my wiener in it. Well, she got to the bottom of the bucket, felt it, and shrieked... And I immediately added some extra "butter" to the corn. Well, on the way home, I got the silent treatment... She was not impressed with my efforts... Well, now I am having second thoughts, because is a girl who doesn't appreciate a nice dinner, movie, and a romantic gesture, really worth marrying? Should I still propose?

So a couple of years ago, I really wanted out of my marriage... But if I divorced her, I would lose 1/2 of everything I owned... But I figured that if I left because she cheated, I would have a better chance of getting off light... So one night my buddy was over, I put a roofie in both his and her drink and when they passed out, I posed them together with his wiener in her mouth, and took pictures... The next morning, I told them both that I caught them both cheating... Well my wife of course felt bad and didn't try to take me to the cleaners... The problem is after a couple of years of dating her sister, I now want her back... I could I pull that off?

For the past 15 or so years since I've know my wife (gf some of those years) she's always had this thing to where she's gotta know everything. Even things that don't concern her. It has always bothered me when she asks me stuff that are either (A) so obvious or (B) have no bearing in her life or day. Yesterday she did it 3 times. (1) I was in the bathroom yesterday morning getting ready to shower and I heard a radio commercial and a phone number that I wanted to remember and write down. I walk back into the bedroom to write down the number. The first thing my wife said was "What, did you forget something? Why'd you come back int he bedroom? Granted, I'm in my house, my room, but I get grilled like I was the neighbor or I had left the house only to come by 5 minutes later. (2) After church yesterday my oldest daughter wanted me to do a tune up on her car and change the oil so she had dropped her car off. While outside I needed an extension cord to plug something up. I walk into the house and my wife was sitting on the sofa. I look behind the sofa and grab a cord my step-son had back there to charge his phone. Wife looks at me and asks what I was doing. I told her I needed a cord. She said, "well, that's (insert name)'s cord." I was like so, I'll put it back. Now she obviously knew I was outside working and needed it for a reason. Unless she thought I was going to jump rope and couldn't find a rope. (3) My wife had been asking me to clean the headlights on her car since they were starting to oxidize so after I did my daughter's car I did hers. This morning we were getting dressed and she turns to me and asks, "Had you not been doing your daughter's car would you have thought to do my headlights?" She has this thing to where she should come first over any and everyone when she wants something done. I've mentioned little things like this to an older female co-worker and she told me that it's basically my fault that my wife acts this way and over the 15 years I've indulged her to this condition. Most times when things are so obvious I don't even answer my wife but that usually leads to an argument. I can walk into the house with a Burger King bag and the question out of her mouth would be, "you been to Burger King?" Trust me, I don't mind arguing with my wife over stuff like this but why does she have to micro-manage everything? She has to know everything.

We have 2 young kids and 1 on the way. She feels like I hate her and I feel like she wants nothing to do with me. Weird Hong is we don't really argue that much. We both have expressed to each other we feel alone. I'm not really sure what to do as she's not a therapy person like me. To be honest, I wouldn't care if we separated. I'm sure it would hurt bad and I don't want the kids to go through that, but I thought about it. Any tips on what to do and if this happens?

HERES THE SCHEDULE - mon-fri ( their in day care 9-6pm) - i pick them up from day care thurs. take them friday & pick them up. - friday- sunday (when every she decides to come home) so for the most part she does not spend 1 full day with them except the 2-3 hours before they go to bed. and she recetly asked me can i pick them up on her late weekdays she work..I HAVE A LIFE TOO im not saying i wouldnt pay support but im always there when she needs me and people tell me i nedd to be a man and shes taking advantage of me and my kind ness of wned to be there for them and i see it. but what can i do. example. i just spend all weekend starting thursday at 6 until sunday. i got home and she called me asking can i take them to dy care 30 mins away because they slept at her grandmothers because she had to do something. mind you this 10pm it sunday night. and i was gone say yes

My wife has been texting an ex EXTENSIVELY lately. Just about constantly even when with me. She claims vehemently that it's only friendly but once broke down about how she wished she was alone because she loves him and doesn't want to hurt me. She then backtracked and convincingly to me at least claims temporary insanity or something along those lines. It hurts because I feel she is sharing more with him than me anymore and seems happier to talk to him. Fairly sure has only been texts though. I trust she couldn't lie to me directly like that but feel it is more real for her then she is letting on. She since wrote a poem/song that she admits is about the situation that she won't show me but felt the need to inform me existed at all. It's driving me crazy and it's becoming hard to feel close to her with it going on especially with the limited amount of time we get together working opposite shifts. We both have had conversations where I have shard this information but I honestly don't feel much better or that anything has changed. Should I insist to see more of their actual conversations (what I have seen seems innocent enough) or her poem/song on the issue? Should I let it go despite always feeling I am competing for her love and attention when I actually get to see her? Should I tell her I don't want her to talk to holiness anymore? I feel quite lost in the situation and too wrapped up in paranoia to make a reasonable decision.