Please help me out here because I don't know if too much is expected of me here or if I'm just being an unsociable ******. My gf's family speak little to no English. She's Polish and I'm Irish. So when we visit her home town (which I avoid at all costs) there's a lot of slow translated conversation and me just sitting there not knowing what's going on. I hate it. They're nice people. They're very hospitable. And I actually enjoy being around them for short periods. But after a while it's pretty tedious and I like to get away and just spend time on my laptop or doing something else. However she gets annoyed with me and I keep getting requests to go back and join them. I've told her what I hate about it but she keeps on with the pressure to join them anyway. What would you do in my situation?

in my eighth grade year i stayed at my dads house for family reasons. my dad always has jealousy issues growing up with my mom and i, then they got divorced and things took a turn. he's so jealous now, says i don't love him, says i make excuses to not be with him. everything i say, as little as telling him i got into an argument with my friend and explaining both sides , he tries to go against me, say it's "my fault", always gets suspicious, i tell him about my day and i make it extra detailed, but he just responds with "ohhhh" and "hmmmm" like um! he has problems talking to people also, he is super socially awkward and talks to people with little to no response. he threatens to take my phone away and says he doesn't care anymore because i want to spend time with my mom. i've noticed when i'm with my mom i can be myself, with my dad i'm constantly criticized and judged with his conservative mindset. he never looks at what he can fix as a person, only what i do wrong, which is rarely anything. he says he's cancelling my phone bill if i don't visit him, but i don't visit him in the first place because he hurts my mental health. who's wrong?

Ok sorry if this is too weird. I feel my younger brother has been acting quite touchy-feely with me for a while now, and I find it hard to tell what's appropriate and what's not. He's 12 and I'm 16 btw. He's nice usually but just says some strange suggestive things in conversation and sometimes acts very intimate. I just don't know what's normal for siblings and what's like really bad, there's such a fine line. Even saying this makes me feel so uncomfortable tbh. I don't want to embarrass him by saying something, but I don't want him to 'cross the line' and for something bad to happen. Sorry if this was just way too weird.

My grandmother called me to ask me what my kids were wearing yesterday. I'm in my house and can provide for. my kids. My mother is the same way asking me where my kids are at and what are we doing. It's becoming a habit them calling and coming to my house unexpectedly. Walking in my house without knocking and can't stay away from my house. As a kid my grandmother was and. Is controlling slamming doors in my face, turning the tv up, and no kind of emotional support. My mother takes her anger out on me and my sister's. I had to move her out because it doesn't matter what you. do for her it's never good enough she makes threats and belittles. me. I'm 30 in my own home .. I pay my bills and this with my family has me over the edge

Whenever he doesn't win he yells so loud that it hurts my ears. He blames me for making him die in his game. Does anyone else have this problem? How do you handle it?

Can someone explain sibling rivalry to me? I am an only child so that concept is totally foreign to me. My husband has 2 brothers and they always try to out do the other. If one get something, the other 2 try to get a bigger and/or a better or more expensive one. No matter what it is they will waste a lot of money trying to out do the other. This makes no sense to me. Why do they do that?

I'm 9 months pregnant (due in 2 weeks) I told my Daughter she's having a baby brother and my MIL didn't like that. She prefers until the baby is born and until he's born she says I have 3 kid's instead of 4.

So I've been dating this girl for a couple of months and idk how t help her out her family are really shitty people they all tell her how she's a mistake and that she should kill herself. I'm sure how I can help her because her sister's husband rape her once a few weeks ago and she tried going to her parents but they didn't believe her and forced her to delete all the text messages he used to Harras her the night he went into her room and raped her they live together and she's scared of him but nobody believes her the closest person to her was her aunt but she said that it was her own fault for that. If I try to say anything to cops or anybody her parents said they'll send her to a Christian all girls school either in another state or in another country. We're from the us and we live in texas and idk how I can help her she's forced to see that bastard every day bc they live together. She's a minor and I am too so there's only so much we can do we don't know what to do. Someone help me help her what should I do?? My gf still cares about her family and don't want any harm to happen to them but I can't just stand here and do nothing about thisnknowing how badly her family treats her and what horrible experience she has with that bastard and is forced to see him every day. Her told my gf to not get cops involved that he doesnt have papers and has a family and that she shouldn't ruin that bc of her "seducing him"

I have a brother who is 15. Tonight I woke up in the middle of the night and was having a hard time falling back asleep so I went to the kitchen to get a glass of water. While I was there, I saw my younger brother dressed like he was going out somewhere. It was about 1 am so I asked what he was doing awake and dressed. He told me that he was going to see a girl and he was just about to head out. I told him he should stay home because it was way past curfew. He left anyways. I don't really know what I should do. I feel like this is something that, if I don't tell my parents and they find out I knew, I could get in a lot of trouble. I'm kind of tired so I was thinking that maybe I should just tell them that way they can figure it out and I can go back to bed instead of waiting up for my brother to be sure that he's ok. What do you all think?

My son is out of control, he doesn't respect the curfew nor respects my rules. I can tell him, I want you here by 6pm and he'd be "Yes, mom." But I stay up til 12am waiting for him. On school nights, I have told him a million times to not do that, because I worry and second is school night. He doesn't argue or tell me a reason he just stares at me smiling and replies with a simple. "Sorry, mom." He doesn't tell me where he goes and at first I didn't ask him because I wanted to give him some privacy, but now that I look through his stuffs I found syringes and needles in his underwear drawer. They weren't used, they're new. Also found a stash of cash, money that I know I didn't give him. I first tough he was doing drugs, but he has never come home high, or strange not he haves marks on his arms. At least nowhere visible for me. But I am worried. He has always respected me and now is like he doesn't care and doesn't get mad if I call him out.

I wanted to go to a museum for so long then in the morning while I were sleeping my mom, dad and brother went to a museum without me, the museum me and my brother were gonna go to. This isn't the first time this happens. I'm always the one wanting our family to bond and do something cause they never go out but when they do it's always without me. I asked my dad why and he said "Because you dont fit in with us". I dont know why they do this and it makes me so sad. My dad is definitely a narcissist so I'm wondering if this is common among them? To exclude and only put down one family member

My whole entire life, I've always felt that I've needed to do certain things in order to be at ease and impress my family. I've realized that over the years that it wasn't making me happy, and I'm more happier making certain decisions for myself and for the sake of my happiness. I feel as if they could care less, and I don't feel like I could do anything right. My mom tends to guilt me for not doing enough when I'm already doing the max, and with that even when I'm at fault she first tells me how awful I am, then overreacts and doesn't listen to a word I say after she screams at me, then cries and says 'what did I do wrong?' She already knows she's an above and beyond mom. When my mom was moving with her boyfriend, she never once asked me how I felt about it instead she just said I'm leaving. Meanwhile I was in the middle of my last year of community college before transferring. She knew how I felt yet she didn't care. The same was when I was trying to reason with her on Christmas Eve, and she was constantly telling me how much I'm not doing enough and how I need to change. I work everyday, I graduated High School, received my associates, bachelors, and I was fortunate to get a good job. I'm also supporting myself by not asking anyone for help. None of that seems good enough for my family, and I don't know what do do.

dreamt i fought my sister and left home mad and i never went back

I'm a 25 year autistic Male and I want to live independently from my caregivers. My mom sent me to go live with a couple in another state. I told my mom on the phone I want to better myself and live by myself and get a job to support myself. My mom might give me some money to start off with, my mom makes a lot of money

look i have job and im trying to get out. telling me to stop being a stupid loser is not good criticism. or tellling me get laid isnt useful either. hasnt happened and doesnt matter to me anymore. my psychology on sex is compromised/compartmentalized. they do occasional "surviallent" behvior too, which worries me. and the goals are speculative fiction and philsophy.

My mom and dad are married for 20 years but it seems like dad hasn't been in our family from his heart. My parents had lots of difficulties in their marriage but from my perspective everything worked out great. This time it's different. Yesterday, my mom's sister wanted my dad's car to go to another city because one of her friends had a baby shower. But my dad yelled at her and didn't give the car. Then my mom and happy a few months ago (i made them forgive each other). But they aren't now. My mom's family is so strong together, they always help each other when they need something emotionally or financially. My grandparents, my aunt,my uncles and mom didn't have to help him . Everyone could just stick to their lives but since he is in the family they decided to help him for me and mom (i actually feel guilty for that). When mom starts to talk to him about his ungratefulness, he goes crazy. He doesn't even try to apologise to us. Normally, i used to hate the idea of 'my parents getting divorced' but now i'm the person who wants it most. The negative energy in our house sucks a lot from me and mom. I can't stand watching my mom getting sick in front of me everyday. But she still wants to give a chance to my dad so they won't get divorced. My dad didn't grow up in a family like hers. He never got his way beacuse he had 7 siblings. They were poor and now some of them died, the living ones have their own poor family and nobody's seeing each other.

My sister is 16 years old and has recently been going out to hangout with friends every weekend, which is fine, but I found out that one weekend she wasn't where she was supposed to be. She told me she was with a boy and that he was about 26 years old, and that they had slept together. A few weeks have went by and I now know that he's actually 34, as if him being 26 wasn't already bad enough, and I found out that the weekend that they hung out my sister's friend's family had kicked him out of the house after realizing that he had meth on him. Rumors have circled around school that my sister had told a friend that she had tried it but I don't have any solid proof and I want to believe her when she says that she hasn't but she's lost my trust. (She was drug tested by my older brother but it had been weeks later so it came back negative) On top of that, this guy has several drug and domestic violence charges against him.

Hi guys, I had recently took in a friends 10 year old son and he has an older sister who is 22 and recently moved back to the town we live in. My friend had abused her children (I was surprised, she was so sweet when they came over and she was so sweet to them) and she had been arrested and lost custody of her son. I'm letting his sister stay with us because it seems to comfort him a lot. He has a lot of nightmares, he had been recently diagnosed with anxiety and depression. To my question, he always sits on his sisters lap, he always cuddles with her, he falls asleep on her shoulder every night. I think it might be separation anxiety, I have an appointment for him with a therapist very soon. He also cries a lot, he always goes to his sister. I just don't want him to get overlyattached to her, i'm not sure what to do, he's such a sweet boy and both didn't deserve what they went through.

He fixed my phone the first time, but I m worried he won t this time. I can tell he s fed up with me, and I can tell he doesn t think I should have a phone in the first place. We re not struggling financially, either. Worse, I m youngest, and for me, that means more eyes on me, more pressure. I really don t want to make him mad again. He doesn t take emotion well, either. Crying means more yelling, and yelling means more crying. I really need help.

I'm a 25 year old autistic Male and I want to know some life tips to better myself

To make a long story short, my aunt blamed me for breaking her 3 fu*king glass up. First, I didnt even break them cuz what would I gain from. Second, I was in rage when I I accidentally break her first one due to arguring with my stepdad about who been leaving their leftover dishes in skin. Third, I'm da only one who wash the dishes cuz my aunt is hella petty about wash dishes that isn't hers n she doesn't even help around the even tho my mom n step dad let her into our home I mean sure my aunt work n help my parents out with little bills but that dat give her the right to make a mess in someone house n expect her sister children to clean up after u even tho my mom doesn't ask my aunt daughter to anything cuz she know that isn't her daughter. Ugh, I nothing again my cousin cuz we cool with each other, but her mom is annoying always go out to n come back that next morning or day then make mess at home n not cleaning up after herself. I love my aunt but I hate how she expect other to clean up after her n not help out with little things like buy detergent or help pick up my little brother at school. She so petty ugh.

I've been modeling since age 14 , i am now 18 , im now realizing acting is my calling and i want to go with my gut , i feel as though my parents would be disappointed because they just want their babygirl in college ,i was told that i can always go back to school, but I cannot go back to my youth , i know it wont just be given to me if i move to L.A but it'll definitely help ! Im taking acting classes and workshops .

Before I start, A condom was used (Broke) and next morning we got Plan B.. My Story I live with my grandmother and my girlfriend in a Senior Campus as my grandmother needs the 24/7 access to someone more than what she currently has.. I have been here about a month or so at this point.. My girlfriend is almost 2 months pregnant I believe, we have yet to go into a clinic.. Now for the fun about my parents, I havnt talked to my mother in person since my birthday (Last november) when her husband accused me of smoking weed before picking up my little sister (At the time I had been arrested 7 months earlier for it and hadnt smoked since) so when that happened I jumped to defend myself and it ended with me cussing her out for believing her husband (Who is abusive and lied to her about this kind of crap plenty of times) over me. I saw her at Christmas at my grandmothers, but I didnt talk to her.. My father on the other hand, tried the same thing over and over with me about school, it didnt work and he gave up recently.. I dropped out of highschool for the remainder of my Junior year, but I intend fully (Still after about 2 months) to return next year.. He himself has told me that he "Doesnt care" what I do with my life anymore.. If i get into trouble its my fault... This is my fathers 3rd grand kid, my grandmother's 1st great grandchild and my mothers 1st grandchild I know I seriously ****** up with this, I just wanna do whatever I can in my future to give my kid a good life

my parents don't allow me to do ANYTHING they have codes on my phone so all I can do is answer phone calls & texts, it feels like I'm not allowed to make my own decisions in life & whenever I'm grumpy about it or try to talk about it they think I'm being snooty and bratty about it and I end up making my mom sad and angry cause I've "haven't said anything nice to her in the last3 days" I don't want this to be our relationship from now on but I don't want to have no freedom either...any suggestion?

in my eighth grade year i stayed at my dads house for family reasons. my dad always has jealousy issues growing up with my mom and i, then they got divorced and things took a turn. he's so jealous now, says i don't love him, says i make excuses to not be with him. everything i say, as little as telling him i got into an argument with my friend and explaining both sides , he tries to go against me, say it's "my fault", always gets suspicious, i tell him about my day and i make it extra detailed, but he just responds with "ohhhh" and "hmmmm" like um! he has problems talking to people also, he is super socially awkward and talks to people with little to no response. he threatens to take my phone away and says he doesn't care anymore because i want to spend time with my mom. i've noticed when i'm with my mom i can be myself, with my dad i'm constantly criticized and judged with his conservative mindset. he never looks at what he can fix as a person, only what i do wrong, which is rarely anything. who's wrong?

Yesterday when I was going out my mom complained about my outfit that she bought me and said she never wants to lose me and that it's her biggest fear. But then today I forgot my charger at my friends house and I didn't want to walk a hour back there then back again because that's just a long time of walking. So I asked to borrow my moms and she got upset and threw her 2 chargers in my face went out slammed the door came back yelled at me some more then threw the box at my face and said she was about to leave my brother and I. She said that I don't love her and that I hate her and don't care about her and started to cry and scream at me for 2 hours she does this often and I wonder if she's bipolar because her mom has it. But she often calls me a b*tch, worthless, and many other things. And I know this seems silly but I just seem lost and want to die because of it because I know I hurt her and yesterday when she asked for a hug I gave her one and then toady I apparently just gave her one to shut her up and that it wasn't a real hug. She tells me that she cries because of me but I don't do anything to her and I've tried to talk to her countless times buy her something nice write a 5 letter apology but nothing seems to work when I try to comfort her she always tells me to get away from her I just seem lost some people tell me to tell the police but she's only hit me 1-5 times what do I do just to make everything better because I'm just lost. I've also tried to clean the house before but we don't really ever make a mess so there isn't a lot to clean up My biological father divorced my mom and lives far away. My stepdad and my mom are divorcing and he only has a really small apartment only one bedroom.

My grandmother on my father's side was always viewed as a plague that just hovered around and who everyone 'put up' with based on obligation. For the majority of her life my grandmother lived two houses up from my cousins yet nobody ever visited her and when she'd go down to their house they'd all roll their eyes because she'd rattle on the same stories it got to the point that they point blank asked her why she was there and told her to go home. Fast forward to 2 years ago now, her health deteriorated quickly after her brother passed away. One day my mom gets a called from my grandmothers sister asking if they'd heard anything from her because she couldn't reach her sister, my mom & aunt go to my grandmothers house once again 2 houses up from were my aunt lives and find her sitting at the edge of the bed in a filthy diaper unable to recognize anyone with her house infested with bedbugs and covered in human waste. Fast forward to the hospital, my grandmother laid there rambling thinking she was being listened to well everyone there besides me talked among themselves like she wasn't even fckin' there. Then at her funeral they all acted torn apart by her passing, someone they treated like a plague, made into a joke and ignored to the point she ended up dehydrated fading away in her own filth. I'm so pssed about the entire situation, they still act like they actually loved her. When if she was still alive she'd be the stubborn racist old bat who told the same stories. I had no part of knowing the situation, I live far away from my grandmother and had no a form of transportation. I'm not referring to her as a stubborn racist old bat' that is how everyone else saw her.

I don't think males and females could truly have a special strong bond with each other. I just don't see how a male and female could have a bond with each other (especially a romantic bond), since females are a lot more emotional and empathic and compassionate than males are, and thus females are able to connect better to other females than they are to males, and also males and females are very different psychically and mentally from each other. So most females like to be around other females a lot more than they do around males. I'm pretty sure most daughters have a very strong bond with their mother, while they don't have one with their father. And I'm pretty sure most sons don't have that strong of a bond with neither their mother nor their father.

So firstly, I always try my hardest to be nice to his mother and family in general. I don't hate her, but I don't necessarily agree with some things that she does. She tends to be a bit of a petty person and can be a bit over dramatic at times. I went over to my boyfriend's house recently and while I was over she headed to a friend's house to grab something. All of his brothers and sisters were home and his house is very small so we thought that it'd be okay if I just stepped into his room for a moment so he could show me something. He plays bass and wanted to play a song for me, so I sat on his floor and in the doorway (it's a straight shot from the living room and his sister and her friend could clearly see us). My boyfriend had been told before that I'm not allowed in his room, but I was in the doorway and we weren't planning or taking place in doing anything remotely sexual. My boyfriend's mom came home and looked at the both of us and got so angry that she asked me to call my mother to come pick me up. I did as I was told and called her reluctantly and my mother drove to get me. I let her know that she was on her way and she replied with a snooty "thank you," which rubbed me the wrong way. I left and she later spoke to my boyfriend and sounded very disappointed. Times before this she had overreacted to small things that my boyfriend had done and made some comments about me. What should I do?