A couple of years ago, me and my girlfriend worked at a customer service phone company and we were laid off of work. I found a job the next week, but she had more trouble. Well, without my knowledge, she asked her brother for some help. His response to her was that she needed a boyfriend who could get his priorities straight." Then he proceeded to bad mouth me when I literally did nothing to him. I have taken care of his sister by myself for a long time when she didn't even work. I treat her good, I was polite to her family. So he had no reason to attack me. So I defended myself. I confronted him and wanted to know why he was personally attacking me because his sister asked him for help. He continued bad mouthing me, the argument escalated to the point where we were both making physical threats. It was stupid. My girlfriends whole family started attacking me saying I'm causing problems, just let him say what he wants so it doesn't get worse, whatever. I don't think so.... So this past thanksgiving and Christmas, I wasn't invited to their holidays because he would be there. Well here's Easter and he decided not to attend, so suddenly I'm invited. And since they paid for everything, they're asking if I can pitch in to help pay for the holiday. I said "No, I don't want to come to your holidays, considering I wasn't even invited to the last couple because I defended myself like anyone would. And on top of that, you expect me to help you pay for it? No."

We're both girls of the same age. When my mom found out that she planned to go to the same neighbourhood location as us, she switched plans so I won't be able to meet her. She's also staying home from work more. Whenever I go somewhere, she insists on tagging along more. I know my mother is doing it on purpose. She's also asking more questions about my friends (e.g where do they live, what do they look like, what grade are they in, any siblings/family members, invite them over sometime, etc).

Earlier today, my brother went into my room while I was gone and dumped out my glass of juice. I came home and found a whole mess on the floor, and the empty glass. I got some towels and began cleaning it. Then, I told my parents. Instead of them telling my brother to stop going into my room and spilling my stuff, they blamed it on ME. They didn't even put a tiny bit of the blame on my brother. I get good grades, I help around the house, I do chores, and I don't sit around playing roblox and fortnite unlike my brother! Yet my parents treat him way better than me. I get honor roll (a's or a's and b's on your report card) and my parents barely care. But my brother, who gets D's, C's, and maybe a few b's, my parents reward him!? He almost failed last year! But back to what I was saying, this isn't the first time he did this. He did it on my birthday which was last week, and many times before. What do I do??

Can family members such as cousins be seen as friends, especially for those who don't have friends outside of their family?

So me & my sister are going through some tough times and can t get good jobs so we re stuck living with our grandparents & pay check to pay check. Our grandmother is always awful to us, knowing that we were abused when we were kids & we dislike our mother for the things she did to us our grandmother will say "You are just like your mother". She knows things like that hurts a lot but says it anyway, she s always trying to have control & when she feels like she s losing control she throws a fit like a child & screams at people and cries. When we do something she doesn t like she tells us we can t eat (which is bad for me cause I m a diabetic, so not eating is really bad for me) we re not allowed to do the things we like to do, she continues to treat us like children even though I m raising my son while trying to keep up with my job and my sister dealing with her own personal stuff. She tells us we can have A Shelf in the refrigerator but took both of our things on there & threw it away just cause she didn t like it. She also treats us like we re idiots & don t know how to clean, cook and other things that are really simple, and if we cook without her permission she gets mad & throws another fit. To me I think she s bipolar & needs help, I ve tried to get the fighting to stop by saying I think we should just sit down and talk about what the problem/problems are, so we can work together to fit them but she replies with "That s impossible, just leave me alone!"

Iam 17-years-old female...My 15-year-old brother had an accident a month ago and was unable to move forever ... At the time of his shower my mother took care of him ... Once my mother traveled for 3 days..It was my brother s shower date...I had to wash with him. I was very shy, especially when I took off my clothes and helped my brother to undress.I saw his huge penis and cleaned him ... He wanted to clean me .. He was laughing and I relaxed when I saw him. because since the accident he is sad. Sorry about the language and my long story but really i need an advice. What can i do? because iam realy shyed. Have you ever had like my situation? Thank you

My brother and I have always been close. He's only a few years older than me (He's 23, and I'm 21). My brother has never had a lot of friends. He's never been a motivated person unless it was something he cared about (like music or writing) but still never but enough effort into those to actually DO something with his interests. But lately, I've been worried about him. He seems more depressed than he ever has. He got fired from his job, and afterwards our dad gave him a job at his own company. Then within a month or two, my dad fired him for a personal matter. As of now, he does not have any friends, and his only social life involved hanging out with my mother and I. Now, since their falling out, he can't come over anymore. We still see him when we can, but since he can't come to the house, it makes things difficult. We had gotten together a couple weeks ago, and he apologized to me for "talking so much" because it had literally been a few days since he had talked to anyone. That broke my heart. I really want to help my brother, but he doesn't want to help himself. He wants to be social, and I invited him to a night out with some friends, but he declined. It has been a month since he's been fired and he has yet to start looking for some work. My mom told me last night that he has gotten job offers from family, but he declined. I struggle with depression too, so I understand how paralyzing it can be. But I want to help my brother without being annoying or overbearing.

She lectures me on things I already know all the time and is really nasty about it. I am getting so sick of her, ,but I know she is trying to exercise her new knowledge and independence.

Everyone in my life, including my mom, close family, has told me that no one is ever going to like me because of my skin. Ever since I was a child, I have had freckles, and everyone from school to family used to make fun of me, and it used to hurt me a lot since I was just a child but I never told anyone, I just used to cry alone and just let it go. Then finally, when I was 18-19 I accepted the fact I am never going to be more pretty, and finally I am content with who I am, at 23, and my mom just snapped at me because I ve been dealing with pimples and acne for 4-5 months and it s getting worse. Now everything I ve never done, or have done, she links it to my face, telling me that I never had a pimple as long as she took care of me, and asks me questions like what am I doing to myself, why is my face bad, who is going to accept or like you like this and it made me cry after a long time because I was finally okay with who I was. What should I do?

They do nice things but when I was staying over at their house there is not a single day a without a fight. They are unmarried with no kids and they live together, but they insult each other constantly and they think they are 100 percent always right. For example, today my aunt insulted me and my other aunt because she one time lied to me about her brother kicking her out of the house and when we found out she was lying she screamed for hours straight. I found out she was lying by telling my mom what she said, my aunt told me to not tell secrets or anything to mom again.My aunt was teaching me to lie to my mom. She gets very mean also and it has been about a year now I visit them there is not a day without a fight and they dont improve themselves. Why?

My mom's boyfriend recently brought in his 26 yr old nephew from Miami who couldn't hold a job and didn't want to study and he brought him over to see if he would find motivation here. Of course, he had to stay in my room and things were okay up until the third week when I noticed he would go weeks using the same dirty clothes and refused to ever wash or clean his side of the room. It's about 6 months in, and his side of the room is absolutely disgusting. Behind his suitcase are candy wrappers, dirty clothes that haven't been washed in weeks, and trash which are brining in cockroaches. I've told him to clean his side yet he never listens. What should I do? Should I ask him again? Should I just clean it for him and risk him getting mad for touching his stuff? Or tell my moms boyfriend to control his nephews habits and personal hygiene?

I was having a discussion with my family member. I believe if a parent is doing drugs and ODing then they obviously don't care that much about their children, but my sister believes that it doesn't affect it. My cousin OD'd and left his daughter to my aunt, but he did spend a lot of time with her. Though even he didn't really care all too much in my opinion since she lived with my aunt long before his death and her mom up and left because she's a druggy too, though she hasn't OD'd yet. In my opinion though, that's a 1/10 chance of happening. It's rare for druggy parents to care about their children, thoughts?

Right now I'm 16 turning 17 in a few months and I forgot to put the fish in the fridge and only seasoned it then she came home screaming out her guts saying that I'm stupid and dont listen and that if I was 18 she would told me to pack up my things. What should I do? I want to continue with school but that would be impossible. Btw my mother is a very hard person to deal with she gets mad at the simplest things, my grandma had to call the cops on her once so can you imagine.....

I feel like this is mostly my fault, like I revealed too much. When we first got together, he told me about his family and their tragic past. So I wanted to tell him about my family too. My family is not very "normal" per say. My parents are only together and tolerate each other because of my brothers and I. My mom is secretly miserable. She has cheated on my dad. They fuss and argue. My dad is sorry and lazy. He talks **** and doesn't want anything to do with us. He gets mad if we want him to talk or interact with us. My brothers are kind of weird. But my mom has major trust issues and is very overprotective, so anytime I date a guy, she has negative views on him, etc. She doesn't let me do a lot of things with friends or my bf due to her feeling like her past will haunt her and cause karma. And my dad talks **** about any guy that isn't black and ghetto. So yeah. I love my mom and my brothers even if they aren't exactly normal. He doesn't have to like them, but if he can just respect them, even pretend, I can live with it.

So basically I was watching this video about missing people and I saw the story about these three boys and one of the boys looked exactly , exactly like my dad when he was little . like the resemblance is uncanny the creepy thing about it is he looked like His brothers or His parents another creepy thing is the bodies of the boys were never found is it possible my dad could be a missing person

My boyfriend still pays for the apartment and utilities for his 2 adult daughters. They are in their 20's. He lives with me and can only give me $500 a month. One daugher has a 5 year old child whose father recently left. Only the mother of the child works and other daughter is lazy and don't do anything at all. My boyfriend has to buy her food. Well, since baby daddy is out of the picture, the working daughter has been wanting us to babysit every Saturday and last Friday night when she went on a date (new guy). I don't even watch my own grandchildren, but I say OK when he is here to watch her. She says she cannot afford a babysitter. She has crazy work hours. My boyfriend has to work his 2nd job tomorrow and he wants me to babysit at 7am. I said NO. The other sister who doesn't do anything should do the babysitting. Now he is mad at me because I stand my ground. I work during the week and do all my chores on the weekend. Am I being selfish?

We're almost 13 and in 7th grade. She's the only kid I know whose parents insist on supervising social media, and even restrict certain platforms. I've had my own laptop since I was 7 years old! My dad gave it to me for my birth day. I was allowed to do whatever I wanted on it, even at that age. They never asked for passwords or like, account info. But then i met this girl once I started middle school and she complained that her parents supervise what she does online. In a way, they're kinda stalking her. They also insist on meeting her friends before she's allowed sleepovers or going out. My parents don't do either of those things, and neither do all my other friends parents.

My 18th birthday was in january of this year (2019) and my parents never got me anything. I have a twin sister who they bought something for but not me. To be fair I never asked for anything, and they never brought it up. I genuinely just think they forgot? It is now 4 months later i feel it is too late to ask now, but i really want something that i can not afford on my own. What do i do/how do i bring this up to my parents without making them feel bad or me feeling shitty about bringing it up.

I've been thinking maybe one of us was adopted, I mean we look nothing alike. My oldest brother was born on July 22, 2002, other brother was born on September 1, 2003, I was born on July 31, 2004, and my younger sister was born on June 9, 2005 and my younger brother was born on December 7, 2006. Year after year my parents had children, it really irks me and I barely came to a realization that some of us might be adopted, I might be wrong lol. But should I be worried?