Between the time that my father was 20-25 years old, he was a professional chess player and was reputable for playing very aggressively and usually taking the offense. That was the peak of his prime when it came to chess. My father stopped playing professionally after 25 years and decided to settle down for a bit, but he still practiced with chess, but he changed from an aggressive and offensive style to a more casual and cautious one. Then he's been out of practice for a while. My father is 40 years old right now and played chess against the family for the first time yesterday and beat everyone of them. My family, however, noticed that while he's still just as skilled, that he's become very rusty. My father told us that his belief is that if hypothetically, he were to play chess against his younger, former self that he would win very easily, given how differently he plays now compared to then and his years of experience. My family disagrees with this and have tried talking him out of this belief. I personally don't see the issue with my father feeling this way and wouldn't try to talk my dad out of feeling differently, since he's the expert.

My boyfriend has an EXTREMELY weird and toxic family. My bf is 27 & lives with his father & his new wife, his little brother & a friend of the family (she's close to 50) I'm 22 and currently staying on campus and its difficult for me to bring non-residents into my building & he insists that his family will be fine with me visiting. Overtime, my bf and I had sex in his room and his parents heard us *they sleep in the basement* my bf told me he needs to move bc his father pulled a chair up to the ceiling to hear us having sex & his wife began crying. Very awkward that they heard me and I'm embarrassed BUT i'm even more bothered by his father's reaction o_0. My bf proceeds to tell me disturbing things about his family such as his father watching him have sex when he was 16...and another time his dad AND his grandfather watched him have sex at 17-18. Also, the 50 year old lady that lives there is his dad's ex girlfriend... so his wife, and ex lives in the same home... it's DIFFICULT to NOT have an opinion or judgement on them. I told my boyfriend that i am NOT comfortable around his family and that I do not want to visit. He understands that they are strange but gets offended when I make those comments. I've even asked him to spare me details if he doesnt want me to judge them, the problem isn't me..It's CLEARLY the family. I know they're not going anywhere, and my bf is moving into his own place in a few weeks..How should I deal with his family moving forward?

Hello my name is Robert and Im 34 years old. I've been living in my dad's house for 4 years and I want out. Everytime I tell my Dad I'm ready to leave and move out, he tells me that if I'm going to move out, I must give him $400 dollars. I was born with a learning disability, something my Dad takes advantage of. He use to make up lies and sayvthat he needs to $150.00 to pay for his car insurance. The rent use to $350.00 a month now it's $470.00, I'm on a fixed imcome for $810.00 He tells me to never go to college, get a low paying job and to stay on ssi for the rest of my life.He tells me to work the system, and not to let the system work me. Whenever I tried to defend myself against him whenever he says or does something wrong to, he'll use a big words to justify himself because that's his Escape exit, then I'm the one that loses in the end. I've tried to move out but I can't, because I can't afford to live the way I want, because I'm going to fixed income, then I tried to apply for housing, then my father tells me suppose you don't get housing. He tells me that I have cable and that I have Netflix and he doesn't see why I should want to leave his house. Other people my age don't have their families down their neck and then I manipulative and controlling like he is. He screams and yells at me sometimes to intimidate me to keep me silent whenever I tell him the truth about himself and the things that he does. How do I deal with my father?

So im 15 and I've never went to any of my friends house. I tried convincing my parents and they just said no for no reason basically. All they do is say no and tell me to stop nagging and I wasn't even nagging. I just wanted to have a conversation where I can convince them because they don't have any reason not to let me go. I think they hate the fact that I know what to say and how to win them in this conversation so they just shut me up and when I give a comeback , I'm the one who's disrespectful. I hate how they only want me to study and focus on my future. And I do that, I get good grades and all but I want to have fun too. My friends think im lame because of that. What do you think I should do?

so yesterday my parents took my phone away because the school office told them that i was part of a group chat that has said very inappropriate things(i am 15) so my mom took my phone away to look through all my stuff which she has never done before but i am positive she saw a text with my friend where i sent him a screen recording of my snapchat my eyes only which was 3 minutes of girls nudes and my mom hasn't talked to me since she has just had a shocked look on her face whenever she sees me what should i do? ?

this is the first time out 19 year son is leaving home. he's never lived away from home for this long, but his new jobs requires you to travel quite a bit. he's going to be making more money than me! at least 60K he said. our daughter is very well skilled in cooking and can make anything under the sun but our son has been living off pizza and subway sandwhiches for years. he doesn't know how to cook. I suggested he buy groceries and learn since he will be away for so long but he said groceries cost way too much money, "i'm not about to spend all my money on food". I told him he needs to learn how to eat real food. in the 19 years he's been on this earth I've never seem to put a fruit or vegetable in his mouth. it's not as if he can't afford it.

So my brother was a past drug addict and i guess he still uses. He has not been home for a week and that worries me. My parents are divorced and i dont have contact with my dad but he is very close to my dad. I dont know if he is over there. He is online on whatsapp often but i dont communicate with him because we dont have a great relation. When he appears suddenly at home he is always on his video game and when he is done ,he goes to sleep and wakes up and goes off again for a week. He just had two break ups because of his drug use and him lying. However he has not been home for a week . Where could he be?

I heard my own father molesting my half brother when I was like 17 I am now 30 and my half brother is in his 20's he has a son who is sometimes around our father it really bothers me. My half brother mom knew that her son was being molested and did nothing but blackmail our father for what she wanted. I do not have a relationship with any of them but do talk a few times a year. I did confront our father this January in front of all of his friends, (whom is is living with at their mechanic shop no one will take him in) and all he said was I was crazy he never said it was a lie. What can I do to ensure he doesn't hurt anymore children. He never molested me as I think he only likes little boys I remember when when my parents were together and he would take my male cousin (my mother's brother son) on rides when my mom was at work and leave me at the house this is like when I was 5-6 years old.

During a family dinner party he had a few drinks but said that he should punch my 2-year old in the face because he resembles his grandfather who's my dad. My dad has been deceased for almost 30-years but my brother and father never got along over claims of being abused as a child. His comment towards my toddler made me almost splash my glass of wine in his face. This was 6-months ago and I haven't spoke with him since. It almost made me hate him. There 's a family wedding approaching this weekend and he's going to be there. What do I do?

My husbands family says hi to me and that is about it for the visit but theyve just got to hold my baby . I wish they would say more than hi then i wouldnt care so much ? I just keep talking until someone says something . Not sure what to do or just not go but my baby cries alot there so i hate for her to just go with dad ?

Every weekend my nephew and brother visits, my brother is a alcoholic but I never really got a long with him to begin with there are many times I wanted a break but one time she almost snapped and didn't let them come over one weekend, yet she says she always puts my nephew first if she did she wouldn't have did that she only says that to make herself feels better she only thinks of herself I did snapped that time but didn't really say what was on my mind, if I wanted a break it wouldn't matter so I ignore her every time she vents about him now it drives her crazy but it hurts when I feel she doesn't care about me I don't know she is just a bit fake in this situation and one day I might snap but it probably won't do anything but cause a argument she doesn't complain like she used to because I ignore it now at least. I need advice.

I'm a 13 year old guy, in 8th grade, failing Math because I don't study, always playing xbox, watching TV and staying up late to 12am. My latest report card:  F in Math, D in History, C in English.  I always thought my parents were pushovers, more so Dad than Mom, I'm the only child, never punished, just lectured. My parents talked about punishing me for bad grades, taking away TV and video games for a few weeks.  I begged them not to. Dad caved but Mom still wanted to punish me. Then I failed my latest Math and History tests and hid them. I did something even worse yesterday.  I stole $25 from my Mom's purse to buy an Xbox card and she found out today This morning my Mom and Dad were furious. She also found my failed Math and History tests.   My parents grounded me until the end of the school year!  That's 2 whole months! Grounded to my room, only allowed out for meals, bathroom, school and chores. No TV No computer No video games No phone No friends Early bedtime of 9 PM I literally cried. Mom says "Your father and I talked about it, and after you get home from school today, you're getting spanked, by both of us. On the bare butt" What?!!!  I said to her you gotta be F-ing kidding me, I'm 13 and way too old to be spanked.   Then she says "You're not too old, and now for cussing, you're getting your mouth washed out with a bar of soap too." Dad texted me at school now, a pic of his belt, a wooden spoon, and a bar of soap. Is this really going to happen?

A teacher from DD's school got a deal to visit an attraction that is usually super expensive. IMO, the discounted rate is still a pricey considering there's really not much to do. I have 2 boys who I would also be taking if I decided to go, which are a bit too young to appreciate or even pay attention to the exhibits. Furthermore, I'm not too thrilled that this teacher (who is not even DD's teacher) promised all of the students this trip without first notifying parents, then expected all the parents to go on top of that. We're extremely tight financially right now. I'm cutting into savings just to pay tuition each week. So, how is this considered a field trip when: 1) everyone in the student's family is invited, 2) the parents have to drive the child to the venue, and 3) parents have to remain and visit the exhibit as well?

help pls :( she already tried running away, father drived after her tf Ye complaining on how immature the behavor can be very nice but lik no DONT do that,need help, thats it threats goddamit, yall are grammarnatzis or somethin

Legally considered an adult? Like as soon as I show up my sibling expects me to do all the housework, help with her homework before I do mine, change my schedule to accommodate hers, and help with her bills. Then calls me a ***** if I can't keep up with everything and tell her to do something herself. If I dare make her do something for herself she cries and tells our parents, who say she never cries around them and that I must be abusing her if she sheds a single tear. I swear I will never raise such a spoiled and entitled brat

So I cook for my family everyday and my brother ( who is one year older than me) is extremely lazy... While I was cooking I asked him to do the dishes so I could have some utensils that I needed to use for cooking! And he came in loaded about two things in the dishwasher and said you need to help me ( while I was cooking for my family) I said I'm cooking and I did the dishes yesterday can you do it this time? He started yelling saying that he didn't have to do it and that I was being lazy (WHILE I WAS MAKING HIS FOOD) so I started to get pissed I said well I'm making supper you can suck it up!!! And he suddenly just started popping me with his towel. My mom came in asked what was going on and I explained everything. She having him as her mammas boy was saying, well he shouldn't have to do the dishes if he doesn't want to! At this point I was so mad I was about ready to maul my brother (who is 14) he just gave off the smug look he usually does and left the dishes for me

we dont intract much but sometimes when sth gets on ma nerves i beat her up like i mean pushing her hard , throwing some things at wall ect. like at collegue ***** teacher and others get on my nerves.ya know i cant do anything at collegue but i can at home. she makes food when im hungry and obey me cus afraid of me . when i get mad at sth i cant control maself. i am trying not and instead calm down cus it doesnt change anythin and oh my mom shes totally mad like when she was talking to my sisters friend mom she said see you dont have a job her son has job at age younger than me

Every...single...family member of mine keeps pressuring me every conversation to not stay in my girlfriend s apartment. Even if she is working somewhere else..and I am not "in her foot" even if in our current financial situation she is earning more at the moment... They keep saying that its better that I come back to my parents home and save up to rent my own place instead. I don t know what to do I am torn. I moved in with her partly to show my independence from my parents.... Yet my parents insist that I m her ***** bcuz its not my place. Because it is not my apto they say she will never respect me. Why does that have to be true ? Are women really THAT INCAPABLE of respecting a man ? If my girlfriend was living in MY place I wouldn t lose respect for her bcuz of it Yet..if I move back in with my parents.she will definitely see it as me "not showing my independence" and that will end our relationship for sure. My gf and I have been dating since University...but she was a yr ahead of me so...she started working a yr ahead of me...and thus has more savings....in the next few months I'm sure I could afford my own place too. But for the moment I thought this was the best move. She's been complaining that university has ended and our dating hasn't progressed. I'M GENUINELY TRYING NOT TO BE A CONTROLLING MAN, INSECURE ABOUT THE FACT THAT SHE EARNS MORE .... OR THE SORT OF GUY WHO OBSESSES ABOUT WHO EARNS MORE IN THE RELATIONSHIP ...BUT MY FAMILY CONSTANTLY REMINDING/PRESSURING ME ABOUT IT MAKES IT VERY HARD

I am a young man and I have 3 other brothers and a sister but everytime anything happens or ends up being broken or missing or whatever instead of my dad investigating to find out the truth as to who it was that is to blame I always get the blame no matter what I say or how much proof he has. For example: The other day my younger brother was in the living room and he left the t.v and light on and then he went to his friends house and I was in my room about to go to sleep well my dad gets up to go to the restroom and then he sees the light is on and the tv is on in the living room just as my brother left it...well he comes to my room and knocks and i open the door and he says why did you leave the light and tv on in the living room and I explain to him that it was my brother who left it on not me and he keeps arguing and saying no it was not cause he is not home and we go back and forth and I get upset so I get really angry with him for never taking my word for it or believing me....this has been going on forever and I am tired of having to feel like I am always the one to blame when things happen that I did not do. What should I do?

She asked him to turn on the AC a couple hours ago and I complained that it was still so hot. I asked if they turned on the AC or not. She instantly looked at my little brother and was about to rip his heart out! I heard my little brother say "oh". So I looked at the AC and it wasn't on. It was just the fan. I told her it was on fan only and not AC. She got so angry at him and started throwing plates and dishes at him. He kept saying sorry. I felt like it was my fault for him getting scolded. My 2nd oldest brother did this to me too. It felt like it was my fault. One time my nephew wanted to eat pizza with but my brother hit him and held his hand away from me. I felt so bad. I felt like it was my fault. My nephew looks up to me and so does his whole family. We are a small family and there is nobody to talk to if we have a fight or problems. One time my brother literally yelled at my niece because of the same thing except he started telling her she was stupid for not knowing how to navigate her email. I felt like it was my fault. How come my mom and brother did this to me? I felt like they hurt people who look up to me. I felt like leaving all of those times, but if I did it would look bad. I felt like saying sorry to my niece, nephew and little brother. I think the best thing to do is leave them, right? But they keep calling me back. My brother is always calling me like he is happy when I remember what he did to his kids in front of me and my mom still calls me like nothing happened when I remember how toxic she is. This makes my niece, nephew and brother feel guilty. I hate this feeling. What could I do to stop it? My 3rd oldest brother did this to me too. His nieces were playing with me and he yelled at them to get off me. I told him it's okay. I said I hate it when he says that to them. His face changed. He sighed and turned away. I felt so bad after that. After that time I stopped keeping in touch with my nieces. Is something wrong with me? Not going to lie my family has problems, but I can't take it anymore. I feel so hopeless and lost. My family keeps having this push and pull hate and love.

So since the middle of January, my 24 year old cousin has been staying with my family from florida because she got a job up here in Boston. When my sister isn't home from college (usually the weekdays) she stays in my sisters room but when my sister is home (weekends), she stays on my top bunk. Recently she has been annoying me since she is too nice (clearly is acting fake) and she is making my room and sisters room a mess and doesn't clean it up. last night around 11:30, i woke up to feel the bed slightly shaking and her making noises that at first i thought was her crying. then, i saw her phone screen constantly flashing colors and it vibrating constantly. i recognized that the vibrating was snapchat and the flashing lights was probably her talking pictures with the front flash on. then, the crying became more of a moaning and i could feel the bed shake still. it was then i realized she was masturbating. but this is way put me over the edge. i could hear the knobs on my bed (VERY distinctive noise) be removed from the holes. about 5 minutes later i could hear her underwear elastic band hit her stomach and the knob go back in place. i don't care what she does at her house but when you're sleeping in the bed i slept in for five years with MY mom's sheets, i don't want you doing that here. Especially when you're little cousin (i'm 13) is in the bed right under you. also when i could hear her using part of MY bed to masturbate, that's disgusting. what should i do?

Compared to her 5 brothers, who are all my biological kids, my daughter is the most dramatic and easily upset one. I don't have the same problems with my sons as I do with her. They are less argumentative, detail-oriented, moody, teary-eyed for the most part.

I thought I had a therapy appointment but it was a different date than i thought, and i was just about to get in the shower when my mom called me in her room to tell me it was a different date. I walk in with my robe and she starts laughing. I asked what, not even using a tone. She stared at me and raised her eyebrows, and i raised mine too in a confused manner and she immediately thinks i'm sassing her and says i can't go to my guitar lesson tomorrow. I do need a new pair of shoes though, and i can't afford my own so i have to ask my mom to buy them but there's tension because of that incident. i have a hard time apologizing to people too. what do i do?

My family has land abroad that is scattered around the country. The reason we have so much is because we are descended from high chiefs and some of my ancestors married rich so we have land that is ours by birthright and some that were bought throughout the years. It's always been passed down to the oldest child in the family and it's always been like that while my family was on the islands but now, we live in the US. I have a HUGE family, w/ more than 25 first cousins. Now that we're all from the US, none of us have citizenship in our native country EXCEPT for that ONE cousin. She's the only one out of all 25+ cousins and 7 aunts and uncles who was born there and has kept her citizenship. My mom is the oldest of my grandpa's kids so she was traditionally supposed to inherit everything but since she doesn't have citizenship nor do I, it skipped everybody and went to my cousin. This angered us (my immediate family and myself) as this isn't how it was supposed to go. My mom still tells me that those lands are mine and I'm the rightful heir not her. She's trying to find loopholes to get everything back to her. But when she does my uncles and aunts tell her "our dad told everyone including you, that *my cousin* is the only one who can do anything to them" and tell her that she needs to ask PERMISSION from my cousin in order to touch the lands. Which was degrading because my mom is the oldest, and she is older than my cousin. -to be continued- My cousin is 19 and my mom is already in her 40s which is why i think it's extremely degrading for her to have to ask permission. Especially when everything was supposed to be hers. But everyone else in the family seems to be on my cousins side since my granddad named her his heir. BUT he HAD to since she's the only one who was actually born there in our family. And to add on a little, there are clans on the islands and it just happened that her clan from her moms side is a major clan over there So I was thinking even if my mom managed to get back our inheritance, the people who live on those lands would probably still prefer my cousin over us because 1) she's native born 2) she's from a well known clan over there and 3) her moms side is also a chiefly family. I'm only chiefly from my mom but she gets it from both her parents. But none of that matters if we find a way and it legally becomes ours right? The law is the law. I'm sorry for ranting I need to let it out

My school is having a book fair event tomorrow. I want to buy the new diary of a wimpy kid book (diary of an awesome friendly kid), which I think is $10. My mom won't let me take more than $10 for the book fair, but I want to. She uses the excuse "You'll lose it" even though I will be responsible and watch for my money. Plus, it comes from MY allowance, and she will ground me for a month if she catches me taking MY extra money. That's unfair. I would rather have her ground me for losing the money than for taking extra money. I have $3 in my lunchbox that I can use for $13, but I wanted $20. She is being unfair and unreasonable. I am 13 and she is babying me. My friends won't give me extra money. How can I convince her to let me take extra money, or how can I sneak extra money in? My book fair is tomorrow, so answer now if you are going to answer.

My daughter walked the other night because of my wife being abusive. She is 26. She wasn't answering my calls as well as her mother's but she finally answered my call. I see she just wants to do everything her way and doesn't want anybody telling her what to do but I'm her father so I'm always going to give sound advice. I told her she's been substitute teaching for 3 years and needs to get a job that's harder and actually teaches you a skill. She didn't spend all those years studying in college to get a degree and then not even use it.she got a degree in communications she needs to do some type of writing job not substitute teaching oh and subs get paid extremely low. She said it's hard to find a writing job that pays well but she's trying. She said she will need to move to New York most likely for the writing. She shouldn't want to be a sub forever. All she does is pass out busy work to the kids and call roll. And she sits for 8 hours. It's not good to sit around all day. And my daughter was like " uh what do you think writers do they sit around all day. You're literally sitting at a desk all day writing and then go home and sit and write some more." I was like " I don't think they sit all day. And the chairs in the classroom are probably hard" and she was like " my chairs are actually very comfortable and made of cushion. Point is I'm working. A job is a job. You complain too much. This is why I shouldn't have answered my phone

I told my mother that I was going to get a tattoo over the weekend and she's all like "well this is my house, once you get your own house, you can do whatever you want to your body" but i'm like, "that has nothing to do with how I take care of my body and that's you treating me like I'm your property". What's your stance on this? Do you agree more with me? Or my mother?

My sisters and I have a history of putting our money together to get a larger gift for people. However, my sisters do nothing but stress me out. I come up with many gift ideas for my parents, and all they ever do is tell me I have horrible ideas, and mom and dad will hate it. My gf has questioned why they always do this to me, and I have no explanation because my sisters are controlling. I try to talk to my parents about this, but they just tell me to stop being a baby. I cant just let this go though. It really hurts that my sisters do this to me, and nobody cares. Any advice? Is this supposed to be this stressful?

My dad asked me to switch his laundry over for him and I refused, so he said that he wouldn't buy me a dress for the formal at school. I really didn't want to because I went from school to the doctor to dance then home.

My son says he's in trouble for playing with the kindergarteners, but was not bullying or teasing them. There must be more to the story. I'm only hearing it from my son right now. The supervision aid or recess monitor put him on time out. However, a few years back, my friend's daughter had the same problem. Her daughter came home crying often, saying she's forced to break up friendships with girls who are much younger than she is. My friend never went to the school because her daughter got over it, since she went off to middle school a few months later. This happened at the same school that my son is at right now. She had similar teachers as my son at the time.

My parents are giving all their inheritance and their house to my autistic brother

Kids look up to their aunts, uncles, and grandparents too, whether parents like it or not. I disapprove of how they normally act. For example, name-calling and bullying each other. My children are at the stages of early childhood where they're only just beginning to know what's right from wrong. Relatives can have a big impact on the child, especially since we live close by and their cousins attend the same school with my older one.

My Grammy passed away yesterday morning. She suffered a massive stroke earlier this month. This past week she significantly declined. I tried to take every opportunity that I could to visit her in the nursing home. The week before she died I did a fair amount of crying. It would hit at random times. I got to say goodbye to her at least three times. Now that shes gone I can see that I'm searching for her. Looking at photos of her multiple times a day. Feeing so sad and alone. There are times where I may seem like I'm perfectly normal. I seem distracted, and I'm having a hard time completing tasks( that has been a minor issue before now its definitely an issue). Is there any healthy way to cope with this? I thought id be crying hysterically and I feel horrible that I'm not. Thanks in advance

My cousin has autism with an IEP, so she's allowed extended test time as well as being in an isolated room away from her peers. I found out that she copies down all the test questions to take them home. She uses an app that tells her the answers (or Google). Her parents seem proud that she appears to be improving in her academics. I know it's not the reality, and she'd be failing 2 specific courses if it weren't for cheating. The thing is, she's one of those students that are a teacher's favourite and you simply cannot imagine her cheating. But she told the truth to me at a family gathering and I saw her doing it too.

My son is 20 years old. He's severely autistic and nonverbal. He needs me to dress him up and give him a bath, but he can independently sit on the toilet, walk or run in the garden, play with our dog and so on. In these 20 years I've understood his needs by the expressions on his face and also by the body language he has learnt at school so far. He usually tries to imitate the birds' singing or he just simply screams when he's sad, angry or having a melt down, but recently he keeps saying a world like "mama" when he wants to go in the garden. I've talked to his doctor about this and he says that there's not much possiblity for a nonverbal autistic person to learn how to speak after the age of 15/16. But I just can't believe him or I don't want to believe him. At least I think my son is trying to learn how to speak.

And why? what would be your reason?

My daughter walked the other night because of my wife being abusive. She is 26. She wasn't answering my calls as well as her mother's but she finally answered my call. I see she just wants to do everything her way and doesn't want anybody telling her what to do but I'm her father so I'm always going to give sound advice. I told her she's been substitute teaching for 3 years and needs to get a job that's harder and actually teaches you a skill. She didn't spend all those years studying in college to get a degree and then not even use it.she got a degree in communications she needs to do some type of writing job not substitute teaching oh and subs get paid extremely low. She said it's hard to find a writing job that pays well but she's trying. She said she will need to move to New York most likely for the writing. She shouldn't want to be a sub forever. All she does is pass out busy work to the kids and call roll. And she sits for 8 hours. It's not good to sit around all day. And my daughter was like " uh what do you think writers do they sit around all day. You're literally sitting at a desk all day writing and then go home and sit and write some more." I was like " I don't think they sit all day. And the chairs in the classroom are probably hard" and she was like " my chairs are actually very comfortable and made of cushion. Point is I'm working. A job is a job. You complain to much. This is why I shouldn't have answered my phone "

I am actually pretty certain that he is, because his iCloud accidentally merged with my photos when we traded phones and a ton of nude pictures of his coworker showed up. I went on facebook and found her profile and they are still coworkers and she is very pretty and has an amazing body and even though I haven't brought it up to him that I seen the photos and know what is going on... His wife is not very pretty but she is a very nice girl and I really do feel bad for her and I feel like if she were to find out about this coworker it would probably do some major self esteem damage. Again my brother doesn't know that I have seen these photos, and that I know about her. What should I do? They have 3 small children together, one being a newborn. thank you either answer the question or I will report your account for saying mind your own business.