I am going to put this anonymous so my parents don't see. My brother does not live here. He is older then me and moved far away. As a result when he comes to town twice a year my Dad takes time off work and showers him with special attention. Anything he did negative was excused cause he was not close as a kid cause of his mother and thus my Dad is making up. They just went to Ireland and London together and got back Thursday. My brother goes home tomorrow. Meanwhile my two sisters and I don't get any of that. We are from Dad's 2nd marriage (our parents are still married) and we never get special attention. When we are hurting emotionally by something are father tells us to grow up or "let it go" and shoots down our feelings. This brother can talk all he wants about his pain especially cause he only is around two times a year usually. He will be here next at Christmas. I am sure he and my father will go on an extravaganza trip after Christmas holiday is over. I am a young adult so don't want to be whiny like a 6 year old. I am 23. However, this really hurts me. I am very jealous of this brother and it makes me not like him. It is a shame cause this brother is a very nice person and I'd otherwise like him a lot. He is single and likely always will be (he has learning disabilities that made him need to go to specialized schools but is normal functioning. I have the same thing). How do I get over this? I can't tell our Dad or I will seem immature especially cause he saw us everyday as kids whereas this brother lived with his mother who made visits difficult until she died 6 years ago.

I am an adult but it still hurts so much more when my parents flaws show. I expect so much more of them. My father is very ignorant of people who are different (including me) and my mother is very judgmental of family. Also both parents are too quick to hold grudges against extended family which hurt me greatly as a kid when I was used as a pawn in two feuds. That trauma ultered who I became. Otherwise they are good parents.

I don't think she hates the people, she just dislikes them. She dreads with tremble her daughter-in-law visiting with her son and their two kids. It is to the point of serious dislike for her son's own wife. It is all cause their etiquette is not the best. She insults her other daughter-in-law behind her back cause of the daughter-in-law's parenting style and cause her daughter in law does not work from home. The son in law my Mom likes. Meanwhile, my mother criticizes many other people more and more with my Mom's aging and she is only 67. I fear she will turn on me, especially cause my mind runs a hundred thousand miles a second and so I am talkative (as a kid they called it ADHD).

Our Mom died and we have different Dad's. This brother is now 12 years older and at 27 I don't think he is a risk. Our Mom died of cancer in 2013 and that is when I saw this brother last. He was on drugs then but apparently is 3 years sober his step-brother (from his other parent) who I know reports. So do I take the chance and see him at a restaurant? I'd be with my Dad who runs the restaurant. I don't want to spend the whole weekend with him but he is here in my hometown and feel I should reach out. I did not see him the last two times when he was still a risk and only contact has been "Merry Christmas, hope you have a good birthday also" posted on his Facebook each year at Christmas time.

In WWII my grandpa was a Marine. He and my grandma met in high school. After he enlisted in the Marines,the day right after Pearl Harbor he went to war. He fought in Guadalcanal and in the pacific. After he returned stateside he enrolled at our local university and became a gp. then they got married,had kids.. Grandma died in 2000. Since grandpa was a Marine in WWII he would sometimes get interview about his service and his life. I've noticed several times that on different interviews when talking about her he would say " she was a great girl,we had a 54 years honeymoon...and I think she finally took as much of me as she could and checked out" then he kinda laughed. It was abittersweet laugh. Other times he said about her " I went to medical school,struggled thru that,married a wonderful girl. Leukemia terminated our marriage. I guess it was her way of telling me she had enough of me" and again,a bittersweet laugh. Why do you think he was kinda laughing? Grandpa died in 2015. I hope they're finally together now. The second part of the question is: I'm 26 and no girlfriend. Will I ever find a girl that likes me? I try going out but no girl seems to like me

We have been together for 4 and a half years and although I've never really seen eye to eye with his parents, we have always been civil. Recently, his parents and I have had a disagreement which has got very out of hand. I will admit that I am not fully innocent however I feel the majority of the problem has been caused by them. My partner is upset, and feels he is stuck in the middle so I thought I'd extended an olive branch to them to try and resolve for his sake. They have declined this suggestion along with saying that I am not welcome at their home, they don't want to see me, if my partner ever proposes to me they will not give them their blessing and will not attend the wedding and a lot of other nasty comments towards me. I am shocked at how they have behaved and really do not want to see them again. My boyfrjend is non confrontational and I feel he hasn't stuck up for me. They have also coddled him and controlled him his full life and I believe he is frightened of them and will do anything to please them. We are private renting at the moment but had plans to buy a house and start a family which he says he still wants to do. He still wants to be with me and wants to see his parents also (I would never stop him seeing them) I'm just worried that we'll forever be arguing over his parents, especially when we buy a house/have children and they'll probably miss out a lot as I'd want to see as little of them as possible, preferable not at all. Any advice is appreciated.

Ok so I'm a 25 year old autistic Male and my mom sent me to go live with a couple about one week ago and I'm not sure what to call them when speaking to them

You think they are trying to get fresh together or something? I would hope My daughter would be respectful enough not to have sex in MY home. She said she wouldn't have sex in our home and that she's a virgin I hope she's not lying. She said she just wants privacy to watch tv with him. It's normally only me in the house because my wife works in the evenings and my other son was somewhere with his friends. I always get off early so i'm always at home whenever her boyfriend comes over. He comes over normally when I pick her up from work( she doesn't know how to drive) She has not moved out yet because she only gets paid 1,000 a month. I'm pushing her to get a better paying job so she can afford to move out. The boyfriend lives with his mother as well. Her boyfriend comes over about 3 times a week and she cooks dinner a lot for him and entertains him as you would company. My daughter said she has a friend living at home who is 29 and her parents leave the house when she has company. I told her the parents must be incredibly lenient then.

As a kid I was convinced I caused my Mom and Dad divorced cause of me. My mother brainwashed us against our Dad and told is if he loved is then he would have treated her better. I believed her and hated my Dad. As a teen I realized what my Mom was doing to me and got closer to my father. Meanwhile, my mother maintains she divorced him to protect us from their marital problems. Long story short, 30 years later I feel profound guilt for how I treated my father until I was age 15 and guilt for causing my Mom to have to protect me and thus leave him. Most the time she does not believe in divorce and so it was an extreme case (thanks to me). How do I un-convince myself of my guilt? I am in therapy and just looking for additional ideas. I have a number of issues I am in therapy for but this is the PTSD related one (the others are anxiety disorders and some depression).

I am having a family reunion at a park this year. It will be all my Dad's family and instead of just the close family (my aunts-uncle and 1st cousins and my Dad's close cousins) I am also having his 2nd cousins and invited a few 3rd cousins I tracked down. I invited 121 people but I suspect about 35 to 50 will come. What are activities that will make people want to come back next time? Especially wondering how to attract the teenage and young adult 1st cousins. Most then have replied that they will not be able to make it but for future years I am wondering. Also games for little kids who have no choice but to come. Lastly it is in a park so if it is pouring down rain what do I do? Went to one in the pouring rain on my Mom's side of the family and despite it being indoors it was still about 21 people only out of 87 invited. The cousin of my mother's who was hosting it was let down and it was rather boring after an hour or so. Didn't help that all everyone talked about was "what a terrible turn out compared to last time" and "what horrible weather this summer" as well as when Aunt Wendy will die what kind of funeral will they have. Aunt Wendy died since. Any ideas? It is late June in Pennsylvania,

Me and hubby lives in his grandmother s house. She is a very nice woman. My brother in law also lives in this same house and he is n obnoxous person, taking drugs, no job, useless in the hous etcetera. Their uncle wanted him kicked out of the house but the granny stopped him cos he doesnt want his grandson to be on the streets.The worse he does is bully their grandmother. So granny always complains to me about the things he did. While ago i got into argument with her cos shes complaining again but she didnt like what the police told his grandson that the police once he imprisoned him, the police will throw away the key. I got pissed off with granny so i told her if she doesnt like any means of dealing with his grandson then she should rather keep all her complaints to herself cos she never listens. So basicaly she let him become the monster he is now. Was I wrong for acting that way?

Our bathroom door has two openings and one can only be locked from outside. Nobody has ever walked in on me using the bathroom except him, and today's the 4th time. The lamp ventilation is super loud and light always shines through. Idk why he does this but it really makes me angry. How to I make him understand to use his ******* senses so this dosent happen again?

It was the evening of my 18th birthday just a few days ago. All went well until the evening. I had just finished eating dinner and mom was becoming a bit agitated about the fact that dad was not paying attention to the fact that I had not yet taken my medications. They were sitting on the table waiting for me to take them since I put them there before dinner. I was intending to take them before I left the table but thought I'd finish my conversation with Dad first. Meanwhile, mom interrupted the conversation between me and Dad asked him if he was paying attention to the fact that I wasn't focused on taking my medications. At that moment I got up from the table and yelled at her telling her that she was being disrespectful and insensitive by not telling me directly to take my meds. I subsequently told her to "get out of my life!" and screamed at her. She immediately left the house, without acknowledging that anything she did was wrong, drove away and she has since been gone for 3 days. I know dad has given her a hard time in the past and been negligent at times and so normally I side with my mom and stick up for her, given that she's right most of the time. But on this occasion both dad and I agreed she was in the wrong. She has not acknowledged this and in addition is not answering calls or messages. I know I overreacted in a huge way and it spoiled my birthday, but I don't think Mom is entirely in the right either. I'm now 18 after all. What are your thoughts?

I m his sister btw, my brother and I are 10 years apart, and aren t close. He s 24 and will be moving to New York, which is far from where I live. I was thinking of visiting him in the summer maybe. our relationship is complicated, like I ve went out with him maybe three times, we don t text, I m very close with my two sisters though. What moves should i make to strengthen and "normalize" the relationship?

When I was 15, my dad made me work for the "family business" (Shrooms).I'd clean boxes, empty containers into nets for them to dry, do "mixes", dry soil, and carry boxes from room to room, which were heavy by the way. Not a clean job. He told me he'd pay me, and he payed me $5 for every box that I cleaned. The time it took me varied, I usually earned like $10 an hour. But then after a while, I didn't want to work for my parents anymore, so I told them I didn't want to work. They told me if I didn't want to work, I'd have to give up school sports and other extra curricular activities. They said I'd have to give up my cat (they were giving me money to take care of my cat, and my cat's diabetic which makes it more expensive). They told me I would wouldn't be allowed to drive anymore. They also told me I wasn't allowed to get a job. They gave me a "pay raise" (increase from $10 to about $20 an hour). Eventually they had my sister working when she turned 15. I was getting tired of working everyday, I didn't like it, so when I turned 17, I left the situation (and took my cat). The school helped me escape, because my parents tried coming after me. Now I live with my brother, and basically my parents disowned me and took my sister and moved to another town (they don't like me anymore). When they were having me work, would that have been considered human trafficking? This is a rough description of the situation. What's your opinion?

As I was growing up I always realized that my dad never had friends ... I know for a fact that he dosent engaged with the rest of our family and he dosent appear to care , also I have notice that he dosent usually dosent change topics in his conversations he never leaves his room Is he autistic ?

He is a liar but he is my Dad so I cannot ground him or anything like that.

Most of my life they were not in my life. This could be because of how abusive my mom could have been. Of course, them being my older brothers I have no idea what they have been through. its all mouth and words only. my brothers haven't stopped by too often, but when they do they often criticize how I live. they say one day mom will kick me out just like they were kicked out. but my mom says she kicked them out because they wouldn't listen to her. so im stumped... who do I believe? my brothers or my mom? keep in mind our fathers left us. all of us brothers have different fathers, except for me and the youngest. only we're related by two parents. the rest aren't. so yeah, we have tempers. we tend to hate people or people in general. I think we all feel betrayed. our fathers left us and our mother felt so horrible to be around sometimes. she had a temper. anyways, since I have become an adult my brothers have been contacting me more and more. I would feel bad for not answering so I do answer since I have known them since I was a kid. but im not a kid anymore. its different now. I could see how they left me. I was a kid who didn't understand moms "problems" when I was little. they had to get out of the house before I understood anything. but now I have a this feeling of hate. like why did they leave me? mom hit me, kicked me, hit my little brother when we were kids. and knowing that they left us there I understand why they left but still I cant forget it..

I noticed even if they are helping out and paying bills there is still tension within a lot of families/ why is that

When I was a kid my sister who is 6 years older than me would pick me up and carry me over her shoulder when I wouldn't go. do they? and while she carried me over her shoulder she'd be touching my bum.

My Grammy who I think of as a mom is dying. I'm heart broken for her watching her suffer. I feel numb and I havent had a good long cry. I feel so dissapointed in myself for not crying because I should feel devastated. I do but the tears havent come. I cant escape the amazing memories I shared with her. They bring happiness followed by overwhelming grief. Its a vicious cycle. There are times I feel perfectly fine. Then there are times when I want to snap and avoid certain things. I can go on Facebook and interact with people there. But when I'm talking in a group message I want to snap and say dont you care? Dont you care that I dont care about what we are talking about? My Grandma has days left to live. Whether or not shes lived a full life it doesnt mean we cant grieve for her. How do I cope with this grief? Its unbareable

I'm a mom of five kids (pregnant with a 6th baby) & a set of parents came up to me saying that my 16 year old is bullying their kid. I work full time so I can't stop my kids from doing certain things. My priority is to keep them all safe for now. When I told them that, they said I'm also supposed to teach my kids that bullying is wrong. I am exhausted. The kids wake up, come to school, go home at 3pm and wait for me to come home at 8pm. They said that their daughter is really distressed that my kid is bullying her, and even pushing other teens into getting into physical fights. That doesn't sound like my kid because my daughter knows better. She even said that to me. She's very responsible for caring about her half siblings and getting her work done. When I told them my kids would never do such things, This couple just said that my children needs more supervision (she's 16 already, she can take care of her own?), and that my unborn baby would be better off getting adopted by two parents who will thoroughly raise them into adulthood.

I'm the only parent who monitors my children, out of all his friends. My 8 year old comes home telling me that he played rated 16+ games at a friend's house, or his friends showed him "cool" websites that are inappropriate. I've tried to talk to these families, but they just brush it off and continue to allow it to happen. My son is friends with most of the boys in his own grade. That's a lot of kids, but none of the parents are deemed responsible enough in this case. The only thing that's making me question whether I should forbid him from going to other people's houses is that, who else is he supposed to hang out with?? We live in a pretty small city. I can't stop my son from being exposed to all that when he's at other people's houses. He's just not mature enough. Kids will also talk about whatever they saw or played at school, and maybe even tease him because I won't allow it at our house. It seems like since I'm in the minority here, it's hard to find better alternatives for my son.

One person I know who is a mother and she is trying to control her daughter by wanting to spend every second with her but shes in school and work. The mother is forcing her to go to some group sessions that would be for a month in the mornings and the mother wants to drive her and even wants to take her to her doctor appointments or dentist appointments ect. The mother doesn't want the daughter to get another job since her hours at this job is not much.The mother also tried to take control and say if you don't do this I will cut you off. The mother doesn't allow her daughter to have a social life and hates one of her friends. When that friend works all the time makes great money and gives great support and is always there for the daughter. The mother also does not feed her kids and there is no food in the house and only buys chocolate chip cookies for her son and that's it. The mother also just keeps saying that this person is wrong and this other person is wrong when she yells at her daughter. She also snooped on her daughters text messages and threatened her daughter not to hang out with this person by what she saw. Her mother is retired and is now a realtor but only works one day a week and wants to spend the rest with her daughter. Why do you think the mother acts this way? What should the daughter do? The daughter is 23. I forgot to mention.

I'm trying to stay with my boyfreind and be there for him and have his back on his desicions. His family is not helpful at all and neither is mine. My family raised me to take care of myself but his family is taking care of him. He works on the yard and hard labour house work at his parents and brothers place and his payment for that is he gets a roof over his head and food he can eat and close to family. We do not live together. I have had him ask me to basically hold his hand threw everything and wants me to baby him but I do not put up with you not handling your own business. He is extremely caring and tells me all the time how he wants to eventually take care of me, and do everything for me but will not show it. He cant find a job, he cant be serious at times that we need to be serious, and I honestly cant trust him to hang out with people that I do not know. mind you, he is in his thirties and I am in my mid twenties but I have a job and place and take care of myself. What and how do i go about helping him Grow up?