My mom died giving birth to me. My dad was 18 when I was born and it was just him and I for 11 years. My stepmom and I get along great, and my dad and I are super close........but sometimes I winter if he loves me as much as he loves them, because I'm not really part of his little family. I'm the accident child from his younger years.

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I'm not trying to be funny this is a serious question

I have a controlling grandmother and mother who has to be in control of my life and what goes on it. In some situations, my grandmother will call asking if my kids hair is combed, are they dressed, what are they wearing, what did they eat, etc.. My mother is the same way non supporting, non caring, and controlling. I moved her in my house and when she couldn't get control she moved. She creates drama, chaos, and negativity everywhere she goes. I'm in my house and I pay my own bills. I don't rely on my parents to support me. I'm in abuse counseling and from what my counselor is saying is they are both co dependent. Yesterday, my mother got on my nerves- I don't want anything to do with her because I don't know her. She's never raised me and my sisters. She continues to belittle me and how I raise my kids years ago. My mother is full of drama and yesterday she created unnecessary drama over getting my kids milk. I think she hates me or resents me. I keep my distance from her. I'm trying to set boundaries and keep these folks at a distance. I've been in quite a few abusive relationships and what's about to happen my family is about to lose contact with their grandkids because I don't want this toxic behavior on them. They are not respecting my boundaries. To the first answerer you made no sense at all.

she died when i was 12 but my older siblings were adults when she died & that makes me mad that they had our mom for a longer period.

It's my birthday in 8 days and my Mum keeps asking me what I want, but I have no idea. I don't even know where to start. I really like music and art, but I already have a lot of art supplies and the instrument I want, a Viola, is really expensive everywhere I've looked (the cheaper ones are up to $1,000). I guess I could also ask my Mum to take me shopping, but I feel like I can find something I actually would like and use if I look online instead of in person, and I won't make any impulse decisions. I also want a bunny but I don't think my Mum would agree, haha. Any help? Turning 14 :) It's still expensive, but I found a $249 Violin (Not the same as a Viola, similar though, just smaller and plays higher sound). I'm not sure if I should ask for it, especially since we are going on a holiday to The Netherlands to visit my family in May, which is also expensive. Mum gave me a limit of $100 :( I don't want to sound like I'm spoiled or entitled, but everything in this day and age that I would use long term is $100+ (Instruments, watches, etc.). I'm a little upset, but there is not much I can do about it. This really makes it 10x more difficult, though. I don't want to put it in my bank account either, seeing as, like I said in my original post, I'm going to end up impulse buying stuff even if I try to save it up.

My grandpa could not live by himself anymore so he moved in with my dad mom and me and he has a whole lot of health issues copd lung issues from years of smoking cigars/cigarettes . We have not taken a vacation in years because we are stuck watching him he also won't pay for home healthcare and my aunt won't come from out of state to watch him for a week. It takes some learning how to change the pee bags and bathe him and my aunt wants nothing to do with this she is a lawyer and lives out of state . I want to go on vacation with my mom and dad and they agree we all need a break but we are all Stuck changing pee bags and dealing with his health issues/ doctors he has doctors appointments 3/4 days a week. Mom says shut up and deal with it because it's just part of caregiving and he won't live forever my dad and I want to take a vacation as does my mom but we can't get anyone to watch him or he will have a health crisis and we will have to cut a vacation short my mom predicts maybe within the next 3 years we might be able to go on a vacation depending on how his health goes. He is on oxogen and someone has to be at the house over the age of 19 some law when the tanks get delivered and help take them inside. What should we do it's a big hassle at times and the 3 of us have put our lives on hold and just need a break.

Ok, so my mom NEVER knocks. Sometimes I put a sign up that says "KNOCK" and she will just laugh and say "This made my day! I'm putting this on Facebook!" Ok, first of all, no. I tell her to respect my personal space and privacy, and she goes "What privacy?" But when I enter their room without knocking, guess who is grounded? ME. My room doesn't have a lock. How do I make my mom knock? I don't have anything to block the doors.

I made my mother angry somehow. Basically, I was signing up for freshman orientation at a university and I didn't really know how to do it. You see, I didn't realize that it was for the whole family, I thought just new students did it. Well anyways, she got mad because I didn't really know how to sign us up to all go to the orientation. Now mind you, im still a high school student, i have never done this before. I eventually I figured it out but she is still angry that I didn't know how to do it and she won't talk to me. I just want to know how to change this situation. Thanks.

My dad is abusive to my me, my mom, and my siblings. My dad has hit my mom before, hit me before, screamed at my siblings for no reason whatsoever. He will start fights with my mom over stupid things, like her not holding his hand in public. He says he has the right to cheat on her because he is a man. He says he has the right to beat my siblings and I because we are his children. Whenever him and my mom are fighting he expects my siblings and I to side with him and he will punish us if we don't. My mom doesn't want to accept the reality that he's a bad husband plus father, and whenever I bring it up with her she defends him nonstop. I get where she is coming from, not wanting to be a single mother and having to support the family on her own, but I think everyone's life would be better if she would just divorce him. I'm not sure what to do. I don't want to call the police because I love my mother and I am afraid my siblings and I will be put in a foster home or something and never see her again. Please help.

call me a asshole if you want , but she is chinese (YES THIS HAS SOMETHING TO DO WITH THE PROBLEM) she's mentally unstable. when ever I do something she doesn't like she will yell about how the world would be better if I died and ****. honestly, she thinks it's cool telling people to die. she's all bark no bite literally. my mom yells at me the most. she would go on about how everyone hates me and ways how she wants me to die, "I'll chop your head off, burry you in the backyard," or "everyone else dies why can't you die or a change?" "I would live longer if you were never born" my dad looks like he has enough of my mom. she's the only one that acts like this. we're all tired of her attitude. she does the same thing to my older sister, my sister cries because of my mom's ****** up mind and words. my mom thinks she's so cool and thinks she hurts our feelings when she says she wants us to die etc etc I just want to write this out because I'm done with her bullshit.

so I've tried to talk to my dad, and in the process of yelling he still doesn't believe me when someone lied about me and that's what got me in trouble in the first place. something that KILLS me is when someone says i'm wrong, says that I've done something wrong when I know I have, or when people accuse me. all three things were done today by my bother and father in less than an hour and it caused me so much anxiety. everything I've worked hard for ; my phone, clothes, privileges, everything is gone and that everything has been reset (I've gotten in trouble in the past, and I lost everything listed above. a few weeks ago bc i've been doing so good i've gotten things back and now all of that is gone) I'm at the bottom now again and my head hurts and I couldn't stop crying and trying to tell him the truth. I feel alone. i want to be happy and I try to make my family happy bc i want them to be proud of me but I can never fully do that whenever people tick me off and make me anxious and lie about me. it hurts, and now everything I've worked for is down the drain... everything..... so I feel worthless. I feel like I've done everything was for a lie that was just a few words that came out of someone's mouth. It feels like it was hopeless and it was all for nothing. i'm ashamed of myself and I want to talk to my father but I don't want him more mad or disappointed in me than what he already is. i tried to explain and tell him that the person is lying but he doesn't believe me... i don't want him to be more mad at me whenever i go to him with the same information that i have already given him. i know how to make him happy (get good grades, make good decisions, help around the house and etc.) but i can never truly help him 101 whenever i'm not home. i want to make things right, but i'm afraid of making things worse when i go to him and say that the person's lying... this is something I've dealt with before, and it's ended up miserably so i hope i can have some help. i really want to spend time with him more, but i can never do that whenever i'm never home with him. i literally live with different fam bc he doesn't want me home. and i hate that ; all i want is to be with him and it's hard bc im never home. i only stay with him on weekends and that bothers me asf bc he's my only parent. and it's not fair bc i try my hardest and best and whenever someone lies about me, and gets me in trouble for no reason, my father and daughter relationship shortens.

My mom is a bad person, basically. I was raised by my grandparents from 4 to 14. My mom was in prison for 10 years, I remember crying as a kid. This all just seems so unfortunate, why me? I also went without a dad, my dad left before I was even born and I am still convinced that he and my mom were a one night stand. When my mom got out of prison when I was 14 I went to live with her and at first it was good, I was happy that I had a mom but come to think of it, she isn't a good mom. Why would she get herself in prison knowing she has a 4 year old daughter at home? it's disgusting and she acts like nothing is wrong with that, I occasionally see her nowadays but that's only at Christmas or Thanksgiving, and according to my grandparents that's not the first time she has been to prison, she has actually been to jail before I was even born which is why she seems like such a failure to me, I am now 30 years old, I just turned 30, and I still can't forgive her. it's almost like she doesn't care, i had my 30th birthday party on March 25th (my birthday). She didn't bother coming after she said she would, that really triggered past memories and i have come to the conclusion that she doesn't care about me, she doesn't even love me. It's just the little things like that, trigger me. It really comes to show who she is. Do i have a right to hate her? i pretend to not care about her past but i really do.

My parents got divorced a long time ago (I was in 3rd grade). Long story short my dad cheated on my mom with the lady who is now my stepmom. Now, I'm in 9th grade and I dread going to my dads. I think I've got over the fact of what he has done and I've just accepted it. But, lately I just can't stop myself from crying and just getting upset over it sometimes. I just see my dad as selfish and he still continues to show that trait. He seems to never allow me to hang with my friends and I only get to do that on my moms weekend (which affects my mom which it shouldn't) and he always insists on having 'family' time. I know I kind of got off track here but what I'm trying to say is I am constantly reminded of the pain I felt and I still continue to suffer from it. I kind of want to see a therapist but I'm not sure how to bring it up and ask my mom and I know I shouldn't be but I'm a little ashamed to want to see a therapist because I wouldn't want my sister or family (other than my mom) to know that I'm seeing a therapist. I just feel like because I was in 3rd grade I never truly understood what my dad did and never got to truly express my emotions at the time and have just continued to hid them. But, is it even worth it? Because I haven't been to therapy since my parents have gotten divorced and I've been alright. Sure I've had bad days but I've managed to get over them myself. I don't want to go through all this trouble if it doesn't even matter and if I've been fine so far

How can I convince my grandmother (who is my guardian) to activate and pay my monthly phone bill (which is only $25/m)? I already get $10 each month for allowance. I'm 16 in a few months and I'll be applying for a job after I get my license. I could tell her this, but I'm worried she'll still say no. How can I get her to say yes?