I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend of 1 year. We've known each other for 4 years and I never told him I do not/can't drive (due embarrassment /shame), I only once slipped in that I am a terrible driver. When we met he picked me up & before I left I had left him some money for all that he did and for picking me up at the station. He wants to visit me this time & I panic because I can't drive to pick him up. I start getting anxiety & crying. I asked my older sister if she can show me how to drive & she had let me twice but due to my anxiety & bad driving skills, she doesn't want to show me anymore. The only other person was my dad but he has anger issues. He didn't let me on the driver seat but only to move the wheel on the passenger seat. He yelled at me because I couldn't turn/couldn't keep the car center. He brings me down & talks about how So-in-So's children are younger than me & knows how to drive/why can't I be more like them. I looked up driving schools but they are two hours away, there is no possible way for me to get there. 24 & throughout my life no one has showed me how to drive. I do not have the money to buy a car to practice. One of my sister had gotten her permit years ago and my parents didn't want to show her so her permit expired. I feel I am in the same boat. Where I live transportation is needed. I feel it'll affect my relationship with my boyfriend & it's gotten to the point where I think it's best break up so I can figure out my life.

Growing up I was the nerd in my family. I got bullied a lot at school as a young adult I'm finally having luck with women some my age some older. I'm finally able to wear the clothes I couldn't afford as a kid and go to fancy restaurants with these women. I share beautiful memories with these women wether it's at a restaurant or the beach. I've got couple esq pictures. Would it be wrong to post them like would my family talk trash?

On the way to school my parents usually listen to this American life (a very good podcast highly recccomend it) but we've run out of episodes to listen to. I don't want to listen to NPR on the way to school anymore (so booorrrinnng) so I thought I should suggest listening to mbmbam instead. Are there any mbmbam episodes that aren't super explicit but still hella funny?

I'm 20 years old. I grew up with an incredibly emotionally abusive household. my dad would force me to listen to him for hours talk about how evil people were. for as long as I can remember, he was like the mom from Carrie. He got so controlling over my mother he would yell at her 24/7 about how "evil" she was. Last year I was living at home with my family when my mother packed all her things and took my sister without my dad knowing. I knew that she would be doing this but I decided to stay with my dad because I knew he would risk suicide coming home to a completely empty home. The following months were so incredibly impossibly difficult living with him, he didn't care how I felt about the whole situation and would project every frustration on me cuz he had no one else. Last September I went to college and while that was an incredible escape, any communication with my dad is still the same. This whole situation has made me emotionally miserable for my entire life, and now that I'm becoming my own person I'm having so much trouble just trying to balance my emotions out. I don't trust people, I have trouble socially, I am incredibly insecure. I go to therapy but it doesn't do much. What can I do o move on from my previous life under the emotional abuse I was living with? How do I move on? How can I build my confidence around others back?

I want an honest opinion on an unbiased account of what happened. -> I am talking with my brother. My mum asks him to come pet a dog they found -> I ask her to let me finish what I ams saying. -> I continue talking, but get interrupted again after about 10 words. -> *Repeat steps 1 - 3* -> I ask her to please stop interrupting -> When we get home, she takes my phone and smashes it (it's dead now) -> Tells me I'm being an ****, and that I deserved it. (btw I hadn't said anything since the dog incedent.) -> She gets more pissed when I don't flinch or appear to care. Tells me to clean the garage with my brother. -> We split the job, but my bro takes the hose, moves it further away, and says his part is done. -> He also calls me an **** for refusing to do the 'rest of the job' before he moves it back to where it was. Am I actually being an dick, after hearing an account of my day so far?

Say I'm 30 years old and I have a picture of my 12 year old self naked. Is that wrong

i am a 19 year old arab-american girl with a very toxic family. i currently live in the middle east with my parents. my two brothers are in the US. im sure youre thinking "oh ur 19 u can do whatever u want" but thats not the case in the arab world, and with a family like mine. so i am thinking of running away and going back to the US. is there any way my parents or brothers could track me down? as i said before, my brothers live in the US but obviously im going to a different state than them. but im scared they will be able to find me. is it possible to change my name? what should i do to keep my family from knowing where i am? could the airport im travelling from give out information to my family? (where i travelled to/ what time..etc) if they found me i would be dead for sure. but i just want to live a peaceful life.

Usually it doesn't bother me much. I actually enjoy listening to him sometimes and I'm not much of a talker myself so it helps that I don't have to talk much about myself. But on the occasions when I do talk about myself and what's going on in my life, it's like he changes the subject or starts talking about himself some more. Recently I got in a car accident and told him. He started talking about himself immediately afterward. The next day my husband told him I had to go to the hospital because I got in a wreck. My father in law just said yea she told me what happened. Didn't even ask if I was ok. But he always asks about his son, which is understandable. Also, he is ALWAYS saying how his new wife adores his son. Which that is great to hear. But it would be nice to get an idea of how he and my mother in law feel about me. Sometimes I wonder if he doesn't like me. Or am I just over thinking everything.

So basically I'm 18 and my boyfriend and I have been together for a few years and he's currently staying with my dad and me (we're moving out in July) our parents have never met so they decided to drive 3 hours down here for Easter. I wanted to make my dads house look nice, we plan on having Easter outside. I just bought a cheap patio set for $150 just because the one my dad has is two rusty chairs he found in the trash! He told me I'm being stupid and they should accept us for who we are.. but I'm not like him, I don't mind spending a little for something nicer in the end. Am I in the wrong here for just wanting to make a good first impression and not having a ghetto set up?

One did something hurtful to my extended family. It may or may not have been intentional. Me seeing her would upset my aunt though it is not an aunt I worry about her opinion too much. This woman did hurt my aunt's family in another way that was selfish (involved a man but don't want to tell on here). The other woman is malicious and tries to stir up stuff between people. That one is down right a bad person. If I go see my Mom at the beach as I am invited to on Easter these two women will be there. However, my grandmother is going to be there so I kind of feel like I should go.

He sees it as a character flaw like on the level his arrogance is.

When I was a kid my sister who is 6 years older would pick me up and carry me over her shoulder whenever I wouldn't go. do they?

My dad says that I should be 'grateful' to him because he is letting me study the subjects of my choice (convinving him to do that wasn't an easy job), unlike my friends' parents. My exams just got over so I usually text my friends at night by stealing someone's wifi because oh well, our wifi has to be switched off at night, duhh. So anyway, my dad found that out. I said I was sorry about the stealing thing but he wished to see my 'secret texts' with my 'boyfriend(s)' I didn't have an option so I had to let him read them. I am a grade eleven student and have never been given a personal phone. Also, my mom read my diary once and erased the parts she didn't like. Nobody understands the practice of 'knocking on the door' in this house.

It's a long story, but to sum it up, I have never met anyone on my father's side of the family. I am meeting my grandma for the first time on Saturday. I really need to find some way to prepare for this because of terrible anxiety.. Any ideas?

So I went to my doctor's appointment yesterday and my doctor (who's also my father-in-law) told me that I have very bad tinnitus in both of my ears. I've been having symptoms for like a year but I didn't know what it was. Is there any easy way to remove the tinnitus at home or do I have to see another doctor? I used the flashlight on my phone to look in there in the mirror but I didn't really see anything? How did it even get in there in the first place? I'm moving from my parents house in Mobile, AL to West Virginia in six months for a new job and I really want to get this taken care of before then. What's my next step here?

Ok so every since we moved to California, I have been to 2 "doctors". Once when i got mandatory 7th grade immunizations and once to the emergency room when I had pink eye. Both of my parents just think going in to see a doctor is unnecessary for pretty much anything unless it's very urgent, like my pink eye which was disgusting (I could barely see through the eye boogers lol), or even my brother had an allergic reaction and had I really bad rash over his whole body. The thing is, it's different fair l for my brother. Once, he had a could and they took him in... but when I had a weird seizure thing (still unexplained) and passed out in front of my dad, it's probably fine. Low blood pressure runs in the family so when I started to get really bad head rush and passed out from it multiple times, nobody worried. Now that my brother has started to get it, he passed out once and my mom is planning on taking him in. I heard her talking on the phone about it and she even said it doesnt happen to me, I just get head rush, which she knows is wrong. Also, I've been complaining about a weird thing going on with my heart and everyone said it was fine but she wanted to take my brother in when he passed out because her brother has heart problems... I've even asked if it ran in the family and she always said no. I feel so frustrated about this. What do you think?

I asked a question about this similar situation but this is different topic. My mother been drinking acting dumb stressing me out I had depression and just stoped caring about life in general. Which led me to almost not graduate highschool i was on a thin string then it burned away. I been debating these past days if i should drop my parent. I was trying to help her she just dont want help. She also lies alot twist storys which led me to drop my sister until recent days i found out my.mom lied . I know some of you might think its messed up to drop parents but all my paremt does is bring negativity drinks most of the time imagine a rollercoaster it goes up then down. Thats how my life been. There are days where its awesome then back to dark days. I personally cant handle the stress from this. I am constantly worrying which led me to have bad anxiety then a lump in my throat from it. Soo my question is basically when is the RIGHT time to give up take away all connections with my parent?

My brother-in-laws family and my family are very close. Initially his brother and I hit it off very well. This brother continues to flirt and tell me he wants to take out and on dates. He flakes on everything he says. I can't say anything because I don't want any drama or to make the family dynamic weird. What do I do? It hurts to have him keep treating me like this, but I feel like I just have to deal with it.

How would you handle this situation, and which organizations or agencies would you contact? Family with 4 school-aged children living in the home with grandma. Grandma does not have legal custody or guardianship of children but is their caregiver. Grandma's home is falling apart. Landlord has allowed other adult family members to live with her so I'm sure this is why she deals with the conditions (as well as financial constraints). The home is not suitable for Children's Division to be able to officially place her grandkids who are living with her. She is the most stable option, but doesn't have a stable home nor the capacity to search for and establish other housing options.

My friend is a cyberbully to a particular kid she doesn't like. I'm not allowed to hang out with her anymore, after my parents found out that this girl's parents still let her have social media. They told me that she has crappy parents, and this family is bad news. I'm supposed to hang out with other people besides her, from now on. If she asks why, I'm supposed to tell her the truth.

My daughter sits next to a kid in class who's emotionally crippled (the teacher assigns permanent seats for them and students have no say in that matter). The girls naturally became friends and the teacher encourages it. The problem is that this kid has anti-social behaviours. She is constantly lying, blackmailing, stealing, bullying and shouting profanity. Parents aren't any better either. The poor kid has been in and out of foster care. I understand that the teacher wants her students to befriend the people sitting beside them, but I don't think this kid is a good friend. This girl has stolen from our home once (before I knew about her issues). During recess and lunch, my daughter prefers to be with kids whom she knows really well, and this girl is one of them. Since I cannot separate them at school, I can only encourage her to make more friends so she'll be surrounded by more good influences. Hopefully, with good kids who come from well-raised, stable and loving homes.

An hour ago, My twelve year old brother snitched on me because I took my phone back when my parents took it away like 3 months ago because of bad grades from first quarter, and I'm doing good right now, but then I got caught. I just hate snitches and I just hate people who tell me what to do, especially little kids. Like why can siblings just mind their own business?

She never cooks. just buys me fast food everyday, after and before school. She makes me insane, I have to be on anti-psychotics. I'm borderline obese. I'm failing school. This is the third time i'm being held back to repeat SATS. She lets men rape me right in front her. Sure she is not alcoholic, and spending all the money on Vodka, but this is extremely bad too, just in different types and context. Horible

Quick background, house full of women (single mom household) I am the youngest of 3 sisters (all adults). For as long as I can remember, I have always been "punked" sort of speak when it comes down to contributing at home and finances. Also my passiveness and disengagement has been something my older sisters have managed to get together and point out my every move. The oldest has always taken the intitayive that we all contribute to pay for bills etc ($500)and part of those $$ go to a savings acct for my mom. She controls and manages that part as my mother has allowed her to. The oldest moved out in January 2019,the middle sister was having issues with her relationship and moved back home last year 2018. I too ,moved out last year for a few months and am slowly transitioning myself back home- Phew, with that said- I receive this text yesterday from her : "sister!Hope youre having a great Monday. So Im here doing the monthly finances for moms house. Seems like youre fully moved in from what I can see. So Im going to send you a Venmo for the household bills" First, cringe!!!! simply because she A. No longer lives at home!! "can see" not sure what she "can see" since I have not seen her but 2 times since Jan and or have I let her in my locked room. B. That text was really composed by my other (middle) sister as I could tell by the copy write. I have had enough,this goes far beyond the text. Their "conspiring" without ever looking at themselves really gets under my skin.

My daughter is 14 and she came home high (I could tell), but I don't know if I do anything about because I remember do the same at her age. What should I do?

Okay so I'm really not sure how to classify my mother. I don't think she's a narcissist, but she is so so manipulative. For example, I'm 19 & in college, I start a full time job at my university May 1st and I just left my previous job earlier this month, before exams start. Anyways, I asked her to borrow (I will pay back of course) just a small amount of money & she said yes, if I show her a transcript of my bank (debit) card statements so she can see what I've purchased over the last few weeks, and what I intend to purchase. I said no of course, but some people think this is perfectly reasonable, whereas I see it as another one of her games. She is so controlling and manipulative and honestly I'm not sure what to do at this point. It's really not about the money I start my job in 3 weeks, that's just an example of how she controls. She is also very insulting of me, but she just sees it as her wanting "the best" but I don't know how the constant insulting of my clothes, hair, makeup, grades, career goals, and everything in between, is constructive in anyway? How should I handle the situation? Anyone with a similar parent relationship? Any advice is appreciated! Thanks in advance :)

So basically I was looking for something quick to eat, & I remember the time me and my friend had mayonnaise sandwiches cause he had nothing at his house. So I was like, hmm, they weren't that bad and they're quick to make so why not. So I made it and I was walking back to my room, and my dad asked what it was. I told him & then I instantly thought "oh sh*t". I then remembered my mother telling me the story about when he was younger his mom would lock him in the basement, and him and his brother had to sneak upstairs and that's all they could really eat, so his brother would make those. After I told him what it was I realized what I did & he instantly looked so sad and just walked away, the entire room just had such a depressing feeling in it. Now he's on the couch sleeping. I feel so bad cause I'm sure I brought up some bad childhood memories of that. He forever hates mayonnaise. What could I do? He's taking a nap now and I don't wanna bring it up when he gets up. But I just feel awful about it and I wanna at least forget about it.

We need to get feminist to infotrat the video game industry. Maybe even convince the developers to stop making video games and replace it with something else

I am afraid she will think its me and not like me. My Mom's family dislikes me cause my Mom does drugs and so I am always scared of losing my Dad's side also. I live with my Dad. He said he plans to yell her name and said "no I definitely will" when I asked him not to. It will be just my Dad and I there and maybe her mother (uncle's ex-wife) so she won't know which of us it is. Not sure we will even see her mother there. It is a parade her high school is in here in Peoria.

Mother and sisters are all dead and her father is unknown. They were going from California to Virginia when it happened. She was 2 or 3 at the time.

My 22 year old son bought his own house and his girlfriend moved in shortly afterwards which we don't approve of. He says it's essier for them to live together since she doesn't drive but I don't care it's still not ok to live together before marriage. They are sinning and we would never allow our daughter to do that. I have expressed the fact that I don't like him shacking up multiple times. My son was like " this is the happiest I've ever been in my life." Now he comes over from time to time but it's mostly to get his clothes that my wife washes for him because he doesn't yet have a washing machine. I feel like my son only calls when he needs something. He's so in love and attached to his girlfriend and he's only worried about her. I told my wife " the ground breaking news is he only cares about that girlfriend" because she was so upset when he didn't bring her birthday gift.my wife was like " I'm going to get him I can't believe he would forget to drop off my gift." We even bought him a refrigerator for his new house but he only calls when he has problems like he called the other day because he couldn't figure out what was wrong with his car. My wife is hurt also because he spends more time with his girlfriends mom and didn't buy my wife anything for her birthday